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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I drunkenly made out with a girl, and now she wants to go on a date - how do i decline politely?
POST: A week ago, I was at a giant(think >100,000 people) festival, and I was drunk. I met a chick, who actually didn't seem very in to me, but I was kinda horny, and proceeded to make out with her - bear in mind we are both drunk at this point.
At some point we are separated, and I didn't think much about it until today, where she out of the blue messages me on facebook. I have no idea how she got my info, i gave her only my first name, but whatever - I've facebook-stalked people before, too.
In her message, she basically says that she is really embarassed that she's doing this, but i've been stuck in her head since we met, and she really wants to see me again. She is very apologetic, and her message sounds kinda insecure.
The thing is.. I don't really want a date with this girl. Two days after we kissed, I met a super awesome chick, that I could see leading somewhere. And besides that, she's not really my type. I think it is really awesome that she worked up the courage to message me, and I really want to leave her with something more than "Sorry I don't want to see you, have a nice life".
So Reddit - how do i decline her, without her feeling like an ass for messaging me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Kissed a girl, she sounds insecure when she messages me, how do I decline without her feeling like a fool. | Kissed a girl, she sounds insecure when she messages me, how do I decline without her feeling like a fool. | 3,772 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is it weird that I'm reclusive? Mebbe people wanna drop some insight/knowledge.
POST: I'm 24 years old, 100% independent, decent looking, and get along with people just fine. However, I find myself being a total recluse. I feel like a dick because I don't really hang out with friends anymore and I feel kinna like I'm wasting my life, but I can't really break out of it. When it comes down to it, unless someone is really adamant about hanging out, I'll just stay in. The only exception is my gf who has been away for 2 years but she's moving back soon :]. I kinna wanna figure this out before she moves back if possible though.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm a 24 year old male who lives by himself and gets along well with people but for some reason doesn't hang out with friends much anymore. | I'm a 24 year old male who lives by himself and gets along well with people but for some reason doesn't hang out with friends much anymore. | 6,185 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my love interest [21 F]. I'm so confused as to what's going on!
POST: Alright reddit So I met this girl at work, right? Gorgeous, smart, great sense of humor, the works. I strike up conversation with her and flirt with her, tease her, etc. and she's responding really well. I get her number that day. In the past week we've been texting a lot and she has had shifts at the same time as me and I've been training her in my department as she's new to it. We have the same taste in music, we both like the same kind of videogames and play them often, we both love anime, and as far as I can tell she doesn't have any faults that I personally would consider to be a deal breaker. I'm going on a date with this girl later today.
I guess I don't have a question really but I have this really bad feeling in my gut since the whole dating thing has literally never once gone this well for me. I usually have to bust my ass to get the girl to think of me as anything more than a friend much less agree to go out with me. But with her, it's so easy it just feels natural. It's not complicated, I'm not having to win her trust over a long period of time, we both like the same things and have compatible personalities (which, granted, could simply be a result of our shared interest in anime and videogames), she's not playing hard to get, I mean this is just going TOO well. My roommate with whom I have been friends since elementary school even mentioned this. I don't know if I'm just jaded from all the shitty experiences I've had with women or maybe if I'm simply reading too much into it. Basically this whole thing is just going really really well for me and I'm a little freaked out by that. I don't want to slow down or anything, but still. What do you guys think? Am I reading too much into it? Do you think maybe I just lucked out and met a girl who doesn't want to suck my soul from my bones and just wants to have a nice normal relationship?? Or do you think my gut may be trying to tell me something? I'm already catching the feels for this girl pretty hard.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Basically my romantic pursuit of this girl is going extraordinarily well and it's scaring me a bit. Should I just relax? | Basically my romantic pursuit of this girl is going extraordinarily well and it's scaring me a bit. Should I just relax? | 5,916 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What do you programmers / engineers think of your project managers?
POST: Hey all,
I wanted to start a legitimate conversation about how coders view project managers and why they have those views. I am coming to the end of my senior year and I begin grad school in August where my focus will be in project management within the information technology realm.
I myself have some background in coding (Java, Javascript, C, C#, VB .NET, some HTML / ASP .NET, SQL / MySQL) but not enough interest, drive, or skill to go out and do what you all do. I feel I have always been more of a people driven worker, and my passion for technology has helped me to decide to stay involved with it; this is why I landed in the world of Project Management. However, it disturbs me to see how many members of project teams despise their managers.
I am asking you all this because I am finally able to start putting work in to really accelerate my learning in this sector, and one of the things I strongly believe in is getting information from the source. So I'm ask you all now;
What do you think of your P.M.'s? Why do you think it? What would you suggest to make them better?
I'm doing this so when my time comes, I can be the best manager possible, so please no flaming.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Going into project management. Want to know what software devs. think of their PMs, why, and what they suggest to improve; this will in turn help me be a better PM later in life. | Going into project management. Want to know what software devs. think of their PMs, why, and what they suggest to improve; this will in turn help me be a better PM later in life. | 224 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by falling for a sex joke at a burger joint. Somewhat NSFW
POST: So, me and my buddies are walking around town looking for some dinner. We see a nice looking burger joint across the street and decide we want some of that greasy meat. Looking over the menu, I see a burger called The Juicy Lucy; a half pound of 100% beef stuffed with american cheese. I couldn't find any reason why that wouldn't be anything but fucking delicious, so I spend 7 bucks and get myself a Juicy Lucy. The guy at the register tells me it takes a little longer, which was totally fine. As I'm waiting, my friends get their burgers and another guy asks me what I ordered, noticing that my friends were eating and I wasn't. I told him I got a Juicy Lucy, he smiled and said, "Oh, well that takes longer." Right, got it. So finally Lucy comes out and she looks absolutely scrumptious, dripping with grease and bulbous as all hell. I look at this monster and think, 'Wow, thats a lot of cheese and meat in there'. This is where I went wrong, see it wasn't just cheese and meat in there. I raise the burger to my mouth, and as I bite into it the punchline to the greatest pussy joke ever is revealed. Turns out Lucy is a squirter, because as soon as my teeth sunk into the patty, grease exploded out of the burger with ferocious velocity. At least an ounce or two of pure beef grease squirts directly into my eyes, all over my face, onto the table. Not only am I covered in grease but I just spent $8 on this shit. I sit there contemplating life and it hits me. Juicy Lucy takes a little longer to warm up, but when you give it a nibble there's a surprise for you, and it isn't just american cheese.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | The Juicy Lucy is a burger/pussy joke combo that squirts in your face when you take a bite. | The Juicy Lucy is a burger/pussy joke combo that squirts in your face when you take a bite. | 3,269 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Can I enforce my wish to not have my daughter's picture shared on social media??
POST: Please forgive formatting, on mobile and all that jazz.
I adopted my daughter when she was 2. Her bio mom abandoned her and has not made contact in the last 11 years.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Someone is posting pictures of my daughter to social media against my wishes. Can I force them to take them down? What is my best course of action?? | Someone is posting pictures of my daughter to social media against my wishes. Can I force them to take them down? What is my best course of action?? | 3,462 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Do you find yourself Attractive? scale 1-10 (no pic proof) follow up question inside
POST: do you find yourself physically attractive but feel you will be seen as vain or conceited to even privately acknowledge it. Without showing proof, bc really who wants a beauty contest, were do you honestly without fear of other's opinion, think you rank.
I ask bc my husband has been telling me for years he thinks I'm very attractive and co-workers/friends "always" ask how he got someone out of his league. While I think most of this is inflated, I have recently gotten quite a few compliments of new style changes, and I'm left wondering what's so wrong with feeling attractive?! Are we so insecure as a society that we can't just let someone else feel attractive, or is it a perceived fear that other's think less of you when in reality no one gives a damn what you think of yourself.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Do you find yourself attract? 1-10 (no proof pic please) Do you feel other's look badly on people who admit they find themselves to be attract or its all in our heads that other's are judging? | Do you find yourself attract? 1-10 (no proof pic please) Do you feel other's look badly on people who admit they find themselves to be attract or its all in our heads that other's are judging? | 762 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 4 months post breakup with ex GF (18F) of 4 years. Having mixed feelings.
POST: You can look back on my other posts for the rest of the story. Long story short, she broke up with me (19M) out of no where. I guess she wanted other things; not sure. Since then, she's gained a whole bunch of weight and seems to have developed anxiety and insecurity issues. I used the breakup as motivation and I am closing in on 40 pounds weight loss (started at 220 beginning of summer, now at 186). I also have talked to other girls and I'm talking to a girl that I really like right now. She is prettier, more animated, and we have a lot more in common. I am totally winning right now, but I'm still feeling lingering effects from the last relationship and it's getting annoying. Anyone have good advice on how to kick these negative feelings once and for all? I think I need a good, physical relationship with someone, if you know what I mean. Its tough being 19 and going without that for months at a time. What do you guys think? Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ex gf broke up with me. I've almost completely moved on but I need advice on how to completely detach. I think a physical relationship is needed... | ex gf broke up with me. I've almost completely moved on but I need advice on how to completely detach. I think a physical relationship is needed... | 2,805 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Roommate tensions have grown violent. (US. Michigan)
POST: The conflict between three of us in the house and our craigslist roommate resulted in a police call Monday night.
Our roommate (now referred to as Craig) has been shirking every responsibility in taking care of our house. Craig himself is a weird guy, mumbles to himself, isolates himself in his room, occasionally records our female roommate with his phone, and refuses to do anything involving cleaning or house work.
We've tried to settle things peacefully and buy him out of the lease, but every time he says "I don't think that would be the best choice for me." He occasionally mentions that if he moves out, we would "fail to learn our lesson".
On Monday night, I approached him about his failure to do any chores in the house, and after some shouting back and forth he pushed me in the chest with a detergent bottle he was holding, we tussled and both I and the female roommate told him to back off. I grabbed a knife off the counter and told him to leave us alone, threatening to hurt him if he didn't go into his room.
He called the police. After speaking with them (apparently he told them I had started everything and had attempted to swing at him with the knife) and clarifying with the help of the female roommate, they decided to diffuse the situation by escorting Craig out of the house and having him sleep somewhere else that night.
I haven't received the police report yet, but I was wondering if there was anything I could do to get him out of the house? At this point we are worried he'll snap and try to hurt us. The Landlord has made it clear that she doesn't want to be involved, but I am trying to convince her that if she doesn't, we will be in danger.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Roommate scares the snot out of the rest of us, police report filed, Landlord doesn't want to do anything. What do I do? | Roommate scares the snot out of the rest of us, police report filed, Landlord doesn't want to do anything. What do I do? | 3,647 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [20/f] nervous to open up to the guy [21/m] I've been dating about my sexual assault
POST: I was sexually assaulted twice, and it's kind of fucked up me big time. The last time was just recently, about a month ago.
I want to tell the guy I've been seeing about it, (we've been together for a little less than a month) because sometimes I get really down really randomly about it, and some nights I just cry, and I want him to know and maybe be there for me.
The only problem is I haven't told many people about it, and I don't know how, and I definitely don't want the pity and awkwardness that comes with telling people.
How do I even begin to approach this with him?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm ready to tell the boy I've been seeing about my assaults, but I'm conflicted about how to bring it up | I'm ready to tell the boy I've been seeing about my assaults, but I'm conflicted about how to bring it up | 3,755 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Family] My [26f] cousin [21f] has accused me of hitting on her bf [21m].
POST: This is a throw away, I'm on mobile and all these names are fake.
I don't even know where to begin because I was caught so off guard by this and have no idea how long it has been going on for.
I have been in the army for 6 years, only going home twice a year and seeing my extended family for Christmas. There has been some family drama before, (brother is a drug addict and father is mentally ill), but nothing that has ever involved extended family.
My cousin Kim [21f] and I had been very close growing up. Close enough that I'd even considered her a sister. While she was in high school she met Dave [21m]. They have been joined at the hip ever since.
Because I only come home twice a year, I've really only met Dave a handful of times, but he comes to all my family's functions. So I have always treated him like family. I have been over this 1000 times and I still have no idea where these accusations are coming from but apparently Kim was extremely upset.
•I have only met Dave at family functions
•I have always been polite
•I have never been alone with Dave, ever.
•I have not been single during any of the times I had been home
•I have never talked to Dave outside of family functions, or with out other family members present
This has become a major issue. Now that I have moved back to my home state, I'd like to start going to more family functions. I have reached out to all of my extended family with out response and now I feel unwelcomed, and uninvited. I haven't been able to attend Thanksgiving in years and now I don't think I should. I feel rejected from my own family. If I really had done something to hurt someone I wish they would have just been honest and confronted me. I'd never do anything inappropriate or hurtful intentionally. Especially because I love Kim. She's amazing.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My cousin accused me of making a pass at her bf, it has caused my family to isolate me after years of military service. How can I fix this if I can't get a response from anyone? | My cousin accused me of making a pass at her bf, it has caused my family to isolate me after years of military service. How can I fix this if I can't get a response from anyone? | 1,041 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: One cat seems to no longer recognize the other one
POST: I have two female cats that live inside the house and never go outside. Yesterday night one of them allegedly flew through a window, and we noticed it few minutes/hours later.
I found her wandering in the garden, all wet and dirty. I guess she fell to the pool, as we have a dog outside and maybe scared her and ran away.
The thing is, once inside home again, the other cat (btw they are sisters and been always together) seems to no longer recognize her, and starts doing a sound like growling after smelling her.
It could be just because she still smells different and it will pass or could be something else?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | One cat flew home at night and (maybe) fell to the pool. The other one now growls at her. | One cat flew home at night and (maybe) fell to the pool. The other one now growls at her. | 2,406 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I was the one [M,20] who broke it off with my boyfriend [M,21] of a year. I'm completely heartbroken, and need help with perspective.
POST: So long story short I dated him for a year. We had so many wonderful wonderful times, the give and take was wonderful, there was unbreakable trust, we could be who we were almost always around each other. He fell in love with me...I didn't.
I love him and everything was perfect on paper, so I stayed thinking that things would fall in to place. A year later, with a few other realizations along the way (We're on two completely different planes regarding our emotional lives and how we see the world, it we don't have a mental connection beyond loving being with one another, etc.) I still wasn't able to fall in love with him.
I realized that I didn't think that he was the one after much denial and self-blame, and three days ago broke up with him. He was blindsided (again, we don't understand each other) and didn't understand my reasons. It was cordial, but both of our hearts are broken.
I'm having a horrible time getting out of bed and going about my daily business. I'm writing this from bed now having skipped my first class, my manager had to help me leave work out the back early last night because I broke down during my break and couldn't stop...
I feel like somewhere in my mind I know it was the right decision, but right now I can't think of anything beyond our good times and how much I miss him and just want to talk, hold, and be with him again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I initiated the break up. I emotionally regret it, but feel like it was for the best. My emotions however are wayyy overcrowding that notion and I can't function. I'm a mess. | I initiated the break up. I emotionally regret it, but feel like it was for the best. My emotions however are wayyy overcrowding that notion and I can't function. I'm a mess. | 5,672 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I really need help with my depressed mother (18 F and 47 f)
POST: So a little backstory on my mother. She is a cancer survivor, she lost her father to cancer in her 20s, and we lost my dad to a car crash when I was young. She is not happy in her current marriage and can't seem to leave it. She has been out of the job market forever due to depression, cancer, and raising me, and she is having trouble finding work now. To make it all worse, she and I have a really hard time getting along. She has seen counselors on and off but they usually fall out. She once had a great counselor but she was forced to move to a different city. Her husband is a good-hearted person, but he loses jobs and moves CONSTANTLY. She is dependent on him and definitely not happy.
I am living with her until my job goes full time in couple of months; then I will move out. Me living there seems to be really hard on her. I'm 18. Whenever I have a bad day she cannot deal, tells me my problems are hard on her, which makes me angry and resentful. She is angry at me all the time, which is understandable, I'm not perfect, but it's frustrating and hurtful to me too.
