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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [23 M] trying to spend Thanksgiving break alone to complete the final, hardest part of my taper of a physically dependent prescription. My family refuses to accept any excuses and is suggesting consequences if I don't show up.
POST: I was prescribed Klonopin daily a few months back, and quitting them is extremely difficult. It's not a surprise, but I'm trying to make the final transition from a small dosage, to none.
Doing this at my job severely effects my work ability, which is unacceptable for it being my dream job out of college, and only a month in. Being around my family would not only have to stop my taper, but possibly even set me back by having to increase it, due to the high amounts of socializing expected at the family events.
My family does not ~~approve of~~ understand medicine, and the suggestion of having to "taper" off something would have them label me as a drug addict, they simply do not understand medications, I know this from past experiences.
My only excuse right now is that my girlfriend's dad is upset that I haven't met him before me and her move in together (true, and understandable, but that's another issue), and that I'll be spending Thanksgiving with her family instead to meet them (not true).
They are extremely upset, especially that I've given them such short notice. I would have told them sooner if I had realized how difficult this last tapering section would be, and the risk of being set back at the family events.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Do I have any options in this situation? Spending Thanksgiving alone is the best possible thing for my long term situation and health, but it could be very damaging for my relationship with my parents. How can I approach this? | Do I have any options in this situation? Spending Thanksgiving alone is the best possible thing for my long term situation and health, but it could be very damaging for my relationship with my parents. How can I approach this? | 2,378 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my ex girlfriend [17 F] of 3 months, broke up yesterday. She then began to cut again.
POST: My girlfriend of 3 months and I broke up yesterday. It was an okay relationship but had its downs and that's why it ended. Some backstory, we started dating this summer just for the heck of it. She gave me her secrets and I gave her mine like most couples do. One of them was very dark and something that haunts me even. She was molested at a very young age and still has nightmares about it. Her way of getting over it was to cut. You would never ever guess she was the kind of person who does that.
So she hasn't been cutting for a solid two years. That was good and I was supportive of her in the whole thing. This week however, things got rocky. I wanted different things and I'm not really feeling up to dating anymore and was starting to show a lack of interest. I told her that I want to end this and she didn't take it well at all.
She was very distraught over it and kept saying how she wanted to stay together. I however told her that I just can't in my own self interest. She understood, I told her I was here for her to talk and that if she needed someone, that she can come to me. I left it at that and had a nice night with some friends.
So fast forward to this morning. I wake up, take my daily run, and get a haircut. Then I get a message. Turns out that my ex started cutting herself last night. This leaves me at a very tough spot. She says it's not because of me but I don't believe that for a second. I promised to her that I wouldn't tell anyone but also made her promise she would get help. I'm really not sure what to think or do right now and any advice would be great. Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up with girlfriend of 3 months, she started cutting again after two years of not doing it. Now I'm not sure what to do. | Broke up with girlfriend of 3 months, she started cutting again after two years of not doing it. Now I'm not sure what to do. | 5,786 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend (26m) did nothing for our 4 year dating anniversary. Am I (25f) overreacting by being hurt over this?
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. He is not always the most socially aware person but he's a good person and I know he cares about me. Nonetheless, he tends to be a bit distant from me sometimes and it hurts my feelings.
Yesterday was our anniversary. We are in his home state staying with his mom for a short vacation. We went out to a concert with friends two nights ago and then decided to drive back to his mom's city a night early instead of staying to see another band. This meant we would be going to see one of his favorite sports teams on our anniversary rather than going to a concert (which I personally would enjoy more) or out to eat. I'm not a fan of this sport but I've gone with him to games before and I don't mind going, nor did I mind going this time.
Nonetheless. He treated it like any other day. Barely talked to me (we went with two of his friends, a guy and his fiancée). I paid for a lot of our food and such because I wanted him to have a good time. I even bought him a jersey as a gift. He was thankful but still aloof.
After the game we went back to his friends' house to hang out for a while. Around 11:30 I asked to come back home since we had been up til 4am the night before and I am now pretty sick with a cold. He seemed irritated and made me wait another hour.
This morning he got up again at 8 and left to go watch soccer with his same friend, so I've been laying here trying to not be sick.
I guess I feel disappointed. I'm not asking for much. I didn't want a gift and I didn't have a problem going to the game or hanging out with his friends... It just would have been nice if he told me he loved me or something?
Right now I feel pretty unloved and kind of like crying, but I'm sick so I can't tell if I'm overreacting. Help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend basically ignored me all day during our anniversary and seemed indifferent to me. Am I overreacting by being hurt by this? | Boyfriend basically ignored me all day during our anniversary and seemed indifferent to me. Am I overreacting by being hurt by this? | 380 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M/F] with my friend [20 F] 5 years. We used to text everyday and suddenly she stopped texting me back.
POST: A little background: I am not very social and she is. Never dated each other and did not want to. We were almost immediately great friends. I have always been nice to her and supported her in the things she has done.
My friend, let's call her Blake, and I used to text everyday from the beginning of freshmen year of high school until our first semester in college. When I say everyday I honestly mean everyday. We would talk about a large range of topics (class to very personal stuff). Then, on some random day, she stopped replying to me and has never contacted me again. I have wished her happy holidays, birthday, etc and nothing. Really I just want opinions on why this may be. I guess I just miss having that really close friend that I could talk to about anything.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My closest and best friend initiated radio silence and has cut all contact with me and I just want to why or what I can do to get over it. | My closest and best friend initiated radio silence and has cut all contact with me and I just want to why or what I can do to get over it. | 3,691 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (15M) was wondering if she (15F) is interested in me
POST: So I've known this girl (let's call her Liz) for about 3 years. Recently I've noticed that Liz has been giving me a little more attention I guess. We don't have any classes together so I only see her on the bus, where we actually met, and before and after school. Whenever I'm on the bus Liz always seems super happy to see me and always wants to sit next to me. Then when she sits down she asks how I'm doing and if I'm going to swim practice. I respond, ask her how she's doing, and so on (she laughs at my jokes and stuff a lot too.) After we have been taking for a bit she gets really close to me. She leans on me and her face is up on mine. I know that physical contact is a sign of someone being interested, but I'm not sure if she's just thinks of me as a friend. We get off the bus, walk together to the school and join our group of mutual friends. It's pretty much the same routine on the bus ride home, except she says goodbye. Is Liz interested in me? I have very little experience so I would be glad to listen to any advice you guys have.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl showing signs of affection, (Lots of physical contact, happy to see me, likes to talk to me) is she interested? | Girl showing signs of affection, (Lots of physical contact, happy to see me, likes to talk to me) is she interested? | 4,626 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I (26F) am so into him (24M) but I fear I may have effed up somehow.
POST: background: we were acquaintances through mutual friends since about the spring. I remember seeing him just before being introduced and instantly finding him very attractive. I'm not sure if other women think that about him often; it's quite hard to tell. He's more the bookish, cerebral type.
[Less Important Background: One night almost two months ago he came long for drinks with dome of us, and I felt great chemistry alongside a really good conversation.. did I mention he's really, really smart? I was officially smitten.
But a number of small issues, and my own shyness, seemed to get in the way of my contacting him after that except to confirm his fb friend request (cue fb-related cringe). ]
Skip ahead to last weekend, and after asking the roommate about our plans he comes to join our little soiree and stays quite a while after the other guests leave.
The next day he was quite eager to join me on *my* plans for the evening; I ended up joining him at his friend's house which by then was hosting only four of us. More fairly awesome, intelligent conversation, most of it only between the two of us. We walked most of the way home together until we had to go our separate ways, hugged, and that was it.
I remember being just a little surprised that he hadn't tried to kiss me by the way things had been going, and I really hope I didn't reveal that I half expected that, since he seems like a bit of the opposite of the fast-moving type and not the kind of person to act on any assumptions of my feelings.
I left feeling happy, attracted, and more, well, respected by a potentially interested straight guy than I had by lots of others, since he hadn't ever resorted to any typical, well, attempted-subtle 'dude' moves or patronizing and had just been seemed so earnest.
A few brief messages were exchanged the next day, but a couple days ago when I mustered up the guts to casually invite him along to a movie, he was 'tied up' and I haven't heard a peep since.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | He really did seem interested, just very respectful. But then he declined my invitation a couple days later and I haven't heard anything since. Sigh. | He really did seem interested, just very respectful. But then he declined my invitation a couple days later and I haven't heard anything since. Sigh. | 1,144 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [22/M] told me it turned him off. I'm [22/f] Read below.
POST: I texted him and told him that I'm scared of giving birth (I'm not pregnant lol, its just a saying) because it hurts a lot when I poop and I'm on a period. It sounds gross but it wasn't too detailed. He asked me why I said it and said he will find me less attractive for saying it. Also, he said that he will never see me in a sexual way whenever it comes to sex. I got hurt when I heard that and thought he went too far. Do you agree as well? I don't know. I don't think what he did was right.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My bf said he will find me less attractive for saying gross thing. Don't you think that's a bit too far? Any thoughts? | My bf said he will find me less attractive for saying gross thing. Don't you think that's a bit too far? Any thoughts? | 6,389 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Need advice on pursuit of guy or just leave it alone?
POST: So I'll try to make this short and sweet but no promises. a few months back I (17f) went to a musical and saw a guy from around the various activities. Remembering him, I looked him up on facebook and friended him only to find out that we're pretty much the same person, same likes, same activities, and a mutual friend. I thought that was pretty cool and didn't give it another thought for a while. A few weeks ago at a speech tournament the mutual formally introduced me to him, and I honestly don't even know what happened. I could barely form a sentence , my face flushed, it was almost scary. I decided that I really wanted to go for it.
Later on I got home and contacted him through facebook, and we talked about some stuff we did for school and whatnot. I ended up inviting him to a local play and the conversation ended. About a week later, while being upset about trying to find a prom date, I suddenly got up the courage to ask him out, so I did... As easily predicted he said no, that he was flattered and kudos to me for having the balls but we don't know each other whatsoever. Anyway I still think that maybe I can do something because I'm weird like that, but I was wondering the ladies' input on this kind of thing.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have the hots for a guy I barely know (and evidently so does my psyche) and I'm not sure how to proceed after blowing it. | I have the hots for a guy I barely know (and evidently so does my psyche) and I'm not sure how to proceed after blowing it. | 6,260 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (17f) self esteem hasn't been great after my bf (18m) cheated on me how do I stay positive?
POST: I guess I should say that I'm not constantly sad or anything even now I know my life is actually great compared to a lot of people's I just need a better mindset, so I'm not getting sad as much.
