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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (17/F) can't seem to get over my ex (18/M). It's been five months since it ended
POST: He was my first boyfriend and pretty much my first everything. I was also his first girlfriend and whatnot. We got together during the summer before my senior year, his junior year.
What I didn't know was that he's a total pot-head. I didn't mind, except for the times when he'd go blaze instead of meeting me for a date ... yknow. All that.
He also got kicked out of school because a teacher found ganj in his bag, so into the first month of the school year, we were going to different schools. These schools aren't even that far from each other, probably like a 10 minute bus ride.
I was pretty close with his family; his mother and father both have my number and I have theirs. His younger siblings really liked me (probably more me than him sometimes).
On New Year's Eve, he broke up with me via text without any real explanation and cut off all contact with me. He blocked me on IG and deleted his FB and, even worse, he did the same thing to my friends.
I feel like I never really got over him. I went through a horrible rebound stage. I saw him once at a school fair and almost cried. Now that school's ending, I'm struggling with feelings of inadequacy. I wasn't able to keep a boyfriend for more than six months and I'm graduating and I haven't really ever had a stable relationship.
I feel like I'm missing out so much and that I'm missing him more than usual. I don't want to miss him! I don't want to forget either, I just don't want to be sad. It's easy for people to say "just learn to be happy" but that is easier said than done.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | With graduation approaching, I keep thinking fondly about my ex (also first bf). Is this normal? How do I move on? | With graduation approaching, I keep thinking fondly about my ex (also first bf). Is this normal? How do I move on? | 6,347 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] having communication issues with my gf [28F]
POST: Hi,
I was looking to get some opinions on an ongoing issue I have with my GF. I feel like she doesn't communicate openly and regularly, often keeping issues burning away inside until one day they explode into the open. E.g she felt I wasn't taking the initiative in organising enough outings, she never said a word about the issue until this current explosion happened. I've accepted that and promised to be more proactive in the future. However...
I've raised this issue with her, and asked her to be more forthcoming if she has any problems; and talk about them before it overwhelms her. Her response however, took me aback. She claims that she is telling me all that she feels comfortable talking about, and anything else she feels uncomfortable talking about. In short, she says she cannot communicate any more than she already is. I think that's completely unreasonable, and that as a partner in this relationship, my request isn't too much to ask. Am I being unfair?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I feel GF isn't being forthcoming and communicating enough. GF says she doesn't feel comfortable and cannot communicate any more than she already is. | I feel GF isn't being forthcoming and communicating enough. GF says she doesn't feel comfortable and cannot communicate any more than she already is. | 2,545 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] am feeling ignored by my bf [28] of 4 years, after we moved in with my mother.
POST: We moved in about a month ago because we have a baby due in July and wanted to save money/have the baby surrounded by family. (My mother, her bf, two younger sisters and a brother live there together)
My bf hasn't had family he enjoyed being around in a long time, and has always wanted a big family, so he was super stoked to move here.
He gets along great with my family, thoroughly enjoys their company. But....
I feel like myself and the baby have been put on the back burner. He isn't talking about the baby as much, we don't spend any time together- just the two of us, unless it's ridiculously late and we are going to bed.
Almost all of my attempts at intimacy have been shot down, because he just hasn't been in the mood, which would be fine if I didn't feel like he doesn't want to go off with me because he's worried he will miss out on fun family time.
I already told him I've felt a little neglected, like he was too busy to hang out with me. He said "I haven't been ignoring you, we just haven't wanted to do the same things." Which I guess is true.
I know I've pulled back some from group activities (mostly because I'm STILL in retrograde with Mercury) because I've been feeling fairly negative lately. (If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at all,etc)
I assume that once the "new" wears off he will want to spend more time alone with me. I don't really know if I can approach him again about this, because he isn't really doing anything "wrong".
He isn't doing anything *wrong*, right? Am I being too sensitive? Should I just suck it up and wait it out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Bf would rather spend all his spare time with my family and shows close to no interest in spending alone time with me, hasn't seemed interested in our baby, due in July. | Bf would rather spend all his spare time with my family and shows close to no interest in spending alone time with me, hasn't seemed interested in our baby, due in July. | 5,214 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (M19) drop this girl (F20)...?
POST: Hello,
This girl I met has been hitting on me for a while and I'm interested. However, today she said something that really bothered me. I told her I can't really cook and have much to learn and she asked me in a b**chy way how am I supposed to impress a woman if I can't cook.... I told her I was joking ( I can cook but have limited knowledge.) but it was just so...direct and rude. She replied a little cold after that and I just ignored her... She's told me she can't do some things well and I never asked "How do you expect to impress a man?" Not everyone knows everything, and plus she told me she's a bad cook...(lol)
Just a little amazed she could be so rude...but what do you guys think? She's really cool, smart and I can talk to her like a bro but I feel like that attitude she displayed today while texting seems to foreshadow some "drastic" situations.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl was rude to me and said I can't impress a woman without being able to cook, meanwhile she stated she can't cook well herself. | Girl was rude to me and said I can't impress a woman without being able to cook, meanwhile she stated she can't cook well herself. | 32 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [22m] has been telling his coworkers he's baking the goodies he asks me [20f] to make for their weekly potluck.
POST: It was really off-putting to find out and I told him I didn't like that he did that. He laughed and told me I was being immature.
I know it's childish of me to want secondhand glory from people I don't know and that I'm baking for him, not to impress strangers, so it shouldn't matter what he does with them. But it bothers me! I've been annoyed all day whenever he points out a recipe he thinks I should use for next week.
I used to bake to express affection (and maybe part of me liked that he took them to work and got compliments) but now I'm resenting the thought of making him something.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't want to be boyfriend's ghost baker anymore. I don't know how to move past my resentment and moodiness when he brings up recipes. | I don't want to be boyfriend's ghost baker anymore. I don't know how to move past my resentment and moodiness when he brings up recipes. | 2,723 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [23/F] am considering a long distance relationship for the first time and I am terrified..
POST: Thanks to reddit I've met a wonderful person who has unexpectedly made me consider a long distance relationship. I've talked to many people online but the moment we started talking I knew it was completely different. He's perfect.
Luckily I'm starting a new career where I travel so I know within 4 months I will be able to meet him.
What I am worried about is the 4 months leading up to that time. I've never even thought I'd be in a position to be with someone so far but he makes me want it.
That's where I need your help... How do I/we make this work? What are some things that makes this long distance thing a little easier?
I'm open to sending things in the mail if that helps.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I met an amazing guy. He lives 7 states away. I've never done long distance and need some help with how we can make the distance work until we can meet in 4 months. | I met an amazing guy. He lives 7 states away. I've never done long distance and need some help with how we can make the distance work until we can meet in 4 months. | 5,099 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with my Girlfriend [17 F] having problems trusting again after being cheated on by ex
POST: Not using a throwaway because who gives a fuck
A while ago my (ex)gf of around 7 months cheated on me.
Now, I understand that I need to get over it, and I pretty much have, my problem is trusting my now girlfriend, lets just call her S, because she goes to a different school around 30 min away from me, and lives that far away too. She has a "party" background, while I on the other hand don't.
However, she says the partying days are pretty much done, but I suspect that is because she goes to an online school, but that will change at the beginning of next year when she'll go back to a real high school because it looks better to graduate from.
Like today she, without telling me, went to a "pool party" as she put it, that consisted of her, 2 of her friends (both girls, and 4 guys. That made me extremely unsettled. Am I over reacting, or am I justified in being unsettled by this? I feel weak and insecure when I keep telling myself that I shouldn't be. Any advice on how to get over this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have severe issues trusting people, especially in relationships, after my last girlfriend (now ex) cheated on me after around 7 months. I need advice. | I have severe issues trusting people, especially in relationships, after my last girlfriend (now ex) cheated on me after around 7 months. I need advice. | 452 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Can someone who's into fitness be attracted to someone who's not particularly athletic?
POST: I [F20s] recently started talking to a guy [20s] online and we really seem to hit it off. However, simply put, he's really into fitness and I'm not super athletic. I'm nervous about meeting him in person because I'm afraid he won't find me physically attractive.
Let me clarify, I am not obese or extremely overweight; I have some curves and a bit of tummy squish but overall I'm very proportioned and have never had trouble getting dates or having guys find me attractive. I'm just not toned-- I have an ass and hips but I'm generally happy with my figure except for a few problem areas.
I've started to try and fix those problem areas by adding work outs into my routine. I'm definitely not trying to change for him, I just happened to meet him at this particular moment in my life when I decided to get healthy and fit for myself.
My whole point is this-- is it likely that a guy who's into fitness can be attracted to a girl who isn't particularly toned? Is my slight squish a problem?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I met this guy online that I'm worried about meeting in person because he's into fitness and I'm a little squishy (not toned), but overall proportioned and relatively attractive. Will this be a problem? | I met this guy online that I'm worried about meeting in person because he's into fitness and I'm a little squishy (not toned), but overall proportioned and relatively attractive. Will this be a problem? | 2,172 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to deal with games at the beginning of a relationship?
POST: Hello everybody,
I (f, 27) have met a very attractive guy (35) on an online dating-site and started to see him every now and then since the beginning of September.
We are I believe what you would call a "casual relationship" that is making me insane. Somehow he behaves more rudely than anybody I ever met before (he drops me at the railway-station without even asking whether he should wait with me for the train, when we walk through a crowd he sometimes walks 10m in front of me without taking my hand, because at some point I said I prefer reducing PDAs, he purposefully ignores me).
The options are: 1. he's not that interested in me. and
2. he's playing games
I do not believe that he's not interested, because he would have the possiblity of FWB with me and we have rather trouble filling our time with things we mutually enjoy (I like artsy movies and sports, he likes to smoke and drink). Sex is really good and I generally get good feedback from him. So it must be him playing games.
He would do things like not meeing me for two weeks, when definitely having the options (he has a car and would have to drive 45 minutes)
to do so, and during the period calling (for three days every day for an hour and then for four days nothing, and not responding to my calls and calling back much later).
Since I questioned him about his mental sanity (twice) and he assured me that he believes to be sane, I assume he's playing games. What should I do? I like him and sex with him, I don't believe us to have a lot of potential for a serious long-term relationship, because he destroys his body with poinson. However, his games make me think about him constantly and make me want him. Am I the crazy one?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | casual guy plays games and makes me go crazy for him. This interferes with my other interests (life, work). What should I do? | casual guy plays games and makes me go crazy for him. This interferes with my other interests (life, work). What should I do? | 5,792 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: 3D experts of reddit, I need a 3D model of a city for my research. Any advice appreciated!
POST: For investigating navigational deficits in patients with Alzheimer's disease using VR experiments, I need a 3D model of a city as a starting point. It should look as photorealistic as possible and should feature a few salient landmarks. The experiments will only investigate outdoor wayfinding and scene recognition abilities, so it's not necessary to be able to enter the buildings. I searched a lot for for suitable models, but could only come up with [this] for example - can anyone tell me if this is what I'm looking for? Would I be able to use that for street navigation experiments? I am a PhD student in CS, but did not work a lot with 3D before - so any advice on this is welcome!
I can ask my mentor for funds, so if it is of good quality and costs money, that should not be a problem.
Fellow redditors, are there any open source 3D models of cities available that you know of?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need a 3D model of a city for navigation experiments involving wayfinding and scene/landmark recognition tasks. Please help! | Need a 3D model of a city for navigation experiments involving wayfinding and scene/landmark recognition tasks. Please help! | 3,801 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by leaving a conference call on while I went to pick up my wife. (NSFW)
POST: Around 4 months ago I put in for PTO time so I could take my wife and son on vacation. After making all my arrangements my boss came up and asked if I could reschedule my vacation because there was a very important meeting the week I scheduled my vacation. I told him I couldn't really reschedule anything and finally we settled with me being on a webcam/conference call type deal for the meeting.
I agreed and went on vacation, well come time for the meeting I set up my laptop in the hotel room. The meeting was fairly early in the morning so I woke up and I dropped my wife off at some tourist trap she wanted to see. The place she was going wasn't for kids so my son stayed and slept. I came back to the hotel and the meeting started. The meeting went well for the most part.
1 hour into the meeting my wife called and needed picked up. I told my boss I had to go get my wife id be back in 20 minutes. So I left to go get my wife, I left my son in the hotel and told him id be back in 20 minutes. I screen locked the laptop, I didn't know they could still see and hear everything with the laptop locked but they could. Long story short after I left my 13 year old son decided it would be a good time to jerk off, so he did. In front of my boss and about 20+ other employees on the conference call. They seemed to be OK about the whole situation and I wasn't fired. Still however the most embarrassing thing ever.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My kid masturbated in front of my bosses and some other employees. | My kid masturbated in front of my bosses and some other employees. | 1,204 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21M] just started dating my best friend [21F] 1 month ago and i feel like a rebound.
POST: I have been best friends with my GF for 8 years prior to us getting together, we have been unofficial for roughly 6 months and started properly dating a month ago. However we both see that time as being together. It's pretty amazing but the only problem is i think she is still hung up on her ex. They broke up at the start of the year and she had admitted to me roughly 2 and half months ago she still had some feelings for him and on that same night said his name while we were having sex. I let this go but unfortunately it has eaten away at me over the last couple of months. Lately she says she has no feelings for him but i find that hard to believe.
Recently she has started talking about trying to be friends again with him (he doesn't want that) and how much that upsets her. She also struggles with depression and anxiety and told me something that really gives her anxiety is thinking about having a fight with her ex next time she sees him. They also have a long history and were dating for 3 years.
I don't know how to feel about this or what to do. I just wanted to talk to someone about it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | best friend of 8 years is now my GF. GF talks about her ex a lot, wants to be friends with him even though he doesn't. Don't know how to feel. | best friend of 8 years is now my GF. GF talks about her ex a lot, wants to be friends with him even though he doesn't. Don't know how to feel. | 5,280 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I am a programmer who signed an NDA, and I need advice.
POST: Ok, so here's the situation. It's a bit messy.
I was contacted to work on a project for a group of close friends, with one of them holding majority stake. The group of friends created an LLC.
I signed an NDA, and I signed a contract outlining what work I need to do. Since that point in time, the group of friends tried to kick out the majority stakeholder, and he was having none of it.
The head dude decided to disband the LLC, and create a new one with him as the only person in it. Since then, the other guys decided to start up a new LLC with a similar idea, because they still want to move forwards with the project.
I have a sneaking suspicion that the original dude wants to sue. I was just wondering if I have anything to worry about, as I'm not part of the new LLC, and the original LLC I signed the contract with has disbanded. Also, as a contracted programmer, I'm not necessarily providing any ideas or making my own thing, I'm just coding to their requirements.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I signed an NDA, the company disbanded, a new one sprung up out of its ashes, can I do work with the new company? | I signed an NDA, the company disbanded, a new one sprung up out of its ashes, can I do work with the new company? | 5,083 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: 11 years since my heart transplant, and i'm tired of medication's side effects
POST: When I had my heart transplant i was 12. I remember I was always tired and i can't breath properly so my mother took me to the ospital. We found out that my heart was larger than normal, they put me on transplant list and 3 weeks later there was an heart available for me.
Now I'm 23 and I almost spent the majority of my life with a new heart. I'm grateful for that, but sometimes i feel like it's an heavy bag on my shoulders. Sometimes I feel guilty, because when i was sick i prayed for a new heart (and it means that i prayed that a child would die to take me alive).
Sometimes I just feel "normal" and then reality comes back and hit me in my face with a new complication (my medication take me alive but they have a lot of side effects)
I don't plan my life, I just live it day by day, knowing that one of this days my doctors can tell me some bad news.
If i must describe what i feel, it will be a mix of angriness, resignation and a little bit of fear, knowing that life took my innocence away when i was a kid.