I'm not sure what to do for my mother. I try to encourage her but she seems convinced that things will never get better and that she is trapped in her current marriage with no job prospects.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to help my severely depressed cancer-surviver mother and salvage our relationship. She is angry at me constantly. What can I do? | I want to help my severely depressed cancer-surviver mother and salvage our relationship. She is angry at me constantly. What can I do? | 1,438 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (27M) and my ex-girlfriend (23F) broke up and I'm confused and not sure what to do about 4 year relationship/7 year friendship ending
POST: We had a really great relationship for years, were best friends, and planned to spend the rest of our lives together, but then everything started to fall apart in 2015.I was having issues in my life and told her we couldn't be in a relationship anymore even though I still loved her the same as always wanted to be with her. I felt like I couldn't do it. I thought we would eventually get back together in a year or two if I was doing better, except now she's dating someone else so our relationship permanently over.
She still wants to be friends with me and for us to be in each others lives, but it doesn't feel quite right to me. I still like her, care about her,and enjoy talking to her for the most part, but I no longer feel this strong connection with her or feel too motivated to spend time with her since we have no future together and there will no longer be things like playing co-op games together, video chatting on Skype for hours, or her staying at my place. I've told her I'm not sure if we can be friends and she wasn't too happy about it.
Should I try to rebuild a friendship with her since she wants to be friends and we've always gotten along so well, or should I forget about it and move on? Is it right to give up on someone I've known for 7 years and possibly hurt her more by cutting her out of my life? Despite being in a long-term relationship before, I can be a little clueless when it comes to relationships and friendships. I'm not sure what I should do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was best friends with someone and also in a relationship with them for years. It's over now and I can't decide if we should be in each others lives or not. | Was best friends with someone and also in a relationship with them for years. It's over now and I can't decide if we should be in each others lives or not. | 1,853 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Boyfriend won't tell me what's making him sad, and shuts down and shuts me out. What do I do?
POST: 26m 21f Relationship 9 months.
We've recently had a few problems where I'm feeling scared because I need to sort out a visa to stay in the country and work out what I'm going to do for money once I graduate.
I also spoke to him how I'm feeling unsure. Our relationship is a lot about doing things on his terms. Sometimes he thinks he's compromising, but his idea of compromise is still getting the best deal for him. I make sacrifices for him, and he doesn't make sacrifices for me.
The problem is that if I try to talk to him about anything, it is instantly about *him* and how I'm accusing him and I tread so carefully, and yet I can't really say how I feel.
Today he just says he's sad, and said it's because of what I said, and refuses to talk about it, or cuddle, or kiss me or touch me.
I think he might be depressed in general, but I just don't know what to do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend shuts down all physical and emotional contact and becomes unreasonable and won't communicate when he's "sad", and I don't know what to do. | Boyfriend shuts down all physical and emotional contact and becomes unreasonable and won't communicate when he's "sad", and I don't know what to do. | 1,313 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Should I (19/f) talk to my boyfriend (20/m) about my crush?
POST: I've been dating this guy since the beginning of June (about 3 months now) and things have been going great. Two weeks ago though I learned my mother is moving to another town (we'll call it Town X) about 1.5hours away and has said I can come live with her. Now, I'm absolutely going because I've wanted to live in Town X for a long time and I'm not going to give up this opportunity. I talked with my boyfriend and he said he understands and still wants to try making the relationship work and so do I. However in Town X I have a friend (let's call him John) who I have a slight crush on. I met John while he was visiting in my town shortly after becoming official with my bf. Physically John is exactly my type, and he's very intelligent with a great sense of humor (we bonded over Reddit funny enough). Because I'm attracted to John I made sure the few times we've hung out it's been in a group and I haven't put myself in any situations that could lead to something (like drinking with him). My attitude about it up until now has been "Oh well. Crushes happen, but I have a boyfriend." Since I told John I'll be moving up to Town X, we've been talking a lot more though. I also learned where I'm moving to will be 10-15minutes away from where he lives. He's also the only person I know up in Town X, and we'll probably be going to the same school in the Spring, so I feel like we're going to spend a lot of time together. A mutual friend told me John has a crush on me as well and would honestly prefer us to be a couple instead of the guy I'm with now. I like my boyfriend very much and I think he's the nicest guy I've ever been with, but I feel like the world's building up circumstances to push me and John into something in a weird sort of way. I'm going to try my best to keep things going with my bf, and I believe communication is key, so should I try to talk to my bf about John? If so, what should I say?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have a BF but am moving to a city where a guy I like who I'm pretty sure likes me too lives. Should I talk to my BF about this? What should I say? How? | Have a BF but am moving to a city where a guy I like who I'm pretty sure likes me too lives. Should I talk to my BF about this? What should I say? How? | 4,218 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [21/F] is having a mental breakdown, how can I [21/M] help her?
POST: My girlfriend is going through a rough patch in her life right now. She is a university student doing an extremely hard subject. She has a lot of pressure on herself right now due to fear of letting her parents down.
Two weeks ago she started having obsessional thoughts about death and not existing. This prospect scared her to the point of having several panic attacks every day. She isn't religious and does not believe in an afterlife. Going to church seemed to help at first, but she is simply too inquisitive and scientific-minded to genuinely believe in an afterlife.
Now the panic attacks seem to have subsided but she is still having these thoughts. It usually manifests itself as an hour long period of not being able to function and then suddenly gathering up the energy to study for hours. She doesn't feel comfortable talking to her parents about this anymore because they tell her she is crazy. She has told me herself that the feeling is so unbearable she wishes that she just didn't exist sometimes.
I am encouraging her to get as much physical activity as possible and showing my support, but I feel clueless what else I can do to make her feel better? I try to avoid the subject of death now because nothing I say makes her feel any better; she counters anything I say with "so what's the point, we are all going to disappear in the end." When she isn't having these thoughts, she is fairly normal, but they happen often enough to affect her day-to-day functioning.
Going to the doctor isn't a realistic option right now for various reasons.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend recently developed a fear of not existing after death, this is on top of exam stress and some other problems, how can I be a supportive boyfriend for her? | Girlfriend recently developed a fear of not existing after death, this is on top of exam stress and some other problems, how can I be a supportive boyfriend for her? | 737 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Help a middle-aged new college graduate improve my situation
POST: I'm not actually graduating until next spring, but I thought that this would be a good time to ask, so I have plenty of time to get things in order or to possibly pursue some of the things that are advised.
Here's the story: I'm 35 years old, a Marine Corps veteran and a married father of 3. At this time, my wife doesn't earn much at all and we're barely making it on my blue-collar income of around 43-48k/year (depends on overtime availability).
I hate my job, and I'm finally finishing up my degree so that I can move into something else. Unfortunately, I've heard too many horror stories about recent grads being offered $13-15/hour and taking it because it's actually pretty good, relative to other offers or opportunities.
I'm terrified that despite my education, I won't be able to move into anything that pays more than I'm currently making "right out of the gate", so to speak.
I'm not afraid to move if I have to, and I can learn pretty much anything I need to. My BA will be in "Integrative Leadership Studies", which is just a generic Adult Degree program at my college.
I'm not afraid to continue on to a graduate program, but I'd like to leave my current job first, if at all possible.
Does anyone have any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Help me to escape my dead-end, blue-collar, criminally-mismanaged, racist-filled job when I graduate next year, please. | Help me to escape my dead-end, blue-collar, criminally-mismanaged, racist-filled job when I graduate next year, please. | 325 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Has anyone had that sense that someone is about to die?
POST: My story: I was going to visit my great grandfather for a birthday dinner it was two weeks past my birthday I do not remember why. He was 90 and very active would walk every day about a mile. We pull up in front of his house and grab groceries as usual. I had this weird sense that something was not quite right and sort of knew that this was the last of something it was eerie. Walking into the house we heard him calling for help he had fallen or something. Calling the paramedics he was resuscitated and taken to the hospital about 3 hours later he was gone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | visited great grandfather pulled up in front of house sensed something was wrong passed away in the house, revived by paramedics. Dies later at the hospital | visited great grandfather pulled up in front of house sensed something was wrong passed away in the house, revived by paramedics. Dies later at the hospital | 2,076 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Enjoy your monopoly money...
POST: I worked in a well known pet store chain in the UK, I used to work mainly on weekends, and with this comes the general douchbaggery that has to be dealt with on a bi-hourly basis. I recall one woman attempting to buy a fish tank at the same time as buying fish (far to many for the tank) without having the tank set up for the necessary amount of time to allow the water to stabilise. So I refuse her a sale of live fish. Unfortunately she then decides to treat me like crap generally swearing at me and I end up bringing my manager to explain that I had followed procedure and there was a good reason for me refusing the fish.
Surprisingly she still buys the tank, and brings it to the till where I am since I have switched sections after talking to her. The customer before her paid with a Scottish £10 note, which is legal tender throughout the UK, but many retailers (specifically smaller ones) do not like to accept for fears of counterfeits and problems at the bank. The woman who buys the tank then pays with two £50 notes (the tank happened to be around £85 if I remember correctly. Because we dont often recieve £50's I ring the bell for a manager to come and check the notes, its a busy day so it takes a few mins for him to get there, all the while she is huffing and puffing and smoking her electronic cig in front of my giving me the death eye. He comes over checks the notes and all is well (as I already knew) I think put the tank through give her the £10 note underneath the receipt with the change on top, she shoves it in her pocket and as she goes through the door realises its different, and walks off anyway. Enjoy your monopoly money.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Woman comes to store, is an arse about buying a fish tank so I give her scottish money back as change. | Woman comes to store, is an arse about buying a fish tank so I give her scottish money back as change. | 2,430 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Just looking for suggestions on what drugs to use and which to avoid
POST: First, a little insight into my life. I've always been a good kid, never received a B in a class, I take advanced classes in high school, I'm a great people person, and for too long I've focused on just sports and school. I've been in the process of cutting loose recently and enjoying life so I've been asking friends and friends of friends what they would suggest in terms of drugs to use (not habitually) just to have a good time. In the midst of all of these posts about meth usage I came to thinking, "why not ask reddit what drugs i should use!" I know, drugs are bad and you shouldn't do them but I'm going to anyway so here is my question to you. What drugs or hallucinogens have you used that make for an amazing experience. I've heard acid can be a life changing experience so something along those lines would be awesome.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want a relatively safe drug that will give me and a couple friends a strong high or hallucinogenic effect, mainly for creative/intellectual reasons. | I want a relatively safe drug that will give me and a couple friends a strong high or hallucinogenic effect, mainly for creative/intellectual reasons. | 6,271 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (20M) go over to her house and just confront her (19F)?
POST: I met this girl a while back where we work. We've been going out at weekly on 'dates' for four weeks (and seeing each other on non-official dates). At the end of our last date (last week), I kissed her (and yes she kissed back), but since then things have been different.
I have asked her to hang out or just generally catch up but each time she's been 'busy'. She hasn't initiated anything herself since then. Yesterday we worked together and really, it was as if nothing was going on between us...we just chatted normally/small talk.
Basically, I am going out of my mind and I do not know whether to just go over to her house and tell her to tell me where she wants to go with this. Then again, I am not sure whether this is a good idea. All I know is I am going out of my mind and it is causing me plenty of anxiety :(.
Further information: She was in a one-year relationship which ended right before she met me. We're both studying at university.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She appears to have been slightly avoiding me since our last date. Not sure whether to just confront her or let it go. I am extremely anxious. | She appears to have been slightly avoiding me since our last date. Not sure whether to just confront her or let it go. I am extremely anxious. | 4,827 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] dealing with messy housemates [22/21/20M]
POST: I've only got a month left on my one year tenancy with with 3 good friends and housemates but I have reached breaking point.
Throughout the past year I have been frustrated with the cleanliness of the house. I simply live to a higher standard of cleaness than my housemates. They're not pigs, they don't let things get mouldy or disgusting - it is just simple tasks in communal area like dusting windowsills, hoovering the stairs and corridors, washing the rugs, and cleaning up spills and stains from dinner basically never get completed without me asking. I usually just do these tasks myself because it is quicker to just clean them up myself rather than wait 3-4 days for people to get it done, which is the amount of time taken when you ask them (plus a huge amount of passive aggression). In addition I organise the bills, getting handymen in to fix stuff etc. so it's not like I'm lording it over them.
It is especially annoying given my high workload at uni in the final year of my degree - I was doing 9-5 days and still having to keep the house clean whilst they were in the house all day, out for 2 or 3 hours for lectures and just lazing about.
As I said I've only got a month left but yesterday I came back to the house from a week away and it was in turmoil - dust was everywhere, bits of rice and pasta were stuck onto work surfaces, washing up was not done, electrical items were lying in puddles of water, grass and moss was all over the kitchen floor and no one had bothered to mow the law.
I've only got a month left living with them so I don't wanna have a huge argument about cleaning because it is such a short time left, but how do I get my housemates to clean up after themselves and be less lazy?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Housemates don't pull their weight, house is messy, simple tasks don't get done for days after asking, what to do? | Housemates don't pull their weight, house is messy, simple tasks don't get done for days after asking, what to do? | 1,678 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it really possible to meet the right person at the wrong time?
POST: This past October I (19F) met a really great guy (20M) through tinder. We went on a few dates here and there and got along really well.
However, we did run into some problems when it came to hanging out. If I had some free time, he would be working or in school (does both full time). And if he had free time I'd be in school or not home at the time (plus, I don't have my license yet so transportation was a factor too). This made it really difficult for us to hang out and see each other more.
Today, we started talking on snapchat and he told me he doesn't think this can work anymore. I was crushed because I was really starting to like him and he even told me he had feelings for me as well. He said he just wants to work on himself for a while. I asked him if it's possible if things do work out in the future will he reconsider trying again. He didn't give me a straight answer saying it just depends on when it happens.
So my question for you /r/relationships is it possible to meet the right person at the wrong time? And if yes, can things work out in the end? I'm really hurt right now and don't know how to feel because this has never happened to me before.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Do you think it's possible to rekindle a relationship after things didn't work out the first time due to timing? | Do you think it's possible to rekindle a relationship after things didn't work out the first time due to timing? | 47 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my gf [23 F] I have trust issues.
POST: Hey guys,
Long time lurker and obvisilouly throwaway, Here is my situation I have been dating this beautiful girl for almost a year now. I love her and she loves me like crazy. But there is something about my past she doesn't know. I cheated on my ex, numerous times. I'm douche bag, I know. My current gf isn't aware of my past and she thinks i'm the most perfect guy out there. Although I have never cheated emotionally or physically on my current gf, I fear myself. I'm worried if I would fuck up. My concern is that my EX never knew I cheated on her. I'm very good at talking my way out of things and she never caught me, nothing to be proud off but FYI. My current gf goes to school and I work 40hrs. She stays back and does projects with her group which sometimes include guys. I know nothing is going on as I'm close with all the girls and most importantly I trust her. Yet yet I worry, I worry if she is doing something wrong. My gf felt that i was a bit worried few days that she even send me pictures of what they are doing and stuff. I worry if she is cheating on me just like I cheated on my ex. I can't get this thoughts out of my head and its slowly impacting our relationship. I'm getting easily frustrated and worried. I don't know what to do. I can't tell my gf about my past but this thoughts is wrecking my confidence and my relationship.
Thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cheated on my ex numerous times without getting caught, worries if my current gf is doing the same even though i have no proof that she is cheating. | Cheated on my ex numerous times without getting caught, worries if my current gf is doing the same even though i have no proof that she is cheating. | 6,416 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Questions about my slumlord living situation
POST: I have a couple of questions regarding my borderline "slumlord" living situation. I rent a very cheap three bedroom apartment in a college town (Boulder, Colorado) where housing is expensive and in high demand. My place was built in the 90s as a makeshift addition onto the back of a more solid, established house.
