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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 M] Have been talking to this girl [19F] for about Three weeks and I've got some questions.
POST: So I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks, and things have been going great between us. We met at a bonfire at a buddy's house, and we were set up through a mutual friend who was also there. She's a great girl and is just generally awesome. There have been some questions raised on my behalf. The first was that when the idea of a relationship was brought up, she stated that she was in fact interested in a relationship with me. I told her one day I'd like to make her my girlfriend and she said " That'd be really nice :)" which made me super happy, but she also said she wants to "see where things go between us" as she's busy with pledging a sorority and school/work... But one thing that raised a red flag in my book is that she mentioned that she's "Not very good with commitment". Now I was cheated on by my last girlfriend and this set off some alarms for me, but I'm not trying to let my past affect my future but I cant help but feel some anxiousness here. We've gone out on one date last week and things went great, and we haven't even kissed yet, but its obvious that we're both interested in each other. So I'm just coming to y'all for an outside opinion. What is this girl waiting for? and what does her fear of commitments mean?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl says she is interested, wants to see where things go and she is afraid of commitment. What do I do? | Girl says she is interested, wants to see where things go and she is afraid of commitment. What do I do? | 6,097 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by Sleeping Through a Threesome (NSFW?)
POST: Obligatory, happened a few weeks ago statement.
So a few weeks ago, an ex girlfriend of mine was in town for the weekend. We are pretty close friends still so we try to see each other whenever either one of us nearby.
This particular weekend we decided to hang out on a Saturday night. I had to work till about 10pm that night so I told her I would be able to hang out afterwards. I get home, get changed, text her, and no reply. "No worries" I thought, she's probably getting ready as well. Couple hours go by and I had given up on the thought that we would be seeing each other, so I proceed to put on some more comfortable clothes and play some vidya games.
Flash forward to 1am, I'm laying in bed watching a movie and I get a text from her saying "Where are you?" to which I reply "At home laying in bed. Where are you?". "I'm downtown but I'm going to leave soon."
Now for the fuck up. Old Man Alatar falls asleep right after I read the last text. I sleep like a damn rock, nothing can wake me up, not even 4 text message tones of Captain Falcon yelling "SHOW ME YOUR MOVES!" or receiving 2 phone calls to the theme from "Django".
I wake up the next morning to texts saying that her and her friend and going back to her house and I should come over. Also stating that she is "really drunk and I guarantee that you will have a great time ;) ". I then rip my dick off and throw it into low orbit around the Earth and watch it burn up in reentry.
To add salt to the wound, I told my mother about the whole situation, and just like any good mother would, she laughed and said "It's probably for the best Alatar. You probably would have just embarrassed yourself anyways".
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Too old to stay awake past 1am, miss chance to have threesome with ex gf, get made fun of by my mother for it. | Too old to stay awake past 1am, miss chance to have threesome with ex gf, get made fun of by my mother for it. | 1,659 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I just lied about having a job...
POST: In May, I graduated from University after 7 years, 4 universities, and 3 road trips across the US. It feels fucking good man. It was a wild ride and I enjoyed it all. There was shit and there was happiness (a lot of both actually). I met some great people that have become family. After graduating, I decided to work one more summer for maintenance at the university. I have grown to hate my job and everything about it, so I decided last week that I was going to move home - something I had planned on doing in august. Today I told my friends that I got a job and that is the reason why I am leaving. Truth is, I don't have a job. I have three interviews in my home city. I'm excited about moving back because I love my city and my family and my friends. But I feel like shit that I lied to these people I consider family. I just didn't want to deal with them questioning me why I was leaving without a job. The problem with the lie - other than I love these people - is that I am a superstitious guy. I hope I didn't just fuck myself in the karma department and lost all three opportunities. Things will turn out alright, I just needed to tell someone.
Thanks for reading this wall of text.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I lied about having a job to my friends from university. I feel bad about it, and I think I jinxed myself for getting a job. Oh well. | I lied about having a job to my friends from university. I feel bad about it, and I think I jinxed myself for getting a job. Oh well. | 6,430 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend (23,F) is mad at me (24,M) for wanting to go to a family event with her?
POST: So my girlfriend's aunt has this party thing coming up in a couple months she told me about a while ago. She said I could come if I wanted, but stressed I didn't have to. I genuinely wanted to go because I knew it would make her happy to have me there. Since I have a bunch of friends in the city that the event is near, I figured it would be the perfect weekend to go see them as well as attend the party.
The location recently changed to a city about two hours away from where it was originally thought to be. Since I already told my friends I would see them that weekend, I hatched this new plan of going to see my friends on Friday and then hopping a bus to the city where the party is on Saturday, since my girlfriend won't be there until then anyway. I thought this was a no-brainer great solution, when I told her she seemed mad. She said "I'm just confused, it seemed like you originally didn't even want to go. All that traveling seems like a waste of money, it makes more sense just to stay with your friends." Now she just seems bitter and weird about it. So where did I go wrong? What does she actually want me to do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Trying to juggle seeing my friends and attending girlfriend's aunt's party, she is upset at my decision to do both. | Trying to juggle seeing my friends and attending girlfriend's aunt's party, she is upset at my decision to do both. | 3,340 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (m/23) feeling anxious ALL the time about things not working out with new GF (f/21) of 1.5 months
POST: Long story short: Was in a very, very unhealthy relationship in the past and have not been with anyone for about 2 years after it ended. Met "Jane" online and we developed/are developing very rapidly, emotionally, sexually, etc., and it already feels like the healthiest relationship I have ever been in.
Recently she told me she loved me (this is very soon I know, but like I said, rapidly developing) and it kinda freaked me out initially as that has never happened so quickly for me, but the more I thought about it the more I realized I felt the same way and also loved her.
So far the relationship has had virtually no problems, we are very similar in personality, have a lot of fun together, like to spend a lot of time together, we communicate our feelings well (maybe not me so much if I'm typing this right now...), are physically compatible, the list goes on. She is also VERY affectionate (which I love actually) and tells me fairly regularly how great she thinks I am, how happy she is we are together, and how she loves me.
Yet despite all the 'green flags' if you will, and all these great things she tells me, I'm CONSTANTLY anxious and worried about things not working out, or that things are going to just fizzle out.
I know she is being honest with me about how she feels, and when we are together things are fantastic, but every time I'm alone these worries seem to seep in. I just feel like after so many bad relationships this seems to good to be true, and have the constant thought in my head of "Yeah this is amazing, but surely something bad is going to happen, there's no way such a good thing can last."
Not really sure if I'm looking for advice or just venting, but I hate how anxious this makes me and wish I could just relax and enjoy what is so far a really, really great thing. I also wish I could just let go of my mistrust of other people and fully trust her emotionally.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cant shake thoughts that new relationship might be too good to be true, and will inevitably fall apart with my new girlfriend, despite all the really great things about the relationship. | Cant shake thoughts that new relationship might be too good to be true, and will inevitably fall apart with my new girlfriend, despite all the really great things about the relationship. | 4,552 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Feel like me and my GF are stuck in a "loop", could use some advice.
POST: My GF (23) and I (21), have been dating for 2 years and we had been acquaintances for a year or so before hand. We see a lot of each other and spend the night together 80+% of the time, whether at my place or hers.
We have had a recurring argument for a long time that comes up every 2 months or so about her perceptions our relationship, where she feels that I take her for granted, that she does so much for me that I don't seem to appreciate and that I'm not always there for her. Often the argument comes up after one of us has been away from the other for a couple days. I try to be supportive and talk it out with her because its important to me that I understand her frustrations and make sure it doesn't happen again but when we start getting to the root of the problem (this can take a very long time, since she is reluctant to talk about it) she tends to get more upset saying that explaining herself just makes her sound like the "bad guy". When I tell her that its really upsetting to me that she does this (It gives me the feeling that I've done something horribly wrong but it never gets resolved and I never get any indication of how to be a better BF for her) she shrugs it off and we go on until the next time this happens.
In the mean time she has been busier and busier with school, spending little time with friends, since her free time is usually spent with me (her choice) and our sex life has been less and less active.
I just feel like we're stuck in a loop and at the same time our relationship is faltering in other ways. I'm not sure what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend and I have recurring fight about me not living up to her expectations that goes unresolved despite my interest in laying it to rest. | Girlfriend and I have recurring fight about me not living up to her expectations that goes unresolved despite my interest in laying it to rest. | 1,784 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, have you ever saved someone's life or had an otherwise heroic moment? Brag here.
POST: I'll start.
One particularly hot Florida summer day (105+ F) my mom had picked me up from day camp and we set out to do some errands when we saw a red pickup weaving in and out of traffic. The driver was swerving all over the place, half in the other lane (2 lane highway), generally being reckless. It made its way a good bit ahead of us, angering basically every surrounding driver in the process, and then pulled over onto the shoulder of the road. My mom and I glared as we drove by only to see the driver crouched over, clutching his head in agony. We quickly pulled off the road, along with another driver, and tried to talk to the man but he just mumbled incoherently and was largely disoriented. He then got out of his truck and began to stumble into traffic, ignoring the other person offering him some water. He managed to cross the road, but by the time we could get across and follow him, he was nowhere to be found. We called the cops anyway, and waited for them to arrive and gave a statement and our contact information. Then we went about our errands, as we thought they had it under control. About 45 minutes later, we drive by the same spot on the way home and see the fire truck still there. We stopped to speak to them and they told us they couldn't find the guy and were about to leave, so my mom, being super thorough at everything she does, decided we should just drive through the surrounding neighborhoods and give it one more look, just in case and lo and behold, there he is passed out under a tree in someone's front yard. We let the cops know and they came and got him. Fast forward a few hours and one of the initial responders called to tell us that the man was a diabetic and his blood sugar had been dangerously low and he was slipping into a coma when we found him. Had we not spotted him, it's likely he would have died in the heat and then he thanked us for helping out. Made 11 year old me glow with pride all day.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Asshole driver turned out to be having major health problem, after he wandered off, I found him when the cops couldn't and he got medical treatment and lived. | Asshole driver turned out to be having major health problem, after he wandered off, I found him when the cops couldn't and he got medical treatment and lived. | 3,838 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [26/M] developing feelings for my very close friend [26/F] of 15 years.
POST: Hi /r/relationships, I'll keep this as short as possible. Thanks.
I've been close friends with this girl (call her *A*) since the 7th grade. We drifted apart for a couple years when she moved to the UK for school/work, but ever since her return in early 2014, we have re-kindled our friendship and have been hanging out regularly again.
Backstory on me - was in a 5 year (last year was long-distance) relationship which ended in July of 2014. Call my ex-gf *B*.
I've recently noticed that *A* and I have very very similar temperments and dispositions, the way we react to certain situations in life. It's uncanny, and to be honest, refreshing, since *B* and I had very different temperments which ultimately led to the end of our relationship.
Also, *A* lives, breathes, and radiates confidence. She knows exactly what she wants, when she wants it, how she wants it. In contrast, *B* self-admitted to having a handful of confidence issues (not my words, hers).
I find myself **intensely** attracted to *A* - she and I spent our New Year's Eve together in a very platonic manner. I wanted to kiss her at midnight, but my respect for her, and my fear of losing a great friend/friendship and scaring her away kept me from doing so.
Lastly (and probably not relevant), *A* and I dated in 7th grade for a few months. Ha ha ha.
WHAT DO I DO? Do I tell her? Do I not?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Crushing on a close friend (everything my ex-gf wasn't). Don't want to lose friendship. What do? | Crushing on a close friend (everything my ex-gf wasn't). Don't want to lose friendship. What do? | 5,188 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: F(23)-Feeling hopeless.
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for close to 4 years now, we have lived together for close to 2, and I feel like I have let myself go. When we first met, I was 20 pounds lighter and nearly never left the house without making sure I looked good. I took pride in the way I looked, now I hardly even wear makeup and even though my boyfriend loves me and constantly tells me how beautiful I am, I feel like I've let myself go and have no idea how to find the motivation to get back to finding myself again. I need help...I'm scared one day he will wake up and realize I'm not the fit, pretty girl he fell in love with.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | feel like I have let myself go since being in a long term relationship, I've lost the sense of worth and independence I had before. Suggestions? Feeling hopeless... | feel like I have let myself go since being in a long term relationship, I've lost the sense of worth and independence I had before. Suggestions? Feeling hopeless... | 804 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Kittens living in our ceiling - how to encourage them to leave?
POST: Hi /r/cats. You're my only hope! I don't really have experience with keeping pets so I figure you might be able to help.
A few months ago we've had a neighborhood cat give birth to kittens in our ceiling and they've been living there ever since. Mother cat comes to feed them quite often and the kittens, on the rare occasions when we see them, look quite healthy and happy.
No-one in the neighborhood owns mother cat and we do have a number of semi-feral cats in the area. I say semi-feral in that they take care of themselves but don't seem to react badly to humans (I don't know if this is the correct term). After doing some research, the advice is that it's best not to feed the kittens so that they don't form a dependency on humans and learn to hunt their own food. Apparently they'll eventually leave, after which I can board up the crawl-space they used to enter the ceiling.
I'd been fairly content to let them take up lodgings there but the room below is now starting to take on a musky odor which I assume is urine. I also have a young child and was told they can catch all sorts of nasty diseases from unvaccinated cats.
A few obstacles:
* The area where they're living is too narrow for a human to gain access.
* In my location (country/city), there is no such thing as animal services. One bit of advice I was given was just to poison them, which gives you an idea of the general attitude here. Obviously I'm not interested in that option.
I've tried enticing them out with food as well as putting up cat unfriendly smells (citrus, coffee, and the like). Nothing seems to work.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Kittens have taken up residence in our ceiling. No experience with keeping animals and no animal services in the area; it's just me and the internet. How can I encourage them to leave? | Kittens have taken up residence in our ceiling. No experience with keeping animals and no animal services in the area; it's just me and the internet. How can I encourage them to leave? | 2,799 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Is my recruiter looking out for my interests?
POST: This is my first time working with a recruiter. I've been working with her for a couple weeks and I'm not sure what's normal in this process. I live in San Antonio and the recruiter is in Dallas. She asked me to come up for an initial interview (Mon.) with her to make sure I was serious about moving to Dallas. Two days later she called me back to set up interviews (Fri.) with two companies. When I asked her if the companies will provide any relocation assistance or travel reimbursement she said no relocation and didn't address the travel reimbursement (I unfortunately forgot to ask her about the travel again because the topic shifted). She called me back for another interview with company "A" which they want to set up for next week. Company "A" recruits exclusively through my recruiter, so I know that I'm the only candidate they've asked back. When I asked my about travel reimbursement this time she said she didn't even ask the company because people don't provide that assistance at this level. Is that true or is my recruiter just looking out for the company's interest instead of looking out for me and the company?
Extra details:
I have a BA in Comparative Literature and 2 years of work experience.
My recruiter said she's been a recruiter for 13 years.
I told her that my minimum salary is $42,500 (unless the whole benefits package is really phenomenal and in that case $40,000). I was previously making $40,000. The two jobs she got me interviews with would offer $40,000 (I know that one of them has excellent benefits, but I don't know about Company "A")
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I just found out that my recruiter isn't even asking the companies about things like travel reimbursement and I'm having to travel 5 hr (600 miles round trip) for interviews. Is this normal? | I just found out that my recruiter isn't even asking the companies about things like travel reimbursement and I'm having to travel 5 hr (600 miles round trip) for interviews. Is this normal? | 1,963 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (19F) friend (19F) played a cruel 'prank' on me and someone else
POST: My friend Bethany (not actual name) was texting an acquaintance of ours. I see him frequently around the college campus and we occasionally talk but that's the extent of our interactions.
Anyway, she told me that he confessed that he likes me. I didn't know this so it was a surprise. She then told me that she thought it was funny to say that I coincidentally had a "surprise date" planned for Friday night. That's a lie. I don't have feelings for him and didn't plan anything.
She told me he was excited and asked her lots of questions. This isn't even my fault and I feel so awful! I got pissed at her for putting me in this situation. She said that it's just a harmless prank and that he's stupid for believing her. She gave him my number and he's been texting me ever since.
What the hell do I do? How can I tell him that I have NOTHING planned for Friday and my friend just pranked him? I am seriously contemplating whether I should play along and actually go on a date with him. I just feel so bad for him :(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friend told a guy that I planned on going on a date with him. I never planned anything at all. How do I get out of this situation without completely crushing him? | My friend told a guy that I planned on going on a date with him. I never planned anything at all. How do I get out of this situation without completely crushing him? | 3,214 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (30M) am having second thoughts about my GF (27F) of 1.5 years because my desire for children has diminished.
POST: I've been dating my GF for 1.5 years. It's been amazing. She moved in with me 2 months ago after 13 months of living an hour apart and although we initially fought a lot, we're starting to get the hang of sharing the same space.
