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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [20F] of 2 years, starting to second-guess relationship.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for just about 2 years—she was my first real girlfriend, and the girl I lost my virginity to. I met her online, and we instantly hit it off and could tell that we wanted to meet each other in real life. Our first date confirmed that we had a very strong connection, and from there we became exclusive. From the start, things were going perfect: we'd never ever get into fights, we'd always have a good time, the sex was amazing, etc.
I met her after I graduated high school (right when I went from a very shy overweight kid, to a more confident good looking guy), so she was my first real experience with a girl. At the time, I really wanted to find a relationship with someone I could connect with before losing my viriginity, and she was the right girl. To be honest, at the time I didn't think I'd be here, 2 years in— still dating her.
Recentley, I've been feeling a little depressed (just lost my job after graduating college, not being able to move out, family problems, etc.) and also a bit "trapped" in the relationship. I still love her, and enjoy spending time with her. However, a part of me really wants to end it and experience the single life, spend more time focussing on my career, and just not be in a relationship. The reason I'm here, is because I have never had experience with a scenario like this, and wanted an outside opinion. If I broke things off, I feel like I would be regretting it very soon for making the wrong decision. We've also talked about moving in together, and she always talks about wanting to spend the rest of her life with me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | — Been dating my GF for 2 years, recently feeling 'trapped, want to experience being single, not sure if it'e the right decision. | — Been dating my GF for 2 years, recently feeling 'trapped, want to experience being single, not sure if it'e the right decision. | 3,916 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My fiancé [27m] broke up with with me [28f] tonight after 4 years of living together. I am devastated and lost.
POST: I need some sort of advice. I'm sitting downstairs crying in the apartment I share with my former fiancé. He is upstairs asleep. We have built a life together and my wedding dress is hanging in the closet. I have no idea how to begin the process of dividing our shared possessions and bank accounts and frankly, I just want to crawl into a hole and never come out.
He ended it because he doesn't have the "energy" to put into salvaging our relationship, which was seemingly fine until this evening.
We argued in the past but have had no issues since September. He recently lost his job and we have been going through a rough time financially, but everything else has been great until now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I [28f] was just dumped by the man [27m] I have loved and shared a life with for the past four years. I have no idea how to move forward. | I [28f] was just dumped by the man [27m] I have loved and shared a life with for the past four years. I have no idea how to move forward. | 2,910 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (20/m) conflicted about breaking up with my girlfriend (18/f) of 2 years.
POST: Her family was going on vacation over next weekend and I was invited but I would feel guilty going and wanted to break up with her before then. I feel like it isn't the best idea though.
I love my girlfriend but she is always wanting to drink and smoke weed which I'm not okay with. I tried getting over it but it always keeps me up at night knowing what she's doing. I know it seems like I'm being tight.
I grew up with an alcoholic step-father who was physically abusive not only no my mother but me as well whenever i tried to step in and alcohol has been a no for me ever since it just eats at me. My actual father was also a drug dealer so I always blamed drugs for the way he acted and for never being around.
From a point of view I can see how I'm being unreasonable but I can't get over these things. I've tried talking to her about it and she told me she wouldn't do anything if I didn't want her to and she still does saying she only tells me those things because it makes me feel better and that my past shouldn't affect her decisions. I love her extremely but these reasons eat at me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend is drinking and smoking weed even though i asked her not to and I can't get over my own reasons to be okay with it. | My girlfriend is drinking and smoking weed even though i asked her not to and I can't get over my own reasons to be okay with it. | 6,209 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Any doctors or optometrists on Reddit can give me their opinion?
POST: I have a damaged optic nerve in my right eye, that has been like that as long as I can remember. Doctors hypothesized it was undeveloped due to being born premature. I recently went to the optometrist to get a new prescription (for my left eye... no change yay!). She checked behind my eye, and said the eye is healthy up to the point where you get to the nerve, and it's all pale (dead).
I asked if something like stem cells could repair the nerve (or a bionic eye in the future) and she informed me that after the age of 10, the brain does not develop the eye portion anymore. Thus even with repair, my brain could not process the info.
I would like other opinions on this... I have heard stories of experimental cameras and artificial limbs being attached, and giving back sight or movement. Is my eye problem shit out of luck?
I still have about 5% or so of vision, but it is hard to focus since the left eye overpowers it greatly (even with the eyelid closed). If I close it, it's as if I was "thinking" the image, being overlayed on the blackness of the left eye (well.. more to the right). The vision doesn't seem bad (just blurry since there is no prescription on the right lens), but I have to concentrate real hard, and barely can keep the eye focused on one spot. So would this be enough development to regain sight or would it stay the same?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Nerve is dead in right eye, was told even repairing it would not restore vision. Asking for other opinions. | Nerve is dead in right eye, was told even repairing it would not restore vision. Asking for other opinions. | 498 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Is he just not that into me? 26f
POST: (repost from /r/okcupid because I'm dumb)
Ok, I feel like such a high schooler having to ask this, but I was hoping reddit could help me out here. I'm newly single and I feel like I'm completely lost trying to get back into the game.
So, I met a guy on okc. Things seem to be going really well. His picture wasn't that exciting, but we had a lot in common so I gave him a shot. He's funny, nerdy, loves all my favorite stand-up comedians, loves Firefly, blah blah blah. On paper, the perfect man. In person? He's also freaking GORGEOUS. And still funny and nerdy. He's the first guy I've met on okc who I felt genuinely excited about, rather than just cautiously optimistic.
So here's the rub: we've been on four fantastic dates, but he hasn't made a move. Not even a peck on the cheek. I'm starting to wonder if he's not attracted to me. He seems like the type of guy who's been a nerd his whole life, and doesn't realize he's hot, so his confidence might not be there. I'm tempted to make the first move, but I also suspect he's just old-fashioned, and that would completely turn him off. What do I do? How many dates do you all usually go on before it feels right to make a move? How do the men of reddit feel about the woman initiating?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've been on four dates with a man who I want to hump into a stupor. I would do awful, unspeakable things to him. He has not even kissed me yet. | I've been on four dates with a man who I want to hump into a stupor. I would do awful, unspeakable things to him. He has not even kissed me yet. | 442 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Car Parked on Private Property Towed
POST: I live in the state of Kentucky. My car was parked in the parking lot in my apartment complex (private property.) The tags were in fact expired but the property owners did not request the removal of the vehicle from private property.
In most states it is only legal to remove a vehicle from private property if the property owners requested the removal.
After asking the office of my apartments and learning that they did not request the removal, they also informed me that this is an ongoing issue and said that it's unlikely I will find resolution (the tow company has lawyers etc.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it legal for them to have removed my vehicle from private property even with the expired tags. And if not, what is my next course of action. | Is it legal for them to have removed my vehicle from private property even with the expired tags. And if not, what is my next course of action. | 5,719 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [22/F] date!?
POST: I went on a date with a someone I met on tinder [22/M] and we got on so incredibly well.
My experience with Tinder has been using it pretty much for a casual hookup and I've been single since I was 18 and now I'm not really too sure what the protocol is for 'dating'.
I think due to my past experiences with tinder and hookups, I'm very much used to it being a one time thing so after texting the guy I had a date with, I basically gave him the oppurtunity to just sorta get out of it and just said I'd like to see him again but if he didn't feel the same way that's cool. (I was drunk and regretted sending those texts but cest la vie)
He replied saying he thought I was beautiful and that he had a really good time and would like to see me again so we've made plans for monday. He also said that he'd never had a date like that before and he was trying to process it.
Now, I'm really excited because we just got on so well. but, I guess I don't know how to 'date'.
What sort of things do you do? How long do you 'date' for? What are the rules with texting? We text a couple of times through the day with just generally chit chat etc. Ahhh I feel so confused!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't know how to date. I don't know what sort of things to do on a date. I don't know if there are any kind of rules for texting? | I don't know how to date. I don't know what sort of things to do on a date. I don't know if there are any kind of rules for texting? | 554 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23M] girlfriend [22F] of 4 years became a born again virgin
POST: Hey guys
I'm an agnostic atheist and my girlfriend is a Protestant Christian. We've been together nearly 4 years. I am going to be attending grad school and she is in undergraduate school. We have lived together for a year and we're pretty boring people. We're both introverts and have had maybe two fights through the duration of our relationship. I'm flexible and she's flexible. There has been no cheating or jealousy feuds. Sex maybe once per 1.5 weeks on average. You can said we are 'content' or 'happy.' We're best friends.
Around Christmas time last year a member of her close family died and she's really starting to develop her relationship with God. I've noticed her becoming more distant and I suspected it's because she's re-evaluating what she wants in a partner and in life. We've had a talk before about Christianity. She wants a Christian husband with Christian values (all of which are the same of mine; I was raised Catholic/Protestant). It's important for her partner to be Christian because it has something to do with purity of marriage and how that helps you build a closer relationship to God. She wants to better serve God in any way she can. I respect her views and her motives. I went to church with her last weekend.
About two weeks ago when I was kissing her before bed she said that she doesn't want to have sex out of marriage anymore and that doing it makes her feel guilty. I'm flexible, but this one is definitely a curve-ball. We've talked about marriage and agree that we're far too young, and want to wait until we are 28-29 years old to get married. 6 Years is a long time without sex. She's okay with that wait. Sex is important to me because I believe that it creates and shows love and also it's fun. I just don't believe you have to get married to do it.
It might be easy for you to type "just break up," but if you haven't built something for 4 years, it's a little more difficult to understand why this isn't easy especially because we're good friends in good standing.
Anyone have any insight?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend and I have a major incompatibility with partner beliefs and sex. I want sex outside of marriage and she wants a Christian husband. | Girlfriend and I have a major incompatibility with partner beliefs and sex. I want sex outside of marriage and she wants a Christian husband. | 6,150 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with a girl I've been dating [20 F] a 3 weeks, is telling me she has broken up with her old BF. But it appears she is lying.
POST: I am currently in college and I met this wonderful girl. We have gone on a few dates and everything appeared to be going great. She wanted to taking things quite slow because she was getting over a recent ex boyfriend.
However when I met her roommate she brought up that this girl has a boyfriend who has been acting rather shady towards her. He goes to another college and he has been spending the night "on the couch" at this other girls place frequently. He also has recently been posting on her wall and now I'm rather confused.
I know something is up but I really don't know how to handle this. I would really like to be straight forward with her but she seems dodgy whenever I do. I really am beginning to over think things and I almost feel like I was just there to shove in his face.
I really hate this situation because I feel like I could have a legitimate relationship with this girl.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm dating someone who says she's getting over a break up now it appears she is still with her said to be exbf. How should I proceed? | I'm dating someone who says she's getting over a break up now it appears she is still with her said to be exbf. How should I proceed? | 838 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [16 M] My girlfriend [16 F] has given me, an odd and unnecessary punishment... More in text.
POST: Me and my girlfriend are currently doing our GCSE exams (we're British), and yesterday, I accidentally overslept causing me to miss an english language exam.
She was really annoyed at me, but later we found out that it's okay that I missed it I had done a lower level english language exam a few weeks ago. So that was a relief. She was still upset for the rest of the day, bless her.
She was annoyed at me because the exam was still obviously important, and she was clearly worried about me because she thought that meant I instantly failed english (which thank god I haven't yet).
Anyway, she told me that she doesn't want to see me outside of school until we finish our exams. We finish our exams at the end of next week, so it's not that long, but the thing that upset me is:
-I feel awfully lonely not seeing her, as I don't any good friends. (She's my best friend as well as my girlfriend, I care about her deeply)
-Seeing her is the only thing I look forward to, I don't really have a hobby or anything else to look forward to besides a good session on reddit. (I'm sad :D)
But yeah, after next week I'll be leaving school forever. I know seeing her at school every day seems like enough, but at the moment i only have to attend science and math lessons, as they're the only subject left that I have exams for. So I'm at school 1/2 hours at a time, and not even every day.
She said that not seeing her outside of school was "my punishment" but, I don't see the connection, or the point, or any reason at all.
What do you guys think? And what should I do?
Oh, we are okay now, by the way, happy as usual.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF won't let me see her outside of school until after exams (1.5 weeks) because she got worried about me when I accidentally overslept and missed an exam. ??? | GF won't let me see her outside of school until after exams (1.5 weeks) because she got worried about me when I accidentally overslept and missed an exam. ??? | 3,235 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not neutering my cat on time
POST: So this is a story from freshman year, sorry, I didn't know about reddit then. Due to funding issues, I wasn't able to neuter my cat once he was old enough for it. In case you didn't know, when cats get old enough and need to be neutered, they pee everywhere and hump everything. My cat had peed in the house once before, and I thought nothing of it. I woke up around 5:00 am to get ready for school- showered, got dressed, did my hair, brushed my teeth, etc. and by the time I was done it was time too leave to catch my bus. I grabbed my backpack, took four steps outside and realized it was soaked in cat piss. I had a bus to catch at 6:10 and it was already 6:06. I had no other choice but to throw my backpack in the back of the truck and hope it would get the smell off in time. It didn't do anything but dry the pee. I walked on that bus, piss-smelling backpack slung on my shoulders and my headphones in my ears. I would not be talking to anyone. I knew they smelled it. I didn't care. 3/4 of the way in, I decide y'know what- fuck it, I'm leaving my bag on the bus. I got all of my school supplies out of my bag, placed them on the seat next to me and folded my backpack up into a cylinder. When I was sure no one was looking, I put it on the ground in front of me and pushed it into the corner with my feet (I was in the last seat in the back). So I got into school, went through all of my classes without incident and got back on the bus in the afternoon. It was gone and until now, no one was the wiser.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was late, had to bring cat piss smelling backpack to school, emptied it and left it in the back corner of the bus. Got back on the bus and it was gone. | Was late, had to bring cat piss smelling backpack to school, emptied it and left it in the back corner of the bus. Got back on the bus and it was gone. | 2,478 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So, who thinks the 'slow loris likes being tickled' video is cute?
POST: I know I do! He's [adorable]
However, I must apologise for leading you here under somewhat false pretences. I don't really want to know if you think the video is cute. I want to draw attention to [this](
This is not good. As Wikipedia so eloquently puts it, 'All five species [of Loris] are listed as either "Vulnerable" or "Endangered" on the IUCN Red List and are threatened by the wildlife trade and habitat loss'.
At this point, if you can view [this] video (I assume non-Britons will be unable to, unfortunately) please do so, make sure to chop onions beforehand so you have an excuse for the tears.
If not, please direct your attention towards [this] website.
Important points for people who don't like clicking links:
-Lorises are traded both internationally and domestically as pets, food or traditional medicines.
-Several thousand lorises are traded in Vietnam, Cambodia, China, Thailand, Myanmar and Indonesia each year.
-Very few lorises survive the trade. They are often kept in terrible conditions, usually in tiny cages. Young infants are taken from thier mothers.
-Lorises have a painful bite so traders often pull out their front teeth with pliers. This carries high risk of infection with few survivors. Lorises that have been rescued from the pet trade cannot be returned to their natural environment if their teeth have been removed.
-Lorises have an amazing ability to produce a liquid from glands under their arms that, when mixed with their saliva, gives the loris a toxic bite, the wound from which is difficult to heal. This makes them the only toxic primate in the world.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Lorises are cute, awesome and endangered. Don't get a pet loris and [donate] some money if you want. | Lorises are cute, awesome and endangered. Don't get a pet loris and [donate] some money if you want. | 6,265 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf (19) never comes in to the liquor store of a guy we know to buy alcohol. Is this legit? (I'm 19) Note: We live in Michigan, drinking age 21 here.
POST: My gf and I go to the liquor store of a guy we know about once a week, and I usually go in to buy beer or whatever we're drinking. It never really bothered me until recently that she always sits in the car. The guy we know is a mutual friend's friend. I asked her about it a couple of months ago, and she said she just didn't want to get in any trouble.