My bf of two years has cheated on me twice now with his ex that used to constantly harass me, threaten me, and even now ruin my self esteem to the point it's kind of in a pit just by being near me. I don't know why I let her effect me so much shes not cuter than me and I'm definitely better person to her, but no matter what whenever she's near I have this feeling of dread, and panic and constantly compare myself to her.
Why haven't I broken up with him? Honestly sometimes I'm not sure he really is sweet, he helps me keep from feeling alone, and I really do love him! But he doesn't text me at all when he's with his friends, which means all the time, he never wants to do anything with me aside from staying home and sleeping (I love cuddles but when he constantly talks about his adventures with his friends and then never wants to take one with me because "there is nothing to do" it makes me feel like I'm only there for when he's too tired to hang out with friends) and he's constantly hiding stuff from me. I know it's crap and I've tried to before, but I just get a strong feeling of dread and I just can't do it.
I know my friends love me and I hang out with someone maybe once, twice a week but it's never in a group and I'm always jealous of people that can have groups of people together like that and hanging out and stuff.
I guess I just want to find stuff that will improve my self esteem, and maybe help me figure out what to do with my bf.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Self esteem has dropped to an all new low after bf cheated, but at the same time I don't want to leave him. | Self esteem has dropped to an all new low after bf cheated, but at the same time I don't want to leave him. | 5,260 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (23M) can't tell if I really like my boyfriend (24M) or am just in the relationship for the attention/or afraid to be alone.
POST: So, I've been dating this guy for about 4 months now, the entire relationship has been long distance since the beginning due to different paths having us across the country. He's extremely gungho in the relationship, sends me care packages and texts me daily. I do things for him as well when I'm able to when time permits. We see each other about once a month but are never alone, he's either visiting friends and also visit me. Or work doesn't permit me to see him by myself.
We've never had sex either, mostly just foreplay in very odd situations. The other day I finally asked for us to open the relationship, it's something I wanted from the beginning but decided to do a monogamous, long distance relationship. He told me that he expects me to be 100% in or I'm not in at all but that he is okay with the idea of an open relationship. I don't know how to respond to that ultimatum. I like him but I don't know if I really like him enough to continue a relationship with him. This is my first relationship and his second.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been dating a guy, I want an open relationship and he's okay with it but I don't know if I just like the idea of him as a safety net or not. | Been dating a guy, I want an open relationship and he's okay with it but I don't know if I just like the idea of him as a safety net or not. | 74 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25M] with my ex-boyfriend [25M], he is texting me to tell me about the people he is planning to sleep with this weekend
POST: I just need to get this off my chest.
I dated my ex for about 6 months before my kidneys failed and I had to start dialysis (11 months ago). I told him that my first priority was myself for the time being, and didn't think I could really commit to a serious relationship. We hooked up a few times after, but while I was on dialysis, I felt really self-conscious (I had a tube coming out of my stomach) and was generally pretty tired and not that interested in sex.
We stayed pretty close, and I had a kidney transplant 2 weeks ago so I should hopefully be returning to some form of normalcy soon. Before I had my transplant, he told me he didn't want to put any pressure on me, but he would like to continue the relationship when I was better if that's what I want to as well. In any event, he said he at least wanted to stay close friends. I still really love him and do want to pick things back up, and I told him that.
But tonight, he started texting me that he was going to sleep with another guy (including sending a picture of the guy), and then told me he is planning to have a threesome tomorrow night with two really attractive guys.
Am I being too sensitive? I don't really care if he sleeps with other people right now, but I don't want to hear about it. I just don't understand why he would tell me this, or if he was just leading me on a few weeks ago when he said he would like to continue the relationship. I understand it's kind of a weird situation so I don't want to be too judgmental of him. Should I just tell him I don't want to hear about this? It just seems kind of insensitive.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ex-boyfriend and I talked about picking up relationship when I recover from a kidney transplant, but tonight he started texting me about other guys he is going to sleep with this weekend. Am I justified being upset? | ex-boyfriend and I talked about picking up relationship when I recover from a kidney transplant, but tonight he started texting me about other guys he is going to sleep with this weekend. Am I justified being upset? | 1,531 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [25/f] can't get over my boyfriend's [26/m] past
POST: First of all, I know that it's not a great idea to get too hung up on your SO's exes. I've heard all of the things like "he chose to be with you/is with you now which means that even if you think his ex is perfect, she must not have been." which logically makes sense... but my brain won't seem to accept it. let me also clarify that my relationship right now is my first "normal" long term relationship. even after a year into the relationship I can't get over the feeling that I might be getting compared to the ex and that I might not be as good as she was. I'm intensely curious about my SO and his ex's relationship. they had met as exchange students in another country and were together for that year and in an LDR for about a year and a half afterwards. Something about the LDR part of their relationship has me worried that maybe they only broke up because of the distance and not because they stopped having feelings for each other. I have also seen pictures of his ex and I look very similar to her. That used to worry me slightly in the beginning of our relationship because I thought that maybe he was only interested in me because I reminded him of her. My SO doesn't actually give me any reason to be feeling this way, but I think it might be my insecurities that are fueling these thoughts. He's been pretty open about her when I ask but I've also been pretty shy to ask about his past... I don't want to be that kind of a girlfriend. I haven't told any of my worries to my SO because I have always been kind of "cool" when he does mention ex-girlfriends. I think it would be a very big and ugly surprise for him to know how I actually feel about it. When I step back and try to look at the situation logically, it doesn't make sense at all and I know I'm being silly. But I've always been an overthinker and sometimes I just can't get the thoughts out of my head. Is there anything I can do to keep from slipping into these really bad thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my brain won't let me stop thinking unsolicited thoughts about my SO's ex girlfriend and I can't make it stop | my brain won't let me stop thinking unsolicited thoughts about my SO's ex girlfriend and I can't make it stop | 4,494 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I 21[f] met a 21[f] a bit over a month ago at a party, we fooled around and have started hanging out a ton, but she is still sleeping with her ex...
POST: Okay so I'm going to try and explain the entire situation with enough detail, if anything more is needed please ask.
So I met this girl about 5-6 weeks ago just after Halloween weekend. We met through mutual friends and we all went to a party together. We IMMEDIATELY hit it off and by the end of the night we were making out and feeling on each other.
So over the past 5 weeks or so we have been hanging out a ton and have become pretty close. Now the first two weeks we had fooled around a bit, but she had started to kinda back off. So she is completely open to me and she tells me that she is still fucking her ex boyfriend. Keep in mind that we have not had sex yet. And they had been fucking before we met.
Now she claims that the only reason she is still having sex with him is because "it's easy" and they are "best friends". I won't go into details of their break up, but from what she's told me I really think that they need to stop sleeping together.
She's told me that she just wants to be friends FOR NOW. I guess I'm kind of just stuck and I don't want to do. I know I should just let her and her ex boyfriend thing play out, but I am really starting to like her and I think the longer I wait on trying anything then she will start to only see me as a friend if I haven't already.
I want to talk to her straight up and we have a couple of times, but I'm just not sure what to say or do. I like her but it seems like she is still attached to her ex so I'm really not sure what to do.
Any advice? Also please ask for anymore details
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a girl through mutual friends, hit it off and fooled around at a party, want to take things further but she is still fucking her ex, what should I do? | Met a girl through mutual friends, hit it off and fooled around at a party, want to take things further but she is still fucking her ex, what should I do? | 614 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is friendship possible after break up?
POST: My [28 M] girlfriend [29 F] of 4 years broke up with me in February citing personal problems (mental issues) and the need for space and time to work things out, though she said she would like us to come back sometime.
I accepted it because our relationship was going downhill and we're in good therms.
At first she tried to stay in touch almost hourly, but I asked for silence to get used to her absence, now we text eachother weekly.
If nothing else, I really want us to be friends in the future because I really care for her and because I do need her friendship.
But I'm affraid that things cool down way too much and that we're unable to connect again.
How much time should I wait?
What kind of contact should I keep?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up on good therms two months ago, going through some light silent phase but would really like us to stay friends. Is it possible? Or is the silence going to cool things down irreversibly? | Broke up on good therms two months ago, going through some light silent phase but would really like us to stay friends. Is it possible? Or is the silence going to cool things down irreversibly? | 5,617 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: If you have someone's address, how can you use it for some non-violent, non-aggressive revenge techniques?
POST: So, this guy asked me to write up an extensive Resume, Cover Letter and Selection Criteria Statment for him via an ad I posted online for CV writing services. I did the work and sent him the document at an agreed amount of $100. I should've been more careful, but ive never had problems before and trusted he would pay me. Anyway, he turned around after receiving the document saying he didn't like it and had had the work done by someone else, which is impossible as this was literally an hour after I emailed it too him. ANYWAY, I have his home address from his CV. What revenge techniques could I take. I want more annoying than aggressive. Can I sign him up to mailing lists etc. without getting myself in trouble?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy scammed me out of $100 for hours of writing work. I have his address. Give me some non-violent revenge tips. | Guy scammed me out of $100 for hours of writing work. I have his address. Give me some non-violent revenge tips. | 5,773 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I need to write a victim impact statement about being sexually assaulted from my ex boyfriend. Any tips? More info inside...
POST: We are both in High School yet, and when my ex boyfriend (Lets call him "Randy") and I started dating in mid September this last year, 2011. We were together a little over a month, so through October, but during that time he was extremely pushy about everything, and with everything. He couldnt keep his hands to himself, and was abusive physically and verbally. We would be sitting in the park nearby my house, and he would push me down onto the picnic, pin me there, and run his hands up my shirt and down my pants. I had a curfew to be home by, and wouldnt care, he'd keep me pinned on the table grinding his nasty body against mine. I would tell him I didnt want this to happen, that I wasnt comfortable, and he told me that if I didnt go along with it that he would spread word around that I was sleeping with all these different guys, that I was smokin' it up everyday, that I cheated on my past boyfriends with someone else, etc. So naturally I was scared to say anything against what he "wanted to do." Along with pinning me down, he would take my hand and force me to give him a handjob and would try to thrust my head down to give him a blowjob as well.
This happened on numerous occasions...I feel so guilty right now for not laying down ground rules and boundaries, and Im full of regret that had anything to do with him.
What scares me though is that this all happened in September-October 2011, and I just filed sexual harrassment against him last month or so. The reason I waited so long was because I was afraid to talk about it to anybody, I was constantly angry so I distanced myself from people. Until I finally opened up to one of my closest friends about what he did, and she suggested I file sexual assault.