She gets worried about things easily and always thinks about the worst case scenario. I'm working a great job right now as a pharmacist. She is finishing her last year of a Doctorate in Psychology and probably has 3 years before actually starting her career. She would prefer not to have kids until that point, but I absolutely DO NOT want kids until she has finished. It's very important to me that she has a career.
She is not on birth control so I use condoms. She always wants to have sex without them (so do I), but I insist. I feel like she interprets this as I don't want kids ever. When we met I was a 1-2 kids guy and she was a 2-5 kids girl. However, now I'm completely open to not having kids and am really soul searching about whether or not I want them or not.
I enjoy the life I currently live and don't know if I want that to change. I love my GF, but I want her all to myself. I want to be able to have fun and be spontaneous. She loves to travel and so do I. Most of my buddies have kids and I never get to hangout with them any more. It just seems like so much work that I'm not interested in.
I have no idea how/when to talk to her about this and know it will break her heart. She's an independent woman who knows what she wants. We've worked hard to keep this relationship together, but I worry that this would be a dividing point between us.
Thanks for any input.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Love my GF, may be changing my mind on whether I want kids, don't know how/when to broach the subject. | Love my GF, may be changing my mind on whether I want kids, don't know how/when to broach the subject. | 4,248 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [32M] with the mutual friends of an ex-fiance and the new girl(s) [31F] I'm dating...
POST: Was engaged 8 months ago.
Just starting dating again.
New girl and I have gone exclusive so its time to meet some of my friends.
One social circle of mine is mostly all mutual friends with my ex-fiance. There are no problems there and I'm happy everybody is still getting along.
However the new girl has expressed some concerns she'll be compared against the ex-fiance. New girl has a small amount of anxiety about the situation and that she'll be judged unfairly.
I'm not concerned at all because my friends are awesome and non-judgmental but I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to make everything more comfortable for the new girl.
I can totally understand the trepidation but I'm not worried. My friends are amazing and non-judgmental. I've conveyed everything, communication about the scenario has been open and honest. However I'm not the best at understanding the full dynamics at play so reddits advice is appreciated.
FYI ex-fiance will be avoided if the new bae is there. I'll avoid that dynamic for a while.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I make a new ladyfriend feel welcome in a social situation surrounded by mutual friends with my ex-fiance. | How do I make a new ladyfriend feel welcome in a social situation surrounded by mutual friends with my ex-fiance. | 2,035 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Why the internet can be a dark and conflicted place.
POST: I've had way too much time on my hands lately, and have been in a weird state of mind in general. I've been using the internet since the 90's, but I'm in no way saying that I'm some kind of veteran-hipster of interweb depravity. I would consider myself a general user.
On reddit and other social networking sites, there is a lot of hate and conflict- I think this is because people are terrified. We are terrified of being so close to the inner thoughts of an infinite number of minds. We have been abruptly thrust into a new age of total mental nakedness, living without privacy, and the anonymity factor just adds to the chaos and panic. It's scary, exhilarating and a huge leap in our society as a planet.
What I want to get off my chest is this: I love it. I love the hive mind, the good and the bad shit, the trolls, the psycho tumblr users, the wanna-be porn stars, the karma whores and every anonymous rambler. I love you because you are me, and we are all proving we're human as **fuck** on a daily basis. Lurking around here these past few months has helped me through a lot. Thank you for entertaining me, and teaching me about the human condition from the comfort of my living room.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I look forward to being telepathically linked to all of you in future. And to being called a fag. | I look forward to being telepathically linked to all of you in future. And to being called a fag. | 2,407 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriends's grandmother is pissing me off. How can I cope?
POST: Not sure what to do about this anymore. Been with gf for 5 years. We have a 1 year old. Unfortunately due to economic reasons, we've all had to move in with my gf's grandmother while we job hunt and save for a place of our own. This woman hates me. I have no idea why, there's never been a concrete reason given to anyone. My family isn't perfect, I don't have regular contact with most of them because of this, but I still love them, they're my family. She hates them too. She knows little pieces of their past problems, but nothing totally.
The past 5 months, I've had to endure little jabs, little comments, shit she says that just gets under your skin and ticks away like a fucking time bomb. Few weeks ago, my mother contacted me and asked if she could get something sent there so I could give it to her as she was in between places. I said fine, it's just one piece of mail. Today it came and dear sweet granny said "why is it coming here?" "Well, it was just one piece of mail and she needed it, won't happen again. She just doesn't have a..." "She doesn't have a return address? How pathetic." I just about fucking snapped on her, but we don't really have another option of places to live right now. Reddit, I need advice on how to keep my sanity in this place, around this woman. I can't have a conversation with her. I can't be here when my gf isn't. Its too awkward. What the fuck can I do? Murder not an option but has been fantasized about greatly.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | gf's grandmother is a bitch and I have to put up with her until we find our own place. How can I deal with the stress in the meantime? | gf's grandmother is a bitch and I have to put up with her until we find our own place. How can I deal with the stress in the meantime? | 2,806 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Alright, Reddit. What's a job on the Internet my disabled aunt can do for income?
POST: Long story short, my aunt has never worked a real day in her life and is the black sheep of our family. She has a bad case of scoliosis she got when she was 18 which resulted in multiple surgeries and the insertion of a steel rod into her back. She can't really do anything physical and she was married to my (non-blood) uncle up until about 14 years ago.
As a result, she doesn't work and has little-to-no experience. She has been living off my 84-year-old grandmother for years now and has basically drained her completely financially. She is a vegetarian and demands on organic food and expensive makeup and all kinds of pretentious bullshit. The entire family hates her for this.
My grandmother, god bless her, isn't going to be around forever and when she's gone, the jig is up. My grandmother pays for her rent, utilities, car, gas - EVERYTHING.
And quite frankly, I've had enough.
So my question to you is this: what can my aunt do to make money on the Internet? This is not some kind of complicated launch a website and write everyday kind of thing - she just won't do it out of laziness. I am thinking something along the lines of ChaCha or even Amazon's Mechanical Turk. Basically, I want her to start bringing in SOME kind of income so that she is not living entirely off my grandmother. It will help relieve tensions in the family and will put less of a financial strain on my grandmother.
So, what do you have in mind, Reddit?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Aunt is a deadbeat, leeches of grandmother. Need an internet-based job for her like Mechanical Turk, ChaCha, etc. for some form of income. | Aunt is a deadbeat, leeches of grandmother. Need an internet-based job for her like Mechanical Turk, ChaCha, etc. for some form of income. | 3,514 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (28F) got tired of waiting for BF (27M) to show up.
POST: BG: So my boyfriend lives in an apartment building that's gated and you can't enter the building without one of those key passes. As a result, I'm always waiting for him when I drive up. Even when I give him a heads up that I'm five minutes away, I'll still be parked and waiting between 5 - 10 minutes for him to ride the elevator down so he can let me in. We've been together 1.5 years.
We had plans for me to pick up Panera and for my daughter (5) and me to have dinner at his place. He tells to let him know when to leave work (he typically gets off at 5:30) and I text him at 5:40 to let him know he should leave, since it takes 10 - 15 minutes to drive home. No response, but whatever.
I pull up to the apartment at 5:50 and I let him know I'm parked. 15 minutes pass by and I text him that I hope he's on his way. No response. 30 minutes pass by. I'm still sitting in my car with a bag of food and a bored, hungry, five year old. So I text him that I am leaving and do so.
So he calls five minutes later, while I'm driving away, apologizing about having been pulled into something for work and saying he is on his way home and wants me to turn around. I'm halfway to my own place (as I live ten minutes away from him), so I say no. We wouldn't be eating until seven at this rate if I turn around, so I tell him that I'm gonna eat at home, but he can pick up his food if he likes or eat at my house after he lets his dog out.
He refuses and then calls me stubborn and that I have no empathy because I don't turn around and now he doesn't want to have lunch with me tomorrow. Did I handle it badly? I wasn't really mad at him, I just wanted to get home, was tired of waiting and tired from work and want to put my kid who has school tomorrow to bed by eight and staying there would delay that.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Waited for BF to get home and left after waiting for 30 minutes before he called and said he was on his way. Am I a bitch for not turning around? | Waited for BF to get home and left after waiting for 30 minutes before he called and said he was on his way. Am I a bitch for not turning around? | 2,017 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by racing on electric go-karts.
POST: Last Friday (May 16th), I went on an end of the year field trip. I went because I thought there was an actual go kart track and all. When we showed up, it was a small track for electric karts. I was slightly disappointed, but hell, I can still have fun. So I hop in the kart and wait to go. Slowly, one by one, we left the pit. The light turned green and we started to race. All was well until someone spun out and the attendant stopped the karts with the controller. Only thing is, one kart failed to stop in time and slammed into my kart. I jolted forward and thought nothing of it. Later on, I went to work and noticed a pain. I went home and told my mom, causing her to kick in to nurse mode. She told me that I have a very minor case of whiplash. So I got to lay around on over the counter pain killers and totally forgot to study for my final today. Now I'm stuck on reddit, studying for a final, and trying to block the pain out for now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went go-kart racing, got rear-ended, found out I have whiplash, laid around and didn't study for final because I laid around doing nothing. | Went go-kart racing, got rear-ended, found out I have whiplash, laid around and didn't study for final because I laid around doing nothing. | 4,195 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with my SO [28M] duration, 2 years, he wants to give his mother money
POST: I'm hopelessly in love with my SO "John". We are moving in together soon and I am convinced he is the one I will marry.
The main issue is his mother. She is a nice person, and I do like her. My issue is that he wants to help her financially. She lives in another city, does have a job, and could be working more hours, but doesn't. She also receives money from the government and spoils her other son (17) because he has some form of depression.
My boyfriend just recently got a graduate job in his field and excitedly told me that he has always wanted to help financially support his mother and siblings (17M and (22F) because they are not exactly well off (but I have lived relatively comfortably With similar income as a student). I realise it's his money and his choice, but I am against it.
My father has always given money to his family, and they spend it on alcohol and stuff like that and keep begging for more and more. They don't look for work and those who do have jobs only do the bare minimum and have turned down shifts. It has caused a lot of issues in my parents's marriage, and I've known from a young age that I do not want that in my future.
Am I a bad person for not wanting him to fund his family? Is it a normal thing to do? He recently bought his mother $400 worth of electronics because he thought she'd like it (no occassion) but he has never spent over $70 on one occasion for me. He won't even pay for a date, we always go Dutch (which I am okay with). For the record, i have bought him a gift over $400.
I want to tell him that I do not want to spend my life, or be long term, with someone who will send their family money. It has only bought negatives into my family and I think I will start to resent his mother for it. Am I just a bad person or is it justified?
I will add that I think giving financial support to parents when they are elderly is something I am completely okay with. Just not when they are still capable of working.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | SO wants to give financial support to his family long term/forever. I'm not okay with that because of my family's history. Am I wrong? | SO wants to give financial support to his family long term/forever. I'm not okay with that because of my family's history. Am I wrong? | 4,553 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [16F] Sister [18F] Hit my Boyfriend [16M]
POST: Yesterday I had the worst experience ever, my boyfriend was at my house and I was making something to eat and I heard my older sister from the other room yelling at my boyfriend, I came out there to see what was happening and I saw her punch him in the frigging face. I pushed her away from him, slapped her, and started swearing at her and she tried saying that he stole her money off the table, when it was MY money that our parents had left out for me and I'm the one who took it. She insisted it was hers (it isn't), and she refused to apologize to my boyfriend. A couple hours after my boyfriend left she comes to my room and says oh maybe it was yours, but still you're a bitch for slapping me.
I was so mad I was like wtf you hit my boyfriend and falsely accused him of stealing. She is being a bitch to me now and I don't know how to work this out. What are your opinions on this? And she still refused to apologize to him..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My sister wrongfully accused my boyfriend of stealing from her, yelled at him, and punched him in the face. And now she's pissed off at me for slapping her because of what she did | My sister wrongfully accused my boyfriend of stealing from her, yelled at him, and punched him in the face. And now she's pissed off at me for slapping her because of what she did | 2,961 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Would you wait 5 years for the love of your life? I am [28 F] moving across the country for school and not sure if it's fair to ask my bf [28 M] of 1 year to wait for me
POST: So the length of our relationship is complicated... I've known him for over 4 years and we've always been very close, but we've technically only been a "couple" for about 1 of those years because of both of us having personal issues that kept us apart (basically he was dealing with alcoholism and I didn't want to be around him when he was drunk all the time, but he's been sober for years now and I've learned to trust him again).
After I found out I was accepted into a great program for school was also the same time that I realized that I am actually really serious about this person and I want to have a future with him! Like, we would be married already if it wasn't for me moving away... He's really serious about me, and he's trying to be supportive about me leaving but I know he's worried that it means it's over.
Making the decision to leave and not just stay with him has been really painful, and now that I've decided to put my education first, I'm not sure where that leaves us. It might be possible that he could join me in 2 years, but not earlier than that because of his own career commitments.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i'm moving across the country for school, and i'm not sure if it's fair to ask the love of my life to wait 5 years for me to return, or what we should do? | i'm moving across the country for school, and i'm not sure if it's fair to ask the love of my life to wait 5 years for me to return, or what we should do? | 2,170 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22m] decided to break up with my girlfriend[22f] and I don't know if it's a good moment
POST: I wrote a post yesterday explaining that I want to break up my 4 years relationship.
I said that I don't feel the same, because she hates my friends and she is living miles away from me because she doesn't have money to stay in the city to continue her degree.
Today she has failed an exam and she is coming next monday to see it.
Is it a good moment to speak about my feelings?
I'm not sure if it's the right moment but I don't know when I'm going to be face to face with her again. It could be months.
I need advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it a good moment to break up with my girlfriend if she failed an exam today? I could not see her during months. | Is it a good moment to break up with my girlfriend if she failed an exam today? I could not see her during months. | 416 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My parents [M 55; F48] won't stop giving me [F 21] unsolicited advice.
POST: I just graduated college and moved back in with my parents. I just got a job and am now saving up to get my own apartment, but it will take a few months until I can afford my own place.
My parents have always given me unsolicited advice or just plain lectures about how I should behave. It's always bothered me, but now I'm just fed up with it. Sometimes it's small stuff like how I should look them in the eye more, or be more cheerful, or start conversations more. Sometimes it's about "being more aggressive" with job hunting or life in general.
I've gotten to where I point out that it bothers me that they always criticize me, to which they reply something like "don't get defensive - you need to learn to take advice and listen."
Honestly it feels incredibly overbearing, but they seem to think it is completely normal. So basically they're criticizing me for being unhappy with their criticisms!
Not living with them throughout college really helped (though it wasn't perfect) because whenever we were together, they would actually talk/have fun with me instead of constantly pointing out my faults, and we would only see each other for a few days at a time.
What can I do or say to get them to lay off? It seems impossible to get anything across to them.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My parents won't stop lecturing and criticizing me, and they don't listen when I say it bothers me. What should I do? | My parents won't stop lecturing and criticizing me, and they don't listen when I say it bothers me. What should I do? | 2,640 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Confused about how to get from skinnyfat to toned
POST: Ok I'm probably going to come across as really ignorant but I'm new to fitness and I've read a lot of conflicting information.
Basically, most of my life I've been skinny fat, usually staying around 130ish at 5'7" but I've never looked toned or lean and have always felt as though I've needed to lose 10-15 pounds.
In hs I played tennis a lot and I suppose my legs were toned then but in college I didn't work out at all. Fortunately I also ate less in college so I never really gained weight until recently (that's another story).
My goal is to finally get a toned beach body but I've heard conflicting advice on how to do this. Basically people are telling me that I shouldn't try to lose anymore weight, but should just gain muscle and this will help me reach my desired goal.
However, I think that I should lean up first and lose 10-15 pounds because I definitely have a thick layer of fat covering everything. I doubt I could have visible abs at this point. My goal is basically to get down to 117 pounds (I'm 140.5 now) through cardio and calorie counting (MFP) and then gain 2-3 pounds of muscle to get to 119-120. I'm wondering if this strategy will give me what I want.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | am skinnyfat and am not sure if I should lose a lot of body fat first and then hit the weight room or just start toning up now | am skinnyfat and am not sure if I should lose a lot of body fat first and then hit the weight room or just start toning up now | 4,378 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Decisions regarding a 401k Cash out
POST: Hi r/personal finance,
I have been looking for guidance on this issue, but do not have a financial planner currently. I am a 26 year old male looking to leave my current job. To bring you up to pace, I am an insurance adjuster for a major insurance company in America. I took a promotion about 9-10 months ago that I am now regretting. Without getting into any details on why I am looking outside the company, I have a financial dilemma that may not allow me to leave at this time.