Sorry for my bad english but I'm italian
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Since my heart transplant i feel angry and depressed at the same time, knowing that medications save me and kill me at the same moment | Since my heart transplant i feel angry and depressed at the same time, knowing that medications save me and kill me at the same moment | 733 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[26F] have been in a friends with benefit relationship with someone[26M] since the begining of the summer and he's sending me mixed messages...
POST: So I've been sleeping with this guy since July and after a couple of weeks he told me he liked our relationship the way it was...or basicall that he didnt want nothing serious. I decided I was ok with it so we kept on hooking up. Since the last 2-3 weeks, he comes to my house at least 3-4 times a week and stay overnight. He is really affectionnate and takes care of me like he is my boyfriend. With time I think I developed feelings for him and I brought it up to him last Thursday and he said that he is emotionally not available and that he wouldn't be able to give me what I really want. I did told him about the way he acts with me and the way he takes care of me and he said that's just how he is. My friends think that his feeling for me can change since he actions and words are totally different. I dont want to get hurt...should I have hope that he will change ??
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should I have hope his feeling for me are going to grow since he acts like he is more than my fuckfriend or should I take his words when he says he wants nothign serious ?? | Should I have hope his feeling for me are going to grow since he acts like he is more than my fuckfriend or should I take his words when he says he wants nothign serious ?? | 6,410 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, How do you get past feelings for a previous SO? (Details in the comments)
POST: I'm a 22M who got out of a 3+ year relationship last December and I've been working/going to school/dating to try to get my mind off my previous relationship. Despite my best efforts I still think of my previous SO and sometimes even miss her (even though I was the one that broke things off). At the time I decided that we should stop dating I was 100% sure of my decision and knew that the relationship we had was unhealthy for both of us. Still, I find myself missing the communication and friendship that we had. Right now we don't live anywhere near each other due to school and we haven't had any form of contact for the past 7 months. I know that talking to her will just open up a can of worms and make things between us even worse, so I want to know. What would you do or what have you done in your past to get on with your life?
To make things clear: I don't have any intention of ever getting back together with my ex. As I said above my decision, to end things between us, was based on the fact that our romantic relationship between us was unhealthy.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been out of a 3+ year relationship and still have feelings for my ex. Any ideas on how to move on? | Been out of a 3+ year relationship and still have feelings for my ex. Any ideas on how to move on? | 3,820 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 M] have been with my GF [21 F] for three years, 1 in long distance, may not see each other again for years
POST: We've met each other where I am currently living (she lived here too) and developed a happy relationship. We were friends through high school and a few years into college, in 2012, we hooked up and it stayed that way since then.
In early 2014 her father had to relocate due to his job and her whole family had to go to a city 5000 km away. We live in Brazil, I live in Porto Alegre (extreme south) and she now lives in Boa Vista (extreme north). We didn't break up or anything at the time because we really like each other and she was supposed to to come back in 2016 and during college breaks we could visit each other.
Last month she told me her father is not comming back, neither is she. Also, we both can't visit this year because of many reasons (I study mechanical engineering and recently got a job in a big company). So it may take years since we see each other again.
I like VERY much, but since the day she told me that it may take a few years for she to come back, I've been doubting where this relationship is going. I truly like her, but I don't think I love her anymore. It is really confusing to me, on one side I really care for her and want to be with her but on the other side I am kind of accepting the fact that we won't be able to see each other again and I'm ready to let each of us go our ways.
I think I need an external opinion on this, any advice would be helpful.
Sorry for the bad english, it is my second language.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF is living on the other side of the country and may take years to come back, we both can't visit at the moment and I'm starting to question my feelings for her. | GF is living on the other side of the country and may take years to come back, we both can't visit at the moment and I'm starting to question my feelings for her. | 2,209 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of four years, caught her using dating websites. How do I confront her?
POST: We have always had a closed relationship, we didn't have any social networks and didn't talk with opposite genders. However, when she moved out to a friends house, she changed. She made social networks behind my back, kept constantly controlling me, going out (she doesn't go to school or work) and kept lying to me.
The only reason I stayed with her was because I knew a breakup would really hurt me in school, especially during finals. I broke it off after school ended and she tried getting me back for a week until I started talking to her again. Things were fine and then she had to move a thousand miles away to her mothers house.
We decided to stay together long-distance since I graduate college in a year. She has been super nice to me but the past couple days she hasn't been texting me for long periods. I decided to look into it and I found out she has been using a dating website and snapchat to meet guys in her area.
I made a fake account and started talking to her. She started flirting with me and telling me she doesn't have a boyfriends ect. I am going to call her in the morning, what do I say? I'm so broken crying and drinking my life away since I have no friends. My whole life was dedicated to her and school.
The thing that concerns me the most is that I won't be able to concentrate in school. It's my last year taking some hard engineering courses and I know this will tear me apart.
How do I concentrate in school while she's out having the time of her life? What should I tell her tomorrow morning?
Thanks in the advance for any support.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend of four years moved out of state, decided to stay in a relationship but found her using dating websites to meet guys in her area. | Girlfriend of four years moved out of state, decided to stay in a relationship but found her using dating websites to meet guys in her area. | 4,622 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why are we so interested in Mars or space in general?
POST: The funding behind a lot of thinks is pretty straightforward, in my opinion. Most biological and chemical research can be tied to understanding/curing/treating a disease or something about alternative energy. That's what people pay for, that's what people want, that's what people need, so scientists do it.
Most engineering is done for a few purposes: Defense. Commercial computing. Industrial manufacturing and things like...cars. Things we sell, things we make to make things we sell, and things to "protect us" or w/e.
Anyway, why do we want to go to Mars? To determine the climate and surface radiation to plan for a human mission to Mars? - why would we want a human mission to Mars?
To see if Mars was at any point habitable - Why do we need to know that? Why would we spend billions of dollars and countless hours of work to determine that?
It's an incredible feat, and space has always fascinated me, but what motivates these studies?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Why spend this much money on space? What is it we need to know so badly? How will this help us? | Why spend this much money on space? What is it we need to know so badly? How will this help us? | 3,051 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Flying into Amsterdam with a friend on June 14th, and flying out of Berlin on June 30th. What do I do?
POST: Hey!
So a friend and I are flying into Amsterdam, and then leaving on a flight out of Berlin. So minus airplane travel, that is like 13-14 days in between.
I am trying to plan the trip now, but I feel a little overwhelmed, so I thought I'd ask all you guys. (Reddit is usually my google) I kind of want to try to plan some sort of trail that leads us to Berlin throughout that time, but also seeing amazing and beautiful things (specific I know).
We're two guys, both 21, and not afraid to rough it. I was thinking at looking at those help-ex sites and couch surfing. Cheaper the better, and I dont mind doing work to support my stay. A major thing we both love is nature, so I want to encompass those sights, but not miss out on the city too.
So, my question to you guys; any suggestions? Sights I need to see, things I need to do, things I shouldn't do? Great places to stay in, terrible places? Some sort of magical convenient trail that can show us awesome things on our way to Berlin?
I know this is broad as all hell, but I feel like I am being dropped in the ocean and I have to navigate something. I've even drawn a map to help myself visually try to map it out. Still confused. So any thoughts, comments, ideas, anything, would make a huge difference.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have 14 days to get from Amsterdam to Berlin. What should I do along the way, within a good price range, and how do I make it there? | Have 14 days to get from Amsterdam to Berlin. What should I do along the way, within a good price range, and how do I make it there? | 3,214 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [31 M] with my Girlfriend [28 F] being distant. I am using no contact..how long to wait?
POST: Recently the good morning and good night texts started to disappear but when she does its "Goodnight babe (kiss face)". Girlfriend being distant and not texting back on a couple occasions.
Not sure what's going on, maybe I'm coming off to needy lately.
Last time I texted she told me she was super busy with work. I told her to text me when she is free and wants to hang out.
Havent heard from her all week. Nothing at all.
Last we texted, she was still using the word "Babe" in texts.
Its Friday tomorrow, should I keep the no contact rule, if so how long, or should I text her and say something like:
"What happened to my beautiful amazing girlfriend who use to texted me all the time? Everything alright over there baby?"
Or
"Hey your week get better?"
If she wants to break up, well fine, whatever, I like her but I don't like being in limbo, but how should I approach this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend being distant, how long with no contact, when should I contact if she doesn't contact back and how should I approach it. | Girlfriend being distant, how long with no contact, when should I contact if she doesn't contact back and how should I approach it. | 1,357 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21/F] with my BF[23 M] of 2 years. His depression is bringing me down?
POST: Met my BF (23/M) in University. He told me (F/21) a year in that he suffered with depression, my dad has battle with manic depression for years now and I thought this would be easy to to handle with my BF in comparison. (It got extremely messy with my dad at his worst - years on it is MUCH better - like almost back to normal).
Two years later turns out very different. I am now very mentally ill (cannot bear to think about being in the same town as my University doc/ stopped going to classes/ grades dropped staggeringly).
I'm meant to be finishing my last essays so I can graduate late. Like, in January he was meant is to graduate with me. However, although I left my hometown in Summer (and studies, for 3 weeks) to support his exams, he chose to take a year out instead, meaning that he is doing nothing for another year - no student status, not taking meds, not working.
I love him and he keeps promising a future together, but he doesn't want to travel/ move in together and work. There is no indication towards creating the life together that I crave.
There is no communication with one another for days on end unless I instigate it. And even then he won't skype or another means of contact - just FB chat sporadically.
I feel like the biggest bitch for moving on with my life without him, but I want to work and travel and just fucking live. But he won't commit to doing it with me, or even get the medication that I know will help him (as it did with my dad).
I just want an equal partner, not one that I have to force into doing nice things/ spending time with me. I'm so fucking sad whenever I think about him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | dunno what to do about long term BF that won't communicate what's up/ at all. Am 21, but feel ancient with all the stress. | dunno what to do about long term BF that won't communicate what's up/ at all. Am 21, but feel ancient with all the stress. | 4,902 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[m16] am confused where to go with gf [f16] of a year
POST: Just wanted to ask a question that's been drifting on my mind recently and get some other opinions to look at. Just some background so you get the picture, I've been with this girl for about a year now. She's my first what I would consider "serious" girlfriend, seeing as I was incredibly shy and never really approached girls in any way other then a friend. Soon after I met this girl, I quickly fell in love, as she was the complete package to me. Fit, funny, caring, you name it she had. I liked her a lot, and she stuck with me when things got bumpy. Even to this day, I can't say I don't love her.
Ever since meeting this girl, I've shot up in confidence and broken out of my shell. I'm much more outspoken and I feel like I can approach people I'm interested in talking to and hold a conversation. And this is were the problem comes in.
I feel as with this new found confidence, I need to go out and talk to more girls. I want to get to know other girls better. In a way, this sort of ties in to what our relationship is at this point, me and my gf, which feels as if it has lost that "it" factor. Things don't feel the same as they once did. I still love her, but it feels kind of meh. This coupled with the fact that I want to go meet other girls and talk makes me wonder whether I should stay with this girl and continue what we have for easily a long time (I'm very confident in our relationship) or end it, and try to meet other girls?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should I stay with extremely stable relationship which as gotten to some degree stale, or move on and try to meet other girls? | Should I stay with extremely stable relationship which as gotten to some degree stale, or move on and try to meet other girls? | 4,134 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: About to contact Collection Agency to repay debt
POST: With a decent income tax coming in the next few weeks I've decided to take care of 2 derogatory marks on my credit report from 2 debts that have gone into collections, one for a good 3-4 years at least and the other being from about a year ago, maybe 2 years ago. I am receiving 1500$ in my tax return and would like to handle my 2 outstanding debts of collectively $1000 ($700 & $300 each debt with a different agency.) I've yet to contact the debt agencies as it has been a few years since I've seen any letters and I've never received any phone calls, I've gathered the phone numbers and mailing addresses of both companies but I'm not sure how I should proceed. Its my understanding that I can maybe get a debt settlement on both of these accounts for a much MUCH lower cost than the price of the debt and would like to pursue a pay for delete option and AM willing to pay the debt in full but if I can negotiate the price down a little that would be extremely beneficial. My question is should I contact the companies via phone and request something in writing (Debt verification?) and then reply solely via snail mail? or could I do everything over the phone and have a negotiated payment made and have documentation mailed/emailed to me afterwards to keep for my records? I've read a lot of stories on here of people calling and negotiating payment over the phone as low as 20% of the debt total and not having it come back and bite them in the ass but I guess I'd just like a little clarification or advice on whats the best route to take. Thank's for reading my wall of text up there ^
really appreciate it :D
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Best way to handle Collection on 2 years old debts ($700 & $300) via phone all at once or through snail mail for paper trail plus paper records. | Best way to handle Collection on 2 years old debts ($700 & $300) via phone all at once or through snail mail for paper trail plus paper records. | 1,960 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I am[19M] so of a chicken to go and talk to a girl[19F], so my friend added her on Facebook for me and sent a Hello message, how should I ask her out?
POST: Okay this would be my first attempt to ask a girl out I am 19 and so is she. she is cute and in two of my classes.
Please help a newbie
The part were I say that I deserved higher was my other fucking friend getting back on me (I am stupid to let him work on my computer).
This conversation has been done in a period of three days in which she was traveling in two of them and we had many exams.
Hello
I am sorry I meant to send the last message to someone else. Saturday
11:03am
not at all
11:19am
Btw i just noticed that u received high honors, congratulations
11:50am
thanks:) i dont know wheter you received or not
11:53am
Yes I did but I just Honors Sunday
8:30pm
it doesnt matter,you got honors it's enough i think Tuesday
10:05pm
I dont think so I beleive that I deserve more Wednesday
2:24am
I meant that I wanted more and there was some things that happened
with the chem teacher that had affected my grade, so yeah I wanted more haha. Wednesday
7:27pm
if you want more you should study more.i hope you can get what you
want
9:01pm Yeah, I know I wasn't as I should last semester. how are you
doing with math and phys this semester?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | added her on Facebook started a conversation it got a bit creepy because of my friend writing to her from my Facebook, but still want to date her. | added her on Facebook started a conversation it got a bit creepy because of my friend writing to her from my Facebook, but still want to date her. | 4,495 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24, M] with my girlfriend[23, F] have been together long distance almost a year, needing advice on long term plan.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together almost a year, but it's been entirely long distance (9 hours apart) with us taking turns seeing each other on weekends twice a month, and spending a week together on a couple occasions.
My girlfriend was job hunting at the beginning of this past summer when there were two jobs opening up. One about 20 minutes from my house, another an hour further north of where she had been living. The job that was further away gave her $10K more a year than what she would've made living by me. I had no problem encouraging this path because we had only been together a few months at that time, and wouldn't want her throwing her future away for me.
Due to some unfortunate circumstances (my dad being in the hospital, her having to work multiple hours of overtime, a couple deaths in her family, etc.) we haven't been able to see each other this month and during the holidays. She told me a few weeks ago that she felt bad that she couldn't come home to me and felt lonely even though we can and do Skype, and basically that the distance is hurting her. I had already been thinking about moving up there, but was going to wait until the school year is over so I don't leave my employer in a sticky situation.
I'm a teacher at a private school, and even though my pay isn't awful, I'd be the one to make the move since it's an easier move for me. It also helps that I have friends that live in and around the same city she lives and works in. I want to offer to move up there, but don't know how to bring it up to her as we've been somewhat distant with everything going on.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend and I have been together almost a year, entirely long distance, need to figure out how to bring up an idea on a long term plan and me moving to the city that she lives in. | Girlfriend and I have been together almost a year, entirely long distance, need to figure out how to bring up an idea on a long term plan and me moving to the city that she lives in. | 185 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [17M], my girlfriend [17F] wants me to bring more emotion into our relationship, but she never has time, and I'm fine with how it is right now
POST: Together for 3 months, go to the same school
She wants our relationship to have more emotion, but she never has time for me. We usually see each other in the school breaks for a few minutes, and on most Saturdays. If I'm lucky I also get to see her on Friday nights. Of course on Sundays (and most weekdays) it's always "too stressful" because she has to do homework that day. So when, after waiting for a week, I get to have some time alone with her for a few hours, I just want to make out with her, but apparently she wants to to more than that (However she very much gives me the feeling that it is very fun to her, too). How can I make our relationship more "meaningful" so she is happier with it?
