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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: A Job/Ethics Dilemma POST: So I was recently passed over for a promotion at my company by someone who is extremely under-qualified compared to my work, seniority, and educational background. Upset and feeling like it was time to move on anyway, I wanted to give my notice and quit. My mother suggested though that the best way to "stick it to them" is to take a leave of absence then go on disability for a couple months (I have a legitimate disability that is exasperated by my job). This would allow me to be paid for a couple months while not working and look for my next job. I've always felt social benefits are for people who are really in need (my "disability" is fairly manageable and more of a nuisance than anything else), and I don't know if it is right to "milk the system" in the name of making my employer suffer. I'm in a bit of a moral quandary. Help? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Should I just quit my current job and move on or try and take a leave of absence and file for disability while I'm not working?	Should I just quit my current job and move on or try and take a leave of absence and file for disability while I'm not working?	2,080
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: 26F needs help dealing with her Heroin addict 47m father POST: *Let me start off by saying I am a horrible speller and bad at grammar do to learning disables. * I(26f) need help dealing with my (46) homeless Heroin addict father. I really have no help at all with my other family members my(26) twin sister is a meth addict who is now 7 months clean. My(23) little sister is a meth, heroin, whore in a gang. My mother OD on Meth and died 8 years ago. I spent my whole life in special ed classes. Due to my family drug problems I was able to over come a lot of limits the doctors placed me on. But my father is a homeless heroin addict. I set up interviews for rehabs and shelters I cannot do all the paperwork for him due to my disables and his age. I fear meeting my father alone due to that fact he is around my little sister a lot. She is in a gang. All this keeps me up at night I want to help my father but I do not know how. I want to be safe. I know bring my father into my(27) boyfriend and mine house will put us in danger and end our relationship. I do not want this whoever all this keeps me awake at night. My twin sister who is clean will not deal or help me deal with this she is to far into her own recovery to care or want to care. I do not know what to do anymore. It is clear my family is no longer anything due to drugs. I have smoked pot a few times I do not like it, I have nothing to due with drugs. I have so much in my life to deal with and his is not helping. Please give me good ideas who to deal with this. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I need help finding away so I can sleep at night without meds. To find peace with myself. And away to help my dad before he ODs or does something stupid.	I need help finding away so I can sleep at night without meds. To find peace with myself. And away to help my dad before he ODs or does something stupid.	3,728
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [26 M] with my [28 F] 2 yrs, ask her friend if she cheated on me? POST: Why is letting go the hardest thing? Yes, I probably need to let go. But, I think more disturbing is the lack of communication, the lack of clarity to her behavior. She had done three things that I should have just cut it off 4 months ago when they started: 1. She sent nude photos to a friend without talking to me about it. 2. I found out she had sex 3 months into our relationship when we had a "fight". 3. After much back and forth, we made up one weekend. Only problem was I was paranoid about her constantly texting guys. So I snooped after a romantic weekend with her. I found out that a guy I showed my apartment to had picked her up monday morning and she did a strip tease for him, video and all. Whatever, some guys just want a hot fuck, but I let myself go too far. I wanted more and she wanted to fool around. Now, it came to a point where she was traveling without me, and she had to stop in Germany, and I found one guy who popped out of nowhere and started liking her photos. This guy is...attractive. She is attractive. And to top it off, her communication with me has been null. I know she's skiing right now, but she still has time to post some pictures on Facebook. I know I need to end it, it's too much torture for me. But, I definitely want gratification by asking that German dude straight out if they fooled around. We are technically in a relationship on Facebook. So, question 1) Should I do it? People have told me not to, but I really don't care at this point. I just don't see any reason not to. 2) Why would a guy lie to another guy to protect a cheating relationship? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I hate the feeling of suspecting she's cheating because of a rough history. Can I ask a guy on Facebook if they fooled around? Just to get some gratification? Why would a guy protect infidelity and not tell the boyfriend?	I hate the feeling of suspecting she's cheating because of a rough history. Can I ask a guy on Facebook if they fooled around? Just to get some gratification? Why would a guy protect infidelity and not tell the boyfriend?	6,377
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I'm [30ish M] seriously turned off by my wife [30ish F] after some rough patches over the last few years POST: We've been together about 10 years, married about 5. She's always been overweight (BMI 30+) and while I wasn't enthused about that it was never a huge problem for me (no pun intended) since I really enjoyed my time with her. I was very thin when we met (BMI of around 19.5) and have since filled out to a much better BMI of 22. Over the past 3-4 years we've had a whole slew of problems that have lead to me resenting her for many things. During all this I started to improve myself and focus on eating healthy and working out. During this time I encouraged her to join me as I was concerned about seeing my wife get sick and immobile like her parents as she ages due to the obesity. She lost a lot of weight during these times (got down to 29 BMI, so only rated overweight) mostly due to stress, and she gained half of it back after the stressful situation no longer consumed her. I'm still trying to get her into eating healthy (since that's 80% of weight loss) and she clearly can't handle it, eating entire packages of cookies in one sitting, getting ice cream or some other sweets every few days, eating half a pizza in one sitting. To be fair I do those things sometimes too, but very infrequently and I watch my weight and I never gain more than 5 lbs. Ever since we've experienced the problems that caused resentment I am fully grossed out by her weight. If she wears a skirt I almost cringe when I see her tree trunk legs with all the fat dimples in them. When we have sex I get super grossed out by her gut. This used to not be a problem, but ever since we had all those issues I can't seem to look past her weight issues. I used to think of her and smile and now I think of her and get grossed out. Is there any way to get back to those old feelings without her losing weight, because I just don't see that happening. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Turned off by wife's weight after several years of of issues, when it used to not bother me. How can I overcome this?	Turned off by wife's weight after several years of of issues, when it used to not bother me. How can I overcome this?	999
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I [21/M] don't know how to show my love to my girlfriend [28/F] anymore POST: For the past few months I have been decreasingly able to show my love and appreciation to my girlfriend. We've been together for two years, and we have lived together for 7 months. Both of us work full-time. We have both known that this has been an issue, and today (Valentine's day) would've been the perfect opportunity for me to show her my love and start to make a change... But I didn't get her anything. Not even a card. It's not because I didn't feel like it - I simply didn't think to do so for some reason. However, it's not just today. It's every day. I want to show her how much I love her. How special she is. I just can't figure out how. I don't know what to do. Any gestures, big or small, I just can't seem to make it up/think about something. This has led to her feeling unwanted by me, which in turn led me to feel unwanted by her, which obviously only makes things worse. I want to turn the course of this circle the other way. . TL;DR: . Assistant:	– I want to show my girlfriend how much I love her in everyday life, but I don't know how. Reddit, please help me (us)!	– I want to show my girlfriend how much I love her in everyday life, but I don't know how. Reddit, please help me (us)!	4,005