At the time, this was somewhat legitimate because she was here on an H-4 visa (her dad is here on an H-1 visa and her status is dependent on him). However, about a month ago, she received her green card. I asked her why she couldn't come in with me to pick out our drinks now and she still says the same thing.
Naturally, I point out that we would be in the same amount of trouble if we got caught, which we wouldn't anyways since we've been buying consistently for well over a year from this guy. I know there's no sense of both of us risking our necks to get alcohol, but it annoys the shit out of me that she seems to think that I should have to go inside to buy our drinks because she doesn't want to get in trouble.
I don't mind paying for the drinks since I get paid a lot more than her, but I can't help but feel like she thinks she's more important than me or something because she doesn't mind if I risk my neck to go get alcohol, but she absolutely refuses to even come inside with me.
Input? Advice? What should I say or do? Or just suck it up?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a problem with the fact that my girlfriend wants me to take the risk of buying alcohol that she would not take herself. | I have a problem with the fact that my girlfriend wants me to take the risk of buying alcohol that she would not take herself. | 668 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[20M] and my girlfriend [21F] of 9 months tells me she does not want me in her life seemingly out of the blue.
POST: A little background. We have been dating for almost 9 months and have had ups and downs with stresses of attending school and both doing hard science majors.
Basically she claims that I only do nice things for her when something is going wrong and that when she does nice things (like a small note) I don't say anything. We have had arguments of this before and it had seemingly been resolved.
Now that it is the summer and she is back home with her family about 5 hours away from me. I visited about 3 weeks ago and we had an amazing time. We both wish we could have spent the whole summer together.
Last week she was agitated with her family, specifically her dad and brothers and I had spent a lot of time talking to her about her frustration. She said she did not feel like she was loved enough. So for the last week or so I have been trying to do nice things for her here and there because of this (like sending a handwritten card, and flowers). As this has been happening she seems to be getting more distant with me. I try and get at what is really bothering her and she is does not give me a straightforward answer.
Then last night she just goes off on me late at night. Saying I am not good enough for her and that I am a self centered a-hole. Telling me to f off and she doesn't need me. Just continues to say all of these extremely hurtful things to me. I didn't try and reason with her much, just told her that whether you ever believe me or not I care for you deeply (and things along those lines).
It seems like she is taking all of her anger out on me from other things going on in her life and I do not understand how to respond. Should I try and talk to her or just leave her alone for while? I am at a loss of what to do because it seems like it is coming out of nowhere.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | All of a sudden my girlfriend who is normally a very loving person says she does want me in her life and that I am a self centered person because of previous events. | All of a sudden my girlfriend who is normally a very loving person says she does want me in her life and that I am a self centered person because of previous events. | 580 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with a girl i like [17 F] Dont know what my next move should be
POST: Hey everyone recently i was at this event for my school and we did this thing about put nice things in other peoples envelope to say something good about themselves.
I havent had my first kiss yet and was wondering if u guys can help. This girl asked me to go for a walk with her when we had free time so i did. I liked her for some time now and have been flirting with her for quite awhile however i rarely see her since i have such a big school.
Anyway long story short we talked about kissing each other and we decided not to. I got over it until i saw a message saying "I should of kissed you" now i assumed it was her since we talked about it and walked for about 45 minutes. So i texted her two days ago and she responded yesterday but it seemed kind of dry she said it was anonymous and that i could or could not have been her so i told her the next time it comes up im not gonna let the opportunity go. Im really confused with what to go about doing next, I always hype myself up for stuff like this but then just get let down so i dont do it often. I dont know what my next move is im pretty sure she has feelings for me but idk any advice on texting, talking, next move etc. All help is appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I Like this girl and i think she wants to kiss me but when i txted her it was kinda dry, so idk what to do next. | I Like this girl and i think she wants to kiss me but when i txted her it was kinda dry, so idk what to do next. | 4,154 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Not sure if he[m/23] is interested in me[f/22]
POST: Any and all advice would be great. There is this guy[m/23] that I[f/22] work with for two years now. We have great chemistry and have become what people at work call "very close". Everytime I see or think of him I get "butterflies" which is a feeling that I haven't had in my past relationships. This guy seems to just understand me and he knows how to handle my moods (up or down) without me even saying to him how I feel in that moment. We flirt or bug/tease each other whenever we get a chance, which is a fair amount.
Recently he has been asking me about previous guy friends that I have in my life and what my relationship is to them… all of which are only strictly friends. This would come up out of no where and I wonder why he is asking. He has noticed how I look at him as he has made a comment about it and we can be quite touchy with each other in a playful way. I have no idea what he thinks of me or if he has any interest in me at all. All he has admitted to me is that he does care about me. We text each other every night for many many months now.
Also, very recently he told me that he plans to be engaged to his gf sometime in the future and that he can't see himself with anyone else, which was very hard for me to hear. I don't know what to read from all this. Does he just see me as a friend? Does he have feelings for me? Here is where it gets complicated…
We are both in a relationship with other people. I've been in a relationship for over a year and he has been in his relationship for a couple of years. When I first met him I thought these feelings for him would go away since he has a gf; therefore, I went into a relationship with someone else, plus at this time I hardly knew this guy. However, these feelings never went away and that is what I feel horrible about.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Now I'm torn… Do guys text, hang out and flirt with girls that they see only as a friend with no other interest at all? | Now I'm torn… Do guys text, hang out and flirt with girls that they see only as a friend with no other interest at all? | 3,057 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Don't piss off your younger brother...
POST: I only recently found this subreddit and I am hooked so I'd thought i'd share my story..
First off, this happened about 5-6 years ago so parts may be a little hazy.
A bit of a background story to why I did this... My older brother would always annoy me by doing stupid little "pranks" and one day while I was eating dinner he thought it would be hilarious to pull my chair from underneath me (the oldest trick in the book).
So i decided that enough was enough and needed to plot my revenge. Given that I have more intelligence than he has and could only come up with old tricks, I wanted to put some thought into getting my revenge. One thing I noticed was that when he came back from work after a long day, he would always launch himself onto his bed to relax.
One day when he went to work, I spent about an hour or so turning everything (figuratively speaking) in his room upside down including all his pictures, alcohol bottles on his table, his TV (don't know how you can't notice this), posters and most importantly his bed.....yeah flipped it over so the base was on top and the mattress on the floor. I then remade his bed to make it look as normal as I possibly could so he wouldn't suspect a thing.
Then I waited with much eagerness to fulfill my revenge and around 2 hours later he arrived home and surely enough went straight to his room. As my room was next to his, I was being as quiet as possible so he didn't know I was home and so I could hear my work coming to life.
That's when the inevitable happened......all I heard is a scream followed by a WTF!! Turns out the force of him landing and the hard impact onto the "hardened mattress", he also smashed his head. It wasn't until I came in laughing my ass off with a shit-eating grin from my proud work that he had also realised that everything else in his room was upside down. He then had to spend the next 1-2 hours putting everything back up the right way much to his annoyance.
Lets just say he stopped annoying me after that.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Brother pulled chair underneath me, I flipped his bed over and he smashed his head on the base. Me 1, Bro 0 | Brother pulled chair underneath me, I flipped his bed over and he smashed his head on the base. Me 1, Bro 0 | 1,537 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20F] am thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend [20M] of almost two years.
POST: My SO is my best friend. I wish I could ask him for his advice, because I value his opinion and he's thorough in his thought processes. For obvious reasons, I can't ask him. So I'm hoping maybe you guys might be able to help.
My boyfriend and I started dating at the end of senior year of high school, and have made it through 1.5 years of college long distance. Along the way, we have had some major fights, but I have never wanted to break up with him for a number of reasons. Most importantly, I really loved him. I think I was also afraid to break up with him, because I knew it would hurt both of us a lot, and because I rely on him and he relies on me. We are very compatible in many ways. In a nutshell, he's kind, intelligent, ambitious, funny, and thoughtful. He loves me deeply, and so do his parents and his sibling. My parents are less enthusiastic about him. They think he's a great person, but they fear he might not be the perfect match for me. He's pretty quiet and introverted (I am too), but they fear I might do better with a partner who makes social situations less anxiety-inducing for me (aka, someone who is a bit more talkative with strangers). They also worry I haven't had the opportunity to discover what true compatibility is, because he's my first real boyfriend.
Recently, I've started to share their concerns. In some ways, it is the-grass-is-greener syndrome. But I think it also is a truly valid concern that he's my first boyfriend and I can't necessarily judge whether someone is a perfect match for me. I know he makes me feel comfortable and we get along really well, but I haven't felt passionate about him in a while. I also can imagine my life without him. I'm not sure if that's just because we haven't seen each other in a while, or if I'm ready to move on. I can't tell if I've fallen out of love or not.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | So, reddit, my question is: what does falling out of love feel like? What would you do if you were me? | So, reddit, my question is: what does falling out of love feel like? What would you do if you were me? | 487 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Teachers vs. Unions - What do you think?
POST: Here are some thoughts, and feel free to chime in - this is a discussion not a debate. I believe teachers should be well paid, based on merit. They should have to take examinations and re-up their credentials on a regular basis. They are, after all, the most important people in the world.
Here's the dilemma. Teacher Unions are the scummiest, worst organizations in the world. Yes, they protect teachers (some of the time) but put most of their effort in making money from (underpaid) teachers in order to perpetuate the myth teachers will die without a union to back them.
Sadly, in the US, teachers would likely get ass-raped by the powers that be if they didn't have a union at all. So it's kind of a catch-22.
What do you folks think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Teachers should be paid well based on merit and examinations for re-certification : Unions should die in a fire. | Teachers should be paid well based on merit and examinations for re-certification : Unions should die in a fire. | 762 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: It's been two years and I [m26] just cannot get over her [f21] no matter what I do.
POST: We dated for two years and I just loved the fuck out of her, had never met anyone like her. She went to school 3 hours away and broke up with me not long after because she said she wasn't happy.
For the next two years, every break from school she would come home, initiate contact and I would cave and hang out with her. We fucked, went on dates, everything, and starting last year she started to talk about getting back together, put lyrics about me in her facebook that she still wasn't over me.
And yet, in person she still mistreated me, acted like she didn't care, embarrassed me in front of her friends, told me at one point that it was over and we were both hooking up with new people (I had been to try to get over her). 3 separate times I tried to cut her out of my life and she kept coming back. Complete mindfuck every time.
This last time I said goodbye was the day after we had sex and she immediately whipped out her phone while laying in bed to go through her online dating profile. I asked why the hell she had one and she said she was lonely, and well.. I had had enough. She was freaking pissed that I was trying to cut her out of my life, but I knew I had to. That was 5 months ago and I haven't heard from her since.
Today I was flipping through fb and happened across a pic she tagged me in, and saw her profile pic had another guy in it, and my heart dropped through the floor. I am miserable.
How THE FUCK do I get over her?! I have dated a bunch of different girls over the last two years and broken up with all of them because I haven't connected with any of them like I did with her. Please, please help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have tried everything to get over my ex, and I just can't. I think she's with someone new now and it makes me want to die. please tell me how to move on. | I have tried everything to get over my ex, and I just can't. I think she's with someone new now and it makes me want to die. please tell me how to move on. | 4,016 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18/F] recently removed a temporary online fling [21/F] from Facebook and I wonder if I made the right decision
POST: About 2 years ago I met this guy on tumblr, we'll call him L, and we started talking. We hit it off so we continued to talk on gmail, with us eventually becoming Facebook friends.
He was always open about his sexuality, and described himself as an exhibitionist (this is important later). It made me uncomfortable at first, but soon I began to fall for him. However, when I asked him out he said no, because I live in America and he lives in Britain. I was okay with that, and tried to continue being friends with him.
All throughout the summer, he became very flirty with me, telling me that he thought I was beautiful and that he wanted to be with me. Many times the messages became sexual, but I became okay with it because I really liked him. Many times he asked me to send him a naked picture, and everytime I said no. This went on for about a year, with me falling harder and harder for him and him continually refusing a relationship. One time, I found out that 2 days after telling me how he wanted to come to America and have a romantic/sexual date with me, he had sex with an ex. It hurt, but I couldn't stop talking to him.
However, last December he started dating a new girl, and almost completely cut me off. I was heartbroken, but continued messaging him when I could and trying to keep our friendship. Last week, my friends suggested I cut him off for good because I was beginning to have the mindset of someone who was emotionally abused. I decided to do so, removing him from Facebook and deleting his contact from my iPod and email.
I kind of regret my decision, because I really miss him. But I am scared to add him again and deal with the same hurt, especially because he probably doesn't understand why I removed him. Should I add him back?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I deleted an on/off online fling from Facebook after he began to ignore me, and I'm not sure if I should add him back. | I deleted an on/off online fling from Facebook after he began to ignore me, and I'm not sure if I should add him back. | 2,271 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Cat still peeing on bed
POST: Let me start at the beginning. My boyfriend and I adopted our cat Spike in January of this year from the shelter, he will be a year old in October. The shelter spayed him before we took him home and he had no problems when we took him home. He can be a little asshole at times, but thats all cats. We moved from Indiana to Texas this May to a home with 1 cat and her litter of 5 kittens. Roomies got rid of 4 kittens but had to foster another pregnant cat, whose kittens are currently up for adoption (other momma cat was about to get fixed but ended up preggers again, waiting for that litter currently). He started peeing on roommates daughter's bed in June but we figured it was him marking his territory. A few weeks later, he peed on the roommates bed. Again, we thought it was just him marking. Until he started doing it on our bed. Every day. Took him to the vet to check everything out and he has a UTI. Started him on antibiotics about a week ago. For a few days he was going back in the box (we uncovered it and clean it everyday). A couple days ago, he peed on the pillows so they got thrown in the washer. Then last night, right in front of me, he peed on the sheets. Depending on if he stops or not, he's scheduled for another UA on Tuesday. Money is a factor right now. Me and boyfriend were wondering if there was anything we could use to discourage him from peeing on the bed again. We were going to look into Feliaway but have read mixed reviews and dont want to spend money we dont have on something that may or may not work. Hes fine with the kittens, he loves playing with them. So anything that wont cost an arm and a leg would be greatly appreciated. We are at our wits' end as to what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cat with UTI on meds still peeing on bed, need him to use the litterbox again, but on a budget. | Cat with UTI on meds still peeing on bed, need him to use the litterbox again, but on a budget. | 4,055 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26m] want to convince my girlfriend [22f] to go to college
POST: About eight months ago I met a girl (named Alyssa) that I hired to clean my apartment. For reference she is 22 from Costa Rica and I am 26 and white. I started talking to her while she was working and some casual flirting and soon enough we were dating.
Unlike majority of the women I have dated, Alyssa was different in the sense she was a simple quiet girl. She never wore flashy clothing or cared for high end purses and was an overall a really humble person. And for me she was the ideal wifey material.
However there is one problem in our relationship. Alyssa hasn't had any education past high school and I come from a family where most people have a master's degree. Alyssa and I talked about post marriage plans and that most likely she would become a housewife. However, that being said I would still like her to have a degree. One, so she can be a more refined individual. Second and most importantly, so my family will approve of her.
I know many of you are going to say just ignore your family, that their opinions don't matter but, it is never as simple as that. First of all I have a very positive relationship with my family and if it wasn't for their advice and guidance I wouldn't be at the position where I am at now. Second, I partly agree with their stance.
The problem is when I talked to Alyssa about going back to school she says that she isn't cut out for college. I tried talking to her about but she says she is too old now and that she isn't smart enough. I would really like her to get a college degree but I don't want her to think that I am trying to make her qualify for my acceptance. She is very submissive in general and I don't want her to do it just because I told her so but actually want her to wholeheartedly enjoy going to school.
I really want to be careful with my choice of wording mainly because no one in her family has graduated with a degree so I don't want to come off condescending; there is a large enough cultural barrier between me and her, and I don't want to make it any worse.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I date Hispanic girl I want to marry but I want her to get a college degree, she says she isn't cut out for school | I date Hispanic girl I want to marry but I want her to get a college degree, she says she isn't cut out for school | 3,870 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30F] with my boyfriend [30M] for a year, I am making myself suffer needlessly
POST: I am in a loving relationship, but am constantly worried it's going to turn bad or that he doesn't love me. The thing is, he's never done anything to make me feel this way. It's all coming from me and my insecurities about myself. Sometimes, I think of worst case scenarios and I play it out as if it has happened. I feel the emotions that would come as if it had happened. Then I get sad.