I have no experience whatsoever, and I appreciate any advice no matter how obvious it seems. She's by no means the love of my life or something like that, but I like being in a relationship with her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend wants more emotion in relationship, but never has time. I'm not looking for a meaningful relationship, but would like to make her happy. | girlfriend wants more emotion in relationship, but never has time. I'm not looking for a meaningful relationship, but would like to make her happy. | 5,601 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [26F] boyfriend [27M] of almost 3 years decided he wants to move 45 minutes away from our current city. I do not. What now?
POST: My boyfriend and I have a good relationship. We've had our ups and downs but we're best friends and I can't imagine being with anyone else.
We started living together this past May and things have been great. We get along well and neither of us have any serious complaints. He's been working from home for the past year and is starting to get sick of it. He recently started volunteering to teach kids how to code (his profression) at a program that's in a major city about 45 minutes away. He drives there every Saturday morning and he loves the program.
Last night we were talking about what we were going to do when our lease was up in May. I told him I love our house and the town we live in and I would like stay for another year. He very matter of factly stated "well I'm planning on moving to X city when the lease is up. I thought you'd want to do that too." I explained all of our friendsand family live here who we see very often and commuting back and forth to see them would be awful. I also really just hate this specific city and have never had any interest in living there. His response was "well just stay here. you can afford to do it if you get a roommate."
Maybe I'm overreacting but that was kind of hurtful to hear. I feel like I have no say in what's happening. I told him this and he said he might end up staying here but if not he would absolutely want me to move with him.
I feel like I'm stuck. If I don't move to a city I hate to be with him our relationship will take a step backwards and I don't even know how it would continue to work with us. I also don't want to make him stay here because I feel like he'll end up resenting me.
Any advice would be extremely helpful. Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend wants to move 45 minutes away to a city I hate. If I don't do it I feel like our relationship will end. | boyfriend wants to move 45 minutes away to a city I hate. If I don't do it I feel like our relationship will end. | 3,797 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Curious how to handle my bulimic 15 year old sister in-law (SIL) around my 10 year old step-daughter?
POST: My husbands side of the family just recently found out that his 15 year old sister is bulimic. Her mother found a bag of vomit in her room and confronted her about it and she said she got sick in the middle of the night. She believed her and then about a month and a half ago she found yet another bag of vomit in her room and that's when my SIL admitted that she has been binging and purging since November. She'll binge and eat so much food its insane and then the next day she'll only eat an apple, run 10 miles, and do obsessive amount of sit-ups. She cries all the time and she doesn't know that everyone in the family other than her parents and older sister know about all this.
My step-daughter, who is 10, has a very close relationship with my SIL. They have sleep overs and hang out and talk often. But after I found out that she has an eating disorder and is in severe depression, I don't feel comfortable with her being around my SIL alone.
Is this being irrational? My step-daughter is in competitive gymnastics, her mom is a fitness nut, her step-dad is a moronic iron man. I have had problems with her when she was about 6 calling herself fat and hiding the food she was suppose to eat and then throw it away when I wouldn't see her. She hasn't done this in awhile, but it makes me very nervous.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How would you handle this situation with your child if you found out someone close to them was suffering from bulimia and depression? | How would you handle this situation with your child if you found out someone close to them was suffering from bulimia and depression? | 1,621 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Ever started to have feelings for someone you know you shouldn't have feelings for?
POST: Recently I've been talking a lot to this girl who hasn't had the best of lives. She turned to drugs and alcohol, slept with a number of guys and has some mental issues. She seems nice enough, and she's not a total fuck up. She cares about her future and does well in school. Personally, I drink probably a touch more than I should but that's it. I do well in school, am still a virgin and have never done drugs (even weed, nothing against it, just haven't really had the opportunity). I'm trying to get a job that requires me being clean and have a pretty non-fucked up life. Yet this girl is always on the back of my mind. I really do care about her and want to get to know her better but I feel she could interrupt my future if I pursue her. What do I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I'm starting to like is a bit of a fuck up and might interrupt my future. What do I do? | Girl I'm starting to like is a bit of a fuck up and might interrupt my future. What do I do? | 3,170 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Please Help Reddit question for medical/doctor people
POST: Hey reddit about a 2 weeks ago my doctor hsd some sort of complaint file against him and until it gets taken care of he cant write any rxs. long store short if been out of meds that without i can work or really function a normal person. every office ive called has just given me run around and told e if i get bad i cloud go to th ER witch i dont want to i want to me i want to work but with out my meds i cant is there any one out there that can please give me some advice on what i can do to get my meds asap and help would be greatly appreciated
TL;DR: . Assistant: | cant get my meds everyone i call basically tells my piss off and good luck. meanwhile im slowing loosing the person ive worked so hard to be come. | cant get my meds everyone i call basically tells my piss off and good luck. meanwhile im slowing loosing the person ive worked so hard to be come. | 3,592 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By sexting girlfriend through snapchat [NSFW]
POST: This happened a mere 10 minutes ago. So I am sexting my girlfriend through snapchat. Fun times. And so I decided to take an artsy video capture of me jerking my tool and send it to her. For the art factor to be included, I decided to use water, as I was showering at that point. Well stupid move. Phones are quite good friends with water. What ended up happening was the water made my phone spaz out. Literally went crazy. So I cleaned it and closed the video. I thought things were fine and dandy, so I continued doing what I was doing previously. Only to then check my account, and realize that it had been posted on my snapchat story. If you guys don't know what it is, it pretty much allows anyone you added to see what you posted there. I panicked. My initial thoughts were "WHAT IF SOME GIRL FROM MY SCHOOL SAW MY DICK AND IS NOW TELLING EVERYONE". Luckily only a male friend of mine saw it, and I know this because it tells you whoever opened your story. I deleted it right after, so no one had to see me furiously jacking my dick. This friend, we will name him Bob for safety measures. So I see that Bob saw it, as I mentioned earlier, but maybe he will ignore it I thought. Nope, he tweets out "I rate that snap story lmao" and so I knew that I had to talk to him. After a long exchange of direct messages, we just laughed it out. Nonetheless I am still very embarrassed that my friend saw me jerking it, at least only he saw it, and he didn't show anyone. If any of my other friends saw it I swear I would move schools and never show my face again. I was embarrassed at first but now its just a hilarious story to laugh about at parties.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Accidentally posted video of me jerking my tool on snapchat story, got lucky only one friend saw it. Embarrassment and some good laughter ensues. | Accidentally posted video of me jerking my tool on snapchat story, got lucky only one friend saw it. Embarrassment and some good laughter ensues. | 507 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I was filmed while driving today....
POST: Today I was driving along, after sitting at a dealership for two hours. I came up on a double-left turn lane, and approached it sort of fast. The arrow was probably yellow, but not full-on red by any means. Other traffic was turning with me. I accidentally put it into the wrong gear (I have manual) and the truck engine-braked sort of hard as I was turning through the intersection. I imagine my nose of my truck dove from an outsiders perspective. None of this seemed odd to me. I shift incorrectly fairly often, but not this bad.
I was half a mile down the road, and driving at a normal clip. From behind, a minivan with a large woman as the sole occupant pulls up next to me, with a camcorder. She is parallel to me across from my passenger window, actively filming me, my face, and my vehicle. I do a double-take, then actively ignore her. I feel my face get hot. We drive on, then catch another red light. I notice she does not have the camera up, roll down my passenger window, and ask her "What's the problem..?!" She says nothing and immediately starts filming again. I smile, laugh to myself, and roll my window up to ignore her again. I am really seething inside! I am so angry I can feel my pulse in my head and all I wanted to do was get out of my truck and rip that thing out of her hand, further escalating what ever trumped-up charges she thought she had on me. I did not do anything that warranted a filming of myself. So I think.
Who would do this? Could anything come of it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ran a yellow light, some lady pulls a camcorder out and gets all paparazzi on my ass. | Ran a yellow light, some lady pulls a camcorder out and gets all paparazzi on my ass. | 2,279 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Can anybody hopefully provide some insight?...seeking employment out of state.
POST: I've been unemployed since the end of April and have been seeking and applying for jobs non-stop since then. I have not been able to land an interview with anybody let alone get any responses; they're a *we're sorry...* when I do get one.
I'm just trying to figure out how I fit among the rest of the job seekers out there. I'm a civil/structural engineer with ~2 years experience and wanting to relocate to another state. I haven't been able to find many opportunities at my experience level in my state and haven't been successful with getting any responses from cold inquiries to local companies.
When I do find a job posting that I feel I match well that's out of state and I *do* get a negative response, I can't help but feel that the leading factor is because I'm across the country. Can anybody provide any insight on that?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Am I at a disadvantage when I apply to jobs (even ones that I qualify well) when I am located out of state? (located in the midwest, wanting to relocate to west coast) | Am I at a disadvantage when I apply to jobs (even ones that I qualify well) when I am located out of state? (located in the midwest, wanting to relocate to west coast) | 4,690 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My family [20sF,50sF+M,80sF] with my neighbour [50s?M] of 5 years is harassing us over varied things. Family been here 30 years.
POST: Throwaway because reasons.
We live in Australia, wont be specific but figured it might just helpful in regards to laws/advice.
My parents and grandparent have lived in this street in town for 30 years.
A guy and his wife moved in about 5 years ago (approx).
We have two dogs. One was around when he moved in, she is 6+. She is a small terrier and barks when people come to the door (as they do). Other dog is 1.5 years old and obviously came after he was there. She is a medium size dog.
This guy across the road is in a townhouse, we are in two houses on two blocks next to each other.
Harassment started approx 2 years ago where he yelled at my grandmother to "shut her f...ing dog up" as he stood and teased it.
Next incident was a ute of my fathers parked on the road and a note was left telling us to "park on our own side of the f...ing road" (we normally would but no space at the time). Keep in mind this is a PUBLIC road. Its anyones space.
Several more incidents where he stood on his balcony and screamed obscenities at my father who called the police as he began having heart issues. Police did nothing but tell us the man had just apparently gotten out of hospital and was tired etc etc.
He has also put complaints in to our local council about the dogs barking (where you can get fines). There is another dog next to him and one a few doors away that both bark constantly.
Latest incident was a council ranger coming around to tell us they got another anonymous complaint (not anon to them but for us as they wont tell you who did it but we know its him) saying the dogs were barking all night. Our dogs have never barked so I have no idea what he is hearing. Presumably the one next door.
I need advice on what to do or who to speak to as Im at a loss. Talking to the guy isnt an option. He is aggressive and probably would attack me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | neighbour keeps putting in complaints to local council about our dogs barking when they arent and told us we cant park our cars on 'his' side of the road (public road). What do? | neighbour keeps putting in complaints to local council about our dogs barking when they arent and told us we cant park our cars on 'his' side of the road (public road). What do? | 6,386 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [M19] has feelings for [F19] but not sure if she feels the same way.
POST: I have known this girl for quite some time now, around 5 months and we have become really good friends. A few weekends ago, she anonymously put on a Facebook Missed Connections page that she had feelings for me. (she later told me it was her). We were at a party a few weekends ago and we ended up making out for a while. Since then, we have still been talking and see each other almost every day. We have hung out, I bought her coffee, and went on a late night walk and we held hands the whole time. But when I told her that I had very strong feelings for her, she said, "I don't know what to say." then later today she said, "I hope this doesn't make things awkward between us." Reddit, What does this mean? Any advice? Did I do something wrong?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A girl told me she had feelings, we hung out, I told her I had feelings, now she is sending mixed signals. | A girl told me she had feelings, we hung out, I told her I had feelings, now she is sending mixed signals. | 1,525 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Tired of being used.
POST: Why do keep putting myself out there and trying to help people and actually care? For the most part people are just using me to get something.
Everyone just looks out for themselves. I'm tired of it. People are greedy and will pretend to care just to get what they want.
It's been this way my whole life it seems. This is why I shut down and close myself off from people.
I'm not so jaded as to cut myself off from everyone forever, but I'm going to be more careful. And I AM going to take a few days for myself. I'm going to be "selfish" for a 2 or 3 days and not bother with anyone. Cut off communication for the most par. Just kind of whatever.
I keep falling into the same trap. Though this time it wasn't as harsh as previous times and didn't last as long. It only being "online people" that I haven't known long makes it better in some ways but makes me feel a bit more dumb for putting myself out there like I did.
People just don't give a shit. Greed rules over all.
I'll stick to the friends I have and go back to lurking in the shadows for the most part.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | People are greedy, I'm giving myself permission to take a few "selfish" days, and no more new "friends". | People are greedy, I'm giving myself permission to take a few "selfish" days, and no more new "friends". | 1,881 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19 F] found the guy my friend is dating [22M, 19 F] on Tinder
POST: As the title says, I found the guy my friend is dating on Tinder, and he was active one day ago. They've been dating for more than a month now (maybe 2 months?). Since they're not exclusive, normally I wouldn't tell my friend but I know that she wants to become exclusive with him, and he took her virginity. My friend also really, really likes this guy. I think it would crush her if she knew.
Should I tell her? It's also the week before finals and she's very stressed studying for her final exams and papers. In the meantime I have taken a screen shot of the evidence. I was planning on telling her after finals are all over...
Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy dating friend (also took her virginity) is active on Tinder and I don't know if I should tell her or not (or when). | Guy dating friend (also took her virginity) is active on Tinder and I don't know if I should tell her or not (or when). | 621 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Yes
POST: That one word. It's three letters, but it makes me so ridiculously, over-the-top happy! I can't believe it! A week ago, I asked this girl who I've had what can only be described as a "mutual like-ship" with to be my girlfriend. She said she'd have to think about, see about her parents and whatnot. It hurt for some reason. She didn't say no, but it did.
But that doesn't matter! She said yes! Now I know what you're thinking reddit, "this kid is just in high school. He doesn't know anything about anything yet." And you know what? That's true. But I don't care! I'm happy! Two years ago when I started high school I didn't even begin to fathom that this could happen. I hated myself. I was an introvert that felt that no one could like me. I thought I wasn't good enough. I didn't even have the ability to talk to girls. I didn't think I was that type of guy with that ability. But now I have my first girlfriend! She makes me happy! All that stress I get with as many APs as I'm taking just goes away when I talk to her. Those 4 minutes I have completely alone with her everyday is the highlight of me day! I got motivated to change myself (part of why I made an account on reddit), and now I get to be in a relationship with someone who makes me want to keep improving even more!
I'm young. For obvious reasons, what I'm experiencing is probably fleeting. But that one word just made all the difference. I know it's stupid, but I don't care! She's awesome and I'm so ridiculously glad this is happening.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Former introvert asked girl to be his first girlfriend in high school. She said yes. I'm young, but still it's huge for me and I'm happy. | Former introvert asked girl to be his first girlfriend in high school. She said yes. I'm young, but still it's huge for me and I'm happy. | 1,270 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Passport "undeliverable"
POST: Hello Reddit!
I need some advice/support/encouragement regarding my girlfriends passport situation. She submitted a renewal application a couple months ago leading up to our trip in April, she got her old passport back and the enclosed documentation said she should receive the new one shortly. We kind of forgot about it and just checked last Friday (3/4) on the status, and USPS has the package marked as "**undeliverable as addressed**" on 2/23. There was no further tracking after that, so the USPS has no idea where it is and assume it was sent back to sender.
We called the passport office and have been told a few things:
1) Report the passport lost/stolen and request a new one
2) Report the passport as undelivered and let the USPS and passport agency attempt to track it down.
