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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I recently learned I have three half-sisters from one of my fathers previous marriages 30 years ago. How do I go about finding information about them?
POST: Back story:
About a month ago I was over at my parents house and somehow the subject came up about my fathers previous marriages and his first date with my mother and he starts going on about how my mom loved the way he talked about his three little daughters but before I could ask anything my mother hushed him up so he wouldn't say anything more about the subject. I am 22 years old, so this would have happened about 8-10 years before I was born.
Needless to say I am more then a little curious and a little floored that I have three "long-lost" sisters. Judging by my fathers term "little" I assume they were born in the late 70's and extreme early 80's.
How do I go about finding more information about them? I would talk to my father about it but he isn't exactly one to talk about stuff in his past, the only reason he spilled the beans in the first place was because he was drunk, and I don't want him going ape shit over me asking what is a pretty decent question to ask. I am not trying to cause any trouble in my family or the family's of my three half-sisters, I am just curious about them.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have three half-sisters from my one of my fathers previous marriages, how do I go about finding information on them? | I have three half-sisters from my one of my fathers previous marriages, how do I go about finding information on them? | 4,886 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: Concave lower ribs on left side causing perpetual pain
POST: Me: 28, M, 6'6", 185,
lifetime complaint has had more severe acute symptomology.
Location: concave lower left ribs.
Possible relavent medical issues: rib cage tenderness, chronic R neck and shoulder pain, L tibia break, L radius fracture (both basketball, separate incidents), pain and discomfort breathing, anger and disassociation with the feeling of being in my body.
To clarify, the 4-5 lowest ribs on my left side are deformed in a concave shape on the lateral side. Instead of a normal C curve of the ribs, there is additional C curve (more of a V) pointing back inside my body, creating a pocket in my ribs.
This is something I've always been self conscious of, and the area is tender to the touch. However, I believe that this has created an imbalance in structural weakness on the left side. My breathing and posture is affected in a pathological and unending manner, do a degree that I wasn't aware of til recently.
I have been meditating and realized that my left ribs are also causing cascading pain patterns around the spine on the right side, primarily from T 8 to C 0, at a pain level of 2-5 at all times.
I am wondering if I am a candidate for surgery, or if there is anything that I can do to structurally support that area so that the left side of my body can become strong again. I am in a lot of pain and feel fragile and uncomfortable in my body. I also have depression which may partly come from learned disassociation from my body.
I am going to a Osteopath next Wednesday, and any ideas that anyone has would be appreciated. I'd also like to ask them some of the right questions and make sure I'm providing any information I can go help them. Thank you!
It is difficult to see what is going on in a picture, but if it is difficult to visualize I can provide a visual aid.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ribs stick inward on left side, feel out of balance, weak, in pain. Going to Osteopath next week but need guidance. | Ribs stick inward on left side, feel out of balance, weak, in pain. Going to Osteopath next week but need guidance. | 851 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [21M] progress my relationship with my current interest [19F]?
POST: It should probably be noted that I havent had a relationship in nearly 4 years. Due to the fact that I'm a college student I haven't had all that much time to dedicate to anyone (maybe that's just an excuse, but regardless)
Anyway, I recently met this girl that I immediately clicked with. My recent trend throughout the college years has been mostly casual hookups and very very light dating, but with her things have been different. We've been out in public together, we've held hands and kissed in public, she's spent the night multiple times where we have just fallen asleep, spooning one another, and even dates have happened - god I haven't taken a girl on an actual date in years so this feels huge.
I find myself constantly wanting to talk to her and hang out with her, and it feels so weird because I'm not usually like this to that extent.
It's still pretty recent, all of this, so I know I can't really say with full confidence that it means anything, and maybe it's just a lack of confidence in the situation, but I wonder if this is as real as I think it is.
Is she into me the same way I'm into her?
How do I progress what we are doing into something more serious?
When is the right time to?
I'm actually quite interested in committing to something for once, and I want it to work out.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I met a girl who makes me want to commit to something more serious, but because of my habits in college I don't know how to progress. | I met a girl who makes me want to commit to something more serious, but because of my habits in college I don't know how to progress. | 902 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 3 months, says she won't tell me what she wants so I don't do it out of obligation.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months, but we started dating three years ago and broke up for about 9 months. The other day, she told me she felt like I wasn't prioritizing her. This makes sense, since I have finals going on and we're both in college and busy. So I asked her what I could do to prioritize her more: call her more? Skype more often? Compliment her more? Her response was, essentially, "I'm not going to tell you what I want, since then you'd do it because I asked you too and not because you want to. You should *want* to call me, not call me since I want you to."
I really enjoy this girl. This seems so out of character for her, and kind of caught me off guard. She's usually very reasonable about trying to solve problems. We've definitely held the mindset of "us vs. the problem, not her vs. me" in the past, but it's kind of hard to separate the problem from the person at this point.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | If she tells me what she wants, she thinks I'm doing it out of obligation, not because I like her. | If she tells me what she wants, she thinks I'm doing it out of obligation, not because I like her. | 1,277 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: SO proposed, I said yes. But I've been hiding my past from him - how do I come clean?
POST: I'm 27(f) and he is 25(m). We've been together for 3 years and everything is going great. He is a lovely guy and my heart still flutters when I see him, as corny as that may sound <3.
Last night he proposed to me. I was happier than I've ever been in my life until the realization set in; I have to tell him about my past.
I've done some things that I am not proud of and I've lied about them. I was a total whore; from age 16 to 21 I would sleep with any asshole that hit on me. I was a stripper from age 18 to 21 as well and had an off-and-on-again drug and alcohol habit during that time. At some points I took enough to kill a small army... I'm not sure how it's going to effect my future health, but nothing major so far.
How do I tell him? I've wanted to, but it's all so confusing. That's not something to admit until I'm in a serious relationship, but by that point I felt like I was already hiding it, so I continued to hide it. I've lied to him about my number of sexual partners, work history, why I dropped out of highschool, etc. I'm not the same person any more and I don't want him to think of me as just some slut or drug addict (I haven't taken anything or even drank alcohol since I was 21).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a really bad past and I've been lying to my SO about it. How do I tell him without scaring him away or making him think I'm a slut? | I have a really bad past and I've been lying to my SO about it. How do I tell him without scaring him away or making him think I'm a slut? | 6,392 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Having trouble with dad letting one year old sleep all evening.
POST: I work part times on evenings and weekends. While I am at work my fiance let's our daughter sleep all evening so he can also sleep. I have two problems with this:
The first is that when I get home she wants to stay up all night. I go from working to taking care of her all hours of the night while he goes to bed.
The second is that I worry that she may not actually be sleeping the whole time he is. I'm worried that he sleeps while she is awake in her crib for who knows how long. The reason this crossed my mind is because she doesn't sleep much when I am home with her in the evenings. Last night she was up very late and I decided to put her in her crib when midnight came around and let her cry it out a little. Her dad was sleeping five feet away from her and he didn't even budge or show signs of waking up while she was crying and screaming. It really scared me and now I'm afraid that may happen often when I'm at work.
Any advice for either situation?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my fiance let's my daughter sleep all evening while I'm at work and leaves me to be up all night with her while he goes to bed. | my fiance let's my daughter sleep all evening while I'm at work and leaves me to be up all night with her while he goes to bed. | 3,475 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [17F] in love with my best friend [18F] but we're going to be roommates in college and I don't want to ruin everything
POST: I'm Russian but grew up in America; when I was 13 my mom lost her green card and we moved back to Russia, where I started high school and met my best friend (we'll call her Katya). We connected instantly, being the only non-white students in our class (I'm half-black, she's from the Caucasus) and it turned out we have almost everything in common--we listen to the same music, watch all the same shows, and complement each other socially. We've been inseparable practically since the first day of school and I spend most of my free time at her apartment.
Right now we're in our senior year. I have dual citizenship and intend to go to college in Chicago, my home city. Yesterday Katya told me she's applied for a scholarship to the same college I'm going to (she studies English), she's applying for a student visa, etc. She says she wants to be roommates and that she couldn't stand being away from me for four years, especially separated by an ocean and most of a continent, that she'd miss me too much. Then she tucked my hair behind my ear and leaned in like she was going to kiss me but at the last second pulled away and changed the subject very abruptly.
Katya is gorgeous and extroverted and puts effort into her appearance; she has no shortage of admirers. While she flirts with them and sometimes goes on dates, she's never had a serious relationship and has never gone further than kissing with a boy. I suspect that she might have feelings for me too, but we can't act on them while we're still in provincial Russia. But if we end up being roommates and she doesn't reciprocate, and I tell her, we'll have to live together in that awkward situation all year, and I don't want to ruin our friendship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm in love with my best friend but we live in provincial Russia. We're going to college together in America next year as roommates. Should I tell her how I feel? | I'm in love with my best friend but we live in provincial Russia. We're going to college together in America next year as roommates. Should I tell her how I feel? | 5,734 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: I received a goldfish that I do not want, what should I do with it?
POST: So this morning I woke up, and there was a note that said "There is a birthday present outside, here is a bucket for it." So I went outside and found that there was a goldfish in a bag filled with water. So I put the bag in the water to get the two waters the same temperature. I then asked my friend who gave it to me the story about it, and long story short, they won a fish at the county fair and gave it to me for my birthday. But since I don't want it, I don't know what to do with it. Any help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friends gave me a fish from the county fair for my birthday, and I don't want it. What do I do? | Friends gave me a fish from the county fair for my birthday, and I don't want it. What do I do? | 3,450 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My wife [F/25] has been talking to an ex behind my [M/25] and it's gotten serious, but she has no clue I know.
POST: My wife and I have been going through a stressful time in life. Almost all of the stress has been caused apart from the relationship, however, we are beginning to grow apart due to the way we have handled the stress. Long story short, she has started to talk to her ex who she dated over 5 years ago and lives across the country from us. They have mentioned how they want to run away together jokingly(He is married as well). My wife and I have been very close up until the last 3 months when our living situation changed. I feel like much of her talking to him has to deal with her venting to him and finding someone to talk to. She has no clue I have seen all of her texts. We are working on correcting our relationship issues and moving on, so far it has gone well. But this is a major setback and a huge surprise to me. How do I approach her about it to find out her true intentions without running the risk of it blowing out of proportion if it actually is what I, and my friends, suspect it to be.. a crutch?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I approach my wife on who she has been talking to without the truth being distorted due to me hiding my knowledge? | How do I approach my wife on who she has been talking to without the truth being distorted due to me hiding my knowledge? | 2,627 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [19/F] My ex's (19/M) girlfriend (18/F) has hit on me several times without him knowing
POST: Hi, Reddit. I'm in a very unusual situation. I'll call my ex Joe for this story. I met my Joe (19) when we were both 17. I instantly fell in love and we were dating for an entire year when he left me for someone else. I was shattered. 3-4 months later they broke up, as she had cheated on him several times, with both guys and girls. Joe and I remained friends during this time and after two months we got back together. I know it was a stupid decision.
Well, we dated for 2-3 months more and this girl decides to come back to him and he leaves me again (I know I shouldn't have been surprised). At this point, I decide to cut all contact with him. I go by his place when he's not there to collect part of my things and she's there. At first she just started making small talk, then she kissed me out of no where. I told her I was heterosexual and she told me she had huge crush on me, but knew Joe would be angry and asked me not tell him. Two weeks and several drunk texts later, she's hit on my numerous times and made her intentions with me very clear. I still needed to get the rest of my things though, so I went to his place and she was there. She was sober, so I didn't think I needed to worry about her coming on to me, but she kissed me AGAIN.
I know this is a dream for a lot of guys, but Joe would definitely be very upset if he knew about this and I'm not sure if I should tell him or not.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex's gf has kissed me twice and hit on me several times and wants to get with me. My ex would be very upset at this taking place. | Ex's gf has kissed me twice and hit on me several times and wants to get with me. My ex would be very upset at this taking place. | 3,700 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18M] want to try and talk to a close friend of mine [18F] and create a romantic relationship. BUT, she's busy with school things and every time we hang out, there ends up being extra people.
POST: Hi /r/relationships! There's not a lot to the situation other than the title. I've been really good friends with this girl for years, and she's been there with me for a lot of tough struggles. I really like her a lot, and although she's kind of out of my league, she obviously likes me enough to be her friend. She's recently single, and I want to try and see how things would go in a romantic relationship. I don't know if I'm really ready for that, but I'm pretty sure it's what I want.
The biggest issue I have is time. She got onto the drumline for our university this year, and while I'm so happy for her, it's also a bummer, because she has a crazy schedule, and I haven't had nearly as much communication with her as I'm used too. Every time I want to hang out, she wants to bring someone from band. It's come up in casual conversation (with others there) that she's still single and doesn't want to date guys on the line, but I'm just worried that someone better than me is going to come along before I get a chance to talk to her. I don't really think I want to try and have this sort of conversation drunk.
I don't know what to do or what to say. I've never really been good with girls, and I have pitiful relationship experience. I just want this to work so badly.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a huge crush on my friend and want to ask her out, but she's a busy music major; I feel like I'm going to miss my chance or something, and I don't know what to do. | I have a huge crush on my friend and want to ask her out, but she's a busy music major; I feel like I'm going to miss my chance or something, and I don't know what to do. | 5,702 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with my BFF [21 F] who was broken up with a few months ago but can't seem to get over her douchey ex.
POST: I love my bff and she is an awesome person. I'm usually really good with advice and helping friends out, but I'm at the end of my wits with her and I don't know how I can help her out.
Her boyfriend broke up with her around mid-May of this year. They had dated for almost a year and he was her first true love. At first I didn't mind him, but the longer she dated him I realized that he was completely selfish and saw my friend as someone who will do anything for him. He mooched off of her completely and rarely displayed interest in anything that she cared about unless he thought it would get him laid. He ended up getting a full time job and still she paid all of the bills and even put gas into his car. It was an awful situation and she could not see how selfish he was because she was so blinded by the love she felt for him.
Well, now, they are "broken up" but she can't seem to get over him. They still hang out (sometimes just for sex -- she's convinced that he will date her again) and do things that will make him happy. She's bought him massages and is driving an hour away to take him to a video game competition that she found and encouraged him to enter in. It's extremely unhealthy and she admits knowing that he is being selfish and that she hates that he doesn't pay attention to her. However, she keeps going back to him time and time again.
As a best friend, it's really hard for me to sit back and watch her struggle with this and not know what to do to help her. I've tried to point out where he is being selfish, encourage her to cut communications for a trial period to see how she feels after not talking to him for a while, attend therapy to address some obvious self esteem issues, and even tried to take her out to meet other guys so that she could see that other guys will want her and treat her well. However, nothing seems to help. What can I do to help her?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My bff can't get over her douchebag of an ex boyfriend and is still allowing him to mooch off of her with false hopes that he might date her again some day. | My bff can't get over her douchebag of an ex boyfriend and is still allowing him to mooch off of her with false hopes that he might date her again some day. | 3,278 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: My friend was brainwashed by her super religious grandfather, Help me please!?
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years, well recently she vanished, her grandfather literally kidnapped her. He went to her house and grabbed her and all of her siblings. a month and some weeks have passed and now she is back with her parents riding home from houston. I am in SA TX. she will be here in 3 hours or so. She is saying that she wants to go back and live with her grandfather who I know and her mother and her father all know is abusive and controlling. How can I convince her that the man she has been living with for the past month or so is lying to her face? She seemed off when I talked to her on the phone a while ago. She hasn't told her parents she plans on running away so he can come pick her up and she can live with him. Just in case you guys are wondering I am 17, and she is 16.