I currently make about $46,700. I currently have no savings to my name due to some financial hardships over the past few months. I have been contributing to a 401k for 2 years now (6% by me, 6% company match). There was a part in time that I was only giving 5% but my company still matched.
Anyhow, I have about $7,700 in my 401k with Fidelity. I know their fee is typically 10% early withdrawal + a 20% withholding to the IRS.
I have applications out to about 7 other positions that I feel confident match my skill set. In the mean time, if I wanted to quit my job currently, would it be a poor decision to cash out my 401k to make an emergency fund? From my calculations, the amount I would receive would be enough to cover at least 3 month living expenses plus I have at least another pay check coming.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it a bad decision to cashout a 401k fund after only 2 years of investing to create an emergency fund? | Is it a bad decision to cashout a 401k fund after only 2 years of investing to create an emergency fund? | 4,536 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [27, M] falling for my best friend [25, F], also a Mate's ex (also a workmate)
POST: I met this girl (lets just call her Scarlett), and my mate when I hired him about 2 years ago, he and I quickly became fairly good friends outside of work.
I started talking to Scarlett this past Christmas when their relationship was on the rocks, purely as moral support as I had no feelings for her then, their relationship did not last and they went their separate ways a month or 2 later.
Scarlett and I have since then become very close friends, we have dinner every week, coffee every other day and she is also my boxing partner. We spend a lot of time together.
Now, over the past few months I started to see feelings develop, and they have grown into something much much greater. I have perhaps picked up on a few signs that she may be starting to feel the same way, although this could just be wishful thinking.
Scarlett is currently overseas, due back in a week, and I miss her terribly, however we do Facebook more or less every day.
So being her best friend is one massive hurdle to climb over, the second, although my mate doesn't care that we hang out, is if the feelings are mutual and a relationship does occur, I would lose both that mateship and a harmonious workplace.
What on earth do I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Falling for my best friend who is also my mate's (whom I work with, and am also his boss) ex girlfriend, and I am after advice on what to do. | Falling for my best friend who is also my mate's (whom I work with, and am also his boss) ex girlfriend, and I am after advice on what to do. | 6,212 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (20) was kissed when drunk at party by another boy (17) and I saw and the image is stuck in my head! :'(
POST: Hi, so me and my boyfriend have been strong since the ft we met 30.10.15 and have got stronger over the months. It's been hard as I live 1h 20min away so we've had our moments together to realise the pain and stress of not living close. I now work in his town and stay at his quite often so it's getting better :)
Last night it was our friends bday party and we went to her house for drinks. I had a drink and tried this milkshake alcohol and something didn't go down right which meant I was sick and throwing up endlessly for a long time, I decided to take a break and go to my BFs house for some quite and then go back later to catch the taxi to the club. My bf stayed there as didn't want him missing out because of me, I felt better so headed back to our friends house..
When I got there everyone was outta it.. I found my boyfriend half asleep and pretty drunk on a sun lounge bed and this boy sitting on top of him kissing him. This boy was our friends new BFF which last night was the first time meeting him and I had joked about him wanting to touch my bf but didn't think it would actually happen. I walked away and the boy realised and walked away to, everyone reassured me than my bf didn't want it but he was to outta it to try push him off him for it to stop. My bf can't stop saying sorry and can't stop punching and throwing things and crying in anger about what happened.
Now this image is stuck in my head, I can't sleep, I can't stop crying and I don't know what to say. Every time my bf or I wanna sit on top (just in general chilling ect.) I'm gonna remember that moment, I haven't even kissed him since because I just wanna cry! I love him and literally can't live without him!! :'(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Exactly what title says, bf is angry and upset about what happened and keeps sayin sorry and I can't get what I saw outta my head | Exactly what title says, bf is angry and upset about what happened and keeps sayin sorry and I can't get what I saw outta my head | 2,094 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I don't know how to express anger anymore.
POST: Me 28f; Him 31m; Relationship casually for a year, more seriously for 6 months
I dated a guy in college for five years who was physically abusive and we broke up three years ago. The reason the casual part of this current relationship lasted so long is because I was not ready. Finally I've let myself go and am falling pretty hard but don't know how to express anger healthfully anymore (I'm pathetically googling "how to be mad" and "how to communicate")! I believe that my abusive relationship kind've turned everything upside down but it's time to move on - this guy is great (I know that much even though I am mad right now).
I have told him he hurt my feelings, that I don't feel like he's supportive of my artistic ventures but I don't think he is listening. Also he is a non-apologizer (something I will probably bring up when things aren't so heated). I have asked for some space and time - but it's been two days. I feel like I am making a big deal out of nothing. He also has a bff visiting for the week and I want to respect their time together. I don't want to be manipulative and give him a guilt trip but I also want to avoid saying things I don't mean.
So how do I say I'm mad without making him totally defensive? And then how do I deal if he comes back with "suck it up, you're too sensitive"? I don't want hear that anymore.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Feel like I totally forgot how to argue with boyfriends after an abusive relationship. Trying to confront my new boyfriend without coming off too aggressive but also want to stand my ground. | Feel like I totally forgot how to argue with boyfriends after an abusive relationship. Trying to confront my new boyfriend without coming off too aggressive but also want to stand my ground. | 2,606 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: FWB/Girlfriend (19F) keeps "teasing" me (18M) before sex? Not sure why.
POST: Okay, so to summarize, I've known this girl for only a month, which isn't much time at all, so I'm not stressing about it too bad, but I'm looking for some advice nonetheless.
I met her a month ago, and we quickly established a connection, starting hanging out whenever we had time, maybe 3 times a week or so, and as of yet we don't really have a clear title in terms of a relationship, we've just established that we won't fuck other people and were more than friends.
I think I should mention we've never actually had sex, because whenever we seem close, she'll just push me away and smile, which she likes to call "teasing". I'm pretty sure there's a deeper meaning behind it, so I'm turning to you guys. A few important things to note
1. We've done other sexual favours etc, just never sex
2. The first time she did this, she claimed she just "really wanted me to want it" but I'm starting to think that's not the case
3. The one time she completely wanted to do it was when we were both kinda high on pills, and I was so fucked up I just laid there and said nothing, and that's when she decided she fully wants to, but I was too messed up to really get excited, so she just called it off.
I hope you guys can help me, thank you in advance. I can answer any further questions if needed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend (kind of) refuses to have sex in a playful manor, not sure why or how I can try to change her approach. | girlfriend (kind of) refuses to have sex in a playful manor, not sure why or how I can try to change her approach. | 5,483 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My SO [23M] is extremely unhappy with his job. How can I [23F] motivate him to find something else?
POST: My SO and I have been together for three years. During that time, he's had some trouble with jobs. He cannot afford to go to college at this point, and in order to go to school for what he'd like to do we would have to move about an hour away, (which, at this point in time, we cannot afford but are saving up to do so).
He's currently extremely unhappy with his job, so much so that he seems incredibly depressed all of the time. His boss doesn't listen to him, (he is in a management position), and also has been cutting his hours. I would love for him to find something else, but he feels like he any job that he would get would be exactly the same. He has issues with anxiety, and filling out job applications causing him so much stress that he seems to shut down. I try to motivate him to find something he likes, or anything that will be different from his current situation, but it's almost like he sees no hope in anything.
I want to be supportive, I listen to all of the problems he has at work, and I offer suggestions to make it more bearable. I'm also doing my best to present him with other places in town that he could apply to. His unhappiness at work is affecting him so much at home that I just want him to be able to quit this job and find something else. We would like to have children one day, but ideally when he has a job that he is comfortable and stable in.
How can I motivate him to really push past his comfort zones and show him that better jobs do exist?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My SO is incredibly unhappy at his job and sees no hope for any other workplace. How can I motivate him to seek other work? | My SO is incredibly unhappy at his job and sees no hope for any other workplace. How can I motivate him to seek other work? | 2,414 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25M] Just started my first serious relationship with my new GF [25F]. What kind of feelings should I be having?
POST: Just got into my first serious relationship with my new girlfriend (I'm kind of shy). Been seeing her about once a week for roughly 5-6 weeks now and we've been messaging each other multiple times everyday since the first date and only recently started being exclusive. We can be ourselves around each other and can talk about anything. However I don't think I'm experiencing that rush of love, that head over heels feeling that some people seem to have. Is this normal? Do some people just don't go through this phase? Is it because we only see each other about once a week (she lives almost an hour away)? We've been very intimate but haven't had sex yet.
Although we can be ourselves with each other and talk about anything, we don't have that much shared hobbies (as far as I know at least). However that shouldn't be that weird since some people have good relationships this way (including some of my friends). Could this be why? If so what are some ways to get around this?
Finally, how do I keep her interested and the relationship fresh? Spontaneous dates? Just be myself?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | First serious relationship, but not feeling head over heels about girl. Is this normal? Moving forward, how do I keep her interested and the relationship interesting? Do I just be myself? | First serious relationship, but not feeling head over heels about girl. Is this normal? Moving forward, how do I keep her interested and the relationship interesting? Do I just be myself? | 1,508 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Deja Vu? What do you think it means?
POST: The science of Deja Vu isn't really cut and paste a lot of it is still speculation. Just a few days ago I had a very strange case of Deja Vu. I was at a bar I had never been to, in a city I had never been to with friends I just met for the first time that week. Then all of a sudden it hit me, the situation, the setting, the atmosphere, the lights, the sounds, the ambiance, everything seemed like that moment in time had occurred for me before.
So I ask, what do you think Deju Vu means? To me, I think it is a sign that your life is on the path it is intended to be on. That you are heading in the right directions. Kinda like a butterfly effect. You always start at point A and you always end at point B. But the way you get there is up to you, and there is a right path for you to take and there is the wrong path for you to take. Not morally, but just the way that your life is "Suppose" to go.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | What does Deja Vu mean to you? To me it's a sign that things are on track in your universe. | What does Deja Vu mean to you? To me it's a sign that things are on track in your universe. | 6,439 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26/F] with my fiance [28 M] of 1.5 years, he won't get his teeth fixed and it's starting to make me less attracted to him
POST: I am at my wits end. My fiance, who I love dearly, has a crack in a cap on his front tooth. In the creases of the crack it's brown, so basically it looks like he has a rotting tooth or something! It's disgusting and to be perfectly honest, I'm embarrassed because I've had multiple friends and family members bring it up to me in private. I feel guilty about my embarrassment because I love him anyway but we are not destitute, we can afford to have it fixed! I have been asking him for months now to make a dentist appointment and he gives me attitude about it and just doesn't do it. I'm thinking I should start doing something really unattractive to myself until it bothers him....half joking, half not...
What do you think? Should I do something to make myself less attractive and if so, do you have any clever ideas? If I should take a more mature approach, what should I do here? I've tried asking him, I've alluded the fact that it is an aesthetic issue I want fixed but I haven't outright said it is gross and people think you don't brush your teeth and I can't see how it helps you in your industry (business/consulting)!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My fiance refuses to get his cracked, brown tooth fixed, what can I do to convince him to suck it up and go to the dentist? | My fiance refuses to get his cracked, brown tooth fixed, what can I do to convince him to suck it up and go to the dentist? | 909 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not passing a school project
POST: I'm a 9th grader that (I think) excels the most in Computer subject. The story started when our teacher gave us a project that we have to combine HTML pages and CSS to create a functional school website sample. We were given a LOT of time (1 month) to create it and assigned to a group with some students who also have a good knowledge in web developing. The project was working good. All links are functional, the style looks good, and I found out we have the best creations among other groups. So it means we usually come with meet-ups to my group leader in their house. Spending a lot of time that I'm not with my parents, and always saying the same reason that I'm with my friends doing our project. And which makes my parents think that I'm just wasting my time playing with friends and not doing house chores. So my parents confiscated my gadgets including my phone (which I use to encode contents while I'm inside the school) and my laptop (which I use to preview in browsers to test compatibility). And my parents doesn't trust my reason because they usually see me playing video games. Two weeks before the passing time, my group members found out that I don't have the data to include on the whole project (since I was assigned to make the 20% of the whole project). Then, I'm with my friends the whole week, encoding the contents on my classmate's computer. Even though, after that week, my parents required me to go home on the school's dismissal time and I can't join them anymore. They tried their best but haven't finished and my group mates (including my crush) are mad on me , because of me. And I felt to be very fucked up... so my parents gave back my gadgets two hours before this post. And the worst, yesterday was the deadline.
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | We haven't passed our Computer project because my laptop was confiscated by my parents and my group mates are mad at me. | We haven't passed our Computer project because my laptop was confiscated by my parents and my group mates are mad at me. | 3,793 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (FL) Cashier won't do her job properly. I want to fire her but HR says no because of religious reasons.
POST: Hi, legaladvice. I can't believe I'm in this situation.
I was recently promoted to Store Manager of a grocery store after the original manager quit (I was assisstant manager before for about 6 months).
We hired a woman, let's call her Sally, a couple of weeks ago. She's not terrible at her job (just basic cashier stuff) but she refuses to process payments that equal $6.66. I know, it sounds crazy.
Our store prices everything ending in 28 cents as a ploy (kinda like Brandsmart). So anything priced at $6.28 will ring up to $6.66 after tax, and it happens quite often that people will buy just that one item (which I've learned after Sally started working here).
Every time this happens, one of the managers or supervisors has to take over because she refuses and sometimes it throws a spanner in the works. I brought it up with HR and they said I can't do anything about it because it's her religious freedom (since 666 is the number of the beast in Christianity).
The thing is, we have the same religion; we even go to the same church! But I don't think she should be able to use that excuse to not ring those transactions. I've offered to move her to another part of the store but she doesn't want to stock or do anything else.
HR warned me not to decrease her hours or I'd get in trouble, but I just don't see how I can do my job properly if I have to take care of petty stuff like this.
Is there a law or something that says I'm right? I don't want to go back to HR without knowing I'm 100% right that she shouldn't have the job if she can't perform all aspects of it.
And if I'm wrong, I suppose I can bear it even if I do think it's ridiculous.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Employee does not process payments of $6.66 due to her religion, HR says I cannot fire her even though it's a major inconvenience and we have to get someone else to do it each time (multiple times a day). | Employee does not process payments of $6.66 due to her religion, HR says I cannot fire her even though it's a major inconvenience and we have to get someone else to do it each time (multiple times a day). | 785 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(M28) just entered a LTR with GF(26). I am lacking trust in relationships. Is this fixable?
POST: What's up redditors,
I recently met a wonderful woman, by far the best person I ever met. I love how accepting she is, how I can make her smile and how we are when we are together.
It is not that I do not trust her. She goes out regularly and still talks to her ex. These things do not instill jealousy in me. Especially because she is extremely dependable and even asked me if I disapproved of those things. She would quit that stuff if I ever found that necessary. My problem is however that I do not have any faith in our relationship (and other relationships for that matter).
We have had minor fights and I seem to be with one foot out the door even before we had a chance to talk about it. She feels insecure about not being able to fulfill my needs and I frighten myself because I really think we are happy together and I'm afraid I'm going to mess this up because of my personal issues. It's not that I WANT to leave deep down.
I have always had this and never committed before to any woman. Moreover I have seen some really ugly shit in the times I had casual relations with women. Women lying about or even to their boyfriends/husbands while being with me. Women ready to dump their man because of some feelings I ignited in them.
So at the vary least I do not have any faith in relationships, at the very most I do not have faith in women or people in general.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am afraid to mess up my relationship against my deeper desire to make it work because of my lack of faith in relationships. | I am afraid to mess up my relationship against my deeper desire to make it work because of my lack of faith in relationships. | 4,883 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Sex is starting to die down with my boyfriend... What do I do?
POST: I (21F) have been dating this guy (22M) for a little over two months. We jumped into having sex really quickly, and I had no qualms about it because sexual compatibility is really important to me. For the first few weeks, it was really great. We had consistently frequent and mind-blowing sex. It got to the point where his dick was literally sore from too much sex.
As of late though, things have been less great. I always get the "I'm not in the mood" spiel from him, and more often than not, we'll usually opt for a blowjob in place of sex.
I brought it up earlier, and he says he doesn't think that he can satisfy me all the time. I told him that it didn't necessarily have to be full-on sex. He could try to get me off by other means. But, he said that he wouldn't be in the right mood for it. The conversation pretty much just ended there.
I'm not really sure what to do at this point. Our libidos are at very different places now. A similar situation occurred in my last relationship, and I tried to suck it up. After 4 years though, it got to be too much, and it destroyed my self-esteem. I don't want the same thing to happen again.