So now I have to write a victim impact statement, and I was wondering if Reddit had any tips for doing that? I believe myself to be good with words, but I just want this to be the best possible so that (hopefully) something will be done.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex was a douchenozzle andcouldnt keep his hands to himself and I have to write a victim ipmact statement and need help to make it the best as possible. | My ex was a douchenozzle andcouldnt keep his hands to himself and I have to write a victim ipmact statement and need help to make it the best as possible. | 3,117 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by riding a bike with a broken seat that almost cut my balls off
POST: I was 9 years old and during a time my brother used to take me with him to spend the afternoon at his friend's house. There was this guy who had a house with a big ramp that goes to the garage (which was also the main floor of the house).We would ride a bike as fast as we could all the way down the ramp until the front tire hits a wall (not very clever I know, it was hell fun tho).
It turns that we only had this old bike with a broken seat - it didn't have anything covering it up, so the three tiny irons that work as the structure were exposed.
After riding the ramp a couple times I noticed that something went wrong. At that moment, I only noticed a small cut on my thigh. But I started to feeling that there was *something else* . I was afraid of finding out what actually happened and I was feeling really embarrassed to ask for help (I thought my brother's friends would make fun of me or something). So I stayed behind a small wall near the gate while they were playing on the street (I didn't have a plan, I don't know what I was doing lol). Then a neighbor sees me there, hiding and crying. She immediately tells my brother about it, I don't say what is going on so he takes me home. Once mom gets home I have to tell her. When she looks at it she got desperate and 30 min later I am at the emergency room getting 9 stitches on my scrotum.
I got a Y-shape scar.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was riding a bike with a broken seat all the way down a big ramp. I hit the wall and the seat cuts my sac. I got 9 stitches on it. | I was riding a bike with a broken seat all the way down a big ramp. I hit the wall and the seat cuts my sac. I got 9 stitches on it. | 1,350 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I need some help and advice: I was overpaid without my knowledge over 4 years ago and now they want it back + 180%
POST: It's not a whole lot of money, but as a mature student who is also working full time just to pay for tuition, it hurts. I was contacted by phone 1 month ago by a debt collection agency saying I owed $280.00. I was very surprised because I haven't been living in this country for 3.5 years (came back in February), and who it was owed to didn't make any sense. I held a contract over 4 years ago as a casual employee with the local government (library actually). I was working about 8-10 hours a week and liked the job. My contract ended normally and I was kept on the on-call list. I moved and left my contact information with my supervisor, including a telephone number and address to be reached at (incidentally I was going through a divorce and my previous address was given to my now ex-husband). My last day of work was December 30th 2006. According to them, I was over paid by 100$ on my last paycheck as a mistake (I didn't notice at the time, it was New Years and I was getting a divorce). I've spoken to two people in hr/payroll and they've both been rude, unsympathetic and unwilling to do anything except lower it 20$. I have no problem paying 100$ but paying an extra 180-160$ seems wildly excessive since this was by no means my fault, I was completely forthcoming and hadn't heard anything from them. They say that my information was never updated, and it was my responsibility to do so (which my supervisor never mentioned) so tough luck, I have to take on their 180$ mistake. The debt collecting agency is calling twice a week, I've had 2 pointless conversations with both a clerk and the manager of the section and I'm wondering how it's possible for a government organization to bully someone like this.
Help? Any advice would help. I obviously don't have funds to pay for a lawyer.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I worked for my local government, they mistakenly overpaid me and are trying to fuck me over for 180$ and they expect me to like it. | I worked for my local government, they mistakenly overpaid me and are trying to fuck me over for 180$ and they expect me to like it. | 2,128 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 F] broken up with boyfriend of two+ years. How do I fall out of love/ get over him?
POST: I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago. A few days later I decided I'd made a mistake and tried to get him back but after a solid bit of candid discussion, we finally decided (about an hour ago) that we both needed to move on. Although we'll probably remain friends.
This guy was my first everything: first love, first date, first kiss, first sex...I was preoccupied with the idea of him to varying degrees for most of the last three years, I really did love him...in a "do anything to make you happy", "always put myself last" kind of way that was, in retrospect, a bit naive. But in any event, he had a huge (I mean HUGE) impact on me as I transitioned into adulthood and not surprisingly, EVERYTHING reminds me of him now.
I'm naturally a VERY loyal person and with me love is really pretty permanent. I don't become disillusioned with old friends once we grow apart... I always cling on to my positive feelings for them. Which generally seems like a good trait. Except that now I have to figure out how to stop loving someone that I'm MADLY in love with, because I know if I don't I'll wind up sabotaging future possibilities/ relationships for both myself and my ex.
I've heard all the basic break up advice: "Work on yourself! Go to the gym! Do stuff you love! Socialize! Blah blah blahbittly blah..."
But that stuff doesn't seem like it would help me to get over him. Not really. Not well enough that I could go on to see him as a strictly platonic friend. So my question for you, oh relationship gods of reddit: How do you fall out of love with your ex??
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up after years of being very close to a guy who was my first everything... how the heck am I supposed to stop loving him so that I can start seeing him as a platonic friend and move on? | Broke up after years of being very close to a guy who was my first everything... how the heck am I supposed to stop loving him so that I can start seeing him as a platonic friend and move on? | 3,516 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (19m) I want advice about approaching strangers, in groups/ alone. I'll explain more...
POST: ...in the post! I like to think that i'm pretty charismatic most of the time, I'm a bit chubby but not threatening. So why is it hard for me to approach strangers in groups? Especially if i'm alone. Like if I go to a pool hall or something I won't talk to anybody unless someone approaches me. I play pool by myself a lot in school. I think i'd be really nice to make friends with people and anybody that I know would tell you that once I get to know you I'm anything but shy. Is this a regular thing?
I figure once I can approach people and groups as a friendly person I might be able to do it with the opposite sex after a while. Also I can do being introduced by a mutual friend but without a necessary cause (work, school, summer camp,etc) I cannot talk to unknown people. Finally doing this without seeming like a creeper would be nice too!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Help me talk to strangers individually and in groups as a friend so that I can talk to people that I might want to have sex with as easily. | Help me talk to strangers individually and in groups as a friend so that I can talk to people that I might want to have sex with as easily. | 2,889 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: My ex is retaliating, attempting to damage the livelihood of my friend with benefits (she is our mutual ex). I'd like to get her to stop.
POST: This is taking place in Austin, TX
FWB = Friend With Benefits
The ex is Alice. Our mutual ex, meaning we were all three dating before, and then because of reasons, there were breakups, and now it's just me and FWB named Clarissa. Ex deserves to be upset, but this behavior is inexcusable.
Just this past week, I gave up on being "friends" with this ex. She has been trying to convince me to break up with Clarissa for weeks now, and I finally gave up talking with her when she sent me with a falsified screenshot of a message (from Clarissa to Alice) implying something nefarious. I decided I was sick of the lies, and explained that I was no longer interested in staying in contact. I blocked her on every single digital communication medium I could (and her fake profile that she was using to get information from me). Clarissa has done the same.
Alice most recently called in to Clarissa's place of employment, and claimed that someone fitting her appearance was smoking weed in her car in the company parking lot. Alice then makes an anonymous Yelp post saying the same. Clarissa's management took her aside privately and asked for clarification, and all agreed that it looked like someone was deliberately making a personal attack on her, so she still has her job. The Yelp review has also already been taken down.
I need to know when I can decide that this sort of behavior constitutes legal recourse. Obviously, I can't take away Alice's ability to use a phone or internet. If I got an attorney involved, would they say "until she actually causes provable damage to someone physically or to their livelihood, you have no case?"
I'm not interested in retaliating. I already know that this individual thrives on getting a reaction out of people, and Clarissa and I are committed to not giving her the satisfaction.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex is trying to hurt me and FWB because she can't have her way. I just want her to stop. I will not retaliate. | Ex is trying to hurt me and FWB because she can't have her way. I just want her to stop. I will not retaliate. | 5,528 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My wife (32F) and I (37M) are in a tough patch. How can I still make Christmas special?
POST: My wife and I are a slump. We have baeen married 5 years and dated 3 before that and have two children (3 and 6 months) we are currently not being sexually intimate and this has led to resentment and strengthened my depression.
I am managing the illness with medication but sleeping in the same bed with my wife knowing I can't be close to her is often enough to trigger anxiety attacks.
We are constantly fighting, she tells me I am selfish, cruel, manipulative and a host of other things. I don't think I am, but I am definitely mentally ill so maybe I am.
Thing is, my wife loves Christmas but this year, with our troubles, new baby and a host of other stresses means she is hating every day. I want Christmas to be a joy for her like it used to be, but anything I do is called out for being an attempt at manipulation or I am accused of being underhand, like there is some great scheme to make her feel inferior. I just want her to enjoy this time of the year.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My marriage is in choppy waters but I still want to make Christmas special for my wife. Help me Obi Wan Kenobi, you're my only hope. | My marriage is in choppy waters but I still want to make Christmas special for my wife. Help me Obi Wan Kenobi, you're my only hope. | 4,635 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my [24 F] 3 years on and off relationship
POST: My girlfriend and I don't really know what to do. We've been together for a while, and are in love. At the beginning, I wasn't ready for a relationship, and I told her I might be interested in other girls. It wasn't really an open relationship, but I didn't say I was ready to commit, and we talked about that. There was an agreement to tell each other if we ever did anything with anyone else.
I didn't act on that urge I had, until she put pressure on me to be with her. The next few months I kept hooking up with people, and I was insecure, and her and I kept going back and forth.
Eventually I felt ready, and things started going better. But I made a few little mistakes, one of which, was kissing someone else. I had gotten used to doing that, before, and I was afraid of being committed, because my heart had been broken so hard in past relationships.
When I committed, she didn't trust me, but we stayed together, and a couple times, she acted out because she thought things were too good to be true, thought I was lying, and wanted to experience other guys, but only really wants to love me.
We got in a fight, and decided to break up, but started getting along, but there's not much trust there, from either of us. We know that we really care about each other, and we want to somehow end up together.
What should we do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been with my gf (I don't know what we are) for a while, and we broke up, because we realized some problems, mostly trust, but don't know how to fix them so that we can be together. | Been with my gf (I don't know what we are) for a while, and we broke up, because we realized some problems, mostly trust, but don't know how to fix them so that we can be together. | 3,512 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not locking the door to my flat
POST: This was a couple of years ago, approaching Christmas in 2012. I had a really bad habit of not locking the door to my flat, and had the idea that it might bite me in the arse one day.