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit TITLE: 120 Pounds Lost POST: I think it's about time I posted something to this sub but I'm terrible with words. Here are some progress shots 1 1/2 years after changing my lifestyle. 340 to 220. Face Body I work at a job that gives me various levels of physical strain each day. Some days I'll be at a computer all day, others I'll be moving 1,200 lb pallets around a warehouse and tossing heavy boxes up high. I never went to a gym during this time but I started watching what I ate. I understood that I have terrible willpower so I took it in baby steps. Walking to lunch, switching to just water, and taking a daily multivitamin kicked off my weight loss and I found myself losing 5-10 pounds every week or two. My lunch withered from a large meal+extras to a single entree and small side with water to drink. My dinner became a sandwich with some extras, and I was pretty much always hungry. For exercise I had my job which keeps me fairly active. I don't know how much walking I do even on my slow days, but with myself being the size I was any activity was basically a workout. I was always exhausted by stairs and out of breath but now I enjoy how light I feel walking up them. At home I had a door-frame pull up bar that my friend/roommate encouraged me to use. When I first tried it I could do 0.1 pull ups and it sucked, but I would always try again when I walked past it in the hall and as time went on I got to my current max of 4. There was a nice corner counter in my kitchen I would also stand at and do dips. Whenever I was in the kitchen I did as many as I could. I started with 10 small dips, but now I'm up to 40 big ones. Basically as far as exercise goes, it was just body weight exercises and what I was able to do at work. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I started watching my intake and making small changes to my life which over time has led to progress and a better lifestyle.	I started watching my intake and making small changes to my life which over time has led to progress and a better lifestyle.	4,654
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by allowing infants to play with insecticide POST: I've been trying to grow an avocado plant out of a seed for a couple of months. After it sprouted I planted it in a proper flowerpot. Some weeks later I started to notice that despite all my care, the poor plant started drying up, and there's when I realized that there were some nasty white bugs leeching all around it. I asked my mother what to do (she's a great gardener) and she told me to go to a plant shop and buy an all purpose insecticide. After reading the insecticide's bottle (with skulls, toxicity warnings and everything) looking for instructions, I start mixing a small quantity of said chemical (transparent) with water, resulting in a milk-like white liquid, and then spraying it on the desired plants. My mother had already warned me about the terrible smell that it had, that I should be careful handling it. They also say that the sensory memory is the strongest of them, because as soon as I opened the bottle, the insecticide's awful stench reminded me of an event that had taken place a couple of years earlier, when I had to take care of my little cousins (5 to 9 years old at the time) one hot Sunday: It was almost summer and it was warm enough to organize a couple of water games for my cousins in my backyard. I started gathering anything from the house that could hold water: buckets, water guns, balloons... and suddenly I remembered that for some reason there were some empty spray bottles (like [this one] in my house, and decided to look for them. Three were empty, but about three of them already had something inside - an awful smelling white substance on them. I washed them all at once, but the foul odor didn't fade in the least. I said 'fuck it' and decided that was enough and took them with the rest. Afterwards, I immediately realized that I had allowed little kids to play with bottles that had held liquid that came on a bottle with skulls. Fortunately nothing happened to my cousins so far AFAIK. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Bought insecticide, its smell reminded me that I had allowed kids to spray themselves with it a couple of years ago.	Bought insecticide, its smell reminded me that I had allowed kids to spray themselves with it a couple of years ago.	2,079
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Valentine's Day, gift idea? POST: Hello Reddit! I was wondering if some of you could help me. Besides getting tickets to a sold out show of her favorite band (both 21 years old, we decided to not do the whole "go out for dinner, etc" for Valentine's Day) I want to give her something else as well. My girlfriend really likes this poem that's in a book I gave to her (if you're interested, it's the poem that's in "The Perks Of Being A Wallflower") I was thinking of printing the poem and to put it in a nice frame or something, though it's not exactly original/exciting, so I was wondering if anyone could come up with a potential better idea? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girlfriend likes a poem, I want to do something with it, but printing/frame seems a bit "meh". Any original ideas?	Girlfriend likes a poem, I want to do something with it, but printing/frame seems a bit "meh". Any original ideas?	470
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 2 months, her mother is not acting like a mother should. POST: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 months now since the 4th, and the relationship between her and I is wonderful. We get along extremely well, and love each other very much. - She has had a hard past, and even present. Her father left the family when she was young, and she hates every thought of him. Her mother had to support her two daughters for many years working many jobs, which led to not much one-on-one with her loved ones. All of my girlfriends life she has been scarred by past events and it has left her a very sensitive person which I completely respect. - Her mom remarried to a different man and they had 3 more children, so the total is 5 living in one household. Financially they are stable, but sometimes not everyone gets along and the love often feels distant for her (my girlfriend). - Her moms attitude towards her is usually very negative, and they even physically take it out on each other - her mother starting most of the trouble. She takes most of her anger out on my girlfriend which I am less than okay with. She shames her, hits her, and is the main cause of her mild depression. - Overall, the relationship between my girlfriend and her mother is growing distant and she is actually scared of her. Her mom puts her down on almost every occasion, and makes her feel like everything bad and terrible that has happened to her is her fault. I love my girlfriend to death and only want to see things get better for her. TL;DR: . Assistant:	girlfriend is in hateful relationship with her mother, and can't even see her; only want to improve their relationship so we can move on and make my girl happier	girlfriend is in hateful relationship with her mother, and can't even see her; only want to improve their relationship so we can move on and make my girl happier	1,257
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Boyfriend's [M24] really embarrassed. How do I [F24] explain to him that I still find him attractive? POST: This is pretty innocent but he's embarrassed, so I figured I'd ask. Last night, my boyfriend had his wisdom teeth removed and was VERY loopy after the surgery. I was the one driving him home and taking care of him, so I got to witness the whole thing. During the five minute car ride home, he was zoning in and out and was really quiet. When we got home, I made him go to bed because he said he was tired. So as I was tucking him in, I leaned in to give him a hug and that's when he started crying. Like he literally had his arms wrapped around me and was crying into my chest for ten minutes. lol. Poor thing. He's a manly guy and in the year we've been together, that was the first time I've ever seen him cry. He's not the emotional type at all. Anyway, once the drugs wore off and he woke up this morning, he was extremely embarrassed. Now he's worried that I may not find him attractive anymore. Is there anything I can do to make the situation better? Do I need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him? Or do I just pretend like it never happened? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend cried for the first time in front of me last night and now he's worried that I find him unattractive.	Boyfriend cried for the first time in front of me last night and now he's worried that I find him unattractive.	2,882