I don't want to break up with him over this. After what happened in my last relationship, I realized that sexual compatibility was really important. But, I really adore this guy. He makes me so much happier than anyone has ever been able to, and this is only over the course of two months. I don't want to give that up just because of sex. If I keep falling for him at this rate though, and sex does end up getting in the way, we'll just end up getting so much more hurt. Reddit, I don't know what I'm supposed to do in this situation.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Not having sex as often with boyfriend anymore. Boyfriend not in the mood for other sex-related things. He makes me too happy to want to breakup with him. Worried there will be inevitable breakup because of sex. | Not having sex as often with boyfriend anymore. Boyfriend not in the mood for other sex-related things. He makes me too happy to want to breakup with him. Worried there will be inevitable breakup because of sex. | 1,142 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, do my coursemates have the right to ask our university for a different professor?
POST: So we're taking this chem class. Our batch is divided into two blocks. We're under this professor who is also teaching the same subject to chem majors. He also uses the same grading system he uses with chem majors with us. Most of our block is failing and can't keep up. I can say that I can keep up because I was able to take this subject back when I was in high school. But what about my blockmates? They're requesting for a different teacher, the same one as the other block.
But this has me thinking. Is this right? I mean, it's a pro that we're getting the same amount of knowledge the chem majors get. Is it really valid if our only problem is that most of us our failing?
I'm having a debate over this with my friend. If you need extra info about the case, I'll just keep you posted.
What I think is that there will be subjects where the teacher will be unfair or the subject is hard in college and sometimes we just have to go through it. But then my friend called me insensitive to my blockmates who I'm close with because most of them are failing and I'm sticking with the 'they should just try and get through it' mindset.
Any teachers out there? What do you have on the matter? How about students who may have experienced something similar, any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it right to request for a different chem prof because he's teaching us the same thing he's teaching the chem majors and my blockmates are having a hard time keeping up? | Is it right to request for a different chem prof because he's teaching us the same thing he's teaching the chem majors and my blockmates are having a hard time keeping up? | 4,547 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Someone please help me understand the logic behind this.
POST: Homosexuality and bisexuality are no longer considered by most to be health disorders, yet as I read about sexual motivation in one of my college textbooks, a thought occurred to me, detailed below. All the following behaviors have some research that attributes some of a behavior to genetics.
Anorexia and bulimia are universally considered health disorders because they are dangerous, stem from a mistaken view of themselves, and sometimes fatal. They typically have lower self-esteem and are more prone to depression. From an evolutionary perspective, these people are less likely to survive because they don't receive enough energy from not properly eating food to run away from a survival risk, such as a lion.
Obesity (not just being overweight) is dangerous because of an abnormally large amount of fats that drastically increases the risk for heart attacks and strokes. Again, from an evolutionary perspective, these people are less likely to survive because they are unable to run very quickly.
Homosexuality and bisexuality, on the other, are acceptable social behaviors nowadays, even though they have higher rates of depression than heterosexual persons and are frequently ridiculed and assaulted for their sexual deviance. From an evolutionary perspective, homosexuality is a self-destructive behavior in the sense that none of the genetic material of the homosexual gets passed on to the next generation. In simpler words, heterosexuality is considered "normal" sexuality because it will always (barring infertility) pass on genetic material to the next generation.
Don't make this topic about love or genetic inheritance causing the behavior, as for this discussion these are cop-out arguments.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | What makes some behaviors and characteristics, like eating disorders, abnormal and others, like homosexuality, seen as no different from normal? | What makes some behaviors and characteristics, like eating disorders, abnormal and others, like homosexuality, seen as no different from normal? | 3,810 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should i [18/M] invite my friend [19/F] to my 19th birthday?
POST: A bit if backstory on me: I have just finished my first year of uni. I went in with a girlfriend that was long distance and we broke up because we were distancing from so it was a way of protecting the possibility of getting back together later. We now see each other every holiday and she comes back next Saturday, the day of my party.
My friend: She is someone i met at uni for the first time and we became good friends. Recently i have been having difficulties with mild depression and she has been there. It would seem in the process she has begun to feel differently about me. She started giving off big signals and i know she has had basically no experience with guys romantically so i feel she may have become quite invested quite quickly when i started sharing stuff with her. My condition meant that i probably reciprocated attention more than i should have but that's in the past now and there isn't much to do about it
The situation: The party is small, 18 people going to a club with tables. My friend does not know about i yet and also doesn't know i will be getting back with my ex this summer (who'll obviously be at the party). The problem is i want to invite my friend because she is special to me and lives in the same city but if i am i feel i need to somehow let her know first what is happening with my ex. I can't just really talk to her about it because she has no idea i think she has feelings for me and if i'm wrong it could make things bad. Also if i do tell her what me and my ex will be doing that might change her mind on coming as she might now want to see us together which is fair enough.
So Reddit, do i ask my friend to come and ,if so, how do i tell her what's going on?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend seems to have feelings for me. Getting back with my ex soon. Should i invite friend to party that my soon to be no longer ex will also be at? | Friend seems to have feelings for me. Getting back with my ex soon. Should i invite friend to party that my soon to be no longer ex will also be at? | 4,620 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (20m) like a girl (19f), don't know if she likes me back, confusing signals
POST: Hey guys, I met a girl a few months back at a bar ( in a friendly way, not a pick up a girl way ) I helped her pay for her drink because she was low on money. I walked into her again at a different place ( we have a mutual friend that I don't know so well ). I added her on Facebook afterwards and we talk quite a bit, on and off, however if we talk we talk for like 3 hours, most of the time I start the conversation but she has in the past too, and she always seems enthusiastic about talking. Both of our personalities really gel well together, she makes me laugh and I make her laugh even though we don't know each other very well, I told her I liked her a month or so ago and said I hope that wasn't weird, she said it wasn't but hasn't reciprocated my feelings, but doesn't seem any less eager to talk. What should I do? Should I just bite the bullet and ask her out? I have only met her in person those 2 times so it might be strange? Thanks in advance people :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | met a girl, said I liked her, she could be either way, we talk quite a lot, does she like me? Should I just ask her out? | met a girl, said I liked her, she could be either way, we talk quite a lot, does she like me? Should I just ask her out? | 6,195 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 M] really like a girl [19 F] from my uni. Is she bad at texting or is she not interested?
POST: So I've [21 M] recently begun falling for a girl [19 F] from my university and when we're in person we get along fantastically. I've known her for about a year now but only just recently started talking/hanging out more after we both showed up to a party where we knew literally nobody but the host and we just ended up talking a bunch (mind you aside from this one instance at the party we've only hung out in groups of mutual friends thusfar). But after I got her number it seems that she is pretty bad at the whole texting thing. What I mean by this is just basically if I text her she will either take quite a while to respond to my message or she just won't respond at all (even sometimes if the text has a question in it). And so far after probably a little more than a month being decent friends she has NEVER initiated the texts, it has always been me. Recently at a school bar night we were both drunk and she literally dragged me to the dance floor with her (which is extremely abnormal for me) so I'm thinking this was a sign of interest. But even after that the texting still continues to be the same.
Basically I'm worried because most everyone I've talked to says "no girl is bad at texting, if she actually likes you she would initiate/text you back/respond in a timely matter. Get over her she's not interested". So I guess my question really is, is it possible for someone to be a bad texter like that but still be genuinely interested in me? Or should I just accept the fact that if she did like me she would put a little more effort into texting me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Get along well with girl in person, but she seems to be bad at texting. Is she really just bad at texting or is she not interested? | Get along well with girl in person, but she seems to be bad at texting. Is she really just bad at texting or is she not interested? | 1,237 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: (M) Kinda new to having a female friend...
POST: -Sorry if this isn't the right subreddit but I figured it was a good place to start-
So I just started my college career (woo) and one thing I'm not sure about is female friends. I had friends who were girls in high school, but all of my REALLY close friends were guys. I'm on a co-ed floor, and I'm getting pretty close to a girl who lives near me. I have a girlfriend (goes to a different school) and she knows that, so she knows that I'm not interested in more than a friendship (I would hope), but I'm really interested in being close friends. However I'm not really sure what I can/can't do with a close friend who happens to be a girl... Like if I went to get food with a close guy friend or took a bus from campus to a store to get something with a guy friend it wouldn't be weird, but are there some things you don't do with a friend who's a girl that you'd do with a friend who's a guy?
Thanks for the help, I don't wanna like lead her on or something that would ruin a friendship because I really would like to be friends with her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I just started college and am currently getting close with a girl who I only wanna be friends with (I have a gf), how do I not fuck it up by making it weird. | I just started college and am currently getting close with a girl who I only wanna be friends with (I have a gf), how do I not fuck it up by making it weird. | 402 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What would be the best move for myself [M/18] to make with this girl [F/18] I have feelings for?
POST: I met this girl over a year ago and I've kind of had a thing for her although I never actively pursued as at the time I felt that that all she wanted was a platonic relationship. I was also looking to pursue another girl at the time. Fast forward to fairly recently, where we hung out and there were some flirty vibes. We hung out a few more times and the most recent time I brought her to meet some of my friends. A few days later she told me that she found one of them interesting and wanted to talk to him more. Although, I made it clear that this certain friend is known for being a player and that it probably would not be the greatest idea to mess with him.
Am I better off just keeping my feelings to myself and keep it as is?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have some feelings for this girl I've know for a little while but I don't exactly know if it's best to keep it as is or say something. | I have some feelings for this girl I've know for a little while but I don't exactly know if it's best to keep it as is or say something. | 4,427 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24f] find it impossible to take things slowly.
POST: I recently started seeing a guy who has hung out in my group of friends for a few years. We've really only hung out in social situations or at his house. Since we started seeing each other we barely talk during the week and only see each other on weekends.
I'm pretty confused by this considering I've pretty much rushed into a lot of my previous relationships. Not really sure if this is "taking it slow" or he's just not that into me. I feel like we're not getting to know each other better but I don't want to force or rush things.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've been seeing a guy for about two months and we've kind of reached a standstill. How long should I wait to see if he takes the next step, or am I wasting my time? | I've been seeing a guy for about two months and we've kind of reached a standstill. How long should I wait to see if he takes the next step, or am I wasting my time? | 3,177 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [29f] bring it up that my boyfriend [33m] of three months wants to spend evenings alone?
POST: Okay, so I've been with my bf for three months, and most of the time, it's great. We get along together splendidly, really enjoy each other's company, and the sex is just great.
The thing is, I'm getting really self-conscious about suggesting spending evenings alone when we're both really tired because he usually reclines. Today is a great example. We both had a long day at work, plus we didn't really sleep well last night because of the heat... So we were just IMing about what we would do tonight, he said he wanted to stay home so I suggested I'd come over. Just to watch a movie or something. The last time we did this, he said two or three times "Why don't we do this every night?" But, he said he just wanted to relax, plan his holiday and pursue his hobby (Sorry if that's not the right expression, English is my second language).
This would be fine if this was the first time it happened, but it's not. Usually, when I say "let's just spend the night at home" because we both don't want to go out, he declines it in like 75%. Which made me kind of stop wanting to suggest this. Rejection sucks.
The thing is, I don't know if I should bring it up. He's normally an amazing boyfriend, treats me way better than the guys I dated before him, constantly says he loves me and I feel I'd be unfair to make this allegation when he's so great in every other way. Plus, I'm afraid he'd beat himself up about it, which is something I don't want him to.
(I should probably add that it's not that we don't spend time alone together, it's just when he's tired he can't seem to get himself to see me, I guess)
So, any advice would be appreciated, thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend doesn't want to see me when he's tired, makes me feel self-conscious, should I bring it up or let it slip because he treats me great in every other way? | Boyfriend doesn't want to see me when he's tired, makes me feel self-conscious, should I bring it up or let it slip because he treats me great in every other way? | 4,099 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (26/F) talk about my life when feeling down?
POST: There are some people I (26/F) am close enough to that I can be open with. With others, though, I feel uncomfortable being 100% honest when they ask "How's life?" because I don't want to make them uncomfortable and while I appreciate sympathy & empathy, I really do not want to be pitied. Also, I feel that it's not always the time and the place to go into the details of why I am having a difficult time.
Does anyone relate?
I really don't want to outright lie-I want people to understand why I may be more subdued and like anyone else, I want to be understood. It's one thing to give the standard "Everything's fine!" answer when talking to strangers and acquaintances, but I want to be more forthright with my friends.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I answer the question, "How's life?" when going through a tough time in a way that isn't disingenuous but also doesn't bring the mood down? | How do I answer the question, "How's life?" when going through a tough time in a way that isn't disingenuous but also doesn't bring the mood down? | 4,639 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28M] with my [51F Mom] and [25F Sister] duration, My sister is ignoring her family (what's left of it). Can you PLEASE help? (X-Post from /r/advice)
POST: * Painting a picture:
We don't really speak to our extended family anymore. They do/did lots of drugs, are extremely rude and disrespectful at group gatherings, my cousin hit on my girlfriend a family reunion, etc...
What's so upsetting about all of this is that my immediate family (mom, sister, and myself) have been extremely close all of our lives. We have never abandoned each other since my extended family has taught us how not to be. My mom is devastated as she is going through empty nest syndrome already with my sister leaving within the last year.
* Current situation:
My sister hasn't spoken to my mom or myself in over 2 months. I'm very upset and worried for her (she was molested as a child by a fellow church member -- we're all atheists now except my mom) because of her past. I've always been her big brother. I've always been there for her and so has my mom.
* What I think:
My sister seems to be upset because I was laid off work and am currently relying on unemployment to make ends meet and that my mom MIGHT lose her job because her union doesn't seem to want to represent the workers that are being mistreated (my mom stands up for herself and her co-workers as opposed to many others). I'm currently working a side business that is beginning to generate enough revenue to make my full-time job in the near future and the possibility that my mom will get fired is relatively low.
These tiny bumps in the road, that we all seem to go through, seem to devastate her.I know my sister is really stressed and worried for us, but simply not communicating with your family (my sister didn't even bother to call my mom on Mother's day) is not the way to go. Reddit, how can I fix this!! I'm a guy. Tell me what to do and I'll do it! Thanks in advance and sorry for the long post.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My sister hasn't communicated with either my mom or myself (her brother) in over 2 months. I know she is physically safe, but I very much worry about her well-being and this is tearing my mom apart. | My sister hasn't communicated with either my mom or myself (her brother) in over 2 months. I know she is physically safe, but I very much worry about her well-being and this is tearing my mom apart. | 3,247 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by farting at the wrong time
POST: This actualy happened yesterday night but anywho. Me and my SO had a friend coming over but we decided to have a quickie before our friend arrive. So etc things happen and then my SO gets a call from our friend saying that he was close to me and my SO's apartment. The thing is that right before the call happened I was at my climax and so when my SO answered the phone i was left there for barely 30secs but felt like hours. After the phone call is done we finish what we started but as I came to release a squeaky long fart follows.
I couldn't believe that this happened to me, I have read stories about this happening on alot of sites like 9gag and here on Reddit. I was dying of embarassement.
We just laughed it off and now here I am laughing by myself writing this for you Redditors to enjoy!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend was coming over, me and SO went for a quickie, close to climaxing, got a call, continued our quickie and let a squeaky fart while releasing. | Friend was coming over, me and SO went for a quickie, close to climaxing, got a call, continued our quickie and let a squeaky fart while releasing. | 824 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My brother [26M] and his girlfriend [26F] are on a "break." Should I [25F] intervene?
POST: My brother has been dating his girlfriend for two years, and they're pretty serious. They live together and he has told me that he wants to marry her.
But my brother was kind of slutty when we were in school, so the idea of settling down terrifies him a little. His girlfriend is very lovely and not rushing him at all, and he is genuinely in love with her.
But two weeks ago, he made some comment about not wanting to have kids (which was a lie because he has wanted kids since we were in high school). He was just freaking out about being domestic or whatever. His girlfriend probably knew he was lying but the argument snowballed and she decided that she was done with his commitment-phobic shit. So she kicked him out and he has been sleeping on our couch for a week now.
His place with his girlfriend is under both their names, so it doesn't make financial sense for him to just drop hundreds of dollars on a new apartment when he's still technically paying rent. If they decide to break up for good, they'll both have to move out because neither of them can afford their apartment on their own.
He's being ridiculously moopy, whining about how much he loves/misses her, and generally annoying the shit out of me. I understand that it might be the end of a 2-year relationship but the whole thing was his fault and if he wants to get back with her he needs to go talk to her and sort his shit out. Honestly I think his girlfriend intended this to be a reality check and a wake-up call rather than a breakup.
I would love to kick him in the ass and tell him to make up his mind and grow the hell up, but my boyfriend has been bonding with my brother and says that we need to give him more time.
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | My brother has been crashing at our place since he and his girlfriend got into a fight. Do I push him or leave him alone? | My brother has been crashing at our place since he and his girlfriend got into a fight. Do I push him or leave him alone? | 2,989 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [HELP][VENT]The vet told me my dog is EXTREMELY aggressive. What steps should I take?