The thoughts I tend to play out are sad. For example, my boyfriend having feelings for another person. I make myself suffer needlessly. And, I take it out on my boyfriend by asking about said thought and looking for reassurance. He understandably gets upset and frustrated because he does love me and it's like saying I don't trust him. I feel disoriented and like I have no perspective about how to live a normal healthy life without making myself suffer. I guess my question is, what are some tools that I can use to correct my thought patterns. I want peace of mind. Thanks in advance for any thoughts or advice you guys might have.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I play out sad thoughts in my head and make myself needlessly suffer and my boyfriend is getting the brunt of it. | I play out sad thoughts in my head and make myself needlessly suffer and my boyfriend is getting the brunt of it. | 2,027 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 F] I find my bf [20 m] flirting with multiple girls on FB
POST: A year ago, he left his FB open on his computer while at work. There have been a few times before I noticed minor things that made me question what he was doing on there all the time. When he always left the room he wouldn't let me go anywhere near his computer. So without regret I looked through his messages only to find he was pming multiple girls not just one. They consisted of flirting. I felt betrayed and lost my trust with him so I had to confront him. He sat there and cried asking if there was anything he could do to make it up, and saying he would never do it again. So my mistake I gave him another chance. Things got better over time and I gained some of my trust back for him, and I learned to forgive him. We are in a long distance relationship now, and we manage to see each other every 3 months while he finishes school. Over time i noticed that he was acting funny, not really listening to what I say, he rarely calls me anymore, and sometimes I sit there wondering if it's really worth it all the hard work i've put in this relationship. I went on his fb out of curiosity (you can bash me all you want for this but i couldn't help it) I really shouldn't have to, and I guess deep down I never really got over it. Only to find that he is still flirting. He acts like a completely different person while doing this and some of the things he says. He evens asks for pictures of these girls he is talking to. Being in a long distance I don't know how to confront him about it this time. What can I do or am I overreacting? I just don't want to be that crazy gf.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | caught bf flirting with girls on FB, a year later found him doing it again except we are in a long distance relationship now. How do I confront him? | caught bf flirting with girls on FB, a year later found him doing it again except we are in a long distance relationship now. How do I confront him? | 2,999 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [M27/F24] Roomates with [M24] who has his girlfriend[F18] over nightly, claims she doesnt live here.
POST: Am I right to be upset about her being at the house but not contributing in anyway?
It started out very slow, she would spend a night here and there. And it wasnt a problem. Then slowly she starts spending a lot more time here. At one point early on, she ended up staying a week without returning to her home. I asked my roommate about it and he was shocked and claimed he didnt realize she had been at the house that long. I shrugged it off and asked that it didn't happen again. Everything was fine for a while, and then she started letting herself in without knocking. I personally feel this is disrespectful to the rest of the housemates, am I wrong about this? Is this the norm these days?
I asked them to have her please knock when arriving at the house, and she does, but then proceeds to enter the house anyway. I let this go as they are doing as I asked.
The next issue I have is her here without him, and even more so, her here without ANYONE else. I can understand her arriving before he does if they have plans, or shortly after he leaves. But hours before or after seems to be a bit excessive. And being here when no one else is I feel is defiantly out of line. When these things started happening. I asked my roommate if she is living here. And he said that she does not. I repeated my concerns, but this time they seemed to have fallen flat. Lately she has been here everyday and night it seems. It is rare that her car is not in the driveway.
Am I wrong for feeling that they are past the line with this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Roommates girlfriend is here almost everynight and is at the house when no one else is here. Am I wrong for being upset that they say she doesnt live here? | Roommates girlfriend is here almost everynight and is at the house when no one else is here. Am I wrong for being upset that they say she doesnt live here? | 3,328 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/m] My girlfriend (21/f) asked for us to be good friends, with the possibility of getting back together.
POST: My girlfriend (or ex now) asked for us to take some time apart. But by time apart, she means time out of relationship.
We met about 2 months ago and dated for around a month. This was the first relationship for both of us in several years and we were both very excited to start. However, she began feeling too much pressure. She needed time to think if she truly likes/loves me or not and she wasn't able to have that time.
The strange thing is she wants us to be close friends. She believes that a relationship can only be strongest if two people are very good friends already before establishing the relationship. So she wants to become good friends with me first. We moved along very quickly but she still barely knows who I am and vice versa. Two months isn't exactly enough to get to know someone so deeply. She still wants to spend a lot of time with me. But she doesn't want the burden of a relationship just yet. She said that she doesn't want to be forced to like me just because we're in a relationship. She wants her boyfriend to be her best friend as well.
But the thing is, she said she wants us to be good friends before we get together again. I also made sure to point out that I'm trying to get back together with her, and she accepted that as well. We only met each other recently but we've grown extremely fond of each other. Just too much stress I guess.
I want to know what to do. I want to know how long I wait before I try again. She didn't give me a time. These things can't be measured in a specific time frame. I really like this girl and she's one of the most amazing people I've ever met. How do I know if we can still work out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend wants to become friends, wants boyfriend to be best friend, wants me to grow as a best friend before entering the relationship again, says there is still a chance we'll get back together. What do I do? | Girlfriend wants to become friends, wants boyfriend to be best friend, wants me to grow as a best friend before entering the relationship again, says there is still a chance we'll get back together. What do I do? | 935 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] with my boyfriend [22 M] one year, finding LDR hard and wanting some advice
POST: So I've been exclusive with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, long distance for a few months. Our relationship wasn't always long distance, we used to live in the same city but I got accepted into medical school and had to move. He works in research and is applying for jobs in my city so that we can be together again in the future.
I guess I'm just finding it hard to feel loved and desired with all this physical distance between us and I was hoping to get some advice or encouragement from fellow redditors on things we can do to close the (figurative) distance and perhaps some words of encouragement. Stories on how you did it or how friends have made a LDR work for them would also be much appreciated as one tends to not hear about when things work our so much.
I have no desire to end the relationship and I love him very much.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 22F and 24M, 1 yr, now in LDR: seeking advice and encouragement on how to handle the distance. | 22F and 24M, 1 yr, now in LDR: seeking advice and encouragement on how to handle the distance. | 5,177 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [31F] with my ?? 'undefined' [27M] known of him for years, gotten closer and physical last few weeks... really new to dating and need help!
POST: I was in a really long-term relationship (12yrs), left him over six months ago. Spent the time since enjoying independence, learning about myself and who I am etc. I'm not ready for another relationship. I like the freedom of being on my own...
A guy has entered my life. I've known of him for years, we've chatted a few times at parties etc, but nothing ever happened. We went away for a week for a work conference thing (we work in the same industry). He asked how things were, and I told him I'm single. We caught up a few times for hours chatting and learning about each other. New years eve (at the conference), we hung out in the same group, and flirted a bit, sitting on each others lap etc.
The group we hung out with really gelled, so as a group we've gotten together almost every 3-4 days over the last few weeks. Each time, the two of us have flirted in front of them, but little to their knowledge, we've also kissed and I've stayed at his house twice (in two weeks) because it was too late to drive home after the group's social events. Nothing happened beyond kissing and heavy rubbing.
He's made it obvious he would like to have sex, and I would too, but I feel like I would like to know beforehand what it would mean to him - just a f*** buddy, potential relationship etc. To be honest, I don't know what I want from him anyway, so should I need to ask? Should I go with the flow? I haven't really had a lot of experience with dating, so I'm new to all of this.
We've tentatively discussed going away for the weekend hiking one weekend. So there's future discussions there, but I know that doesn't mean anything. Friends go hiking! Anyway, I'm not trying to read into his behaviour and work out what it means, I'm purely thinking about myself, and should I ask what he's thinking, if he's seeing anyone else, or should I just go with the flow and see what happens?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should I ask what he's thinking, if he's seeing anyone else, or should I just go with the flow, sleep with him and see what happens? | Should I ask what he's thinking, if he's seeing anyone else, or should I just go with the flow, sleep with him and see what happens? | 3,356 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (23m) fiancée (23f) wears same clothes regardless of the event
POST: My fiancée and I have been engaged for a few months and dating for the past 3 years. We graduated college in December (a semester early). She's in grad school and I'm working at a bank.
She has always dressed casually, loose T-shirts and jeans for every occasion. She has one very worn button down shirt for occasions. She's worn it to weddings, company parties, and other events where she is very underdressed. It's a bit embarrassing at times, especially since I've seen my coworkers and relatives snickering about her.
I've offered to buy her clothes and take her shopping, but she says no. I don't know the slightest thing about women's clothes or I would've surprised her with a dress or something. I'm not asking her to be a fashionista, just to dress appropriately.
She's joked about getting married in the button down and I'm half afraid she isn't joking. When I talk to her about it, she insists its not a problem and that people are superficial. She also says that no one would look at her either way.
Anything I can do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | fiancée is always underdressed and wears the same shirt to any 'formal' occasion. I've never seen her in a skirt or blouse, let alone a nice dress. | fiancée is always underdressed and wears the same shirt to any 'formal' occasion. I've never seen her in a skirt or blouse, let alone a nice dress. | 3,750 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, I don't know what I want to be. Can you help me find something to do with my life?
POST: Hey Reddit,
A lot of things have been on my mind lately. It seems everyone in my family has something that makes them special, but when it comes to me, there really isn't any talent, or any talent I have discovered. To elaborate, one of my brothers is incredibly smart. He went a High school which was pretty much, I guess you could say, pre-college (he lived on campus, college grade classes). My other brother is musically talented. He plays various instruments, and is in the marching band. Then there is me. I don't know what I wanna do.
Pretty much I have sat on my butt all summer, playing games/watching Netflix. There has been no productivity at all. I spend all my time upstairs, and my parents complain how I never go down to see them. This has gotten better over the past few days though. I just need to find something to do with my life. I need a hobby. I don't play sports because I absolutely have no interest in them. I just never have had fun playing them.
Whenever my older brother (who is going into college, the smart one) asks me what I want to be when I grow up, I have never been able to answer because I don't know. I told him I was interested in programming, and he got me started on learning Python. I started the very basics, and went on a 3-week vacation trip, which ended with me forgetting it all. I also like music (username). I want to learn piano, and possibly sing and/or songwrite. The thing is, I can't write, or play piano using different rhythms on each hand. No one has ever heard me actually try to sing, and I don't know if I am any good either.
So Reddit, I know I don't have the worst life or the biggest problems in my life, but what should I do? I either want to do something in the Music or Gaming industry.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't have any real hobbies and have no idea what I want to do when I grow up besides wanting to do something in the Gaming/Music Industry. | I don't have any real hobbies and have no idea what I want to do when I grow up besides wanting to do something in the Gaming/Music Industry. | 4,734 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with my close friends [23-26 M/F] who are lazy and never want to put effort into anything.
POST: Sometimes I get the feeling that hanging out with this close group of friends is allowing me to miss so many opportunities in life. My friends who I hang out with on a regular basis, and who I've known throughout college, are all pretty large in body size. Some of them are tipping on the edge of being overweight and some are obese. I'm the thinnest and most fit one in the group. I'm constantly out doing stuff, whether it be running and being active or making plans to go do active stuff, i.e. being outside. They never seem excited to do these sorts of things and would rather spend their nights inside, watching Netflix, drinking liquor/beer, or playing video games. It's really frustrating sometimes. They're a great group of people that I genuinely enjoy spending time with because they're good natured, funny, and we all support eachother when someone is going through a rough time. I just hate that they never want to be active and go to events/places like I do. It's always a fight for "time" and "money" and "getting off work", etc, etc - the list goes on. But I know that's it mostly bullshit because they are happy to plan an event where we get together at someone's house just to drink and have fun.
I don't know what to do. I understand that I can meet more people who are into a similar lifestyle as mine (thank god my girlfriend is an active person), but I've known these guys for so long, I just wish I could motivate them into losing weight and being active - they have no idea what kind of life they're missing.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friends are all lazy and don't want to be active - I feel like it's making me miss out on opportunities. | My friends are all lazy and don't want to be active - I feel like it's making me miss out on opportunities. | 1,090 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it love or insecurity or possessiveness
POST: Ok so i have been seeing this girl for 6 months. I am 24 and she is 26. We hit it off instantly. We were great together. It was a great time. As time passed by she started to get a bit possessive. At the start i thought it was nice that she is possessive about me suggesting that she really likes me. Off late things are getting out of hand and now i am confused.
She gets really possessive if i talk to any other female friend. Immediately she starts getting "Negative vibes" from that female.
She blocked me for 3 days just because my colleagues were telling me the story about the trip which i missed btw coz of her. I didnt go coz i knew she would feel bad.
Again she blocked me for 2 3 days coz i was talking to her best friend who is committed btw.
She gets angry n mad at all the small things and make me feel like i am doing something wrong. She got pissed merely coz i accepted a friend request on fb of my office colleague. She always accuses me of flirting n gets all weird if i am standing near any female in the GROUP pic. She then goes and finds my solo pics from 3 4 years ago n then accuses me that i am a flirt
Its like a guilt trip always for not doing anything wrong. I cannot keep losing people coz she gets negative vibes right?
I mentioned the word seeing coz after this possessiveness started i asked her out and shes not interested in a relationship. So apparently we are just friends but she has also confessed that she likes me alot and she does . We were reallyy close.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | What thing confuses me is that she says she feels so possessive only about me which i know is true. What m i supposed to do?? Its driving me crazyy... | What thing confuses me is that she says she feels so possessive only about me which i know is true. What m i supposed to do?? Its driving me crazyy... | 5,150 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are your worst/best breakup stories?
POST: Story time for Reddit! Give me your worst (or best) break-up stories!
Worst: One girl and I had been together for a while and had a rocky relationship with ups and downs. I wanted to marry her, but she thought she might still be in love with an old flame that was leaving for the Navy in a few months for a six year leave. She had a hard time choosing, but I figured I'd make the choice easy for her. Told her "we need to talk when you get home," so she decided to get totally hammered. When she got home, she was slamming doors and yelling at her roommate. When I finally said the words, she spent the next 20 minutes chewing me out in her drunken, slurred speech and slammed the door in my face.
The next day she called me saying she couldn't remember what happened the previous night, so I had to do it all over again.
Best: Wasn't working out. Got break-up sex, which turned into friends with benefits. Woot
TL;DR: . Assistant: | WORST: She was drunk, cussed me out, and had to do it again the next day. BEST: Break-up sex to friends w/ benefits | WORST: She was drunk, cussed me out, and had to do it again the next day. BEST: Break-up sex to friends w/ benefits | 1,194 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22 M] ex left me [21 F] after 11 months, said he was too young, got with his ex who has a baby
POST: So basically after 11 months of an amazing relationship, my now ex boyfriend, has decided he isn't old enough for anything serious, and I was fine with that. We agreed to be friends and we would see if we could pick it up again in a few months, kind of like a break.
We've both been having stressful times at work so I thought he may just need to clear his head a bit. We'd been talking like we normally would, not much had changed besides the romance and we were both missing each other. But last Monday he was out with his friends and I got a text message that said "I'm sorry I have to be honest, there's someone else." Obviously I was pretty distraught that he'd get over it all so quickly, I wondered why I wasn't good enough and I've thought about it all so much.
After completely breaking up with me I've found out he is now with his ex girlfriend who has recently had a baby, I'm struggling to add it all up really. I'm hurt that he couldn't be with me but he feels he can handle the responsibility of a new born child. What makes it even stranger is the fact he told me numerous times that he dislikes this girl a fair bit.