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | ) My girlfriend got kidnapped by her abusive controlling grandfather and now wants to move back, how can I convince her she is making a major bad move? | ) My girlfriend got kidnapped by her abusive controlling grandfather and now wants to move back, how can I convince her she is making a major bad move? | 3,427 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 F] with my research partner [30s M] 8 months, burned out because I have a "teacher/student" relationship with my research partner instead of a partnership
POST: Xpost from /r/GradSchool
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My research partner requires a ridiculous amount of handholding to complete his work at the detriment of my work. I'm afraid of being labeled as a complainer or difficult if I bring it up. What do? | My research partner requires a ridiculous amount of handholding to complete his work at the detriment of my work. I'm afraid of being labeled as a complainer or difficult if I bring it up. What do? | 4,909 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Suffered an unexpected set back today
POST: Hey r/loseit!
So I recently (re)started counting calories with MFP two weeks ago. I've lost 20 pounds just by counting calories with MFP in he past, but after some skepticism from my boyfriend, I decided to add working out to my weight loss plan.
I signed up for Daily Burn (I stream I through Xbox on my boyfriend's and my tv) one week ago, and so far, I love it! I'm doing a cardio sculpting program that focuses on toning and weight loss. The workouts are daily for about 30-45 minutes, which has been perfect for a beginner like me who was always really turned off by the thought of spending hours at the gym.
As someone who has never consistently worked out before, I don't own any weights or other basic workout equipment. I decided to splurge and bought some light weights, a medicine ball, and a yoga mat, but for the meantime I've been using household objects as substitutes when the workouts call for them.
Today I was doing one of the workouts that uses weights and I was using two cans of crushed tomatoes as substitutes. I was about halfway through the workout doing a lunge/bicep curl when one of the cans slipped out of my sweaty hand and flew right into our tv and cracked the screen :(
I kind of broke down for a little while crying; I felt stupid for not turning away from the tv during that exercise, I knew my boyfriend would be mad, etc. I was just going to give up for today, but after cooling down for a while, I decided I wasn't going to let this set me back and I finished the workout on our bedroom tv and I'll buy a new one for the living room after I get my taxes back.
Sorry for the wall of text, just wanted to let you guys know you are all an inspiration to me and maybe sharing my frustrations will help someone else who is frustrated by a stupid setback to move past it!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke my tv with a "weight" during a workout and got super frustrated, almost gave up, but decided to keep going! | Broke my tv with a "weight" during a workout and got super frustrated, almost gave up, but decided to keep going! | 6,306 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with my [16 F] dont have anything in common and nothing to talk about
POST: Well alright so i have math with a girl and she and i started talking alot! She has a locker right next to me so i see her everyday. I asked her out to a movie and a dinner. It went great! I asked her out the next week, She said Yes!
Well now that we are talking alot the conversations are not going so well. Theres no flow and really kind of dont know alot about each other. We talked about this today. She and I both agree that it was a little quick and that we should be really close friends and learn more about each other before we move on. Im taking her out on a picnic on wednesday, for some one on one time. Because everytime we went out some where there was always other people there along with us.
Im very open to her and like her for who she is, but she says it was a little to fast and wants to know be better. I dont want to get into the friend zone and i really like her. I already kissed her. In the movies we were cuddling with each other.
Im kind of confused on what to do right now on what to do. Do i just become a friend to her, how do i make her feel comfortable around me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She says we went to fast and wants to get to know me better. Possible friend zone? how do i prevent it | She says we went to fast and wants to get to know me better. Possible friend zone? how do i prevent it | 1,894 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: How do I tell my dad I never want to move back in with him.
POST: before I get started I want it to be known that I love my dad and don't have too many problems with him.
However over the course of the last 4 years he's constantly been asking me to move back in with him. He keeps telling me about plans to get a place so that we can all live together again.
I keep telling him that I do not want to move back in with my parents. That I have no desire to do so. That I'm comfortable living by myself and that I would be more comfortable visiting him on a regular basis.
No matter how many times I tell him this he still brings up the topic as though we never had the discussion before and ignores my past statements.
This most recent event with the death of his mother has sent him into further assumption that I want to move back in. I still have no desire.
I personally believe that all of this talk is tied to his depression. I've tried to get him to go talk to a therapist but he says he is getting help and that not to worry. Every time I see him it's different drama going on around him and I don't think that the help he is getting is professional as its from a friend of his at church.
Anyway
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My dad is depressed and constantly asks me to move in with him or assumes I want to move in with him despite me telling him no and expressing no desire to do so. what to do? | My dad is depressed and constantly asks me to move in with him or assumes I want to move in with him despite me telling him no and expressing no desire to do so. what to do? | 1,663 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Starting over again and seeking guidance
POST: Hello!
So, here's the deal -- I've already lost quite a bit of weight. I'm 25, female, and 5'6". In August of 2008, I had just quit grad school, hated my life, and was really exceptionally depressed. I was renting a tiny bedroom in a house in the middle of nowhere, and I had no job. [I weighed 245 pounds] I got a job waiting tables, and my weight slowly began to drop. Starting in November of 2009, I liked what had been happening and decided to actively try losing weight. By September 2010, [I was down to about 190] had a great job, great friends, and was really, really stoked.
Here's where things get tricky. Around this time, I started dating a super-excellent guy. Our social circles have meshed effortlessly, and we spend a lot of time together. He's a really picky eater, though, and doesn't like most of the stuff that I do (which is, coincidentally, the food that's helped me lose weight), so we end up eating out a lot. Not only has my wallet taken a solid hit, I've gained about 15 pounds since we started dating. Not enough to really *see*, but I'm definitely more sluggish, and it bothers me a lot. On top of all this, I've become much more busy, now that I have a "real" job and I have an active group of friends.
What do I do, folks? I really don't know where to go from here. I honestly don't know what a good goal weight for me is, and while I can work more activity into my life pretty easily, I don't know how to deal with the "I'm always out, what on earth do I eat?" problem.
I'm sorry if this was weirdly-phrased and rambly -- I'll clarify if y'all have questions, but I really would love some help on how to get myself together again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Lost ~55 pounds, have gained about 15 back, need help on getting myself back on track. Can I do that if I'm stuck eating out a lot? | Lost ~55 pounds, have gained about 15 back, need help on getting myself back on track. Can I do that if I'm stuck eating out a lot? | 3,654 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23 F] need help with my depressed friend [22 F]
POST: I met this girl, let's call her Michelle, abut three years ago. At first everything seemed nomal, and then about a year ago Michelle reveals to me that she suffers from depression. I tell her that I will try to support her, which I sincerely meant, and she was very grateful for this.
But, over the past year, I'm feeling very overwhelmed. It seems like all our conversations seem to revolve around her depression and her symptoms, and it's starting to take a toll on me. We go in circles a lot. She tells me about a problem, I give my two cents, and then we have the exact same conversation just a week later. Ive also been really worried about her, afraid that she'll hurt herself. And I feel like, if she does, I'm partially responsible because I'm here to help her. All these conversations and worrying has made my have a few anxiety attacks, I velieve, and my heart has had spells where it acts funny for a few days. It hasn't happened lately, but it could happen again at any time.
And while I do enjoy her company as a friend, it seems like so much of our time is spent talking about her issues that it seems like I'm a counselor and not a friend. She'll change the subject from a normal conversation to a discussion of her problems, and a lot of the time what she talks about is stuff that we've already talked about a million times, and it's driving me crazy. She's seeing a counselor, and I think it's helping, but I can never be sure. She's also on antidepressants.
I'm just at my limit, and I feel trapped. If I say that I don't want to talk about her problems, then I'm afraid she'll hurt herself because she's not venting enough and not having enough help and support. And I'm afraid that she may hurt herself if our friendship ever dissolves (we're really close). What do you guys make of this situation, and do you have any advice you could give me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm feeling trapped in a friendship with a depressed friend. What can I do to make the friendship easier on me? | I'm feeling trapped in a friendship with a depressed friend. What can I do to make the friendship easier on me? | 5,649 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: LDR and the future
POST: I'm in a bit of dilemma and need some objective advice. To start, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year; I'm 21 and he's 22. We're both finishing up our degrees this year - he has already been hired for 2 years with a great company, in a city 3 hours away. I unfortunately, am floundering with my future; I have the option to do a masters, take a different 2 to 4 year degree or start looking for jobs with my bachelors.
On the whole, we're happy and I care about him a lot, but my lack of a solid 'plan' for the next two years is starting to make me doubt whether the relationship can work long term (and long distance, although my family lives in the same city as he is working). I've talked to him about my hesitations and he sort of shuts down. I know he wants to try long distance but when I ask him what will happen if after 2 years, we're still together, he says he hasn't even thought about it.
I am having trouble determining what I should be considering and what I should leave to 'fate' '(so to speak), when deciding if I want to make the effort to stay together. How do I not obsess about the details? What are the important questions I need to ask myself and I how do I approach him without threatening him with 'too much, too soon'?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend and me are graduating. He has a job a city away. I don't know what to do with my life. Do we try to make it work? | Boyfriend and me are graduating. He has a job a city away. I don't know what to do with my life. Do we try to make it work? | 6,532 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Signing a lease/agreements
POST: Very watered down synopisis:
Me and a group of 7 (8 total) want to live in a house together. 3 of them signed on a lease but the other 5 didnt because the lease was shitty and we had it revised by a lawyer and the lawyer said dont sign it. The three that signed it put money down...100, 200, 880 respectively. The lawyer went and made some (very few) changes but its still very problematic. But lets say we end up not wanting to live in this house, is there a way to argue for the money back since the lease has changed and could technically say "I dont agree with the lease anymore" or no?
Location: New York
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friends put money down on a house that we potentially may no longer want. The lease they signed on is now different than the "official lease" Is there a way to get the money back for them? | Friends put money down on a house that we potentially may no longer want. The lease they signed on is now different than the "official lease" Is there a way to get the money back for them? | 5,376 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf doesn't show affection anymore... Help!
POST: Im a male. We are both 20 years old. I been dating my gf for almost 4 months now but she stop being affectionate after 2 months. I don't understand why ? It makes me feel not wanted. She says she loves me and she feels no need to tell me she loves me. She doesn't hug me, kiss me, or say she loves me like before no more. I told her it bothers me but she just says Im being dramatic. I seriously don't think Im being dramatic. If she really loves me why cant she just simply show it. Im always sweet and nice to her no matter what.
I need help. What can I do ? What should I do ? For more info ask me questions.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ! My gf doesn't show affection anymore. That doesn't help me coupe with the fact that she says she actually loves me. So what are possible things I should keep in mind | ! My gf doesn't show affection anymore. That doesn't help me coupe with the fact that she says she actually loves me. So what are possible things I should keep in mind | 1,317 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18M] just kicked a girl [20F] I was hanging out with out of my house because she wouldn't get off her phone. Have you ever had this problem and how have you dealt with it?
POST: This girl I've been seeing for a few weeks asked if she could come over to my house to hang out this evening and I accepted, but she ended up texting and Snapchatting her friends the whole time instead of conversing with and barely even acknowledging me.
Needless to say, after a couple of hours I told her I had to go to university to do some work (on a Saturday night at 10pm). Either she was very gullible or got the hint that I'd had enough so we both left my house and she went left to her bus stop and I headed right to mine. As soon as she was out of sight I went straight back home.
This isn't the first time I've had this problem and this time I didn't feel like sticking it out until the morning.
I have no regrets because I found it undeniably rude and asked her many times about it and told her I wanted to talk to her instead of her just ignoring me.
I'm just curious if this is a common problem and how other redditors have dealt with such situations!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl asks me if she can come over. Won't stop texting/Snapchatting the whole time. I pretend to have to go to university, effectively getting her to leave. | Girl asks me if she can come over. Won't stop texting/Snapchatting the whole time. I pretend to have to go to university, effectively getting her to leave. | 5,531 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: A query about Ulysses
POST: I've finally gotten onto Ulysses after reading and loving Dubliners and Portrait, and I am definitely going to finish it, so that's not the issue for me.
*However,* I'm not quite sure how best to do this. I'm up to page 100 now, and I've been reading along with The New Bloomsday Book, alternating between reading a paragraph of the guide, then the corresponding paragraph of the actual novel.
The pros of this method: the guide is really making me appreciate the book more than I know I would without it; some of the commentary on the 'mn' and the gypsies and what have you makes me realise just how astonishingly written Ulysses really is, and I'm not sure that I'd be enjoying it anywhere near as much without the guide.
The con of this method: it's taking *forever.* I'm essentially reading a 250 page book and a 700 page book in tandem, which makes both take longer than they would otherwise. I really want to finish this book before the end of summer so I can cram in either the Brothers Karamazov or Infinite Jest before school starts again, but at this rate I don't think I'll be able to.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | question: if the guide I'm reading Ulysses with really is making it a better experience for me, is it worth it taking about three times as long? | question: if the guide I'm reading Ulysses with really is making it a better experience for me, is it worth it taking about three times as long? | 180 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Does the US gov't have the right to force tobacco companies to put warning pictures on their boxes?
POST: I was reading [this article] about how the US government is trying to make tobacco companies put "grotesque" warning pictures on their cigarette boxes.
The tobacco companies are saying that it's a violation of their first amendment rights to make them do that.
Aren't there already other countries that do this? It's been awhile since i've seen a pack of smokes outside of the US.
I also feel like that the majority of people know that smoking is bad for them and they still do it anyway. So are the pictures really going to change much in that regard. It's different from not being able to advertise, which is to get people to start smoking.
and if people are worried about the nasty looking pictures maybe I'm just desensitized to those things but they don't bother me.
the article also states that if smoking was discovered/invented today and the government knew about the health risks it would get pulled from the store shelves in a heartbeat. i suppose you can compare banning smoking to prohibition, and i know drinking isn't good for you specially in excess but smoking is far worse.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | US is trying to put nasty pictures on cigarette boxes to get people to stop smoking. tobacco companies say its a violation of 1st amendment rights to do so. | US is trying to put nasty pictures on cigarette boxes to get people to stop smoking. tobacco companies say its a violation of 1st amendment rights to do so. | 2,428 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend (F 21), of 2 months, is distant, but says she wants to be with me (M 29). What do I do?
POST: So to cut to the chase, when we are apart, I barely ever hear from her and her text messages are very distant and impressionable. When we are together it's passionate and amazing. She says she has commitment issues and its hard for her to flirt or show her feelings. As we spend more time apart than together, this has become a problem for me. I know she wants to be with me, but as soon as I'm out of sight it feels like I no longer exist. She's constantly telling me (in person) that she's so thankful to have me in her life and appreciates me being patient. But most of the time I feel as though I'm dating a brick wall. Every compliment is met with a standard "Thank you" and ever suggestion of a date is met with "maybe". I've called her out on this several times and she tells me she is truly working on it. I just don't know what to do to help her, or how for me not to feel like I'm dating a brick wall.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Distant Girlfriend actually wants to be with me, I'm just not sure how to date someone who is extremely independent. Any advice? | Distant Girlfriend actually wants to be with me, I'm just not sure how to date someone who is extremely independent. Any advice? | 6,417 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22m] brother in law [30m]hit my sister
POST: Hopefully I can depict this well enough.
Background, they've been married for 3 years, in laws dad lives with them because he got into an accident ..in law always seemed like a good guy.
Okay, so 2 months back, my pregnant sister called our house the day before her birthday, telling us to come pick her up.