POST: So back story about the dog, His name is lei and I adopted him from my local humane society about a month ago. He's a 4 y.o. shiba inu who, from what I have seen, is the sweetest dog. He also gets along quite well with my cat(he will sometimes bark and try to play with the cat -.-) but other than that they will lay right next to each other and go to sleep. So after having the dog for 2 weeks I thought I would bring him to the vet to turn in his papers and register him in the system. Before doing so, my dog has been around 20+ new people and I've never had any issues with aggression. (No hand biting, growling, snapping, etc) He is really shy around someone he first meets but other than that he's fine. As soon as I got to the vet my dog was clearly nervous/scared/anxious. After waiting for almost an hour to be seen I managed to calm him and have him sit next to me on a bench. Once our name was called, however, the noise from inside scared him out again.(trying to go back out and having his tail down) The lady who takes my dog is clearly irritated at the type of breed I have. She talked to me as if I knew nothing about the breed and snapped angrily about how aggressive the breed was. After waiting for the nurse to return with my dog she proceeded to tell me about how my dog is EXTREMELY people aggressive and ill have a lawsuit on my hands if I don't fix it. Then handed me 50 million pamphlets on dog trainers in my area. What should I do? What's the best course of action? Get my dog evaluated? Or go to a different vet? It' crazy because I've been going to this one my whole life and never had an issue.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Rescued a 4yo Shiba. Haven't had any issues yet. Vet told me my dog is extremely aggressive, told me to get the problem fixed. Have yet to see aggression, extremely confused. What do? | Rescued a 4yo Shiba. Haven't had any issues yet. Vet told me my dog is extremely aggressive, told me to get the problem fixed. Have yet to see aggression, extremely confused. What do? | 616 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: Our kitty is so picky, we've given in.
POST: Our rescue cat, Abby, has always been picky with food. When we first got her, she was quite ill and didn't like to eat anyway so that was even more difficult. Every time we think she likes a food, she stops eating it within a week and won't eat it again (Only after we have bought a months supply...).
The thing is, we've tried to out-stubborn the cat, and it was a game of chicken we were never going to win. And then came kitty number two, Ollie, who is just the jabba the hutt of kitties.
Not only will Ollie eat any left over food in Abby's bowl, but Abby doesn't want it and actively gives it to her baby sister. It got so bad that Abby was vomiting clear bile out of hunger at night... we tried separating them, getting new foods, giving dry food to snack on... it was no use, she didn't eat. Before anyone asks, she HAS been to the vet and they just said she's picky.
Fast forward to us getting a gift pack from our vet for the baby when we took Abby in to see if there is a problem. It has royal canin weaning kitty food, and we thought we'd see if Ollie liked it. Guess who likes it? Abby. It is kitty crack cocaine I don't know. We started sprinkling it on top of normal cat food, and guess what.. she eats it. It's like a seasoning.
So here is our doubt, is this ok to do? The vet seemed really passive about it, and I don't know how good this is to do. I looked up its ingredients and it almost seems just like a vitamin packed dry food. We are sprinkling so she doesn't eat more than a a few grams.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | our rescue cat won the food battle and now we give her weaning kitten food to get her to eat normally, is this ok? | our rescue cat won the food battle and now we give her weaning kitten food to get her to eat normally, is this ok? | 112 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm a dumb [21] male and so I'm having a lot of trouble interpreting the signals that this [21] girl may or may not be sending me. A little help please?
POST: So okay, I'm from New York but I study in Oregon for most of the year. Recently a friend of mine who I was not really close started facebook messaging me, that was about 3 months ago, since then we've talked almost everyday. She even asks when we can skype all the time and insists we do so and keep in touch. This sort of came out of the blue so naturally I just assumed she was into me. I can't really date her given that we live across the country, but I would if I could, she's really great in my opinion. Anyways we continue to speak to each other as usual and then last week I returned to new york for a break and so given that she and I share a group of friends I was hoping we could hang out together with them all for the little time where we're both in the same town. I tried to do just that but she totally gave me the cold shoulder; not being really responsive to hanging out, leaving early when we finally did etc...
Am I wrong in my original assumption that she was into me just because out of the blue she started talking to me a lot? Is she trying to play hard to get? Am I looking way too into this and maybe she was just occupied that weekend?
I really have no idea how to evaluate this. Do any of you guys have any suggestions/ideas?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I thought she liked me when i was living far away but when i returned to the same town she started giving me the cold shoulder. What gives? | I thought she liked me when i was living far away but when i returned to the same town she started giving me the cold shoulder. What gives? | 37 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Apartment dwellers of Reddit: Where do you store/air out your stinky hockey gear?
POST: My SO and I have had many conversations about moving in together. I bought my apartment 3 years ago (before we met) and have 2 years left on the mortgage term before I can move on and we can get a bigger place together. So for now, we'd be stuck sharing 730 square feet (which is downright luxurious for one person but somewhat cramped with two).
The issue that ends the discussion every time is his stinky hockey gear. He has goalie *and* player gear, so it's a double whammy in terms of storage space needed and stink produced. He currently lives in a man-cave of a basement suite and airs it out in his bathroom because, y'know, dudes don't need bathrooms to be clean and accessible.
He plays one or two times a week and needs to air it out afterwards.
How do other couples in small spaces work around this issue?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to share a dwelling with my SO but not his stinky hockey gear. Do you have any creative solutions? | I want to share a dwelling with my SO but not his stinky hockey gear. Do you have any creative solutions? | 5,307 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Far away from my girlfriend and having innocent feelings for another. Its making me feel guilty and anxious.
POST: So I (M 23) need some advice. I have an amazing girlfriend (F 22) who has an amazing job. We have been dating for a little over a year now. Shes extremely smart, caring, and generous. Shes the first girlfriend whos ever gonw out of her way to do things for me. And I know thats normal for relationships but after being a rescuer for so long, shes the first one who's done anything for me. Shes extremely supportive and I could go on. The bottom line is if I do something to lose her I would be one of the most stupid men alive.
So right now were far apart while im taking an intense course and I have no time to see her. I am one of two people taking this course seriously and that other person is a girl (F 24). I dont get along with pretty much anyone else because I dont go out with them every weekend. I love my girlfriend and no matter what nothing will ever happen. BUT. I have such a close connection with this girl. I always want to be around her and I want her to want to be around me. I hate seeing her unhappy so im always worried about her and its even affecting my ability to focus.
These feelings confuse me because I know I would never cheat on my girlfriend 100% but I still feel guilty and Shitty and unfaithful. Ive always been touchy feely and always want someone to lean against when we watch a movie together but in all seriousness it has no sexual underlying reasons. Without sounding shallow I dont even really find this girl attractive.... She's the only one who's taken the time to get to know me and this constant distraction is absolutely killing me.
Am I a shitty boyfriend for wanting comfort while im so far away assuming there are LITERALLY no underlying sexual elements? If so how do I stop it, or a more appropriate question is what are some methods you suggest to help me move in the right direction for stopping it. Ill never cheat on her I know that I just feel so pathetic right now. Can anyone give me some advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Away from amazing girlfriend for a while and feel the need for comfort from another girl with NO UNDERLYING SEXUAL DESIRE! | Away from amazing girlfriend for a while and feel the need for comfort from another girl with NO UNDERLYING SEXUAL DESIRE! | 1,008 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What should I [22f] know about couples counselling with my bf [23] of two years? He is adamant about needing to live alone. We tried for a month and I just can't.
POST: When we lived apart for that month I lived with my parents. I'm already not goo with change and it literally uprooted me from all I was comfortable with. I thought living alone was space enough for him but it was basically like we weren't even in a relationship. He thinks that if he wants to go a whole week with no contact whatsoever then I should allow that. It just wasn't a relationship in my eyes. I tried breaking up with him but he didn't want that. So we moved back in. It's been a month and everything seems fine. But he still says feels the same when we discuss it. It really hurts me and I'm scared to renew our lease together because I don't want things to end up fucked up.
SO we agreed on counselling. Basically we want an idea of whose feelings are more abnormal. He says that if the therapist agrees that his feelings are abnormal for a relationship then he will work on whatever problems he has. I'm not sure how to word that. Because obviously the therapist won't "take sides" at least as far as I know. I just wanna know what I should expect from our session[s]. I'm not really looking for advice from this sub in our issues. I don't need more thoughts floating around in my head. I would just like a professional opinion on our situation. Thanks guys!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do therapists give advice on relationship issues. What generally goes on in sessions? Do they offer insight or opinions on our feelings or just help us sort through our feelings on our own? | How do therapists give advice on relationship issues. What generally goes on in sessions? Do they offer insight or opinions on our feelings or just help us sort through our feelings on our own? | 1,400 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU after having ice cold showers for a year
POST: Dear Reddit, this year I fucked up...
So I moved to the UK almost a year ago, and I live in a beautiful, brand-new student accommodation. My only concern has been that the showers were 90% of the time ice cold, and almost never steamy hot.
Yesterday, I've been hanging out with some of my British friends and we've been talking about what we miss from home. My immediate first thought was, shit, I just love a good shower back home. So I said it out loud, and all I got in return was confused faces.
After being publicly shamed over the fact that I have been living like an idiot for a year, and then demonstrating me how to properly use the shower, I got away by saying that mine must be faulty, then...
The truth is far from that, though. The switch controlling the heat could be turned way more backwards by pushing a button on it... Having done that, I spent around 50 minutes under the shower, laughing like a maniac while crying inside.
So here I am, on reddit, after having my first hot shower after a year. I feel like an idiot.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been having cold showers for a year, explained it to a group of friends, turns out my stupid brain failed to realise there is more to the problem. Just had my first hot shower. | Been having cold showers for a year, explained it to a group of friends, turns out my stupid brain failed to realise there is more to the problem. Just had my first hot shower. | 4,521 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Redditors with legal experience, on what grounds can an establishment deny an international/foreign ID as proof of age?
POST: I was wondering on what exact legal grounds an establishment can deny a foreign national the use of their identification as proof of age. I know it can vary by state, and by circumstance - this doesn't *quite* apply, but I know that the state of New York is required to accept any foreign driver's license as proof of driving competency, provided that there is an English translation.
For those wondering about my exact story, I went to a bowling range in North Carolina, where I tried to get a beer with my International Driver's License (IDP), as I am 21. They got very confused when they saw it, and asked for any other type of identification - all I had was: A) my student ID card, which doesn't have my birthdate, but does have my legal name that matches the IDP, and B) my actual foreign license, which is written in Korean, but has my government-issued social security number, which by default, has the citizen's birth date as the first six digits, and would also match the IDP.
They denied to my face that it was sufficient proof of my age, despite my birth date being there in plain sight. I cited that the International Driver's Permit is accepted almost worldwide, particularly by the United States, which is a 1968 signatory of the Vienna Convention on Road Traffic - so if the federal government can accept this document as sufficient proof that I can handle a motor vehicle in the United States and any US territory, then a birth date on the same document should be sufficient proof of my age.
The lady said, "The United States may accept this, but this bowling range doesn't."
There were a lot of phone calls, and eventually I gave up and got an orange juice. Redditors with legal experience - are they allowed to do this, or were they just being dicks?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Some wankers at a bowling range pretended my International Driver's Permit wasn't sufficient proof that I was 21, and I want to know if they can do that. | Some wankers at a bowling range pretended my International Driver's Permit wasn't sufficient proof that I was 21, and I want to know if they can do that. | 1,121 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my GF [23 F] of 9 months, have been having some problems of late and I said something stupid and hurtful today.
POST: So today we were in class working on an assignment and she was continuously exclaiming that she didn't understand what was going on. She seemed to be ignoring me when I asked if she needed help. She turned to our classmate and asked her. The other classmate didn't know and pointed to me for clarification, so I stated why she (GF) didn't ask a teacher. She said she didn't want to. So I mistakenly said that she should stop bitching about it.
Now she is enraged with me and won't speak to me at all.
I believe that my statement stemmed from both exhaustion and overall confusion and annoyance that I've had with her the past 6 months.
We just got back from summer break and I hadn't seen her for about 3 months. Upon reuniting she seemed pretty uncaring and not very excited about the whole situation.
The first two months of the situation were great, but now she doesn't seem to care or ignores me at times. We see each other in class but that's about it besides the occasional day where we get together. I've been down emotionally and almost borderline depressed about how the relationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere even though I deeply care for her. For the most part it is just me consoling her since she has had some family issues the past few months. She says that she loves me but I don't know if she really means it anymore.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've been having issues getting closer to GF past few months and said something stupid and hurtful. What should I do? | I've been having issues getting closer to GF past few months and said something stupid and hurtful. What should I do? | 4,280 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My friend (20M) have a problem with a girl (20F)
POST: I'm currently trying to help him move on from her.
Long story short, my friend met a girl in uni. They talked a bit before but only on FB (talked a bit in class also but that's about it). They went on to being in different classes due to one of them failing a year. She told him on FB that she'll hang out with him. After a while she met her current BF. Now my friend says that it's not fair that she gave her BF a chance before him even though she hasn't met either one of them. They argued about it a bit. She blocked him and unblock him after a while to help him move on.
Now it has been more than a year, and he still tries to message her in whatever way possible, to the point of harassment. She would open up accounts under her name, open up other accounts, post pictures of himself and tag her in it, etc. She has contacted the police twice, and the police has talked to him twice, warning him but he doesn't care. He has specifically said he doesn't care about going to jail, as long as she will explain why she didn't give him a chance. The police also warned that he'll be kicked out of school, but he doesn't care.
I've been trying to talk to him but his mind is locked onto this, and he said it'll basically continue until she gives him a reply to why, which she has multiple times, but he thinks she's not being truthful. I'm not sure how to help him move on, as he clearly cant and I don't want him to get kicked out of school/going to jail because of a girl..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend met a girl, can't get over her not wanting to hang out with him. Harasses her for more than a year, police threatening doesn't scare him. How would I help him move on? | Friend met a girl, can't get over her not wanting to hang out with him. Harasses her for more than a year, police threatening doesn't scare him. How would I help him move on? | 859 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by thinking I know my way around town
POST: This happened about two years ago on Halloween night. I was at band practice , and nobody came to pick me up. Instead of asking for a phone like a sensible person I decided to walk home in the dark. I took a left instead of a right at one turn, and ended up getting lost. For 3 hours. I ended up in the shadier parts of town, which freaked me out. I ended up walking halfway around my town, and somehow ended up near a church that's literally a block from my house. I ran home, and my stepmom was on the porch waiting from me. It being Halloween night, she thought that I was out partying. I tried telling her the truth, but she partied as a teen and she thought I was lying. This obviously made me mad, mainly because I'm not the party type. This ended up in me being grounded for what felt like forever.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Tried to walk home from band practice, got lost. Stepmom thought I was at a party, got grounded. | Tried to walk home from band practice, got lost. Stepmom thought I was at a party, got grounded. | 5,978 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 F] started sleeping with my friend [21 M] last week but I don't know if he's become too attached to me already. I don't want to lead him on?
POST: About a week ago I had sex with one of my friends when we were drunk after a party. Absolutely nothing had happened between us beforehand, and no one had ever said anything about any feelings, so it was kind of a surprise, but it wasn't weird or anything.
We've had sex a couple of times after that, but we spend a lot of time together because he's also one of my close friends and central to my group of friends. My best friend has said it looks like he's close to loving me already by the way he acts around me. He says things that I can tell are genuine but it's all seemed to come out of nowhere.
We haven't spoken much about the relationship but he keeps asking to and asking me on a proper date!
I really don't want to lead him on if I don't want anything, but I just don't know yet. It's hardly been any time so I don't know if I am just developing feelings for him or if I won't. I don't know whether it's wrong to keep like seeing him if I'm unsure and he really likes me - I could end up liking him but it's that he is already so keen on me I don't want to end up hurting him. Especially as above all else, I don't want to lose him as a friend.
Is it wrong to keep sleeping with him and seeing him when I'm not sure I like him like that yet? I don't know what could happen, but I don't want him to become too invested in something I'm not sure of yet.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | started sleeping with my friend, not sure if I like him romantically yet, he does, don't want to hurt him, is it wrong to carry on when I'm not sure how I feel yet? | started sleeping with my friend, not sure if I like him romantically yet, he does, don't want to hurt him, is it wrong to carry on when I'm not sure how I feel yet? | 3,233 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why is my now ex-boyfriend [21 M] so upset about our breakup and asking me [19 F] if we can stay friends when he was the one that chose to end things?
POST: We had been together for almost 9 months. I know that's not a long time but we were living together for almost all of it.
Anyway, things had been rough lately, so I proposed some solutions. Still it was hard for me to get him to have any sort of conversation with me, because he claimed he saw no benefit in "just upsetting me", so he wouldn't say what was on his mind. And then I thought breaking up would be a waste because I still loved him, but gave him the option to end it if he wanted.
Of course, he chose to end it without 'putting up a fight for us', to word it that way. And now he's the one all upset and asking if we can stay friends. Why does he care if he couldn't bring himself to try and keep us together?