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets TITLE: Questions about a 1 month old kitten that seems to have a cold. POST: After a bout of parasites the moment I rescued him from a box, he's been growing healthier, heavier and more active each day. But he'd have this weird sort of rasp towards the end of his meow SOMETIMES, as well as some red around his eyes. I thought it was very unusual, so I took him to the vet for a regular check up just to make sure. The vet couldn't see him that night, but he had an assistant prescribe some eye drops (twice a day) and a shot of penicillin for just in case, and then bring him back in the following day. I did as told, all the while keeping an eye on his behavior and bowel movements, etc. The next day, Saturday, the doctor personally checked his lungs for any rumbling/bubbling, but couldn't seem to find anything. He took his temperature and that came out fine as well, along with absolutely no parasites in the fecal test. BUT he gave my kitten another shot of penicillin just in case it was something building up. Is it safe to say that the penicillin couldn't target the beginning of what seemed like an Upper Respiratory Infection, or that he may have a cat rhinovirus? Symptoms: - Rasp at the end of meow, almost never throughout the meow. - No fever. No lethargy. No loss of appetite, no irregular bowel movements. - I just today heard what seemed like a small cough, but otherwise no wheezing, no panting after being incredibly active, no rumbling in chest while sleeping. - Discharge from eyes as well as some red, but these have been getting better with the eye drops. - A bit of a stuffy nose, but not a runny nose. Diet: - Science Diet canned food four times a day. - Kitten Milk replacement about twice as a treat. - Bowl of fresh water out always. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Kittens seems to have a cold, was given a checkup with normal results, but received two shots of penicillin just in case.	Kittens seems to have a cold, was given a checkup with normal results, but received two shots of penicillin just in case.	4,538
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Former roommates took my returned security deposit. What do I do? POST: Hello Reddit. The problem in the title has been presented to me recently and I don't know how to approach it. Last August I was desperately looking for an apartment before college started and settled on moving in with two friends, who were a couple. Here's a breakdown I'll try to keep as unbiased as possible. * We each paid $367. * The girl in the couple was preggers at the time. * I did not physically sign the lease because I had no means of transportation at the time. I sent them the money and they signed it. * The lease was for August through the end of April. * I stayed until January. An individual apartment that I had originally wanted and applied for way before I took the apartment with my friends opened and I took they opportunity because 1) They said they were fine with it and 2) They needed room for the baby * During my stay, the girl had a job some of the time, I had a job the entire time, and the guy didn't have a job because he played baseball at the university. Also during my stay I paid for cable/internet to be installed and paid all of the cable/internet bills. They were ~$100/month. They paid for utilities (~$50 or less/month) and did give me some food from time to time. (They had food stamps). I told them when I moved out if they need help, to ask me. * Found out today when checking about the deposit, they claim they had to pay $400 to clean the apartment (which was already pretty spiffy, just a few carpet stains), $100 for cleaning supplies, and the guy had to sell his car to make ends meet. What do I do in this situation? I'm in a bind where I need my money back. I also don't want to be a dick and make them pay me back. I don't know what to do. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Former roommates took my security deposit without telling me. I need the money, but don't want to be a dick. Some expensive claims were made.	Former roommates took my security deposit without telling me. I need the money, but don't want to be a dick. Some expensive claims were made.	968
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [F21] My boyfriend [M19] is treating another girl like he's courting her. What to do? POST: Me [F21] and my boyfriend[M19] of 2 years and 7months have been having issues lately (some are small issues like we've had in the past, others are new ones that's starting to bother me). We've been friends for a good 2 years before we started dating so we know each other pretty well. We may not have much similarities, but that's one of the reasons why I love him, because I learn so much from him. He's a gamer-geek and because of him I was able to try out video games that I never thought I would ever play (ie Skyrim) and movies I thought I wouldn't watch (ie Pulp Fiction, Ultramarines). I've never had any trust issues with him before and vice versa. We've never had this kind of issue before and I'm not really sure if I should be having trust issues with him. I guess I'm just worried because we're in a different situation right now -- I've already graduated and he still has about a year of college left. I know he has new friends, and I'm happy that he does but sometimes he sends me mixed messages. He would tell me about his friends and his day but I can feel that he holds things back, especially when it's about a certain person. I guess what really worries me is that he's the type of person that isn't aware of what he/she is doing. He wouldn't know that someone is flirting with him unless they tell him upfront and he wouldn't know that he was flirting back or entertaining other girls unless someone tells him. I've noticed him falling into a "pattern" when he talks to a certain girl, similar pattern when he was starting to court me. We started out as close friends, and I can tell that they're starting to get pretty close. Is this a sign? I'm not sure if this is just my imagination or I'm onto something. I love him very much. I just want to make sure that this isn't just in my head. What do I do? I tried to talk to him about it, but he misunderstood me. TL;DR: . Assistant:	BOYFRIEND IS TREATING ANOTHER GIRL THE SAME WAY HE STARTED TO TREAT ME BEFORE HE COURTED ME. WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE HELP....	BOYFRIEND IS TREATING ANOTHER GIRL THE SAME WAY HE STARTED TO TREAT ME BEFORE HE COURTED ME. WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE HELP....	6,021
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I (22M) need some advice about this girl (22F) I've been talking to, what do you think I should do? POST: So I've been talking to this girl for about 3 weeks now, and we've had sex a few times. I really like her a lot and she says she really likes me. She hasn't been in a relationship in like 2 years and neither have I. But anyway the other night she wanted to be honest with me, she said in her past she's slept with a lot of guys. Now that's usually a huge turn off for me. but I don't know r/relationships, I really like her. She said she's looking for something long-term now and doesn't want to act the way she did before. So my question to all of you is should I let her past scare me away like normal or do I give this girl a chance? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girl I'm talking to has slept with alot of guys, do I continue talking to her or should I be nervous?	Girl I'm talking to has slept with alot of guys, do I continue talking to her or should I be nervous?	904