We went and first thing I see is everything is messed up...she's crying, he's laying on the bed. We ask him whats wrong, and he says he doesn't want to talk about it.
We leave with my sister and she tells us she was pissed off at taking care of his dad 24\7, and an argument took off from that, nothing happened for a while but they were laying on the bed when my sister was looking at pics of our grandma that past away recently...she was crying and he thought she was crying because of the fight and hit her to prevent "harm" to the baby..and apparently this is the second time it's happened.
We came home noticed her nose was bleeding, she was so determined to get a divorce, but she changed her mind a couple of days after he sent a letter "apologizing".
I feel guilty because maybe I shouldve hit him for touching my sister, but I have a habit of ruining relationships so I didn't do anything.
Now my parents are back and idk how but they talked thru it and now want us siblings to forget about it and act as if everything is normal.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my in law hit my pregnant sister the day before her birthday and now my parents want us to act as if everything is okay. | my in law hit my pregnant sister the day before her birthday and now my parents want us to act as if everything is okay. | 1,233 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20/M][19/F] 1.5 Months, Advice/ideas for long distance relationship while I study abroad?
POST: I'm a 20 year old dude who recently entered a relationship with a 19 year old lady. Unfortunately due to the timing, I am going to be leaving to study abroad for 10 months in Sweden after just a month and a half of being together.
Although the relationship is very new, things got serious pretty quickly. We're both really attached. We've each been in long-term relationships before (1 year her, 3 years me) She has been in a long distance relationship before and I've dealt with having a s/o away for a few months before so we somewhat know what to expect.
My main question is if anyone has any ideas of things we can do as a couple during the period of distance. For example two things we plan on doing are picking a TV series/anime and watching it together over Skype, or playing Magic: The Gathering over Skype. Does anyone else who's dealt with a permanent or temporary long distance relationship have any ideas of stuff they did or any other general advice?
As a side note one area I want to pay special attention to is reassurance of the relationship to prevent any insecurities from getting out of hand.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New relationship, going to be across the globe for 10 months. Ideas for ways to keep relationship going strong/fun things to do for long distance relationships? | New relationship, going to be across the globe for 10 months. Ideas for ways to keep relationship going strong/fun things to do for long distance relationships? | 1,687 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] broke up with my bf [23M] of 3 years who cheated on me with a mutual friend [20F]. How do I get over it?
POST: So yesterday I finally got the courage to break up with my boyfriend of 3 years. I found out on Thursday that he cheated on me, after I dragged it out of him over the phone. He was planning on telling me in person the next day when he was planning on visiting (we were long distance).
He cheated on me with a mutual friend, and I cannot stop thinking about it. All day my thoughts are consumed with sadness, anger, and occasionally dumb revenge plots. The worst part is that he has feelings for this girl, and I know that some day I'll have to confront the possibility of them being together. I was about to move in with this guy, and I had so much planned with him. I just don't understand why he chose to do this to me. We share many friends, all of whom think he's total scum for what he did. Still waiting for the girl he cheated with to apologize, though I'm not holding my breath.
I love(d) him so much, and I hate him for how he ended things. I feel like he ruined all of our beautiful plans, and I thought he was so so much better than this. We had a pretty wonderful relationship until this happened, and we were going to close the distance so soon. How do I stop dwelling on this and move forward with my life? I'm usually such a happy person, but this has truly destroyed my trust for people. I'll also undoubtedly see him in the future, and I have no idea how to act.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend cheated on me with a mutual friend and I broke up with him. How do I move forward, especially with the fact that he's probably going to end up with the other girl? | Boyfriend cheated on me with a mutual friend and I broke up with him. How do I move forward, especially with the fact that he's probably going to end up with the other girl? | 3,056 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: M[20] confused by F[20] sending mixed messages regarding meeting up
POST: So a couple weeks ago I got with a girl I knew from high school at a club. In the morning she gave me her number and we've been texting a fair amount since then.
Last week I asked her out for drinks and she said she may be busy but might be able to do Friday. She bailed on going out on the Friday as she'd been out the night before but said she'd definitely see me this week.
So I asked her tuesday if she wanted to do something Wednesday and she again said maybe as she thought she already had plans with her friend. She then text me late yesterday afternoon to say she's busy.
So I went out with my best friend who works with her and he got the impression that she doesn't want to go out with me. She said she's going away to study abroad for a year in a few weeks and thinks I've forgotten and doesn't really want to get into a relationship. She had mentioned both of these things the night I got with her but she'd also said she didn't like one night stands so I have no idea what I was.
Honestly I just can't quite understand why you'd say your up for going out with someone then do everything you can to avoid it. I'd begun to think she didn't want to as she wouldn't give me an idea when she could go out when I tried to ask her.
Just looking for some advice on what to do next. I feel like she is attracted to me but doesn't want to get to deep into things. Should I just ask her if she doesn't actually want to see me or just stop trying to set stuff up with her and move on?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Asked a girl out I've been texting for a while. Says she up for seeing me but her actions imply she doesn't actually want to. | Asked a girl out I've been texting for a while. Says she up for seeing me but her actions imply she doesn't actually want to. | 1,314 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it okay to tell my lover that it bothers me when I don't hear from him for over 24 hours?
POST: Me: Female 31
Partner: Male 26
Relationship Length: 1 year 6 months
I ask, because it makes me feel needy and shitty that it bothers me so much. Normally he is very attentive, loving in his words, texts me several times a day if not more, but then suddenly out of nowhere he'll take forever to text me back, his replies very short and unloving even if I am trying to show HIM love, and if I don't say anything, I won't hear from him for a day or two - sometimes more - and then all of the sudden he'll be attentive again. I HATE THIS. Mostly I hate that it even matters to me! Should it matter to me?
I want to be that cool girlfriend who doesn't give a shit, especially since I do have my own life, own hobbies, tons of friends and I could care less with anyone else, yet here I am, sweating it like a fucking lovesick 12 year old girl. I hate that anyone has this sort of power over my heart.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My lover has weird texting habits and I want to know if it should bother me as much as it does and how I can handle it. | My lover has weird texting habits and I want to know if it should bother me as much as it does and how I can handle it. | 4,157 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I need some advice. I am in a tight spot.....
POST: So my issue is pretty complicated, and I need some advice. We made some crazy financial decisions when I still had a great job, but due to the economy I am now working at a call center for much less. My GF and I currently live in a small town in WV were we both work for $10 an hour (each). I have an opportunity to take a job in NYC for $60K in my field. We have very little money, we are behind on our bills, and I am not sure if we can even get even or out of the hole at our current pay. When I had my previous job these bills were easily paid, but now...... A breakdown:
We pay: 500 for rent 433 for Car #1 (11K left on loan) 328 for Car #2 (2.5K left on loan) 323 for insurance (Just turned 25) 200 for AT&T (iPhones) 250 for Electricity, Water, Heat 225 Student Loans 100 Internet Cable 19 Home Phone
Total Bills: $2378 (avg)
Our credit is screwed, we have moved 4 times in 1 year (not our fault, rentals being sold), and we have maybe $300 to our name.
So here is the question. Do we move to NYC for the new job? I can crash at a friends place for a month or two up there to save up the first few paychecks. Maybe find a place in Brooklyn for like $1,500, cut the iPhones off, cut the cable, get rid of the $433 a month car, pay off the $328 car and go to liability only. Or, do we stay here and just try to make it work, try and spend a year out of the field, and somehow catch up. I am so lost. Help!!!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We have a shit load of debt, stay in small town with no prospects or move to big city for better job? | We have a shit load of debt, stay in small town with no prospects or move to big city for better job? | 1,495 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Investing student funds?
POST: Hello r/personal finance,
I am a univesirty student in Canada, and i have recently been graced with money from my family to pursue my studies. If i consider my current budget to be stable, i have an extra 3000$ i would like to invest. Thing is, the other "lump sum" i need to cover my school and living expenses in a regular savings account at next to no return.
This said, my plan was to put that "lump sum" in a CELI account to at least get inflation roughly covered (the rates are around 1.5%).
With that extra 3k i really am kinda stumped. I have some energy stocks with are (obviously) really tanking these days, bonds are out of the question at the rates they're at (far worse than CELI), and CDN is worth around 68cents which pretty much rules out ETFs out of Canada. I was thinking maybe canadian equity would be better though?
What do you think of this plan of action? Thought/comments/criticism very welcome!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have 20k as a student and only need 17 for education, is 17k in a CELI and 3k in canadian equity a good plan with markets being what they are? (in canada) | I have 20k as a student and only need 17 for education, is 17k in a CELI and 3k in canadian equity a good plan with markets being what they are? (in canada) | 1,477 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I 28m break up with my girlfriend 29f?
POST: This woman (lets call her mary) that I am involved with has a 3yo daughter with another man. they have been over for 2 years now. Lately she has been telling me he has been angrily messaging her saying she's trying to keep his daughter away from him. After hearing her side and reviewing the situation in my mind I agree that my girlfriend is in the wrong.
I asked her if she has any reason to believe he would harm the child she said "No." Then I told her that she has no right to keep her from him. Should I be worried about this behavior? Has she really moved on? Should I run now? Is this a sign that she is not as over him as she would like to believe? Am I overreacting? Could this be a sign of her true character?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my girlfriend is coming in between her child and her child's father because of past issues between the two of them that have nothing to do with the safety and welfare of the child. Should I be worried about this? | my girlfriend is coming in between her child and her child's father because of past issues between the two of them that have nothing to do with the safety and welfare of the child. Should I be worried about this? | 1,731 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to be the good guy
POST: So this happened yesterday.. My best friend ( a girl) started flirting with a friend of mine on Friday. She never told me anything.. I found out when my friend decided to show half the squad their text message exchange. That shit hurt like a mf, this lead to me finding out I have feelings for her.
I had the ability to end what was happening between them but chose not to.. Opting to let it carry on since she was happy. So come Monday they fuck. I should probably mention that my friend thinks I have no feelings for her. By then half the dorm knows what's going on and she has no idea.
Later that night I received a message from her saying we need to talk and that she'd fucked up. This is where shit turns bad.. I let her know that I've known this entire time and half the dorm does too. (She asked me a direct question and I almost never lie to her). She lost her shit. She's now mad at me for not saying anything all weekend and I'm like fuck I was just trying to be a good guy.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my best friend hooks up with my friend thinking its discreet, due to my feelings for her I choose to stay away from this. She still ends up being mad at me | my best friend hooks up with my friend thinking its discreet, due to my feelings for her I choose to stay away from this. She still ends up being mad at me | 2,158 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M,18] have a strange relationship with a girl [W,18]. Should I fight for her?
POST: Hi guys,
I had a very nice holiday together with 9 people (7 of them girls). one of them stood out. She was funny, educated and on top of that gorgeous. We had a great time together. After we got back home we kept in contact and after a few days I asked her out on a date (movie+dinner). A few hours later she responded with a text. I will try to sum it up a little:
Hi,
I'm really busy at the moment. It's actually somewhat of a bad joke, but on Saturday I am on a friend's birthday. The movie you suggested isn't my type as well. Right after this I will holiday again and after I get back I'm going to start to study (quite far away). Overall I don't think we could become a couple. Sry.
Now, since I don't have too much experience with texts such as this, I'd love to know what you think about this. Should I fight for her or just let her go?
Thanks in advance, RoooK3y
TL;DR: . Assistant: | met a really nice girl; it looked like we wqere soulmates; asked her out on a date; she replied with the second paragraph; should I fight for her or let ehr go? | met a really nice girl; it looked like we wqere soulmates; asked her out on a date; she replied with the second paragraph; should I fight for her or let ehr go? | 6,061 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I just noticed I don't have full access to my boyfriend's facebook profile. Should I be concerned?
POST: I'm pretty sure this is a stupid thing to be concerned about in the grand scheme of things, but I could use some input.
I was looking for one of his friends who got married recently (couldn't remember her amended last name, but I knew they were facebook friends) so I went to his profile to check his friends and locate her. But I could only see our mutual friends. And I thought it was weird. And then I noticed that his profile was pretty much the only one where I could not see a complete friends list, so I'm thinking he's got privacy filters set.
Now, I KNOW he updates his filters regularly (a long while back we were having some relationship issues, and I was blocked from seeing most of his profile for a brief period of time), and he has coworkers on his friends list and screens his posts from some of them.
The thing is, I don't think I'm an overly clingy girlfriend (and he has said numerous times that I'm not). I don't try to control every aspect of his life. So I'm not sure why I no longer have full access.
I'm concerned because he's had a habit in the past of poor communication (which he has attempted to work on). But he does tend to close off, and if he DID have something he wanted to keep from me, this seems like one of the ways he might attempt to do so.
Is it acceptable to ask if it was just an oversight or if it was intentional? Is there a good WAY to ask? Is it possible/likely that it is just a mistake? Or is it possible he has something to hide? I'm not going to fly off the handle; it's just that his track record has been such that this could be nothing, or it could be SUPER HUGE, and I won't know until it's too late.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Can't see my boyfriend's full facebook profile for no good goddamn reason; should I be concerned/call him on it? | Can't see my boyfriend's full facebook profile for no good goddamn reason; should I be concerned/call him on it? | 553 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with a [25 F] I've been on multiple dates with, couldn't achieve an erection during an essential time
POST: Last night we went on our 4th date - just the simple sit down for a nice dinner and movie afterwards.
We came back to my house and started making out the second we came in the door. Prior to this, we had only kissed, but this time it led to moving to the bedroom. We were both super turned on. I fingered/performed oral on her and made her orgasm. We then made out for at least 10 minutes before she said it was my turn.
I had this horrible gut feeling and rush of nervousness that I was not going to be able to get hard. Despite being so turned on and the girl being so beautiful, of course my brain got the best of me. I maintained a semi-erection for a little while (HJ/BJ), but then it just completely went away.
Questions for girls: Would this bother you if this happened to you? (I really just don't want her to feel like it's her fault, because it wasn't.) Would you consider hooking up again or is this a bad sign/deal breaker?
Questions for guys: Has this happened to you? What did you do to solve the issue of being so excited that you made yourself nervous? Did the girl continue to date you and/or hookup with you even after you were unable to achieve an erection?
Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Things got hot and heavy after a date, started hooking up, and couldn't get/maintain an erection. Does this bother girls or make them second think hooking up again? | Things got hot and heavy after a date, started hooking up, and couldn't get/maintain an erection. Does this bother girls or make them second think hooking up again? | 2,149 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21M] don't know how to stop hurting(emotionally) my gf[18F]
POST: Hi, I've been a frequent lurker here but I could really use some advice right about now. Thank you if you take the time to read through my post. I'm sorry if this is all over the place.
I've been with my SO for about 4 months now and things have been great up until the past 2 weeks. She's brought to my attention numerous times where I would do things without thinking of her, or what she does for me. With her going away to college next month, I feel as though this is going to break us.
I completely agree with everything she says though which is the scary part. Without going much into detail, she holds our relationship together. Shes is possibly the busiest person I've ever met and yet still makes time for us to have together. I've really taken her for granted and now I don't know what to do.
She told me how shes just emotionally exhausted she is at this point. That shes given so much and I haven't been pulling my weight. She also asked my why she should even bother trying so hard if I cant even do little things for her. Ill admit there has been a lot of miscommunication in our relationship but I really am doing my best to help us. She hates me beating myself up over all this but it's the only way I can realize just how badly I've been fucking up.