So it was a Wednesday night, student night and me and the girlfriend were lying in bed. We could hear some goings on in the corridor but thought nothing of it really, it sounded like somebody had come back drunk and was having trouble getting into their flat. Eventually we hear a door close, it sounded quite close. The girlfriend turns to me and asks was it ours. I was sure it wasn't and so we ignored it.
Next thing we know, a girl wearing just a t-shirt and knickers walks into our bedroom. I jump out of bed and instruct her to leave, she instructs us to leave claiming that it's her flat. She then leaves our room and uses our toilet. (At this point I'm like, wtf I do?). Being a gentleman, I wait for her to finish her business, then tell her again to leave, block her from entering our kitchen/living room, she gets confrontational, and me, not wanting to touch that, do nothing to stop her going in there. Try a bit more to get her to leave, then call the police cause girl wearing next to nothing and clearly drunk is not a thing I want to tackle.
Me and the girlfriend then spend some time waiting for the police to arrive, in the meantime this girl eats some of the lunch I left out for taking to work, drinks some of my rum, then throws up all over the blinds. The police arrived a couple of hours later. I was left to clean up her sick.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Left door unlocked, drunk girl ate my lunch, drank my rum, puked on my blinds, didn't even get a threesome out of it. | Left door unlocked, drunk girl ate my lunch, drank my rum, puked on my blinds, didn't even get a threesome out of it. | 5,844 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm 32, husband is 35, and he has recently registered for several casual sex/fling websites.
POST: I'm 32, my husband is 35 (almost 36), and we've been married for 10 years. I have access to his e-mail because he gave me his password, but he must have forgotten that he gave me his password because he has recently registered for 4 or 5 of these "casual dating" websites. So far, he hasn't cheated (that I know of). I don't know what to do. He constantly says he loves me and we have a pretty good sex life. Do I confront him? Wait until he cheats? Get out now? I do LOVE him. I want to be with him and I want everything to be okay. Part of me thinks that if he hasn't cheated then I should just let it slide, but I know that I don't deserve this. I am lost.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband has registered for several dating/casual sex websites despite being happy married (or so I thought). I don't know what to do. | Husband has registered for several dating/casual sex websites despite being happy married (or so I thought). I don't know what to do. | 906 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can anyone be for the death penalty when trials (based on a jury) are never going to be fair and bring real justice?
POST: I watch lots of crime dramas and read lots of the news, so maybe my understanding is skewed, but as far as I know: A jury is selected, these are people from the public called forward to do jury duty. A lot of these people don't want to be there, they want to go back to doing their jobs or looking after their family, so that would bring me to the conclusion they don't necessarily care that much (of course some people take it seriously, but it only takes 1 not to...).
So how can this be fair? How can a jury of "normal" people who don't necessarily have any interested in being there and people who could be easily swayed by charisma be given the responsibility of deciding if someone is guilty?
Let's not forget how lawyers are different, a poor person could get a really shit lawyer who knows very little of what they do and represent the person poorly, or a rich person could get the best lawyer around. If both were charged with the same crime and the evidence was flaky, you can be pretty sure the rich guy will get off and the poor guy will be convicted, because representation matters a great deal.
How can people who agree with the Death Penalty think this is right? I would never really agree that the death penalty is *good* or *right*, but I could understand it **if** it was possible to be 100% sure of someone's guilt.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can anyone agree with the death penalty when the people relied on to form a decision aren't necessarily in the position to do so properly? How can anyone agree with the death penalty when the representation of the accused matters a huge deal? | How can anyone agree with the death penalty when the people relied on to form a decision aren't necessarily in the position to do so properly? How can anyone agree with the death penalty when the representation of the accused matters a huge deal? | 3,782 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Interaction with a professor during class: Should I be feeling bad about this?
POST: Some background about the class etiquette: During the term, the class norm has been that you can either raise your hand to speak, or just speak during an empty part during the lecture. There are a lot of jokes thrown around and random comments made on the professor's drawings and what-not. Overall, the environment is pretty lax in terms of a lecture.
This is what happened: We were going over a lecture about a particular topic, and the professor was lecturing and making his drawings as usual. I had asked a couple questions during the lecture, and then during one drawing I made a random, funny (or at least I thought it was) comment. He immediately turned and said, in a less than friendly way, "Okay, we could do without the running commentary." I felt extremely embarrassed and as though I had been scolded for behavior that had, up to this point, been considered a norm.
We took a break and I said "I apologize if I was being disruptive during the lecture" to the professor, and he just laughed and said "You don't need to apologize, as long as I don't need to apologize." Regardless of his comment, I still feel really bad about it. I feel as though I was reprimanded in front of all of my peers, and I'm not sure if I was out of line or if he was out of line or what. It's a very confusing situation and I don't know what to think/feel about it. I am always paranoid that I am talking too much or asking too many questions, but have been encouraged by this professor and others to keep doing what I have been, so this is the first time I've dealt with this sort of guilt/shame.
What do you all think? What kind of outsider's perspective can you offer?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was commenting during a lecture and the teacher snapped at me, now I feel really guilty and am not sure if it's my own problem or if it was rude of the professor. | I was commenting during a lecture and the teacher snapped at me, now I feel really guilty and am not sure if it's my own problem or if it was rude of the professor. | 5,583 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23yo F] with my now ex boyfriend [24yo M] dated for 10 years, we broke up 4.5 months ago. He has already moved on and I am heartbroken.
POST: Broke up with my ex boyfriend of 10 years about 4.5 months ago. I found out about 1.5 weeks ago he has been dating someone new for a couple of months- they aren't official yet but it's only a matter of time.
Prior to me knowing this I had been doing reasonably well, I was going about my life almost as normal and was using the time to rediscover myself after being in a relationship so long. I had heard he was doing the same, and I was proud of him because when we ended things we both talked about it and agreed this was a good time for us to both do so. He had also made it clear to me that I was the one he wanted to end up with, and the idea of likely getting back together with him was something I was working towards.
Since I found out about this new girl I can barely breathe. I have been crying constantly, have been psychosomatising and feeling nauseous often, and I started to have panic attacks at work. I can't concentrate on anything and have felt demotivated in almost everything.
I spoke to him about it and it was good for closure but awful to hear how distant he is now- he has very much moved on from me and is very into this new girl.
He was my first boyfriend. I am afraid I will never be happy again, and that I will never find anyone that makes me as happy as he did. Has anyone been through anything similar and has any advice on how to cope with this in the best possible way? I can't see us ever getting back together after this, so I need advice on how to move on also.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex boyfriend of 10 years has already found someone else and I need advice on how I can best cope with this/move on | My ex boyfriend of 10 years has already found someone else and I need advice on how I can best cope with this/move on | 5,055 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] recently discovered a work consultant [40/M] is faking his whole Instagram and using it to work his way up the business. What should I do?
POST: Here's a bit of background. I work for a small startup who hired a marketing consultant who I always felt was a bit full of shit. He always references these brands he works for but has no website and no history of his work via a business website or history online, for example on LinkedIn.
I recently was on his Instagram and noticed it seemed off. After a bit of research I can conclude that 95% of his followers are fake and he buys his likes. On top of that I have I proof he has stolen photos of private jets, fashion shows around the world etc.
At work he brags about how great he is at social media. Here is the kicker, I was recently let go because I think he wants his company to do my work and he used his "credentials" to make an impression that they are great at what they do. I don't want to look like an asshole for pointing his fake profile but how could I do this in a reasonable way to my employers? On top of that he is friends with the boss.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I found out a company consultant is faking his Instagram to grow in the company. I was recently let go most likely because of him and because he wants to bring the work I did to his company. What should I do? | I found out a company consultant is faking his Instagram to grow in the company. I was recently let go most likely because of him and because he wants to bring the work I did to his company. What should I do? | 1,031 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Another woman (24) is calling my boyfriend (26m) "Sweetie, Darl and other Pet Names" I (21f) Feel this is inappropriate due to their past history.
POST: Hello all,
Backstory - My bf (26m) and I (21f) have been dating for close to a year. During this time he admitted he had feelings for this chick (24f) that were inappropriate for while he was with me so voluntarily he ceased all contact with her. (Around October Last Year).
They started talking after a month (Only once a week or so and nothing bad - I have access to his phone etc - He let me do this). He has reconfirmed that he no longer has feelings for her and I trust him on this however am still rather wary in regards to her.
I have noticed in recent texts she has been calling him "Sweetie or Darl and has been saying things like "I miss our lunch dates etc".
He does not return the endearments to her in text but did say I miss them too. A group of friends, my bf and this girl are all going on a holiday next week and I'm cautious as this is what prompted him to tell me about the crush last year.
Is it appropriate for her to be calling him these pet names and how do I communicate this to my SO?
Thanks Reddit!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A previous crush of my bf(26m) Won't stop calling him sweetie and pet names. I (21f) Feel this is inappropriate due to their past history. | A previous crush of my bf(26m) Won't stop calling him sweetie and pet names. I (21f) Feel this is inappropriate due to their past history. | 2,655 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the hungriest you've ever really been?
POST: [This] thread got me thinking about the "disgusting" things I'd eat if I was *really* hungry. I don't mean the kind of hungry when lunch is still two hours away and the coffee you had for breakfast isn't helping anymore and you groan to your coworker *"I'm starving!"* I mean hungry like you haven't had a bite to eat in days and you're not sure when you'll eat again.
For me, it was 1994 and I was 20 years old living with my first boyfriend. We often survived on end-of-day leftovers at our crappy fast food jobs. Business got slow and we both got fired from our jobs and we were just too dumb to think about the fact that the money we were spending on cigarettes and Dr. Pepper should *probably* be used for PB&J.
He got a part time job at KFC so he got at least one free meal a day, and I'd usually walk there to share that with him. It was almost Thanksgiving and his hours got cut back from 24 a week to 18, then 12, then they let him go altogether. Just before he left, he stole a bag of powdered mashed potatoes. (Desperate times, desperate measures?) We ate mashed potatoes for every meal for a week until it was just gone. Then there was nothing, and it was the day after Thanksgiving and all the food pantries were closed, and then it was the weekend and we were SO hungry.
Those three days with nothing but water were probably the longest of my life. Strangely, after the 24 hour mark I stopped feeling hunger pains and just felt tired and moody. Any time I thought about food, I'd drink water or eat ice. (I found out several years later that while I had been starving, my boyfriend had been secretly visiting his family and having lunch or dinner with them. His family hated me, they felt I stole away their little boy, and there's no way they'd have fed me. My family wasn't talking to me because I was "living in sin" with him, so I didn't have backup like he did.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I once went 3 1/2 days with no food. Physically, it wasn't torture. Psychologically, I thought I'd *die* I never want to be that broke again. | I once went 3 1/2 days with no food. Physically, it wasn't torture. Psychologically, I thought I'd *die* I never want to be that broke again. | 651 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/GetMotivated
TITLE: [Discussion] How to help my sister who I'm pretty sure is depressed and in a very unhealthy and repetitive lifestyle
POST: Hey guys,
Not sure if this is the right place for this, but I feel like posting here would bring a few helpful responses so here goes...