My issue is a lack of responsiveness in regards to fixing things around my house that inhibit my comfort and wellbeing in day to day life.
-Everything damaged or disgusting about the house was well-documented in the initial walkthrough with pictures and checklists filled out.
-Many things that were put in writing to be fixed by a certain date were ignored completely or took far past the agree-upon date to be addressed, including a couple things that may be genuine safety concerns.
-I pay my rent in a very under the table way which my landlord insisted upon. It involves depositing any combination of cash and checks into his bank account which is at a bank located up the street from me. I have records of all of these deposits.
The door to my room is off its hinges with a splintered frame. My landlord said we would have to discuss the "cost" of fixing it, implying that I would have to pay for it.
I guess my question is, what are my rights as a tenant? What can I demand that he fixes? I have been complacent about a lot of things which may nullify any upper hand I would have.
It is also worth mentioning that the house has not been officially inspected to my knowledge and the opinion of a couple of my experienced carpenter friends would be that it would fail many housing codes.
I don't want to cause harm to my landlord or gain retribution, I just want to have things fixed so I can continue living cheaply and comfortably.
There is an official lease which I read carefully that follows the standard template of all other leases I have signed through more professional channels. I have copies of it from each respective lease term.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I live in a crappy house in a college town and my landlord is very negligent and unresponsive when it comes to routine maintenance. What are my rights and what can I do to get things fixed? | I live in a crappy house in a college town and my landlord is very negligent and unresponsive when it comes to routine maintenance. What are my rights and what can I do to get things fixed? | 1,118 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with my best friend from high school [20F], her wedding is in a week, but she didn't tell me about it until a week ago
POST: Hey Reddit!
So I'll give a brief background about my friend. She was my best friend for 3 years of high school, after we graduated she moved to another city (without telling me until 3 days AFTER she left) and we drifted but stayed acquaintances.
So we talk occasionally, and I had always tried to initiate hanging out but she could never commit and we never found the time. I still consider her a friend, but not as close as we used to be.
So her and her fiancé got engaged in November, and she called to tell me to make sure I knew before she put it on Facebook. I thought that was considerate, and that meant she was going to try to put more effort into our friendship, but that was the last I heard from her until last Friday.
When she called in November, she said they were probably going to wait 2 years before they actually get married, just so they have money and all that. So when I saw her last week, I asked if she had been doing any wedding planning, and she says "Oh yeah, it's in TWO WEEKS."
I was just shocked. How could she be getting married in 2 weeks and not give me any heads up?! Not only do I have 2 jobs, I have other friends' parties that day that I already committed to.
So my question is: should I drop everything I'm doing to try and make it to my friend's wedding when she can barely make time for me, or should I just say "sorry, you didn't give me enough notice and I have previous obligations."?
She was my very best friend, and I want to make it there but I feel like it's very inconsiderate to always expect me to drop what I'm doing for her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex best friend getting married in 2 weeks, gave me no notice, don't know if I should drop everything or just not go | Ex best friend getting married in 2 weeks, gave me no notice, don't know if I should drop everything or just not go | 6,052 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (Colorado) Moving out at 16? Emancipation?
POST: So, a bit of backstory behind this post. I have mental health issues (I've been diagnosed by my doctor, seen 2 psychiatrists and 2 therapists trying to get help) and due to my mom being a complete control freak I've never been able to get the help I need. What I see is the issue behing my depression is my family, and my mom never let me go to my therapy sessions alone, so I could never safely discuss what I think is the problem. Every day at home I'm miserable, not because I'm "a moody teenager", but because living here is completely unbearable. My dad is an alcoholic, my parents blame me for everything, including things I obviously didn't do, mainly things my older brother did. He has always been their favorite, he gets special treatment while I get treated like I'm basically worthless.
Back to the main point, I need to get out. I have a job (~$1000/month and my boss said I'm getting a raise as soon as he can get me one), I also have some money saved up from my job/lawn mowing in the past, I have a car that I bought with my own money, so i have transportation, but my parents are signed as the owners on the title because the DMV wouldn't let me sign as the owner (iirc they said I was too young) so I could see that possibly being a problem. I have good grades in school, I'm responsible, never drink or do drugs, and I just need to get out of here with my sanity intact and without me ending up worse than I am. All I want is to be able to hold my current job and attend the same school as I am currently, so I don't know what the options are for staying in the same area (Is there something like foster care I could go into? I don't know much about this stuff) I don't think I would be able to afford an apartment on my own unless I found one for really cheap (could there be issues getting an apartment due to no credit and being under 18?)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I need to get out, have a job, have a car, I don't know where to go from here. | I need to get out, have a job, have a car, I don't know where to go from here. | 4,989 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Public trolling. Why?
POST: I would like to preface this with this rage comic I saw earlier:
(I didn't make it)
[I'm referring to the fat woman in the comic, btw. What the guy did in response is justified]
I've never understood why someone would openly mock a complete stranger in public. I have never, EVER felt the urge to do something like that to someone. I've had people do it to me, too. I'll just be riding my bike or something and a car full of teenagers will just drive by mocking me or pulling up close and just going "BOOO!" really loudly. Where do people get the stones to do this? Why the fuck would you ever WANT to do something like this?
And (most importantly) I ask you, reddit, do you ever do this to other people? And How do you respond when its done to you?
Also, Is this a strictly American thing? I live in the states and have NEVER seen something like this done in Japan or Europe. People seem to respect strangers more, I guess.
When people do it to me I just feel like a dumbass and continue on my way feeling horrible about myself for no other reason that a person considered me lowly enough to be randomly mean to me.
:'(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | is being an asshole to strangers in public for no reason (see comic) an American thing? Do you do it? Has it ever been done to you? How do you respond to it? | is being an asshole to strangers in public for no reason (see comic) an American thing? Do you do it? Has it ever been done to you? How do you respond to it? | 3,423 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by being oblivious
POST: So this happened Friday, but I'm just now getting around to posting this.
My Friend and I went to see F&F7 Friday night. We had to get tickets to the last showing because all others were sold out. So we get in and find some seats at 10:00 PM. At this point, we both had a long day and were exhausted. The movie didn't start til 11, so we just chilled. About half an hour after we sat down, these two really cute girls walk in. We both notice them and start checking them out. Didn't take long for them to spot us checking them out; jokingly, my friend patted the seat next to him. To our surprise, they came and sat down two seats down. Let me reiterate that this is the newest The Fast and The Furious movie. And these two really cute girls just walked in of their own free will, no guys were bringing them to watch it. The movie plays, it is an incredible movie if you grew up watching them like we have. Throughout the entire movie whenever I glanced over at my friend I could see one of them looking over at us. After we get out, it was almost 2 AM. Between talking about the movie and fighting sleep, we completely forgot about the girls who sat down by us and obviously wanted us to talk to them. Went back to my house and he crashed on my couch. When we woke up the next morning, we knew we blew it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went to see F&F7, two cute girls sat down near us and wanted us to talk to them. We didn't. | Went to see F&F7, two cute girls sat down near us and wanted us to talk to them. We didn't. | 3,908 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with multiple best friends, I'm joining the military and I'm scared to tell them
POST: I've wanted to join the military since I was a little girl but a lot of things held me back. I have several best friends in different friend groups that are ignorant of the military or have their own qualms about it but I've notice from vague chats that they probably couldn't comprehend me joining.
I never spoke about my dream because I wanted to be absolute sure on joining and that I would ship out. My waiver recently got approved, I swore in the other day, and I'm scheduled to leave in January.
All these people despite this one hang up, are seriously amazingly awesome people that are my best friends.
I recently moved extremely far away from all of them so communication would be generally over text, facebook, skype and I just have no idea how to articulate what I want to say. A lot of them have been looking forward to me moving back and in away I will be able to but I feel like they wouldn't understand it. I'm worried my best friends will feel I don't know, offended over my decision.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm joining the military, several of my best friend would probably be upset over me joining and I have no idea how I should approach telling them all. | I'm joining the military, several of my best friend would probably be upset over me joining and I have no idea how I should approach telling them all. | 5,058 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25 M] have a crush on my best friend [23 F]. Here's my plan. Is it stupid?
POST: I'm pretty sure she's liked me for a few months. I've sort of liked her for that long, but not significantly until recently.
Anyways, my main worry is this: She's NOT the type to cheat (I've seen her in 2 serious relationships), but she gives her heart away too easily. She's working hard to change that, but she's only been single for 3 months... after years of constant bad relationships and rebounds. I just don't want her to rebound on me.
She's also moving in 1 month. It's to the region I've been planning to move to anyways, and to my #2 city choice. So it's not THAT bad, but it means we'll be apart for 6-12 months.
Dating her would risk our friendship, and I want to know 2 things:
* Can she stay single for a while longer? If this means I have more competition, that's ok.
* How's our friendship dynamic going to change once she moves?
So my plan is to wait until ~1 month after she moves before trying to start a relationship. And I'll still be open to meeting other women in-between (I doubt I'll go for someone else, but if she finds another guy, I don't want to have zero options myself).
Bad stuff:
* Missing a month of relationship time while being in the same state
* Skipping V-day
* She's going to think I'm not interested in her
Is this a good idea?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Waiting until AFTER my crush moves to tell her I like her... I'll get to see how the long-distance friendship is, but is it a good idea to wait? | Waiting until AFTER my crush moves to tell her I like her... I'll get to see how the long-distance friendship is, but is it a good idea to wait? | 5,106 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Double Major Advice
POST: Hey, I'm currently finishing up my freshman year as a Photography and Digital Arts student at a University Minnesota. I'm starting to find that this major isn't satisfying my recent craving for knowledge or creativity. One of the Lib-Eds I chose this semester was Philosophy, which I did surprisingly well in, and really enjoyed. It was a lot of work, of course, but it was work I really genuinely loved doing. I could really feel myself getting into flow while studying for that class.
Which made me wonder, should I double major in Philo? The question of course, spiraled me into seemingly never ending self doubt on what I've been doing these past few years pursuing my art interests. Sure, I'm plenty good at art, but I'm so scared it won't be a financially fruitful profession.
My current plan is to finish my digital art degree, then go to some kind of animation or computer animation school so I can become an animator, a story board writer, a character designer, or maybe even a video game designer... something with story telling, drawing, and hopefully animation.
So what's your two cents reddit? Is an art major worth pursuing? What could come out if I did double major in Philo? What would be a more fruitful combination of a double major?
Thanks for the responses, if they come c:
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Confused as fuck about my art major. Don't wanna grow up to be a homeless bum. Just realized I love Philo. Need advice for a double major. | Confused as fuck about my art major. Don't wanna grow up to be a homeless bum. Just realized I love Philo. Need advice for a double major. | 576 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 F] unsure of what to say to [25 M] friend who I think likes me. Not mutual
POST: This is a guy that went to the same college as I did. We have mutual friends. I've seen him at a few parties. Up until a few months ago, we had spoken maybe 4 times. He reached out a few months ago and because I was abroad, asked if we could catch up when I got back. I didn't think anything of it at the time, so I said yes.
Well, that's when he starts ending all of his texts with smiley faces and winks. Always says things like "I'm just a goofy guy ;)", "I'm full of compliments. That's the benefit of me :)" Like he is trying to sell himself to me.
Begrudgingly, I went to coffee with him. He is honestly a great conversationalist. I would love to just be friends with the guy. I could talk to him for hours but I am not attracted to him and not remotely interested in a relationship. He recently asked me to hang out with him again.
I understand that I need to let him down gently. But he hasn't outrightly said that he likes me. I don't want to come across as the girl who thinks so highly of herself that she has to stop something even if there might not be anything there. I don't want to say to him "sorry, I'd love to go but I want to make it clear that I'm not looking for a relationship" and have him say "dude, I just asked you for coffee. relax"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Super nice guy likes me, I want to JUST be friends but don't know how to make that distinction to him without sounding like a bitch. | Super nice guy likes me, I want to JUST be friends but don't know how to make that distinction to him without sounding like a bitch. | 4,128 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By going to bed early and breaking my pelvis
POST: Like many this didn't happen today but about a week ago.
My gf, my 2 roommates and I were in my garage playing pool, darts and drinking beer as usual.
I had things to do on Saturday so I decided to call it an early night and go to bed around 1030pm. Everyone else was thirsty and stayed in the garage to lubricate a bit more.
I have a balconey off my room that sits about 12' above my back patio with a 34" railing. I often have a before bed smoke through the sliding glass door, and I can only assume thats what I intended to do as I was in my underwear and ready for bed.
I must have tripped on something but I remember seeing my feet above my head and then hitting the ground. HARD.
I fell about 15 feet and landed on my side on patio stone. Thank God I didnt hit my head, my head actually hit my bicept on impact. I remember grunting but passed out almost immediately.
When I came to I yelled for help but with the music on in the garage I knew they couldn't hear me. So I sucked it up and crawled inside on my belly. Not sure how I opened the back door, or crawled what ended up being about 60 feet, but I made it to the bottom of the basement stairs.
I yelled for help but to no avail. I tried to climb the stairs but that wasnt happening. So I accepted my predicament and laid in wait.
They came in around 2am and found me, thinking I had fallen down the stairs. They couldn't believe I crawled my way in like a wounded soldier.
9-1-1. Ambulance. CT scans. The whole bit. Turns out I broke my pelvis and won't walk for 3 months.
Next time I'm just going to keep drinking.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went to bed early. Fell off my 15' balconey. Crawled 60' and was found 3 hrs later with a broken pelvis. Wont walk for 3 months. Should've stayed outside and got drunk. | Went to bed early. Fell off my 15' balconey. Crawled 60' and was found 3 hrs later with a broken pelvis. Wont walk for 3 months. Should've stayed outside and got drunk. | 5,358 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: As an Usher at a cinema. I would like to know when it became socially acceptable for you, the 'customer' to make such a mess?
POST: I work as an Usher in Cineworld a cinema chain located in England. I happen to work in the 4th busiest cinema in the company. My jobs include selling tickets, food and drink, cleaning toilets, and cleaning screens. I am also a trained projectionist.
I enjoy my job for the most part.
I am confused though. When did it become okay to make a mess? I don't mean the odd dropped popcorn here and there, or the spilt drink. These are definitely expected. I mean the the type of litter you'd expect in a bin, bottles deliberately thrown on the floor, bags torn to shreds, chocolate smeared onto the floor. These are clearly deliberate, I don't care about the extra effort this causes, I care about the abuse I receive for 'taking too long' from the customers. If you didn't make the mess in the first place. There would be no problem.
Why is this acceptable?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | If you drop your litter in a cinema. Don't abuse me for taking time cleaning for you. Don't want to wait. Don't litter. | If you drop your litter in a cinema. Don't abuse me for taking time cleaning for you. Don't want to wait. Don't litter. | 4,324 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: A friend of 14 years told me last night that I can't have morals because I don't believe in Jesus. What things have people said to you that completely changed your opinion of them?
POST: A bit of background information is needed here. The person in question i have known for nearly all my life. I became friends with him through my eldest brother when i was 10 or so, and have been close friends with him since then (i am 24 now). He was also my soccer coach for about 8 years.
He has always been a very religious guy, and would drop subtle hints every now and again that i should come and 'help him set up' some things at his church in exchange for him shouting me lunch, things like that. But generally, the fact i respected about him was that even though he had his own beliefs, i never felt seriously pressured. It was always my beliefs on one side, his on the other and the friendship in the middle.
Last night he asked me around to watch a game of soccer, and we got to talking over the game, and he mentioned an ex of mine had gotten engaged. I mentioned that it was a regret of mine that i stuffed up that relationship and that i was a bit of a bastard to her sometimes, at which point he said "well are you honestly surprised you acted that way? The bible tells us that morals come from god, so what incentive do you have to do the right thing?"