I already know there are going to be comments about this just being "young love" or to "jump on the breakup train" but I really want to try my best to at least work towards this. I just dont know how to stop hurting her. Seeing her depressed over us is the worst feeling I've ever felt before.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't put in enough effort and don't think before I act. SO is scared what this means for us and I want to make it up to her. | I don't put in enough effort and don't think before I act. SO is scared what this means for us and I want to make it up to her. | 4,583 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (26m) have a huge crush on girlfriends best friend.
POST: 5 year old relationship, me (26m) and girlfriend (27f). Like title says, I have a huge crush on my girlfriend's(27f) best friend (27f), and I believe that she is a little attracted to me. Every time we get drunk, we end up grinding if we're dancing, or just really touchy if we're not. She's a naturally sexual person, and I find her very sexy. I'm very scared to explore any kind of avenue with her, and I'm thinking arms length might be the right distance for us. I love my girlfriend, but I'm not getting enough love or sex from her. The best friend constantly talks about sex, and is always trying to date men but they never work out for some reason or another. I'm a very sexual person; I love having sex and require it a lot, my partner is very low libido.
She always asks me why I don't know anyone just like me. I'm super conflicted. I don't know what's what anymore. Should I make a move? I'd hate myself but at least I'd be satisfied.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm very sexual, gf isn't. Best friend is hinting imo of sexy times. Pursue or don't be scum? | I'm very sexual, gf isn't. Best friend is hinting imo of sexy times. Pursue or don't be scum? | 5,950 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend with eczema [22/F] told me [27/M] that I can sleep with another girl because she lost her sex drive (4 month no sex)
POST: So yeah my girlfriend repeated me that I can sleep with another woman because she feels bad that she lost her sexual drive since her eczema has been really bad (4 months of perpetual rashes now)...
Obviously, I don't want to because I love her...
However, she made me unsecure, I'm not sure of the reason why she lost her sexual drive, is it the eczema? Is it because she cheated on me? Is it because her job is stressing her out?
I don't want to start an huge fight and have to justify the reasons of all of my questions to her..
So! What do you guys think this could mean?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend with severe eczema suddenly lost her sex drive and told me that I can sleep with another girl, why ? | Girlfriend with severe eczema suddenly lost her sex drive and told me that I can sleep with another girl, why ? | 6,537 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] having fallen for a long time friend [17 F] after coming out of a long and unhappy relationship
POST: So I came out of a long and unhappy relationship several months ago. Throughout my recovery period I had an amazing female friend by my side. I've known here for years and she's done wonders to restore my emotional state after some things that happened in my previous relationship.
As a result of this, I've come to realise that the person I really loved was sitting on the side line while I spent two years of my life in a horrible mess of a relationship.
Now I desperately want to start a relationship with this girl, but I don't know whether it's a realistic possibility. She shows interest in me, we flirt a bit and perhaps more importantly we're totally comfortable with each other's presence, touch etc.
However, I can't tell whether this is just because we're ridiculously close friends who've been through a lot together or because she, like me, actually feels something more. We've been there for each other for years now and I'm torn up about what to do.
Thanks for anyone who offers advice. I am more than happy to provide as much additional info as may be required.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have fallen for my best friend after coming out of a horrible relationship, don't know whether to risk it or try push my feelings away. | I have fallen for my best friend after coming out of a horrible relationship, don't know whether to risk it or try push my feelings away. | 6,226 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (29/m) and I (28/f) have been together for a little over 2 yrs, but he has broken up with me several times. Can this be fixed?
POST: It hurts very much every time he breaks up with me. This situation is taking a toll on me and I'd like to hear your thoughts about what's best to do.
Generally, this is what happens: we have an argument and it ends with him breaking up with me. He either goes completely silent or leaves the house for a few days while I am crying/begging him to stay. I know I shouldn't. Twice, I really thought it was over, had stopped all contact with him and he reached out to me.
Last week, right before a camping trip, he threatened to break up with me before the end of the Summer and acted like nothing happened the next morning, being super nice to me. I feel frustrated, because it's like I have to tiptoe around him, he gets angry very quickly, sometimes calls me names in the heat of the moment. He acts nice with me infront of his friends, but otherwise we rarely have one on one dates. I don't mind that he needs alone time since I need a lot of that myself, but it is annoying that he doesn't want to help out with house chores. Furthermore, we aren't sleeping in the same bed nor does he seem enthused to get intimate. For the last part, it might just be my impression since I don't know how I feel about that myself with everything that has happened.
I don't know what to think: are relationships this messy and am I just making too big of a deal out of this?
Finally, I feel very vulnerable since my job contract ended unexpectedly about a month ago and maybe that puts more of a restrain on the relationship. I am looking forward to hearing your thoughts about whether this relationship can be fixed or not. Feel free to ask questions if I left out some important details. Thank you for reading me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend and I are together at the moment, but I feel very insecure and confused about everything. I am afraid it's a matter of days, weeks before the next time he threatens to break up. | Boyfriend and I are together at the moment, but I feel very insecure and confused about everything. I am afraid it's a matter of days, weeks before the next time he threatens to break up. | 1,871 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15 M] was broken up with by my Girlfriend [15 F] after only dating for a month, friends act like I should feel bad
POST: I dated this girl for only a month, and she broke up with me because she decided she might be a lesbian. We've only been broken up with for a little over a week now, and I've accepted it since it wasn't for that long and we broke up on good terms
However, everyone acts like I should be completely heartbroken. She was my first girlfriend and I did really like her, but I'm nowhere near as bothered by it as people think I should be. I keep hearing people say I need to take time out to find myself and that I'm rushing things by wanting to find someone else now.
Is it really wrong for me to move on so soon, or am I just doing things at my own pace?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | First girlfriend breaks up with me because she's a lesbian, friends think I'm moving on to quickly, I disagree and want to know what reddit thinks. | First girlfriend breaks up with me because she's a lesbian, friends think I'm moving on to quickly, I disagree and want to know what reddit thinks. | 427 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: The current school of thought is that a person should go directly from high school to college to job. How do you jump into this if you only have a vague idea of what you're getting into?
POST: The setup: A buddy of mine who'll be a senior this year in high school is trying to approach the college search, major selection, figure-out-the-rest-of-your-life-right-now with a bit of trepidation. I can't really offer him a ton of advice because a. I'm only starting college this year so I have no experience, and b. I know where my interests lie so I'm not in his unsure situation.
The buddy: He is fairly good at physics, computer science, building stuff with his hands, making new things, friendly debates, video games, and chess. He is an excellent chef and great at cheering people up. His personality leans to liking some freedom in his work and being able to twist ideas into a more interesting way when completing assignments.
***HIS BIGGEST CONCERN***: that his interests are only what his friends like and that once he goes into a major in college he will realize that he never liked it after all.
Possible paths include: Physics major, undecided major, taking lots of shop classes, traveling a bit, working on his grandparents' farm.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | The question: What's the best path for my buddy to take if he doesn't quite know what to do with his life yet? | The question: What's the best path for my buddy to take if he doesn't quite know what to do with his life yet? | 6,213 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Do you think I am pretentious?
POST: I am always concerned with educating myself and expanding my intellectual horizons. I read a lot of philsophy and classic literature. I get a sense of satisfaction out of reading them. I frequently watch documentaries, TED talks, read psychology informative and thought-provoking articles and read the news. I read poetry and, I must say, I find watching a tv show or playing the xbox more enjoyable. I just feel that I should be spending my free time doing something "more meaningful". I still joke around with my friends. I never talk about anything "high-brow" unless they ask me or they have a genuine interest for it. So I don't show off, but I feel guilty if I find myself watching tv or playing the xbox. I want to be more intelligent and aware of the world. Does this make me smug (I don't know if that is the right word, but I think you know what I am getting at)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I immerse myself in art to become more cultured, not necessarily enjoying it. Am I pretentious for doing so? | I immerse myself in art to become more cultured, not necessarily enjoying it. Am I pretentious for doing so? | 6,293 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How can I (16/F) support recently orphaned boyfriend (18/M)?
POST: The guy I've been seeing for the past two months just found out that his mother (61) passed away. She had been a recovering addict for much of her life, and he hasn't been living with her for a few years. His father, who he was much closer to, killed himself two years ago and up until recently, he's been living with his aunt and twin sister. He and his aunt don't really get along and he got kicked out. Since then, he's been living with his friend and coworker, who've been very supportive.
Our relationship is fairly new at this point, although we've been friends for a while. He's very independent and mature for his age, probably from being on his own so early in life. This is my first real, serious relationship and I haven't found myself connecting with a person this deeply before. At this point, I'm kind of at a loss of what to do.
We both suffer from depression and anxiety, although his is more severe, for obvious reasons. He's had pretty bad anxiety attacks in the past, and I'm worried they'll start up again. He's also dealt with substance abuse issues, primarily alcohol (not to mention his smoking problem), and I have a sinking feeling he's going to do something stupid again.
At this point, I really just want advice on how to support him in this incredibly hard time, while also giving him his space. More selfishly, I'm worried about where our relationship will go from here. I feel terrible thinking about it, but I know something like this is definitely liable to put strain on the both of us and I don't want to cause either of us any more pain, even though that's probably inevitable. Over all, though, I'm just worried about him.
What do I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend's mother just died, leaving him orphaned. How do I support him when he's already having a hard time? | Boyfriend's mother just died, leaving him orphaned. How do I support him when he's already having a hard time? | 1,455 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] dated for 1 month broke up 2 days ago
POST: my brother had been dating his girlfriend for several months when the girlfriend's sister starts to text me. We text back and forth for two months before i get up the courage to ask her out(on the beach i might add).
Then three weeks into our relationship my brother and his girlfriend broke up. She said that he couldn't be her first priority right now and that wasn't fair to him. Then the next week my girlfriend comes to me wanting to breakup saying she cant provide for my needs and she wants to breakup. She was like "nothing is going to change and we can still be friends" bullshit is what i thought.
This left me completely confused as she had not shown any signs of wanting to breakup and she hadn't told me of any problems in our relationship. But I was wondering if it was because of what her sister had done and if she did it just because of her (they do most everything together). I don't know if i am over thinking this because it was my first relationship or not but it left me extremely confused and sad/lonely. I used to text her all of the time and now she wont text me back and its making me depressed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Asked out girl i had been texting with for two months, her sister broke up with my brother then she broke up with me within a week. | Asked out girl i had been texting with for two months, her sister broke up with my brother then she broke up with me within a week. | 5,847 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22F] girlfriend is showing symptoms of hypochondria and it's driving me [25M] bonkers
POST: We've been in a relationship for almost 5 years now and marriage is definitely in our future, but every few months we have a slight problem. She gets really paranoid about the slightest health quirk. She'll have a headache when she wakes up and within a few hours it progresses into her being convinced she has cancer. And of course she stresses out and that only prolongs the headache and that becomes 'proof' that she has a tumor or something in hear head. Vicious cycle.
She has a history of displaying OCD-like tendencies when she was in her teens (doctor-confirmed, not the stupid 'I cleaned my room lulzocd') and has anxiety issues in general. She was on anxiety meds for a while and by her own admission it helped her not take the headaches or bug bites or whatever as seriously and to the next level like she was before. But financial issues and her owing the doctor's office money has kept her form being able to return and get a new prescription.
It just happens every month or two and for a week she's an anxious, stressed out mess convinced that she's dying. And she never does, but she never seems to remember that and she never acknowledges it when I remind her. I love her death and will put up with this til the end of our days, but any way I can make this easier on us both would be much appreciated. I think part of the problem is that I don't know how to deal with it, so i'm not dealing with it very well at all. I want to be supportive, but not too supportive. I want to be stern and remind her it's in her head, but I don't want her to feel like no one has her back. What do I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend is a bit of a hypochondriac and I'm struggling to deal with it because I don't really know how to deal with it. | girlfriend is a bit of a hypochondriac and I'm struggling to deal with it because I don't really know how to deal with it. | 135 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some fun adult tech/hardware projects.
POST: I was always a huge fan of things like k'nex and fischertechnik as a kid, and loved my "300-in-1 Electronic Project Lab" even though I didn't understand any of it (could still follow the directions to do the projects though and had a lot of fun).
I'm looking for something along those lines but a little more advanced. Are there any fun kits out there for adults to build that still give that sought after sense of satisfaction when you finish it?
I've peeked at things like the raspberry pi or the arduino. But I'm not really the most imaginative type and prefer to work through a predefined project than just fiddle around with no real goal. And the variations of arduino boards was a little overwhelming, would never be able to decide on a whim. I have a BS in Comp. Sci. and programming is my full time job, just hoping to get a little experience hardware side in a fun way.
I tried to find a more focused subreddit to ask this in but wasn't able to uncover anything, so feel free to just yell at me to go to some other sub, still appreciated.
Many thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Looking for fun kits to build as an adult. Be it a complete box with everything. Or a specific arduino board and a link to your favorite project. | Looking for fun kits to build as an adult. Be it a complete box with everything. Or a specific arduino board and a link to your favorite project. | 2,523 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (18) wants to smoke weed again after being free for months from a mental addiction to it, and I (F19) am inconsolably upset about it.
POST: We've been together for about a year, and when we met he was addicted to smoking weed and doing other drugs constantly. He stopped doing it when we started dating and he's able to actually do well in school now and be a healthier person.
But now he can't hang out with his drug-doing friends anymore - which wasn't a big problem for him before I left for college. Now he's sad during the week while I'm gone (I come home every weekend), and suddenly he's brought up wanting to hang out with his friends and smoke. (I accused him of really just wanting to smoke, no matter his friends, and he didn't deny it).
I got *very* upset when he told me he wanted to smoke. I started crying and could not give him a good answer for why it would be so horrible for him to smoke occasionally with his friends. He's said for a long time if he smoked it might lead to doing it everyday eventually like before, but now he's saying he wants to try and he thinks it won't come to that.
Am I being ridiculous in freaking out about him smoking every once in awhile, if he promised it was only sometimes?
I've trusted him the whole time since he quit. He even quit smoking cigarettes cold turkey, and hasn't talked about any of it much since then.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend wants to smoke weed despite having been "addicted" to it before, and I am extremely upset about it. Am I being ridiculous in not letting him smoke, and therefore not see his friends who smoke? | My boyfriend wants to smoke weed despite having been "addicted" to it before, and I am extremely upset about it. Am I being ridiculous in not letting him smoke, and therefore not see his friends who smoke? | 6,317 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my GF [19 F] over 2 years, I'm thinking about taking a break
POST: We've been together over two years, I am a 20M in my third year of college, she's a 19F in her first year. She has been saying that I am distancing myself because of my job (I am an RA at my college, and she goes to a different college). While that may be true, I have a job to do, and I can't spend my time worrying about myself and taking on her tribulations (she's having a hard time making friends at school and uses me as a "safe harbor" to avoid her school and potentially new friends, which is a problem considering if I cut her off, she will have nearly no social life). I think if we both take some time for ourselves (a year or two), then we can get rid of all of this stress, and if it's meant to be then we'll get back together.
Is a split-up the best plan? I've been thinking about this a lot and that's the best option I've come up with, which is unfortunate.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | she and I are both stressed from school and work, I think we need some time off to worry about ourselves and not about each other. | she and I are both stressed from school and work, I think we need some time off to worry about ourselves and not about each other. | 1,587 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Had a Girl Over - Missed Opportunity?