I'm not sure how to feel about the whole thing if I'm honest. I still have extremely strong feelings for him and I don't know if this is all a mistake on his part. I've been on a date to try forget about it but it didn't feel right, I don't know if I should wait for him to explain it all properly before I move on.
*side note: I'm not sure if it's worth mentioning but he saved me from an abusive relationship and I feel like I owe him a lot for that, he made me trust someone again and I'm worried it'll damage me letting go of him.*
I'm sorry if this seem all over the place, I'm just not with it at all, I just need someone to hear me out right now
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend wasn't ready for anything serious, has now taken on a new born child, I don't know how to react | boyfriend wasn't ready for anything serious, has now taken on a new born child, I don't know how to react | 3,176 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My college SO and I [20M & 20F] are getting more distant, and it's hurting me. I don't think she knows. Looking for advice, because I'm in pain and angered.
POST: My girlfriend and I are distant, but *we live on the same campus*, and it's killing me.
I'm going to convey the situation in a series of small rants that have built up (that I haven't told her about yet (but I will)). Here they go:
* Some days I feel loved, and other days I feel like I'm a complete thorn in her side. Like I have to pay her to show affection.
* She says that she's been really stressed about school lately, and I understand that, because I am also stressed and very busy, but we've only hung out 4 times since the beginning of the semester. And I know that if she would even remotely seem interested, that I would make time for her. At this point, I've given up asking her to hang out or do anything.
* We haven't had sex in ages, and when I told her I wanted to try to get more physical again, she told me she probably wasn't going to feel like having sex any time soon. What..?
* At the same time, she'll tweet about how hot she thinks a certain celebrity is, etc. I know that sounds petty, and if the circumstances were different, I would agree. But reading stuff like that from a girl that can't seem to do anything with me is both hurtful and infuriating.
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I understand that I need to talk to her, and that this seems partly like a communication issue; I am going to talk to her. I'm not looking for someone to tell me to work on communication. I am trying to get an idea of what you guys and gals think is going on, and what you would do, and how you would react in my position.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my girlfriend is distant, but we live on the same campus. My feelings are getting more and more hurt, and I know I need to talk to her. Read full post if you're still confused. | my girlfriend is distant, but we live on the same campus. My feelings are getting more and more hurt, and I know I need to talk to her. Read full post if you're still confused. | 803 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description
POST: New here, but you all have come highly recommended from a close friend and I appreciate any comments, thank you. Here it is.
We both go to college together, same major, and we sit next to each other in two classes. We started hanging out Oct 5th of last year and it was great. Shes smarter than me and helps with homework which is nice, but its not a reason to keep a relationship alive.
There are two main problems that I've been dwelling on for the past few weeks. As far as I can tell, she is very much in love with me, but I've come to see that although I like her, I do not love her. One problem remains with this because I cant determine a definite reason why I don't...
I don't know how to break up with her. I care about her, so I don't want to crush her, but I think its just as bad to go on thinking that, "maybe if I stick it out for awhile I will see something different and then love her again."
Best case scenario: We remain friends and can both look fondly on memories shared, mostly that she can move on without excessive agony. I'd rather no longer be friends and have her be happy sooner than try to hold up a friendship if you guys think it'll make a difference.
Any help or comments are greatly appreciated and questions are also welcome! Thank you so much for reading.
Excessive background: Small classes (20+-5). Military with similar interest in field so good chance our paths will cross for at least the next two years. This is my longest relationship I've ever held. She just had her wisdom teeth out today. Im leaving for a football game at noon tomorrow.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Almost 1 year, intertwined lives, she loves but I don't. I don't know when or how best to break it off. | Almost 1 year, intertwined lives, she loves but I don't. I don't know when or how best to break it off. | 2,021 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: I know it's creepy if a guy blows up your phone, but is it creepy if a guy suddenly drops his frequency of contact?
POST: So I have this friend who happens to be a woman. She's 24, I'm 26. We've been friends for a little under 2 years now. The friendship is mutual, seeing that she's initiated plans with me quite a bit. So I want to clear that out of the way, so everyone knows that I'm not some NiceGuy that follows this girl around.
The last time we hung out was when we met at a party last Saturday. Before that she hung out at my place 3 weeks ago for a movie and to match weed bowls (matching is where I smoke my weed with you, and you smoke your weed with me). We usually talk twice a week or so. If we aren't in person, we talk via text. It's been over a week and I haven't said anything. Not because I don't want to talk to her, but I haven't had time to really make plans, and I don't really have a whole lot to say. I'm also socially anxious and a tad insecure, so another reason why I haven't reached out is due to fear of annoying her.
I would like to go ahead and reach out sometime soon, to keep the friendship afloat, but I don't want to be annoying/creepy. Again, maybe it's my own social anxiety making me over think things. But I am coming here to reddit to get a second opinion on whether it's just my own anxiety, or if I have a point.
So women, is it creepy if a dude doesn't text you at all, especially if you expect the guy likes you? Would you assume he's playing some game, or that he's just living his life?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it off-putting if a guy you normally talk to doesn't text you at all for longer than normal? | Is it off-putting if a guy you normally talk to doesn't text you at all for longer than normal? | 3,643 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 M] hooked up with a girl [19 F] at a party and want to ask her out. Any advice is greatly appreciated!
POST: So this past Friday I was at a college party and met a beautiful girl and started chatting her up. We talked for a little while then we started dancing and eventually the dancing led to making out on the dancefloor. This went on for over an hour and it was the most fun I've had a party in a long time. When the party started to wind down, I walked her back to her room, got her number, and kissed her goodbye.
It's been three days since then and I haven't had any contact with her. I would love to up and ask her out on a date but I'm not exactly sure what medium to use or how exactly to phrase it. I think texting her "Hey I had a lot of fun on Friday. Would you like to get dinner some time?" could come off as standoffish.
I go to a big school and don't see this girl at all throughout the course of my usual day. Any advice on where I should go from here would be fantastic. Thanks y'all!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hooked up with a girl at a party a few days ago and haven't talked to her since. I want to initiate a sober rendez-vous for the first time but I'm not exactly sure how to go about it. | Hooked up with a girl at a party a few days ago and haven't talked to her since. I want to initiate a sober rendez-vous for the first time but I'm not exactly sure how to go about it. | 3,178 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M with my gf [29 F] little ver 3 years, not sue what to do. break up or contnue
POST: I'm in the is relationships a littler over 3 years now, and i'm not sure what to do anymore. She's an amazing person and a great friend, but ive been finding myself asking wether or not I want to continue this or if we should go our separate ways. We've definitely had some rocky points in our relationship. She's been telling me that she doesn't feel like I am as attentive or give her the attention/ affection that she wants, and that i've been increasingly cold towards her.
Admittedly I do feel some reluctancy to continue things with her. It's gotten pretty rough with our work schedules, i work mon-fri 9-5, she works at a restaurant 5 nights a week, especially every weekened. We don't really see each other like we used to. It seems like we are fighting regularly, not every day, but maybe every week there is something, and it usually comes to us talking about being together. We've almost broken up a few times now.
She is a great person, and I think she would make an incredible partner, but I think I'm afraid of committing here. I can't tell if it's because I want this to be over, or if it's the fear of committing to a single person for the rest of my life. I'm not sure I am ready to do that yet, and it's not fair to her to keep around because we are comfortable or whatever. Feels like our break up has been looming for a little while now.
I also have this fear of losing her and regretting it later. I don't know what to do anymore. This isn't getting any better, and my indecisiveness is really taking a toll on our relationship. I want her to be happy, just not sure it's with me and if I'm just preventing myself, and our relationship from being happy or if it is just over and we are dragging it out.
we've been through a lot, she has suffered with depression and biplar disorder, and I used to be jealous. It's gotten better but I believe it' definitely taken a toll on our relationship, and how we feel towards one another.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been in a relationship with gf for 3 years, and not sure what to do, if should break up or stay together. | Been in a relationship with gf for 3 years, and not sure what to do, if should break up or stay together. | 4,189 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My Room Mate [32/m] is being catfished and I can't make him realize.
POST: So my room mate separated from his wife (divorce pending) in July. Before July he was talking about this hot polish girl he met on second life.
When we moved in together after the divorce he's playing a lot of video games online with "Jenny". He'll play all night with her from after work around 6 pm EST to 12-2 EST. Or for those doing the math 12-8 AM Polish time.
Then she's visiting her aunt that lives in our state but a few weeks before cancels the trip.
Now she's getting a temporary passport, or is it a temporary visa? to come work at a local gym thats a franchise of the same company she works for (it's not I checked). The same company that doesn't have a location in the town she claims to be from.
Then I'm talking to him one day and he's talking to his computer without headphones, reading the computer, then talking to the computer more. Later I ask "So does she talk to you?"
"oh no her mic is broken, don't know how to fix it tho!"
This is strange but then a month ago she sends him to our local Best Buy where he finds a fully paid for
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Polish" girl with holes in her story is lying to my room mate but also buying him things and spending huge amounts of time talking to hime playing games but only communicating through typing. | Polish" girl with holes in her story is lying to my room mate but also buying him things and spending huge amounts of time talking to hime playing games but only communicating through typing. | 4,535 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 F] am scared that my SO [19 M] might be cheating...
POST: So my boyfriend (19/M) and I (18/F) have been dating for about 2 or 3 months now but I have a gut feeling that something isn't right. Sometimes when we're laying down in bed or driving in the car and he gets a text he'll turn his phone screen to make sure that I can't see it. When he sets his phone down the screen is always facing down and if I pick up his phone even to just move it he freaks out. We had one really bad fight and he left me crying outside, since then we've talked and everything seems to be okay but he still hides his phone and now will take hours to text back and often tries to cancel hanging out. Am I over thinking it or could he be up to something?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend hides his phone, freaks out if I even touch it, and often tries to cancel plans. Could he be cheating? | My boyfriend hides his phone, freaks out if I even touch it, and often tries to cancel plans. Could he be cheating? | 2,296 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (18M) can't seem to make any friends after starting Uni earlier this year.
POST: Not sure if this is the right subreddit, but I'll shove it here anyway.
I graduated high school last year, and pretty much immediately fell out of touch with most of the people I'd hung out with there. I made some half-hearted attempts at making friends when Uni started up in March this year, and since then, but I just don't have any idea how to go about it. I'm kind of thinking I've missed the bus now, since everyone seems to have friends and I have no idea how to inject myself into an existing group of friends. There's a couple of people that I was in a group with on O-week, who I talk to occasionally, but I don't know how to make the next step there, either.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dropped out of contact with most (not all) high-school friends, and don't have any idea how to make new friends at Uni this year. How do I do that, reddit? | Dropped out of contact with most (not all) high-school friends, and don't have any idea how to make new friends at Uni this year. How do I do that, reddit? | 2,162 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25M] with my girfriend [22F] 8 months, kept a secret from me
POST: My girlfriend and I were on a date yesterday when she had to get something off her chest.
She said that I am not her second guy (sex) that shes been with. There were two others before me.
She wanted to be honest with me and I was hurt that she kept this the whole time. I thought we had open communication this whole time.
I respect that she wanted to tell me but I would have either wanted to know from the beginning to know what I was getting myself into or just never know.
I cried because it hurt when this whole time I thought we were each other second partner.
She had sex with 2 other guys in between her ex and me. she said she was angry and felt like giving up on dating until a mutual friend introduced us.
She keeps telling me that I am perfect for her and surprised that how I treat like no other guy before. Which I am glad at what i'm doing is right because before it was not appreciated.
I feel like marrying her one day but this idk of our relationship will be the same.
I want things to be the same before she told me. Like I wish I could forget about it.
What to do? Did I overreacted?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF told me that she has sex with 2 other guys in between her ex and me but told me a while later/What should I do? | GF told me that she has sex with 2 other guys in between her ex and me but told me a while later/What should I do? | 5,217 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (26f) screw things up every time I'm nice... how can I not with him(27)?
POST: The past couple of years have revealed a pattern I'm finding a little concerning - I date a guy for a while and hold myself back from gestures or being too forward, then I get a little relaxed (which can be anything from a few weeks to a few months) and within days of me being nicer (texting him first, planning a date, settling for going round to his apartment if he's feeling tired, etc.) then suddenly he loses interest. I once baked cookies on Valentine's Day when we'd been together a few months and the guy freaked out.
So now I have been dating a guy for a month and he's lovely, but I'm just waiting for it to end - and I feel as soon as I relax or, heaven forbid give him a compliment or say I like him, he's going to bolt.
The big problem is that he's picking me up from the airport after the Christmas break, and I can't be so ungrateful as to just say thank you, but I'm afraid if I do anything nice he'll run.
So how can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I think my allure is in being a bit challenging - I'm opinionated and have a backbone. As soon as I mellow, guys run. What gives and how can I overcome this? | I think my allure is in being a bit challenging - I'm opinionated and have a backbone. As soon as I mellow, guys run. What gives and how can I overcome this? | 3,670 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Lawyers of Reddit or anyone who has experience with the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act) I would like some input.
POST: I have a quick question regarding my new apartment that I moved into about 7 months ago but I'll give a quick back story first. The apartment in which I currently am living in is ADA accessible. For those unfamiliar it is meant for people who are physically disabled having a larger bedroom, a larger bathroom with a support bar along with wall, lowered shelves, light switches, sinks, and cupboards with doors removed for easier access to those in wheelchairs. It is the ground floor apartment, however it still has a half-flight of stairs in order to get to the front door from the parking lot/walkway. There is a back door, but it is a sliding glass door leading to a concrete patio and a small concrete ramp for wheelchair access. And here is lies the problem, the sliding glass door cannot be locked from the outside.
This is what got me thinking, is something like this legal where a person who is physically disabled is unable to secure their home? I am not in any way disabled and is probably why I have not thought about it until recently, but it still makes me wonder if something like this is illegal. And to my knowledge this apartment complex has several other ADA accessible apartments for rent along with another complex built the same as mine. I have talked to a friend of mine who is a private contractor and he told me that it is illegal, however he is not much of a legal authority so I thought I would ask as help for my own research.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Front door to apartment is the only way to secure the apartment but has a flight of stairs, back door has a ramp but no lock on the outside. Is this legal? | Front door to apartment is the only way to secure the apartment but has a flight of stairs, back door has a ramp but no lock on the outside. Is this legal? | 4,078 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30F] with my sister [18F] 18 yrs, my sister had a mental breakdown and is in a bad state, I don't know how to handle this.
POST: Anne was recently taken to a mental health unit a few days ago after having a psychotic episode involving the police. She wasn't too bad in the general hospital but after being transferred to a psych ward (had to be done by law) she became very aggressive to the nurses to the point that they had to stand around her to make sure she didn't hurt anyone or herself.
Tonight I phoned her and she sounded nothing like her usual level headed stuff. Her speech was slurred and she was indifferent to me, saying that she didn't care to see me if I visited. There were random statements from her that didn't make sense. She swore at me in a mumbling way and then the phone conversation ended.
I know she's not herself right now but I feel like if she doesn't want me to pay a visit to the hospital then I won't. Of course, i'm somewhat upset about this as we'd once been close. I am thinking of giving up on her. She has our mother and grandmother's support, and a lot of relatives too, so at least there's that. I would like some advice as to how to move forward from this.
I've always wanted to help out family and friends whenever I can but I feel like this is futile.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My sister is in a psych ward and is pushing me away. I'm hurt and I don't know what I should do - to keep trying or give up. | My sister is in a psych ward and is pushing me away. I'm hurt and I don't know what I should do - to keep trying or give up. | 1,513 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24/f] living with a guy [27/m] (non romantic). I had a party while he was away and something valuable of his got stolen. Not sure what to do?
POST: So I met this guy from work, he doesn't work in the same department as me but we got to talking a bit and kinda became friendly. He is a widow (his wife died 4 years ago after they were married for 3 years).
Anyway we became friendly and after a while I thought he was interested in me but it turns out that he wasn't and just stuck to being friends. I had to move due to personal reasons and he offered me a place to stay with him (I also have a child). I pay him rent but it's a lot lower then what I should be paying, for the area and how nice his place is. He sticks to himself and never dates or anything (he is good looking and earns a lot so he wouldn't have trouble with it).