I was totally taken aback, shocked, didn't even know what to say. I told him I was leaving and walked out the door.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been really close mates with a guy for 14 years, despite our differing religious beliefs. Last night he tells me I have no morals because I don't believe in Jesus. | Been really close mates with a guy for 14 years, despite our differing religious beliefs. Last night he tells me I have no morals because I don't believe in Jesus. | 5,657 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can I ask someone who has been messaging me who they are?
POST: I received a few text messages from someone claiming to be Stephanie. However, I cant remember meeting her or giving out my number (should be noted that alcohol would have been at play).
Ive asked my pals no one is sure who she is or at what point I would have met her. There was three times that I could have met her and gave my number out, Christmas eve and twice in pub after going to two games of football.
I've messaged her back a few times but still don't have a clue who she could be. What is the best way to ask her who she is and how I know her.
Will be going to bed shortly so will respond in the morning.
Cheers
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Received a phone text message, replied to many times now for me to ask where I met her and who she is. What's best way of identifying her? | Received a phone text message, replied to many times now for me to ask where I met her and who she is. What's best way of identifying her? | 3,498 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my GF [19 F] of 3 years, I need help seeing if I am in the wrong.
POST: My GF and I have been dating for a while now, since high school. We currently go to two different colleges, but spend nearly everyday together as happy as we can be during our breaks.
Recently, she went to a leader ship camp recommend to her by a faulty member at her university. I am typically very introverted and only can bare having a few friends. Every one else mostly annoys me in some way, but I dont like to show it. So, of course at this camp they require people to become very close and develop freiend ships with eachother. She says she had an amazing experience and an overall good time.
My issue is that she obivously became good friends with both guys and girls. I don't care if she hangs out with all of them at once, it does bother me alittle when she hangs out with all of them at once, but it really bothers me when she hangs out with a guy one on one.
To me, it means that there is a chance she will develop feeling for him or vice versa. I wouldn't mind if she was hanging out with him and i was with her all the time, but the amount of physical distance between us cause me to worry a fair amount.
I feel as though i may be replaced, which causes me a lot of jealousy and stress. I have told her that I don't want her to hang out with other guys one on one. I know that is wrong, but I still cant help myself from feeling that way. Earlier today she basically told me, "too bad, I can have friends that are guys." Which is true, I just still don't like the idea.
She has never done anything for me to lose trust in her, I am just not a very trusting person.
So, is it wrong for me to ask her to not hang out with other guys? Can anyone maybe help me think of a comprimise? Or just give some of your advice.
Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I told my GF that I dont like her hanging out with other guys when I am not around, she said "too bad". | I told my GF that I dont like her hanging out with other guys when I am not around, she said "too bad". | 1,819 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25/F] was invited to my friends' annual Christmas Party but I'm so broke I feel like I will be left out.
POST: I feel pretty embarrassed and childish...
Every year my friends' have an annual Christmas party with ~50 people.Normally I have gifts ready for couple people and we have gift exchanges and a nice potluck.
This year I'm broke. I lost my house and family. My dad died last month and didn't tell most people. (Told my closest friends about it and they haven't contacted me ever since... maybe I got them feel uncomfortable? Think i'm too broke to hangout? Idk but I feel like I shouldn't have told anyone. Rumors went around quick so some people know, apparently.)
I've focused my time in school this year that I haven't hung out with people every week like I used to.
I'm not sure what I'm really worried about but I feel uncomfortable. I feel so dead poor and out of place that I might bring negative vibe or something to the party.
I feel like I need to go because I haven't seen people in months and I don't want boyfriend to be there alone when I said I would go.
I've always been the "jokester" type in that group and I feel like i'd be weird if I suddenly write them a Christmas card as a gift suddenly. I don't know.
I'm not sure if cards will be enough...how to interact, what to talk about, etc. etc.
My boyfriend bought me so much baking supplies for me to bake for the party but didn't come out well... I feel like I wasted his money too... fuck.
I feel like not baking and not going to the party will make me "running away".. but not sure what to do from here.
I want to prepare myself for the party but not sure how to make the best out of it.. sorry if this is going all over the place.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Haven't seen people in months and feel too insecure to see people again. I need to go but not sure how to prepare it. | Haven't seen people in months and feel too insecure to see people again. I need to go but not sure how to prepare it. | 2,697 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I [21F] have a crush on a friend [27M] I have had for 5+ years.
POST: Hi lovely people.
So I've always wondered 'what if' with this friend - he is incredibly good-looking, ambitious, active, intelligent, loves to read, loves to cook, loves to try new things, and is very considerate, sensitive and a brilliant listener. We have always had relationships going on during our friendship, and thus I had never stopped to genuinely consider him a possibility. He has been single from a 4 year relationship for around a year now. I have been single from a 1.5 year for a couple of months.
I don't know how on earth to go about expressing my interest. He has always been a good friend and as a result he has heard about the multitude of relationship disasters I have had, including the times I shamefully cheated when I was very naive in my first relationships. I am fearful that he probably thinks I would be a disaster waiting to happen, because I never really showed myself in my best light during our friendship years - but at least I've always been honest. When we hang out though, and do things together, I feel we really bring out the best in each other.
We are going on what I consider to be a date in the next few weeks. We are both introverts, so I suggested rock-climbing, and it's a day before my birthday. I have an exam the day after my birthday, so this is effectively what I'm doing for it. I don't know if he considers this to be a date. I have never attempted to take a friend into dating territory; I have always just met a boy, and we've started dating. I am like a fish out of water. Can anybody share any similar experiences?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Don't know how to express my interest to take a long-term friend out of the friend zone and get him thinking about us as a couple. Don't even know if he's in any way interested. Help appreciated x | Don't know how to express my interest to take a long-term friend out of the friend zone and get him thinking about us as a couple. Don't even know if he's in any way interested. Help appreciated x | 1,757 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Pain in the side of my leg during and after a jog
POST: Alright- So I'm doing the c25k thing and have been at it for three weeks now. Today was w3 d3. So last Friday (w2 d3) my jog resulted in this sort of tight pain" up the side of my left leg, not on top of my shin but on the outside of the leg, sort of like a cramp. Now I stretch before and after every run, so I'm not sure what was going on. I didn't really do anything for it, figuring it would go away but it took three days, a few ice packs and finally a heat pad to get it to stop.
So Monday, I go for my run and it's back. Not too horrible but there. the runs are longer this week (3 minutes) and my jogging pace that day was barely a jog. I come home stick my leg in the Jacuzzi for 20 minutes and the pain is gone. same on Wednesday.
Today I'm doing my run, going a bit faster than I was before, and the pain comes back. While I'm jogging, it's just small twinges, but when I slow to my walk it comes back with a vengeance. I figure for some reason I'm not allowing my ankle a full range of motion, so I try to relax and walk normally, but the pain gets worse and worse and worse. - I end the run, stretch out again get in my car and it disappears for the most part. It still feels tight in that whole area, but no real pain anymore.
Does anyone at all experience this?, is there a special stretch I should be doing. I bought some kinesiology tape, but I don't think I put it on the right place.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Tight Pain running from the top of my ankle up the outside of my calf, gets worse when I walk after a run, and heat makes it go away- any stretching or other advice for it. | Tight Pain running from the top of my ankle up the outside of my calf, gets worse when I walk after a run, and heat makes it go away- any stretching or other advice for it. | 2,102 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19F] boyfriend [24M] of 1.5 years will fail out of college, should we break up?
POST: I go to a very prestigious college, and "have so much potential" as many people say. I hope to become a doctor one day. My boyfriend however, was kicked out of his college at the age of 22. We met as he was working to save money for college and I had just graduated from highschool. He now goes to another college, but recently failed a class. This will put him off from graduating a whole year again. So that by the time he graduates, if he even does, he will be 26.
It concerns me that this is the second time he has messed up. He lacks motivation to do his work. I love him so much. He tells me we need to end this because I deserve better. But I can't imagine my life without him. He will not be able to take classes this spring semester, and we don't really know what he is going to do. He might go and frack for a bit.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | so does anyone have experience with being with someone you fear may become a deadbeat? I am in love with him and can't be without him; but everyone, including him, tells me I need to move on. | so does anyone have experience with being with someone you fear may become a deadbeat? I am in love with him and can't be without him; but everyone, including him, tells me I need to move on. | 4,356 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Just adopted my first kitten, and she tested positive for feline leukaemia virus, please help.
POST: 6 days ago, I adopted little Athena from a local shelter. She's a 4 month old black cat, who was at the shelter for 2 months before I adopted her. She was found abandoned with her siblings under a porch and someone brought them in. She has been nothing but playful, cuddly, and has seemed nothing but healthy since her adoption, and the shelter had found nothing wrong with her either. After her first vet visit today, I was heart broken to learn she has tested positive for feline leukaemia virus. She still has no symptoms of sickness, and the vet has told me that I have nothing to worry about yet, and that I just need to bring her in for her follow up in a few weeks. I'm so worried and scared for her, does anyone know more about this disease and can help me understand what our chances are or if there's anything I can do? I love her more than anything and am hoping someone help me understand what to keep an eye out for or what I will need to take care of her if the worst happens. I've already contacted the shelter to let them know since the disease is contagious. I do not know how she acquired it as of now. For anyone who can help, thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | newly adopted 4 month old kitten from shelter has feline leukaemia virus, and new pet owner would like help understanding the situation. | newly adopted 4 month old kitten from shelter has feline leukaemia virus, and new pet owner would like help understanding the situation. | 1,790 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: A guy [17 M] who works with my [21 M] girlfriend [18 F] of 5 months tried to kiss her
POST: I have had been really close friends (like brother/sister) with this girl for 4 years. We started dating 5 months ago and both love each other. Because I went to college out of state, I live 900 miles from her.
She started working at a restaurant two weeks ago. A guy was assigned to supervise her after the manager had trained her. They quickly became friends (or so she thought).
A couple days ago, he moved in to kiss her in the parking lot after work (off of store property). I visit every possible chance I have, but she said she let him kiss her because she was confused and caught off guard. She said she didn't feel anything during the kiss and felt so horrible afterwords that she went home and cried for 3 hours.
She doesn't want to claim harassment because she felt like she let him kiss her, and the kiss wasn't long enough for her to push him off or show resistance (although she frequently told him she is in a relationship before this happened). She also can't ask to work different shifts than him because she has to work nights and he works nights 5 or 6 days a week. I want her to talk to the manager, but she won't.
Right now, I think our options are have me talk to the manager (with her consent) or have her find a new job. Finding a new job would be a hassle.
Also, what can I do? I feel so helpless since I'm so far away.
Thank you all very much!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy kissed my girlfriend. She didn't like it, but she has to work with him. I live in another state. What do we do? | Guy kissed my girlfriend. She didn't like it, but she has to work with him. I live in another state. What do we do? | 2,645 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, How can I tell my dad to do his own homework?
POST: My dad is going back to school. I'm a sophmore in college and he's barely going back. Every assignment he get he asks me to do for him or help him to the point where I end up doing it. He pays me and I do still live at home rent free. When I refuse to help him and tell him that he needs to learn for himself and that he is cheating himself in the end. He throws a thantrum and makes me feel like shit. Then he goes to my mom who has 2 jobs and has 5 classes. She does anything for him.
He's acting like a baby and I don't know how to make him realize that he needs to do his work. I offer to tutor him and I truly try to teach him how to learn but he just does not want to do it. When things aren't done perfect, he threatens to quit school. Its so childish.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My dad doesn't do his homework and forces my mom and I to do it for him. Whats a nice way to tell him he's only cheating himself? | My dad doesn't do his homework and forces my mom and I to do it for him. Whats a nice way to tell him he's only cheating himself? | 4,510 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Too early for a diamond ring? No idea how to proceed... Me[29/f] He[27/m]
POST: We met while working overseas. We work for different companies, though we're in the same field, so we ended up spending a huge amount of time together for three months. He ended up getting really into me and I made it clear that I wasn't looking for anything serious. I made it clear that our "thing" was just for right now, and that I felt it wasn't meant to last. At the time, that's how I felt.
I was sent back home and he remained overseas, during which time we kept in constant contact. I ended up missing him much more then anticipated. He insisted that we see each other again. I agreed to come and see him so that we could get a gauge on what a relationship would be like OUT of a work environment.
He paid for my flight after much insistence and now I am here to spend some time with him *out* of a work situation. Everything is going well, but today is my birthday and only my 6th day here and he gave me a spectacularly beautiful diamond ring.
Ooooook.
So I was floored. This thing is magnificent, and he insists it's just a birthday present, but I still don't know how serious this relationship could potentially be...and I think it would be unethical to accept this. I have no clue how much this thing could have cost, but it looks like it was a lot. No one's ever gotten me a diamond ring before. Or a diamond anything.
I really like him, but I am wondering if he's the type to move far faster then I am. I am so flattered, but now I am also a bit scared.
What do I do here? If I still feel fond of him, and I leave here feeling *just* fond of him, then I can not possibly take this amazing ring with me. I think it would be wrong. And even after coming here to figure out how we'd click out of an intense work environment I do not know if I could love him like he'd probably want me to.
Jeez, how the hell do I handle this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Non-serious relationship and I've been given a diamon ring not even a half-year into it and I don't know what path to take. | Non-serious relationship and I've been given a diamon ring not even a half-year into it and I don't know what path to take. | 1,860 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] just got dumped via text message by my girlfriend [18F] of almost two years. Not even two days later, she has already been on a date with someone else. How do I move on?
POST: I've been dating her since high school, and now I'm halfway through college. Basically, revolved around each other. This breakup was a MASSIVE surprise to me and everyone else. We had never had any problems in the past, and the only reason she could give for why she was ending it was "I feel like I'm dating my best friend, not my boyfriend." I have no idea how to read into this, or if I should even try.
I know I need to move on, because the way she did this shows she has some major character issues that I should probably avoid, even though it really hurts.
The problem is, I don't even know where to start. After spending 10% of my entire life with her, I am completely lost. Everything I enjoyed doing was because of her, and now I'm alone.
To top it off, she's making it very clear that she's already moved on, and it's really hurting my feelings. It's like the past two years meant nothing to her.
In short, I don't really know what I'm asking. I guess I'm just venting, asking for advice, and asking for support.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got dumped by surprise, She's already moved on, leaving me hurt and alone, I have no idea how to start moving on. | Got dumped by surprise, She's already moved on, leaving me hurt and alone, I have no idea how to start moving on. | 3,610 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by inadvertently calling a Girl Scout fat
POST: I was at the grocery store today and there were Girl Scouts selling cookies. One of the girls was eating a box of Thin Mints and there where open boxes of cookies all around her. She asked me if I would like to buy any cookies, to which I replied " No thanks I'm trying to lay off cookies, and by the looks of it you should too." I was in no way trying to call her fat but I suppose to a 12 year old girls mind I was. She burst out crying and confessed that she was bulimic and hated herself. A crowd gathered around her crying with her. I quietly slipped out and ran back to my car.
I really fucked up.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I inadvertently called a Girl Scout fat, to which she confessed she had an eating disorder and caused a crying crowd to join her. | I inadvertently called a Girl Scout fat, to which she confessed she had an eating disorder and caused a crying crowd to join her. | 5,763 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20F] have gotten to know [21F] for a few months, I think we're into each other but I can't tell. How do I slyly find out if she's single?
POST: I joined this organization at my college and this girl was in charge of a lot of events for it. I got to know her as an acquaintance and nearly (!) a friend over the past few months. She's really wonderful and I have a huge crush on her. I know she's bisexual, but I don't know if she has a girlfriend or not.