POST: There's a girl that I've liked for awhile that today I had over. Was almost positive she was interested, heard a lot of things from her and others that said it. She came over and I shared Pulp Fiction with her. We ended up holding hands, but that's all, and being stupid, I mentioned another guy in school a lot of people thought she had a thing with. Though we're meeting in the morning to head to school together and have agreed to a lunch in the future, after mentioning the other guy and seeing other weird signals when flirting strongly, not sure where to take it, what she's thinking and what my next move should be. Help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Crush who I've heard say a lot about me was over, I made a conversation error and almost no move (excluding have lunch with her and meeting her in the morning) not sure how its looking. | Crush who I've heard say a lot about me was over, I made a conversation error and almost no move (excluding have lunch with her and meeting her in the morning) not sure how its looking. | 5,824 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [27M] am angry at her [27F] for lying, don't know if overreacting
POST: So the other night she wen't out with one of her gf's, the next morning she decided to tell me she stayed at her girl friend's because when they realized the time it was too late at night and she lived nearby.
That same afternoon we are talking again and she tells me a different story, she tells me she left her friend to attend a late class she's been taking, then she came back with her and some other bunch of male friends then they all decided to stay in one of these male friends house.
This bothered me quite a lot, i don't know if i'm overreacting, you have to know i have trust issues, and this kind of things just makes it worse. When i asked her why she changed the story she just said she didn't want to bore me with details.
It is worth to tell you i have seen hear lie the shit out of her family and friends before, usually because she tells them she is going to be someplace or doing something and she actually is with me.
You think i'm overreacting? Because i'm hurt, i don't feel i can have a relationship with someone i can't trust and that i can't tell how many times have lied to me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | first she told me she stayed at a girl friend's then she told me later she stayed at a male friend's with a different group of people. I have trust issues. | first she told me she stayed at a girl friend's then she told me later she stayed at a male friend's with a different group of people. I have trust issues. | 3,713 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [18 M] prom date [17 F] is a foreign exchange ESOL student, feeling nervous!
POST: I have my senior prom this weekend and I'm taking a girl who is from China. She is really cool and I like her, though we didn't really talk much until I asked her to go to prom with me last week.
I like talking to her and am really excited about prom, but I think I'm having some trouble with language and cultural barriers.
Sometimes I just get stuck and don't know what to talk about. I probably shouldn't even be having this hard of a time with it, but I think I have some social anxiety too so that may be contributing.
We both really like fashion (she wants to be a designer, I'm a model and run an apparel company) so I've been talking to her a lot about that, and I just found out today that we both like anime so there's something. I guess I'm just asking for advice on how to make sure she's comfortable and has a good time at prom, in case things are different in China where she is from. I've also never been to prom with a girl I liked. I've been to prom four times but all with friends or girls who asked me that I didn't have interest in.
Thanks for any advice, I appreciate it. Take care!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm taking a foreign exchange ESOL student to prom. I feel nervous about language/conversation and cultural barriers." | I'm taking a foreign exchange ESOL student to prom. I feel nervous about language/conversation and cultural barriers." | 5,118 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 31(m) and 28(f) in a relationship that isn't really a relationship. Not sure what's going on here and looking for insight.
POST: I don't know if this is the right place for this question.. but I'm finding myself in a very confusing situation with a girl that I've known for about 6 years. To provide some background information, when I first met this girl she had a boyfriend in a long distance relationship, we hung out regularly and became very good friends. After awhile though.. our friendship began to turn into something much more intimate. We settled on describing it as "friends with benefits".. but even then we weren't sure. Essentially, we were a couple without being a couple. Even a friends with benefits scenario wasn't quite accurate. We went on regular dates.. we went out to dinner, movies, went on trips .. spent every waking moment together practically.. all under the tacit understanding that we weren't a couple and that we weren't in a relationship together. This carried on for about 1 1/2 years .. and yes .. she maintained her long distance relationship while this went on.. I'm a horrible person, I know. Eventually, her boyfriend found out, they split. She moved across the country shortly after and we lost contact.
Fast forward to two years ago. She resurfaces and occasionally visits the state I live in.. whenever she does, we always fall back into our old ways. On some occasions we're just friends, on other occasions we're more than just friends... and on other occasions still, we're once again a couple without being a couple.
Fast forward to two weeks ago.. we hook up again.. we go out for a romantic dinner, caught a movie, stargazing etc. etc. the next day, she casually mentions that she has a boyfriend and that she feels bad .. not because she has a boyfriend, but because she doesn't feel bad about having a boyfriend. No matter what we do, we always find that we come back to each other without ever knowing what we're actually doing.
I'm oblivious when it comes to normal relationships and even platonic friendships, and yet I continue to find myself in this twisted mess of nonsense... I don't really know what I'm asking here, but has anybody been in a similar situation that can offer insight?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Me (31m) and her (28f) finding ourselves in a situation where we're in a relationship together that isn't really a relationship.. and I have no idea what's going on. | Me (31m) and her (28f) finding ourselves in a situation where we're in a relationship together that isn't really a relationship.. and I have no idea what's going on. | 557 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU and got shit on while trying to get laid.
POST: I was on Grindr, looking for some fun (I know, but still). This really hot guy messaged me and told me that he was alone on his birthday (that day). I said I'd come to join him and watch TV or whatever. When I noticed that none of the pictures had his legs in them, I didn't think too much of it. I walk into his dorm complex, knock on his door, and he answers. He had huge leg braces on, was using a cane, and was talking kind of funny. I didn't think too much of it - I have a friend who is disabled and still efficiently sexually active. We lay down on the futon, talk a little bit, watch some South Park, and things get really heated. Clothes are flying everywhere and things are going swimmingly. I lift his legs above my head and rest them on my shoulders, lean in, and kiss his lips. (I had to clarify.) Suddenly, I hear this "foop" kinda sound and feel something warm on my legs.
I look down.
It's shit.
A lot of shit.
Not just like a little slimy thing, but like a fucking volcano erupted out of his ass and onto my thighs and dick.
I shrieked and flipped out. I jumped off of the futon, sending shit in every direction possible, although none got on my clothing. Luckily, the room had a personal bathroom. I ran in and locked the door. I gathered up as much toilet paper as humanly possible and tried to wipe as much of it off as I could. I hopped in the shower, scrubbed the goddamn shit out of my legs and genital area, and left promptly.
He texted me later that night to apologize, telling me that this isn't the first time something similar had happened.
I would have loved a forewarning.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I hooked up with a disabled guy who took a massive dump on my dick and upper thighs and now I kinda feel like a douche for handling it the way I did. | I hooked up with a disabled guy who took a massive dump on my dick and upper thighs and now I kinda feel like a douche for handling it the way I did. | 4,061 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, my birthday is tomorrow and I need help with Facebook!
POST: Hi reddit, here is my dilema. my birthday is coming up in 2 weeks time and I always have thought it tacky to have the entire wall filled with "Happy Birthday!" written 5000 times by different people. It's tacky, pointless, and so insincere. I'd prefer not to have my entire wall besieged.
So I had an idea, what if I could get rid of the ability to post to my wall, but instead allow people to comment instead. That way, i can have people comment on a status I write instead of on my actual wall. I was wondering if Reddit can help me with this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is there any way to deactivate my friends from posting to my wall while still activating the ability to comment on posts? | Is there any way to deactivate my friends from posting to my wall while still activating the ability to comment on posts? | 5,635 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what's the most ridiculously false accusation your parents have made against you?
POST: This isn't my story, but I heard it firsthand from a friend today.
Friend (Let's call him Tom) basically has 1st generation insane Chinese parents.
Anyways, Tom comes home one day to find his parents in the living room royally pissed at him and is confused.
Tom: "Umm...is something wrong?"
Parents: "TOM! WE KNOW YOU ARE ON DRUGS! AND YOU ARE IN DEEP SHIT"
"Sorry..wtf are you talking about??? I'm not on drugs!"
"We found evidence in your room that you are on drugs."
"Umm...I'm not on drugs...what evidence are you talking about?"
"It's not important. You know what evidence we found. We know you are doing drugs."
"No seriously, WHAT EVIDENCE? Because I am definitely not doing drugs."
"Fine. What do you have to say to this??"
*Thrusts something into Tom's hand*
*Tom examines object for a second*
"....Mom...this is a fucking acorn."
"So you ARE on Drugs!"
"No....this is an ACORN. It grows on oak trees. It's just a fucking nut!"
"Oh...umm...okay I guess"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Immigrant parents failed to recognize an acorn. Thought it was some kind of drug and accused my friend with it... | Immigrant parents failed to recognize an acorn. Thought it was some kind of drug and accused my friend with it... | 1,629 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 27F with my bf 32M 1,5 years. Would it be reasonable to discuss engagement?
POST: Yes, I know it's early. Let me explain.
We are both from different countries and live together in another country. He moved here 4 years ago, I moved here 2 years ago. He was asked to transfer here for work, I came here because why not.
Very recently, the topic of relocating for his work came up again. He is eager - he is a self-professed workaholic - because there is not much in his industry here apart from the company he works for, limiting his career growth. This would be yet another country where neither of us is native, I have never been to the place and I don't even speak the local language. Neither does he but then again he will obviously have a job already when we arrive.
We discussed it and said a tentative yes. To be honest, I am not entirely sure what would happen to the relationship if I said no. Things progressed now to the point where we are 90% sure it will happen, within 6 months or even within 2.
Would it be reasonable to discuss getting engaged? Not in a tit for tat way, like I move somewhere for you so give me a ring, but more as an assurance to me he's in this with me and not only for his career. The stakes are so much higher for me, I will quit a good job, be unemployed and a bit disadvantaged in finding new work since I do not speak the local language, though I have been told the place is cosmopolitan enough that it might not matter.
Is this fair? Or totally not? How do I bring it up?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | moving to a new country for SO's work. Could I bring up engagement to feel a bit more secure with leaving everything behind to go with him? | moving to a new country for SO's work. Could I bring up engagement to feel a bit more secure with leaving everything behind to go with him? | 6,289 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (24M) just found out that my ex (23F) has been going out with a guy for 2 months, and was dating him before then. We broke up 4 months ago after 3.5 years. I feel angry, but should I feel betrayed too?
POST: I'm moving away in a weeks time and she just came over and dropped that on me. I had my suspicions that something was going on, but to find out that she was going out with someone else so soon has reopened all of the wounds.
I believe that she went on a date with him the night that she ended it with me, and I'm hurt that she has brought it up now that I'm about to move to a different part of the country. I have no plans to ever get back together again, but I don't know whether I should consider letting this go.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I think that my ex dumped me and went straight to a date with someone else, and I don't know how to deal with this new knowledge. | I think that my ex dumped me and went straight to a date with someone else, and I don't know how to deal with this new knowledge. | 4,423 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26F] lied to my boyfriend [28M] about being Amish the first time we hooked up, and now I'm trapped in the lie.
POST: Long story short, I was very romantically/sexually inexperienced before I met my boyfriend "Evan." I wasn't a virgin, but I was definitely a late bloomer and I'd only had sex twice before. I met him when I was 24 and liked him right away, but I wasn't interested in a relationship; I just really wanted to get more experience.
One night we started hooking up, but I panicked and got terrified that he'd be turned off by my obvious lack of experience. I made up a lie on the spot about how I had grown up Mennonite (not quite Amish but close) and how I had only left the church recently so I'd never had sex before. In retrospect I realize how stupid that was, but I was honestly never planning to see him again and I was just really nervous in the heat of the moment. We hooked up, it was good, and then we parted ways.
About 5 months later I ran into him randomly and we decided to go out again. That quickly led to us dating, and me falling for him. We've been together almost 2 years now, and Evan still thinks I grew up as a super religious Mennonite. (I did grow up in a mostly Amish/Mennonite town, but my family was not religious at all.) We don't talk about my childhood much, and I think he assumes it's a painful subject. He's met my mom briefly, but she and the rest of my fam live on the other side of the country. I told him the rest of my family also left the church.
So I know this makes me a terrible person, and the moment is long passed to tell him the truth. I just really did NOT anticipate it escalating like this, and by the time I realized that I really cared about him, it was sort of too late to come clean.
Evan is very easy-going and finds humor in the weirdest situations, so as naive as it may be, I'm kind of hoping that if he could understand the reason behind the initial lie, he might eventually think it was funny. Or not. I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Told my boyfriend I used to be Mennonite/Amish the first time we hooked up (out of nerves), and the lie stuck. 2 years in and I don't know how to break it to him. | Told my boyfriend I used to be Mennonite/Amish the first time we hooked up (out of nerves), and the lie stuck. 2 years in and I don't know how to break it to him. | 5,181 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: So there's no emotion anymore [18M/19F].
POST: So I can't say that it's always been rainbows and etc but this is just the time that I'm officially over it. Even though we've only been dating almost three and a half months, I would love for it to last longer, however I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel the same. I always make sure she knows she's beautiful and treat her like a princess, however nothing can be said towards me. Maybe five times in 3 and a half months has she made me feel like she makes me feel about her. Everything was fine until she started hanging out with her friends a lot more than usual, which is fine, but when she changed her attitude towards me, posting the usual breakup b.s that happens on Facebook/twitter/tumblr/etc, without mentioning a break up. She changed the way she's texting me, she refused to talk to me over the phone as we usually do every night being in a semi-long-distance relationship. We've not said the "I love you's" yet, and honestly I used to be able to say that I did, but when she gives other guys more attention than me I can't say that I do love her anymore. I'm not wanting me to be the center of her universe by no means, but I would like a little bit of affection rather than being ignored until she's bored. I don't want to end it but there's just no feeling anymore between her and I. If there is any feeling from her end, I don't feel any. This is my first official relationship and hopefully this is just a phase for her since its been two weeks since we've seen each other.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend and I have no emotion anymore, she's ignoring me for other guys, and straight up ignoring me. | Girlfriend and I have no emotion anymore, she's ignoring me for other guys, and straight up ignoring me. | 5,624 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Read a close friends journal. I literally feel sick.
POST: A little context:
Her and I have known each other for about 4 years. We met in college. Had classes together. Had a short fling while her and her boyfriend were taking a break. Now we work together (I got her the job), and we share an office. Really good friends, I've always had strong feelings towards her. I have a girlfriend of 3 years, she's back with her boyfriend of 10 years.
We also went to school with this guy, lets call him Roy. Roy sucked, he was immature, inconsiderate, just unlikable all around. Roy and my friend (lets call her Joyce) maintained a friendship, one I never really understood.
A few months ago, she told me Roy was being stalker-y and wouldn't leave her alone. I always knew Roy had a huge crush on her, and I told her to just cut off contact. This went on and on for a while. Now she said he's better and not bothering her. Fine.
Today I'm alone at my office. She took the day off. No one is around. I noticed some of her journals she left behind. I know I'm awful for doing it, but I decided to read some of the entries. I still have feelings for her and I was wondering if I appeared in any of them.
Literally nothing but pages and pages of her describing her attraction to Roy. Pages and pages going on and on about how much she likes him, times they've kissed, etc. I can't fucking believe it. To boot, I found an entry saying "Roy isn't Awfulfriend4o9, he isn't easy to manipulate...". Awesome. I feel like dirt.
I truly deserve this. I asked for it the second I opened the pages. I'm shaking with anger and shame.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Read a friends/coworkers/crush journal, found out I mean nothing and creepy stalker means everything to her. | Read a friends/coworkers/crush journal, found out I mean nothing and creepy stalker means everything to her. | 5,552 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dear Reddit, Has anyone ever used the site Couchsurfing.org? What was your experience? Would you recommend it for me?
POST: Reddit, I am currently planning a trip to Moscow for a small vacation this August. I have already acquired my plane ticket and necessary documents but yet to have reserved a hotel as they are expensive and don't seem anywhere near as nice as what you could get in the US for that price (cheapest hotel is about $100 a night).