I have also heard of success in going to a local passport agency and getting an expedited one, but you cannot get an appointment until 2 weeks out of traveling abroad. We still have like 4 weeks until we travel, so i don't know if the agency will see us, and i don't want to wait until the last minute. As of today (3/8) we have sent in a form to declare the passport undelivered, and they are supposed to be looking into it, but not sure what the outcome will be.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriends passport wasn't delievered by USPS due to wrong address, traveling in 23 business days, how can we get her a passport in time? | Girlfriends passport wasn't delievered by USPS due to wrong address, traveling in 23 business days, how can we get her a passport in time? | 1,521 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Getting Skinnier, But Not Losing Weight... I'm Confused.
POST: Hi, I'm new to this subreddit. I came here because I've been overweight for most of my adult life and recently was diagnosed with a genetic medical condition that can only be treated by being a healthy body weight.
So for the last few months I have been working really hard (mostly the last month) at eating very healthy - 80% vegetables and fruit, vegetable based proteins more often than animal protein, major cuts in sugar and carb intake, etc.
I have also been exercising a few times a week with a friend - going to the gym, aquasize, walking in the park. I work a desk job and 12 hour shifts, so I'm not nearly as active as I should be, but I'm getting better.
So what is really frustrating for me right now is that I have noticed I am getting skinnier. I can fit my old jeans that are 2 sizes smaller than the ones I've been wearing for the last year. My fat jeans are starting to feel more loose. Nobody has commented or noticed yet though, so I don't think it's much. But I have not lost any weight according to the scale! I keep going up and down a few pounds, but really I've only lost like 2 pounds from a month ago.
I'm starting to think maybe my fat has just relocated? Am I doing something wrong with my diet and exercise? My medical condition (PCOS) makes it very hard for me to lose weight because it's a hormone imbalance, but it shouldn't be impossible... Just starting to feel very discouraged.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | trying to do everything right for weight loss, feel skinnier and fit smaller jeans, but I haven't lost more than 2 pounds. Is my fat relocating? What am I doing wrong? | trying to do everything right for weight loss, feel skinnier and fit smaller jeans, but I haven't lost more than 2 pounds. Is my fat relocating? What am I doing wrong? | 3,197 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: I've got a question regarding holding on to some things. Should I throw these away?
POST: So my ex, a 23 year old girl, and myself, a guy of the same age, broke up months ago. I'm talking mooonths ago. Holy shit, I just counted and its actually been 8 months.
Anyway, getting to the point. I recently moved to a different city, and found a box containing a ton of old stuff. It was a bunch of mementos from everyone ranging from birthday cards from relatives/friends to newspaper clippings and ticket stubs.
Among these relics, however, I found a damn gold mine of pictures of her and us together (senior prom, too) and a couple hand-made cards/letters she made me. She used to do that a lot, since we were long-distance for a while.
Anyway, they're really sentimental and I feel like throwing them away would be wrong. However, we're not together anymore and we don't even talk. She was a huge part of my life for a long time and we were together for almost 5 years.
Should I throw these things away, and is holding on to these items holding me back from "moving on" completely? I've seen and been with a few other women, and I've moved on after the break-up. She's moved on as well.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | should I throw away mementos of my past relationship, and would I be a weirdo if I held on to them? | should I throw away mementos of my past relationship, and would I be a weirdo if I held on to them? | 4,870 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[20F] with my Boyfriend,Tyler [21/M] 20 Months, I want to break up, but we live together.
POST: Tyler and I have been together for over 20 months. We have been living together for four months.
Back ground about me: I suffer from chronic depression and I've tried to kill myself twice. Tyler was the only reason I never killed myself. I would always think about how much it would hurt him. He is the only person I've had sex with. Thats right, he took my virginity.
Why I want to break up:
I want to break up because I feel like he isn't treating me right. He has been getting pissed at me because I ask him to do some of the women duties of the house. I've done all the cleaning and all the cooking and if I can't make dinner I order food to make sure he eats. Lately, he gets pissed off and makes me feel horrible when I can't do everything. The other night I asked him make dinner because I had to write a paper that was due in a couple hours. He made me feel horrible. This morning, I asked him to dump the litter box because it was too heavy for me. He walked out of the room and he was pissed.
I don't know if im just looking for reasons to break up. Another reason is because he is the only person that I have had sex with. I don't want to only have sex with one person my whole life.
Why I hesitate to break up with him:
I can't pay my rent. He pays most of it and I can't afford it by myself. I cant be the one who moves out because the only place I have to move into is my moms house. Which is the place my depression started because of my abusive step-dad. I do have a job, but is minimum wage and nobody ever gets a raise. And there is zero options for over time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to break up with my boyfriend, but I can't pay rent without him. I don't know what to do. | I want to break up with my boyfriend, but I can't pay rent without him. I don't know what to do. | 5,934 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24f] just found out my boyfriend [28m]used to fuck our roommate [28f]
POST: Together 2 years. Our lease ended in December and my boyfriend and I decided we were going to get a roommate to save money. He mentioned that his friend, let's call her Katy, recently bought a house and was looking to rent a room out. So we've been there for 3 months.
Tonight I mentioned to him that he should get me a vibrator. He mentioned that they were really expensive, and how Katy's old boyfriend spent like 100 bucks on one for her. I asked him why the hell does Katy tell you about her sex toys, and he said because they used to hook up and he used it on her.
What the fuck?? So he suggested we move in with his OLD FUCK BUDDY? I told him I was so angry, and how disrespectful that was to have me move in here without telling me, and that I don't even want him hanging out alone with old fuck buddies let alone living with them.
He said I was overreacting and he just saw it as a cheap place to live, and I said I think I at least deserve an apology. He said "the way you're berating me is not conducive to an apology." I haven't spoken to him in a day. I mean I think this is chocolate and a hand written card level fucked up. What the fuck do i do. Am I overreacting? I'm so pissed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend had us move in with a girl he used to fuck without telling me, and thinks I should apologize for getting angry. I'm livid, and I'm hurt." | boyfriend had us move in with a girl he used to fuck without telling me, and thinks I should apologize for getting angry. I'm livid, and I'm hurt." | 5,410 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: F/21 - problems with boyfriend M/22 - together for 1.5 years
POST: I need some advice with an ongoing problem with my boyfriend. When it's good, it's so good. However, when we fight, we could tear the house down. And it's usually over something small. I've been working on my communication with him when we fight, trying not to speak out of anger and whatnot. However, he says things like I hate you, I want to break up, I never loved you. While hurtful, I have trouble believing it, because he recently introduced me to his parents, we go on small trips together, and he's really affectionate. I just find it hard to believe he doesn't love me if he's invested that much.
I don't want to break up with him. I love this boy like crazy and I do see a future with him. But I can't fight like this anymore. I'm aware I need to change too, but I need to find a way to talk to him that doesn't set him off. Also, he's just so stubborn that he refuses to back down, and be blames every single issue on me, and I try to tell him this is a two way relationship and we're both gonna fuck up every now and then.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I love my bf but when we fight he says the nastiest things and I need to find a way to communicate with him that we need to find a better way to settle arguments instead of breaking up | I love my bf but when we fight he says the nastiest things and I need to find a way to communicate with him that we need to find a better way to settle arguments instead of breaking up | 2,073 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [20 F] break up with my boyfriend [20 M]??
POST: I'll keep this short: my boyfriend and I started dating senior year of high school. We spent all of our time together. Now we're juniors in college and I'm not sure if I still want to be with him anymore. We've been together for almost 3 years now. Can you help me???
1. Pros: He's so loving to me. He takes care of me and is very helpful around the house (he even does my laundry). We both share a love of food and movies. He does absolutely anything I ask of him and gives me lots of hugs.
2. Cons: We don't have very in-depth conversations about anything anymore. He's very insecure about himself and HAS NO CLOSE FRIENDS apart from me, meaning he's very clingy and spends ALL of his time on me. He doesn't like it when I want to travel or if I want to visit family over the weekend. He is not motivated and gets into sad moods sometimes that I can't get him out of, which in turn affects my mood. We are of different faiths and we are of different political parties. I also found that I don't like hanging out with him very much unless I get something out of it (like if I'm lonely). My boyfriend also works one small job and I usually pay for most of our expenses.
And I don't want to have sex with him much, or make out, but he claims that those are things he needs. When I don't give in, he gets irritated, sad, and quiet. When I do give in because I want him to be happy, I feel as if I'm an object.
To those of you that broke off long term relationships: how did you figure it out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend loves me, and I love him, but I'm not sure if our pros outweigh our cons. Is this the "grass is not always greener on the other side" argument? Or should I break it off? | My boyfriend loves me, and I love him, but I'm not sure if our pros outweigh our cons. Is this the "grass is not always greener on the other side" argument? Or should I break it off? | 3,723 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18/f] with my ex [20/m] both attended a party last night, I feel pretty upset
POST: In february, I went through a very hard breakup with this guy I was totally 100% in love with. He ended it by saying he loves me, but hes not in love with me and never talked to me again. It crushed me and I cried for 2 months straight. Last night we were having a party for my friend who is moving to Switzerland for a year. Somehow, he was invited and he was there. I wanted to leave immediately but I didn't want to come off weak so I stayed. He was with this girl that I've always hated, and just with her the entire night. ( They're not dating)Not my business, I don't care.
However, he wouldn't even look at me. I've never felt so absolutely shitty to not even deserve a glance from someone that I dated for 1 year. I feel this is a really stupid and mundane thing to be upset about, but honestly I'm still not over the guy. It fucking hurt. I couldn't sleep when I got home and became increasingly upset about it. I also had multiple dreams about him and I would be lying if I said I don't miss him, but fuck I do and he just has no respect for me left. It just hurts and don't know what to do to calm down.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | saw ex at a party, he wouldn't even look at me the entire time. it just hurts and dont know what to do | saw ex at a party, he wouldn't even look at me the entire time. it just hurts and dont know what to do | 6,187 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [25/F] boyfriend [26/M] of 5 months doesn't comfort me when I'm upset
POST: We've been together for almost five months now. Some things that may make the problem clearer. We live about 30 minutes away from each other. He has a car but I don't. I go over to see him by taking two buses and it takes me more than an hour to reach his place.
I was really upset yesterday. I was telling him about it by texting him occasionally during the day. Around 5, I decided to ask him if I could come over to his place. He told me his friends were coming over to his place. I told him I didn't want to be alone and moping in bed the rest of the night. He responded by saying he was really sorry I was having a really bad day. That was all I heard from him last night.
I always tend to support him when he is upset. I went over to his place and waited for over two hours outside his apartment (I didn't have a key) just to be with him when he was upset.
It's 10 am on a Saturday here and I'm waiting for him to text me. I am going to tell him I don't want to see him tomorrow (we had plans) and that he chose to spend last night hanging out with his friends instead of comforting his girlfriend tells me what his priorities are.
Am I doing the right thing? Feel free to ask me questions as I may have left things out.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend didn't let me go over to his place when I was upset; opted to spend time with his friends and hasn't texted me since 6 last night. | Boyfriend didn't let me go over to his place when I was upset; opted to spend time with his friends and hasn't texted me since 6 last night. | 4,020 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some good ideas for stress relief?
POST: A few weeks ago, I went to a psychiatrist and she suggested I take the rest of the school year off due to stress. Unfortunately, I didn't heed her advice at all, and have gotten dramatically worse. This is affecting my life in a dramatic way and I really need to start getting things under control.
I think a lot of it comes down to stress (my eyes have been more dilated, I can't ever concentrate, and now get around 3 hours of sleep every night), and my whole thought process. Besides being mentally depressed, I always hate on myself (in thought, as well as out loud), regardless how much "positive thinking" I do.
My entire body feels tense from the amount of pressure I'm under, and I don't think I can stand it for one day longer. I've been talking less and less everyday (barely mumbling things at school in discussion) and started having tremors a few months ago (which are now constant).
I apologize in advance in case this sounds more jumbled than I hope, but I am really at my wit's end here. I lay in bed every night just laying there, no phone or anything within reach, but still cannot sleep. If it's not one thing on my mind, it's five others.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I need some stress relieving techniques so I can sleep tonight. 9 hours until I have to get up starts now. | I need some stress relieving techniques so I can sleep tonight. 9 hours until I have to get up starts now. | 5,860 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21F] think my father [49M] is a pedophile/sadist.
POST: I've learned a few things about my father recently, and now i'm starting to think he is a pedophile.
When my half brothers (Not related to my dad) were younger, he used to pinch their nipples until they whistled, and then he'd stop, my mum would say something or tell him to stop and he'd beat her, one time he smashed her foot in with a hammer and pissed himself laughing
Also found out that he did that, and some other things, of which were not disclosed to me, to his nieces and nephews when they were young.
Also, i remember when i was younger, he used to read / watch porn around me, i was pretty young, but obviously old enough to remember it. (4 or 5) He never did it when my mum was home, and i don't think she knew.
Currently living with SO and my mum, whenever he comes over to visit (Rarely due to my mother not liking him coming over) he'll sit down the whole time, until my daughter needs a nappy change, then he'll follow me to the nursery and watch.
What the hell should i do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Father has done a lot of things that make me think he is a pedophile / sadist, the hell should i do? | Father has done a lot of things that make me think he is a pedophile / sadist, the hell should i do? | 2,842 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (20F) boyfriend (25M) of 3 years is planning to meet another woman (20's F) he's been talking to for years.
POST: So, I've been seeing this guy for 3 years and we've had our fair share of issues with adultery/cheating, which I thought we had solved.
Rewind to few months ago, I randomly saw his phone go off and saw a name pop up with a text. We'll call her Quinn. I'm just kind of curious so I ask him about it and he doesn't say anything. For days and days, I try to get an answer out of him and finally he tells me he's known her for years and plans to have a relationship with her but she has a husband and baby. He explains that she's "unhappy" and "stuck" in a relationship she doesn't want to be in because they live with the husbands parents.
I really honestly don't believe it, for one, if you're unhappy in a relationship, just bring that Shit up. Two, if you're married, I understand feeling trapped, but why would purposefully try to CONSTANTLY hit up someone else's significant other (going either way with that.)?
So, we have an argument, I give up, and it goes away for a while. Until he leaves his phone unlocked one day, and seeing as we've had problems before and he grabs his phone away from me any time he sees I have it, I look at the conversation going on. He's telling her that he's unhappy with me and that he wants to actually be "happy" and actually love someone... I broke down.
I brought it up as calmly as I could and instead of explaining he went off on me for "invading his privacy" and left like he always does when he's losing/has no way to defend himself.
My question is, what should I do about it since he won't listen to me and it hasn't stopped? I really can't handle sharing a man, as bad as that sounds, and I don't want to control him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Bf has a good friend who lives far away that he's been planning to bang behind my back. What do? | Bf has a good friend who lives far away that he's been planning to bang behind my back. What do? | 4,737 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Feeling unsupported
POST: I'll try to keep this short. I have been trying to lose weight for 3 years now. The first year I lost 15lbs by running, counting calories and lifting weights in they gym with an irrational fear of becoming bulky. In about half a year I gained 7lbs back and was introduced to powerlifting. Although I have not gone back to my original weight I have still not reached my goal weight.
I was discussing this with my boyfriend and he said that I should just stop thinking about it so much. If it hadn't happened by now it probably wouldn't and I should just try to be more happy in my skin. Now even though I understand that he meant well it left me feeling unsupported and alone. Now I want to try even harder then I have over the last months and prove him wrong but then I also feel that I'm doing it for the wrong reasons.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Trying to lose weight for 3 years not much happened boyfriend tells me that I probably won't get to my goal weight and that I should just get more comfortable in my own skin. | Trying to lose weight for 3 years not much happened boyfriend tells me that I probably won't get to my goal weight and that I should just get more comfortable in my own skin. | 2,948 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20/F] caught my dad [~60/M] browsing backpage. How do I confront him?