Well he went out for work for a month and over the weekend I had a small party at our place. He has never said I couldn't have a party or anything but he kinda keeps to himself and that. The party got kinda out of hand and in the morning when I woke up I realised people got into his room and some of his stuff was missing. Now one of the things that is missing is a watch that his wife bought for him when they went on a trip. He has showed me it before and it's pretty much his prized possession.
I don't know what to do here. Do I try and replace it and hope he doesn't notice? It was really personal to him. It was pretty much what he remembers his wife by and I'm pretty sure he's still not over her. I really don't want to tell him because it will absolutely crush him.
What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | live with a guy who lost his wife, had a party, someone stole his watch which was a gift from his wife. not sure to come clean or replace it | live with a guy who lost his wife, had a party, someone stole his watch which was a gift from his wife. not sure to come clean or replace it | 857 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22f] with my SO [22m] 4 years, we both suck at fighting and it's ruining our relationship
POST: I'm not really sure how to explain this. We live together and have for 3 years. Sometime in the last two years the way we fight changed and it is now happening more frequently and the fights are much worse. I used to not mind fighting because we always got a better understanding of what each other wanted in our partners and I thought we came out better following a fight.
Now fights are happening over nothing and we both suck so much at dealing with it that we can't move on. Basically we get stuck on whose fault it is and who owes who an apology and who should apologize first and it just doesn't seem like the way an adult couple should be. If something bothers me, should I just let it go? If he makes a kind of rude comment, should I request an apology? Should I tell him it upset me and not request an apology? Should I just ignore it altogether? Thinking back my parents had an incredible relationship and I never once saw them get hung up on apologies like this.
Any advice will help. This sub taught me how to admit I am wrong so I'm hoping it can help with this as well.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | SO and I are fighting more frequently over stupid things and our fights elevate because we always get hung up on who should be sorry and who wronged who and something needs to change | SO and I are fighting more frequently over stupid things and our fights elevate because we always get hung up on who should be sorry and who wronged who and something needs to change | 1,864 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Tried something new, not sure how it went.(M20)(F20)
POST: Told my real close friend that I am into her, and not sure how she has taken it, me and her have been real close for a while, but unfortunately she has a boyfriend, who she hasn't been on best terms with recently, but they seem to be getting on again. So I told her after I left her place, and from what I know, if girls aren't interested they will usually tell you right away, and let you down easy, or just completely destroy you, neither has happened.
She just hasn't replied, at all, nothing, I let her know roughly 24 hours ago and still nothing, so anyone got any idea to what might be going on? The only thing I can think of is that shes just consolidating herself about what to do next, like choosing what guy, but that's just me being stupidly hopeful.
Any idea?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Told my friend I'm into her about 24 hours ago, she has a boyfriend who shes on rough terms with, still no reply, whats going on? | Told my friend I'm into her about 24 hours ago, she has a boyfriend who shes on rough terms with, still no reply, whats going on? | 4,568 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[19 M] found a Woman [26F] I like, but i think there might be a problem
POST: So like It says, I found a woman that I like, and she likes me, but there might be a problem
So first some background:
I met her a couple of days ago through a mutual friend. We'll call her M. Me and M got to talking and we both seemed to feel kind of an instant spark between us. Besides the age difference we both have a lot in common, we both like video games, animals, watching movies, you name it.
So the potential problem:
We were talking tonight and during our conversation she told me she had been diagnosed with BPD ( Borderline Personality Disorder) which is a real mental health issue. So my question is, even though we get along great, and really like her, should I cut loose? Or should i give it a chance?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a great woman, but turns out she had BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), should i stick around or bounce? | Met a great woman, but turns out she had BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), should i stick around or bounce? | 1,445 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my friend [19 F] has a little bit of a thing but things went badly.
POST: So there is this girl that I was friends with in high school, we didn't talk much. So basically she started going to the same university as me and we started talking. She told me she flirted with me all of high school and that I showed no interest. Anyways somehow we ended up talking about sex blah blah and we both want to have sex with each other. So I kinda led her on for about two weeks, and at the beginning of this she said that she didn't just fuck around, which is weird because she is in a relationship and us having sex would mean he cheating. Actually given some of the things we have said to each other I would consider that she has already cheated, although not physically. Along the way I hinted strongly that I wasn't interest in her emotionally and that I was not looking for a relationship. Eventually I told it to her flat out and she got upset, saying that "she's not just a piece of meat". I guess I set it up so that she would get pissed at me and not sleep with me. I'm a virgin and I think she expects that I would develop feelings for her as a result of sex. I said "If you wanted sex and friendship but nothing more, then why would you be mad for me saying I wouldn't give anything more?" She said "That's not how sex works. We both know it. Plus who said that's what I wanted. I was saying I knew where YOU stood. And for me that's not okay. Because I'm worth everything and more than that." and "Like if it happened it happened but to just come out and say it? You're an asshole.". I feel like she is mad because I said I don't want to develop feelings for her and I was to keep it strictly physical. Well now it's not going to happen anyways, and I obviously screwed up because I shouldn't be talking like that to someone who is dating someone else, but I wanted to know what people think of this just from reading it. If you think I'm an asshole speak up, if not say whatever you feel, and if you need things clarified let me know, I will try to make this a bit more readable.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A friend reacted badly when i told her that even though she wanted sex and feelings with me, I only wanted sex. How should I handle the situation? | A friend reacted badly when i told her that even though she wanted sex and feelings with me, I only wanted sex. How should I handle the situation? | 2,639 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23F] and my cousin [23F] have the same due date. She just lost her baby today at 36 weeks. How do I comfort her?
POST: My cousin and I (both 23 F) have been very close most of our lives. We grew up together and have a good relationship. Well we both got pregnant at the same time. We have the exact same due date (August 7th). This is my second pregnancy (I have a 2 year old son) and it's her first. We were excited that our kids were going to grow up together and always compared bellies.
She texted me yesterday saying that she was worried because the baby wasn't moving. She went in and they found a heart beat and decided to send her in for a stress test. I just got a phone call from our grandmother saying that she had lost the baby.
My heart is completely broken for her. I want so badly to be there for her and grieve with her but I'm not sure how. I don't want to make her uncomfortable. How can I show my support without upsetting her?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My cousin and I have the same due date and are set to give birth August 7th. She lost her baby today. How do I comfort her? | My cousin and I have the same due date and are set to give birth August 7th. She lost her baby today. How do I comfort her? | 3,837 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23] am worried she [22] will forget my birthday.
POST: Me: 23 M
Her: 22 F
Together for about 6 months.
My birthday is in roughly a week. She hasn't mentioned it. Should I be worried that she could forget it? She knows when it is, or at least, we have talked about it in the past and so I can expect that she knows. But she hasn't mentioned anything about it in the past 2 months. Should I remind her? Or should I just wait and see if she remembers? If she forgets, what should I do?
Sorry if this seems pedantic- it probably is. But my last GF, while not forgetting about my Bday, always had lack-luster responses about it. Not getting bday sex was the least of my worries with her. We were together for a good while, so I don't know if I should be worried about this or not or what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Do I remind gf about my bd, or hope she remembers? If she forgets, what do I do? | Do I remind gf about my bd, or hope she remembers? If she forgets, what do I do? | 4,147 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Bf (20) is radio silent, I've been gone a week. My first relationship, is my worry justified?
POST: Throwaway because he's a Redditor.
My bf and I (I'm F, both 20) finished our sophomore year of college, and I've gone home across the country for the summer. We've been friends 2 yrs, dating 3 months.
I've always moved every 2 years, so have learned people don't keep in contact when someone leaves. Never dated before because it seemed pointless with a time limit. He swore he'd prove me wrong and that we'd make it work over the summer.
It's been a week and we've texted twice, both initiated by me. Usually we text a few times every (other) day, with him initiating as often as me. He even stopped responding when I text - not like him at all. I requested to add him on Skype like he said I should, and he's not accepted.
His family is stressing him out, saying he might not return to his uni in the fall. I said I'd give him space and I'm here for him because I don't want to be clingy, but I'm really worried that he's gone so noncom. Usually we tell each other anything that's bothering us. Because of my history, when we said goodbye before I left, I had this feeling like it was for good (again, he said he'd prove me wrong).
Is this feeling of fear I somehow can't shake justified? I realized that if something happened to him I'd have no way of knowing, as we go to different schools and have few mutual friends. Is it normal for someone to go off the radar due to stress, or due to separation? Should I prepare myself for a "Dear Jane" call/text/etc.? Or is this normal for a temporarily LDR? I have no clue what I'm doing.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My first relationship, both 20, he's pulled away after I left for the summer. His family is stressing him out and it's not like him to not talk for so long. I'm really worried, should I be? | My first relationship, both 20, he's pulled away after I left for the summer. His family is stressing him out and it's not like him to not talk for so long. I'm really worried, should I be? | 178 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [32 M] with my son [8M], my son's friend [8M], son's friend's mom [30ish F], and school administrator [50ish F].
POST: Hello Reddit! I need help dealing with my son's school system, which seems to have become a little irrational with its "zero strike" policy.
My son, Max [8M], was at school the other day and there's a new student named Sam [8M]. Apparently a bunch of kids were all around talking and getting to know each other and making jokes, and my son told Sam: "You're a homo... a homo *sapien*!". Or something like that. Just a clever little quip that the "gang" all says to each other.
Apparently Sam went home crying and now the school has suspended my son for two days. I think this is absolutely ridiculous, as Max is a good kid and he was just trying to help Sam join the group by making a joke the same way Max and his friends make jokes with each other. I don't want this to go on my son's record, and I'm thinking about getting my lawyer involved. This whole thing has been hugely detrimental for Max's self esteem, who has been having a hard time anyways because his mother has been working abroad for a few weeks. I don't want to stress him out, which would negatively impact his schoolwork.
The administrator says that the school has a "zero tolerance policy" towards bigotry, and Sam's mother says that Sam has been throwing up every morning before school because he doesn't want to get picked on.
Reddit, what should my next step be?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Misunderstanding between a couple of boys at school, now the school system is punishing my son. My son's schoolwork is important and I don't want him distracted with beaurocratic politics. Help! | Misunderstanding between a couple of boys at school, now the school system is punishing my son. My son's schoolwork is important and I don't want him distracted with beaurocratic politics. Help! | 1,000 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Currently unemployed - which tech certification exams are worth taking?
POST: Background: Worked a temporary job at a large company while I was in school and right after I graduated. That contract ended in December. I went to school for Computer Science. While I was working that job I learned that I liked hands on work (getting dirty with networking, tech support and general shit) more than anything else.
Anyway right now I'm applying to just about anything I can. A lot of places that spark my interest usually mention the A+ certification in the requirements. I've heard different things about this exam from people I know and what I've read online but the fact that real jobs are requiring this exam is hard to ignore. I've also read a lot about taking the CCNA as it will help a lot on top of my hands on experience.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Unemployed IT grad and looking for work. What (if any) certifications are worth taking while I'm working 0 hours a week? Hell, they can't hurt right? | Unemployed IT grad and looking for work. What (if any) certifications are worth taking while I'm working 0 hours a week? Hell, they can't hurt right? | 3,872 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [22/M] losing interest in my SO [21/F] of 18 months. Advice on how to handle my feelings or what to do!
POST: I've been with my girlfriend 18 months but recently I've started to think about a life outside our relationship. These thoughts started about a week or so ago and have only gotten stronger over the past few days.
Allow me to describe the scenario:
* I've found myself looking at other women the way I looked at my SO before we were together. I'd never be unfaithful (I know from experience the pain and upset that comes with it) but I feel guilty none the less.
* We're having regular sex but it feels like we are doing it for the sake of it when we're horny rather than because there is a connection (at least that's how it feels to me). She's quite good looking so there is attraction in that sense of the word but in terms of personality I feel as though I'm tired of her, that shes annoying me or perhaps we are incompatible (this feeling comes and goes).
* I've found myself making up excuses to not meet up with her or stay at her place despite the fact she lives less than an hours drive away. She is in no way a needy partner but recently I've been finding it hard to give her the attention and affection one would usually give to a SO.
* The worst part (and it kills me to say this) is when I say I love you I don't feel as though I mean it. I feel like a lier despite the fact that I obviously care about her, just how deeply is something I struggle to define.
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**Should I talk to her about how I'm feeling? If so has /r/relationships got any tips on how to start/steer the conversation?**
**Have any of you ever found yourself feeling the same or in a similar situation? If so how did it pan over time?**
**Any general tips to help myself understand how I am feeling or what I want**
Thanks in advance for any advice. I feel relieved just typing that out.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Losing interest in my girlfriend of 18 months, confused about feelings and how to handle the situation. Looking for advice! | Losing interest in my girlfriend of 18 months, confused about feelings and how to handle the situation. Looking for advice! | 4,349 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by burning my brother's tongue.
POST: This FU just happened a number of minutes ago. My parents are out the door, and I am left home alone to avoid any crap they might give me.
I went downstairs while my parents were getting ready, and grabbed my 6 y/o brother some milk. He says he wants it "wormed up" so I microwave it. I never really do this, so I'm sitting here thinking *"Ok, 1 minute should do the trick. Yeah, that seems about right."* So I put it in for a minute, then hand it to him. My dad comes downstairs. He takes a drink, spits it out and says "Holy crap that's hot!" and in all his little kid rage chucks the bottle across the room. My dad is yelling at me, and my mom says she always puts it in for 30 seconds. Woops. I told them I did (lie) and I made up some bullshit about the microwave's power level being higher or something. I got away with it! As for my brother, he has minor burns on his tongue. Sorry little bro!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Over-nuked my brother's milk and scalded his tongue. Bullshitted my way out of it. | Over-nuked my brother's milk and scalded his tongue. Bullshitted my way out of it. | 215 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of one year, I can't figure out if we should stay together or not.
POST: So I have no doubt that I love my boyfriend. We've had a really tough first year. Lots of short break ups. I've been dealing with a new anxiety problem and its been tough on both of us.
At one point we broke up long enough that I met someone very interesting, went on a date, had the best sex of my life. I remembered what it felt like to be lusted after or wanted.
Ever since that break I can't decide if I want to be with him or be single. What I love about being single is feeling wanted. I know my bf loves me but he never lusts for me. If I ever have doubts he never fights for our relationship. He tells me he just wants me to be happy, but if he showed some passion towards being with me it would fufil that need to be wanted.
Also our relationship is kind of stagnate. Were both in the same exact situation as last year. I'm worried that he isn't focused enough on becoming successful.
But our relationship provides love, comfort, support, the best friendship I've ever had, openness. These things I know I won't find from dating. And these things are so important for me.
For some reason feeling wanted makes me feel like I'm at my best. I'm the most confident I can be. I feel good. And this need is enough to make me doubt wanting to be in my relationship. I literally cannot decide which is more important to me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My relationship doesn't make me feel wanted. Enough so that I can't decide if we should stay together or go our separate ways. | My relationship doesn't make me feel wanted. Enough so that I can't decide if we should stay together or go our separate ways. | 147 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Who else feels bad for the families who have parents getting brain washed by Amway?
POST: Sorry for venting, but I was tricked into going to a seminar the other night. The guy I met said to meet me at a Subway and after I arrived he told me to get back in my car and follow him to a hotel lobby across the street... yes, I knew something sketchy was up. I didn't know it was about Amway until I wasted 1.5 hours of my time. I have a business background and could have picked apart their business model but wasn't given an opportunity because after the presentation the guy didn't have any Q&A opportunity. The thing that worries me most is that there were 30+ people there that actually believe this stuff and invest so much time and money into this flawed model that I almost feel obligated to do something about it!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Triked into Amway meeting and feel bad for people that loose all time and money getting caught up in the system. | Triked into Amway meeting and feel bad for people that loose all time and money getting caught up in the system. | 6,079 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Question about 'fuck-buddies'..