My sister is now 25 and has basically had the same routine since she started working full time 5 years ago. She works as a chef and because of that she gets odd days off which affect her very small and very limited social life. She mostly lounges around the house watching tv and not doing much of anything and she doesn't seem to want to change it.
Now I have to mention that me and her both share a handful of learning disabilities with a couple of differences, but the major ones affecting our lives would be a difficulty to communicate our thoughts and feelings accurately and the fact that we're both pretty slow thinkers. Processing information and then figuring out the proper course of action takes a while and can be easily disrupted due to horrible attention spans which makes many ordinary tasks very difficult and intimidating. Currently, her way of life is really taking a toll on the whole family (Me, my mother and father) because we all want her to not just become a slave to this unhealthy routine.
There's a lot more to this, but this is already a fairly long post so I'll try and sum things up quickly.
I'm pretty sure she's depressed, so I'm going to ask her if she wants to talk to a therapist or some sort of professional, but I don't want to intimidate her into becoming reclusive about the subject. So my question is, how can I bring this idea up to her and also what else can I do to try and help her out?
It really makes me sad to see her like this. So any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Also any other subreddits that you know of that may be of help would be good to know too.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Pretty sure my sister is depressed... How can I talk to her about seeing a therapist in a easily digestible manner and what else can I do to help her? | Pretty sure my sister is depressed... How can I talk to her about seeing a therapist in a easily digestible manner and what else can I do to help her? | 1,433 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How would Reddit feel about a Reddit podcast?
POST: I'm developing a podcast as a part of my Master's thesis in mass communications. In media terms, Reddit represents an evolved audience in that we are capable and willing to participate in the production, distribution, and alteration of various kinds of media. I want to harness this potential by allowing the community to determine the shape and style of a podcast.
Would any of you be interested in listening to and/or contributing to the production of a podcast that derives the majority of its content from things posted in various places among the Reddit community?
I plan on using the podcast to discuss issues that the community has deemed important through voting, and I'd like to highlight some of the funny, poignant, heartwarming, and fascinating posts that make it onto the site like many of the TILs, ELI5s, LifeHacks, etc. However, I really want to get the community involved!
I have considered interviewing highly active users, mods, and admin, but I would love to hear any and all of your ideas about how I can create something that is truly valuable to at least some of the wonderful people who enjoy Reddit as much as I do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm creating a reddit-based podcast and want your ideas on how to make it great/valuable to the Reddit community. | I'm creating a reddit-based podcast and want your ideas on how to make it great/valuable to the Reddit community. | 4,072 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [32 M] with my GF [31 F], My GF keeps comparing me to her friends Boyfriends
POST: In a recent argument with my GF she threw out the, "My friends boyfriend always gets the bags for her and always holds doors for her etc." lines to me, basically comparing me to other relationships. This took me by surprise because I feel like I am very expressive, polite, affectionate and loving towards her and it hurt to see that angle thrown at me.
She pointed out an isolated incident where I didn't pick up her luggage after pulling up to get her from the airport (the airport was really busy and I was in the far lane near the traffic so I asked if she got it and she said yes.) That whole trip home she was mad at me (though I didn't find this out until months later.) Then she gave another example of a time when I only pushed the door open for her and didn't stand there and hold it for her.
I mean, this angered me a lot and I need advice on how to respond to these accusations - I feel like they are false (which i've told her) and I feel like she's using a check-list tally on me sometimes. I do many nice things for her on the daily, cooking dinner, offering to carry her bags, cleaning, bringing her flowers and don't expect anything in return (of course she never mentions these things when she accuses me of not caring or doing manly things for her like her friends bf) Help/advice!? Thanks in advance my friends!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My GF accuses me of not showing the same affection as her friend's boyfriends, which I don't agree with and need advice/help responding | My GF accuses me of not showing the same affection as her friend's boyfriends, which I don't agree with and need advice/help responding | 5,041 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [16m] tell her [16f] how I feel/felt? Ready to move on/make last ditch effort after 2 months of flirting
POST: Male 16. So I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks now, and we really seemed to click. A few weeks ago she was being really flirty, and seemed like she wanted me to ask her out. I was waiting for the right time to ask her out, but she was never just by herself with me to ask.
A week went by and I tried talk to her and she just seemed really distant, like she almost wanted nothing to do with me. We had this off and on relationship of her being really flirty and then really distant. This has lasted 5 weeks. This [thread] I posted in r/teenrelationships sums it up pretty well.
Anyways, I'm ready to make one last ditch effort/try to move on. What I'm asking for is advice on this one matter: Should I tell her how I feel? I think it could help me get my feelings for her off of my chest and make it easier to move on. On the other hand, if she gets all touched and stuff and wants to go out with me after that, then hey, that's great.
I do realize that telling girls how you feel isn't really fair to them by overloading them with all of that baggage. I do realize that I could create a completely irreparable relationship with this girl. I'm just ready to make one last ditch effort, or make an effort to move on.
What do I do, r/relationships? Do I tell her how I feel, or do I just soldier on?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Off and on relationship with this girl, ready to make last ditch effort/try to move on from her. Need advice on whether to tell her how I feel or not. | Off and on relationship with this girl, ready to make last ditch effort/try to move on from her. Need advice on whether to tell her how I feel or not. | 350 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [33 M] with my wife [28 F] of 5 years, infidelity...what do you think of having her tell her best friends what she has done rather than get a divorce?
POST: I have been married to my wife for 5 years. In the past, while we were married she was unfaithful with a complete piece of crap human being. From what I can gather she went after a "bad boy" type because I am too normal and responsible.
After that she promised never to talk with him or have any contact with him.
While on work trip I discovered a facebook chat conversation between then saying some pretty messed up things. I confronted her about it and again she is apologetic and says it will never happen again...
There was never a consequence the last time for what she did and I don't feel like she will keep her word his time without something to persuade her.
What do you think about printing out the conversation she had with him and making her show a couple of her best friends so they know what she did?
I have also made it very clear that if there is any contact what so ever between them again that I will ask for a divorce. I want her friends to know that as well.
Is this a terrible idea?
I'm sorry about the crappy writing, I'm actually a really well versed and educated person, I'm just not thinking completely straight at the moment.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Wife cheated 3 years ago, had a dirty conversation with him again yesterday. Should I make her show her friends what she did? | Wife cheated 3 years ago, had a dirty conversation with him again yesterday. Should I make her show her friends what she did? | 676 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by lying to my teacher
POST: This just happened today a few hours ago. I went to school like any other day, and by the second hour was bombarded with a 30-35 minute lecture (by lecture I mean furious non-stop shouting) about how I was supposed to hand in my coursework today. The coursework was for media and was set on Thursday. Unfortunately for me I was sick on Thursday and Friday and had no means of contact to ask my friends as I am not a very sociable person.
The teacher then told me to come back after school along with others to finish it. Cue the fuck up. I was supposed to go to Science catch up is well and chose not to because 'Pirate Life' and didn't go to media catch up either. My Science teacher then called my parents and told me I'm going to get detention everyday for the rest of the week but I tried explaining that I couldn't go, as I had media catch up. She insisted that she will ask my media teacher If I went. After hanging up , a few minutes later she called back infuriated by the thought of me lying and says my punishment will be far worse.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Didn't do 2 courseworks, lied to one teacher by saying I went to the other coursework detention, ended up being caught and now teacher doesn't trust me and made the situation far worse. | Didn't do 2 courseworks, lied to one teacher by saying I went to the other coursework detention, ended up being caught and now teacher doesn't trust me and made the situation far worse. | 6,314 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the funniest fumbled insult/exclamation you've heard made by someone else?
POST: This happened 11 years ago, and I still laugh about it.
I was in the car with my dad, when some douche bag sideswiped him. It was a minor accident, no one got hurt, and nothing was ridiculously damaged, but my dad was PISSED. Mind you, he's a foreigner (he ain't from Amuuurrriiicaaaa, mahn!), and up until that point in my life, I had heard my dad mess up some phrases here and there. He always pronounced things weirdly, forget to inflect, mistook his "his" and "her"s, etc. But this one took the cake. As soon as the other driver pulled over, my dad got out of the car, and while waving his hands in the air, he screamed as the other guy tried to talk:
"SHUT YOUR SHIT! SHUT IT! DO YOU NOT HEAR ME? SHUT YOUR ASS! SHUT YOUR ASS OR I WILL FUCK IT!"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | dad gets into a car accident, threatens to give a guy an anal ride instead of yelling at him to shutup. | dad gets into a car accident, threatens to give a guy an anal ride instead of yelling at him to shutup. | 4,914 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Have a job offer, but not sure if I should take it... Suggestions....?
POST: So, I've been unemployed for 3 months now. I realize that this isn't that long, considering how long others have been out of work, but it's still a long time for me.
I quit my job 3 months ago, and because of it, I was denied unemployment. I left voluntarily because I was told by the president of the wee little start-up that the company was folding. I had a pending job offer for another company in another state, so I figured I was safe.
The job offer fell through, and what little savings we had left was used to get me back home to my family.
Time passed, and nothing has happened. I'm submitting my resume everywhere, and even talking to temp agencies to get me working any job at all, even if it's a 50% paycut from what I was previously making.
About 2 weeks ago, I submitted an application for an ad before realizing that it was also out of state. The ad was pretty much tailor made for my skillset, which was why I got all excited and didn't look at the location until after my resume was sent.
Well, today I got an offer for the job. It'll be a slight paycut, but good money and possible growth potential.
Here's where I'm waffling.
One of the things I've also been working on is finding a new place to live. The house we're renting now is utterly fabulous, but completely out of our budget range with me having absolutely no income whatsoever. If I take this job, it's going to be out of state - with the pay, we MIGHT be able to make it, but my family will still have to find a cheaper place here in Oregon. I have no money to get out there, the employer is not paying relocation.
I want this job - I need A job, and I don't want to turn a perfectly good offer down, considering it's the closest I've come and - as we all know - jobs are scarce and hard to find.
But.... I'm really not sure how I'll pull it off...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm out of work, got a job offer, but it's in another state, and I have no way to get there or a place to stay once I do. | I'm out of work, got a job offer, but it's in another state, and I have no way to get there or a place to stay once I do. | 61 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She [23 F] asked me if I wanted a ride [26 M], am I overthinking it?