POST: I'm going to let you know straight up (for those who like reading drama) that he is divorced and isn't in a relationship.
Some background:
Some time ago I was on his computer. In the browser, I started typing "beach" and up came a long list of auto fill URLs that have our city in it (ends in beach). I didn't have any proof it was him as it could have also been my brother who also uses that computer randomly (though he doesn't live with us).
Actual story:
Last night, I came home with my dad and boyfriend from a dinner at a restaurant. My dad had had a Margarita and a beer ( I promise this is relevant). So, when we got home, I went to take my boyfriend back home and we were gone for only 15 minutes or so.
I get back home and can't find my dad anywhere. I called him a few times because my grandma is in the hospital so I wasn't sure if something went wrong and he went to see her. I also called the hospital and they told me she was fine.
I thought that was pretty weird that he seemingly waiting until I left so that he could leave.
I noticed his computer screen was on so he must've used it before he left. I thought, "Maybe he saw something that made him leave?" So, I checked his history. I find several backpage links that were viewed *that day* and a lot about supposed massages. Others were more obvious about what they were.
He finally called me back after an hour or so to tell me he "went out for a beer." That doesn't make sense to me since he already had 2 drinks before leaving AND he had to wake up early for work the next day. I told him I didn't believe him but left it at that.
How do I confront him? Should I? He will likely try to change the issue onto me snooping on him to avoid talking about it and he'd likely flat out lie (assuming he did do what I think he did).
What do you think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | caught my dad browsing backpage and he ended up leaving the same day at a random time after looking at the site. | caught my dad browsing backpage and he ended up leaving the same day at a random time after looking at the site. | 2,614 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (UK) Small question about some headphones I bought, hope it's not too small for this sub
POST: September of last year I bought a pair of apple earpods which come with a 1 year warranty. They stopped working after about 6 months and they gave me a replacement no questions asked. The replacement has now stopped working and they say they can't give me a replacement because the warranty for the *original* pair has now expired. Shouldn't the warranty restart from when I got the replacement pair or are they allowed to do this? In addition to this, they are now asking for a receipt or email which confirms when I bought them (in order to check if the warranty is still valid), even though the 4 other times I've been given a replacement (I got through quite a few) they replaced them no questions asked.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | If I get a replacement for a pair of headphones, does the warranty restart from when I got the replacement pair or does it remain from the date I bought the first pair? | If I get a replacement for a pair of headphones, does the warranty restart from when I got the replacement pair or does it remain from the date I bought the first pair? | 2,780 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by bathing in my cats' feces.
POST: Actually happened today!
So I had surgery last week to repair a torn labrum in my shoulder. I've been mostly lounging around and was starting to feel anxious, so I decided to start cleaning up a bit.
Eventually I come up with the brilliant idea to clean my basement, where my demon feline children house their litterbox. I decided that, because I was futilely attempting to clean in the first place, I may as well wash out the litterbox beforehand.
Enter fuck up.
Now an intelligent person would have seen the limits of their powers after barely half dragging the litter box to the dumpster
and asking a small old lady to help me dump it.
Not me though. I got this shit.
After bringing casa de feces back to the basement I realize it's still caked in its fair share if shit, piss, and other goodies. I realize that the only way to remedy this problem is by filling it to the absolute fucking top with water and scrubbing the sides with an old rag.
Keep in mind that this is in and old sink probably about chest level.
After I had scoured the box clean and was satisfied with my concentration of piss/shit water, I then realized I only had one arm to dump every thing down the drain. No problem of course,
shouldn't be any hassle whatsoever.
I was wrong.
After carefully starting to tip Shitanic to the side I immediately lost all semblance of control or a plan. As the entire container went over in one fell swoop I quickly realized the the shallow sink was not going to hold this cascading waterfall of terror.
Before I could even think about moving, but coincidentally just slowly enough I could open my mouth, I'm hit full on in the face with an Old Faithful of my cats' Seafood sensations lunch of yore.
Ever inch of me from head to tow covered in nasty ass piss and shit water. I even got the opportunity to taste some Friskies after extended marination.
I can feel poop in my eye
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I dump the water I used to clean my cats litterbox in a sink, ended trying out a new bodywash. | I dump the water I used to clean my cats litterbox in a sink, ended trying out a new bodywash. | 934 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [18F] Unable to get rid of clingy, emotionally unstable ex [20M]
POST: I apologize that I didn't really know how to word the title.
I [18F] am about to graduate high school next week, and will be moving across the country for University at the end of the summer.I had a boyfriend [20M], who is a grade older than me, from sophomore year until the beginning of this school year.
He lied, he cheated, he was a loser. And I broke up with him. It was really messy, but we ended on friendly terms.
Even though he has graduated high school (barely) he hasn't moved out of his parents house, started any kind of school or held a job for more than 2 months.
Since he is still in my home town we still hang out occasionally with mutual friends. And I'll admit I have been drunk/lonely and slept with him a multiple times since we broke up. I know it's pathetic and I regret it. I know this is probably the biggest cause of my problems. I still really care about him, would even say I love him (not IN love with him) but I cannot trust him and do not want to be in a relationship.
I digress, he is convinced he's changed. He wants to get together again to prove that he's grown up.
He hasn't changed- he still sits at home all day smoking pot, with no job or aspirations. I don't need that negative influence in my life moving on to university.
Everytime I try and talk to him about how we can't be together, and that I will not let him control me and hurt me again he says that I don't care about him and that he has nothing else. He throws a fit and cries. Says I'm everything he could ever want and will regret it forever if he lets me go.
I haven't slept with him in several months, and I try to avoid him at all costs.
Basically, I need to make him understand I am not going to get back together with him but I do not want to lose him as a friend.
Maybe that's impossible. Help? Advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My loser ex wants to get back together, breaks down when I say no. How do I make him understand without crushing him? | My loser ex wants to get back together, breaks down when I say no. How do I make him understand without crushing him? | 3,585 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: He (29M) snores and it's worrying me (29F)
POST: This is a young relationship. We've been together just a few months and it's going great. Except he snores, you guys. Badly. And I'm a super light sleeper. Whenever we share a bed, I find I have to move to the other room to get even a little bit of sleep, immediately after he falls asleep. Sometimes I hear him across the house with the doors closed.
He warned me early on in the relationship that he snores, but it's much worse than he explained. I don't think he realizes how bad it is. He's embarrassed in the morning when he realizes I've spent the night in the other room. i feel bad for him. I don't want him to be hurt by me leaving, but I literally get no sleep around him. I've tried wearing ear plugs, white noise, sleeping pills. Nothing has helped. I'm stressed about taking vacations together and sharing a hotel room. I know it bothers him that we don't share a bed, but he's at least understanding for now.
I also think he has sleep apnea. He's constantly choking and gasping for breath through the night and it's really scary to hear. I told him I want him to see a doctor and get to a sleep clinic. He's agreed, but nothing has happened yet. I also think he needs to lose some weight, stop drinking and eating heavy meals in the evenings as a start since they contribute to snoring/sleep apnea but I don't know how to broach the subject with him. Any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My bf's snoring is awful and I think he has sleep apnea. I want him to see a doc, lose weight, etc to fix it, but I don't know how to broach the subject with him | My bf's snoring is awful and I think he has sleep apnea. I want him to see a doc, lose weight, etc to fix it, but I don't know how to broach the subject with him | 1,428 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I just lost the friendship of the woman I wanted to spend my life with. Help remind me there are more fish in the sea.
POST: Background. We dated on and off for about a year. I'd been through two serious relationships before and feel I have a pretty good grasp on what I am looking for. After about six months of being apart but still great friends, she started dating my roommate's friend. A month in to them dating, I came to realize what an idiot I had been and asked her to take me back. It didn't go well and now we aren't even friends. I know I brought this on myself but I've never met anyone like her and can't see myself finding anyone more perfect for me. So please Reddit, give a guy some hope for the future.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Asked my ex to leave her new bf for me and now we aren't friends. Cheer a guy up. When have things worked themselves out in the end for you? | Asked my ex to leave her new bf for me and now we aren't friends. Cheer a guy up. When have things worked themselves out in the end for you? | 6,019 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [19M] confront her [19F]?
POST: So my best girlfriend stopped talking to me a couple of months ago. Because I apparently "lied" to her about something which is not true. However, recently she just appeared out of nowhere wanting us to be friends again.
I told her that I wanted to talk with her first, and so we did. I agreed that we could be friends again, or at least work towards rebuilding our friendship. She was quite enthusiastic about it, so I thought it was worth giving it a shot.
A week later I asked her to hang out at some place we used to hangout a lot. And now even though she does appear really friendly via text she doesn't make the effort to hangout. Using an excuse that she is busy, while college is over for the semester so she has plenty of time.
Well, now I feel like she just wanted to be friends again so she doesn't have to feel "awkward" around me. We have also many mutual friends so we see each other occasionally, and I invite those friends to my place to hangout. I think she wants to be a part of that as well, so I guess it's like using my friendship to gain those advantages without having to anything for it.
Now I feel like confronting her. Should I or shouldn't I? I want to tell her that I don't want to hangout at that place anymore, because she doesn't make the effort to set a date. And that she was the one who wanted to be friends again, so that it is her that should make the effort of strengthening our relationship. Right now I feel like this friendship is going nowhere if she doesn't put any effort in it.
Should I confront her? Or just see where this is going?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Best girl friend appears out of the blue after disappearing for a few months. Wants to be friends again, but doesn't put any effort in it. Should I confront her? | Best girl friend appears out of the blue after disappearing for a few months. Wants to be friends again, but doesn't put any effort in it. Should I confront her? | 4,172 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (Not-Romantic) [F22] How do I convince my parents [M52] [F51] to let me medically withdraw from classes?
POST: I should start off by saying that a medical withdrawal is not limited to physical ailments, and that my ailments are depression, PTSD (not military), anxiety and all-around lack of motivation.
Out of all the things that I am involved in, university has been the most stressful thing in my life and I have been telling my mother this for years. I know that I need a break and need to come back much later when I am more mature and in control of my life. I am already seeking help via counseling and psychiatric help. I work out and am starting to eat healthy. I would say I am progressing. But I am not progressing at the rate I need to do well in school this semester. The Dean of Students recommended that I withdraw from the semester, and I believe he is right.
My parents are avidly against it. And I know, "You are 22, you should be independent by now" but my parents pay for everything. I know they will be so upset because student loans hurt and this will be a waste of money (a big heavy waste). I am overwhelmed with guilt and stress over it.
I should also include my parents value education above anything else. When I used to get in trouble as a child, a punishment would be a well-written apology or an essay. When I got a dog as a 19 year old, I had to do a significant study and present it to them. Education is everything to them. The dinner table was not for "silly day-to-day conversation", it was politics and philosophy. I am interested in education, but this depression is debilitating.
I should also say that while we are very close, my father is a very logical person; mental health is lost on him. He is one of those people who doesn't understand why I would cry over losing a friend or cry at all. So when I try to explain depression, he sees it as a chemical imbalance, so if I am on medicine the problem is with me being lazy or not trying hard enough.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My GPA can't afford this semester, My mental health can't afford it either. My parents do not understand where I am coming from, how can I convince them? | My GPA can't afford this semester, My mental health can't afford it either. My parents do not understand where I am coming from, how can I convince them? | 3,293 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I lost my hobbies with time and don't find what I want to do.
POST: I will try my best to explain:
No money and no jobs ( get hit by a car 1 year ago ... ) , I'm trying everyday to get back my passion in many hobbies or wish I could get some ... I have many debts for my age ( 21 M ) and I can't even pay something to me or my GF. Also, mostly all my left body is painful , my arm , leg and shoulder get hit on the impact.
I'm feeling like someone who lose interest quickly.
I'm an artist , or I was. I'm good at drawing and making art stuff. but this hobbies look dead , everytime I tried , nothing satisfy me.
I make studies in wood crafting ( or making wood furniture ) sometime I would go back in this , but this is soo expensive to bought equipments and I don't remember how to sharp some wood tools...
Reading was one too , but now , I'm feeling like wasting my time when I can watch a TV show than reading a book.
I can't do sport ( not until the next year ) and when I'm trying to get in shape , I don't get the motivation to keep going ... since my accident I win 40 lbs , at least my GF find me comfortable.
The only thing I have some fun ( or not ) is playing video game. I have many retro console and many games on PC ... but it look a waste of time . But this is the only thing I can easily do during my day.
I wish I could return to school soon , but without money, I can't.
Many thing change since the accident but the only hobbies I found is watching movie ( my last one was Total Recall with Arnold , gods that was great )
I'm still looking about what I want to do in my live , cabinetmaker is not what I want , working in a animation studio is an ideal ... but I lose interest in drawing. I tried many school ( 4 on 3 years ) and nothing.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ! Had an accident 1year ago , lose interest in some hobbies and forgot what I want to do in my live. | ! Had an accident 1year ago , lose interest in some hobbies and forgot what I want to do in my live. | 1,979 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [21M] thinking of visiting my ex-girlfriend [24F], just as a friend
POST: We were really good friends before we went out, then we went out for about a year. She broke up with me 6 months ago, and I haven't seen her since, although we still chat from time to time on Facebook.
Anyway, she lives in a different city to me, which I'm going to next week, and I reckon I'm going to stop by and say hello to her and her family. She's definitely over me, so there's no danger on that front. It took me a month or two of no contact and spending time with other people, but now we have fun chatting like we used to, and I don't think of her that way anymore either.
Since I have less experience of breakups and relationships than some of the people on here, just wondered if this is a bad idea. I should add that she responded positively when I mentioned the idea to her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Thinking of visiting ex-girlfriend, fairly sure that neither of us has motives other than friendship. Dangerous? Can exes be friends? | Thinking of visiting ex-girlfriend, fairly sure that neither of us has motives other than friendship. Dangerous? Can exes be friends? | 6,337 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] needs some help. Re-posting this here from r/dating_advice as it's more active. I'm way out of my league.
POST: I go to college and i'm in my final year so i've been in the library non-stop. There's this one girl that I always keep seeing and tonight I think she finally noticed me. I smiled to her as she was leaving and she smiled back. That was unbelievable enough, but then as i'm watching her leave, she turns round, looks at me and smiles again. Honestly, my stomach was doing backflips! Never has that happened to me.
I'm 21 and i've only ever asked one girl out (shameful I know) and that was two years ago by text. The date didn't go too well so that never proceeded to anything. But, i've told myself that i'm going to say something to this girl next time I see her.
What would you suggest I say? What do you say to someone that will be sitting studying by herself in a library with earphones in? What do I say to someone that i've never spoke to before? So many questions going through my mind.
Any help or advice would be wonderful.
Thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Never went up to anyone and spoke to them out of the blue, let alone ask someone for their number or ask them out, but I want to. Help? | Never went up to anyone and spoke to them out of the blue, let alone ask someone for their number or ask them out, but I want to. Help? | 5,722 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (26F) recently began dating a guy (30M) who has less money than me and it visibly bothers him, how do I handle?
POST: I (26F) recently started dating a guy, 30M, let's call him James. We've been seeing each other only about a month.
I really like him. He is so funny, so smart, and treats me really well.
The issue is money. He has a low paying job right now and lives paycheck to paycheck; for example an unexpected $30 bill would put his acct in the negative. In contrast I have a full time job that pays me moderately well for my experience level, and I have several grand in savings (not a huge amount but I'm proud of it), always enough food in the fridge, gas in the tank, etc. Dropping $50 on a night out once or twice a week isn't a big deal to my finances, although I am trying to cut back on that sort of thing.