POST: Hi reddit,
obviously a throwaway, I don't want to have this linked to my normal account.
I know this girl, she lives rather far away and will be coming to visit me in about a month. I would consider her as a fuckbuddy, since that's what we'll be doing.
I'm socially retarded and this is actually the first time I will be having sex for 2 years. She on the other hand is a really beautiful girl and could have a different guy every day (she doesn't). So, of course she also has other guys flirting with her etc. So, yesterday she told me that she's planning a threesome with two other guys. I then told her quite clearly that I don't exactly want these infos, since I still have to wait 4 weeks. Just to clarify, I can't imagine a relationship with her, of course I like her, but she isn't the person for anything serious (neither am I). But isn't it normal that I don't really wanna know who she's fucking?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fuckbuddy tells me about having sex with some other guys, is it normal that I don't really want to hear this stuff? | Fuckbuddy tells me about having sex with some other guys, is it normal that I don't really want to hear this stuff? | 3,370 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/f] Mixing business & pleasure: sleeping with a DJ/producer I'm supposed to be managing
POST: Hi everyone of reddit I need you. 21 female here.
So I'm currently a freelance artist manager, which means I help musicians get their career going so they can focus on creating music.
I've been working with my client for a few weeks now, and it's come to the point where we have so much in common (same music tastes, same interests, pretty much if I was a guy he would be me) so inevitably we've ended up being really really good friends and just recently slept together.
I'm just trying to figure out where I'm supposed to go from here. I want him to do well in his career, since in the end, me doing well is totally contingent of him doing well, which is why I feel like mixing business and pleasure is a bad idea. However, I see it working out. I don't see myself in a relationship anytime soon, and feel like I can keep my emotions away and keep things platonic. As a female, I also feel like I'm battling the constant "oh you gave in too soon, you're being too easy" but really, I WANTED this. Who is anyone to tell me that I'm too easy for doing this on my own will, cause if the situation was reversed no one would be calling the guy "easy".
So what do you guys think about mixing business and pleasure. Is it all just gonna go to shit? Is communication key? Should I just quit while I'm ahead?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | slept with the guy I'm supposed to be working for and need advice on what to do b/c he's a cool person and I see him more as a friend than a client at this point | slept with the guy I'm supposed to be working for and need advice on what to do b/c he's a cool person and I see him more as a friend than a client at this point | 4,527 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25M] with my boyfriend [26M] of 2 years, admitted to kissing someone else and I'm heartbroken.
POST: I'm a 25 year old male and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I've only ever had one other relationship before him and he is my first and only love - I absolutely adore him and would do anything for him.
We went on holiday a month or so ago with our friends and after he had an argument with one of them, he admitted that about a month prior, after a night out with that same friend, he ended up kissing somebody else and didn't stop it - and that he was only telling me because he didn't want for me to hear it from the friend.
I was, and still am, completely devastated. I keep trying to tell myself it was just a kiss but can't help wondering if it was more than that. I'm annoyed at the fact he didn't tell me about it because he wanted to, had it not been for the fact that he and his friend had an argument, I probably still wouldn't know now.
I'm really trying to work through it but at the moment I feel so alone. We are both trying to make it work as the 2 years we have had together have been amazing, but ultimately I feel betrayed.
About a week prior to him telling me, after a few drinks we had a stupid drunken argument and he started to accuse me of wanting to hook up with somebody else - which isn't true, and we ended up having probably the worst argument that we have had to date - yet he was the one who had actually been unfaithful!
Sorry if this post is rambling and seems disjointed, I'm upset by it all today and just wanted to get it all out.
Has anybody else found themselves in a similar situation? What did you end up doing to get through it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend of 2 years and first love admitted to kissing someone else, only told me as he was scared a mutual friend may tell me. Currently struggling with the feeling of betrayal and isolation. | Boyfriend of 2 years and first love admitted to kissing someone else, only told me as he was scared a mutual friend may tell me. Currently struggling with the feeling of betrayal and isolation. | 5,274 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19F] do not get along with my boyfriends friend [22M] he is always interrupting my life
POST: My boyfriend's friend, M, is an asshole. A few months back he basically told me I was a shitty person and I was disturbing him. Of course instead of letting me know he didn't like what I was saying he just stopped stowing up to group dinners that we have every week. He finally comes out and tells me this. The end result of that was I play nice in public and he doesn't disrespect me by calling me names in the middle of dinner
My boyfriend has a twin who had M over. My boyfriend and I were watching a movie and having a romantic night. M just invites himself to sit down during our movie and talk to my boyfriend. After he left the room my boyfriend and I were just talking and M yells down comments to us about our conversation.
FF to today. A mentor of mine invited a few of us to dinner this weekend. He verbally told all he wanted to come. M had a birthday dinner with my boyfriend and their friends and someone probably mentioned that they were going for wings this weekend. He was not invited though we go to wings once a week as our group dinner.
"(restaurant) is a private event. Sorry about that!" <---good idea?
I don't know how to handle myself around this guy. He's 22 and he cannot seem to respect my relationship with my boyfriend or me. I really want to tell him off and let him know he was not invited. If he does end up going I will say something to piss him off because I cannot not keep my mouth shut.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | this guy started a fight with me and since then has been a jerk. He just invited himself to a group dinner which he did not receive an invitation to. Call him out? | this guy started a fight with me and since then has been a jerk. He just invited himself to a group dinner which he did not receive an invitation to. Call him out? | 3,314 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: How should I go about this?
POST: I finished my schooling and have a job but I started out very underpaid. Took this job because it would be a good learning experience and assumed that after my probation period I would be compensated. I asked for my reevaluation and my manager talked me up a lot. Said I'm worth so much more than what I am being paid and possibilities of moving me up in the company later down the road. Now where I work is a very small company and the manager is the son of the owner and the owner is a real cheap person. So they gave me a 1 dollar raise and I still fall into the underpaid aspect of my field. So I applied to some other places and actually have an interview tonight. If an offer is made to me tonight should I go back and see if my current employer will match/ offer more?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | current job gave me a raise still making me underpaid in my field. Have interview tonight do I bring their offer to my current boss? | current job gave me a raise still making me underpaid in my field. Have interview tonight do I bring their offer to my current boss? | 1,348 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26F] with my husband [30M], he's been sexting other women, and I don't know what else. Is my marriage salvageable?
POST: So I've only been married to my husband for 4 months; we dated for 4 years. I've always let him do whatever he wants, even visit strip clubs, as long as he doesn't get intimate with anyone else.
His work usually requires him to travel 50-60% of the time. So he's been gone for the past week, and this weekend, things seemed off with a couple of things he said (like going to bed at 9 pm, but sleeping until 11 am). Today, I ended up logging into our cellphone account and checking his logs. He'd been texting other people until 5 or 6 am.
When we spoke over the phone this morning, I didn't immediately confront him about it; I just told him I was upset with him and he knew what he did. He just played dumb the entire day, even when I finally said I knew he was sexting other people (about an hour ago). I had to say I looked at his fucking logs before he admitted to it.
Apparently, he's done it throughout our entire relationship. It sounds like he's addicted to it. He also said he's never slept with any of the woman, but I can't even believe that since it was so difficult to get him to admit to just sexting (immense shame was his excuse). He said he'd try anything to make it work, even switching to a job that doesn't require travel. If he would have come clean today, I think we could have worked through it, but I'm not so sure anymore.
I feel like I already know what you're all going to say since I lurk on this subreddit a lot, but can my marriage be salvaged or should I just not even try?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband couldn't admit to sexting other women when I gave him a chance to. Don't know if I can ever trust him again. | Husband couldn't admit to sexting other women when I gave him a chance to. Don't know if I can ever trust him again. | 1,490 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by attempting to front flip off a yoga ball
POST: This happened a few days ago but the FU will linger for weeks. I was bored after a very long workday and had a brief lapse in judgement. Something in me decided it would be a good bit of fun to jump up onto the yoga ball in my living room and flip forward onto the couch. What could go wrong?
I get a running start and launch myself up onto the ball. My right leg lands perfectly on the top portion and balances. Unfortunately my left leg was a bit late to the party and the impact shot the yoga ball out from under me. I fly in the air and land on my back, head, and left wrist. I can feel my wrist hurting but most of my focus is on my ringing head. I try to stand and end up lying on the couch until I regain my equilibrium. After a few minutes my head feels fine, but my wrist continues to throb. I throw some ice on it and move my fingers around but there doesn't seem to be any real damage done. When the pain doesn't subside in a few hours I conclude I must have sprained it and resolve to go to the doctor.
Next day I get an xray done and find out I have fractured my radius. I am getting fitted for a cast soon and will most likely be out of work for at least a month. Worst part of it? I'm a lefty.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Tried to do a flip off a yoga ball, fractured my radius, can't work or use my dominant hand for at least a month maybe longer. Don't try this at home kids. | Tried to do a flip off a yoga ball, fractured my radius, can't work or use my dominant hand for at least a month maybe longer. Don't try this at home kids. | 3,744 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Why's everything a trade in this relationship? 27m and 26f
POST: So we've been together for 10 years and over this time I wouldn't say things have gone stale but it feels like nothing is spontaneous any more. For instance, she will never initiate sex which I have voiced to her over the years and I get the same answer. Time goes on and nothing has changed, I've accepted that she just isn't going to (she says she's still sexually attracted and sex is great when it happens). But when it comes to things like doing activities or certain acts she always says "well what do I get?", so much so that it feels like I'm with a prostitute for lack of a better term. As if I'm paying either fiscally or with another act for something I desire. This has led me to initiate less and lose interest occasionally for resenting her statement. I would say I'm not sexually greedy, I will and do please her with all the things she likes whenever possible.
I've also brought this up on occasion and it feels like it falls on deaf ears. I get a blank stare and a "okay". Still nothing changes or occasionally she'll feel bad about it and try to initiate but it feels like a pity act rather than a consensual one.
I am always asking her what she would like to do for activities or even simple things such as where she would like to eat and I always get, "I don't know". And of course once I choose and we order or are at the place she says something along the lines of, "I wish we went to xyz"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my girlfriend of 10 years is turning everything for sexual acts to dinning out into a negotiation, how do I fix it? | my girlfriend of 10 years is turning everything for sexual acts to dinning out into a negotiation, how do I fix it? | 4,702 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (23m) having a hard time moving on from my 3 year relationship, been broken up with her (24f) for 2 months.
POST: I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I had been dating my ex for 3 years. We had a very good relationship but in the end it came down to a difference in religion. I am agnostic she is Christian.
When she broke up with me she said that even though she wanted to marry me and have kids with me that we couldn't because of our different beliefs. But she also said she is still completely on love with me.
Since then we have had some contact still, I've done some begging and trying to convince her to change her mind but that obviously doesn't work. I went NC for about 17 days until I asked her to meet me for a drink.
We went out and had a lot of fun, basically pretended we were still dating. Holding hands, kissing, we ended up having sex and she said that she is still in love with me but we need to be apart for awhile. She kept saying we have a chance at being together again. Just now now.
Then I went NC again for another 14 days until this weekend when I broke it again. The conversation was pretty much the same, that she is still in love with me but is enjoying being alone, and reconnecting with her old friends. And that she needs more time.
I'm doing everything I can to let go and move on but it's so difficult to do when I know that we are both in love with each other. I'm trying to give her the space she is asking for but my mind is so overcome with emotion that I can't go too long without contacting her.
I guess I just don't know what to do. Do I need to completely move on and forget about her? I obviously want to be with her still so I don't know how what to do when she tells me all of these things about us being together again after we "find ourselves"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend broke up with me because of religious differences but continues to tell me she is still in love with me and sees us having a chance together. What do I do moving forward? | girlfriend broke up with me because of religious differences but continues to tell me she is still in love with me and sees us having a chance together. What do I do moving forward? | 3,975 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Cooking
TITLE: My Grandmother and I were discussing salmon. . .
POST: The story goes that back in the early 1990s she decided to cook a whole salmon for a dinner party. She went and got the wild beast, already cleaned, from an excellent fish mongress near her house in NE Ohio. The fish mongress asked if my grandmother was going to prepare it in the DISHWASHER.
My Grandmother, looking very confused said "I've never heard of that!" The woman went on to describe the process:
-Season the fish with a little salt and pepper inside and out.
-Wrap it tightly in two layers of heavy duty foil.
-Place the fish in the top rack of your dishwasher and run it with no other dishes or soap present.
-Serve immediately.
Needless to say, it was the best salmon she and her guests ever had, and I wanted to share it with all of you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My grandma cooked salmon in the dishwasher like the fish mongress said, and it was perfectly done. The recipe is written above. | My grandma cooked salmon in the dishwasher like the fish mongress said, and it was perfectly done. The recipe is written above. | 4,197 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [24M] bother dating or am I not ready?
POST: I'm 24, live with my parents and only make about 28k a year.
I guess I should list positives. I own my car, bought it with cash, have a good amount of money saved up. I started lifting late last year, my numbers are not where I want them to be but I'm still lifting 2-3 times a week.
I'm just worried that I don't make enough money to hold a relationship or have a woman be ok with the amount that I make. I'm not incredibly good looking, pretty short at 5'8, and I only really have 4 or 5 real friends, none of which are women.
Where would I go to meet women? I'm totally open to just meeting women and knowing them to expand my social circle but I do not know where to go to speak with women without seeming creepy/stalkerish.
I honestly don't know if I'm too ugly, too poor or just not interesting enough for a relationship. Not even sure if I've missed the boat and may be too old to start dating.
I'd like to believe I'm single because I haven't really ever tried going on dates or approach women out in the open but I feel like I don't qualify to try and date because of my living situation/income.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Wondering if I should try talking to women or dating but feel like my living situation/income is barring me from trying. | Wondering if I should try talking to women or dating but feel like my living situation/income is barring me from trying. | 4,980 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My brother (M30) wants me (F25) to write a check from my recently deceased Grandmother
POST: update from this:
My grandma passed away today. My brother says he needs about $15,000 to finish paying for this semester (? how that works I have no idea since it is July) and is really laying the guilt on thick -- he can't come to the funeral because he needs to stay and look for a job, he is so worried he won't be able to get a loan by the time this payment is due, etc.
This is much larger than any previous check I'd made at my grandmother's request. I'm feeling very uncomfortable but don't know how or what to say to tell him no, I'm not going to to write a check she never told me to write. Or how to deal with the fall out from my mom and dad, because I feel like they will be upset and not understand why I'm not OK with this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My brother was going to school on my grandmother's dime; now that she has passed away, he wants me to continue to pay out of her account. | My brother was going to school on my grandmother's dime; now that she has passed away, he wants me to continue to pay out of her account. | 692 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Want to win a past flame back, does the "epic declaration of love" speech work in real life?
POST: Set up: I'm sick in love with a girl I dated a few years ago. We never really broke up, I graduated and moved, she began traveling for a few months. It just sort of stopped, with no hard feelings. Now we're in the same city, both unattached, and see each other often, in social settings.
The problem is, I can never seem to get her alone anymore, and don't really feel any interest from her at all. She's always been hard to read, and we never really spoke about how we ended, so my thought is I just need to lay my feelings bare in an "epic declaration of love speech" in one of the few times I can talk one-on-one. But, you know, fear of rejection, fear of ruining one of the few moments we have together, etc. Any stories of these working in real life?
I basically want to say exactly what [Louis CK says to Pamela](
TL;DR: . Assistant: | > in love with ex and think I could have a shot. Is the big "I love you" speech corny or convincing? | > in love with ex and think I could have a shot. Is the big "I love you" speech corny or convincing? | 6,488 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (36F) husband (45M) of 6 years told me he doesn't love me anymore and is moving out and that his daughter (my stepdaughter) is the main reason.
POST: We have had a really stressful summer with our son (5) in and out of the hospital, moving and money issues stemming from his job. Just last week he quit and started another with better pay. And to top it all off his daughter has had some promiscuous behavior we have been dealing with lately as well, and she's only 14. I have a daughter (13) who is just generally a goody goody and never gets in trouble for anything.