My friend suggested I use couchsurfing.com and see if anyone would host me for the few days while I'm over there. The site seems legit and makes it seem like this community really cares about having fun and meeting new people.
However, I would really like to not be kidnapped. I can not stress enough how much I would love to wake up with my money and passport intact each morning, as well as my necessary organs. Can you guys offer me any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is couch surfing a safe way to travel, and would you recommend it? Would like to wake up with all major organs. | Is couch surfing a safe way to travel, and would you recommend it? Would like to wake up with all major organs. | 1,831 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [Help] I need help with a dog that's angry at me, and worried he may hurt me
POST: So here is the story: I come every day to my grandma's house, she has two female dogs (they are some mixture between Labrador and other breed) and they always loved me very much. Everyday I get in the house they happily run to welcome me (I think it is important to note that I am the one who feed and bathe them), and I always pet them in the belly, since they like it so much they lay down with the belly up asking for it.
But a few weeks ago, my grandpa brought another dog for protection, very big and strong, I believe he is a pure Labrador. That's when the problem started, because since I'm a crazy dog person, I started petting him and calling him cute stupid names as soon as I saw him, and he seemed ok about it. I was thinking like "hell yeah, I'm gaining his trust!". So I decided to pet him in the belly like I do with the other two... Oh what a mistake! He immediately showed his teeth and in a millionth of a second he barked and attacked me. I think I have never ran so fast in my life.
And since then, he is upset with me. Everytime I come merely close to him he growls or barks angrily at me. He is ok with every family member, even the maid who comes here less than me, and I'm worried some day he will hurt me.
What can I do about it? Should I try to connect with him, get closer, or should I stay the hell away until I don't bother him anymore?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New big dog came, I tried to pet him in his belly, he got upset and attacked me and now won't let me get close. I ~~want~~ wish to know how can I get him to like me again. | New big dog came, I tried to pet him in his belly, he got upset and attacked me and now won't let me get close. I ~~want~~ wish to know how can I get him to like me again. | 272 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[35M] am looking to propose to my GF[30F] for 2 years. But we are in different states currently and I don't have much money.
POST: We have been dating for over two years. And I am positive I want to marry her. Her family is giving her pressure about marriage and I want to make it clear that I will marry her. Her family is of a different culture and I have never meet her dad (lives in home country). Her uncle likes me a lot and approved of us.
9 months ago I moved to another state for a job opportunity, it looks like I will get promoted to a long term position very soon. She was hesitant to move here. Today I learned that she would have moved if I proposed 9 months ago. I found out form a common friend.
The current situation is that I have limited money. Basically few hundred dollars in savings. I can not afford a ring right now, but I hope to save enough by March to buy a simple ring. **Please share any websites you know that sell affordable rings**. My job should be settled by March of next year. At which time I will ask her to move here and propose to her.
My question to you all is: 1) how can I comfort her and her family. She had a long talk with her dad today and was very sad. Most likely because of our relationship. 2) is proposing over the phone as bad as I think it is 3) should I go online ring shopping with her or keep it the ring a surprise.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF is feeling pressure to get married by her family. I want to comfort her. I love her and plan to marry her. | GF is feeling pressure to get married by her family. I want to comfort her. I love her and plan to marry her. | 2,844 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 27Fwith my 29M friend (?) a couple weeks - he wants to be exclusive but not "formally committed". What is this guy trying to do?!
POST: I met Peter* a few weeks ago and we completely hit it off and have been talking all day every day since. We have seen each other several times and have had a great time.
We have slept together and discussed the fact that both of us like each other a lot.
He mentioned that a girl asked him to dinner, and he turned her down. I asked if it was because he wasn't interested or if it was because of me. He said it was because of me, and that he may talk to other women but he's not hanging out with them or sleeping with them.
He said that he's still on Tinder for "shits and giggles" which makes sense since we send each other funny profiles and it's a funny topic of conversation among him and his friends etc. but he promised he isn't using it to ask women on dates. (Is this bullshit?)
We established that we're only going on dates with/sleeping with each other.
He's very honest and upfront about everything even if it's something I may not want to hear (like him still being on Tinder). So I'm almost inclined to believe him.
*However.....* he claims he doesn't want a label. It's like he wants the commitment without the commitment? He got out of a relationship in February so he said he doesn't want a "formal commitment" right now ie FB official, boyfriend/girlfriend titles... but I was under the assumption that exclusively dating/sleeping with each other was just that - a commitment.
I don't know if I'm getting played or what. Before I met Peter* I was casually talking to another guy, Steve*. I feel like maybe Peter is trying to manipulate me into only seeing/sleeping with him while he still is out screwing around.
I'm hesitant to break things off with Steve* because I'm not 100% sure of Peter's* intentions.
What do you guys think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy says he wants to exclusively date/sleep with each other but not have a "formal commitment". What is he doing?! | Guy says he wants to exclusively date/sleep with each other but not have a "formal commitment". What is he doing?! | 2,860 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/m] 8 months with my s/o [22/f], can't help feeling neglected and seeking company
POST: To start off, I have never cheated or dumped someone. I like to think of myself as an ethical person that would never do something like that ^^^since ^^^its ^^^happened ^^^to ^^^me ^^^a ^^^LOT
My relationship has been good thus far with no real complaints on my part. However with the summer months --that I've been looking forward to since I met her in the middle of our god-awful winter -- I've been feeling like we both aren't as excited to see each other or make plans... My schedule is flexible and with **no job** and **no school** she really has few reasons she can't hang out.
Yet, we simply don't see each other, often for as long as 2 weeks sometime. I'm feeling more and more like she's just a girlfriend on the weekend and a text buddy for the remainder. I'm almost always the one who takes the initiative to make plans, and it's starting to frustrate me and causing me to feel neglected.
To make things more complicated, I've been growing closer with a friend [f/21] who is more aligned with my interests, seems to have a good sense of where she's going in life, and has always been a source of astounding conversation since I've known her. Last night we hung out until the wee hours of the morning, opening up on very personal subjects and then sharing a bed that night (zero funny business).
This is the worst thing I've ***ever*** thought I'd say but I almost feel like I'm dating the wrong person. I feel disgusted with my own thoughts of leaving my girlfriend to jump ship to someone else. I am at a loss and it's eating me away inside.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm 9 months into a relationship where I feel neglected, but it could just be my brain telling me to date my close friend instead. Thanks for reading. | I'm 9 months into a relationship where I feel neglected, but it could just be my brain telling me to date my close friend instead. Thanks for reading. | 5,424 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by making 10 classrooms of 4th-Graders smell like marijuana.
POST: This literally happened earlier today. My girlfriend, my roommates girlfriend and I decided to try and score some weed. We managed to find a hook up and got blazed. ( I am still pretty high) Thing was, we couldn't smoke in our apartment because of our roommates who don't really like it. We decided to smoke out on our apartments balcony. Today in our city, there was sustained 30MPH winds outside, which forced us to huddle up in a closet that out on our balcony. After many bong rips in the closet and a few hours later we walked out to realize there are 10 classroom boxes full of fanny pacs and childrens' t-shirts for their museum field trips. Let me explain, one of our roommates works as a tour guide for a local museum, and hands out fanny pacs and t-shirts to children while he gives them their tour. He had stored them in our outside closet and didn't tell any of us.
My roommate is pretty pissed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Smoked pot with some friends in a storage closet full of children's fanny packs and t-shirts today, that my roommate has to take and hand out to fourth graders in a few ours. Am still pretty baked. | Smoked pot with some friends in a storage closet full of children's fanny packs and t-shirts today, that my roommate has to take and hand out to fourth graders in a few ours. Am still pretty baked. | 3,380 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Priority list for someone who's about to lose the internet.
POST: Dear Reddit,
In a couple of weeks I'm being sent of to some hoighty toighty, fancy boarding school for the next couple years. I'm not too keen on the idea, seeing as it involves me leaving a whole bunch of family and friends behind BUT ALSO (and most regrettably) it has no internet connection provided...Meaning I'm losing access to a huge world of procrastination I've been delving in for a long time now (First world problems amiright?).
ANYWAY, what I ask you is what you guys would recommend I download while I still can to pass the time during my stay at this academy. And don't hold back on anything, I have a huge hard drive (tee hee) ready to store a whole bunch of stuff. I'm talking anything! Games, tv shows, movies, programs, ebooks, podcasts, music. Would really appreciate the help with this one, although I realize it's a pretty broad spectrum and this post most probably won't see the light of day before it's down voted into into oblivion (a game I already own. So no need to advise I get that one :P)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Recommend me stuff for two years of little to no internet access. e.g games, movies, tv shows, ebooks, podcasts, music etc. | Recommend me stuff for two years of little to no internet access. e.g games, movies, tv shows, ebooks, podcasts, music etc. | 2,617 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What to do about a lying roommate?
POST: I have two roommates both of which are friends of mine and currently one roommate and I are pissed. Our other roommate made an agreement with our landlord that she can have sugar gliders as long as they don't mate because he doesn't want babies. Well she had 3 to begin with but 2 of them were evil so she sold them, which you're not supposed to do cause separating groups is a bad idea and now she's trying to get them back which is problem number 1.
That is a minor problem compared to what's going on now. She bought two new gliders a male and a female that are siblings and she told us that siblings won't mate. My other roommate and I did some research and aside from finding out that she hasn't been properly caring for the original one she's had for over a year we also saw that males and females will mate even if related. We also found out that she told her boyfriend that she plans on mating and selling the babies which brings up all kinds of legal issues that don't really concern me. The thing that worries me is the fact that our landlord said no babies and she should know that.
I don't know what to do about this how should I go about confronting her? I've never really had to deal with a situation like this before because this is my first semester away at school and with roommates.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Roommate bought sugar gliders told me because they were siblings they wouldn't mate. I found out she lied and I'm super pissed because our landlord said no babies. | Roommate bought sugar gliders told me because they were siblings they wouldn't mate. I found out she lied and I'm super pissed because our landlord said no babies. | 4,007 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How do I (f18) show interest / know if he (m19) is also?
POST: The past month I've been working weekends at a haunted house in my area. I started talking to one of the guys I work with and as the weeks have gone by we started talking more before / after work. Last weekend he offered to give me a ride home (I had been taking a cab because I don't have a car or a friend to drive me), and we ended up hanging out from 12am - 7am.
We originally wanted to see a movie that we thought was at 2:15am. While we waited we went to his house and played video games, then went to the theatre and found out we were wrong about the movie. So we spent a good half hour just sitting in his car in the parking lot chatting away, then we drove around and kept talking.
At some point during the night we brought up how we generally are friends with someone before dating them. We did a lot of talking about relationships and such, which is why I think he may be interested. A couple of times we would veer off into another topic and he would all of a sudden bring it back to relationships.
Then we went on a walk through the park which lasted a few hours. By the time we were on our way back to his house, we were both pretty cold (he forgot a sweatshirt and mine wasn't helping too much) so he latched onto me so we wouldn't freeze. We stayed like that the rest of the time, only switching sides a couple of times.
The next night when he drove me home we ended up sitting in my driveway for roughly 45 minutes to an hour, until he was getting yelled at to come home. I got his number before he left and we spent the majority of yesterday texting back and forth.
We made plans to see a movie tomorrow, he has a friend coming along as well.
My problem is I don't want to seem too forward, but I don't want to seem like I'm not interested. So far he seems like a really cool guy. And I want to know if it seems like he's even interested. My instincts say yes, but I'm not an expert.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Spent a lot of time with co-worker, meeting friend of his at movie tomorrow, is there any sort of interest? How do I flirt without being too obvious? | Spent a lot of time with co-worker, meeting friend of his at movie tomorrow, is there any sort of interest? How do I flirt without being too obvious? | 4,790 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Engagement announcements! What makes sense?
POST: First off, let me just say it is GREAT to be able to join you all finally instead of just lurking and wishing! FH surprised me with a proposal on our vacation and I could not be happier- we've been together for quite some time so I knew it was coming theoretically, I just didn't know when!
Now that it's happened, we've been considering engagement announcements. We're interested in doing this for two reasons:
1) I have a great deal of family that I can't let know due to my lack of social media.
2) We are considering an engagement party. Well..my mother is. She wants us to have one, thrown by her. It's a very sweet thing, but a complete other story.
3) FH and I have agreed that the actual wedding is waaaaaaaaay off in the future, by at least 3 years. He's finishing up his PhD, were trying to pay off my student loans as quickly as possible, I've just really started my career and he's waiting to truly begin his. We've knocked around the idea of getting civilly married soon (for financial reasons) and having the wedding later, but that's still up in the air. **If anyone has experience doing this, I'd also be happy to know about it :)**
My question to you all is what makes sense? In this amalgam of mad thought, what's your seasoned advice on how we should proceed? What should I be taking into consideration?
I'm sorry for the super lengthy post, I'm really starting from the ground up here! If you've gotten this far, thank you for even taking the time to read!!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | views on engagement announcements when wedding is far off? Views on civil marriage years before actual wedding? Anything anyone wants to offer up is grossly appreciated!*** | views on engagement announcements when wedding is far off? Views on civil marriage years before actual wedding? Anything anyone wants to offer up is grossly appreciated!*** | 6,193 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Why is Low Carb suggested in the FAQ?
POST: I'm sure I'll get downvoted for this but I'm wondering why things like low carb and four hour body are suggested in the faq? The reason I'm saying this is because these are rigid/absolute approaches that can lead to eating disorders in the long run. I speak from experience I tried low carb ( keto) and saw some success with it initially. I quickly deemed it the panacea to being fat, but as time went on it became a mental drag to stay on the low carb diet. When I came off of it or " cheated" I cheated **HARD**! I would think to myself " eh, it's ok i'm just going to back on low carb tomorrow ( or Monday)", and when I wasn't low carbing I would eat like food was going out of style because I was planning to return to miserable low carbing. This happened over and over again. Eventually, **I ended up 80 pounds heavier than I was initially when I had first started the low carb diet.** I later learned that rigid dietary approaches lead to eating disorders like mine and that I wasn't alone.
I think it would be a lot better if the FAQ explicitly mentioned and suggested flexibly dieting ( and counting Macro nutrients) as an option. Overweight people will find the results from low carb diets very appealing because the results are initially awesome, but I'm worried they will fall into the same trap of the on/off switch that is a diet/binge cycle that I had. I think the FAQ shoud promote an eating life style that will be maintainable for life, and the restrictive behavior from low carb and four hour body is just not maintainable for a life style in my opinion. I can't remember the exact quote, but Layne Norton said something like " If you can't see yourself on the staying on the diet 10 months from now, than you shouldn't be doing it."
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I think low carb is not the best option for most, I think flexible dieting is. I have experienced an eating disorder from low carb, and successfully lost all the weight I gained from binge eating. | I think low carb is not the best option for most, I think flexible dieting is. I have experienced an eating disorder from low carb, and successfully lost all the weight I gained from binge eating. | 4,653 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 F] with my ex-bf [22 M] of 6 months, he used to chat with a girl from gonewild and flirt with girl friends, feeling confused
POST: So I broke up with my boyfriend around a month ago, he is a nice guy but I think it was for the best (due to several things that hurt me and happened in the relationship). I have been able to move on and no longer feel sad without him, but since he was my first relationship there is something in my mind that I cannot stop thinking about.
I recently found out that apart from the things he did that made me want to breakup (long story) he used to regularly chat with a girl that posted on gonewild in skype and that sometimes he just talks flirty with friends. It just overall left me confused, since he just said it's just his personality of wanting to get to know people (gonewild girl) and that he saw that being flirty with friends that knew him was harmless.