Is that even fair of him to ask? Will staying friends ever be possible if I still love him and want things to be normal?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | If my boyfriend was the one who chose to end things between us, why is he so upset about it and insistent that we remain friends? | If my boyfriend was the one who chose to end things between us, why is he so upset about it and insistent that we remain friends? | 2,934 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 2 ½ years, not sure if I should be worried about weird FB post...
POST: Okay, so my boyfriend tells me he is ping away for a week with his family to a remote location where there is no cell service or wifi so he won't be able to talk to me until he gets back. This is totally fine with me because we only see each other every couple days as it is and we aren't constantly talking to each other anyway. However, I was on Facebook after he had left on his trip and a friend of his who lives near me posted a picture of him at a party with her. Considering he's supposed to be in the middle of nowhere, I'm a little confused? Our relationship is pretty solid and I like to think if he just wanted to go party or something without me or if he needed space that he'd just say so but now I'm not so sure? Should I ask him about this Facebook post? Thanks for any advice in advance :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend says he's going to be out of town but strange FB post says otherwise. Should I ask my boyfriend about it? | boyfriend says he's going to be out of town but strange FB post says otherwise. Should I ask my boyfriend about it? | 1,349 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Question about non-compete clauses...
POST: So I just received an offer from a company I am thrilled to have the chance to work for. The position is right, the pay is right, and the work/life balance looks to be promising. They sent over a formal offer for me to look at, in addition to an additional agreement that needs signed with a non-compete agreement. I completely understand the need for such an agreement, as the company will be extensively investing their time and resources in training me for the job. They are also one of the few companies that hire in individuals with no experience, so any and all skills I will develop that ae industry specific over the next few months will be thanks to them. While I definitely have no plans to leave the company any time in the near future, the language of the agreement concerns me. The list of jobs that the agreement states will be in breach of the non-compete is way more broad than I feel it should be. It basically limits me from doing any type of research position at any level, regardless of its relation to my actual position I will be taking on. As someone with a science degree, basically all jobs I would be qualified in pursuing in the event of my leaving/termination would be off limits for a year after my last day of employment. The language used in the agreement is very open-ended and broad, and I hesitate to put myself in that position in case something doesn't work. Has anyone else had to sign such a broad non-compete, or has anyone successfully negotiated the terms of a similar agreement? I really want to accept this job, and again I reiterate I have no intentions in leaving the company any time soon. I just don't want to put myself in an impossible situation should I be forced to leave somewhere down the road.`
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I just got a job offer, but the non-compete clause is a bit too open-ended and broad for my liking. Has anyone else ran into this situation before? How did you handle it? | I just got a job offer, but the non-compete clause is a bit too open-ended and broad for my liking. Has anyone else ran into this situation before? How did you handle it? | 4,338 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 F] with my boyfriend [32 M] together 5 years: he's a dreamer who can't seem to get his act together, otherwise a good relationship but is it time to break it off?
POST: I've been with my partner for 5 years and we communicate really well and enjoy each other's company, but in this last year I've been wondering if this is actually workable for the long term.
While I'm not interested in marriage and kids, I am interested in building a life together and it seems challenging to do with him. Last year he quit his job because it was unfulfilling and I was supportive of him taking the time to find out what he wants to do. The year has gone by and it's hard not to notice that he hasn't made much progress. His biggest breakthrough has been that he wants to create art and doesn't care which means it takes to support himself. Even settling on a career in art wouldnt bother me, but he just wants to create art and is not interested in making a career out of it. Doesn't want any kind of career it seems, but I find myself embittered by how selfish that feels, because I work so many hours.
Long story short he just refuses to think about any practical parts of life, how to sustain a life financially (maybe because he is willing to get help from his parents when he needs it?). In the meantime, I want to be able to plan trips, live together, invest in a dog, etc. Every element that requires planning seems impossible. I get frustrated by the thought of everything falling on my shoulders, but I also appreciate the emotional support and distraction he provides me from my career-driven life. We've talked about these differences a lot but just keep hitting a dead end. We care about each other but also are not sure if we're too different.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Are we just too different: Me a career-minded planner and him a free spirit? How do I decided whether it's time to break up after 5 years? | Are we just too different: Me a career-minded planner and him a free spirit? How do I decided whether it's time to break up after 5 years? | 1,860 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should we colonize outer space, just like colonizing America?
POST: We have spread across Earth. Wiped out part of a race to get across America and spread it out in full. We went to colonize America in the first place for religion freedom. Now must we espace Earth, do advance humans with our knowledge of technology, and be without the religious/moral limits that society imposes on advances technology.
America is split with many different majority groups. Liberals and Republicans are waging war against each other and cause filibusters all the time to prevent advancement in any area (Whether it be corporation domination, Gay marriage, NASA, school funding, etc). The constitution is now symbolized as an ancient text which we now have to "interpret" and infer what it means. We must start new. The structure of the constitution cannot hold the massive population, and culture diversity, of this nation together. Too many conflicting views that are interpreting the constitution into different meanings.
Solution: we have to start fresh with a new colonization of space, moon, or whatever. What do you suggest we do to prevent the overpopulation of earth, and/or the perplexing counter views of America?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | America is based off of old, out-of-date ideals that can't be applied to massive country. Colonize Space to rebel of Earth's limits to progress humanity? | America is based off of old, out-of-date ideals that can't be applied to massive country. Colonize Space to rebel of Earth's limits to progress humanity? | 4,011 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, a friend of mine played a clever joke on me. Care to help me get back?
POST: [This](reddit.com/user/downvote_ohmygord) is the friend in question. He made an account devoted entirely to telling me "fuck you." I know the perfect way to get back at him.
Everywhere he goes, he sees the number 117. It has been a problem for years, kind of like the number 23 for Jim Carrey. Seriously, there have been several instances where we were simply walking through the hallways of our high school and heard a random dude with no knowledge of the problem whatsoever ask us questions like, "Hey, what's 89 plus 27?"
I can tell that he finds his frequent and daily encounters with this number to be incredibly creepy. So here's what I need you to do:
Go to his [account](reddit.com/user.downvote_ohmygord) and reply to all of his comments with "117." Send him messages. Be creative. I want to see the look on his face when he loads up reddit in the morning and sees the number 117 all over his inbox.
Any help you can muster would be capital. Thank you in advance to anyone who decides to assist.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Spam [this guy](reddit.com/user/downvote_ohmygord) with the number 117. Anything you can do would be tops. | Spam [this guy](reddit.com/user/downvote_ohmygord) with the number 117. Anything you can do would be tops. | 3,947 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [IN] Apartment charging for pet damages when I didn't have a pet!?
POST: [Indiana, USA]
So my wife and I were stuck renting a place short term while we waited for our house build to be completed. We signed a 4 month lease that just ended on Aug. 8th. We hardly unpacked anything and basically lived out of boxes. The carpet was in the exact same condition as it was when we first moved in. However, we recieved a nice surpise in the mail yesterday, it was an invoice for $600 for replacing the carpet due to pet damage. We didn't pay any pet deposit or pet rent because we didn't have any pet. We did notice after we moved in that one of the doors had dog chew marks on it and we figured that the previous tenant was a pet owner. Now here is my f*ck-up...we didn't take any pictures. We were naive in our thinking that the place looked just like when we moved in. I called this morning and asked for pictures of the carpet that they say is "damaged" and I also asked when the carpet was last replaced. I 100% think that they are screwing us into paying for them to replace carpet that we did not damage. They said that they have a "3rd party" carpet guy come out and determine if the carpet needs cleaned or a full replacement. Now obviously this person would have a clear motivation to say the carpet needs replace every chance he got. They also said that they take pictures of the bottom of the carpet, but how would they know that there is damage underneath it if they didn't already rip it out? I know for an absolute certainty there were no surface stains at all. It all seems really sketchy to me and I want to fight it as far as I can. I'm afraid that without pictures I have any recourse. Also is there any way that I could get them to let us know if the previous tenant was a pet owner?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Apartment is claiming our carpet had "pet damage" after our 4 month lease. They are charging us $600 and we didn't even have a pet. I've got no pictures...am I screwed? | Apartment is claiming our carpet had "pet damage" after our 4 month lease. They are charging us $600 and we didn't even have a pet. I've got no pictures...am I screwed? | 5,685 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (F/17)Telling my crush (M/17) I liked him didn't go the way I thought.
POST: Previously posted in another subreddit before being directed here:
There's this guy at my school we are both Juniors in high school, he's new to our school and from Brazil. It's 6 months into the school year and I have liked him since I first saw him. Let's call him "Alex". He is shy like me, and so I was afraid that if I confronted him he'd get shy and plus confronting him would be hard for me to do anyways. So last night through Fb, I messaged him saying:
"Hey Alex, I just wanted to send you a message to let you know that I think your really nice and I'd love to get to know you better. I know we only have one class together and we don't talk much, but maybe we could hang out sometime? I am really shy so sometimes I won't talk but I'd like to try and get to know you better, and see how things go. So what do you think? -K. :)"
All to be followed up with him seeing it two minutes later and not responding. He hasn't been on fb since he saw the message, which worried me because he seemed to always be on fb before hand.
I am embarrassed by possibly being rejected, but I don't really know because he didn't answer with a yes or a no. Should I message him again or will that scream "desperate"? And if I do what should I say?
My ex does go to the school also, and I have seen my ex and crush talking but it was usually only a hello-goodbye kinda thing. Oh and me and my crush only I have one class together but are basically locker buddies since his is two lockers away from mine. How should I handle class with him since I was previously thinking of ditching that class for a few days ago so things can calm down (it's not an academic class it's just study hall)?
Any advice helps, thanks everyone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Told crush I like him through a fb message, no answer. Don't know how to handle Monday when I go back to school and have to face him. Also debating messaging him again. | Told crush I like him through a fb message, no answer. Don't know how to handle Monday when I go back to school and have to face him. Also debating messaging him again. | 179 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (m17) get back with my ex (f17)
POST: So two weeks ago my then girlfriend of 8 months and I broke up because I found out she was flirting and texting with some other guys after explicitly telling me she wasn't. Turns out she was also 'bored' with our relationship, granted this was 8 months in and she hadn't said a single thing to clue me into those feelings
Fast forward to yesterday. She writes me an essay about why she's learned her lesson and why she 'needs me in her life' and all that. She's also cut off all contact with the guy that she was flirting with. (I have a mutual friend verify this, so I'm fairly certain she's telling the truth.)
Now I dunno if I should get back with her. I mean we've got a ton in common. Same taste in movies, books, music, same sense of humor. But I dunno if we can rebuild the trust that was lost in the first place. So what should I do relationships?
(And yes, I'm fully aware that I could very well be putting too much thought into a simple high school relationship)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My first gf and I broke up, two weeks later she wants to get back together and I'm on the fence. What do? | My first gf and I broke up, two weeks later she wants to get back together and I'm on the fence. What do? | 4,947 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (17M) and I (15F) get violent during arguments, and I am scared
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for five months, and it was a smooth ride for the first two months, and trouble started to brew.
We have both been in relationships beforehand, and I was abused by my previous boyfriend which has instilled quite a few psychological problems in me. A few days ago during an argument, my boyfriend mocked the abuse that happened, and this has prompted me to analyse the relationship as a whole.
When I had a migraine a few weeks ago, an argument erupted because I needed silence and I wanted sleep, which caused my boyfriend to believe I was angry with him, for some reason. I resorted to begging for tablets to relieve the pain, and he laughed and kept switching lights on when I had told him the light was hurting my head even more. During other arguments, he has pinned me down, sat on me and put his hand over my mouth and squeezed my nose, has grabbed me so hard his fingers bruised my arms, bent my arm backwards until all I could do was fall to the floor, and repeatedly call me insane, a slut, and a psychopath. He recorded me crying and begging not to be touched, to which he kept reaching his hand out and telling me everything was going to be okay - which was nice however would have been more appreciated if he wasnt repeatedly attempting to touch me despite my protest.
I am not fully innocent of problematic behaviour, however, and I have had my fair share of violence in defence. The last argument we had, I bent his fingers backwards until he stopped touching me, I repeatedly slapped his hand away from me and in previous arguments, I have also teased him and probed him about his sexual history with his ex girlfriend.
I have admitted to him that my behaviour is relatively abusive however he will not admit that what he does is abusive, he admits he believes it is wrong, but not abusive. I am beginning to become scared but I am wondering whether I am being too dramatic about it and if it is not really abusive, and he is simply having trouble controlling his anger, I'm not sure. I need advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend and I get violent during arguments - I need to know whether my relationship is abusive or if I am just being crazy? | My boyfriend and I get violent during arguments - I need to know whether my relationship is abusive or if I am just being crazy? | 1,470 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, where do you shop for (semi-nice) casual clothes?
POST: I am starting grad school soon in le big city and I don't want everyone to *immediately* know that I am a poor country bumpkin. I have formal clothes (nice suit/dress shirts/slacks), but I am at a loss when it comes to casual wear. I typically sport old band tshirts, dickies type shorts and canvas shoes; basically I've had little need to update my attire since ~2002. Everything has holes in it :/ and this has never bothered me till now (I am a little perturbed that it should bother me at all).
Does anyone live in nyc, have any idea where to shop (pref. online) for early 20's semi-professional kind of look? Is this even how grad students dress?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | In a few months I will be walking into grad classes at Columbia, and I'd like to do my best not to look foolish. | In a few months I will be walking into grad classes at Columbia, and I'd like to do my best not to look foolish. | 6,338 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24M] with my ex [24F] I've turned into a crazy ex, how do I make things right?
POST: [long back story here](
My girlfriend and best friend of 1 year dumped me about 3 months ago ('officially' 3 weeks ago), and it definitely put me into a tailspin. She thought we weren't compatible, that we fought too much, that I dragged her down, and that she didn't have feelings for me.... a whole myriad of reasons that surprise me. On top of that she wants to see another guy. The breakup was not mutual, and I did a lot of begging and pleading and convincing to try and give me a second chance. Lots of texts, emails, letters and phone calls. I really fought to make it work, but it was too late. She told me that it wasn't going to happen, and even if I continued to improve myself she could never see herself being with me due to emotional baggage. She said that I was a great guy and that she just wanted to be friends, but she couldn't handle the begging anymore.
I really have no idea what to do, I'm really head over heals in love with this girl and i'm doing my best to separate entirely and move on. I initially tried being friends, but that was a serious mistake since it led to feelings of rejection and neglect. I've learned a lot from the break up and where we went wrong.... I've done a lot of self actualizing and I know that our situation is entirely different than when we lived together. I'm in a place where i'm capable of being a devoted boyfriend, and i'm certainly more confident and ambitious than when we were together. We've communicated much better since I moved out, and I consider us to be compatible. The problem is she's moved on and doesn't want me around, and I understand that.
I guess I really just have no idea what the next step is... if I should be friends so I can prove myself to her or if I should just disappear. I might be delusional, but I really just have no idea what to do since this girl is a very important part of my life.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | bad breakup made me act insane, trying to "make things right" but i'm not sure if I can handle being friends | bad breakup made me act insane, trying to "make things right" but i'm not sure if I can handle being friends | 5,188 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, what are some of your crazy hostel stories?
POST: This happened in the first night of a 3 day stay in a hostel in Florence. A friend and I stayed in an 8 person room. Our shared bunk was in an isolated corner of the room with an adjacent row of lockers in front. My friend had the top, I was on the bottom. I woke up around 5am to find a Brazilian guy wearing only his tighty-whities sitting at the end of my bed. Freaked out and groggy from sleep I asked him, "Hello, what are you doing?". He got up and walked towards me. Starting to get scared, I tried to distant myself from him by moving over in my bed. He thought I was making room for him and he crawled into my bed. He started to cuddle and kiss my neck. I thought about screaming rape and I knew the people in the room would help me and the guy would get into a shitload of trouble. Then I assessed the situation quickly and realised this guy was shitfaced drunk and had no idea what he was doing. I pushed him away and angrily whispered to him to fucking leave. He got irritated, rolled over and passed out. Me being a tiny 5'1" female trying to kick and shove an average sized guy off my bed was impossible. No matter how hard I slapped and jabbed him, he didn't wake up. The bunk started to rock back and forth from the force of my pushing. My friend on the top bunk woke up and confusedly called my name. I'm pretty sure at this point the whole room was awake and thought we were doing the nasty. About an hour and a half passed and somehow I woke him up. He must have finally sensed my anger and he got up to leave in a bit of a huff. An hour later everyone else in the room checked out early. Later on just as my friend and I were leaving the room to go sight-seeing, I heard him wake up and I caught a glimpse of him embarrassingly peeking over the locker partition. I never saw him again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hostel in Florence, woke up to find a half naked Brazilian guy trying to cuddle with me. Turns out he was extremely drunk. Lucky for him I was sympathetic and didn't cause a scene to have him arrested. | Hostel in Florence, woke up to find a half naked Brazilian guy trying to cuddle with me. Turns out he was extremely drunk. Lucky for him I was sympathetic and didn't cause a scene to have him arrested. | 2,674 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I [27M] cheated on my gf [25F] 3x during a weekend. It doesn't change that I love her
POST: So we got into a fight on a Thursday. She threw a huge tantrum and was just out of control. Because I'm a lawyer I stay rather calm, even when there's a fight and hate when it gets too emotional and dramatic. After an hour everything that can be said, is said. It just makes me feel so weird, when she keeps going. I just hate it. I don't make her responsible for it as a person, because every girl I've been with long enough has her moments.