I don't care that he doesn't have as much money as me, but he gets weird about me paying for stuff. I feel like I can't suggest doing anything that costs money without causing him stress. Example: I stay over and when we wake up the next morning I wanna go out to breakfast. He is visibly torn between wanting to make me happy by going out and wanting to avoid a situation that costs money. I've suggested cooking breakfast together but that doesn't seem to make him happy either since we would still have to buy ingredients (he like doesn't eat on his own...). Also, sometimes I want to be able to go out to eat or to a movie or concert etc.
I just want to spend time with him, and I don't mind paying for our activities. But I don't know how to discuss it without emasculating him.
As a side note, his total lack of money is hopefully temporary due to some family legal issues that happened almost a year ago that I don't wanna get into here. He's not a deadbeat so I don't want that to be the topic of discussion, i have faith in his ambitions/ future earning potential etc.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dating a guy who is broke but doesn't want me to pay for things, how do I handle it to not hurt his feelings | Dating a guy who is broke but doesn't want me to pay for things, how do I handle it to not hurt his feelings | 4,276 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend (29F) of three years and I (28M) broke up recently. I'm a weird guy in a weird situation now.
POST: She really, really loved me. At 28, I've never had anything close to "love" or even infatuation for anyone, really.
I'd tried to break up with her a couple times in the past for her own good, but could never really get it to stick. It's hard to choose to hurt someone AND render yourself bored/alone and I wasn't strong enough. She finally realized recently that I really DIDN'T want to live with her or get married and all that, and we decided to split fairly amicably.
I'm really, really unbelievably bored now but I'm pretty sure I'd just put any future person in the same shitty position. Even now, there's a girl who seems interested in me and I have exactly the same lukewarm feeling about the whole thing as I did last time (or any other time in the past). I'm tired of feeling like I'm screwing up the lives of the people who care the most about me.
I find it doubtful that some magical "right person" is going to come along and change all this and really have no idea what to do at this point.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Am I doomed to a life of forever-alone boredom because I feel so little in a romantic sense? I'm really confused. | Am I doomed to a life of forever-alone boredom because I feel so little in a romantic sense? I'm really confused. | 1,006 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] with my foreigner ex [28 M] 3 mos. I'm still enamoured
POST: So for 3 months, my head was filled love and all that relationship stuff.
The thing is, for me he was just a casual friend who I occasionally hooked up with. For him, I was the "girlfriend". I was almost always flattered.
But who would be? When all we did was get a taxi, book a motel and do it in less than 3 hours for 2 or more sessions! I mean that was all meaningless sex. However, he kept telling me that if he didn't love me, he wouldn't have had sex with me.
But I've been asking around. And I was right. He wasn't my boyfriend at all. I mean, he never took me out to dinner. He never held my hand. He never really introduced me to his friends. My heart was controlling my every move. Including the other parts. If you know what I mean. ;)
First week passed, met with my ex-fubu. You know what would have happened there right. Eventually, his roommate caught my eye. I'm the type of person who says never say never. So I did it with his roomie/bff. Twice. After a month, you could say I did it again.
Right on Christmas vacation. I found out he gave himself such a trashy gift. His new girl. Also he really loves the girl and did things for her which I kept telling him but he didn't do for me.
I was "stalking" him on different social media accounts. I guess you can say I cried. Cause he never did those things for me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Anyway, in summary, I know he'll never take me back, but assume if he will: if you were me, what would you do to take him back? | Anyway, in summary, I know he'll never take me back, but assume if he will: if you were me, what would you do to take him back? | 2,828 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [21 M] This girl I am interested in smokes and I'm worried about my health, also she is vegan
POST: I don't know anything about second hand smoke. I never did drugs in my life. This girl I'm talking to smokes ALL the time. When we are walking together, she smokes. I told her I didn't mind. And I really don't care.
HOWEVER, I'm starting to wonder how bad this secondhand smoke is. Is it OKAY to just be beside it a little bit? Is this going to shorten my life in any way?
Can a relationship still work if she smokes and I don't? Or am I going to have to walk away from her when she smokes from now on?
There is one more thing that is bothering me that I feel I should mention. She is Vegan. I am not. She told me directly that it would BOTHER her if I ate meat in front of her! Like, I can't get a burger or anything because of this! I'm wondering if this is a deal breaker.
Its not fair! I don't complain about her smoking, yet here she is saying that it would bother her if I ate meat saying its rude knowing she is vegan. I feel like she is asking too much. I mean, if we go out to dinner sometime, I'm wondering if she will force me to eat vegan. Heck, I wonder if I even have to become a vegan just to be with her..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I like smokes and I'm worried about the second hand smoke, also the fact that she doesn't approve of me eating meat because she is vegan, wondering what to do. | Girl I like smokes and I'm worried about the second hand smoke, also the fact that she doesn't approve of me eating meat because she is vegan, wondering what to do. | 4,210 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24/M] and my closest friend [20/F] of 1 1/2 years - she doesn't want a relationship (with anyone, just not me) but has feelings for me.
POST: Her and i got into a fight a few months ago and we both told each other we have feelings for each other, so naturally I asked her out. She told me she doesn't want one even though she has strong feelings for me. Whenever her and I get really close to each other she pulls away and we fight. this is a continuous cycle. I finally asked her why she does it and she told me it's because she doesn't want to get hurt again. she wants to be friends but is too scared to date again.
I do like her but just being friends is also torturing me. I want to prove to her that some people can be trusted. She said she doesn't want to lose me but I just don't know what to do. I told her i needed to be alone for a while to think of my next move. I don't want to lose her either but just being friends isn't enough.
Maybe I'm being childish but its killing me inside that she won't even though she flat at told me she does. Should i give her some space? Maybe I need to move on. I just don't know.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | best friend and I have strong feelings for each other, but she is scared to date. Should I continue trying with her, or let her go. | best friend and I have strong feelings for each other, but she is scared to date. Should I continue trying with her, or let her go. | 510 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: New relationship, I want to get married and start a family and don't want to waste time with someone who doesn't. Too soon to ask?
POST: I am a 31 year old women dating a man just a few years older than myself. We have been together about 5 months. Getting him to admit it was a relationship was like pulling teeth. This was partly because of past failed relationships, and he wanted to make sure it was the real thing before committing to anything. This part I understand and respect.
All in all I'd say our relationship is great. We enjoy each others company, we care for each other, and work through things as best we can. It's awesome.
Things is: I'm in my thirties and I am TERRIFIED that I won't be able to have children if I wait too much longer. A family is VERY important to me. He has mentioned that he wants children...someday....but right now he is over the top paranoid of getting me pregnant. I don't think he's completely out of line. We haven't been together too terribly long, we don't live together...etc.
So two questions:
1. Is it too early in our relationship to even bring it up? I don't want to freak him out but i do want to know if he sees that in our future. I don't necessarily need to know that NOW... I just don't want to find out down the road and feel I've wasted years of fertility.
2. For you mothers of reddit. Am I just stressing myself out? Am I too young to feel worried at this point or should I be genuinely concerned? I seem to keep coming across studies that say it's hard/and or/unhealthy to have children at this age.
I love this guy and I am not the type to trick a guy into fatherhood. I have looked into insemination and am completely aware that may mean loosing him as I am sure he doesn't want to be involved raising a kid that isn't his. I know that if I did get pregnant he would be responsible and there for me. But he wants it to be a planned thing and I respect that....I am just afraid I don't have much time left.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm a woman in my 30's in a new relationship. I want a family and don't want to waste time dating someone who doesn't feel the same but I think it may be too soon to bring it up. | I'm a woman in my 30's in a new relationship. I want a family and don't want to waste time dating someone who doesn't feel the same but I think it may be too soon to bring it up. | 5,194 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend (34M) has 2 dogs, I (28F) have one. I'm going insane with so many dogs around....
POST: I love dogs, I really do, but I have realized that more than one is just too much for me. We have been dating for 9 months now, and are getting to a point where I want to spend more time with him, staying over more often, etc. At this point we usually only sleep together one night a week cause of the hassle of all 3 dogs being in my apartment (he has a roommate with a large dog, so his apt just doesn't work). We talk about moving in together, but I feel like I need to be more comfortable being around him more often before I will be ready for that. But then the dogs have to be around more often as well.
When they are all over, I feel like I'm constantly worrying about what they are doing, and where they are, and do they need to go out, etc etc. Plus, one of his seems to pee somewhere in my apt every time she comes over. And she just annoys me cause she is kinda needy and high energy, while the other 2 will just lay down and relax. Also, I'm a little particular with my place and things and can't stand his dogs on the couch (although mine is) and the hair that is covering my apartment after they are gone. I can't imagine living with them and having to somehow deal with it.
Part of me feels like there is NO WAY I could move in with him AND the dogs. But they are part of the package, just as my dog is. And although his dogs are older, I feel like an awful person to say that we'll wait until he doesn't have 2.... plus, that could be years and I don't really wanna put my life on hold.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do? How did you get to a point where it didn't give you great anxiety to be around them all and not focus on it???
Thanks reddit!!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend has 2 dogs, I have one. All 3 together is just too much for me and I don't know what to do to stop the anxiety that hits me each time! | Boyfriend has 2 dogs, I have one. All 3 together is just too much for me and I don't know what to do to stop the anxiety that hits me each time! | 3,058 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [21 M] get over my bf's [23 M] past (mis)conducts?
POST: We've been together for 17 months. It makes me very sad, and disappointed when I think about things he did in the past. Some examples are:
1. Getting a lap dance at the strip club
2. Planning a whole weekend with a lady friend who's in town knowing she has feelings for him
3. Not being over his ex and not willing to talk about it or make me feel secure that this isn't a problem (obviously, it is...)
4. Complimenting other girls around me
5. He doesn't try to help me finish, I feel sex is never about us - it ends when he's done mostly
I could name a few more...but will refrain from..
We have talked about these situations but they always end with him apologizing to solidify them, but not to assure me.
I feel I deserve more and better. How do I healthily get over this if I want to continue the relationship?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm still can't forgive my bf's for his past inconsiderate actions, how do I cope with this or is this not working? | I'm still can't forgive my bf's for his past inconsiderate actions, how do I cope with this or is this not working? | 4,767 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17M] really like a girl [17F] who is a teen mother UPDATE
POST: Link to original post:
Not really going to be a huge update, but i think im approaching a time where im really gonna have to face what i spoke about in my last post. The romance between Emma and I is really beginning to turn into something so to speak.
I had her over for the weekend (my mom was out of town) and we had a great time. Drank a couple beers and chatted on Saturday night and watched the Oscars together last night (first time watching for both of us).
Well basically, last night thinks kind of heated up a bit. We did a lot of talking about just life in general and the direction we're both headed, how important it is to get her highschool diploma and not adult diploma (for her daughters sake, and hers) and a lot of talking about her asswipe baby daddy. At certain points she became visibly upset and i came over to comfort her, and I really layed on the cute things that girls love. It was almost an instinct, it just felt so right in the moment. I played with her hair, layed down next to her, we cuddled, things like that.
Well eventually it was time for bed as we both have school today, so i got her all set up in my bedroom (she sleeps in there alone when she comes over for a night and I crash on the couch) and was about to head downstairs, but she asked me to get into bed with her cause it was cold. We laid there and talked for awhile and she cuddled me for basically the whole night (we fell asleep). She woke me up maybe a half hour ago with a few really soft kisses and headed off to her house to get ready for school (she lives about a five minute walk from me).
This is the furthest from platonic we have gone, and like i said in my last post the chemistry is DEFINITELY there. I am at a point where i really want to persue a relationship with this girl, but im still afraid of my mother getting in the way (see my last post). The only thing between me and this amazing girl is the fact that I cannot see my mother accepting her simply because she has a daughter, and its honestly torture.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Things went further in a romantic direction for Emma and I and i feel like the time is coming where im going to have to deal with the issues my mother will inevitably cause because of Emma's daughter. | Things went further in a romantic direction for Emma and I and i feel like the time is coming where im going to have to deal with the issues my mother will inevitably cause because of Emma's daughter. | 2,375 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: 2 Herniated and one bulging disc
POST: a little over year ago I herniated two discs in my back and one disc is bulging (I forgot the technical name for the discs, but its like around the tail bone area... I think L3 was one of them).. went to physical therapy all first semester, started getting injections around Dec. and had my last injection in January. Everything started getting better, pain started decreasing and all was good. Fast forward to this summer, started doing manual labor. Back has been holding up. Had one day of chronic pain, but it went away. However, last Friday I pulled 2 carts weighing probably 200 lbs each. Felt fine afterward. End of the day on Friday, I drove 3 hrs home to get furniture to move into my new house... Sat. morning I went downstairs and started loading furniture with my dad (easy lifting, lifted with proper form).. however started getting a pins and needles sensation in my upper back that finally went away today, but whenever I stood up or turned a little bit while sitting, this pain shot through my upper back. It felt like 1,000 ants biting me... it sucked... 10/10 pain for sure... I've also had pens and needles sensations in my legs and feet and sometimes arms.
**Main question is why is the pain traveling to my upper back now?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Herniated discs last summer in lower back; started summer manual labor job; pulled 2 200lb carts... drove home Friday; started loading furniture in my car on Saturday; pens and needles in my upper back | Herniated discs last summer in lower back; started summer manual labor job; pulled 2 200lb carts... drove home Friday; started loading furniture in my car on Saturday; pens and needles in my upper back | 310 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20m] in a funk because I was dumped [19f]
POST: I'm in a bit of a hole. My issues are currently crashing in on me. My body issues, being dumped, and college fuck ups.
My ex who dumped me abused me. Emotionally and physically. She was an unmedicated bipolar. She would go from either telling me about how good other guys were looking and commenting on how bad I look. Then she would hit me, and actually stabbed me twice. Me like an idiot stayed. We were together for 2 and a half years. It's 2 months removed from being dumped and it still hurts. The breakup came from no fault of my own. I feel dumb. I'm still not over her, I cry daily and still hurt.
I have no clue what I want out of life. I gave up a scholarship for music because my ex didn't want me to go. Like a fucking idiot. Now I'm stuck in a path I hate. My one passion was music and now I can't get back into it, I'm 3 years removed. My motivation and passion is truly gone. I need help reddit, help me get over my breakup and get motivation.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Kinda depressed. Dumped by abusive ex. Gave up passion for her. Now I'm stuck in a life I hate that she abandoned me with | Kinda depressed. Dumped by abusive ex. Gave up passion for her. Now I'm stuck in a life I hate that she abandoned me with | 4,431 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] feel very unwanted by my [20M] boyfriend, resulting in me feeing insecure. Advice needed
POST: We've been together for over a year now and I feel very insecure and bad about myself from him liking suggestive photos of girls he's had a past with while being in a relationship with me. He has also liked photos of many half naked girls on instagram and followed many.
None of these girls look like me. It's not like a type thing. I feel like he isn't attracted to me at all.
It has made me feel really insecure, which was already slightly there. I have recently spoken to him about how this made me feel. He did apologies however it still comes into my head at times.
I've always been really scared he might one day cheat on me and it is my biggest fear. I can't keep bringing it up that it upsets me still. He might get sick of hearing it, and then never listen to things like that again.
I feel really bad about myself, as if I'm really not good enough. I feel like the insecurity is with me, like it's my problem with my outlook on myself. He is a human, he can look at other people. There's not much I can do to stop that.
I'm slightly embarrassed that his friends would have seen him like photos of this girl he has had a past with while with me. All his friends back home know this girl (he's away at university, where I met him).
I don't know if I'm just taking it too personally. There are other factors that slightly impact this. We don't have sex very frequently. Not as much as I would like. The majority of time I am rejected; hes too tired, not in the mood or it's the wrong time.
I feel like hes really unattracted to me and that he doesn't want me, resulting in me feeling bad about myself and the way I look.