I just want to know if I am expecting too much of a boyfriend if I don't want them to talk with girl strangers online (especially those who post on gonewild) or flirt with other girls while in a relationship. I want to date in the future, and I don't mind a guy having girl friends, but it does make me uncomfortable if all of their friends are girls and he chats with them daily flirtatiously. I know it is a silly question, but it is killing me inside to know if it is me who is overreacting or if it is actually possible to find someone who will commit in a relationship in the same level that I do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ex-boyfriend had a lot of girl friends and used to look for girls to talk with online, wondering if that is the norm for every guy or if it is not acceptable. | ex-boyfriend had a lot of girl friends and used to look for girls to talk with online, wondering if that is the norm for every guy or if it is not acceptable. | 3,411 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by sending my sister an SOS text
POST: Some background, I recently upgraded from the Galaxy S4 to the S5, which has this cool emergency feature when you press the lock button three times. You set up who you want the texts to go out to, it gives out your coordinates, a front facing picture, a rear facing picture, and sound of what was going on when you pressed the button. I decided it was a good idea to add my boyfriend and sister, just in case!
So, for our anniversary, my boyfriend rented us a room on the beach. We were about to start some sexy time when I decided I wanted some background music. I pull up spotify, lock the phone, and put it on the nightstand. The music stops and there's a new notification. "EMERGENCY DECLARED". *ooohhh no....*. Knowing that it takes pictures, I quickly try to get it away from my boyfriends junk, and away from me. I saved his dignity, but it was too late for me. A picture of my nipples in fishnet lingerie was sent to my sister, along with whatever sound was going on. I called her, and no answer, I texted her to ignore that SOS.
Needless to say, the moment was ruined. Everytime we tried to get back into it, we would laugh, so we just sat back and watched shark week. All in all, it was a good trip!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | put music for sexy time, sent SOS text to my sister that included picture of my nips. Night ended with watching Shark Week. | put music for sexy time, sent SOS text to my sister that included picture of my nips. Night ended with watching Shark Week. | 3,941 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Roommate probably had sex with his girlfriend on my bed last night.
POST: So my roommate had his girlfriend over last night and he asked me if it would be okay for me to spend the night with my parents (20 minutes away from campus) so I said sure you guys have a good night. I made my bed and tidied my room as I always do. When I returned today, my bed wasn't made and it smelled like a girl, so naturally I suspect they had sex on my bed, or at the very least, someone was on it. What's the nicest way I can ask him about that? I don't want to just accuse him, but I also don't want to just sit around and take it if something DID happen.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to address the problem but I don't know how to phrase it in a respectful way that doesn't sound like an accusation | I want to address the problem but I don't know how to phrase it in a respectful way that doesn't sound like an accusation | 6,308 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] have been stressed about feeling like a "sugar momma" to my boyfriend [23 M] for months now
POST: I know money shouldn't be a problem aspect in a relationship but it has been really bothering me. We have been together for almost 6 years.
My SO has been struggling to find a stable job and bought a car too soon and any money that he does make goes to the car. He bought the car 6 months ago thinking he'd get a job which he didn't. He's struggled with having a good job for the entirety of our relationship. I can understand when we were young, but he finished post-secondary before me and has had double the time to look for a job than I have. This makes me think he's lazy.
He doesn't mooch and he never asks for money unless he is desperate - he has never asked *me* for money. I've been paying for all of our meals out and even his fast food/snacks when we're together for a few months now. I would feel guilty if I didn't because I don't want him to go into debt or feel he can't enjoy himself with me and our friends.
I know I shouldn't be that typical girl that thinks "oh the guy is the one who should be the supporter" - I'm all about equity in a relationship and splitting things financially. It's hard to not want my guy to take care of me though. I'm all about being a strong and independent woman but when I see or hear about other relationships where the girls are always being taken care of financially it's hard for me to not want some part of that. It really bothers me to think that I'm like his "sugar momma" right now.
I want to move out of my parents house and buy my own but I can't and don't want to do it alone. Right now I feel like I am. This stresses the hell out of me. How can I deal with this? I personally gotten him two jobs (through my own connections), both which haven't turned out - what more can I do?? How can I not let money bother me in our relationship?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Paying for myself and SO for meals, entertainment, etc. Saving for a house and feel like I'm alone. I feel like a "sugar momma" and I hate it. | Paying for myself and SO for meals, entertainment, etc. Saving for a house and feel like I'm alone. I feel like a "sugar momma" and I hate it. | 1,478 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Was what Penny Arcade did to Paul Christoforo the right thing to do?
POST: I guess I'm taking a pretty big risk with my account reputation here...
I just felt like I had to ask the question. I, like everybody else, think Ocean Marketting's PR stallion is a class-A asshat, and I understand that Paul was *particularly* stupid in acting that way towards Mike Krahulik, but I can't convince myself that Mike acted in the right here.
Penny Arcade, and Mike Krahulik through it, command IMMENSE authority with the internet and the entire gaming community--so much so that I feel it could threaten to spread into other realms of this guy's life. Mike decided to power up the internet hate machine, and [some are already starting to feel the backlash.] As Dave observed many times in the original email chain, the Avenger is a fantastic controller, and now the product's sales are going to be affected by misguided hatred.
That controller was originally designed for the disabled. Is Ocean Marketing responsible for their new product's infamy because they had one awful, reckless marketer associated with it? Moreover, is there the possibility of Paul's actual life (read: not INTERNET life, like the rest of us) becoming endangered because of this and mob mentality? As Facebook, MySpace and Twitter prove to us, his identity and face are no secret, and there are now many, many, MANY people who dislike Paul Christoforo.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was Mike Krahulik justified in bringing the world crashing down about this guy's ears? Should anybody hold this kind of power? | Was Mike Krahulik justified in bringing the world crashing down about this guy's ears? Should anybody hold this kind of power? | 1,900 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [40M] will be escorting son [12M] and his friend [12M] to their sports tournament. How to split the hotel costs with the friend's family?
POST: My son has a baseball tournament out of state that we'll be flying to. His best friend Adam is also on the team. Adam's parents are not able to travel to the tournament, so I have offered to bring him along with my son and me. Adam is a good kid, and we all get along well. His parents gratefully accepted offer, and have offered to share costs.
So it will be me, my son, and Adam in the hotel room. Money is very tight for all involved, but our families are on good terms, and they will likely pay whatever I ask. (I know, if money is tight then why the hell are we flying around the country to play baseball...that's a topic for another day.)
My question: Would you ask Adam's parents for **one-third** of the cost of the room (Adam will be one of three people in the room), or **half** the cost of the room (Adam will be one of two kids needing escort to the tournament), or **no cost** of the room (since I would be going anyway)?
To be clear, this is not a family vacation to which we're inviting Adam as a guest. In that case I probably wouldn't ask for any money. It is literally just me escorting the kids. My wife, and my other kids are not coming. The boys will play a few games over a couple days, then we'll come home. Adam's folks will supply him with meal money, plane ticket, etc.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How should we split the cost of a hotel when I'm escorting someone else's kid to a sports tournament? It will be me, my son, and his teammate in the room. | How should we split the cost of a hotel when I'm escorting someone else's kid to a sports tournament? It will be me, my son, and his teammate in the room. | 3,252 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Need some advice
POST: A little background ever since I was little I was always the fat kid who could probably run faster than you. I've always been into sports but stayed chubby. I guess I was never motivated to do anything about losing the fat until I decided to join a soccer team. After a year I had changed so much I felt good even with the little gut I had. It didn't last long though :( It all went downhill again when I hurt my knee. I wasn't able to run without a pulsating pain going through my knee. I tried to work through the pain but had given up and fell into depression. I went to physical therapy and it helped out but now I can't seem to find the motivation to do something. I'll always waste my time and when it's too late say ughhh I'll do it tomorrow in the morning, hit the snooze button in the morning and say i'll do it in the evening and well you know .
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have always been bigger, lost some weight, messed up knee, got bigger again,knee got better but I have no motivation anymore HELP ME. | Have always been bigger, lost some weight, messed up knee, got bigger again,knee got better but I have no motivation anymore HELP ME. | 6,358 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Help/Advice on full and final settlement offer from a car accident (US)
POST: I apologize in advanced this post is long but I figured the extra information might be helpful....I was in a car accident in November (was rear ended attempting to merge from a highway to freeway). The result was rear body damage to my car as well me going to see a chiropractor and an LMT. The other insurance company is offering me $450 for a full and final settlement offer which absolves them of any responsibility. They got to that number by medical bills sent to them by my insurance company as well as damages to my car. Also, they paid for medical and car damages directly to my insurance company already.
I am on the fence about seeking an attorney for more as I went through the following:
* I was heading to a job interview when the accident occurred (thankfully I was able to call the interviewing company and come in late)
* After two months of them sending me letters and not returning most phone calls, I went through my own insurance company for repairs and paid the deductible (which I did receive back about a month later)
* Time lost from work due to seeking medical treatment
I live in Oregon which is where the accident occurred.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Car accident rear ended, $450 settlement offer, would like more is it worth time/effort or even possible? Very confused on the legal jargon in settle offer | Car accident rear ended, $450 settlement offer, would like more is it worth time/effort or even possible? Very confused on the legal jargon in settle offer | 6,219 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: IUD Experience?
POST: Hello everyone. I am a 22 year old male and my 21 year old girlfriend of ~9 months has decided to begin IUD birth control. We have done research on it and along with her Gynecologist she has decided that this is the direction she wants to go.
She is getting the procedure done today and I'd like to do something nice for her when shes all finished. Does anyone have any experience with IUD's and the procedure associated? I want to know what to expect after the procedure. I know she will be sore and can expect some cramping, but are there any pieces of advice you may have for me as her boyfriend? Any snacks you desperately wanted, over-the-counter things that you HAD to have, etc? I appreciate any feedback about possible gifts/goodies for her or the procedure itself.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend is getting an IUD today. What can I expect as a boyfriend and what could I do for her to make today better? | My girlfriend is getting an IUD today. What can I expect as a boyfriend and what could I do for her to make today better? | 1,251 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] 1year is moving away.
POST: My boyfriend is moving 3.5 hours away. To me and a lot of people I know this doesn't sound like a lot but I'm not so sure he is convinced.
He is moving this summer and although we have made some plans to go to events during the summer once he has moved, I'm still not certain he wants to do long distance.
Every time I want to talk about the future of our relationship I feel either brushed off or like I'm talking to the wall.
I'm not sure how to have a constructive conversation with how we will or will not deal with the distance. I know that until we are in it I can't know for sure if we will make it work, maybe it's too much for me to ask for reassurance about our relationship's future after the move.
The plan is for me to eventually end up 15 mins away from him to attend school in the next year. Not making this choice purely because of him but because of the programs available in this area.
Anyways I'm not sure really what I'm asking but I just want to see if I'm being ridiculous for feeling insecure. I've heard that in order for a long distance relationship to work that it needs to be discussed prior to, but I have no idea how I get him to open up about this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I get my boyfriend to open up about discussing the future of our relationship before he moves 3.5 hours away? | How do I get my boyfriend to open up about discussing the future of our relationship before he moves 3.5 hours away? | 1,560 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22M] fantasized about an ex while having sex with my current gf [22F] and now my brain associates my current gf's name with my ex's. What do I do?
POST: Hi guys, just wanted to know how I should go about handling this situation as it has really been bringing me down. My current gf and I have been dating about 7 months, and we have known each other for nearly a decade, and everything was peachy until recently. A few weeks ago my girlfriend and I were having sex and I fantasized about my old girlfriend. Ever since then, it's as if my brain can't distinguish the two as different people. Every time I say my current gf's name inside my head or picture her face, something in me brings up the name/face of my old flame.
I really love my current gf, she is everything that this ex was not: caring, loving, loyal, reliable, sweet, selfless. I will do absolutely anything to give us a happy ending and make these thoughts go away. They have started infiltrating the time we spend together now as well, not just when I'm alone. It's like I'm fighting with my own brain. I do not love my ex and there is no future with her, even if I was single I would never pursue her again due to all the lying, cheating, pain, and selfishness. I have discussed this with my current gf and she's been absolutely amazing and is holding my hand every step of the way. I just feel disgusted with myself for letting this past pain poison my present happiness.
So help me out r/relationships, how do I get back to seeing my gf without bringing my past into play?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fantasized about ex during sex, can't separate my current gf and ex within my mind despite them having very different character traits. | Fantasized about ex during sex, can't separate my current gf and ex within my mind despite them having very different character traits. | 2,484 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with my first (ex) girlfriend [23 F]. She just exited a serious LTR, and wants to meet for drinks.
POST: So, some background: We dated through high school for about a year. I enjoyed the time and so did she, I ended up breaking it off with her when I went to University. To my shame, we would meet up after we had broken-up to hook-up. This continued for at least as long as we dated. We never actually had sex, in fact and this is probably the strangest thing, we would make out, and I would take off her clothes and finger her, but was too self-conscious to let her touch me. I enjoyed it physically, but I think I could feel her pretty much emotionally break apart as this went on. Things did not end amicably during this period.
Fast forward to today, I got a Facebook message from said girl, we'll call her Shelby. She has just (been) broken up with (by) someone a week ago. I'm not really sure of the details. We talked a little bit, and I explained I was really focused on school, business and several projects, and that I wasn't interested in dating or looking for love. She suggests we hang out, and I feel like in a bit of desperation, I've agreed to meet her tomorrow night for drinks.
I can't help but feel like I'm some sort of bandaid, and given our history, I feel like drinks will lead immediately to a hook-up relationship. Has anyone had any good experiences with this? I want to develop healthy relationships and I feel that if I allow this to sink into a hook-up I'm going to disqualify myself from much healthier relationships. Advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Opportunity to finally sleep with first girlfriend, but I feel that it might not be the best idea. Questions, comments, snide remarks? | Opportunity to finally sleep with first girlfriend, but I feel that it might not be the best idea. Questions, comments, snide remarks? | 3,415 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 2 months and am having second thoughts about it
POST: I've been dating my boyfriend for two months now. We started dating a month after we started talking, and at the beginning it was rough because it was summer after college and we were both home, not being able to see each other for a few months. After coming back for school (a few weeks now), I realized that being together isn't all that great. I feel like we having nothing to talk about, differences in humor, he's prone to "teasing me" (makes jokes about acne, weight, etc.) that became increasingly irritating. I don't actually feel like I like him emotionally, but since I've never been in a relationship before, I can't tell if this is just me being too picky and having high expectations. Should I break it off, or is 2 months of dating too short to really know if I "like" someone? I mean, when we're being nice and actually talking and laughing, I feel great, but other time, I have to constantly ask myself if I'm actually enjoying the relationship or just wasting my time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dating for two months, not sure if I like the guy. Too early to tell, or should I break it off? | Dating for two months, not sure if I like the guy. Too early to tell, or should I break it off? | 575 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I was wondering if anyone has an unused Bulletstorm Epic Edition code that they are willing to part with...
POST: I bought Bulletstorm when it came out and I got the code for the bonus Epic Edition content, including the Gears of War 3 Beta. Well, a friend of mine really, really, really loves Gears but he was unable to purchase the game due to money issues. I was willing to part with my code to give to him, but apparently a friend of mine who was over my house decided to enter the code so now mine is already used and I can't give it to my other friend. So what I'm asking is if someone has a code that they received with the game that they would be willing to give to me so that I could give it to my good friend. If anyone is up for it, I would be very appreciative and so would my friend. Thanks a bunch in advance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm asking if someone can give me an unused Bulletstorm Epic Edition Code so that my friend can play the Gears 3 Beta. | I'm asking if someone can give me an unused Bulletstorm Epic Edition Code so that my friend can play the Gears 3 Beta. | 6,197 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not changing the place holder text on my Girlfriends website
POST: Hello, this is my first TIFU here and I know it's not the best but here we go!