The strangest part is, I feel like we have some kind of connection. I know it sounds weird but I know there is something between us. I feel like she's into me as well but I don't know if she's single or not. I can't tell from her Facebook whether or not she has a girlfriend, and I don't want to ask. Any advice for finding out if she's available and into me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like a girl and she might like me, but she also might be taken. How do I figure this out? | I like a girl and she might like me, but she also might be taken. How do I figure this out? | 3,582 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm going into my first year of university in two weeks. I've also been very antisocial the last few years. How do I make this the best year possible?
POST: Hi AskReddit!
Been lurking here for a while now, and thought I'd posit a question that's been worrying me lately.
Just a little bit of context:
I live in Sydney, Australia, and took a gap year after graduating high school (unsure if there is an equivalent of a gap year for those living in other countries, but it's basically an optional year off before university/college starts here in Oz).
Now, I intended that gap year to be a year to get some more work at my part time job and save a little cash, but due to some unforeseen circumstances (girlfriend dumping me, the tremendous power of my laziness/procrastination), the year quickly turned into me being a hermit and staying home, moping about.
Now, having grown accustomed to the life of the hermit, I'm tremendously nervous about entering university; the whole social aspect, in particular, is incredibly frightening to me.
I want to be more social, expand my knowledge/experience, be more engaging as a person, get out of the house more, and get back into the dating game.
Any tips Reddit?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hermit for a year, and finally going into first year of university/college. I want to have a better year than my last. How can I achieve this? | Hermit for a year, and finally going into first year of university/college. I want to have a better year than my last. How can I achieve this? | 2,950 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20F] roommate [20F] doesn't bathe or brush her teeth and it makes our dorm smell really bad.
POST: Wall of text for context:
As the title states, my roommate lacks hygiene that you would think that anyone who has made it to 20 and is in college would know. We live in a very small dorm room, about 20ft by 30ft in total, and her lack of bathing makes our whole room smell like BO all the time.
It wasn't really an issue in the winter as cold tends to cover up smell, but now that it's getting warm out and she still isn't showering and has even started working out and not washing after, the room reeks, and I have NO IDEA how to bring it up to her without it turning into a fight.
She tends to deny everything, once her mom was helping her bring stuff to the dorm and said her desk was a mess with food wrappers (it was! She is a wrapper and box hoarder but that's an entirely different story) and she said "no it's not" when the desk was right in front of her and COVERED in wrappers from snacks and chocolate. You couldn't even see her printer.
I'm no psychologist, but I think her not taking showers and denying messes has a lot to do with anxiety and I am trying to be mindful of that when I bring it up.
There was another time that my sister visited for a weekend (I asked my roommate for permission to use her bed and put my own sheets on it for one night) and when she got home thought she had lice. I told my roommate right away and advised her to strip her bed and wash everything and since she is generally a slob, I put a little piece of clear tape on her sheets to see if she had done it and she waited a WEEK but said she had done it while I was in class that same day.
I'm afraid that if I bring up that she needs to shower more she will just say that she does already and it will turn into her yelling at me for being mean when I really just want a room that doesn't smell like BO.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | College roommate doesn't bathe so our tiny dorm smells bad and she has serious denial issues. How do I approach her about taking showers regularly? | College roommate doesn't bathe so our tiny dorm smells bad and she has serious denial issues. How do I approach her about taking showers regularly? | 4,715 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Advice for a Long Distance Relationship
POST: I've(f) been with my bf for a year and a half. We're both 18 and we started college. I stayed in the city while he moved upstate for college. When we were on our last date before he moved away I broke down crying on his shoulder for about half an hour. He said he didn't want me to be sad, he wanted me to have fun and meet new people. He also said he never wanted to see me cry like that unless it was at our wedding. He tried calming me down and I stopped crying after a while and I went home.
But I broke down in the train ride home. I never told him that. And last night I wore his sweater and I broke down crying again. I'm crying right now writing this post. It's only been about two weeks since school started and I'm miserable. I want him next to me but I'm not sure what to do. I don't just want to tell him this because he can't change much about the situation.
He wants to go to school and pursue his dreams as do I. I don't want to distract him with this or make him feel guilty for leaving. Neither of us want to be away from each other. I'm trying to stay happy for him but it's not working. Any advice would be appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Me and my Bf of a year and half are separated for college and I don't know how to deal. Help. | Me and my Bf of a year and half are separated for college and I don't know how to deal. Help. | 3,705 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22F] sister [28F] is pregnant and I'm having a tough time being excited for her.
POST: I don't really have a question or anything. I just need to vent and maybe reach out to those who have been in similar situations.
My sister told me yesterday that she's pregnant. At first I was thrilled. But then reality hit me. *I can't have children.*
I'm so happy for my sister and my brother-in-law, I really am. But they weren't planning on having children for at least a few more years. My sister's never really wanted to be a mom. Me, on the other hand, have always lived for it. As a kid when people asked what I want to be when I grow up, I always said, "a mom."
But, 3 years ago I found out I can never have children. I was devastated but have tried to tough it out, tried to believe it isn't true for years. I'm in a serious relationship and we're planning on getting married in a little over a year and starting to **try** having kids immediately, but we will probably end up adopting. While adopting is wonderful and that thought excites me, I still so badly want to be pregnant one day.
My sister being pregnant is like a kick in the side. A reminder that I'll never be pregnant. I don't want to be around her, I don't want to be happy for her. I'm jealous. I don't know how to deal with this. I never expected to feel anger towards my sister for getting pregnant. But really, how am I expected to feel about this?
I would never dare tell my sister or anyone else in my family how I feel about this. I wouldn't want to upset anyone and I really don't want to be selfish and make this about me. It's just so hard.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My sister's pregnant, I feel terrible for being upset about it ... But I can never have children of my own and I have no idea how to feel anything else about this. | My sister's pregnant, I feel terrible for being upset about it ... But I can never have children of my own and I have no idea how to feel anything else about this. | 6,194 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [27F] ex [27M] broke up with me 4 years ago tomorrow. I'm am still not over him and still secretly want to be with him even though I'm with a good guy [42m]. I can't go on like this.
POST: i met "Darren" when I was 19 and it was instant love. He is tall, intelligent, very classically handsome and so sweet. We had a great relationship until on a very drunken night out with friends, I cheated on him. He broke up with me the next day and never looked back. I was devastated, I mean not get out of bed for three months devastated.
I eventually moved on as best I could and would date but no one ever compared to Daren. I would text him from time to time just to see how he was doing (and admitedly to see if there was any spark) and the only time he ever responded was when he said "I loved you too much to ever forgive you." Which of course sent me into another bed ridden bout of guilt and depression.
When I pulled myself together I met "Bill" who is considerably older than me but a really nice man and has a successful but unglamorous business. He also has two small kids whom I like but they resent me quite a bit even though I met Bill long after the divorce.
I just got word thought the grapevine that Daren had graduated veterinary school, which brought up a whole host of emotions about how one bad night and I find myself with the nice but overweight divorcee with a cement pouring business and a ready made family. While some other girl is no doubt with "my" sweet and compassionate soul mate who is going to make people and animals lives better.
This isn't fair to Bill of course because he's been nothing but nice to me but still, it's how I feel.
After four years of still being madly in love with Daren, how do I possibly move on?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm not over my ex boyfriend after four years. Even with another good guy in my life I'm still obsessing over the ex. How do I move on? | I'm not over my ex boyfriend after four years. Even with another good guy in my life I'm still obsessing over the ex. How do I move on? | 225 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: why do people not acknowledge other people when passing by?
POST: I was going to the store today, and i just happened to pass by woman who was a little above average in looks, and height, nothing really special about her. I have a habit of making eye contact and smiling to most people I cross paths with just because its nice, and theres no harm in smiling. Anyway, as soon as we made eye contact she immediately her head down, and looked away, but as soon as we passed she put her head back up again and continued as if nothing happened. This has happened to me a lot before, but for some reason today it really struck and bothered me. So Reddit, what is your take on why people do this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | tried to be nice and polite by smiling to a stranger, she immediately averted her gaze. why do people do this? | tried to be nice and polite by smiling to a stranger, she immediately averted her gaze. why do people do this? | 409 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[28/F] just broke up with my bf[35/M] of only 6 months. I just found out that I was pregnant. I have no intention of keeping it and need to act fast. Does he have a right to know? Throwaway account btw.
POST: Ok, so a bit of a (short) back story. Just to give you an idea of the circumstances. We have been official about 6 months. We have gotten very serious in this time but have both decided that kids were definitely something that neither of us wanted. Lately things have just been so rocky that he decided to call it quits on me. Up until now, I have always been the one to mend the situation whether I was right or wrong. But this time I decided I had enough and wasn't going out of my way to make things right this time. And nor do I care to. I don't want to use this pregnancy as an excuse to contact him or make him think that's what I am doing. Am I wrong for getting an abortion behind his back? Does he have the right to know? Or put in his two cents? Remember that this is the guy who walked out on me and has never taken my feelings into consideration. I'm getting the abortion regardless. I am just torn as whether or not to tell him. Any guys input on how they might feel if this was them? Girl input who have done this to a guy before? Any two cents is appreciated. Thanks guys!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I found out I was pregnant after a break up and haven't spoken to him since. I want to abort the fetus but am not sure if I am obligated to reach out to him. | I found out I was pregnant after a break up and haven't spoken to him since. I want to abort the fetus but am not sure if I am obligated to reach out to him. | 5,077 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [17M] My girlfriend of almost two years now shows no affection whatsoever, and it's depressing. [17F]
POST: We started out a strong, normal relationship... but as time dragged on she became colder I suppose you could say. I love her and all but it's getting old, we'll be together doing... something, whatever, but as you know people like to kiss... hug, or show affection in general. Well everyone except my girlfriend. I've tried waiting it out and it's just making me want more. I'm not kidding when I say that my girlfriend hates kissing, although she used to enjoy it. When I say kiss I don't mean making out, I mean literally a peck. She will push me away or tell me something like "Your breath stinks." (While it doesn't, you just have to trust me on this one) just to avoid physical interaction. It's been getting to me recently, and it's actually bringing my confidence down about myself. I don't know if I'm ugly, or I'm clingy... it's just mind boggling. I've tried talking about this with her and she simply says, "I just don't like it". But honestly I feel as if that's an excuse and this has been ongoing for about 7-8 months. I get jealous of seeing something as simple as couples that simply hug and give a peck when they see each other, I get none of that except a cold "hello", it's just not the same anymore and I don't know what to do. I don't even know if she loves me anymore...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend shows no affection for no reason. I want it, dunno if I'm ugly clingy or god knows what, have tried talking about it, no dice. halp | girlfriend shows no affection for no reason. I want it, dunno if I'm ugly clingy or god knows what, have tried talking about it, no dice. halp | 4,549 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [17F] and I [17M] are in our senior year of high school, and I have concerns about the future of our relationship.
POST: We've been dating for 5 months so far, and I'm definitely serious about her and I. Right now, we're extremely happy with each other and I told her that I loved her last week. Everything is great right now. Unfortunately, we won't be together for Christmas break, but we'll FaceTime each other and call regularly.
I've read posts about high school sweet hearts trying to take a relationship into college before, almost everything that I've read has resulted in a break up. I know that if her and I go down this road, I'll be devastated in the end. Second semester is going to fly by, and before we know it, we'll be going to prom. I know I should live in the moment here, and I've been trying to go along the lines of that, but I do want to start forming some kind of plan.
I should also mention that we're not going to the same college. She might go out of state, I'm going to community college for financial reasons, and she's getting accepted into four year universities. It would be a LDR. I love this girl, and I'm willing to compromise to stay with her.
Anyway, my question is: What should we do? Should I try to maintain a LDR with her? I'm hoping for suggestions or stories of your own I guess. I know I'm jumping way ahead of myself with thoughts like this but I just want an opinion different than my own.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend and I are going to different colleges, second semester of this senior year is going to fly by, and I want to start forming a plan. Should we go into college trying to maintain a LDR? | My girlfriend and I are going to different colleges, second semester of this senior year is going to fly by, and I want to start forming a plan. Should we go into college trying to maintain a LDR? | 129 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My SO seems incapable of appreciating my perspective.
POST: My significant other (23, female) will shortly be entering the workforce. Unfortunately this probably means moving cities. From my perspective moving cities is bad, I'm a PhD student (26, male) and moving cities not only means a completely new lifestyle away from family and friends but also away from all the support facilities, supervisors etc my university offers. I will also loose income and be reliant upon here for discretionary spending.
I have tried to explain all of this to her but she seems incapable of appreciating my situation and transforms my unwillingness to move as a sign that I don't love her. I tried to explain to her the the situation isn't simply black and white like that and that I have everything right to choose my own happiness and chance for success over our relationship since she is unprepared to compromise on several issues regarding moving to a new city, despite the expectation I will drop everything for her.
Basically if I don't move we will break up.
I don't understand why she thinks it is okay for me to drop everything for her when she won't even make some small concessions for me.
What can I do? Is it normal to be expected to reply everything and in the process disadvantage yourself for you SO?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | gf will probably move city in the next few months. Expects me to drop everything for her despite not being prepared to compromise on things with me. | gf will probably move city in the next few months. Expects me to drop everything for her despite not being prepared to compromise on things with me. | 5,176 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: The struggle of going on.
POST: Hello LoseIt!
I've been hanging around here for awhile, just lurking of course, and to read all the great stories as motivation here! Finally I decided to make a throw-away account and post something.
I'm a 5.4 ft/165cm female and around August 2013 I finally made the decision to lose some weight. I weighed around 190lbs/85kg around that time, so it's nothing big, but I was really unhappy with my body and very self conscious. Over the course of the next 6 months I lost 33lbs/15kg. (which made me 157lbs/70kg)
My diet consisted of no snacks, mostly water and just the regular food. I have no money/time to afford fitness or any sort of sport sadly so it's all about the food in my case.
so I took about a year long break because I was sort of happy, I could wear dresses and not feel like a fatass. So I started again last month with hopes to reach 132lbs/60kg sadly its not going so well as the first time.. My weight when I started was 160lbs/73kg and I can barely reach the 154lbs/70kg right now.. It's so hard.. How do you keep moving on?
Also, I weight myself around 3 times a week, what do you guys think is best? As I am a female I noticed I weigh more around my period. Any tips/advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cant keep going on used to weigh 190lb/85kg now I weigh 154lbs/70kg trying to reach 132lbs/60kg but i dunno how. | Cant keep going on used to weigh 190lb/85kg now I weigh 154lbs/70kg trying to reach 132lbs/60kg but i dunno how. | 1,540 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My voice gets me into trouble with women, and I really have no idea what I can do... Help?
POST: Hey Reddit,
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Attractive voice, women think I'm a player, I'm not a player, they never accept what I say, I'm not taken seriously. Rinse and repeat. | Attractive voice, women think I'm a player, I'm not a player, they never accept what I say, I'm not taken seriously. Rinse and repeat. | 3,371 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Was I wrong?
POST: Using a throwaway account just in case.
I may have fucked up badly. I've been dating a girl for about a year and a half now and we started talking about moving in together. I'm reluctant to do so for a few reasons, one of the main ones is the condition she keeps her place in. I'm not a neat freak or anything but I do try to keep my place clean and tidy.
I went to her place on Saturday before she woke up (I have my own key) and it was just a pigsty. Her place is always messy and it's something I've talked to her about before. I've cleaned and tidied it for her on a few occasions, thinking that if I led by example, it would inspire her. She is sick a lot (asthma, cold and flu) and part of the reason I believe is the condition of her apartment.
On Saturday, Their was garbage all over the floor, dirty dishes everywhere (some with mold) clothes thrown everywhere. Her grocery shopping was left on the floor and not put away and the place stank. She also has pets and they weren't being kept properly either.