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: I am in the financial and insurance industry, but is looking to go back to school to become a vet. Any suggessions? POST: I'm not 100% sure if I have what it takes to make this huge change, but I feel like being a Veternarian is something I really want to do in life. A bit of background. I'm currently 24, graduated with a finance degree 3 years ago. I'm currently a financial rep focusing on selling insurance. Even though I don't hate my job I feel like it doesn't fit my personality. But I stuck with it for a while because I don't like to quit easily. The idea of becoming a vet happened when a chinchilla of mine passed because I didn't take it to the vet in time, and I really love animals. People tell me I'm a warm person and great with kids and animals. I feel like this is something I came up with myself and not what other want me to be. So back to reality, I did a tiny bit of research on this. The closest grad school that has this program is Cornell university (I'm located in NY) I'd probably need to do an undergrad in science or medical field. I'm a little unsure of 8 more years of school, but I guess if there's no other choice. Another concern is money, I only have about 10k in bank, I cannot touch my retirement and life insurance money. I'm not sure if I can qualify for any federal grant. I may also need to move back with my parents. One idea I have is to just brokage product with high residuals while I wait to get into a school. I'll also appraciate any insight and experiences from a vet or a person going back to school. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm a finance major out of college for 3 years and wants to go back to school to become a vet, am I nuts?	I'm a finance major out of college for 3 years and wants to go back to school to become a vet, am I nuts?	72
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel TITLE: United bulk ticket apparently not eligible for PQD POST: Thanks to a change in my job, I'm going to be traveling a lot more this year, including four or five trips to Asia from the US. I'm currently on such a trip to HK and Japan. To keep things interesting, I had set myself the target of achieving United Gold or even Platinum this year. I've now seen the miles for my outward trip to HKG credited to my account, but it is showing as ineligible for PQD. I emailed them via their website to ask why, and I got a reply the next day (pleasantly surprised at the promptness) that quoted word for word the exclusions listed on their website, but with the added two points: - Certain specialty tickets (including but not limited to consolidator, group and tour tickets) - Bulk tickets I booked my ticket through my corporate travel agent, about $5,500 (the same cost that I had found researching directly on the United website). The response from United tells me that I did not earn PQD as I had bought a bulk ticket. TBH, I have never heard of bulk tickets, no idea what that means. If my future bookings through the corporate agent are similarly ineligible for PQD then I guess I'm never going to achieve even Silver status, so maybe it's time to choose another airline. Any recommendations for good US to Asia airlines? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I apparently purchased a bulk ticket which therefore does not qualify for PQD (even though this is not mentioned on their website).	I apparently purchased a bulk ticket which therefore does not qualify for PQD (even though this is not mentioned on their website).	5,945
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: [21/m] weird statement from SO(f/20) or am I overreacting? POST: My SO recently stated she wouldn't mind if I cheat on her. I'm not sure what to make with this statement. I would never cheat in any way, however, she did in her past, but was never cheated on herself. She says she can't understand how it feels, but she wouldn't probably mind as long as it doesn't change anything between us. Does that mean now she likes me so much that even if I cheat, she wouldn't leave me or is she trying to make an excuse already for cheating she might do? I am really confused, I have never heard anyone saying something like this. I always thought if you like someone, you don't really want to share him like that. I appreciate any opinions! TL;DR: . Assistant:	GF said she wouldn't mind if I cheat, confused & not sure what this statement really means (I would never cheat!).	GF said she wouldn't mind if I cheat, confused & not sure what this statement really means (I would never cheat!).	5,051
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I'm [37m] and my [28f] fiancee wants to leave. Together 6yrs. Need advice POST: Ok so a bit of back story, my fiancee have been together 6 years. We have one 3 year old daughter together. We have had serious problems the last year. I found out she cheated on me with a coworker (March 2015). I've never been unfaithful to her, but I'm not perfect by any means. I don't believe I was being a good partner to her.. Not that it's any excuse to cheat. The problem is we never went to counseling or anything, never really talked about it other than maybe that first week after I found out about it. She has a lot of depression and anxiety issues. We Co parent great, our sex life is good, we don't argue really. She just shuts down sometimes and gives up so to speak. Two days ago she tells me she just can't do it anymore. She feels hopeless etc. She is a stay at home mom now and money is tight for us with one income which has also caused issues. She says she loves me with all her heart but isn't in love like she was. And I know this all sounds like she's cheating again but I honestly don't think so. Should I let her leave, try to get to counseling? Just don't know what to do. Sorry for the long rambling post. TL;DR: . Assistant:	[28f] fiancee wants to leave me. 6yrs together. Says she doesn't feel in love anymore. Anyway to salvage relationship or just let her go?	[28f] fiancee wants to leave me. 6yrs together. Says she doesn't feel in love anymore. Anyway to salvage relationship or just let her go?	3,375
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: What is the best going away gift you've ever given or received? POST: Reference: I'm leaving my hometown of 27 years for a career change and life in the city. I've grown up here in this small town in the country with my father, who has raised me selflessly, after my mother broke his heart and left 20 years ago. He worked tirelessly at the local factory and every dime he earned went towards my happiness and well-being. In the few hours he had between jobs he'd teach me baseball or build a sandbox out of out lumber we'd find walking the railroad tracks. I honestly don't know how that man worked so hard on almost no sleep, for years. He is the most selfless man I've ever known. He's worn the same clothes since I can remember, still uses our shoddy lawn mower that makes the job nearly impossible, but simply states, "Well, It still runs." He's just that kind guy. Anyway, it's breaking my heart to leave him & I just need something.. something to give him, something to show him.. everything he means to me. I'm not talking about a new lawn mower or stuff he needs. There has to be way to sum up how much I acknowledge that, appreciate him, and will miss him or so dearly. I'm writing him a letter, but that's as far as I've gotten. But I don't mean to stray away from the title itself, it doesn't have to be simply suggestions for him. I have two friends that are like sisters that I also won't see for a long, long time once I move.. and I'd like to do something nice for them as well! I appreciate any suggestions or going away stories & gifts of your own, thanks Reddit! TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm moving far away from the probably the most amazing & selfless father on the planet & I need help with a going away gift.	I'm moving far away from the probably the most amazing & selfless father on the planet & I need help with a going away gift.	4,047
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Two guys [22/M] [20/M] like me [21/F]. What do I do? POST: I'm used to being ignored by the opposite gender. Suddenly it has come to my attention that two of my guy friends like me. One, Jake [20/M], is actually my ex. He and I tried to be in a relationship twice before, it ended on semi-bad terms, but we've rebuilt our friendship greatly to the point we have discussed getting back together. The other, Matt [22/M], was there for me when the last relationship ended, and is an overall great guy. I can actually tell that a couple of our mutual friends are implying that we should get together. A mutual friend of Jake and I is also implying that we should get back together. I like both of these guys in their own way. I don't want to be leading them on. Do I choose one or the other? Or do I just cut them both off? What types of things should I be taking into consideration? I'll answer any questions you may have to give insight into the situation. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Two of my friends like me. One I've dated, the other I haven't. What do I do/what should I consider in this situation?	Two of my friends like me. One I've dated, the other I haven't. What do I do/what should I consider in this situation?	4,171