Anyway. We got into the fight on a Thursday. On Friday she came around and she was being cute again. I didn't feel like it was over for me and I was annoyed that she thought it was okay just like that. Anyway, I left town the same day and stayed in San Diego over the weekend. The result was that I fucked 3 women until Sunday was over. To be honest, I didn't enjoy the sex that much. It's so much better with my girlfriend. Without emotions it doesn't mean much.
The last time I posted it, everyone told me to confess it, but I never planned to do that and I will not do it. There is no way to prove that it happened, not even I could prove it. She doesn't suspect a thing. I picked up the phone to talk to her even when someone else was there, so she thinks I was alone the whole time.
So I came back and now it's going better than ever. I realized that I want her and that as her boyfriend I am able to control her emotions a fair bit. Not in a mean way, but I want her to feel appretiated and happy, and not the need to start fights to get what she wants. Also I feel like that weekend gave me a chance to think about us and what I want. It's definitely her. She's beautiful, smart and 99% of the time super loving. I wouldn't want to miss her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cheated on my gf 3 times during one weekend after a fight. But I feel a lot better about our relationship now and think it will work out well. | Cheated on my gf 3 times during one weekend after a fight. But I feel a lot better about our relationship now and think it will work out well. | 1,634 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23F] with my BF [27M] of 2 years, its left to me to organise everything and I'm tired of it.
POST: My problem isn't a huge one compared to many others, but its driving me insane..
I feel entirely responsible for organising all dates, plans and holidays for my boyfriend and I. BF will sometimes suggest 'lets do something later' or 'lets go to eat', but then its always left down to me to pick what to do or where to eat. I've suggested and organised all our holidays and I resent doing it, so much so that I have two solo travel trips booked next year because I simply couldn't face having to organise everything for him again. For the record, he makes more money than he knows what to do with and I am a student scraping together enough for rent and food each month.
This has all culminated in him promising to make new years plans two days ago and never getting round to it. I pestered him earlier and he basically told me I could look online for things to do and sent me £100. I relented and agreed to book tickets to an event later in the evening, and suggested he could make us plans for beforehand, to which he replied 'so this is a test?'. I completely blew up and he backed down and agreed to organise the whole night, but its left me feeling exasperated. This is the only thing we've ever really bickered about (its come up before as well) but it does feel like a complete drain on the relationship.
I really want a partner who is ambitious and spontaneous and who will one day pack up his stuff and travel the world with me (a huge personal ambition).. is this too much to ask or am I being taken advantage of by doing all the organisational legwork in the relationship? How do I fix this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have to organise all dates and trips between me and my BF and I'm getting sick of it being so one sided. | I have to organise all dates and trips between me and my BF and I'm getting sick of it being so one sided. | 5,042 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Pulled over by cop for the first time ever. Not sure how to feel.
POST: I'm 26 years old and have had a clean driving record from the time I got my license, to now. I was on my way to work and will not lie, I pass by a school that I disregard the "school zone" speed limit for. This is mainly because it take only about 0.1 or 0.2 miles until I pass the school zone. Once past the school zone you're allowed to resume 35-40 mph. Obviously when you are in the school zone it's supposed to be 25 mph.
I was picked up for going 41 in a 25 zone. There's no debating it. I was compliant and cordial to the officer to avoid any chance of confrontation. The end result? A $54 dollar fine for having license plate holder that is not legal in my state. He stressed he could have given me 6 points for speeding in a school zone though. Told me where I could go to dispute it and that we can tell the judge how I could be possibly dangerous to the children of the school, including the judge's grandson.
Part of me wanted to argue that I was just out of the school zone. The other part is thankful that this guy did not throw 6 points at me? Could you guys reaffirm that I should be feeling relieved to walk out this with only a $54 fine? Or was I wronged? He was extremely stern and brisk in the conversation. Guess I'm not completely used to that.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Never gotten a single ticket in my life. Not sure how to feel about. Could have gotten 6 points, but got a $54 fine instead. Questioning how I feel about this and if I got off easy. | Never gotten a single ticket in my life. Not sure how to feel about. Could have gotten 6 points, but got a $54 fine instead. Questioning how I feel about this and if I got off easy. | 2,299 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (20sF) bring up old "drama" with my former friend (20sF) to get some closure?
POST: Hi, everyone.
A couple of years ago, my (mid-20sF) best friend (also mid-20sF) "friend-dumped" me completely out of nowhere. We had known each other since early middle school but didn't become good friends until high school. Once we got to college, we became inseparable. For several years, we would talk constantly. We texted day and night and hung out with each other at least 4-5 times a week. We would have times when we would see each other less often if one of us were busy, but we were always very close.
She friend-dumped me completely out of the blue. We were texting about something and she suddenly stopped texting me. I didn't think anything of it because that's the point of texting, you can just do it when you have the time. Later that day, something really funny happened and I had to tell her about it. I didn't get a reply. A couple of days later, I still hadn't heard from her so I sent her a "hey" with another no response. That's when I realized what she had done. I tried to accept it gracefully, but I did, embarrassingly, send her a couple more "hey"'s over the following weeks just to see if maybe I was wrong. I wasn't.
This was in 2013 so a significant amount of time has passed. It's been on my mind recently. She was my best friend for such a long time and I haven't really made a lot of friends since then. It's hard not having any closure on why she decided to cut me out. It's especially weird because we were literally in the middle of having a conversation (via text) about something when it happened.
I've been thinking about sending her a message on facebook to ask her if she wouldn't mind telling me what happened. I'm not trying to rekindle a friendship with her or anything, I just want to find out why. Is this a terrible idea? Should I just accept the fact that I can't get closure on everything?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friend cut contact with me very suddenly 2 years ago. I've been thinking about it a lot lately and would like to know why she decided to do this, but I don't know if it's a good idea or not. | My friend cut contact with me very suddenly 2 years ago. I've been thinking about it a lot lately and would like to know why she decided to do this, but I don't know if it's a good idea or not. | 5,375 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M20] have strong feelings for my boss [F30]
POST: So my situation is a tad complicated, but here goes nothing.
Over the past couple years, while working at my current job, I have developed strong feelings towards one of my managers [F30]. I have always been one of her favorites, however i'm not sure if it's because of my work ethic or something more. I honestly am not sure what to do as my attraction seems to grow stronger everyday and whenever i'm around her I just want to confess everything. She is one of the most beautiful girls and we click on so many levels and our conversations just feel natural (Which says a lot since I'm incredibly socially awkward.) I'm not really sure how to explain it but I feel like something's there. Whenever i'm feeling slightly out of it she **always** knows and asks about it. When I ask why shes asking she always says something along the lines of "because i care about you". Not sure if that's a motherly thing because of the age difference or something else.
To make things more complicated, I have been in and on and off long distance relationship with a girl that has been very rocky and i have always questioned if she is really the *one*. However, even after saying that I just can't end the relationship because I'm one of those guys who doesn't make any moves on girls so relationships are a rare occurrence (2 GF's both came onto me first).
Basically I'm just asking for some guidance on both situations. Like I said previously, I'm very socially awkward and have no idea how to handle both these situations.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I[M20] have **crazy** feelings for my manager[F30], but I also have an on and off long distance relationship that I don't know what to do with. | I[M20] have **crazy** feelings for my manager[F30], but I also have an on and off long distance relationship that I don't know what to do with. | 4,541 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 M] whether I should trust my gut feeling regarding a female friend [22 F]
POST: Last weekend I invited friends over to a house party. A female friend, who I've known for about 4 months, enthusiastically responds while everyone else ended up flaking. We aren't great friends but we have a shared group of friends and have hung out a fair amount.
On the day of the party, I message her the details for the party expecting her to flake out as well. However she ends up coming and we have a pretty fun time.
However, about two weeks ago, I broke up with a girl who I had been casually dating. I'm wondering if I'm just subconsciously trying to look for signals that aren't really there.
I'm hoping a removed party can look at our interactions and judge the events.
1. She's recently been helping me a lot with a side project of mine. She has a pretty expansive network and I've been leveraging that a lot recently.
2. At the party, she generously shared her coke with me. However she's been in the process of setting me up with her contact. Her generosity could have been more about giving me a test run.
3. She often followed me into secluded areas of the house and felt really comfortable about it. However she never sat up right beside me. She typically maintained a few inches of space.
4. I'm not sure if she knew I had a gf when we first met? Also my relationship with the aforementioned gf was slated to end in August. She was moving away and neither party wanted to do long distance. A lot of our mutual friends knew this but I'm not sure if she specifically knew this.
During the night, I operated under the assumption that we were simply friends. If I made a move and she wasn't interested, it would have been awkward trying to leverage her network for my side project. Plus a part of me feels like its best to just have some alone/me time at the moment.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hung out with a female friend and had a fun time. Wondering if recent events are making me look for signs that aren't there. | Hung out with a female friend and had a fun time. Wondering if recent events are making me look for signs that aren't there. | 5,264 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34 M] with my coworker [29 F] working together for 3 years, How do I get back to being just friendly coworkers?
POST: edit typo: Me [24 M]
We've been working together for about 3 years and I just started to feel really attached to her in the last 4 months. I never told her and I did the best I could not to hint at anything because she is already in a relationship. I accepted that we will never be together and I'm starting to feel less shitty when I'm not around her.
The problem is. We still go to lunch together and see each other about once or twice a week.
Any tips on how to forget about romantic feelings for her?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I [24M/single] need tips for burying my romantic feelings for female coworker [29F/in relationship] | I [24M/single] need tips for burying my romantic feelings for female coworker [29F/in relationship] | 739 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Mother is butt hurt over my telling her off, now she will only speak to me in a business like fashion [21/f+62/f]
POST: 21/f 62/f Mother/daughter
My mother is an entrepreneur and runs two businesses and I've been involved my whole life, working like a dog and even putting school after work.
I go to university abroad, and I was home over Easter holiday, where I spent 9-5 EVERY day without pay fixing both websites, shooting slides, making new promotional materials and setting up her social media.
The business is doing poorly, very poorly to the point that she was following me around the house crying about not having money to pay taxes.
I told her that she has GOT to send me pictures So I can do her social media.
This past weekend, first weekend I'm back at school, senior year, in the midst of the end of all things, she starts sending me these joke pictures, pics of someone picking their feet in the store, underwear hanging from a string and at first I didn't know what was going on so I was mad. This "send me pictures" social media issue has been ONGOING and I didn't get a single picture for social media. I've been asking for the last year to just send pictures, to take 30 seconds and send me a picture because I can't do it while I'm 5,000 miles away.
I finally sent her a message saying,
"Also, I know you were sending those toe picture and funny pictures as a joke, but I find it disrespectful when I'm coming to you from a business perspective TRYING to help turn things around. Why should I take thins seriously if you're not?"
Now she's mad at me, and won't speak to me in any way other than short clipped business way.
I'm just sick of a grown woman acting like a child. Ugh, some advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm working on business development with family business, mother isn't taking me seriously, I called her out and now she's mad, I feel like I don't have time for this crap but she's my mom... | I'm working on business development with family business, mother isn't taking me seriously, I called her out and now she's mad, I feel like I don't have time for this crap but she's my mom... | 729 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17m] am in a happy relationship and have been for 8 months. I am insecure for absolutely no reason and I don't know how to stop.
POST: Background info on the relationship: We have been happy for 8 months and have had our share of ups and downs but we are in love as much as 17 year olds can be. We both extremely happy.
Background on me: I am a 17 year old and have no reason to be insecure. I am a 4.0 student and am the class president. I am not really attractive but I'm not repulsive either. I am also fit and am not overweight at all. I have absolutely no reason to be insecure at all.
So the issue: For some reason I constantly feel as if there is someone better for my girlfriend out there. I have even gone as far as to state repeatedly that there is probably someone better out there for her to her(I know that was dumb). She always responds saying I am the best. I don't know why I feel this way at all.
I think one part of it could be that she has a lot of male friends and one that I cannot stand. She talks to him a lot(not as much as she talks to me). Even though he is interested in someone else I still get somewhat jealous and insecure when they spend time together even when I'm there(I know I'm really hopeless). this whole example is just one situation of the many.
Overall I'm just worried about screwing up with her by being to insecure. She already knows a little about how I feel but not everything. I know this whole post is pathetic but I didn't know where to turn to.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am feeling insecure for no reason in a happy relationship. I love her and don't want her to go away because I am so broken. | I am feeling insecure for no reason in a happy relationship. I love her and don't want her to go away because I am so broken. | 5,138 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what's the best way to find a great deal on flights only?
POST: So, I'm flying with my boyfriend from PHX AZ to San Jose CA right after Christmas so he can meet my family for the first time.
We're avoiding travelocity/expedia/whatever other 'discount' websites because 1. Southwest always has better deals straight through them, and 2. I've heard horror stories and don't want our vacation to tank.
I was wondering if anyone had any tricks for finding great deals? So far I'm finding $78-$117 per ticket (one way) as the cheapest, which isn't so bad. But I'm curious to see if anyone has any tips or tricks I'm not aware of? Or possibly a promo code that could help me out?
I've been searching and going nuts trying to find a good deal, so now I'm turning to reddit to see if someone can help me out!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I need tips on how to find a cheap flight without going with one of those shitty discount sites (i.e. travelocity) | I need tips on how to find a cheap flight without going with one of those shitty discount sites (i.e. travelocity) | 1,313 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18/f] with my best friend, [18,f] I'm annoyed by her negative attitude.
POST: I became close to my best friend early last year. I love her to death, I really do. She's funny, sweet, and a good friend.
She is just so negative and I hate it. My SO, his family, and our friends see it too.
Example: we're both seniors and while pretty much everybody is excited about graduation, she was complaining about how the rules & celebrations regarding it are dumb. It is dumb, the point is to be silly and not act like you have a stick up your ass.
She's also really jealous, negative, and unappreciative. I recently started coming out of my shell and generally became more confident and happy. Since then I've made some new friends and we planned on going to see a movie together. Her boyfriend said that they could go too. She was genuinely mad about going the next day. "Well it looks like a dumb movie and and I don't really know everybody going" was her excuse. He takes her on dates almost every weekend but you can't go see one movie with him? She complains a shit ton and just acts super apathetic all the time.
This is what makes me the most mad. Her SO wants to go to disney with her next year and she flat out said she was planning on ignoring him the whole time they were there because she doesn't wanna go. I mean, if my boyfriend said he was gonna take me to Disney next year I'd be SO excited. But she's completely apathetic to everything and can't appreciate it.
She's just getting worse and worse and I can't stand it. Once you get her by herself she's completely different but otherwise she's just miserable to be around. Is there anything I can do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Best friend is extremely negative, jealous, and unappreciative and it's only getting worse. I can't deal with it anymore. Is there any hope of this getting better, and if not what do I do? | Best friend is extremely negative, jealous, and unappreciative and it's only getting worse. I can't deal with it anymore. Is there any hope of this getting better, and if not what do I do? | 2,059 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 F] with my husband [32 M] 9 years, he told me sometimes he just wants to end it all.
POST: I'm posting because I'm really not sure what to do and, I'm really scared.
Me and my husband were introduced to each other by a mutual friend and, he's amazing. He can be really sweet at times he treats me right and, I really love him.
He's seemed happy throughout the years and has never showed signs of being unhappy. Last night really scared the shit out of me and, broke my heart at the same time.
He went out drinking(you can walk there and back the bar is only 2 blocks away) and didn't come home until 4:00am which is really unusual for him.
I went downstairs and saw he was in the bathroom throwing up so I went in there. Turns out he wasn't he was actually crying(he has never ever cried in all of our time together) and I asked him what was wrong.
He told me sometimes he feels like just ending it all because he can't take it anymore. I actually started crying because it hurt so much to hear him talk like that.
I held him for most of the night before I took him to bed he went to work this morning. He was acting normal but I could tell something was still bothering him I could see it in his face.