I was angry as this is no way for someone to live. I told her how I felt about this and that I wouldn't come to her place if this was the condition it was in. It just got to me as this was something we'd talked about before. I didn't raise my voice or threaten violence or anything like that (she knows that's not the kind of man I am.) I just tried to calmly explain my reasoning. I have a non Canadian accent (I'm an immigrant), and when I get angry it gets thicker which is the only way someone could tell the difference.
I told her I wasn't going to stay there that day and was going home. We haven't talked since which is unusual for us. I did send her a text on Saturday night wishing her a good shift at work but with no response.
I guess my question to Reddit is was I being unreasonable? I've started very early stages of looking into buying a house and living together but this was one of the sticking points.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend is a bit of a slob and I'm not happy about it. Confronted her about it and now I'm worried I've messed everything up. Sorry about the length but I feel context is important. | Girlfriend is a bit of a slob and I'm not happy about it. Confronted her about it and now I'm worried I've messed everything up. Sorry about the length but I feel context is important. | 4,542 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Married 7 years. Just bumped into ex. Please prevent me from making a colossal mistake...
POST: OK, here we go. Wind back the clock 10 years. "N" just dumped me after a series of falling outs. Turns out she'd been seeing "J" on the sly through a friends of friends thing; i.e. no physical contact, but both fancied the pants of each other. To her credit, she dumped me before laying a finger on him.
I'm now married, as is she. No kids to complicate things.
I was visiting the office next to hers (it turns out) and completely randomly bumped into her as she was heading out for lunch. Shock / surprise / awe all around and we go to a nearby coffee bar to get lunch & catch up.
So... long story short... we got along like a house on fire. It was as though we'd never broken up. We're talking long, lingering looks. Sly smiles. Random hand on knee action. The whole lot. Every feeling I ever had for her returned in a heartbeat; I'm pretty sure the feeling was mutual. We finished up lunch, had an awkward peck-on-the-cheek and agreed to be in touch "soon". She gave me her cellphone number (she tapped it into my phone).
My sensible side tells me I'm being an idiot and the "fuck around with the ex" effect is kicking in. and I mean in a sexual way; you know "friends with benefits" and all that. On the other hand, I don't think I ever got over her and all sorts of rekindling has just happened. I think it might be mutual.
I'm fucked-up Reddit. I think I just need to delete the number and bury these phoenix feelings. What do you think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met with ex. Still fancy the ass of her. Think feeling is mutual. We're both married to other people. Help! | Met with ex. Still fancy the ass of her. Think feeling is mutual. We're both married to other people. Help! | 5,854 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [17M] girlfriend [17F] doesn't want to go out with me since 2 weeks, after plans for going abroad studying together.
POST: First of all, let me elaborate on the whole plan of studying together. We're moving from where we live now with full support from both mine and her parents. That isn't the problem. The problem is that we haven't gone out in 2 weeks now, and I'd want to discuss everything a bit more with her, but I don't find a phone call suitable. Last week she's been busier with stuff I haven't asked about, and we usually chat after 1am. 3 nights ago we chatted till 6AM.
Every time I approach the situation she gets mad and tells me she won't do something she doesn't feel like doing (going out) and usually ignores me for 2 days after that. Yesterday came some good news and after acting a bit cold to her she asked me if everything's alright and I told her I don't feel like talking, after which she said that she understands and will leave me alone.
She has told me before that she likes to deal with her problems alone, but I can't cope with that, and it's super annoying because every time I start talking about this she gets annoyed and ignores me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF avoids going out with me for 2 weeks because she doesn't FEEL like it, gets mad when I ask her why, all after we decided to go studying abroad. | GF avoids going out with me for 2 weeks because she doesn't FEEL like it, gets mad when I ask her why, all after we decided to go studying abroad. | 205 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[18m] have found out my ex girlfriend [18f] has cheated on me with atleast eight different people. I am a bit confused on my feelings. The relationship lasted a year.
POST: I went out with her for a year, she took my virginity it was a nice relationship. She had told me about her cheating on me at two different occasions. I decided to be the bigger person and forgive and forget.
Now I have found out that she had cheated on me with 4 random guys from parties, thats not that big of a deal, alcohol does that to people.
But the other four are my friends, and thats what hurts the most. One of them was bragging about it to my other friend. Who then told me. The other two confessed it about a week after the relationship. And the last one is now dating her. They started dating about 36 hours after we broke up.
With all of my friends it was more then one encounter.
I'm not even mad, I'm just kind of confused. I don't get it. How do I react in a situation like this. Everyone knew about her cheating on me yet didn't tell me. I feel just down. What do I tell my friends, that they're assholes? Or do I let it slide. Only two of them apologized. I feel disconnected. This is actually stupid.
I want to get mad but I can't. I have been cheated on in almost every relationship I have had. People cheat I get that. But my friends I really don't get.
On a plus note though one of the party guys bought me a big mac when I ran into him at McDonalds.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have been cheated on quite a bit. And my friends are the ones who helped her cheat and I am so confused on how to react. | I have been cheated on quite a bit. And my friends are the ones who helped her cheat and I am so confused on how to react. | 5,460 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Am i crazy? xpost from relationships
POST: I am a 20 M, she is a 21 F. We both attend university, and are both in the same classes. We met about 6 months ago, at the first sight I thought she was beautiful. We started talking more and more in class and it was going great, come to find out she has a boyfriend! I was devesated, I started to have some legit feelings for this girl! Through more conversation I have found out that she is in an abusive relationship. The past few weeks we have been getting even closer then before, you have to realize i see this girl 4 days a week for 6 hours straight. Is she trying to hint that maybe she likes me to? Maybe she wants out of her abusive relationship? Or am I just having some wishful thinking. Lately she has been more touchy towards me, touching my elbow when we talk and laugh playing footsies. So am I crazy? Is there a chance she could like me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like a girl in my class, found out she has a boyfriend, found out its abusive. We got closer. Could she like me? | I like a girl in my class, found out she has a boyfriend, found out its abusive. We got closer. Could she like me? | 497 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What can you do if your company you paid for your domain name let it lapse just one month after you paid for it?
POST: A bit of back story. I have been using this company to register my domain and host my site for years. Its a little site, nothing special, just my home business. I am really attached to my domain name, so when I returned to school I kept up payments but didn't keep much of a website (just the basic info on some pages, more brags than business)
The company billed me for the hosting automatically. That reminded me I should update a couple of pages. It was gone, and it was parked! I did a whois and found they bought it less than a month after I paid last year for two years. I did update a couple of pages after I paid last year so it was working for a bit.
I contacted the company and they were snarky. They said that the CC payment hadn't gone through on the 24th of may.. which was true, for some reason the CC company thought using the CC online was suspicious, due to the fact it had never been used for that before. It was cleared up and worked the next day. I pointed out to them that the second payment had gone through. Got a snarky reply that I had no idea what I was talking about and I must not have got the "it didn't work email"
So the CC was contacted and provided a statement for that month, which clearly shows the payment went through and was charged to the account. Armed with this knowledge I emailed them back saying I had the statement, and would a scan do or did they need it mailed to them.
That was 2 weeks ago. What should I (can I) do? I am just so bummed I really liked that domain name.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I paid for two years hosting, they took my money didn't renew my domain name. What, if anything can I do. Bummed my name is now parked. | I paid for two years hosting, they took my money didn't renew my domain name. What, if anything can I do. Bummed my name is now parked. | 768 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with my gf [16 F] 8-9 months. she's always too busy to see, affecting me emotionally. is this selfish? what should i do?
POST: of course i love her, and all i wanna do is be with her, ya know "young love" and all that shit. but every time i ask to see her, or go out, or come round i always get denied because she's too busy, always because of family and her part time job and college. we haven't seen each other in over a month and every time i try to compromise she responds with i don't know or we'll see. She doesn't text much but responds to mine, we rarely get to see each other at all. the last time was around a month ago. before that i can only remember seeing her a few times over the space of 3-4 months and only for about 2-3 hours. the thing is she says she really wants to see me too.
But it really gets painful for me and does affect me because i tend to overthink things. It also makes me feel selfish sometimes because all i'm doing is messaging her and it starts to feel like i'm annoying her because of her response times. and it feels as if she doesn't appreciate me as much as i appreciate her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | we never get to see each other, she's always too busy. i'm always trying to compromise and find a way, she 'doesn't know'. we haven't seen each other in ages. | we never get to see each other, she's always too busy. i'm always trying to compromise and find a way, she 'doesn't know'. we haven't seen each other in ages. | 2,340 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my friend [20 F] of 1 year, Interested in dating her
POST: Around this time last year I met a girl in one of my classes and we became acquainted. A short time later she was talking to me about how she was struggling in her chemistry class and I offered to tutor her in it since that's my major and I'm pretty good at it. So I help her out and she's grateful, I'm attracted to her but she has boyfriend at the time so nothing happens but we become decent friends. Anyways after class went out over the summer we didn't talk much up until a month ago when she suddenly starts talking with me again and is asking me to take classes with her next quarter. So I do and we start getting very close texting every day, flirting, and such but I don't have a chance to see her due to conflicting schedules. I also learn that she recently broke up with her boyfriend.
Then two weeks ago class starts and a week later she starts acting kind of disinterested. Which sucks because I've just realized I like her and want a relationship with her. We still get along great when we're together, she just acts a little weird when we text and we no longer do it as often.
I'm going over to hang out/tutor her later today and was wondering if anyone had tips on how I should act around her, assuming I'm still interested. Confessions typically end poorly, correct?
Some other stuff to note is she has never told me about her boyfriend, I found out they were together and had broken through one of her friends and a picture on her facebook (she had her relationship status hidden). Also I asked her out to dinner last week and she said "We can if you want" Or something like that. And she is extremely shy, much more so than any girl I've ever known.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend ended her relationship a few weeks ago and I'm interested in dating her. I'm new to dating and need advice. | Friend ended her relationship a few weeks ago and I'm interested in dating her. I'm new to dating and need advice. | 2,315 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I want to look into some education options for system administrators. Can someone elaborate on my options for me?
POST: A little bit of background for you. I graduated with a bachelor's in technical writing but did tech support for Dell for about a year before getting into my tech writing gig. I've always been the guy that is never sure what his strengths are, or what he wants to do for the rest of his life. I know I love computers and after transferring out of my tech writing position into a sales position, I know that I want out.
I have the option of going back to my old job, but even then I don't really see myself there long-term. I am looking at some AA degrees from my local community college.
In case you are still with me, here is my dilemma. I know I am a professional adult who is employable, but I don't know which field really interests me. The available tracks are: cisco and telecommunications, Microsoft certified systems engineer, unix/linux system administration. Unix/Linux admin & MCSE interests me more than Cisco. I'm very interested working in a Windows environment (but that is probably just because what I am used to... I rarely use linux).
Thoughts? Advice? All is appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i want the education to become a system admin, but I have no idea what I want to do. Seeking advice to diagnose my strengths/interests in an effort to launch myself into a new career. | i want the education to become a system admin, but I have no idea what I want to do. Seeking advice to diagnose my strengths/interests in an effort to launch myself into a new career. | 1,571 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Rejected from Grad School...don't know where to start
POST: This is more of a simple vent to relieve my mind.
I live in Pennsylvania and just graduated with a B.S. in Psychology. I applied to grad school for addictions counseling in Oregon, hoping the acceptance into the program would provide a good chance for me to establish myself and my girlfriend in a new area. I most likely got rejected because my gpa is a 3.0 and I didn't pursue an internship (couldn't afford to commit to an unpaid internship).
I still want to move out to Oregon, though I realize it will probably take a little longer now that we'd have to start working right off the bat instead of pursuing our master degrees. I'm going to apply to other programs for the upcoming spring and possibly some social work programs, but it's definitely a tad discouraging.
What I've found to be frustrating in my research to find a job with my degree, which I'm sure there are many others in my position, is that it's incredibly difficult to attain an entry level position when they require experience in order to be considered.
I looked at how to get CADC certified to be a substance abuse counselor...but it seems that I need at least 2-3 years of experience before I can achieve the certificate.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got rejected from grad school and finding an entry level position in substance abuse counseling appears next to impossible. I'll land on my feet and figure something out, I'm just a little lost | Got rejected from grad school and finding an entry level position in substance abuse counseling appears next to impossible. I'll land on my feet and figure something out, I'm just a little lost | 5,565 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My friend [25M] is not conventionally physically attractive, but has a great personality. Advice for how to support his love life?
POST: One of my oldest friends has just been dumped after a brief series of dates, the first he's had in a long while. He's very upset.
He has bad teeth, is overweight and has some other physical issues (acne etc.). He is however a wonderful, sweet person with a very giving personality. He is gay, which means he is having to navigate dating in the very shallow world of Grindr male hookups and so forth. He barely ever gets any attention. I see him being passed over time and time again by guys who think he's a great friend but just can't see him in a romantic way.
I don't want to ask about how to solve this problem - obviously there's not any quick fix for this - but what would you do to help support and cheer up my friend after yet another rejection?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friend is a really great guy, but he has no luck dating because he doesn't look conventionally attractive. How can I support him and cheer him up? | My friend is a really great guy, but he has no luck dating because he doesn't look conventionally attractive. How can I support him and cheer him up? | 5,336 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Have you ever been frightened by a fellow co-worker's attitude/disposition?
POST: There's an employee who works for us, I'll call him Dave.
Dave is slim build, but sports a large upper body, which is evidence that he works out a lot. he has an EXPLOSIVE attitude problem, and the fact that most of the time he walks around eerily silent gives me a bad feeling about him.
I am a supervisor and was promoted before him. understandably this can be frustrating for someone with less experience to gain a higher position, but the thing is, Dave NEVER does anything to better himself or his standing within the company. He constantly does the bare minimum and will not do anything outside of his position for anyone. He also refuses to take shifts he's not scheduled for unless it's usher (he refuses to work concession or box, which is important for a someone in a supervisor position to do.) He expects that just because he's been there for a long period of time, he's going to get the position. But I digress.
Dave tends to "hold things in;" things that are bothering him or that he doesn't agree with, and then proceeds to PROJECT his anger and agression out on myself and a number of other managers. He does this by stomping around, breathing hard, and balling up his fists and speaking with severe upward inflections. There's a possible new supervisor position opening up soon because we just lost someone, and I am terrified after he doesn't get it (there's not way he's getting promoted because of the reasons stated earlier, plus his inability to deal with stress without screaming and acting aggressive) That he's going to come in and shoot up the place, or PHYSICALLY hurt someone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Employee has an explosive attitude problem, and I'm fearful he's going to hurt someone after he doesn't get the possible supervisor position opening up. | Employee has an explosive attitude problem, and I'm fearful he's going to hurt someone after he doesn't get the possible supervisor position opening up. | 4,607 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [19F] My boyfriend's [25M] mom is controlling
POST: Background: My boyfriend and I have known each other for a year and have been seeing each other for about 5 months. We recently made our relationship official. His dad died about 6 years ago, and as a result still lives with his mom to take care of her. We live an hour and a half away from each other so we can only see each other on the weekends. He usually comes to my place and stays for the whole weekend.
The problem is that his mom always wants him to be home with her. When he's with me she will constantly text him telling him that he needs to clean/do chores, give her rides, and even to come home. She questions him about where he is and why he's gone all weekend. When I asked him why she does this, he said that it's because she's alone in the house, but he is with her all during the week and his sister comes home from another city for the weekends. He isn't a mamma's boy and isn't over-attached to her, but he will sometimes leave my house early because his mom expects him to be home at a certain time. I feel frustrated because he is old enough that he doesn't need his mom to monitor and police him! I want to say something about it, but it isn't my place to get involved with him and his mom's relationship. I also feel somewhat selfish; his poor mom is a widow and I'm sure her wanting him to be home has to do with his dad's passing. I don't want to keep him from his mom at all, but I know this will become more of a problem as our relationship progresses, especially if we want to get serious.