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: help me reddit! losing the spark... POST: So, I'm currently a junior, soon to be senior, in high school. I met a girl that goes to my school on a field trip, and from that very first moment I really started liking her. Time passed and we started talking, which went on for maybe a month or two, texting every night. We went on a few dates, we kissed. I took her to prom and asked her to be my gf that night, and she said yes. My problem now is, there seems to be little to no romance between us at all. I recently took her to a movie and we literally made no physical contact. The conversations aren't awkward, because we make small talk, but it's almost so much small talk that we feel like just friends. She used to give obvious signs that she liked me, such as mimicking, laughing, etc, which she doesn't do as much now, just 3 weeks later. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My gf and I are starting to feel like friends instead of lovers, and there's no romance. What do?	My gf and I are starting to feel like friends instead of lovers, and there's no romance. What do?	3,991
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My girlfriend (20/F) broke up with me(22/M) because she turned lesbian POST: So, after 5 months she figured out she likes girls . She's been thinking about that for a long time and after meeting a certain girl, she decided she is more happy with girls rather than boys. Now, the problem is that I lost a soul mate. She is the first to understand my problems, first that I opened up to, not just as a girlfriend, but as a person. She knows more about me than my parents. All that I had planned is now lost, I am lost, I don't know what to do and how to deal with this. I am too emotional to just forget some one that I loved with all of my heart, and even tho she did all of this to me, I still love her and care for her. Reddit, what should I do? How do I get over this? I've taken some pills to calm myself down, but I don't want to be on pills... TL;DR: . Assistant:	GF breaks up with me because she decided she likes girls, broke my heart, lost my soul mate. Need help to get over it, if possible.	GF breaks up with me because she decided she likes girls, broke my heart, lost my soul mate. Need help to get over it, if possible.	4,642
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I [20M] don't know what to do when my girlfriend [20F] asks me to stay every night POST: My girlfriend recently has acquired an RA job at a small school. She works closely with her small group of residents, because her entire floor is made up of about 30 "diversity" students that needed a new start. They have been having a lot of drama and major issues these first few weeks of school. I live about 20 minutes from my girlfriend. I work about an hour away from our homes, and I get off at midnight. I get home around 1, change, then call my girlfriend to say goodnight. About 5 out of the 7 last nights, she calls me back around 2:30, saying she's sorry because she was with a resident handling a situation. She then asks me to come over to her apartment because "she's been listening to people all day and she NEEDS me there". When I say I'm tired and in bed she starts crying. I don't know what to do. Today I got home from work at 1am, and she asked me to come over. I said I was tired and sore (I'll have to bike over to her apartment because I can't park there over night). She then starts crying how she doesn't have anybody and how she needs me there and how if I really cared, I would've been there today. I told her that besides class and work, I had ~10 minutes of free time today. She promptly tells me "if you cared you would've seen me during that 10 minutes". I feel like an asshole because I really want to help and I love her more than anything, but I feel like these students are affecting her life more than they should, and are in turn affecting my life and sleeping schedule. Every time I bring up the fact that I need sleep, she will say "you think I don't need sleep? I've slept less than you for the past month". I don't know how to respond to that. I didn't make her choose the RA job.. Please help TL;DR: . Assistant:	girlfriend's RA job is taking a toll on her and in turn, taking a toll on me. I feel like an asshole for refusing to let her residents get in the way of my sleep schedule and happiness	girlfriend's RA job is taking a toll on her and in turn, taking a toll on me. I feel like an asshole for refusing to let her residents get in the way of my sleep schedule and happiness	627
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by setting the fire alarm off in the library on the first day of the semester POST: Today I was trying to find my Calculus Room, but for some reason my class is in the same building as the library instead of the math building. I'm not familiar with this building even though I've been here for 3 years. Anyway I look at the map and my room is connected to a hallway that I cannot get to from the main entrance. I have to go into the library up to the second floor. Then cross the entire second floor go back down to the first floor and my room is on the end of that hallway. Well I go into the library got to the second floor and get to the staircase that I think is the one I need to go down. I see a sign in the door that says push hard. What I didn't see until after I opened the door was the fine print that said "Alarm will sound when opened." The alarm went off and I just acted like I was looking at books, the strange thing though was that nobody not even the staff did anything when the alarm went off. So after 10 minutes of pretending to find I book I left and went back to the first floor main hallway. Only to find the room I am looking for was attached to the main hallway the entire time. TL;DR: . Assistant:	couldn't find my class, thought I was taking the right path only to set off the fire alarm. But nobody cared that the alarm went off and I found my class room	couldn't find my class, thought I was taking the right path only to set off the fire alarm. But nobody cared that the alarm went off and I found my class room	2,560
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: Tifu by watching Requiem for a Dream POST: So I'm in my room, surfing on demand for something to watch. I have no life and I've seen almost everything, so I start watching this movie. For those unfamiliar with Requiem, it's what I would assume tripping heroin would be like. It's also really gross. At one point I realized that in greater interest or ever regaining the ability to unclench, I should turn this shit off. So I do. Fast forward two hours. I'm in the kitchen. I am filling a water bottle out of my fridge (yeah, one of those classy ones, bitches). The ice maker drops some ice into the bin and makes a clatter. Those familiar to the movie might remember the jumping refrigerator. It would leap forward several feet from the wall when the mom was coming down. She was just tripping, and it wasn't real, but it startled her like 50 times, no lie. So I start thinking, "Fuck Fuck Fuck, the fridge is going to fall on me" Everything goes dim. Little black dots form in the center of my vision and bloom outwards until I can't see. I'm taking small, seemingly futile steps away, but everything keeps getting darker. I feel the wall and know I'm just a step from being out of the room. I want to fall. I still can't see anything. Another step forward, I bash my head straight into the door. Searing pain, I felt short of breath, I'm sure my pulse was soaring. My vision began to clear while I was on the floor, but I got up again before it cleared all the way. I just wanted away. When I got back to my room I just hyperventilated until I calmed down. I still have no idea what happened. But I have this gash on my forehead and I don't know how to explain this to my date tomorrow. TL;DR: . Assistant:	gingerly took a stroll to the watering hole. Had a panic attack and busted my head on some shit. It's ok, you can laugh.	gingerly took a stroll to the watering hole. Had a panic attack and busted my head on some shit. It's ok, you can laugh.	649