He said his daughter is no longer happy here and they went to stay at his sisters for the weekend. Now he says she is staying there indefinitely and that he is back home for one night. He did not contact us all weekend, even though I made several attempts. It really hurts that he didn't even try to contact our son.
He did this once before, 3 years ago. He was fired from a job, we struggled a few months and when he got a new one it required a move 7 hours away. So we were packing and giving our exes the proper notice when he told me he didn't want us to come. We were moving in 2 weeks. I was upset and crying and begging him not to go, but he did, with his daughter. Then a month later, called me and said he made a mistake and he did love me, and we moved too.
Now its like deja vu. I guess he's here to talk to me. I don't want to. I don't want this to be over. I love him. He is a very loving man usually. And I remember 3 years ago he was so cold to me. I don't think I can take it.
I feel like my best bet is to talk him into marriage counseling. But I don't know if he will. I do not have anyone here that I feel close enough to talk to about this and his mom and sister both live here. I feel so alone and scared.
How do I get myself through this again and what do I tell my daughter? What do I tell our son? Will counseling help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My husband of 6 years wants to leave with his daughter, says he doesn't love me anymore. We have a son together and I have a daughter too. He has done this once before. | My husband of 6 years wants to leave with his daughter, says he doesn't love me anymore. We have a son together and I have a daughter too. He has done this once before. | 4,901 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M/18] think my stepmother [F/44] is overstepping her boundaries
POST: For the past couple of years my father [M/52] has been married to my stepmother [F/44] and I [M/18] think she is overstepping boundaries and is taking advantage of my father in many situations.
Now, first of all, she isn't some horrible step mother, but she isn't great either. She doesn't have any kids of her own so she tries to punish me as if I was her kid, which my father allows. This would honestly not be a big deal, if she seemed sane...
She nitpicks at everything I do one week, and then loves me the next. The littlest thing can trigger her, such as what happened tonight.
I ran out of batteries in my remote, so I replaced them with the batteries in my dad's remote, which were in his bedroom. I do this a lot, and then hide the used batteries somewhere obvious so he puts them in and then the remote still doesn't work.
Nothing happened for a while, so I assumed they just replaced the batteries, so I fell asleep. I was awakened to screaming and yelling and slamming of the opening of my door. My stepmother was yelling about how 'going into their room was an invasion of privacy'... I would understand that if the door was locked... Or closed... Or not wide open... Or if I was never allowed to go in there before... But, no. It had never been an issue before. She now told me that she doesn't trust me, and doesn't think she will be able to sleep in the same house as me...
She walked out, still yelling and shouting, and I told my father that I think it is essentially bullshit what she is doing, but all he does is nod and agree with her and say 'I need to stay on the same page as her. That's what a marriage is.'
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I can't stand this anymore, and I think my step mom is being manipulative of everyone around here. My father is letting it happen. She might not be sane. | I can't stand this anymore, and I think my step mom is being manipulative of everyone around here. My father is letting it happen. She might not be sane. | 102 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: When, exactly, should I (35/f) tell my brother (40/m) he needs to get his shit together?
POST: My older brother and I are now pretty close. We didn't used to be, but he moved away (to BigCity, about a 3 hour flight away from our hometown, where I still live) and that absence has made the heart grow fonder. He's overall a good guy, but has trouble finishing stuff he starts. These past few years, he was completing his PhD and is supposed to be wrapping that up this semester.
He's been dating this girl for about 2 or 3 years, who is also, coincidentally from our hometown. Recently, his GF got a transfer for work back to hometown, and Brother is supposedly moving down with her. I say supposedly because, even though brother has been crashing on my couch for two weeks, he hasn't even put an application in on any apartments with GF, hasn't applied to any jobs, hasn't taken steps to complete PhD requirements or move his stuff from BigCity.
Now GF is upset that Brother has made such little progress and is threatening to break up with Brother. I both feel bad for him and am super annoyed. Basically, he sleeps on my couch, borrows my car all day when I'm at work, and goes over to family's house to help them out with childcare and housework, and hang out with Aunts/Uncles he hasn't seen in a few years. I am annoyed he has prioritized doing this over 1. getting all the details of completing his PhD worked out 2. finding a job in this city -- he has no money or savings 3. finding an apartment or housing arrangement.
I'm debating whether I should ask "what is your exit strategy?" now or just wait until after the holidays? My concern is that I think GF is seriously going to break up with him if he doesn't step on it. She's feeling like he is delaying the search because he doesn't take their relationship seriously.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My older brother is indefinitely crashing with me while he "looks" for a job and apartment, should I light a fire under his ass now or wait until after Xmas?? | My older brother is indefinitely crashing with me while he "looks" for a job and apartment, should I light a fire under his ass now or wait until after Xmas?? | 2,735 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Sometimes I feel we should just vent. Reddit, what something particularly bad that's happened recently that you need to vent about?
POST: I'll go first:
I'm making this cause I was broken up with this morning. She was awesome. For a long time, she liked spending time with me, it seemed, but these last few weeks, it's been apparent something was up. It isn't a horrible thing, it's just truly one of those moments where I really truly loved someone and when she said she didn't want to be with me anymore, I said ok. I don't know who else knows this, but if you really do love someone, you'll let them go, and the sadness after isn't so bad, because you'll know you did the right thing. So use that sadness.
Because at least you'll know he/she is happy. She really was a great girl, and we've been together for almost a year and 1/2. The longest I've ever been with somebody. It feels stupid typing this out, simply because I feel bad, but it's therapeutic. My beagle was also killed around 2 months ago, so I'm in a pretty low place. Can anyone else share an experience so I know I'm not the only one having a bad day?
Thanks guys. She showed me Reddit, as well. Yup, a lot of good came from out relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was broken up with today and was wondering about anyone else's bad day. Maybe we can cheer each other up. Funny shit is welcome. | Was broken up with today and was wondering about anyone else's bad day. Maybe we can cheer each other up. Funny shit is welcome. | 6,098 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How long to "date" until you become official? I am [25/m], she's 24.
POST: Hey Reddit, first post. Hope you guys can help.
I've been talking to this girl for roughly two weeks now and we've gone on a handful of dates. If I had to describe the feeling, I'd say it's overwhelming. Overwhelming because I've never clicked/felt this strongly about anyone before and it's scary in a way.
If we're being honest, I feel like she is the one. But that's a conversation for another day.
Anyways, it's obvious we are both very into each other. She has sent me sweet texts saying how much she can't wait to see me again in between dates and we are both very comfortable with each other.
Now, since I like her so much and everything is going so well right now, my biggest fear is messing things up. Obviously I want to be official and have a real relationship with her, but I don't want to "move too fast" or rush things if that makes sense.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I guess my question is, after how long is it appropriate to have the R talk? After how long did you and your signficant other become official? | I guess my question is, after how long is it appropriate to have the R talk? After how long did you and your signficant other become official? | 962 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Boyfriend and the stip club.
POST: So... My boyfriend of a year and half is in Florida for work. Tonight is his last night there and he mentioned that one of his work buddies wanted to take him to the strip club. I feel uneasy with it. And I told him my feelings on it... but he sounded a bit upset. I didn't tell him he couldn't go. Because that isn't how are relationship is. But maybe I should change my feelings toward it?
So my questions are here:
1.) Is going to the strip club on the verge of cheating?
2.) Should I feel uneasy or should I just trust he is going to stare at some butts and stuff..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend away on business, wants to go to strip club. Don't want to be THAT girl who "doesn't let her boyfriend do things." WHAT DO?! | Boyfriend away on business, wants to go to strip club. Don't want to be THAT girl who "doesn't let her boyfriend do things." WHAT DO?! | 5,555 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [22/F] Not physically attracted to him and hate his constant whining.
POST: My boyfriend is a wonderful, caring guy who has supported me through quite a difficult time for me in the past year. We 'officially' got together around March and I have genuinely come to care for him as a person.
Cutting to the chase, I have never particularly found him extremely attractive physically, but I was able to look past the looks and appreciate him as a person. He has since gained some weight over the past few months. He IS trying to lose it, in a kind of half-assed way and I want to me there for him…but not a day goes by without him complaining about how despite his hard work, he is not losing any weight. And frankly, it is extremely aggravating to listen to him whine everyday.
Personally, I have been able to lose about 15kgs (33lbs) a few years back and am still able to keep the weight off and consider myself quite health conscious and knowledgeable about what works and doesn't work. So sometimes I suggest that he eats fewer refined carbs and does more cardio/situps. (His main concern is his belly.) He will refuse to listen and say it doesn't work and how it will only make him fatter because his body doesn't work like that.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | He complains, but he ignores my opinion on it. His weight gain is not only making me more physically unattracted to him, but also his constant complaints are getting on my nerves. | He complains, but he ignores my opinion on it. His weight gain is not only making me more physically unattracted to him, but also his constant complaints are getting on my nerves. | 5,025 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18F] am having difficulty holding friendships and I think it's because I come off as fake?
POST: Alright, well for most of my life I've pretty much been one to only hang out with like 3-4 people at a time since I've never really been one to have too many friends. Well, I just started my first year of college this year as a Freshman and have been trying to change that.
I basically reached out to a bunch of people that I knew who went to my university through a blogging website. We've met up several times, had dinner, but the relationships/friendships never seemed to go anywhere. We would usually have dinner once or twice and then it would end right there.
By end, I mean, they would "unfollow" me from the blogging site, Snapchat, and ignore me. I don't think I ever did anything wrong to begin with. Even my close friends agreed that I was polite to these people and they're not sure why they decided not to keep in touch.
When I step outside and look from a different perspective, though, I can see how I can maybe come off as "fake". Me, personally, am very outspoken about my opinions and I don't usually have too much of a filter. While I'm aware of this, I think whenever I meet new people, I try to repress that side of me and thus, I come off as "fake".
I'm usually over polite, I make too much small talk, and I ask too many questions in an attempt to not show my "true" side since I feel like most people may not like it.
So, I can either be my true self (loud, opinionated, funny, no filter) and lose friends that way or I can be my "nice/fake" self and continue to lose friends like I'm doing now..
What to do?
P.S. Is this normal in college? The making friends part? Does it take a while?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm having difficulty keeping friendships in college with new people because I feel that I come off as "fake" in an attempt to repress my true self. | I'm having difficulty keeping friendships in college with new people because I feel that I come off as "fake" in an attempt to repress my true self. | 679 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, tell me what to do.
POST: Let me first say that I am losing my reddit submission vcard on this. I am currently in a predicament with being in-between jobs and am turning to you guys/gals for advice. For the last couple months I have been strung out by a (going to be unnamed) company. In this time, I've been assured of my qualifications, but been told that my background check is taking a long time (my record is clean, no worries). However, as much as I am assured, I feel like they have been taking their sweet precious. In the mean time I applied for other jobs, and this week one came up with Red Lobster.
I started training with RL on Thursday thinking that I wasn't going to hear from the other employer. Of course they call me the next day saying the background check is almost done, and they would be calling me early next week. Still, no definitive offer/set date of employment.
My question is: should I still stick with RL or go ahead and let them know I'm turing down the job? Honestly, I don't want to waste their time, but also dont want to be left in the situation where I may get strung out again.
I really want the job with the unnamed company because it pays more/better benefits.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Prospective job taking long time, another one comes along that I'm just starting. Prospective job calls back, but not set in stone. | Prospective job taking long time, another one comes along that I'm just starting. Prospective job calls back, but not set in stone. | 3,947 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [22f] ditch this guy [27m], or am I jumping to conclusions too quickly?
POST: We've been dating for about a month or so.
The good about him: he's taken me out to dinner, parties, breakfast, etc. He texts me nearly every day. He seems to communicate well, he's told me that he is looking for a relationship and that he likes me, etc. He told me that he doesn't like to 'hook up' with girls, that he likes to take it 'one at a time.' He said he likes being in relationships.
The bad: the last time we hung out, he seemed disinterested. I felt like I was having to carry the conversation. He didn't actually say much at all during dinner, and we just went home and passed out. One time at a party, I saw him going downstairs with a girl. I followed, and they were hanging out with a bunch of people smoking weed. It got me suspicious. He hasn't mentioned anything about us getting exclusive since we last talked about it awhile back. He seems to party a lot. He doesn't really compliment.
The thing is, I like him, but I don't want to get hurt.
Am I just being over-analytical or is this guy a douche that is just leading me on? Also, how would I tell him that I no longer want to see him? We just hung out the other night, and I acted like everything was fine and dandy. It was when I got home and thought about it that I second guessed this guy.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New guy I'm seeing seems really cool at first, then after a month things start to only be about sex. The other night at dinner he seemed distracted, and I just don't really want to set myself up to get hurt. | New guy I'm seeing seems really cool at first, then after a month things start to only be about sex. The other night at dinner he seemed distracted, and I just don't really want to set myself up to get hurt. | 606 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: [22m] had sex with a person almost a year ago and got hpv. cant get over that fact and my dating life has been non-existent. need insight/advice
POST: hello all. like the title says, i got hpv from a girl that i had been in love with for a long time. she didnt know about it till she went to her doctor and found abnormal cells in her uterus (yes, this is the strain that causes cancer :(
long story short, her and i went our seperate ways i have vowed to be a good person and not pass this on to anyone else. my dating and sex life has been non-existent and i just tried to focus on school/work to keep my mind off. now, im feeling very very depressed and lonely and i dont know how to deal with this situation.
i have a prospect i really like. i just cant seem to get over this hurdle and let my feelings show in fear that i will hurt her. has anyone else dealt with this before? i could really use some advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | got the cancerous strain of hpv a year ago. no sex life. interested in this girl. dont want to hurt her. what do? | got the cancerous strain of hpv a year ago. no sex life. interested in this girl. dont want to hurt her. what do? | 810 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19 M] find a girl [18 F] at my workplace cute. She's leaving the job, what do i do?
POST: My background: 0 relationship experience. Never hugged or kissed another girl before.
So i just started work a week ago(part time retail), and i met this really cute girl 3 days ago [18 F]. She have been working for a couple months already and is going to leave in a week time. That leaves me with only a week left to see/talk to her. But because we work at different shifts, i can say that the most i get to see her for, is another 3 days.
At my first day of work she totally didnt want to communicate with me at all. Our superior tried to introduce me to her and her to me. I gladly smiled at her but.. she didnt even bother to look at me or say hi. I thought i left a bad impression of myself, on her. But on my 2nd day of work, she suddenly initiated a conversation with me and we started chatted throughout work and it was really nice because i get to know her abit more. She seems happy to chat with me BUT she also chats happily with one of our male colleagues.
I don't know what to do since she is leaving in a week, i really want to stay in touch with her as her friend, and continue from there, but how? I've already got her number (over here we share all our colleague's numbers.)
Because i have no experience, i dont know the DOs/DONTs.
Can i tell her that she's really cute?
Should i ask her out for a meal?
Can i ask her how she feels about me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I met a girl at work, she is leaving soon, i want to stay in touch with her without being a creep because i only met her a couple days ago. | I met a girl at work, she is leaving soon, i want to stay in touch with her without being a creep because i only met her a couple days ago. | 3,849 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I need your euphemisms for sex. Well, more like not-quite-sex...
POST: Reddit, have you ever felt your vocabulary lacking when you need to refer to sexual activity with your girlfriend/boyfriend? I know I have. For whatever reasons, you and I might not be having outright *intercourse* yet, but there's definitely stuff going down, and we need to have better names than "stuff". Because- I don't know about you- but terms like "oral sex" or "mutual manual stimulation of genitalia" feel pretty clinical, and hearing something like "Hey dude, you wanna feel my tits, kiss my nipples, and maybe even rub my clit semi-effectively for half an hour tonight?" would just sound crass.