I have spoken to him about everything but I still feel like this and I just need a bit of advice as to stop feeling like this or if I am just overreacting and taking it far too personally.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't think my boyfriend is that attracted to me, but is to other girls, feeling insecure and bad about myself | I don't think my boyfriend is that attracted to me, but is to other girls, feeling insecure and bad about myself | 3,231 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 19(m) with some questions about specific social circumstances.
POST: This may seem like a stupid question but please bare with me. Sometimes when I talk with certain friends of mine and I look at them intently, I eventually have to look away because I am uncomfortable with making eye contact because I don't want them to know that I think they are unattractive looking.
So I have begun to notice that people also don't hold eye contact with me all the time and it got me wondering. Is that the most likely reason. I have a tendency to assume that others think the way I do and therefore I assume when others don't look me in the eyes it most likely is because I must also be unattractive.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | sometimes I am uncomfortable making eye contact with friends cause I dont want them to realize I think they are unattractive, is that MOST LIKELY the same reason why people may not make eye contact with me. | sometimes I am uncomfortable making eye contact with friends cause I dont want them to realize I think they are unattractive, is that MOST LIKELY the same reason why people may not make eye contact with me. | 346 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [26/F] been dating my bf [27/M] for almost 5 years. Everything is perfect but he still hasn't proposed. What gives?
POST: So here's the classic "He won't propose!" post, but he's my situation in particular:
Everything is great for the most part. We rarely fight, living together has been a breeze, still love each other very much, and financially we are well off. If everything is going so well why hasn't he proposed? We've talked about marriage and he wants to marry me. He's just doesn't take much initiative with it and I feel like I need to push him a little every step of the way or else it will never happen. I guess his stance is like "everything's good. If it ain't broke don't fix it."
I'm getting to that point where I feel we've been together for a long time and I'm not being crazy for wanting this. I KNOW I shouldn't compare myself to other people, but when I see someone get engaged on FB and they've been dating for 2 years, it just bums me out a little.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've been dating my boyfriend for a while and everything is perfect so why isn't he proposing even though he knows that's what I want? Also, am I being too pushy for gently nudging him? | I've been dating my boyfriend for a while and everything is perfect so why isn't he proposing even though he knows that's what I want? Also, am I being too pushy for gently nudging him? | 4,376 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: High-rise construction seriously affecting daily life - should we ask our landlords for a rent reduction?
POST: We live on the 13th floor of a high rise, in a condo that we rent. We've lived here 3 years and love it, it's a really nice place in a great area, close to lots of nature. This past year they've been working on the facade and balconies to bring them up to code. The noise is constant, and after we told our landlords about it they decided not to raise our rent for the next year (as they were going to). We really like our landlords, they've extremely fair and good people.
The construction started on our floor a few months ago. Currently, our windows are boarded up (no sunlight), we have no access to our balconies or fresh air, and the noise is pretty unbearable before 5pm, and some saturdays. Today things got much worse, as they have to replace a window in our living room, so we had to move all our furniture so that they could construct a plywood "room" for them to access half of our LR. I think this "room" should only last a few weeks, but construction on our floor will go until March, at least.
We pay a lot to live here, and while I'm thankful that our landlords didn't raise the rent, I am growing increasingly more irritated that we pay so much to live in such a headache. The facade of our building has no bearing on us, and will not increase our quality of life once it is finished, but I imagine it will for our landlords (the owners of our unit).
I do not want to financially hurt our landlords, because this is obviously not their fault, but man - I would NEVER have moved in had I know that this would be our life in a few years. Should I ask for a rent reduction? If so, how should I put it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Construction around our apt is a nightmare. We want to ask for a reduction in rent but don't want to hurt our landlords financially. What do we do?* | Construction around our apt is a nightmare. We want to ask for a reduction in rent but don't want to hurt our landlords financially. What do we do?* | 4,433 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help get my friend's family out of harms way in Central America - Advice on immigration needed!
POST: Hi Reddit,
I got a text from a friend recently and he was informing of a problem.
He is a U.S. citizen but is originally from a country in Central America. His family is still in Central America and lived a quiet life until they were recently extorted for several thousand dollars. This country is much more corrupt than the U.S. so they don't want to talk to the police - it is likely the police are connected to the local mafia.
At this point he wants to get his sister (also a US citizen but living in central america), mother, and father out of the country.
He currently lives in the Chicago Area. Any help or advice is appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gunmen are threatening my friends family in central america and the family want to get the f*ck out! | Gunmen are threatening my friends family in central america and the family want to get the f*ck out! | 6,552 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: I accidentally caused /r/The_Donald's rapid growth over the past month.
POST: Before the end of this post, I will prove that it is more likely than not that me plugging /r/the_Donald in a front page post directly caused that sub to grow into what it is today.
A month ago, I posted [George R. R. Martin has passed away] on /r/circlejerk. It was essentially a practical joke, and by the end I was engaging in many of those circlejerk tropes.
As a joke, and as you can see in the image, I plugged a pretty low-user sub that I had seen on /top/pasthour recently. I wasn't sure if it was a parody sub or not, but I figured it belonged in /r/circlejerk.
On the day I posted, the subreddit had 14,000 subscribers it had built up over the course of eight months. You can see the metrics here:
I made that post on February 20. After that post, [its userbase exploded](
[Over the course of the next eight days:](
1. It was a trending subreddit for three days.
2. It was the fastest growing non-default subreddit for 5 of those days.
3. and it grew from 14k subscribers to 40k.
It's obviously larger now a month later with a user base of over 70k, but the original post and plug caused the rapid increase over that first week. Last night, I woke up in a cold sweat when I connected the dots and realized what I had done.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I plugged a subreddit in my front page post, directly causing all Reddit users to see stuff about cucks more often. | I plugged a subreddit in my front page post, directly causing all Reddit users to see stuff about cucks more often. | 918 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU Got Caught... At Work!
POST: Okay so I'm basically fucked. Let me get started on how badly I'm going to lose my job.
So today at work my boss was sick so he called in her daughter who is a year older than me to come in to help close. So she came in and we proceeded to get done clean up and the other workers left. I work in a grocery store by the way so nothing too special. Anyways I was getting my stuff from the back when she came back there and she started to get really touchy.
So this is where shit got hot and heavy and we proceeded to carry on, she blew me for a bit and then she asked if I had a condom. I had one in my car so I went out of the store, but I took the short way which was to open the loading door, at the time I thought nothing of it. So we finished up and she said she has been wanting to do that for a long time and next time we should make it even more kinkier and all over the store.
So this is where shit gets bad. I was driving home when I was thinking of how awesome it was, when the thought hit me. The alarm was set because we had locked up. So tomorrow my boss is going to get to work and see the alarm had gone off, and do what anyone would do. Watch the camera's. So I'm basically fucked.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I fucked my bosses daughter in his store, but was dumb and opened the garage door making an alarm go off. So now he is going to watch the camera's and see us. | I fucked my bosses daughter in his store, but was dumb and opened the garage door making an alarm go off. So now he is going to watch the camera's and see us. | 6,336 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Fellow college students and recent grads, what is your biggest fear after graduating from college? Recent grads, do you have any words of advice or regrets?
POST: I am a second semester junior at a state school. I have above average grades but in todays economy, a bachelors degree doesn't seem like its going to get me anywhere. I study economics because I am good at it and it is interesting to me. I am also a pre-med student for the same reason. My plan after college is to go to medical school, and if that doesn't work, I still have a degree in economics. I could possibly go to graduate school. I know the two fields seem like they do not relate but one day I would like to open a clinic of my own, and a collegiate-level of understanding the economy seems ideal. No matter which way things play out, graduate work seems like a must.What are your plans after college? And if you have graduated, how have you plans unfolded?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | In school for economics and pre-med. Graduate work seems necessary for an above average salary these days. What are your plans? and/or How did they unfold if you have graduated? | In school for economics and pre-med. Graduate work seems necessary for an above average salary these days. What are your plans? and/or How did they unfold if you have graduated? | 5,519 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My brother his having brain surgery. What would you do in my situation?
POST: About 6 years ago my brother herniated his brain when weight lifting. It was a long recovery, but eventually he got through it. A few weeks ago, he started having horrible headaches. At first it didn't seem like much, but they started occurring every day and he couldn't carry out any of his normal activities. He has had a MRI and a CT-scan and it has pointed to a something called Chiari. This means that part of his brain is pressing up against his scull and causing horrible pressure. Right now, the only way for him to relieve this pain is to have brain surgery. They will remove part of his scull, a small portion on the back of the head. They also say that they have to remove the first vertebrae and possibly the second. He is going into surgery Tuesday, December 6. I know about the surgery and have watched some videos, it doesn't look too bad. The biggest problem that I am having with this is the rest of his life. I know that the first two vertebrae are important for head movement. Plus the only thing protecting the back of his scull is skin. I am really worried about his future. I don't know how everything will turn out for him and I really don't want anymore problems for him. I guess that I am just really scared. Although, who wouldn't be? Brain surgery is scary. What would you do in my situation? Thanks for any and all who read this!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My brother is having brain surgery and will have part of his scull removed. I am afraid about his future and any complications with the surgery. | My brother is having brain surgery and will have part of his scull removed. I am afraid about his future and any complications with the surgery. | 3,554 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] and my ex girlfriend [20 F] dated throughout highschool and I broke it off before college. One year later I miss her more than anything.
POST: Like the title said, my high school girlfriend and I broke it off before college. We were going to colleges 2 hours apart. She took it really rough. However, we couldn't bring ourselves to cut off communication, so we still talked over text.
I go to a big state school, and over the course of the year I have trouble making friends, and have even less luck on the dating scene. She meanwhile goes to a small Christian school and makes tons of friends.
She copes with us breaking up by trying new things and making new friends, effectively distracting her.
I focus on my studies.
Around February I tell her I'd like to get back together, but she says she's"keeping her options open."
For the rest of the school year I'm on her hook, talking to her every day.
Summer roles around and things between us begin to heat up. We make out, we go on long walks. I realize things were moving too fast, but I was just happy I was with her. She says she would be open to going on a date.
A week later I ask her on a date, but she says she wants to stay friends. I ask her why and she says she doesn't have time for a relationship between her four jobs.
Another week passes and she's with another guy. According to her, "her feeling changed." And "she looks for other things in guys." She also wants to stay friends, but it's not the same.
We used to have long conversations, and poke fun at each other, now she's distant and condescending in our chats.
Now I feel heartbroken. I can't eat and can't stop thinking of her. I realize this is all my fault, and that makes me feel even shittier. I guess this is just me getting what I deserve. I just want to move on now. But I still love her.
I should also add that my friends from High school have very different interests now, and are pretty distant too. I feel like I have no one to turn to.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up with HS girlfriend. A year later she finds a new guy and I still love her. How do I move on? | Broke up with HS girlfriend. A year later she finds a new guy and I still love her. How do I move on? | 1,292 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I met an awesome girl the other day but managed to come off as a complete asshole unintentionally. I'm texting her but she clearly does not want to see me again. What can I do?
POST: I met her through a friend in a drinking setting. I thought she was very cute and almost too perfect for my style. I immediately liked her personality and talked and what not. BUT, that night I was extremely tired and the alcohol was hitting me harder than normal and wasn't myself. And apparently I made her mad and disrespected her with things that I said, (which were jokes in my view) and left mad.
But I had gotten her messenger ID (not phone number) and said I think I came off as an asshole the next day (Since even my friend bitched to me about it). She said it's okay, etc but clearly, not happy.
Also just by how she's replying back I can tell she doesn't really want to talk to me... (Like you know when the other party wants to stop talking)
This makes me sad in TWO factors because, one, I am generally a nice guy and most definitely NOT an asshole. Two, I like her and I definitely saw potential in getting further. But I blew it like an idiot.
And I even found her on facebook like a normal redditor can and I'm not sure if I should friend her. (I didn't, and probably won't until I meet her again)
Do I need to stop talking to her via online messenger? (because she clearly isn't happy) or should I just keep going? (as in getting her to finally meet me) What do you girls think? Did I screw it up from the beginning and it's a no go?
I am willing to pursue because I feel like she's worth it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I fucked up my first impression real bad and trying to get her to meet me again but she doesn't want to. Do I keep trying? | I fucked up my first impression real bad and trying to get her to meet me again but she doesn't want to. Do I keep trying? | 5,215 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [17M] has "fallen out of love with me" [17F] and i want to try to save the relationship. Help!
POST: My bf (17M) and I (17F) have been dating for almost a year and a half. We have been really strong and don't really fight, but sometimes he becomes distant, and I probably do too.
We both lost our virginity to each other a month ago, and I thought it was the right decision because it seemed natural. But now I'm not so sure.
Anyway, I was gone this week on a camping trip (no phone/ contact for 5 days) and I was excited to be back and see him, but he was 0% enthusiastic when he saw me. I don't know if it was because of his new job, or because he is nervous about applying early decision to a college or what, but something wasn't right. We literally just watched TV, and it was a bit odd because he is really physical.
I saw him the next day and we hung out for a bit, but when convo lagged for a bit he said I should go home because he had "things to do" before work. That hurt, because I knew he didn't. Last night I texted him asking why he was being distant and he replied that he had a lot on his mind and "was falling out of love with me." I found out that he had been feeling that way for about two weeks, and I don't know what to do. I asked if we could try to mend the relationship, which he said had problems mainly "mentally." He agreed to try but I was, to say the least, thrown for a loop because I know I still love him, and I thought the relationship was going really well (there are occasional spots of disconnect for a few days, but we always talk and work it out). I just don't know this time because it was so unnoticed and abrupt and I want to know what I should do.
I have a month to try to mend this, and I don't want to end the relationship. It would be great if I could get advice on spicing up dates, new/ fairly unusual topics to talk about, things to say or cute things to do for him, and general suggestions other than that. Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my boyfriend and I [17M/ 17F] have had a great relationship, but last night he said he had/is fallen/falling out of love with me. Suggestions on how to save this relationship? | my boyfriend and I [17M/ 17F] have had a great relationship, but last night he said he had/is fallen/falling out of love with me. Suggestions on how to save this relationship? | 2,705 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: My girlfriends dog was housebroken and now keeps pooping in the house.
POST: My girlfriends dog, who I used to love, has seemingly forgotten that he can't poop in the house. He was completely housebroken and then started to have really runny poops in the house so we just figured he was sick (we accidentally bought the wrong food) and didn't yell at or scold him because it wasn't really his fault. After he has gotten better he just thinks he can poop in the house now. For instance, not 20 minutes ago my girlfriend took him for a walk and he did not poop because there was other dogs outside and he gets distracted amazingly easily, then she brought him inside, left him in the bedroom where I was sleeping and he pooped. I noticed about 5 minutes after she left when I rolled out of bed. He was so excited when I got out of bed too; he didn't even act guilty like he knew he did something wrong.
This is just frustrating me so much because he used to go to the door and everything when he had to go and now it's just a free for all. Help. Please.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriends dog used to be housebroken and now isn't and doesn't seem to know it's wrong to do that anymore | girlfriends dog used to be housebroken and now isn't and doesn't seem to know it's wrong to do that anymore | 3,843 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: I feel like I'm going to be trapped in retail. Am I a failure?
POST: I graduated in 2013 with a BA in Political Science. When I started college I thought I wanted to go to law school, but I realized that I only wanted to attend law school for my parents. Then I thought I'd want to pursue a career in international relations or something like that, but I just didn't want to go into more debt with more school. About a year after I graduated, I started to work as a substitute teacher, so I figured I'd pursue teaching. While getting into an alt cert program, I started working at Ross (the store) in October of 2014. While at Ross, I had so much pressure on me to find a teaching job with health insurance. Fast-forward to August 2015, I finally got a teaching job! But that job was hell on earth. I suffered from anxiety and panic attacks, so after two months, I had to quit. I went to a therapist (which I'm still seeing) and I'm doing much better, so now I have a job at Sears.