POST: There's this girl at my church who I really like, I don't think I've ever really been too forward about it all that much, but knowing me, maybe she knows already, or has kind of guessed it.
Anyways, I go to Bible Study with my dad every week. Sometimes I pick him up from his house, sometimes he picks me up from mine, makes it easier on gas that way. Last week once it ended, I went out to my car and waited for my dad to finish up putting the microphones away. I was just sitting on the hood/front bumper looking at the stars when she leaves as well. Out of the blue she just asked me if I needed a ride home, and I said I'm okay, but thanks for asking. It would've been out of her way to give me a ride too.
When I got home I was wondering about the situation, and I don't know if I'm overthinking this, but I was baffled by why she asked me. I was there for one thing, so I obviously had a means to get there and if I didn't have a way to get home it wouldn't make sense for me to go in the first place, not to mention I was sitting on the hood.
I want to ask her out on a date, but could I maybe take this as a sign that she's interested in me, or at least trusts me? I know myself personally I wouldn't offer a ride to someone (especially one where I'd be going out of my way to do so) I don't trust or feel comfortable with. If any women are reading this, would you offer a ride to a guy who is mostly an acquaintance to you?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl from church that I like offered me a ride home, which she would have gone out of her way if I accepted. Am I overthinking it in that this might be an indication she's interested in me? | Girl from church that I like offered me a ride home, which she would have gone out of her way if I accepted. Am I overthinking it in that this might be an indication she's interested in me? | 5,076 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How do I deal with this without breaking down any friendships and not being a complete pushover?
POST: Me and said girl wen't to same first school and we'd known each other for a long time. In the last few months or so we'd been hanging out more in the awkward: not sure if friends or dating way. More recently we were talking and I asked her out properly - to clarify things as she always would say that she loved me :/ - she said yes. Well, for a while.
She phoned me a few hours later clearly having had some distress over the whole thing and said that she didn't want to lose our friendship and that she "loved me like a brother" ( that one hurt.) I had been friend-zoned.
More recently we'd been okay but I haven't seen her much or really talked deeply to be honest. It was at this time that my supposed best friend - with whom I am in a band, short-film company and a school -
started to talk with her and as of today asked her out.
I'm feeling betrayed by me best friend and annoyed at me ex. of a few hours for the way she has / is handling it.
How do I deal with this without breaking down any friendships and not being a complete pushover?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl who rejected me now going out with "best-friend". Can't avoid as we have to meet a lot. (Girl and Friend) | Girl who rejected me now going out with "best-friend". Can't avoid as we have to meet a lot. (Girl and Friend) | 3,662 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: TL;DR Throw Away Time. Not advice, just feel compelled to share about an experience and hoping I'm not alone.
POST: Throw aways get ready. Me and my best friend (males) were watching Brazzers beating it together. It progressed into stroking eachother. We agreed (during the act) this will never fucking happen again, ever. We will never speak of it. It will basically be the skeleton in the closet until the skeleton is dust and blows away in the wind. It did not progress into anything further. No anal stuff, no kissing, no oral, no part of this was out of attraction or feelings. This entire thing was purely out of curiosity. We both have girlfriends we are in love with (I feel my girl is THE ONE). Despite this experience, I would never consider myself bisexual or homosexual, the idea of another man is by no means enticing, tempting, or gets me aroused or excited whatsoever. As much as I would like to erase this experience completely, what's done is done. Nothing is awkward at this point, still buds, still do same old bro stuff (shooting, off roading, cigars). Curiosity was strongly present is all. Guys of Reddit, how many of you have "experimented" (to any extent), but your sexuality is not in question?
**What's Going Through My Head Now**
Honestly, I'm hard on myself when it comes to anything. Integrity is huge to me, and being integral in all of your experiences is also very important. Obviously not going to share this with my girlfriend, but at the same time, I share everything with her. Reddit, it would just help to know that this is normal, I'm not a freak, and that not sharing this with **ANYBODY**, including my girlfriend, is ok. I feel like I have to tell somebody and discuss it to get it off my chest, and Reddit Throw Aways is the only way I will ever do it.
Please share
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Buddy and I gave each other hand jobs out of curiosity, as far as we're concerned, it never happened. Have you guys experimented before? | Buddy and I gave each other hand jobs out of curiosity, as far as we're concerned, it never happened. Have you guys experimented before? | 2,478 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: How to stop alley cat from using my backyard as hunting ground (mice, birds)
POST: I live in downtown Washington DC at a house with a small fenced in backyard, which is a rarity in this mostly urban area. There are a couple of neighborhood cats that roam the alley but within the past two weeks there is a new face that has made its home in my backyard. I this cat in my yard 4-5 times a day in a hunting stance and scare her away when I can. Over the past ten days she has killed at least 15 mice and a couple of birds in my backyard, placing them in piles at my doorstep to rot in the hot sun. The smell and abundance of flies this attracts is not cool with me.
How do I humanely teach this cat to stay out of my backyard without spending money on automatic sprinklers or ultrasonic noise machines? Keep in mind that I don't always catch her in the act, so it has to be something that keeps her out of the yard entirely rather than just when she sees me. I was considering either a high volume water gun or a low powered airsoft gun may do the trick, but I'm not sure if these would be enough to deter the cats entirely.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | An alley cat is making piles of dead animals in my backyard, and I want recommendations on how to permanently scare her off of my property. | An alley cat is making piles of dead animals in my backyard, and I want recommendations on how to permanently scare her off of my property. | 4,029 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How do I talk to my boyfriend about moving in together? [24F, 29M]
POST: My boyfriend recently bought a new house and is moving all of his friends into it. However, even though I spend 99% of our time together at his place (he doesn't want to stay at my place), he has not invited me to move in. He is away for work for 15 days a month but for the 15 days he is home I stay at his apartment exclusively.
I figure if he was ready he would have asked now that he has more space, so I want to respect the fact that he isn't there yet. However, I don't want to be together for years and years while living separately, especially since I am also paying a huge amount of rent to stay in an apartment for half the year.
How can I tell him that I would like us to think about moving in together in the relatively near future? We have been dating a year (plus a handful of months long-distance) and I would hope that there is a solid plan in place by the 1.5-2 year mark.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ready to move in together, boyfriend doesn't seem to be. He just bought a house and it seems like a good time to see if things are heading in that direction. How do I ask? | Ready to move in together, boyfriend doesn't seem to be. He just bought a house and it seems like a good time to see if things are heading in that direction. How do I ask? | 4,435 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm pretty sure my boyfriend's (M22) girl friend (F21) has a crush on him. How do I handle it?
POST: Yesterday, my boyfriend had a pool party and invited a bunch of people. I think one of the girls he's friends with has a crush on him. As soon as I met her, I just knew. I catch her staring at my boyfriend, teasing him in a flirty manner, and she laughs at *everything* he says.
At the pool party, she took it upon herself to let my boyfriend know that he was getting a little sunburned on his back. Not even five minutes later, she was putting sunscreen on his back and rubbing/massaging his shoulders.
She followed him around the entire time. This girl has got it bad for my boyfriend.
Is there a good way to bring this up with him in a loving way? We're in a five month relationship so it's not like we've been together that long.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend's (M22) girl friend (F21) definitely has a crush on him. How can I talk with in about this in a loving way? | My boyfriend's (M22) girl friend (F21) definitely has a crush on him. How can I talk with in about this in a loving way? | 48 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29m] don't have a clue as to how I should handle or voice my thoughts to my [28f] friend who is still married; she says she will "eventually" get a divorce but then hooks up with one of my friends [26m]
POST: Going to give a quick brief about her: After living abroad for a few years with her husband, she returns home while he gets sent off to be stationed out of the country. I've known her since middle school and we've been good friends. After college, we lost contact during college but then got reacquainted and started talking again a bit more this year.
At one point she began talking about her relationship with her husband and that it was "getting rocky". I began to develop some feelings for her but I never acted upon it; I realized that having these kinds of thoughts/feelings would just lead to something worse so I took precaution when I was around her.
However just recently, she did something that took me by surprise.
My friend and I moved in together and we invited our friends over. I decided to invite her as well; I figured maybe this was a good time to introduce her to our group and keep her occupied. She got along really well with everyone and as the party went on throughout the night she got particularly close to one of my friends. Everyone began to notice her gropey, flirty actions with him which eventually led them both having sex in his car.
Last night she texts me asking if I had fun at the party, and then she sends me another text with a picture of him and her this morning showing off her spontaneous trip to Vegas; they both left together that same night during the party. I haven't replied back to her because I feel disgusted and confused about the situation. Am I overreacting and naive? Am I being unreasonable about how I feel? Should I or should I not replay back to her?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Female friend that I occasionally hang with has sex with a male friend and now I see her in a different light. i don't know what to do. | Female friend that I occasionally hang with has sex with a male friend and now I see her in a different light. i don't know what to do. | 2,159 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I've wasted my life in college and I have no friends, how can I change it?
POST: I'm on summer break from college and I'm entering my senior year, working in the middle of nowhere. I've spent the last two-three years gaming like a fiend.
Most of the people who have made my acquaintance have been batshit (we're talking stabby-stabby stalker level) insane, and I find it very hard to see the good in people who approach me because of that (though I am trying to be more positive about people). I don't know how to strike up a conversation with people (unless it's about computers) and all of the guys who have approached me are just interested in fucking me because of the way I look.
I'd like to expand my interests into something that is more than computers in gaming (sorry nerds, I think you're cool and all, but I don't think that staying with the same kind of people all the time is healthy.) Meetup.com currently only has Japanese Animation Club and something about stay home mothers in my area, so I guess I should start trying to teach myself to be less awkward. Any tips?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Female nerd whose life revolves around gaming and computers needs to expand horizons and make friends instead of staying in her room all day. | Female nerd whose life revolves around gaming and computers needs to expand horizons and make friends instead of staying in her room all day. | 3,159 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit: Who suffers from Migraine? Any luck with treatments?
POST: I started getting "classic migraines" (with aura) back in high school, 3-5 a month, sometimes more. They tend to last 12-72 hours on average. The bad ones (at least half) leave me unable to move. This has been going on for the past 16 years. Some months are better than others, some are worse.