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: My religious parents aren't letting me go to prom and I have a partner of a year and a half. What should I do? POST: I'd expect my life story to be peculiar but perhaps not so much on reddit. So for the past two years I've been secretly agnostic, pretending to pray and everything when I can/to keep up appearances. My parents are (although somewhat liberal) quite religious muslims. I've also kept my SO a secret from them of course. I told them I want to go to prom "with the guys" but they said they were afraid of what I'd see and hear and that I don't need any sins, so they don't want me going. Yeah. I asked twice and I've had the same response. I'm not that bothered about not going myself as I've never been a fan of large social atmospheres but my SO (as most typical teenage girls) is really excited to go. She's fully supportive of me, told me that she understands and that she'd go with the girls, but I can tell she's upset about it and is getting a tinge of jealousy when she sees her friends getting "promposals." Although she's never said or expressed anything negative to me, I'm a little upset at being the cause of her ruined prom experience, knowing how important it is to her. I feel really bad. What should I do? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Closet agnostic; muslim parents won't let me go to prom and I'm concerned about how my SO feels about it. What should I do?	Closet agnostic; muslim parents won't let me go to prom and I'm concerned about how my SO feels about it. What should I do?	3,639
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: What the fuck is love? POST: My parents divorced when I was 4 yrs old. Never seeing a first hand example of a relationship between two adults, I discovered I don't know how to behave in relationships. I've been in a couple of long-term serious relationships -- 2 years and 4 years, they happened back to back. I've been single for nearly two years. At the time I thought I was in love, but in retrospect, I have begun to question the verity of my experiences (don't get me wrong they were great people and still are). I'm at a good place in my life, graduating college, have a job lined up. But quite frankly, I don't think I ever want to be serious with someone again. I'm not saying that out of spite or bitterness either. I may not know what love is, but I certainly know what love is not: Love is not fear. I see my friends falling away from me, one at a time, deeper into their relationships. When I do see these friends they bitch and moan about how they are unhappy. You can only tell an unhappy friend so many times, "happiness comes from within, not from another individual" before you want to scream, "you need to dump that bitch and work on you!" But of course I don't say the later because I know these people are terrified of being alone, of having to face the world alone. No matter what I say they will eventually marry (if not married already) and eventually divorce. Often times I'll hear things like: "A life without the experience of love, is a life not worth living." or something similar. But why is this? Why should love be a part of our lives? **What the fuck is love? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Told a little bit about myself, ranted about whipped friends, and asked the question: "What is love?"	Told a little bit about myself, ranted about whipped friends, and asked the question: "What is love?"	5,607
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Reddit, I've made a huge mistake... POST: My friend and I have been friends since elementary school. Without delving too far in we started hanging out less around college but still share interests. In college I lived in the dorms fine and a house with 5 guys fine as well. More recently I've graduated and moved into a 1 br apartment and furnished it completely. A few months back I had a slight concern I wouldn't be able to fund it myself and looked for a roommate, naturally I turned to my friend. Unfortunately at that time he couldn't so I lived on my own. Since then I've been able to position myself to not need his help. Well a few weeks ago I forgot that he said at this time he would be interested in moving in. As a good gesture I mentioned it to him and the idea took. Now we are sharing a room in my small apt. I don't hate him or anything but I have grown to enjoy my solitude and the fact that I could have people over if I wanted. The first few nights were fine bc he was on the couch, but now we split a room together. We picked up forms to make it official however we haven't signed or done anything with them yet. It may be selfish of me but I have grown accustomed to living on my own and being independent. I would like to have my apt back but I feel like it would be a dick move and I don't want to ruin the friendship. Please help me reddit, you're my only hope! TL;DR: . Assistant:	I live in a one bedroom apt and added a roommate I didn't need. Now I miss my freedom but we haven't made it official yet.	I live in a one bedroom apt and added a roommate I didn't need. Now I miss my freedom but we haven't made it official yet.	1,401
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by forgetting to secure my car hood down POST: After a month of saving up to pay a super speeder ticket, I was finally out of debt (with only 6 points on my record... sigh) and had some money to spend. First thing that was on my list was an oil change and radiator hose fix for my 92 Honda Prelude. So I arrive to the auto parts store and explain to the guy what I need. He's dumbfounded by the way that I create my sentences and so I go to show him. Pop my hood, point to where the bad hose is and all is looking good for my baby. Like all cars, the hood had to be held up by a steel rod. My car came with the rod unbolted from the engine bay and just sits in the trunk instead. My fuck up was laying it on top of the latch that secures the hood down just so that I could go in and pay for the oil and hose quickly instead of fully closing it first. You'd expect someone to remember shit like that but nope, not me. I come out of the store feeling like a million bucks because my car was going to get some loving care. Right away I pull off onto the road. About a mile down, just like a scene from GTA: San Andreas, the hood of my car peels right the fuck off and lands on the side walk. There were 2 guys walking by and they were laughing their asses off at my misfortune. Of course I do a speedy u-turn and go back to pick up what was rightfully mine. The hinges on the side were torn to hell but I still attempted to set the hood on top hoping there was some way to hold it down. And there was! The latch on the front still locked the hood down like it should have in the first place. When I get home, my mom is freaking out asking me what happened. Ashamed of the my own fuck up, I tell her that I ran into a deer. Good news is my car got its oil changed and hose fixed. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Went to store for oil change and hose fix, forgot to properly lock down my hood, it peels off on the road.	Went to store for oil change and hose fix, forgot to properly lock down my hood, it peels off on the road.	5,523
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: So I (19/f) went out with a guy I really like (19/m) on Monday and this happened... POST: Hey guys. So I'm a college student and I just had my first break of the semester last week where I was finally able to go home and catch up with people. I'm interested in this guy that lives in my hometown, we had been out for coffee once before and although we're both pretty busy people and can't really talk a lot, we still get along great and we arranged to meet again for coffee, this time alone (yep, I had a friend with me the first time because it was pretty obvious that we were both kind of nervous). The actual meetup went really well, we talked about just about everything for two solid hours, then at the end of all that I decided to just spill the beans about my feelings. Turns out he likes me too, but he said we should keep on meeting when I come home for breaks and that we should converse a couple more times before we really go any further into relationship territory. I asked him if he essentially was telling me "maybe" and he said I was right. But to me this all sounds pretty good and I'm happy with how that went. It's important for me to note the fact that we're sort of relying on meeting in person rather than texting a lot since we really are busy, so I may not actually talk to him again until we see each other again. Also, neither one of us has ever been in a relationship. What I'm asking is this: does this sound like a good situation to be in? I just want some people's takes on this as I am totally new to this. Thank you! TL;DR: . Assistant:	I meet a guy for coffee, we talk about how we feel about each other and that we're going to take things slow for now. We're both totally new to this kind of thing.	I meet a guy for coffee, we talk about how we feel about each other and that we're going to take things slow for now. We're both totally new to this kind of thing.	973