I'm thankful for my job, but I'm 25 going to be 26 in May and I'm still living with my parents. I've been trying to save money, but I have a $450 monthly bill that I have to pay for that alt cert program. Luckily, May will be the last month I have to pay on that. I've been trying to apply to teach English abroad, but I just got rejected by EPIK, so I don't think that's going to work out.
I just don't want to work in retail anymore. I'm not saying that retail is all bad, but I just want something a little more. But now I feel like this is all I can do right now. I'm starting to feel like I'm only qualified for retail. No other area will hire me. I've been looking for jobs out of state (I live in Louisiana), but I can't afford to move out yet (despite me desperately wanting to). I just feel like a failure who doesn't know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 25 year old woman still living with parents with a BA in Poly Sci. I work at Sears and I have no direction in life (and I desperately need direction). | 25 year old woman still living with parents with a BA in Poly Sci. I work at Sears and I have no direction in life (and I desperately need direction). | 700 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I need some advice regarding a female friend of mine. (she's almost 20 and i'm almost 22)
POST: Okay, I've been friends with this girl for about 10 months. I first met her at college about a year ago. She had a boyfriend at first, but eventually she broke up with him, and started to pay more attention to me. Soon, we went out several times, started to text a lot, etc. She made it seem like she wanted me to be her boyfriend by how she acted, but when school was over and we went back home (we live relatively close) she acted like she didn't have time to hang out.
Eventually she told me she was going out with this other guy, whom she actually did make her boyfriend. I was pretty devastated, and I realized I had been friendzoned. We still text constantly.
Anyway, she's been dating him for a couple months and she mentions how she's having trouble trusting him, because he's going to NYC this weekend and some hot friend of his will be there. Oh yeah, and she mentioned that he told her that he has cheated on his girlfriends before, but he would *never* do it again. I just want to ask her what the fuck she is thinking, but I don't want to come off as a dick, and I don't want to ruin my future chances by giving her a piece of my mind. I'm obsessing over this; I really like her a lot, and I care about her, but I really don't understand what's going through her head. Any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I really like friendzoned me, is currently dating a scumbag. What do I do to tell her my feelings on the subject without hurting my future chances with her? | Girl I really like friendzoned me, is currently dating a scumbag. What do I do to tell her my feelings on the subject without hurting my future chances with her? | 94 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23M] with my girlfriend [24F] for ten years broke-up six months ago; now I feel angry to myself and can't talk to people
POST: Hi.
When I was in fifth grade, at 2005, a beautiful girl asked me to be her friend; and we were together until six months ago, that's around 9-10 years. I can't remember the times I wasn't with her. I don't have a memory which doesn't include her.
I was never comfortable around people, and only with her I was relaxed, I could talk comfortably only with her, and we always said that we won't leave each ever. I was very happy.
And things start to get bad. I couldn't met her expectations. She got depressed, and I couldn't help her; I couldn't find correct words to say to her, and I couldn't make her happy. After the treatment for her depression, she (correctly) left me, and blocked me everywhere except one messaging service.
After that, I was just making myself believe that she'll be back, we'll be together and happy again. But she clearly isn't. Recently she told me that she's with someone else, he loves her very much etc.
And there's me now. My only memories are with her, I don't talk with anyone except my coworkers. I don't feel *anything* since she left me, I'm not sad, I just don't want anything. I have a job and working for M.S degree, and I just *continue* them, without doing anything for my life. Every day I think about her for a few minutes, and I just feel angry, I don't know why.
She isn't returning, she made it pretty clear. But it left me in a pretty bad situation, without anyone to help. This is the first time I'm saying these.
Actually I don't know what I'm trying to achieve with this post. Maybe writing about it helps.
Have a nice day everyone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was in a relationship for all my life, she dumped me, and I don't know what do to know. | I was in a relationship for all my life, she dumped me, and I don't know what do to know. | 537 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29f] am in a good loving relationship with my boyfriend[28m] the only issue is I want to get married, he doesn't.
POST: Our relationship is great, we love each other and get along well but moving forward I would like marriage and babies.
He's on the fence about kids and firm on no marriage. We plan on moving in together soon and he's up for it, but doesn't ever seem all that excited about it either.
I need advice on if leaving is a good idea. It would be hard to walk away from him, I don't think our relationship is one that will ever be easy to duplicate but I don't want to deny myself the things I want in life.
I just wish we were on the same page but I fear that will never happen.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | The relationship is great, I want to get married but he doesn't and I don't know how to move forward. | The relationship is great, I want to get married but he doesn't and I don't know how to move forward. | 2,376 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Anniversary of father's death, had a rough day.
POST: Hello, loseit.
So, like the title says, today was the 9 year anniversary of my father's death. He died of a heart attack in his early 50s. I am 25 currently. Knowing that being overweight likely contributed to my father's early death, I have long been trying to commit myself to getting into shape.
I've been doing really good lately, and have passed 5 pounds lost (not a lot, but better take it slow than keep gaining!). Today, though, without consciously realizing I was doing it, I just kept eating. It wasn't like a day long binge, but I had heavier than normal food for lunch (Chick-Fil-A) and heavier than normal food for dinner (lasagna with friends) followed with coffee (Starbucks after lunch and K-cup with sweet creamer after dinner) and several cookies a friend made for the dinner deal. I know this is a psychological thing, so I'm just counting it as a cheat day and moving on, but damn if it doesn't feel shitty to work against the goal I made because of the very event that is leading me to eat emotionally.
This post is basically just me venting. I am learning to change my lifestyle, and I need a new way to deal with this particular psychological trauma. Food was always something special to me and my father, but it wasn't healthy food. We would make cookies or brownies together, then eat most of what we'd made. One day of poor eating habits won't set me back too far on my goals, but I'm afraid the one day will turn into a lot more than that if I don't acknowledge the issue and deal with it. So tomorrow, I will eat healthfully as I have been learning to do, and do the weightlifting I put off today. From there I will return to my routine.
Loseit, now that my rant is over, what are some things you do that don't involve food to console yourselves on days when you are grieving? My fiance suggested that we give to a charity in his name to help turn the day to a positive direction and a celebration of my father's life rather than moping and being depressed all day, which I like, but I am looking for extra ideas.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Anniversary of father's death, consoled myself with food subconsciously. Acknowledging the issue and seeking advice for better options. | Anniversary of father's death, consoled myself with food subconsciously. Acknowledging the issue and seeking advice for better options. | 4,020 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [42 M] falling deeper in love with [41 F] 8 1/2 years apart, and she is not in my life anymore has anyone experienced this?
POST: when I first met this woman we were teenagers, i fell madly in love with her, but was always too shy to ask her out.
she was on my mind, even when i was madly in love with my wife, I would think back to her and wonder what she was doing where she was, was she happy. and I knew no matter how much i loved my wife, for just for the chance to know her again; just know her, that was all, i would leave my wife.
just feeling that way made me feel like a shity person, so i would only let myself think of her every 2-3 years, maybe 4 times while I was with my wife.
Time went on, and i split up with my wife, and when I was just content, not having to get to know someone again, she walked into my life.
I flipped out at how she could be back in my life, after all this time, i had to get her number and find out what she had been doing.
We started meeting every tuesday at lunch time, it was all i could think of threw the week, my brain went stupid and I couldn't concentrate on my studies, i was 33 mind you, not a teenager anymore.
anyway we ended up dating for a while, and I know from my point of view I made so many mistakes, rather than be myself I was telling myself to do dumb things. just thing contrary to who i normally was and am.
While we were together i could not understand what i was feeling, I had never felt anything remotely like it, and could not really believe what i was feeling either.
I believe she is my soulmate because of events in my life, and since the day I left her, she has not truly left my heart, and I fall deeper in love with her.
there is a lot more to the story, as in some of the reasons why i believe she is my soulmate, and she has moved on to a new guy and is in a great place personally i hear. I just wanted to get some other perspectives.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | So it's been eight and a half years now, and i miss her more than ever, is anyone going thru a similar experience? | So it's been eight and a half years now, and i miss her more than ever, is anyone going thru a similar experience? | 2,672 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I tell when a girl wants to be more than friends?
POST: I have had a number of close female friends where I have been unsure of their interests or intentions. I'm not looking for anything more than friends, but sometimes I get hints that they might be interested, or..I am reading too much into things.
For example, there is friend I have been hanging out with pretty often recently I haven't been sure of. She has a boyfriend she seems to like pretty well and often tells me about, but she also does things like push her breasts up on my arm while we were looking at a map together yesterday, and she always gives me a hug when saying goodbye.
I think I've indicated I just want to be friends, but maybe I need to clarify?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can I tell the difference between when a female friend is just being comfortable/friendly, and when she wants to get with me? | How can I tell the difference between when a female friend is just being comfortable/friendly, and when she wants to get with me? | 1,449 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 M] feel like our relationship has rub its course. She [22 F] sees nothing wrong with it.
POST: Back story: We are a LDR relationship of sorts. At times we are separated by distance (different colleges) and other times by an overprotective parent (she was raised by her grandparents actually). We probably see each other only a few times a month at best, even when she is only minutes away. This is both of our first relationship.
We've always had issues with sexual matters. She would like to wait to be married to have sex. When we are together, we do mutual masturbation. Which I was okay with for a while but she is not always the most considerate partner. Most of the time she shows no interest in making me satisfied.
I have tried talking to her but it seems I can only ever manage to get a few inches and it always seems to make her more bitter about it. The most recent talk was right before her grand father died a few months ago. I've tried to be as patient and caring as possible but I think resentment has been keeping me from being so as much as I could be.
Right now would be a horrible time for me to break up with her. A lot of her family life is in turmoil and she is coming into her last semester of school and I am her sole emotional support. But waiting, I think would be worse. It makes me feel trapped which only increases the resentment. And she doesn't deserve that.
Ideally, I could remain her friend and support her but I am not idealistic enough to think that will happen. Which is sad. She is my best friend, even though I think the resentment has poisoned that some too
On that note, if we broke up, I would likely lose a good deal of my friends but I would not begrudge them for that. They have been to her friends for a lot longer than they have been mine.
Fuck. I an bad at this. I have been thinking about this too long and I have lost sight of what is relevant or not too the matter so apologies if this seems scattered.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Distance and a lack of intimacy have been ruining my four year relationship and I am afraid breaking up would hurt her when she is at her most vulnerable. | Distance and a lack of intimacy have been ruining my four year relationship and I am afraid breaking up would hurt her when she is at her most vulnerable. | 5,247 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] and my [28M] of 8 months invited me spend Mother's Day with his mom but I feel weird about it
POST: Hi guys
So my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 8-9 months. Today is Mother's Day and I live across the country so I can't spend Mother's Day with my mom. My boyfriend invited me to spend Mother's Day with his mom and dad, but I feel awkward bc that's like implying that she will become my mom too one day, but we have only been together for like 8ish months and I think it's too soon. We never talk about marriage or kids or anything like that so its not like she's really going to become my mother in law soon because we plan on getting married you know ? We haven't talked about this stuff because it's still a new relationship and still figuring things out. What do you guys think too soon to spend Mother's Day with boyfriends parents or am I overthinking this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my boyfriend and I have been together 8 months and he invited me to spend Mother's Day with his mom and dad, but I feel uncomfortable too soon? | my boyfriend and I have been together 8 months and he invited me to spend Mother's Day with his mom and dad, but I feel uncomfortable too soon? | 6,310 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: Need help!
POST: I just moved into a house with my girlfriend and sister and they both have dogs. Both are female, one is a black lab the other is a rat terrier. The lab is fixed but my girlfriends terrier is not and she refuses to get her fixed until she breeds her. The terrier isn't very well house trained (my girlfriend had the dog before we met) I practically trained the dog as best I could. I've done everything and anything I possibly could to train the pup to go outside and for brief instances she's actually good about it. However since my sister started living with us I've noticed how the terrier is urinating and well, shitting EVERYWHERE. I literally laid down on my couch and the minute I do the terrier jumps up and urinates right beside me!
My girlfriend is oblivious to it and doesn't/hasn't treated this like a serious issue since the dog is well over a year and a half old. I've never personally raised a dog on my own before so I'm kind of lost here. Any advice or helpful hints would be greatly appreciated since our landlord does business with my family and I don't want to ruin any of that because of my girlfriends dog.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | gf's dog won't quit pissing/shitting in house. Can't find a solution what do reddit? | gf's dog won't quit pissing/shitting in house. Can't find a solution what do reddit? | 2,399 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: The worst person is in my math class. What do I do?!
POST: This semester, I'm in a higher level math class, which is a pretty OK course. It's a class of maybe 30 students. I (and quite a few of the other folks in my class) have found it increasingly difficult to concentrate, however, due to one individual. This guy is a non-traditional student. He sits in the front of the room every day, but there's always a small ring of empty seats around him because he has serious personal hygiene issues. B.O. combined with the smell of a pack's worth of cigarette smoke emanates from his body.
To make matters worse, it seems that he has some sort of autism. He'll rock back and forth in his seat during class which is both visually (he sits in the front) and audibly distracting (the seats creak).
The cherry on the cake, however, is that for long stretches of class he will breathe exclusively through his mouth. I have no idea whether this is a health-related issue or a psychological thing, but his breathing is loud enough to make it hard to hear the (albeit soft-spoken) professor.
What do I do, Reddit? These seem like issues that shouldn't really exist, but can anything be done?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Loud-breathing, chair squeaking, smelly man in my math class is going to make us all fail with his shenanigans. What to do? | Loud-breathing, chair squeaking, smelly man in my math class is going to make us all fail with his shenanigans. What to do? | 729 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I have proof that my mom is cheating on my stepdad. What do I do?
POST: So my mom has brought a lot of men into my life. Finally she seemed to have settled down. She has been married to my stepdad for 2 1/2 years now and recently started a new business. I noticed she became "friends" with the owner of one of the businesses that she does work for. She has been really sketchy ever since. constantly texting him and is on the phone with him more than she even talks to my stepdad. My stepdad works hard and often has to work out of town. When he is gone my mom will randomly disappear for 3-4 hours saying she went out with friends. When I ask her what friends she answers "just a few friends from work" I know this is bullshit because I saw a text message to the guy when my mom was texting him that said "I can't wait to see you". Now tonight I saw a message on her facebook from him saying "I love you" to which she replied, "I love you more." I know that I should say something to her. The trouble comes here. My brother and sister both know and would be on my side. However if they said anything my mom would probably kick them out. If I said something my mom could make me go live with my dad. or even worse my mom could get divorced and move in with this new guy, who is a total cunt by the way. Even worse is that my stepdad has 2 kids who I have become really close with and I would hate to see what they would have to go through.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mom is cheating. Don't know how to go about saying anything because too many people could be affected negatively by me saying something. | Mom is cheating. Don't know how to go about saying anything because too many people could be affected negatively by me saying something. | 5,825 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[49F] with my potential date [30M]; How old is too old?
POST: A few years ago, I found myself back on the dating scene. After my relationship ended, I went a couple of years before I even wanted to date, but even so, I'm shocked at how few date-able people there are my age.
What sucks is that most of the date-able guys in my town are in their twenties. I've never thought of myself as a cougar and I'm really self conscious about hanging out with even late 20 somethings as friends. But the sad thing is, I have little in common with people my age.
I exercise regularly, keep myself trim, and I like playing video games and taking classes at the university. I probably look slightly younger than my age, and I've been told that I'm attractive, but I don't think I'm one of those women who have "hardly aged".
So, here's the problem. I've met a great guy and we really hit it off. We have lots in common and time just flies when we hang out together. I already know that for him the age gap is too large, so we're going to only be friends. I just want to get a general idea though...in general, how big an age gap would 28-32 year olds on reddit be willing to consider?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Age gap. How much is too much even if you have loads in common and have a blast being with each other? | Age gap. How much is too much even if you have loads in common and have a blast being with each other? | 1,814 |
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