I've tried a variety of pharmaceutical treatments; pain relief, abortive, and prophylactic. All have their pro's and cons, mostly cons. None of them work 100% of the time, the ones that do tend to help have unpleasant side-effects. I have also tried a few illicit drugs with somewhat limited success. Marijuana changes the way the pain feels, but does this is such a way that I notice it more. I tried sub-hallucinogenic amounts of LSD in the past with surprisingly good results (or maybe not surprisingly, since ergotamine--which is a treatment for migraine--is a precursor of LSD), unfortunately it's quite hard to come by or I would use it more often. I've not tried shrooms, but have been curious.
I kept a migraine journal for almost a year in order to try to identify triggers. I found no rhyme or reason.
Migraines have led to relationship problems for me due to having to skip plans, among other things. I have also lost 3 jobs due to not being able to work when I have debilitating migraines, combined with sub-par performance when I force myself to get to work with less severe ones.
I know from experience that most people that don't get migraine do not understand that it's a bit different than just "a headache", and I've not once been able to take a tylenol, excedrin, or other over-the-counter stuff I've been offered and have it even remotely touch the pain. I have heard the pain described as having a root canal with no anasthetic. I've never had a root canal so I cannot comment on that.
Interested in hearing how other migraineurs here on Reddit cope.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've had migraines for over half of my life that have affected my personal and professional life. Who gets migraines? What treatments have you tried? | I've had migraines for over half of my life that have affected my personal and professional life. Who gets migraines? What treatments have you tried? | 6,070 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of 3 years, need advice on future of relationship
POST: Okay some back story; I am currently with my high-school sweetheart who graduated high-school early to come to college with me. We are entering our second year living together and just passed our three year anniversary. Things are great between us. We spend a ton of time together, never fight and we have always gotten along like the best of friends.
My problem is that we have nothing in common. We have totally different interests and hobbies. It bothers me that we relate on almost nothing and that we are so different. The worst part about it is she is so sweet and kind and I know she would never leave my side. I feel like I am missing out on being with someone who I can relate to more and share more of myself with. I am not unhappy and I really love her but I can't help but wonder what my life would be like with someone who understood me better. I have tried to get her interested in the things I like: video games, philosophy, working out. It just feels like a struggle whenever I try to explain something to her and she can't grasp what I am talking about at all. We don't think the same and it bothers me.
Her and I are so intertwined and close that I know it would just destroy her if for whatever reason we were not together anymore. I really do love this woman but there are big things in my life that are missing. I try not to question it but why would I even be making this post If I felt complete? I can't justify just leaving her because she is perfect in every other way. Do I sacrifice parts of my happiness and just shut up and be content?
Thanks for the advice and letting me materialize and vent my thoughts.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Do I hide part of myself away and pretend to be wholly happy or do I risk losing what could be the best thing I could ever have? | Do I hide part of myself away and pretend to be wholly happy or do I risk losing what could be the best thing I could ever have? | 2,599 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by mumbling
POST: (Long time lurker just finding this subreddit, had to make account to share) So this was a couple months back. I was over at a friends house with a couple others. (All of them were females, I'm male) Its going fine, nothing out of the ordinary, we chilling cracking jokes. Later in the night one of them asks me if I want to sleep on the only bed with them, I don't see why not. So me, and 3 others are all laying in bed. After a couple hours we start to doze off. The friend that I'm practically spooning is still up. Her and I are talking, and she decides she wants to sleep. So, being the stupid person I am when I'm sleeping, I tell her she might wake up to me cuddling her, and to just push me off/away. She nods off. Fast forward to the morning. Everything is going fine, we finish getting ready and head to the fair that was going on near us. We all have a great time, and we all exchange our farewells of hugging and I love you's. Later that week(Still in highschool) I notice they are almost ignoring me, not talking to me much. I get curious. Talking to one of the friends that wasn't there, she informs me that my spooning buddy of nights previous, had misheard me, and thought I said I had a hard time keeping my genitalia in my pants. So everyone thinks I'm a disgusting pig for months, and I try my hardest to regain their trust. Fast forward to the present. I have regained most of their trust, but my spooning partner still rarely talks to me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mumbled something while half asleep, got misheard, friend thinks I might attempt to fuck her in the middle of the night. | Mumbled something while half asleep, got misheard, friend thinks I might attempt to fuck her in the middle of the night. | 5,519 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not changing the name on my personal hotspot and getting my school evacuated
POST: So a little background first: I'm on my school's student council, and today was our Junior Prom assembly. We had a lot going on, much of it relying on a fast internet connection to work (live cameras streamed over AppleTV, etc.) we realized that as everyone settled into the auditorium, we'd have a large portion of the student body connecting to the school wifi, and we were worried about slowdown. Our live camera was basically useless without a good internet connection, so I had the bright idea to hook up the AppleTV to my personal hotspot. It connected automatically, I ran the feed for a few seconds, worked like a charm, so we moved on. Assembly starts, about 15 minutes in and everything is going great. I'm backstage when I see our principal run up to microphone and tell everyone to exit the school immediately, as there is a potential terror threat in the area (I live in an area where things like this never happen; we've had one lockdown in my 10 years of schooling here) obviously, everyone's more than a little worried. Everyone files out, myself included. As I'm standing outside, a friend walks up and tells us what he found out from a teacher. One of the students, while trying to connect to the wifi, had "discovered" a network... My network: "Taliban Secure Communications." needless to say, the student went to a teacher, things escalated, and the school ordered a full evacuation. I talked to the principal (a very, very awkward conversation) and got everything sorted out. Everyone's parents are panicking, checking their kids out of school now. My personal hotspot is now called "I love school."
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Turned on personal hotspot with the name "Taliban Secure Communications" for an assembly, school got evacuated because of a supposed terror threat. | Turned on personal hotspot with the name "Taliban Secure Communications" for an assembly, school got evacuated because of a supposed terror threat. | 4,696 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23M] am seeing a girl [20F] unlike any girl I've ever seen before.
POST: I met a girl on OKCupid. We met up, clicked, and have been out around 10 times together now. We both live at our respective homes, me as I pay off my student loans, whereas she is a commuter at her university.
We've expressed multiple times how it would be great to actually finish a date and spend the night together but sadly it just hasn't happened yet. We are exclusively seeing one another and I'm very happy.
I am in a situation I've never been in before, as she is a very independent girl and I'm used to ones that are more communicative and open with what they are feeling and doing. I have a hard time trying to figure out what is going on in her mind. Because of this, I'm not sure if I'm being too distant or too clingy when I message her or see her.
Can anyone else who has been in this situation before, shed some light on what they did to put themselves at ease while seeing someone independent? I like this girl a lot but don't want to scare her off by encroaching on her "me" time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am seeing a super independent girl and am not sure how to toe the line between keeping in contact and friendly banter and being too clingy and smother her. | I am seeing a super independent girl and am not sure how to toe the line between keeping in contact and friendly banter and being too clingy and smother her. | 243 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25/M] just landed a job in my field and haven't get started working and got a problem
POST: I just recently accepted a new job in the IT field I have been trying to get into ever since I finished school. I am really excited and cannot wait to start in two weeks. I have already started to fill out the necessary paper work that needs to be done for the job.
For details, I am 25/M and have been with my girlfriend 26/F for about three years now. Everything is going famtastic on that front.
Now today I get a phone call from a mysterious number. I answer it and it is my girlfriends exboyfriend. Mind you, I have never talkedn met or have any clue what went on between him and my crurrent girlfriend. He informs me who he is and that he works at the company I got accepted at as a manager position. He goes on to tell me how he would like for me to "step away from the position" and how he "doesn't want to see me there to be honest". Now I have to say he was rather calm and stable during this phone call. There was no yelling or insults. He did go on about how he is sure "you're a nice guy and all" but he just does not want me to work there or see me. He was suggesting I renig on the offer letter I got and insisted he has connections to help me get a job in the industry elsewhere.
I mean, I have never once talked to this guy and neither has my girlfriend (I already talked to her about this). How should I handle this situation? Should I tell HR? I mean, howd he get my contact infortmation? When I look online I can see who my manager is for the position and it is certainly not him. Should I just go to the job and leave this be? Any advice would be nice!
Oh, and this guy is around his 30's/M.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriends ex works at the company I got a job at. Tried to coerce and almost threatened me to not accept the job. What should I do? | My girlfriends ex works at the company I got a job at. Tried to coerce and almost threatened me to not accept the job. What should I do? | 2,798 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Internal] I [17,M] have feelings for my best friend [17,F] of 3 years. How can I resolve this?
POST: I've known my friend for 3 years, and we briefly had a thing once during our second year of friendship. Things didn't really come to much and I got clingy and messed things up. I ended up repairing things between us, and we're pretty close friends now.
I see her on a fairly regular basis but we only get to hang out about once a week. Most of our time together is one on one, nobody else around, but occasionally we're at her house with her family watching movies or whatever.
We're going to prom together (as friends, with other friends) but I want to still take pictures and dance with her and stuff. Hopefully that can still happen, but it wouldn't be a romantic scenario.
I still have feelings for her, and I want to act on them despite knowing it's a bad idea. I really want to try and make something of it but I don't see a good outcome from it. I'm about 85% sure she doesn't share my feelings for her. How should I go about this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like my best friend and I think it would ruin things if I tried acting upon it. How to resolve issues? | I like my best friend and I think it would ruin things if I tried acting upon it. How to resolve issues? | 392 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Update: Me [26f] wants to get back together with my ex [41m]
POST: Update: So the ex sent me a text last night saying that he didn't understand why I had an okcupid profile when I wanted to try and get back together with him, he said that it seemed like I was more "lonely and sad" and not a person sho was still in love with him. I created my profile about 2 weeks ago and haven't been on any dates, because he wasn't communicating with me; meanwhile he reactivated the account I met him through right after the break up, and has been on dates.
I tried to explain to him, that I haven't been using the account at all, and haven't been on any dates, and I brought up the fact that he never deleted the account he had originally (we had talked about eventually getting hitched, so to me it seems like he kept the profile because he never planned on getting hitched).
He is also convinced that I have narcissistic personality disorder, which is devastating for me to hear. I have gone to my shrink about this, and my shrink said no that I don't have this, and that it sounds like my ex is projecting. I told this all to my ex, in an attempt to open communication and to get him to drop this "diagnosis", and I even got a second opinion from a counselor that specializes in personality disorders,who also said that I don't have npd, though I do display signs of defaulting into co-dependent behaviours. Even though 2 medical professionals have said I don't have npd, my ex continues to say "that's classic npd" when I say something contrary to what he wants.