How should I handle this? As I said I want to confront him about it before it becomes a bigger problem, but I can't help but feel it isn't my place and I'm not sure how to go about it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend's widowed mom always wants him to be home. I don't know how to confront him without feeling selfish. | Boyfriend's widowed mom always wants him to be home. I don't know how to confront him without feeling selfish. | 1,127 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] am in the middle of a really weird situation with two of my friends [19F][19M].
POST: So recently my friend (the other guy) and I seem to have a crush on the same girl (our other friend). I know I have a crush on the girl, and he has told me and badically everyone aloud that he has a crush on her too. The thing that makes this situation weird(er) is that this girl has a very long distance boyfriend, and you can tell things aren't working out.
The three of us have been hanging out a lot lately and we usually watch movies all night/into the morning and she will sit in between both of us and we all share one big blanket. The thing is, that while watching these movies she has been wrapping her foot around mine/playing light footsy and putting her hand on my leg, under the blanket.
This last night/morning however when she put her foot and hand in the same places, I reciprocated and put my hand on her leg/over her arm. Ever so slowly, we gradually ended up holding hands, like two people normally would, tightly intertwined. Obviously this is a weird scenario, but upon unlocking hands to get up or shift positions or change movies, we would end up holding hands again and again.
I didn't think the situation couldn't get anymore confusing or weird, but now we bring the other guy friend into the picture. He is a very arrogant and chauvinistic kind of guy, always flaunting his muscles and bragging about girls he gets with and what not. The thing is, periodically he will put his arm behind her, lying it on the back of the futon we share, and then gradually moving it to around her shoulder or waist. Take note that this is not her boyfriend (and neither am I) and she might honestly see it as friendly, even though that sounds absurd.
So yeah, that's my situation. Please don't lecture me on boyfriend/girlfriend ettiquette, I get it already. I just need advice/opinions.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my friend and I are "competing" for the same friend of ours. She has a boyfriend, but has been holding my hand/playing footsy with me during movies. | my friend and I are "competing" for the same friend of ours. She has a boyfriend, but has been holding my hand/playing footsy with me during movies. | 2,792 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[18 M] helped a girl go up a hill, now my gf [18 F] is really angry
POST: So there was a party last night and me [18M] and my friends were a bit drunk and decided to climb up a hill next to the place the party was held at. The hill was really snowy and quite steep. There was maybe 5 of us, including a girl who at one point stated that her legs are quite tired and she has trouble going on. So I felt like a real gentleman as I told her I could piggyback her up for the last 30 or so meters. So I did.
In my opinion, it's not a big deal at all, but having told this story to my girlfriend [18F], thinking it was no big deal (we've been together for over a year now and she wasn't at the party), she became really angry and at one point even told me she was going to leave me unless I stop justifying what I had done.
/r/relationships, what do you think about this situation? Do you think it is justified for my girlfriend to be that angry at me for a piggyback ride? I really love her and I couldn't imagine that she'd ever get so mad for a little thing like that.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I helped a girl go up a hill by offering her a piggyback ride, now my gf is really angry. | I helped a girl go up a hill by offering her a piggyback ride, now my gf is really angry. | 3,787 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] need to tell my choir director [30somethingM] that we're tired of him picking his favourite for solos.
POST: I sing in a small choir of 14 people. I act as the representative for the individuals of the choir. Usually this is just to represent our group at the board meetings. It's also under my position's description to bring any comments or concerns to my director so we can keep the rehearsals as a positive environment.
Our group has always had a focus on inclusivity and learning. We sing a wide range of music and have singers of many different backgrounds and skill levels. We're about a month away from a show and my director has been assigning the solos. We all give them a try and he picks who he thinks fits best. One of the girls who is very talented has almost half the solos. She's a brilliant singer, but some of the choristers are upset that we aren't diversifying and sharing the talents of the other members as well.
I'm struggling with how to bring this up to him in a positive way. I've known him for many years and I know he can be incredibly sensitive. I wanted to discuss this in person before or after rehearsal, but he carpools with one of the choir members and I think it's inappropriate to have the discussion in front of them. I've settled on an email, but I can't figure out how to phrase it. Any help or advice will be welcomed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I act as a representative for my choir and need to tell my director people are annoyed with him picking favourites for solos in our inclusive group. | I act as a representative for my choir and need to tell my director people are annoyed with him picking favourites for solos in our inclusive group. | 5,740 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by competing in a poetry slam on drugs.
POST: Years ago and all that.
I was at a music festival I've been going to for years, and competing in their poetry slam which I had done a number of times and had started to get recognized.
Now, I had just got a wisdom tooth removed and I was on painkillers.
For those of you who have never seen a poetry slam, it's multiple poets performing pieces and there are a number of judges that give you a score, top ten or so go to the next round, two or three rounds, and you can win things. These events are hosted by someone from the local poetry scene and they MC the event.
First round, I nailed it. Did a very long piece called Meladies that I'm rather proud of. It was a long double entendre about picking up girls and writing music. It's tasteful but boy is it suggestive. I was 3rd place out of maybe 20 in the first round.
Second round, I go immediately after a girl who did an amazing and moving piece about equality and fair treatment.
It should be noted here that the co host of this particular slam was a rather attractive poet that I most definitely had a thing for at the time. She even seemed a little wooed by my first piece! Score!
So it's my turn, and me, trying to get some cool points with aforementioned co host, say "Man let's give it up to these hosts, they're killing it."
Dead silence. Awkward.
I do my second piece, nothing in particular, just some rhythm and rhyme. Decent scores, snaps during it and all that.
Then the co host girl gets up and says "Uh did you say hoes or hosts?"
Apparently I slur my words when I'm on drugs. I already looked like a man slut after lines like "I can cop two in a pinch, at the same time like, wanna split a seven inch?" and "So I started rhyming, bumping that back seat rhythm, cus I have a way with words, then I have my way with them." Then I call a girl a hoe after she does a passionate piece about equal rights.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Called a girl who just did a very passionate poem about equality a hoe because I was on painkillers, thus ruining my chances at winning the slam and my chances at getting some action. | Called a girl who just did a very passionate poem about equality a hoe because I was on painkillers, thus ruining my chances at winning the slam and my chances at getting some action. | 5,052 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I don't want to screw anyone over, but I need to move out.
POST: Hi Redditors!
I've been living with my roommates now for 6 months and it's been great. We went to high school together and being roommates was something we talked about for a long time.
I have a stable job, but it's not the same job I had when I first moved in, so rent has become slightly difficult to pay. Because of that, my roommates had to cover partly for me last month, and I still feel horrible about it.
Recently another friend of mine that I've grown closer to offered to let me move into her apartment for half of what I'm paying now.
I brought this up to one of my roommates and he wasn't too thrilled. He said the lease was just renewed. I thought if I left, I can make room for one who could pay rent and not leave them to cover a balance.
One of my roommates has his girlfriend over practically living with us on a daily basis and I asked about her chipping in for rent. They replied that her and her boyfriend would just split his current share because the rent amount is designated by room space. If all of us (5) split the rent and utilities right down evenly, it would drop each of our expenses by $100.00.
But it's not all about the money. I have to walk 3 miles to the closest bus stop and summer is coming (reverse stark). I would then only have to catch One bus instead of three to get to work.
Thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Rent is difficult to pay. Don't want to keep screwing over roommates. By leaving an I still screwing them over? | Rent is difficult to pay. Don't want to keep screwing over roommates. By leaving an I still screwing them over? | 5,225 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] with my ex [20F] had a son together. Was together 2 years broke up. Can't get over her
POST: Basically I was with my ex girlfriend for over 2 years and I was madly in love with her (still am) I just can't get over her even though we broke up over a year and a half ago. It isn't as easy as cutting off all contact with her because I want nothing more than to be a good father to my son so that means constant contact. I think about her every single day and knowing that she doesn't feel the same way crushes me and send me into a state of depression.
I feel like there is no one else out there. Sometimes it gets to the point I feel like dis appearing for good. I have nobody to talk to. All my time is spent up with working during the week and then spending time with my son at weekends so my social life is thst no existent I'd go so far as to say I have no friends. I just feel I'd be better off not being around
What hurts the most it was such a stupid reason we broke up. I know she is over me because I've tried to tell her how I feel and she has just knocked me back and told me she doesn't feel the same way. Even writing this has knocked me for six.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Can't get over the mother of my son. Making me feel depressed. Can't cut out contact because I want to be a good father. Have no one to talk too. She is over me. | Can't get over the mother of my son. Making me feel depressed. Can't cut out contact because I want to be a good father. Have no one to talk too. She is over me. | 5,928 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Interviewing for over a month for a position I just learned (during my f2f interview on Monday) had already been filled. They said they couldn't decide between our candidacies so they're looking to hire us both.
POST: This is my first post, so I apologize if this has already been touched on. I couldn't find a similar post so here goes:
I was recruited for and have been interviewing for a position for about a month. They seemed highly enthusiastic, I made myself extremely available for interviews so that they all happened in relatively rapid succession in mid July and they asked that I come in for a face to face. The job is in the Netherlands (I live in the UK) so I bought a ticket to meet the first week of August.
The interview went great. I met everyone in the small company, we got along famously... and then they mentioned that one of the guys I had just met had been hired a few weeks before and technically filled the position I had been interviewing for BUT that they had been unable to choose between the two candidacies so they were looking to hire us both.
I don't know what to make of this situation. How did this guy get hired so quickly? Does this mean I will be considered expendable if the company realizes an extra person is unnecessary? Most importantly, should I email the interviewer and vocalize my concerns? If so, how should I phrase it?
It's worth noting that at the start of all this, they emphasized that they needed someone who spoke French (this guy doesn't, but I do) and that they were interested in branching out into social media if I would be interested in taking on the challenge (but in the f2f interview, I was told there was already someone who did that and "maybe I could help him"). I don't have loads of experience in the working world yet and I tend to just be grateful someone wants to hire me, but now I'm afraid I'm being scammed or led on (or maybe I'm just overthinking it and being excessively paranoid)...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Interviewing for a position that I found out in my face to face interview had already been filled but they want to hire me too. I am concerned I will be expendable. Also noticed other inconsistencies with the job responsibilities. | Interviewing for a position that I found out in my face to face interview had already been filled but they want to hire me too. I am concerned I will be expendable. Also noticed other inconsistencies with the job responsibilities. | 1,759 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, am I a horrible son?
POST: My mom just told me that we would be going skiing for a trip on spring break, and she wanted to surprise me. I am a senior in High School, and I am desperately trying to save money for college. I work 30 hours a week during the school year, and it has me exhausted 24/7, so I love any opportunity to be able to work when school is out. She did this during winter break as well, both times I have been upset and thus made her extremely sad, making me feel like a shitty son. Not only that, but I now have to ask off work, when I am currently in the running for a promotion. I love her but she doesn't get it. Am I right to be mad?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mom scheduled a spring break trip for me and now I have to ask off work. I to mad, she got sad, and I feel like shit. | My mom scheduled a spring break trip for me and now I have to ask off work. I to mad, she got sad, and I feel like shit. | 3,693 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Zero enthusiasm despite meeting as close to "perfect" as I could hope.
POST: (Moved from /r/relationships)
Me 31M, her 26F. Backstory: A few years back I had a life altering break-up. Slowly picked myself and got back out there, had some fun with a few women on a strictly casual basis. I've been single (and near celibate) for roughly a year as I've been trying to find someone more girlfriend material than one night stand types, and due to my job I rarely run into anybody looking for more than an easy hook-up.
Recently, I met a girl through work who stopped me dead in my tracks. She's as close to physically perfect as I could think of, with a sweet personality too (if a little spacy).
After gauging our interactions I asked for her number which she seemed surprised but happy with. Knowing there would be at least one more work event where we would be together, I hesitated initiating anything as I would hate to make things uncomfortable professionally.
On our second meeting at work she was showing signs of interest. At a separate event, colleagues in other departments mentioned how she wouldn't stop talking about me. If I left the building she would ask where I was, apparently as if she was worried I'd bailed on her without asking her out.
She went out of her way to find me as she was leaving, and while she was in my office, I told her I would love to take her out sometime. She smiled, got a little shy again but said to text her and let her know.
For some reason, I'm not really that bothered. I don't get the buzz from messaging her, and I really can't find the motivation to actually do anything more than the run of the mill first date, despite how attractive I find her.
How can I pick myself up a bit and try to make a go of this? It seems really strange how little effort I feel like expending and I think I might be missing out of I don't.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Off the dating grid for a while. Met a sweetheart of girl, but I can't get any enthusiasm towards dating her. | Off the dating grid for a while. Met a sweetheart of girl, but I can't get any enthusiasm towards dating her. | 3,715 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Is it normal that we haven't had a fight? I'm [19/f] and he's [23/m]
POST: Hi guys. I'm currently in an LDR with a really amazing guy. It's pretty fresh, although we've known each other for over a year. We started dating at the beginning of this year, so we've been together 4-5 months give or take. I realize it's fresh and all, and maybe I just need to give it time, but we haven't had a single argument, fight, or disagreement. I mean, it's not that I *want* one, it's just that I find it odd.
Is it normal? I know everyone says arguing in relationships is completely normal, some people say it's abnormal to *not* fight, but we just haven't. We're both pretty mature and rational, we're both kinda loners and don't do much besides working and talking to each other, and we have quite a lot in common, so I guess there really isn't any reason for us *to* fight but I just feel like it's kinda weird.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | in the 4-5 months we've been together my bf and I haven't had a single fight or argument or anything, and I'm curious as to if it means anything other than we have a pretty chill relationship | in the 4-5 months we've been together my bf and I haven't had a single fight or argument or anything, and I'm curious as to if it means anything other than we have a pretty chill relationship | 67 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Has anyone fooled a huge group of people with a dumb fact?
POST: My experience was back in high school during the week that stride gum came out. I figured that since it was something new and different it would be easy to fool people into thinking something ridiculous about it.
One day i am sitting in the cafeteria with a pack of stride gum and I think up the perfect story. I turn to my friends and say "Did you guys know that Stride gum wrappers are edible?" and of course they laugh and call bullshit, but i do not back down so easily. "Watch!" i say as i stick a peppermint stride, wrapper and all, into my mouth and begin to chew. After about 30 seconds, i take the gum out, and to my amusement, the wrapper disappeared! the look of amazement on their faces made me feel like my mission was accomplished.
Weeks pass by and i had almost forgotten about my prank when i take out a pack of stride gum in class and the girl next to me says, "Did you know you could eat the wrapper on those things?" i thought she had heard about my prank so i chuckled and asked her to show me. so she took some gum and chewed it took out the gum and showed the missing wrapper. I asked her how she knew this, and she told me a name i hadn't heard before. It made me wonder how far this thing went, so i started seeing how far this prank went. I asked around if people knew that stride gum wrappers were edible and to my surprise, the whole school knew, and most of them believed it! to this day i keep finding the news spreading. From different cities and states people will still tell me that they have heard about the edible wrappers!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i convinced a few friends that stride gum wrappers were edible, and found out later that my prank had spread to different states | i convinced a few friends that stride gum wrappers were edible, and found out later that my prank had spread to different states | 5,167 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend[20m] told other girl we were on a break when we are not, girl sends me[18f] the texts and I don't know what to do. (Text pic inside)
POST: I left for a trip to Ohio today and everything was swell. I was traveling and I get a text from a girl I know talks to my boyfriend a lot. She seemed kind of sketchy but my boyfriend assured me they were just friends even though I saw the flirty texts between them.