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [30 M] with my [28 F] GF of 2.5 years. Debating on buying her a nice piece of jewelry (but not going to propose any time soon). Should I? POST: What are the unwritten "rules" of buying a girlfriend jewelry well before you plan on proposing to her? In our 2.5 years and counting of being in a committed relationship, I love her and would one day like to marry her. I've even told her this much, but there are a lot of factors in both of our lives that would not make this the right time to move forward with that, likely at least for another year and a half (work + finishing grad school + temporary relocation issues). Money is somewhat tight, but I recently do have some extra cash I can comfortably spend. And though there are certainly things I would like to save for and buy for myself (new camera / lenses), part of me feels like I should buy something nice for her like a non-engagement ring, bracelet, earrings, or necklace. Something to make her feel like the special person she is to me. We have gone on vacations before, I take her out often, and I buy her nice gifts for all the holidays, but I have never really purchased any jewelry for her because she has seemed to have a lot from relatives of hers who passed away. I feel like maybe I should have bought her something already at this stage in the relationship, and that just because she has never asked for it or demanded (not her personality to do so) doesn't mean that it has never crossed her mind or that she hasn't wished for something. Anyone have any insight into this? I know it must sound so trivial, and I apologize for that… neither or us are materialistic at all, so that's ironically one of the sources of my stress with this matter. THANKS! TL;DR: . Assistant:	won't propose to her anytime soon, never bought her jewelry before, should i get her something nice in the mean time?	won't propose to her anytime soon, never bought her jewelry before, should i get her something nice in the mean time?	1,958
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice TITLE: I (m, 31) started dating last week with a girl (24). But after today I'm havin 2nd thoughts. POST: And the problem is that I don't know wether I'm just paranoid, or irationally fearful. Or wether my doubts are reasonable and I should start to think about what to do with them. I'm doubting my own feelings because I'm really inexperienced with dating and relationships, she's the first girl I've actually dated and had feelings for. Anyway, we went to the circus yesterday and had a great time. She stayed the night. ( No sex, we agreed on that though some heavy cuddling was involved. ) Next day I brought her back home and met some of her family. Her grandfather & mother where fun people. Her brother was nice too, though a few things he said kind of made me panic. Before I brought her home he sent me a few txt messaged on my phone, telling me that I should take good care of his sister. That didn't sit all too well with me. But there's a few good reasons for him to be protective.Something I can let slide easily. When I met him in person he also seemed nice. Not someone I'm likely to ever be friends with but you can't like everyone. The three of us are chatting and the big subject of the conversation is drugs, hard drugs like XTC, speed, cocaine and others that I haven't heard of before. There's talk of using. And I know she's used xtc on occasion. But the way they talked about using and, what I hadn't know before *dealing * made me want to just get away right there and then. I wasn't bothered by the occasional recreational use. But I'm seriously concerned because I think that her use of hard drugs is more frequent then she lead me to believe. And I don't want to be even remotely associated with the dealing of hard drugs. I believe/know she doesn't deal herself. But it's still very upsetting. TL;DR: . Assistant:	New girl appears to use more drugs then I first believed, and brother seems to be a big user and dealer. Freaks me out	New girl appears to use more drugs then I first believed, and brother seems to be a big user and dealer. Freaks me out	2,166
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I'm (25/F) starting to date a guy (27) and I don't want to make the same mistakes POST: Here's the story: We met 6 years ago at his ex's house, who I was staying with because she's my dear friend. For all that time we liked each other but never did anything about it 'cause it'll feel weird. Last friday, my friend (his ex) was hosting a party and she invited us. She kept saying all night how cute he thinks I am, how he always talked fondly about me and what not. At the end of the night, she made us kiss and so we did. After that our whole relationship changed and my enormous crush on him was out in the open having a blast. We kissed 'til the morning light. He's sweet, sensitive, smart, funny and I spend the best time with him. The thing is that I broke up a 2 year relationship with a guy 5 months ago because of the distance and loss of interest. When I say lost of interest I mean I lost all interest because he was 28 with no job and no degree and no nothing, I wanted to get married, have a family and lots of things but he didn't moved his ass out of the computer; I even helped him get up his chair and he fought me for it. Now I'm scared the same thing will happen with this guy 'cause he has a crappy-3-days-a-week job and also no degree. I've never been so crazy about anyone in my life, not even the guy I spent 2 years of my life with. I don't know what to think. Can somebody help me clear my mind? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm scared that the new guy I'm dating will never get a job and we'll have to break up 'cause of that	I'm scared that the new guy I'm dating will never get a job and we'll have to break up 'cause of that	5,614
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: This is about my brother. What should my parents/family do? POST: I'm his 18 year old sister (living at home). He is 23 and has many issues and my parents have no idea how to help him. He failed out of college his freshman year and is addicted to oxycodone and uses cocaine and many similar drugs. He can't afford to live anywhere and keeps losing part time jobs, etc. He surrounds himself by the worst possible people to get better. He goes through phases where he tries to get help and my parents will do whatever they can but it keeps costing them a ton of money (therapy that he stopped going to--paying off his car payments, etc). He's been arrested a few times-all drug related and just ended up in the hospital for stomach pains (from drug use). He is currently living at home and any advice on dealing with people who do this would be so helpful. Thank you. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Drug using 23 yr old brother is doing nothing with life and costing my parents so much money, what can they do?	Drug using 23 yr old brother is doing nothing with life and costing my parents so much money, what can they do?	2,546
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance TITLE: Denied a student loan because of debt that doesn't exist. What do I do? POST: In March of 2012 I visited the hospital because of a broken foot. I paid my insurance provider's (UPMC) co-pay thought all things were fine. In October of 2012 I received phone calls from multiple debt collection agencies saying I had outstanding debts with the hospital that needed to be corrected. After conferencing with a representative with UPMC I was assured by all parties that my credit report would not be affected by this transaction and that all debts were paid. Fast forward to this week. I had applied for a student loan for this upcoming school year and was denied because of a debt collection entry on my credit report. You guessed it; it's from the debt collector that previously assured me my credit score would not be touched. After calling the debt collector and UPMC again, it appears that all I can do is wait for the debt to be removed from my credit report. Is there a way to expedite this? How do I dispute a collection claim on my credit report? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I was denied a loan because of a debt collection that I was assured by the collection agency was taken care of. How do I dispute this?	I was denied a loan because of a debt collection that I was assured by the collection agency was taken care of. How do I dispute this?	4,487