So my girlfriend recently transfered to a new school and she is trying to fit in with the new class mates and teachers.
Her IT teacher asks if anyone is interested in composing a team to build and present a web site at the nation wide IT contest. The contest starts regional and goes national and has multiple categories (web design, web apps, programming, multimedia, etc.)
She has no knowledge and asks me (a programmer) to help her out with it and teach her a few things.
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I make a website and give her some basic knowledge on how everything works, she is happy I am happy.
I build the website in a day and show it off, it works ok, not much to talk about.
I have 3 placeholder buttons, one is a to google, the other two have POOP and PISS written on them.
Well, she copies the website's directory folder to her flash drive and goes to school, I too go to school.
She calls me up 1 hour before the end of my class we talk a little, she is all cool but wants to talk (ok?).
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I go home and she tells me that she presented the website today and asked me what kind of silly stuff I wrote on the website.
My answer: Just HTML 5 and CSS 3 honey...why?
GF: Think again...
Me: *the think machine un-jams* OW SHIT! I FORGOT I SWEAR I FORGOT
*home violence insues* (not really)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | TIFU by leaving 2 buttons that read POOP and PISS on my GFs website that she presented to her teacher. | TIFU by leaving 2 buttons that read POOP and PISS on my GFs website that she presented to her teacher. | 4,049 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Coworker won't talk to me after I called in sick
POST: Title gives the gist, here's the devil in the details. I work at a sort of vocational school. If you are sick, you're supposed to call it in. That's because they need to find a substitute instructor or just postpone the class. Well, one morning I woke up, felt like crap, and called the office. The person I talked to actually wasn't in admin but is one of my colleagues. Why she was answering the phones, I don't know. As she was asking me questions about not coming in to work (feel like I'm gonna puke, don't think its a good idea for me to speak in front of office executives) when suddenly--I puke. On the phone. So she quickly relayed my condition to the staff, they need to get a sub trainer pronto.
I have laryngitis and some kind of flu. As soon as I can start talking and I don't feel like my insides are on fire, I email the office to let them know I am coming to work that day.
This coworker sits in the cubicle next to me. I apologize to her and tell her how embarrassed I was she had to deal with all on the phone. But she doesn't even look at me or acknowledge I am there.
Normally, I'd say 'eff it' and get back to work. However, she is a nice person and we often chat because we sit together. We are work colleagues and professional but also have a civil relationship. No romance, we like to keep the chit chat to work stuff-great. But that is out the window apparently.
Help me, reddit! What can I do or say to at least get things back on track and we can make dumb jokes at our other coworkers expense?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Coworker who is usually chatty got to hear me get sick on the phone and won't talk to me now that I'm back. | Coworker who is usually chatty got to hear me get sick on the phone and won't talk to me now that I'm back. | 2,565 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I am sick and tired of having to deal with my severely depressed and sometimes seemingly suicidal friend.
POST: My friend, lets call him Dude, has been dealing with depression (undiagnosed but I know for sure it is, he just refuses to see a doctor or tell his family) For almost a year now he has been doing nothing but complaining and whining about the same three things, every day.
No matter what I say to him he never stops complaining.
He is in love with a mutual friend,obsessive, unhealthy love, and she doesn't feel the same way at ll. This drives him crazy and makes him question his entire life. Every few months they they a huge fight because she gets tried of saying no and trying to explain how she doesn't have the same feelings towards him and this causes him to break down and question living. Its the same thing, every time, every few months and I am so damn tired of having to repeat the same things over and over.
He one of my best friends, but Im at my wits end here. I cant keep doing this wash rinse repeat bullshit that he puts himself and everyone around him through.
He refuses to seek help or tell his family how he feels. I have a bunch of texts from him explaining how he wants to kill himself and how he keeps thinking of new ways. I have them saved, but he thinks I have deleted them. If he continues to refuse help and get deeper into his depression Im going to show his parents the texts.
I just cant keep doing this anymore, I cant keep watching him destroy himself yet refuse to get help when its clear he needs it. I am respecting his wishes and not telling his parents or anyone else, but if this keeps up and he seems to be getting closer to harming himself Im going to tell his parents.
This has been building up for a year now, I just need to get this off my chest.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friend is depressed yet wont seek help and repeats the same cycle over and over again and I cant deal with watching him anymore. | My friend is depressed yet wont seek help and repeats the same cycle over and over again and I cant deal with watching him anymore. | 97 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: The rest of my family is pretty overweight...I'm not sure how to tell them I want to lose weight.
POST: This has been a problem for me ever since I started wanting to lose weight - I started taking birth control and gained weight back to my highest, which really is only 30 pounds over my GW and technically not even overweight.
My mother, father, and sister are all overweight - my sister unfortunately did not get my genes, and has been this way all our lives despite eating basically exactly the same as I did. My mother has been overweight my entire life. My father as well, though even more-so now that he's getting well into his 50s.
Whenever I want to tell my family that I want to lose weight, I feel guilty, almost ashamed. All I can think is that I'm insulting them. I'm 'the pretty one' according to my sister, my mother has tried to diet and has failed, and going to them, saying I want to lose 30 pounds when I'm technically not even overweight (I'm relatively close - 5 or 10 more pounds would do it) feels like a slap in the face. I love my family. I don't want them to feel like I'm judging them. My sister is gorgeous. My parents are wonderful, beautiful people. I would like to have their support, but I don't think I can ask for it. My father, especially, wouldn't give up junk food if I asked them to do it with me...and asking them to do it with me feels like an even bigger slap in the face. Like my own weight loss goals are just a ploy to get them to eat healthier.
The problem is when I'm home, which will be really often soon, there's all kinds of junk in the house, and my mother hates to cook so will often want to opt for take out or order in stuff that's really high calorie. I'm worried it'll only make my weight loss harder.
My mother is really sensitive, and so is my sister. I'm kind of lost here.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My family is wonderful, but not necessarily fit. I want their support, but I don't want them to think that I think they're ugly and fat, because I don't. | My family is wonderful, but not necessarily fit. I want their support, but I don't want them to think that I think they're ugly and fat, because I don't. | 1,448 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [36 F] GF just broke up with me [36 M] over me not being upset with her?
POST: My GF and I have been dating for several months. Things have been going great. We're both divorced and have kids.
This weekend she was supposed to come to my mom's with me for my daughter's birthday party. She told me last night that she couldn't come. She wasn't sure she was ready to meet my mom and she needed money from teaching on Sunday that she couldn't be back for if she went.
I took it super in stride. I was really cool about it. I didn't get upset in the least. I was disappointed, sure, but didn't do or say anything to let it on. This morning I got up and left. She was trying to get me to talk about it and say that something was wrong. Nothing was wrong from my point of view! I was still going to have a great weekend and nothing was going to ruin that. It seemed silly to be upset.
Anyway, fast-forward a few hours, some texts, and she's breaking up with me. I guess she was just looking for a reason. It doesn't make any sense.
I was really trying to be positive and look at the good things happening in my life, ignoring the bad. Was trying to be mature in the relationship and accept disappointment gracefully. This apparently triggered her? I don't know.
Also I've bought her an appliance after one of hers failed and bought her groceries a dozen times at least. I've spent a lot of money on her and have been generous because I know she doesn't have a lot of money and I'm doing fine financially. Now she's worried I'm going to keep the keyboard she loaned my daughter. She's texting me about it non-stop about how she needs to get that back ASAP. It's really offensive.
Wanted to tell the story. Feels bad man.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF Broke up with me because I'm not upset with her for disappointing me. Accuses me of wanting to steal from her after I've given her a ton of money. Feels bad man. | GF Broke up with me because I'm not upset with her for disappointing me. Accuses me of wanting to steal from her after I've given her a ton of money. Feels bad man. | 6,413 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [UK] I [27/m] have have separated from my girlfriend [24/f] but we have a house. How do I proceed?
POST: I decided to end things with my girlfriend after our relationship broke down. However we have a house and a mortgage and a joint account. I want to know how to proceed. I'll give some details:
We bought the house in February from her parents. It cost us just shy of £130K and the mortgage is approx. £550 a month. There are no outstanding jobs that need doing to the maintenance of the house (just yet). The house has 3 bedrooms and a driveway. (Not sure if all of these details are necessary but you always get someone who seems to need to know!)
We currently pay all of the bills as well as our fuel costs from a joint account. We also have our own personal accounts, as well as another locked joint account that we have to sign together to withdraw from. All our accounts are with NatWest, except her personal account that is with HSBC.
The way I see it, we have both have a right to the house, and I am not bitter enough to make her leave. But I also refuse to leave. This is my house too and I have put in lots of work already. If it should come down to her wanting me to leave, what are my rights? And where can I find our about this kind of thing?
Thanks for any advice you can give me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF and I have split up. we have a house. I want to know the proper channels through which to sort this mess out. | GF and I have split up. we have a house. I want to know the proper channels through which to sort this mess out. | 5,770 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] have been dating 5 years and I'm unsure if she's "the one"
POST: Hey r/relationships. As the title states my gf and i have been together 5 years. we live together and have a dog. day to day things are fine but we have both noticed over the past few weeks or months it seems like we are more like room mates than in a relationship.
I dont know that we are on the same page as far as future plans. we have talked about marriage and kids etc etc but i just dont have "the feeling" that i think i should that she is "the one". she is at the point where she needs more commitment (or the promise of it) or its a waste of our time.
It would be fair to say that she shows more love than i do her. in the past ive attributed that to being distracted/stressed with school and everything else but now that im out of that stage of my life im not sure. I do love her but i'm not sure if thats a result of living and being together so long or if its because she actually is the one. I'm not sure how it works but i feel like after 5 years if it was meant to be I would know.
I'm probably answering my own question as I type but i just continue to go back and forth between knowing that i do love her and want the best for her and the fact that we are not on the same page and that if i had to decide today, I am not ready.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm not sure if my gf of 5 years is "the one", and at this point a decision needs to be made one way or another. | I'm not sure if my gf of 5 years is "the one", and at this point a decision needs to be made one way or another. | 3,773 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Mental support for my brother (possibly schizophrenic)
POST: Reddit. I'm in an emotional clussterfuck. Apologies for formatring, I'm on mobile. I need advice in helping save my brother from abandonment, and probably homelessness. A little background;
He's 30 years old, diagnosed schizophrenic by BHR, and they have changed his medications more times than I can remember. I'm almost a decade younger than he is, and have grown up seeing him hospitalized, do large amounts of drugs, be arrested, have multiple restraining orders, etc. Here's the thing, he gets paranoid, feels sick from his meducarion, and stops taking it. That's what causes episodes. My sister doesn't think it's schizophrenia, having been only a year apart from him. He lives with my parents, and I have personally been in a physical altercation with him. When I was, he pinned me down to beat my face in and stopped the moment I said "(name), you don't want to hurt me". I know, from growing up with him, that he is lonely and he suffers. His best friend shot himself when they were in high school and I know he hadn't been the same since. He was molested as a child and has been through a lot. Yesterday my mother called me to let me know that they have a restraining order on him because they do not feel safe with him there (He has probably not taken medication in a couple months and stole all of the knives, been weird, had fights). We don't know where he is, but court is on the 22nd and I don't know what will happen to him. BHR has been a nightmare and he's been on the waiting list with them to get an apartment for ages. He has been suffering a root canal for months and is also on a waiting list for removal. He started smoking to dull the pain. There's so much more to it, and my sister and I spent last night crying and drinking because we are entirely helpless. We don't want to see him on the street. Here's where I'm asking for advice. Are there any known programs or groups that can help us get him on his feet? We're almost certain he's homeless now and he doesn't have a cell phone with data or minutes.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | brother needs mental help and I am helpless. I need to find out if there is an organization other than BHR to help. | brother needs mental help and I am helpless. I need to find out if there is an organization other than BHR to help. | 4,866 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [18/M] leave my perfect girlfriend [19/F] because I don't want to be tied down (metaphorically)?
POST: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year now, and my fears of commitment have been growing even since we got together. I know we're both young and teenagers feel like they'll be together forever, but we have not had a single fight. Ever.
When we first got together, it was just about "getting some". As time passed, however, we found that we were perfect together. We share the same interests, personality, and we still have enough difference to make it interesting. Most of you might be asking yourselves "where's the problem?".
Well, most people get married when they're older. They go through life, getting experience, learning stuff, meeting new people, and having some good stories to tell when they're at the bar with their friends. Instead of going out and meeting people, me and my girlfriend are happy to stay at home watching movies and eating pizza. If I let myself be happy (short-term) I could be trapped in a long-term relationship (love) that would deny me these experiences. I want to be single again.
Then I look at all the older people, (like some on this Reddit) that are looking for EXACTLY what I have. If I abandon my girlfriend now, I could come crawling back five depressing years from now, only to find her with another guy. That's a horrible thought.
So, I need help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Found the perfect girl: Too soon. I still want to experience the world. Should I break up? (or is ignorance bliss?) | Found the perfect girl: Too soon. I still want to experience the world. Should I break up? (or is ignorance bliss?) | 3,452 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by wearing my underwear
POST: So I work as a swim teacher, and this morning I had an early shift. I also worked yesterday so I had to hang my swim clothes to dry. I wake up, go outside, pick up all my swim clothes, go back inside, I take off my pants and undies and proceed to put on my work shorts when I feel a strange sensation on my left butt cheek. I'm really confused as to what it was because it hurt way too much for a thorn that might have gotten stuck in my clothes. At this point the pain gets stronger and stronger and I'm like what did I just do to warrant this pain?? I pull back my shorts a little and I see this little fuzz-WHAT THE FUCK THERE'S A BEE IN MY SHORTS. Fast forward a few hours after I've finished work: I got stung twice, and I still didn't kill that bugger although I don't know whether it was a yellow jacket or a honey bee so it could be dead already. Thankfully I wasn't allergic to bee stings because 15 minutes after that I was in the pool...longest 5 hours of my life. I suppose my consolation is that I wore my shorts right way around or I'd be in the hospital I imagine.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I put on my swim shorts without looking inside and I got stung by a bee..on my ass...twice. Check your clothes guys. | I put on my swim shorts without looking inside and I got stung by a bee..on my ass...twice. Check your clothes guys. | 5,972 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 22M with 20F GF, with a 18 month old child dated 3 years.
POST: I'm going to keep this as short as possible, basically my girlfriend of 3 years moved out of our house together about 2 weeks ago and took our son back to where she is from (about 3 hours). The reason she did this is because I technically cheated. I took another girl on a date when we were arguing, but she knows nothing physical happened.. but she said that still eats her inside even though it was 4 months ago.
I've been trying to convince her that I want to be a better father and boyfriend to her since she decided to leave two weeks ago. She says she still loves me but says she has "no desire or will" to make things work. What is the best thing I can do to change her mind? She has had my son 2 weeks and I get him for the next 2 weeks this weekend and I am hoping that she will miss us and come home but I'm not sure what to do without constantly bothering her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can I give my ex the will or desire to make things work if she doesn't want to give me a chance?. | How can I give my ex the will or desire to make things work if she doesn't want to give me a chance?. | 2,137 |
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