I told him multiple times that I don't like that they text all the time because it seemed like something more, but he assured me nothing was going on. So anyway I get a text from her today asking if me and my boyfriend and I are on a break and I said of course not! Then she sends me this ( white is him, blue is her)
I am dumbfounded. I knew he was being weird with this girl but I had no idea to this extent. He always deleted the texts they had, so I never knew. Her feelings are hurt, and mine are too. He's begging for my forgiveness saying that hell change and what not , but I don't know what to do. We've been together an entire year coming up next week, and he's giving me all kinda of excuses.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend told other girl that we were on a break when we're not and invited her to a party, while I'm on vacation. | boyfriend told other girl that we were on a break when we're not and invited her to a party, while I'm on vacation. | 2,850 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with my FWB [29M] of 9mos, falling for him as he's drifting away. Talk to him or walk away?
POST: When we started out, we made it clear we just wanted to be FWB. It was fun, the sex was good, and it's simpler than dating. We never even explored the concept of dating because we felt like the timing was wrong (both very focused on our careers) but the implication was that we were fundamentally incompatible.
There were times we tried walking away, wanting to see other people. When I tried to, he'd start becoming really sweet and playful. When our attempts at dating failed, we just go back to before. A part of me thinks maybe those relationships also failed because we wanted to continue... or not. who knows.
Recently, he made a comment about a colleague of ours being pretty... and that annoyed me. I thought it was benign until I noticed we were doing it less. One day, he just blurted to me that he wants to try and ask this other girl out. That broke something in me. I've been unable to sleep since then. I can't stop thinking about him.
It doesn't make much sense. Sex is good but not passionate. We don't cuddle or hug. It's almost transactional. But, he is a good-looking, nice and intelligent. He has been there for me through some tough times. I don't understand why I feel like this.
Am I just scared of losing something good? Do I really feel anything for him? If I do, should I talk to him or just walk away?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We've been comfortable as FWB for 9mos but I'm beginning to feel bouts of jealousy and have lost sleep over his intent to date. Help. | We've been comfortable as FWB for 9mos but I'm beginning to feel bouts of jealousy and have lost sleep over his intent to date. Help. | 449 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: I think I might have deep vein thrombosis and I cannot afford to go to the doctor.
POST: I've been researching signs and symptoms for awhile now, and I'm about 90% sure that I have deep vein thrombosis (a blood clot in my leg). I'm not going to bother going into all the symptoms and everything, 'cause it's kind of irrelevant.
The problem is that I need medical attention and cannot afford it. I don't have health insurance. I'm a college student, currently unable to find a job. My parents can't afford to help, either. My dad's income barely covers the household's needs and my mom just lost her job a few days ago.
I'm not stupid. If I have no other option, I WILL go to the emergency room and get this taken care of. But only after I've exhausted other options. I'm already going to be in student loan debt for a good chunk of my life, and the last thing I need are hospital bills. I'm living barely above comfortable on my student loans and savings from my summer job.
What are my options? Is there anywhere I can go that would be free, or even a little less expensive than the hospital?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need medical attention, don't have money. Want to know and understand my options before I commit to massive hospital bills. | Need medical attention, don't have money. Want to know and understand my options before I commit to massive hospital bills. | 1,110 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Is there a chance that I [19/m] am screwing this up with my (19/f) girlfriend?
POST: We've developed an extremely strong semi-long distance relationship. She only drinks on very few occasions and only smokes hookah every once in a while. I smoke weed/tobacco, drink, and do other drugs almost daily. She says she doesn't care, but I still refuse to smoke a tobacco product in front of her. We both fully plan on staying together throughout college and eventually ending up together. She seems to truly not care and we both believe that I will calm down as I develop more of a routine and grow up, and I believe that at this age if we are to stay together this age is the last chance I have to do these 'wild' things.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Do you believe that I should give up this habits right now, just in case she is bottling up feelings and actually DOES care about those things, or should I just allow myself to naturally quit? | Do you believe that I should give up this habits right now, just in case she is bottling up feelings and actually DOES care about those things, or should I just allow myself to naturally quit? | 966 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [24/m] I am that controlling boyfriend.
POST: Actually, I was that controlling boyfriend. I noticed it, but thought that it was just a little phase I was going through because of stress at work, past relationship experience, blah blah blah; but really, it doesn't seem like that was it at all.
It was pretty bad. I'd make mountains out of molehills, volcanoes out of mountains, and could find any reason in my head to think that she was deceiving me. Part of my personality is very analytic and I have a good memory, which didn't help at all. She would tell me about her day or a story from her past, and if something didn't add up I would prod and say things like, "yeah, but you also said..." or "but wait, didn't you do..."
It was bad, all bad.
The worst part is that in my head, I was sure that I was really in love with her and wanted her to have freedom. But in the back of my head, I was worried that deception is everywhere and its never that easy. I would get so sure of myself, becoming condescending while I told her what she was *really* thinking or did. Then, she'd finally get the straight story through to me and I'd start bawling and apologizing. I swore up and down that it wouldn't happen again, but it always would.
Well, the day after I called about enrolling in therapy, she dumped me. I deserved it 100% and I'm not here to ask how to get her back, because, frankly, it will never happen. But, I'm wondering what experience and insight I can find here to help me overcome this problem. I would like a healthy relationship in the future, but I am completely incapable of having one, as I am now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm a controlling person, going to therapy soon, but wonder what /r/relationship_advice can say to help me overcome this flaw. | I'm a controlling person, going to therapy soon, but wonder what /r/relationship_advice can say to help me overcome this flaw. | 20 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My [M20] girlfriend [F17] of 3 months wants to end things. Never brought up issues before.
POST: So this girl I have liked for a long time and I started dating 3 months ago. We were good friends before that and I suppose you could say that we had chemistry. We only see each other once a week due to school, but things seemed good at the beginning. After a while, it started to become awkward. The last few times we've hung out it has been difficult to keep a conversation going and when we do talk it feels forced (keep in mind that we had no trouble at all with this as friends and during the beginning of our relationship). For me, I believe this is because I have been locking my self in more and more as our relationship progressed, due to some insecurities I've had in the past and being self conscious about them.
Neither of us brought this up until she told me the other day that she thinks we should take a break. She expressed how it feels like the chemistry is gone, and when their is no emotional or physical aspect to our relationship (I'm pretty flexible with the physical side of things, but it's never been a priority for me since I figured when the time is right that will come naturally) that there isn't really anything there. The problem I have is that instead of bringing up the issue and trying to work on those issues together, she just want to immediately take a break. I understand that there are issues, and that since neither of us has brought them up until now that we are really lacking in our communication. I realize that we need to be more open with each other to get that chemistry back, I just feel as though it's something that we should work on rather than immediately moving on with.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend and I have not been communicating well, instead of wanting to work things out, she wants to take a break. Not sure what to do. | Girlfriend and I have not been communicating well, instead of wanting to work things out, she wants to take a break. Not sure what to do. | 415 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (17 f) boyfriend (18 m) for two months is choking me but not literally I NEED SPACE
POST: So hi, I have a problem or maybe I'm making a big deal about this but whatever... so I have boyfriend, we've been together for 2 months only and to me he's just amazing and he taught me things like mature stuff, he's 18 and I'm only 17 but he's really experienced and nice and cool and beautiful and every other thing else but...
So I broke up(?) I don't know if thats the right term but yeah, I broke up with my bestfriend because she told me the guy was a bad influence on me and after that its like everything she says was against him and I was so angry so I told her that our friendship was over. And I don't have any friends now except for my boyfriend's bestfriend which is a guy and yeah so everything in my life now is linked with him and we're not fighting or anything its just that I feel like I can't breathe anymore, I need space, but as I said everything in my life now is connected to him. I love him but I need something to myself... its my fault in the first place, I let him own me but now he's becoming a bit strict and wants me to stay by him always and I'm choking, I can't breathe.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my boyfriend (18 m) for two months is changing, becoming more strict and his strictness is choking me, i need space, but everything i have is linked to him | my boyfriend (18 m) for two months is changing, becoming more strict and his strictness is choking me, i need space, but everything i have is linked to him | 3,337 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Sex Issues in an Otherwise Great Relationship
POST: My boyfriend and I (both 27) have been living together and dating for about two years (we started out as friends who lived together with another roommate.) I am a girl. Just need some advice, thanks. :)
The problem is that he has always had a much lower sex drive than I do. We have sex maybe 3 or 5 times a month, and when we do it is usually satisfying for both of us. But he usually just says he is too tired or that he wants to get up early so he has to sleep instead of sex, or some other barely-believable excuse. I basically just have to wait for him to initiate sex. He claims to be very attracted to me and I am extremely attracted to him.
I still feel a lot of pressure to initiate sex and seduce him, even though when I do it rarely works which usually ends up with me being all excited for no reason. There is a constant conflict in my mind about whether or not to attempt any seduction and risk the rejection.
This whole situation is slowly eroding my self-esteem and I feel like I am acting like a different person more and more. I have talked to him about it but he takes it very personally (understandably) and I basically have to accept him how he is or break up.
Is this a bad reason to break up? Could this be caused by his alcoholism? Has anyone found any effective ways to deal with such a situation? Masturbation is not nearly as satisfying, emotionally or physically, as sex with my SO.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend has a low sex-drive and I am considering ending our relationship even though that is the only problem in it. | Boyfriend has a low sex-drive and I am considering ending our relationship even though that is the only problem in it. | 1,807 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20M] Girlfriend [21F] of 8 months health is deteriorating due having anxiety attacks ~3 times a day and feels completely alone in dealing with them.
POST: I'll attempt to keep this brief and to include all important information
This is my Girlfriends first real relationship, we moved in together very quickly after getting together and things as of the last few weeks have been spiralling quickly downwards.
We have always been to talk very openly about our relationship and about each other.
As of late she has lost trust in me and she catches herself questioning everything I say, she is worried to open up to me as she is concerned I will get annoyed or upset.
She has a history of depression and panic attacks neither of which have been a problem until recently, now its usual to have ~3 panic attacks a day which is taking a toll on her health physically and mentally. She hasn't been eating and when she does it results in her throwing it all back up.
She has nobody she feels comfortable opening up to and refuses to seek professional help as she has 'done it all before'.
We both want this relationship to work and she knows the situation at the minute isn't healthy for either of us. She can see that it is taking its toll on me also now which just upsets her even further.
She recognises that she doesn't balance the relationship with the rest of her life (work/study/friends/family) as I do leaving an in-balance in the relationship.
She recognises it would help if she could balance her life better and not be 100% consumed by the relationship.
I want to make sure she has somebody she can talk to outside of the relationship as I think it will help her get her thoughts straight.
What can I do or say to help her?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend feels consumed by relationship, is suffering from ~3 panic attacks daily from anxiety concerning the security of our relationship. I'm feeling incapable of helping her and need advice on how to break the cycle and help her? | Girlfriend feels consumed by relationship, is suffering from ~3 panic attacks daily from anxiety concerning the security of our relationship. I'm feeling incapable of helping her and need advice on how to break the cycle and help her? | 984 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 F] got asked out by a guy [23 M] I met on tinder after exchanging less than 10 messages. Is it too soon to meet up with him?
POST: So I met this guy on Tinder, and we seem to have some things in common. It also doesn't help that he's attractive. And he comes off as respectful as well. But the thing is, we only exchanged 10 messages with each other, to estimate. And within the 10 messages, he asked me out for coffee and for some reason, I agreed. Am I moving a little too fast? The exchange between us was within the span of 2 days.
Also, a part of me kind of liked how he asked me out right away because I talk to lots of guys on Tinder and I feel like the conversation drags on, leading nowhere. And by then, it would leave us with nothing to talk about by the time I actually meet up with them. Honestly, I don't know how online dating works, so I can't tell if it's too early or not but I have a good vibe about him? Have you guys ever met someone online right away? Was your gut feeling correct?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A guy from tinder asked me out for coffee even though we haven't been talking for too long. Too soon? | A guy from tinder asked me out for coffee even though we haven't been talking for too long. Too soon? | 1,149 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By asking my girlfriend what she wanted to eat.
POST: So today I get picked up from work by my SO, mind you she's a vegetarian. As soon as she picks me up I tell her I'm in the mood for some Wienerschnitzel which i haven't had in a really long time. Mind you she's ok with it and says she'll figure out something to eat. So as we get to our destination I go inside to get food and come back, and she's listening to her angry playlist. This playlists consists of My Chemical Romance, Nirvana, and System of a Down to name a few. When I ask her what she's going to eat she totally ignores me, ok i thought maybe she didnt hear me over the sound of the music. Again, I ask this time louder and she totally ignores me. So at this point my mind is racing Wtf did I do? We drive straight home and she gets out of the car slams the door and goes to the apartment only she can't get in because she dropped her house keys and I picked them up. (Insert evil laugh) she goes back to the car for what I assume is to look for her keys and by this time I'm in the kitchen eating my food and typing this on mobile.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went to get some Weinerschnitzel come back to my gf car only for her to be totally pissed off. Why? I have no idea. | Went to get some Weinerschnitzel come back to my gf car only for her to be totally pissed off. Why? I have no idea. | 4,647 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I (F22) hooked up with a guy (M25) and am not sure what I could/should potentially expect now?
POST: I'm in need of some advice! Disclaimer though, I know not everyone agrees with casual sex, but all that matters is that I am and that I am safe about it. Please no judging on that aspect :)
This last weekend while out I ended up meeting a guy and we found out we had some mutual connections,we danced, hit it off (both were drinking though) and I walked home with him to his place. He got my number before we went to his place.
Obviously, we hooked up and he said a lot of "sweet" things (like constantly mentioning that he loved what was happening and that he really liked me a lot - I know that can't be entirely true though as we only had just met). After we were done, he kept mentioning that sex with me was the best and I said that I should probably go home as I didn't want to overstay, but he told me not to worry and to spend the night.
In the morning, he kept on cuddling up to me while we were both awake and we kind of just lingered in bed for about an hour because we both weren't feeling 100%. I was going to walk home, but he insisted on driving me, so I let him. There was just small talk in the car about plans for the day (what we were each doing) and about how we both didn't even plan on going out the night before.
Before I got out of the car, he double checked to make sure he got my number.
My question I guess is - do you usually hear from guys like this again? I guess because of the cuddling in the morning, and some comments he made during the night and then the checking to make sure he got my number are throwing me off a bit. I know this very well could be a one night stand, but what do you think from a listeners POV? It's only been almost three days since I last saw him.
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | ) Hooked up with a guy, he was nice, not sure if there's a chance I could hear from him again or was he just being nice because he felt like he had too | ) Hooked up with a guy, he was nice, not sure if there's a chance I could hear from him again or was he just being nice because he felt like he had too | 2,432 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18F] am about to start school with my boyfriend [18M] and I'm wondering how to bring up spending less time together
POST: Don't get me wrong, I adore my boyfriend, let's call him S. S and I have been together for about a year, high school sweethearts of a sort. He's one of my best friends and at this point we're considering marriage. I realize we're really young and anything could happen, but I think we have some potential. We've been really lucky over the past few months in being able to spend a part of almost of every day together. I love being around him and he's a great guy.
So here's the problem. I'm going to school to become a veterinarian, which means a LOT of work. He's going to a different university in the same town, so we're at least close to each other. But honestly, at this point, school is absolutely my priority. I love S, and I definitely want to stay together, but how do I communicate that I need more time away from him to accomplish my goals?
I think it's a little too harsh to tell him that he comes after school. I don't even know if that's true. Thinking about this confuses me and I don't want to harm our relationship in any way. Help!!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm about to commit to a lot of schoolwork, which means less time with my SO. How to I communicate the need for more time away from him without hurting him? | I'm about to commit to a lot of schoolwork, which means less time with my SO. How to I communicate the need for more time away from him without hurting him? | 3,354 |
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