SO: we need words and phrases to fill that gap. They can be juvenile, they can be cute, they can even be hilarious to the point of not being unusable (in fact, I expect Reddit to do nothing less than spend most of its time on this third category). I'll offer an initial few:
* fooling around
* canoodlin'
* WOOHOO-ING
TL;DR: . Assistant: | sexual intercourse : "making love"/"fucking"/"phallic spelunking"/etc :: the other three bases : ??? | sexual intercourse : "making love"/"fucking"/"phallic spelunking"/etc :: the other three bases : ??? | 4,640 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Why are you so fat? A question.
POST: Hi Reddit! First...thanks for giving me a great place to learn about weight loss and watching your transformations gives me hope.
I am a teaching assistant at a preschool for special needs students in an integrated classroom (I have typical and special needs students in one class). I have recently been placed in a new classroom. Now, I know I'm fat...this isn't a revelation but something happened to me today that I can't figure out how to deal with. A few of the students mentioned my weight and said things such as "why is your belly so big?" or "You are funny looking and fat". I can deal with this if it was someone driving by me in a car or on the internet, but these are kids I am teaching and working with everyday. I didn't know what to say because I was so embarrassed and was so happy none of the other staff members heard these comments. I guess my question is....how do you deal with this? I am mortified and almost want to quit just so I don't have to face these children again! I tried to explain to the one child that what he was saying hurt my feelings and that he made me sad, but he just thought it was funny.
So...what is some advice for dealing with this? My weight loss journey is slow and it will be years before this "big belly" is gone!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Special needs and typical students called me fat today, not sure how to deal with the situation and I'm mortified for it to happen again in front of other staff members. | Special needs and typical students called me fat today, not sure how to deal with the situation and I'm mortified for it to happen again in front of other staff members. | 3,948 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Above minimum wage Jobs that require no degree?
POST: I'm in debt due to student loans (yay) and I'd like to go back to school for something I'd actually enjoy pursing a career in. But since my 18 year dumb ass thought graphic design was a great idea in 2008, I'm stuck with a worthless associates degree in graphic design from the art institutes.
Ideally I'd want to be a piercer, taxidermist, working with animals in some aspect, dead people/dead animals, or something that requires an artistic touch. But I have no connections to help me with an apprenticeship for piercing so that's out, I can't go back to school due to debt, and my town is very small and the only jobs I've found that are artistic in any way are screen printing jobs but they only pay minimum wage and are on the opposite side of town.
I guess the
TL;DR: . Assistant: | version is: Is there any way I can obtain a job in any of the above mentioned career paths without having to go back to school because getting any sort of school loan is not possible for me. | version is: Is there any way I can obtain a job in any of the above mentioned career paths without having to go back to school because getting any sort of school loan is not possible for me. | 2,211 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can I find someone's address from the mid 50's?
POST: Hey Reddit,
My grandfather recently passed away in June, leaving my dad with access to a lot of his old papers from the Marines. My dad has been going through a lot of old family pictures and those documents, trying to place where his family lived at different times (it was quite a few being a military brat). I started dating a guy from near South Bend, Indiana which is consequently where my dad was born in 1954. When looking for the address where he lived there, it seems to be the only one missing from all the documents. He knows it was in the area surrounding Notre Dame, but hasn't had much luck finding an address.
Basically, I wanted to know if anyone else out there has found any resources for locating OLD addresses that people lived at, or where might be a good place to start. I'm thinking of maybe contacting any schools he attended or seeing if I can get access to census data.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dad was born in South Bend, IN in 1954. We can't find any addresses that his family lived at there. Where can I look? | Dad was born in South Bend, IN in 1954. We can't find any addresses that his family lived at there. Where can I look? | 3,790 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with my SO[26M] of over a year, am I unreasonable to be annoyed with his phone policy?
POST: Ugh I feel ridiculous for posting about this, but after what feels like the millionth blow up about this, I need outside perspectives.
My partner of a year and I are both on our phones a lot. I try to cut back when we're together, but I'm fine with us both sitting on the couch or in separate rooms browsing through the interwebs silently. My problem is I put my phone down when he begins talking to me, because to me that becomes more important.
He does not feel the same. My partner is involved in a lot of online discussions surrounding his hobby, as well as general tumblring or Facebook scrolling. This is fine with me, but when I try talking to him or tell him a story, he literally refuses to look up from his screen. I never attempt to get his attention if he's texting or on a call, but if he's just commenting on a thread I don't really see the issue. When he ignores me while I'm speaking for random people on the interest who aren't even waiting for his reply, I feel hurt and unimportant. The way I see it is, the thread will *always* be there, but my excitement in sharing something with him will not, or the moment will pass.
I've tried to tell him this, and he basically feels that it's selfish and childish of me to expect him to put his phone down "just because I feel like talking". I've asked him explicitly how he wants me to act when I want to talk when he's on the phone, and his response was that I should ask to talk to him, knowing he may say "no". Apparently 90% of the time he'll say yes, but that I can't expect to be prioritised over online commenting.
To me this feels weirdly clinical and cold. It ruins the spontaneity of engaging and connecting with my SO in a conversation. Having to ask permission just feels like I'm in school.
I would stress that I am an independent woman who does not need or want my partners attention to be constantly on me. I'm a big fan of my own space, but this just feels hurtful.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend thinks he shouldn't need to look up from his phone when I'm trying to talk to him. I think I deserve some goddamn eye contact. | Boyfriend thinks he shouldn't need to look up from his phone when I'm trying to talk to him. I think I deserve some goddamn eye contact. | 5,891 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Looking for advice on starting my career
POST: Hey reddit, I am a 22 year old male who just moved out for the first time down to North Carolina from Illinios. I have little to no college experience, basically a semester shy of an associates.
The first job I landed down here was with a major car rental company, (the yellow one) as a "manager trainee" making roughly 28k a year (32 with overtime). My background previous to this was working as a shift manager at a health club back in Illinois as well as a number of smaller customer service/sales positions in retail.
So far I enjoy my job but it seems to have a very high turnover rate due to the "turn and burn" nature of the position, however this also does provide decent room for advancement.
My ultimate goal is to land a more business to business sales positionnwith better job security than my current position, the only drawbacks being my lack of college degree and "professional" experience. I feel as if I can stick it out at this company for a year so and land a promotion or two, I can use it to springboard to a more stable position in a more corporate environment, perhaps with a materials distributor (electrical, shipping/recieving, even HR? etc)
My question for you all is should I follow this plan? or move back home with my parents when my year lease is up and finish my degree? So far I'm doing well with this company but I worry if I have a couple bad months or two and am let go, (a theme I've already witnessed with a couple coworkers) it would look horrible on a resume, and only serve to put me in a worse position.
Sorry for the wall of text, I just didn't know if anyone has been in a similar position, and could offer some advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have no degree, but the possibility of gaining experience to counter that in a very competitive sales position. Stick it out? Or throw in the towel and move back home for college. | I have no degree, but the possibility of gaining experience to counter that in a very competitive sales position. Stick it out? Or throw in the towel and move back home for college. | 817 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [35f] ex [34m] is physically abusing his girlfriend [30somethingF]. Should I talk to her?
POST: My ex and I were together for six years, which culminated with him holding a gun to my head threatening to murder me while he was under the influence of a drug (MXE). He has a lot of mental health problems and the drug abuse certainly does not help.
Since the end of our relationship three+ years ago, he's been in a relationship with one woman and told me that he had gotten clean, which I've since learned is a lie. We have very little contact. Last weekend a mutual friend was with the ex and his gf and he was intoxicated and choked his gf in front of other people. The gf said it's happened a number of times. The next morning when everyone was sober, the gf tried to brush it off and act like everything was fine. She lives with him with her two young children. He still has guns. I'm absolutely terrified for her.
On one hand, it isn't any of my business. My life changed substantially for the better after getting out of the relationship with my ex and I don't want to involve myself in any drama. I dropped him and everyone associated with him (other than this one mutual friend) back then because of how messed up I was after the gun incident. On the other, I feel like I should tell her about what happened to me so that she knows exactly who she's dealing with (although she may already know). His behavior is clearly escalating, he has guns, and he's still abusing this drug. My current boyfriend, whose opinion I value immensely, says that I should leave it be, but he is obviously biased.
I can't look at this situation objectively. What, if anything, should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex is abusing his current gf and I want to warn her about him holding a gun to my head and threatening to murder me. | Ex is abusing his current gf and I want to warn her about him holding a gun to my head and threatening to murder me. | 216 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29M] think my GF [30F] still seems attached to her EX-BF or am I reading into it too much?
POST: I have recently begun to suspect my girlfriend still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend. I went into the relationship with the understanding that they were friends before they had a relationship so when things didn't work out with the relationship, they decided to continue to be friends. I was okay with it all in the beginning but now it seems like they talk all the time on FB and I've noticed that ever post my GF likes, he ends up liking very shortly after. It might not be anything and it may be just some insecurities of my own but I just thought I'd get the opinion of others before doing anything I'll regret. She assures me that he is just a friend when I ask her about it but I can't understand why they seem more connected now - especially considering we had been discussing marriage in the future.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My GF still seems attached to her BF. She says he is just a friend and they still talk and every FB post she likes, he does too. Overthinking? | My GF still seems attached to her BF. She says he is just a friend and they still talk and every FB post she likes, he does too. Overthinking? | 1,959 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My grandmother is in a nursing home suffering from advanced dementia. She had her wedding ring from the 1940's stolen from her today. Reddit, who is the lowest of your low?
POST: My grandmother suffered through the depression, and her entire life never borrowing so much as a dime from anyone. She built her life from the bottom up. She eventually became a published author as the housewife of a social security employee in a time when women were not expected to break the post-war stereotypes. Her husband of 50+ years died in 1996. The last few years she suffered crushing illness and was placed in a nursing home by her daughters. Today I found out her wedding ring was stolen off her finger. She is immobile and pitiful. I can't decide whether I am more angry or depressed that someone would stoop so low as to steal the wedding ring off of a defenseless crippled old lady with no possessions of value in her life.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mad, crippled old grandmother had her only worldy possession stolen from her. I would like to hear some stories of the most pathetic evils you have endured, or been witness to. | My mad, crippled old grandmother had her only worldy possession stolen from her. I would like to hear some stories of the most pathetic evils you have endured, or been witness to. | 5,062 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What do you think would happen if, overnight, your country adopted a transparent "democracy without secrets" ? How would your general public react?
POST: Just watched the video and read comments from this thread over in /technology. [link] I'd advise doing the same if you're interested in the subject at all.
I think 0. sounds like a very interesting idea, and if commensurate laws were in place, I could imagine it being at least *theoretically* possible in a lot of countries (setting aside the likelihood that it would ever be adopted).**What do you think the net effect would be if this sort of thing opened up in your country, Reddit?**
As someone living in the US, I'm wondering particularly about the quagmire that might be created by releasing these documents without much context or spin, to a general public that may not be able to easily make sense of it (but seems to have no compunctions about retweeting misinterpretations and out of context snippets). At the same time, while I understand how governmental context and press releases are often just euphemisms for bullshitting, there are certainly situations where I can imagine some information might dispel otherwise benign misperceptions - and yet I can't fathom how the government could function if they had to contend with contextualizing this information as fast as it was being released.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | if your gov't was compelled to release all public (non-secret) docs in an easy-to-access way to all its people, what would happen? | if your gov't was compelled to release all public (non-secret) docs in an easy-to-access way to all its people, what would happen? | 5,395 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dropping everything and leaving my life behind tonight, any suggestions?
POST: I'm packing up my shit and leaving tonight. I'm a 20 year old male who's been dicked around by just about everyone in his life ("omg 20 years old get over it"), and is sick of it. I'm not stupid, I realize this is a bad idea, but I really have nothing left. My parents have been promising to sign school loans for three years and have yet to fulfill that promise (which is fine, I don't care anymore). I have been living with my grandparents house and sharing a car with them for about a year now, which is making me feel worse, because who wants to share a car with their grandparents? I was going to move in with my girlfriend in a week and start a new job in the city, but she changed her mind and said she "wasn't ready for us to move in together" after knowing each other for 10+ years, so I decided breaking it off with her would be for the best. I'm not doing this as some pretentious, angst-driven statement against my parents or anyone else, I just want some different for myself, and this isn't cutting it for me. Anyway, my question is, any tips for someone who's about to take off with $200 in their pocket and a duffel bag full of clothes? Have any redditors ever done something like this before?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | $200 to my name, bag full of everything I own, making my own way with no one else. Tell me what to do. | $200 to my name, bag full of everything I own, making my own way with no one else. Tell me what to do. | 962 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 2 years, he won't brush his teeth
POST: I began dating my boyfriend in high school, but I didn't realize he has a dental hygiene problem until I started spending more nights with him in college. Every night I observe him eating dinner or even worse, a bag of candy, and climbing straight into bed. Then, in the morning, he gets up and goes straight to class without even going into the bathroom. I feel like this is such a dumb thing to take issue with, but it seriously disgusts me and is getting in the way of my desire to kiss him.
I've discussed this with him multiple times, and I hate doing it every time because I would not enjoy someone telling me my breath stinks. I'll gently tell him that he needs to go brush his teeth before we get intimate if he hasn't that morning or the night before. Then he grumbles, "Fine, I'll brush my teeth *twice* a day, *every* day," mocking me. But I got sick of reminding him twice a day every day so I cut back, and he's back to his old habits. He doesn't always sleep over, so for all I know he never brushes his teeth at all.
Occasionally, I'll ask him, hey are you still brushing your teeth every day? And he'll either stay silent or say "yes" defensively, which makes me feel like he's lying to me. Not to mention the fact that I feel deceived the whole time I dated him in high school. I've told him I feel like his lack of hygiene is disrespectful to me. All that results in is him agreeing to change his habits in an annoyed tone and then not changing anything.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend won't brush his teeth despite constant reminders. How do I get him to see this is a significant issue? | Boyfriend won't brush his teeth despite constant reminders. How do I get him to see this is a significant issue? | 2,888 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: friend zone: not sure if the girl i like has attraction to me
POST: His,
I have known that girl for over 3 years and it's only a year ago that I understood that I am very attracted to her, more than just a friend. In the meantime she has gotten a boyfriend and i really don't know how to act now.
What worsens things is that I am pretty shy and nerdy, and since more reactive than initiative. She is the type of girl though who expects initiative in a relationship.
I told her about my feelings and we have never touched this theme since. The furtherst we've gone physically is holding each other's hands and hugging but I am not sure if it's more a courtesy of friendship. She did mention that she is not that much satisfied with her current relationship, though she tries avoiding exclusive hang-outs with me inviting others because "it's more fun".
I am not sure what would be the best way to go now. Most of all I want to know if she has some deeper feelings to me. The reason is that I would hate ruining our friendship by pushing too far. But how could I find it out, revealing it in a conversation is not an option since it would be too selfish and I guess she is equally unsure about my intentions. And I think that staying by friends and seeing what happens I will just be locked in the friend zone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i have feelings for my friend who has a boyfriend. how to find out her feelings towards me without ruining our friendship? | i have feelings for my friend who has a boyfriend. how to find out her feelings towards me without ruining our friendship? | 66 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by shaving my armpits
POST: So, I saw a post somewhere on reddit, or a comment, whatever, about a guy who shaved his armpits because he didn't like dealing with the hair. I thought "what a great idea, it's time for a trim anyway."
So, I grabbed my electric razor I haven't used in a while, flipped open the trimmer, and away I went.
This worked fine, and did a much better job than I could do with scissors. But I wanted to see if I could get it even shorter, so I closed the trimmer and started using the three headed shaver.
This was a mistake.
I forgot I had skin tags under my right armpit, and how sensitive one's armpits can be, considering I've been a pretty hairy fellow all my life.
Now I'm trying to type this on my phone while holding my arms up and blowing on the now-in- pain skin. Also there are multiple spots under the right armpit that are now bleeding.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | if you're a man, don't shave your armpits, trim them instead. Or wax them if that's your thing. | if you're a man, don't shave your armpits, trim them instead. Or wax them if that's your thing. | 5,134 |
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