I'm not sure what do I do what should I say to him when he gets home.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my husband got drunk and came home late I found him in the bathroom crying and he told me sometimes he wants to "end it all" not sure what to do. | my husband got drunk and came home late I found him in the bathroom crying and he told me sometimes he wants to "end it all" not sure what to do. | 2,040 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Bought a custom engagement ring with no refunds, then our relationship fell apart
POST: Hello. I recently bought a custom engagement ring from Etsy that I picked out with my SO of over 3 years. It's a beautiful ring but to keep a modest pricetag, we opted for cheaper stones in it. Buying it custom like this means there are no refunds on the purchase, however.
Soon after I received the ring, things started going rapidly downhill. I think my SO did a lot of reflecting and came to the conclusion that we're not right for each other as I find it hard to be emotionally available and she tries her damnedest to make that emotional connection. She is unable to forgive me for the changes I have not been making for her in recent months to strengthen our relationship and help her through hard times.
Things seem incredibly bleak, and I am considering looking into options to resell the ring or attempt to get a partial refund. I'm wondering if anyone might know where I could start; the ring is brand new and I am not interested in pawning it off at some shitty shop for much less than what I paid for it. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Bought a beautiful ring with no refund policy, looking for the best option to resell it or get somewhere near my money's worth. | Bought a beautiful ring with no refund policy, looking for the best option to resell it or get somewhere near my money's worth. | 3,079 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 F] don't like kissing. I've known this for a while now, and no amount of kissing good or bad will change that. How do I bring it up to the person I'm dating?
POST: Not dating anyone right now, but a hypothetical future person as I'm getting back into the dating game.
A little more about me: I'm bisexual and very sexually fluid. Sometimes I even feel asexual. I'm also a virgin, but I'm really ready to not be. My only problem is I reeeeaalllly hate kissing. I hate the way my mouth feels and tastes. I hate the sounds, the smells, everything pretty much. I *might* like kissing someone I'm in love or infatuated with, but I have yet to experience that. (Most people like to kiss to eventually experience those feelings.)
I've had some dating experience, and I even really liked a guy once who I was seeing. But once we became intimate and made out, I got really weird and I think I scared him off a bit. (I also divulged that I was a virgin, oh well.) He stopped talking to me after that, obviously he was not someone I would've wanted to be with anyway.
So what do I do? When do I bring this up? And don't tell me I'll eventually like it when I find a good kisser, because I've kissed good kissers and I still hated it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hate kissing, what do? When do I tell the person I'm dating without scaring them off? And how do I tell them? | Hate kissing, what do? When do I tell the person I'm dating without scaring them off? And how do I tell them? | 2,059 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Has anyone ever gone on a 'break' successfully?
POST: Hello,
Me and my girlfriend have been going out for quite a few years since we were both pretty young. We are both in college right now, finishing soon.
We are going to be apart for a few months over the winter (trip overseas) and we are now in a weird place and I need advice.
We are in love with each other and plan to move in together soon after my return. We started talking, and it got brought up the idea of us going on a break while i'm away so I don't have any regrets in the future in regards to sexual freedom and experience (since i have only really had one girlfriend, as she only one boyfriend).
Now it's heating up and we are both so confused. And just have no idea how to approach this. She seems to want to figure her self out more than me, but also is wildly in love with me.
Has anyone ever gone on a break for a few months and come back to the love of your life and continued your relationship? I feel it's a little more one sided because she wants to figure herself out and try new things but still wants to be with me for the rest of her life.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend and I haven't had any other sexual experience besides each other. We considering going on a break while I travel so we can get 'it' out of our systems. Is this a bad idea? | Girlfriend and I haven't had any other sexual experience besides each other. We considering going on a break while I travel so we can get 'it' out of our systems. Is this a bad idea? | 1,451 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [24/F] boyfriend [27/M] of 10 months pisses me off, but I don't know how to talk to him about it.
POST: I'll start off by saying that he's an international student from Saudi Arabia; I'm an American attending the same school here in the US. He's been home visiting family for a little over a month now.
It frustrates me that he can find the time to call our roommates like, every 2 or 3 days but he hasn't called me in weeks, and he'll go a week without even a text or whatsapp message saying hi. I try to avoid being clingy, but it makes me feel very unimportant in his life.
He also has a way of making me feel like I'm stupid. I'm not, but he'll phrase things in such a way as if the answer is completely obvious and I somehow missed the answer to a painfully simple question.
Generally speaking, he's a great guy and sometimes I do feel as if he genuinely cares. But a lot of times, I feel under-appreciated. I don't know how to bring this up without sounding clingy, but in my mind, it's not too much to call once every two weeks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend, who has been out of the country for a month, can make time to call our roommates every 3 days but hasn't called me in weeks. I don't know how to bring this up without sounding clingy. | My boyfriend, who has been out of the country for a month, can make time to call our roommates every 3 days but hasn't called me in weeks. I don't know how to bring this up without sounding clingy. | 3,397 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears
POST: Me (f) 24, Him 23, we've been together a little over six months.
Like the title says, he was logged in and my curiosity browsed his messages. The message causing me to post to r/relationships was a conversation between him and a sister of a girl he pined after for years. I don't know the complete history of the two, but it spans years. Basically he said he loved me, but he thinks of her everyday and misses her like crazy. Yep, he misses the girl that kept him friend zoned and wrapped around her finger. That old country song 'Jolene' is echoing in my mind. Oh, and he works with her, not always side by side, but occasionally.
The message was sent around or on our six months anniversary. He made a big deal out of six months. I told him most people celebrate by the year, not every six months. Eventually he said we we're going through a rough patch and thought making six months momentous would help. This hurt because I didn't know we had issues and am constantly trying to get him to communicate.
Yesterday morning while laying in bed I made the comment that nothing good lasts forever. Right before going to bed he tells me he thought I was breaking up with him when I said that. I asked him why he didn't say anything, he had some weak excuse. He did mention he grabbed me tightly and wouldn't let go, which is what he does when things get especially rough or emotional. I should have picked up on it, in retrospect.
There has been one other time when I got on his laptop and looked through his history. He was upset with me, embarrassed, and felt his privacy was invaded. I can't imagine what he will think or feel about this. I know I'm hurt and have no one to talk to. It's difficult not to feel hurt when I accept him for everything and love him as much as I can, and yet he finds himself hung up on a girl that kept him away. I thought advice from this community would spare me from worsening the situation. And maybe make me feel a bit better…
TL;DR: . Assistant: | SO didn't log out of FB account, read message, found out he is missing another woman (who kept him friend zoned and strung along) like crazy. | SO didn't log out of FB account, read message, found out he is missing another woman (who kept him friend zoned and strung along) like crazy. | 2,477 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 1.5. Today, my girlfriend is modeling for the first time. How do I remain supportive without letting my jealousy ruin our relationship?
POST: A bit of background on myself: I am a photographer by trade. Somewhat as a joke, my girlfriend has always playfully been very against my taking photos of her. It hurt and annoyed me at first when she played coy, but eventually I just stopped trying to involve her in my work.
She is a very attractive girl - to the point of being openly approached constantly whenever she's out at no matter the setting (work, etc). That said, she grew into her good looks and somewhat enjoys the attention she gets now. Recently, she was asked to model for a clothing company startup she is a fan of. Excited with the idea, she agreed.
At the moment, I am a mixture of supportive, jealous, insecure, and unsure. The photographer inside me is against the idea because it's unpaid and I feel they're taking advantage of her. The boy in me is jealous that she is so enamored with the idea and was so resistive to me (taking photos) initially. I'm also just not that comfortable with my girlfriend choosing to be ogled by people online - perhaps a bit possessive/insecure, but I just don't love the idea of her half naked all over the internet and lastly... The boyfriend in me is being supportive and pushing her to do something she wants to even though I really feel bad about it.
I don't want to push her away and I want to see her happy. How do I deal with my own insecurities and jealousy with this situation. She's at the shoot right now and having a great time. I'm at home in knots.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend is modeling today for the first time and really enjoying it. I'm insecure and jealous because she's never shown the desire to do that with me and I feel uncomfortable with her choice to be ogled. | My girlfriend is modeling today for the first time and really enjoying it. I'm insecure and jealous because she's never shown the desire to do that with me and I feel uncomfortable with her choice to be ogled. | 285 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Addressing favoritism in administration....do it or let it go?
POST: Okay so I live in the dorms in my school. We have two young dorm life supervisors (male and female) in my hall. They are both new and fresh out of school.
My particular hall is very, very small so everyone knows everyone. So all year everyone noticed some preferential treatment going on. Some RA's were allowed into the supervisors apartments, invited to outside events/ holiday parties and were generally "cooler" with the supervisors. Everyone knew it and no one spoke out. The supervisors also did things the old ones would never do, like adding certain residents and RA's on facebook , tagging them in posts, and praising them.
For instance, we went to a conference because I am in a leadership positions in the dorms, and one of the supervisors went along. It just so happened that one of her favorites was there too. The whole they were buddy and buddy and it was very rude at times. She even snapped a photo with her and posted it on facebook talking about how much a wonderful leader she is and how she is determined to make her go far.
So hiring time rolls around for next year, and I along with some other people applied for Res Life positions. Long story short who got hired and who didn't basically solidified everything we thought about the favoritism going in. The "hiring" process was a joke and it was obvious they knew who they wanted before the applications were sent in.
The problem is we (me and a few students) want to address it without coming across as bitter because we weren't hired. We want to write a letter addressing some of the lack of professionalism and then have a meeting with the supervisors. The letter is written but now I am just like "fuck it" I won't be in the dorms next year anyway and neither will by friend who is also speaking out. Even if we call them out those who are hired will still be hired. And favoritism is an aspect of any job.
I feel like I will look stupid and bitter if I say something even though everyone knows what is going on, should I let it go?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Obvious favoritism with hiring going on. Everyone knows it. Want to speak out but don't wan to come across as bitter because I wasn't hired* | Obvious favoritism with hiring going on. Everyone knows it. Want to speak out but don't wan to come across as bitter because I wasn't hired* | 3,457 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I know here on Reddit we know working in IT/Tech call centers sucks and the reps really aren't bad, but what is the worst experience you have had?
POST: For me it was a few days ago. We use Comcast here (unfortunate but all we can get in our area) and the woman I had to talk to must never have touched a computer outside of work and talked out of her ass. Our internet was supposed to be about 25 MBS but we were getting 3-4 (used speedtest.net to check for a week). So after checking everything I called up to see what was going on/get a tech to come. The woman I got spend the first 15 min telling me everything was perfectly fine. After finally getting it through to her it was not she tells me that everything was fine with them and it HAD to be my wireless router. Best part? I don't use one. I'm hard-lined. I dont even have a wireless router IN MY HOUSE. She didn't care. It was my wireless router. THEN after another 20 min of finally explaining my setup she asks how I know its slow. I told her I did the check online to their server via speedtest. She told me that's not accurate and I NEEDED to use THEIR test. I did and it was at 2. WORSE than speedtest.net. She went back to its my wireless router I must be using. I then immediately hung up, called back and asked someone to set an apt for me for a tech. They transferred me to the department and after I explained my situation I hear 4-5 clicks and a "Oh yeah here's the problem, a tech can be there tomorrow at 2 to fix it for ya (it was their end, some type of signal problem.) Guy comes, 10 min later I'm good to go. I normally don't complain to supervisors but i called back with the her name and HAD to for the absolutely BLATANT ignorance and her not listening to a goddamn thing I was sayin
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Some bitch keeps me on the phone for over an hour saying it was a wireless routers fault that I dont use/own. Tech sees problem fixes in 10 min. | Some bitch keeps me on the phone for over an hour saying it was a wireless routers fault that I dont use/own. Tech sees problem fixes in 10 min. | 5,385 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I go for it even though my time is running out?
POST: So basically there's this girl in my class whom I'm attracted to and I think that there is a chance that we could end up being a couple, but there seems to be a few things that can prevent that from happening.
1. I've heard rumors that she is in an arranged marriage (Her family is Middle Eastern; Haven't confirmed this from her, as she is private and most likely wouldn't want to say anything on the matter) 2. We have a few months left before she goes back home for a couple months and then will be going off to college (I'm only a Junior), and I most likely won't see her ever again unless we end up going to the same college 2 years from now, which does seem likely as we plan on going to the same school. 3. It seems that she's been hurt by a previous guy from what she has told me, and she's told me she hates most guys at are school. My question is: Should I try to start a relationship with her? A lot of people might say hell yeah live life to the fullest and all, which I totally want to do. I just don't know if she feels the same and I'm also looking for a serious relationship, and a few months isn't enough time to do as such. Thanks for reading! :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | people: I like a girl who might be in an arranged marriage and I only have a couple months left with her. Should I go for it? | people: I like a girl who might be in an arranged marriage and I only have a couple months left with her. Should I go for it? | 3,241 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Just Bought A Garmin Forerunner 305 For What I Think Is A Decent Deal. Thought I'd Share.
POST: So I did some looking around at different models of wrist mount GPS units. Cost and functionality were the biggest concern. I finally decided on the Forerunner 305 since it would do everything I wanted and was a good price (even though it's huge).
Best price I found online was through Amazon for around $130, with free shipping if I wanted to wait 1-2 weeks. It was available at the local Best Buy for $150. Did a quick search and found a printable coupon good for the month of February at Best Buy for 20% off all "Health & Fitness" products.
Went in to Best Buy and the price was $160 on the shelf. I found an employee (just happened to be a cute girl) nearby and told her I wanted to get the 305. She said she had that model and loved it...even more than some of the more expensive ones she tried (even though it's huge). She said she has run some marathons and we chatted a little bit about how I was just starting to run. She told me about some of the runs in the area, how the best ones tend to end with beer, and overall was very pleasant and informative while waiting in line at the cashier. I definitely hope to meet more cool people like her while pursuing this sport.
So I got to the cashier and the 305 rang up at $160 as expected. I mentioned the web site price was $150 and he price matched it. Then I gave him the 20% off coupon and it wouldn't scan. He tried typing in the number and it wouldn't take it. So he tried again and it accepted the coupon, but didn't apply the discount to the 305. He read the coupon, looked at the GPS, manually entered the 20% off and had a supervisor approve it. Super easy, out the door for $120.
The coupon should work on any "Garmin Fitness GPS" (that's an actual category on the Best Buy website), as well as any heart rate monitor or other brand of fitness GPS.
Here's a link to the coupon. Hopefully it will be useful for someone out there within the next couple weeks. It expires on 2/28/2011.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 20% off Best Buy coupon got me a Garmin Forerunner 305 for $120. Coupon should work for anything "Health & Fitness." | 20% off Best Buy coupon got me a Garmin Forerunner 305 for $120. Coupon should work for anything "Health & Fitness." | 1,269 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [18F] get over my ex-boyfriend [18M] as fast as possible?
POST: My ex-boyfriend and I dated for 8 months. We were each other's first relationship, first love... and now first breakup. We actually have been planning the breakup for the last several months since neither once of us want to be in a long-distance relationship once we start college.
We broke up on Wednesday and have agreed not to talk to each other for a long long time. It was actually not a great relationship (lots of fights) and I had considered breaking up with him several times, but not being able to talk to him is harder than I thought it would be. Since we have been planning the breakup for so long, I've completely accepted it and I know we won't ever get back together. I just want to stop missing him.
I know the typical thing to do after a break up is to think about old memories and listen to sad songs and generally just give yourself a little while to dwell on it. But every time I do this I just start feeling lonely and sad, so I've been pushing all thoughts of the breakup out of my mind. I guess it's like I'm pretending that the relationship never existed. But I want to be completely 100% over him as soon as I can and I don't know if this is the healthiest way to get there. I have no desire to wallow or grieve, but should I force myself to? What is the best way?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | He and I just broke up, I want to get over him by not thinking about him for a while. First breakup, not sure how to handle it | He and I just broke up, I want to get over him by not thinking about him for a while. First breakup, not sure how to handle it | 3,181 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I his cover story?
POST: I [24 f] have been with my boyfriend [29 ] for a little over two years, we licte together in his house. The first 2 weeks of our relationship were great, and he wanted me all the time. Shortly after he started acting like a dick. He puts me down, talks to me like I'm stupid and makes fun of me to his friends or mine and even talks crap about me to his ex.
We haven't had sex in over a year and the last time we did, I had to beg for it and it lasted less than 5 mins because he said he had a headache. He's never finished during sex with me but he has no problems ejaculating with his flesh light or in the shower.
He makes fake passes at me and half heartedly grabs my boobs or ass and complains all the time about how I'm 'unresponsive'. But when I invite him to shower with me, he doesn't touch me or look at me or get hard. I can't remember the last time I saw him get hard. My friends think he's gay, and I'm not sure what to do anymore.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My bf of 2 years doesn't seem to be physically attracted to me and my friends think he's gay and using me as a cover. | My bf of 2 years doesn't seem to be physically attracted to me and my friends think he's gay and using me as a cover. | 3,784 |
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