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Relationship questions (sexuality involved) POST: So I've liked men for a few years now, but I've never been in a relationship with a guy, as I live in a very non-gay area. I'm in a position to start a relationship with a girl, but I'm not sure I want to be in a committed relationship yet. The reason why I'm confused is because I could see myself in a longterm relationship with the girl in question, but I feel like if I start something with her I will miss the opportunity to find a guy while in college (september). My sexuality is a large part of my psyche and personality, and discovering that I liked men was an important moment in my life. I don't mean to be melodramatic, but I really want to experience homosexual culture while I have the chance. I know I'm being ridiculous about the timing and I know I'll still have chances to be gay, but I really think that I could end up marrying the girl. She has liked me for a long time, we are very similar, she wants to go to the same school as me, and even her mother has brought up the fact that we should get married (albeit somewhat jokingly) in conversation a few times now. Anyways, I'm rambling but I just don't know what to do. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I don't want miss out on what could potentially be a great relationship but I also don't want to get into a committed relationship and miss the opportunity to be gay. Advice?	I don't want miss out on what could potentially be a great relationship but I also don't want to get into a committed relationship and miss the opportunity to be gay. Advice?	2,038
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Ex [22 M] and I [22 F] had a really bad break-up a year ago. I miss the friendship. POST: We were together on and off for 4 years but knew each other much longer. Our relationship was a hit and miss. We both did things that screwed us over and the whole thing was really toxic for the both of us I think. Its been a year since our big no-contact break up and I'm really starting to miss the friendship. I would never be able to date this person again, and I'm sure they feel the same about me, but I really miss hanging out with them or talking to them. Its been a year since we spoke though, I'm confused about why I am suddenly missing the company. I guess what I want to know is.. After going no contact for a year is it better to just try and forget about this and move on? Also; I am in a happy healthy relationship now that makes me feel fulfilled. I don't think this a feeling of being lonely or wanting to rekindle something.. I just feel like I lost a best friend and its hitting me now, for some reason. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Extremely bad no-contact break up a year ago. I miss the friendship. Am in a healthy relationship now, not looking to rekindle anything. What do I do?	Extremely bad no-contact break up a year ago. I miss the friendship. Am in a healthy relationship now, not looking to rekindle anything. What do I do?	3,152
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance TITLE: 22 years old, 41k in student loans, 36k salary and weekend job...can i afford to move out? POST: Hey PF, So I am 22 years old, and just got my first job out of university (yay!) I plan on working with a $36k salary (with benefits and vacation time) as of late May, and a part time retail job on the weekends. I am currently living at home for free (thank god for parents) and as of today, I have approximately $41k in student loans, $200 in credit card debt, no savings and no major expenses besides my phone bill. My plan is to save and pay off as much of my student loans in six months and move out by January of next year. Would I be in a good position to move out? I would probably rent and have roommates if I do move out and it would help me lots since the commute is killer! I live in Ontario, Canada by the way. TL;DR: . Assistant:	version: 41k student loans, 36k salary and weekend job, no major expenses and want to move out. is it doable?	version: 41k student loans, 36k salary and weekend job, no major expenses and want to move out. is it doable?	2,686
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit TITLE: Advice for overcoming a few last vices? POST: r/loseit buddies, Last May I started working on losing weight. At the time I was 350lb 5'11" dude. After starting a simple diet and exercise regiment I was a 290lb 5'11" dude by September. Unfortunately, that September I also started a second job that, in addition to school, significantly cut into my leisure and exercise time and added significantly to my stress levels. At this point I stopped losing weight and my diet began to slip. I developed, on the worst days, a two pint a day Rocky Road habit and a fondness for Kit-Kat bars. Since September I've made multiple attempts at restarting weight loss but have never made it more than a couple weeks without a Blue Bell and Kit-Kat relapse, sometimes even a Kit-Kat in Blue Bell relapse. These go on until I start to gross myself out and try to restart losing. So my question for other loseiters is this: if you ever hit a roadblock like this how did you overcome it and get back on track? Cold turkey seems to end in relapse, gradually stepping down ends in relapse, incorporating reasonable portions into calorie counting ends in unreasonable portions. I want to recapture the magic of my serious losing months but am stymied at every turn. Any help would be appreciated. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Oh God how can I escape the wafery, almondy, marshmallowy hellhole of rocky road addiction and get back on the righteous path?	Oh God how can I escape the wafery, almondy, marshmallowy hellhole of rocky road addiction and get back on the righteous path?	3,755
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: 32/m with 31/f for 6 months - She is secretly checking her ex's facebook every night, texting/crying once a week. POST: I'm wondering how to handle this situation and if my GF is really ready for a relationship based on some of the things I have seen. She spends a lot of nights over at my place, and I noticed that whenever I went to take a shower before bed, after I came back she would be on my laptop and quickly close down some open tabs. I didn't think much of it the first few times, figuring maybe she was looking at something embarrassing, but then I noticed it turned into an every night thing whenever we spent a few days together. I checked my browser history, and she is looking at her ex's facebook. Specifically, her ex, and her ex's new girlfriend. I know that she had a rough breakup very shortly before we started dating. She was married to him for 6 years and said that he was very controlling and not a good match for her, and when she wanted to leave he put her through a huge guilt trip and made it difficult. I've noticed that about once a week she will exchange a few texts with him and be off in the bathroom crying about it. That said, she has told me how happy she is with me and doesn't know why she is still sad about a bad relationship ending. I figured some of it was just curiousity over what her ex was doing and who he was with, but coupled with the crying about it makes me wonder if she is just not over him. I don't know what to do about the situation because when she does the weekly crying routine, she is emotionally wrecked for the whole night and it sucks. I've tried to be understanding and give her space, but it's not getting better. The Facebook thing also affects her. During the day/evening she will be flirty and talking about all the stuff we're going to do in bed, and then after I get out of the shower and she's been on his Facebook, it's like she's emotionally unavailable the rest of the night. I really love her though so I want to try and make it work, it's just I'm not sure of the right way to handle this situation. TL;DR: . Assistant:	GF is looking at her ex's facebook all the time and texting/crying once a week with him. How should I handle this?	GF is looking at her ex's facebook all the time and texting/crying once a week with him. How should I handle this?	461