He is also, negating anything I say as lying, or thinking only of me, or of changing the subject. I know I'm not perfect, and I know I caused him a lot of pain, it's just so hard to try and apologize and fix things between us so that we can move on and rebuild, when he takes anything I say and twists it into the opposite of what I intended it to mean, and that when I try to explain in different ways he says I'm lying or back tracking
Sorry for bad link posting, my laptop died, and I'm using a crappy tablet:
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex tested me last night, called me a jerk for having okcupid profile, even though he's been on dates. Also throws npd armchair diagnosis around. | Ex tested me last night, called me a jerk for having okcupid profile, even though he's been on dates. Also throws npd armchair diagnosis around. | 1,877 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of a year, she isn't talking to me because I got drunk last night by myself.
POST: Last night, I was bored and alone in my room, so I decided to grab a bottle of wine from my parents wine cabinet and have some to drink. Now, I've had alcohol before and I've been drunk on one occasion previous to this. I drank the entire bottle, and was quite drunk afterwards. My girlfriend wanted to talk on the phone, so I called her and we were having a normal conversation. Well, it was pretty obvious how drunk I was, and when she found out the extent of my drunkeness she hung up on me.
I texted her apologizing, saying that I shouldn't have been drinking at all(which is true, I should not have even touched the bottle), and when I said something along the lines of "baby I'm so sorry, I didn't know you felt that strong about alcohol", she told me to not call her baby, and she said goodbye. This really hurts, I loved her. She was an amazing girlfriend, and what confuses me is that we always talk about sneaking out and having a bottle of wine together. I thought she wouldn't care if I had a bottle to myself. I'm pretty sure she's upset because of how drunk I was, not because I drank with out her.
I tried texting her today but she hasn't replied
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my girlfriend is mad because I got drunk alone in my room, I think it might be over. Is there anything else I can do besides apologizing profusely to her, and meaning it? | my girlfriend is mad because I got drunk alone in my room, I think it might be over. Is there anything else I can do besides apologizing profusely to her, and meaning it? | 1,334 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [33 M] was divorced by my Wife [32 F] of seven years. I was always faithful, but never quit the military for her.
POST: I understand why she did. I've been in the Army for 14 years. I've been deployed five times (51 months total) she just couldn't take it and quit on me. I've always been faithful to her. Im pretty sure cheated on me a couple of times before she divorced me. I could tell she was looking for outs. I'm at a point in my career now that if I quit its basically like turning my back on more than a million dollars. I think the damage is already done. She has moved on, she is dating good guys, that are good for her. I'm having a really rough time moving on. I think about her a lot. I know i call too much. I've tried dating, but for some reason i feel like the biggest creep in the entire world. The women that do date me seem pretty excited by my online profile but fairly disgusted by me in real life. I think i'm giving out the most desperate vibe on the planet.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I didn't give up my stupid career for my family and now i have no family. How do i move on? | I didn't give up my stupid career for my family and now i have no family. How do i move on? | 4,789 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [F23] feeling guilty about crushing on someone new [M25], 3 months after a break up. Is this justified?
POST: My ex and I had issues long before we broke up. He still had an ex in the picture, lied about doing drugs and various other things. Anyway, we broke up and he was my first serious bf (first sexual partner too). We weren't together for that long, 8 months two of which were long distance.
So I've met someone and despite the circumstances (he's one of my roommates. I know, I'm not going to act on it) and we get along really well. I'm kinda salty still and we joke about it. Usually we just chat and hang out, nothing serious. We consistently chat till late at night about all kinds of things. He often tells me to not feel like I need to rush getting out there. Until quiet recently something changed I started feeling mushy around him. Usually we joke and tease each other but suddenly it's stopped. He doesn't contact me during the day as often and when we do talk there are long pauses.
I feel guilty for liking someone so soon, is it too soon? I don't want to get hurt or be used. I don't think I can be in a relationship right now but I think it makes me weird with the new guy. I know he likes me in some way but I feel like I've ruin something or turned him off with my mixed signals/push and pull behaviour.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I think I'm overthinking and creating weird vibes because I feel guilty /slutty for liking someone new 3 months after a break up. | I think I'm overthinking and creating weird vibes because I feel guilty /slutty for liking someone new 3 months after a break up. | 1,677 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I'm not even sure what to think of these sequence of events. 24f/24m
POST: Before NYE, a guy I was dating told me that he wasn't interested in getting into a relationship due to some issues getting over a previous relationship, but he was still interested in hanging out. I assumed this was a polite thing he was saying to me in order to make me feel better, and I didn't contact him.
Fast forward to after New Year's: I receive an email stating that he has broken his phone, thus, he lost my number. He wanted me to send it to him and signed it with "I hope you get this soon". I'm completely confused as to why he would want my number again (especially since I had given it to him via email before so he could just look it up), let alone why he seemed so anxious about getting it.
Less than 24 hours after this email, I find a note on my car saying the same thing and that he wanted me to call him. For some reason, this act seemed incredibly creepy to me and definitely too forward for someone who isn't interested in dating me.
I called him in order to confront the situation, and he said he just wanted to hang out that night. So apparently getting that mid-week hangout was super important. Regardless, we set up tentative plans to meet up on Saturday.
Is it just me or are these some pretty strong, mixed signals to be sending to a person you're not interested in?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy who says he isn't interested in me jumps through hoops in order to get my number which he lost, to the point that he sticks a note on my car. What is going on? | Guy who says he isn't interested in me jumps through hoops in order to get my number which he lost, to the point that he sticks a note on my car. What is going on? | 1,617 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Redditors that have received an OWI, what's your story?
POST: First off, I'm not bragging about anything, and I'm very disappointed in myself and learned my lesson. I was 18 years old in high school, and we had a snow day from school. My buddies called me and said "let's drink, my parents are at work and I want to have beer cracked by noon", so I said let's do it. It was a Wednesday. I had to work at 4:00, but figured I'd have a couple. I was young and dumb, and ended up getting completely hammered playing minefield all afternoon (a game consisting of a lot of drinking). I don't know why I did it but I kept drinking, and left my friends house at 3:30. On my way to work, I dropped my ipod on the floor while changing the song and began deviating into the lane next to me, thank god nobody was around, except for the police officer behind me who immediately pulled me over. He came up to the car and could smell the alcohol immediately, and the entire process for the DUI began there (sobriety test, cuffed up and put in the back of the cop car and brought to the hospital for a blood test). My father picked me up with a cigar in his mouth, a month after he had quit smoking. When I asked why he was smoking, he responded "You made me", the utmost disappointment I've ever experienced in my life. I learned my lesson and it'll never happen again. Everybody in school heard about it, and I had to call my boss to tell him I wasn't making it to work, and for some reason or another he didn't fire me, and I can't imagine what would have happened if he had since I had this hefty fine, alcohol assessment and class, ridiculously high car insurance and towing fees to pay. I'm extremely thankful I didn't hurt anybody and I learned my lesson when I was young.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I got a DUI at the age of 18 on the way to work at 4 in the afternoon on a Wednesday, lesson learned. | I got a DUI at the age of 18 on the way to work at 4 in the afternoon on a Wednesday, lesson learned. | 1,081 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: In-laws gave my SO & I a loan for a house but how do we pay them back now that they insist it is a gift?
POST: I wonder what you guys would do in this situation.
We bought a house this January with 15% down. We had enough to put 20% down but it would have wiped out our Emergency Fund, so we decided to put 15% down and just make extra payments (good thing, too, because the first weekend we moved in we had a major storm that damaged our gutters and had to replace those right away!). Well, between extra payments, a tax return, and a bonus, we're able to get to 20% equity probably by July (that way we won't be paying PMI).
My in-laws gave us $14k officially as a gift but with the understanding that we would pay them back. There was some controversy with my FIL initially not wanting to give us the money and my MIL got angry and they fought about it and yadda yadda yadda, but we ended up with the money.
We think we'll be able to have the $14k saved up by next summer.
However, now they are both insisting it is a gift and we shouldn't pay them back. My FIL is also an insurance salesman and paid our first year of homeowners insurance. And then they sent us a $1,000 gift card for furniture.
I want to pay this money back. I feel like we agreed it was a loan and we have the means to pay them back. How do I handle this? Do I just send them a cashier's check once we have the money? Do I put it in a CD in their names? :/
I just don't feel good converting this money into a "gift" since it wasn't supposed to be a gift. What would you do in this situation?
My SO talked to his parents about this and they just said "no no no, qwicksilfer is in grad school and you might get laid off. You're young and you need this money!" Together, we earn well over $100k. We're doing great. We don't need this money, we only needed it as a security blanket when we bought the house. But we have since replenished the security blanket.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | In laws gave us money as a "loan" and now insist it is a gift. I don't feel good about the money as a gift. How do we resolve this issue? | In laws gave us money as a "loan" and now insist it is a gift. I don't feel good about the money as a gift. How do we resolve this issue? | 3,174 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I didn't shower everyday as a child; What is something you are embarrassed about that you did as a child?
POST: When I was a baby and little kid, I had very bad eczema all over my body. If you don't know eczema is basically a really bad rash. My skin was so sensitive that giving me a bath irritated it even more. Up until I was about 7 years old, I only had a bath once a week, unless I got dirty and *had* to have a bath. Then, I started to take showers. I would only shower every 3 or 4 days until I was about 11 or 12. I don't remember ever feeling dirty , but I would always lie to my friends and say that I showered everyday. I am still slightly embarrassed by this and it is something that only my close family know about.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Had a bad rash when little that made my skin sensitive to taking baths. Didn't shower every day until I was 11/12. | Had a bad rash when little that made my skin sensitive to taking baths. Didn't shower every day until I was 11/12. | 4,383 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Hit my plateau! HELP Male 20 6'6
POST: Hey Loseit! Let me just start off by saying that you have all helped me a great deal in the past few months in ways I cannot describe AND I LOVE YOU ALL for that.
On to my problem, I had set a goal to lose roughly 50 pounds to get below that magic 300 pound mark. I have been dieting, getting my ass kicked at the gym everyday, and really just BEING healthier. Everything was going fantastically, i had dropped 20 pounds in about a month and a half by cutting down my portions, and completely swearing off sugar and snacking. I was feeling so good up until this week...
Every 3-4 days I weigh myself at my gym, stepped on last week at 242 (down from 267) i almost cried. I was so happy. I hadn't been sub-245 in about 4 years. So tonight after I had just finished killing it at the gym I go to the scale and still at 242! I haven't been eating any worse or working out any less. How can I get back on track to get to that magic 300?
Thank you so much for everything loseittors, I am so proud of all of you. YOU CAN DO IT!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | (Male 20, 6'7) Stuck at 242 despite working just as hard and sticking to my diet. How do I get over the "plateau"? | (Male 20, 6'7) Stuck at 242 despite working just as hard and sticking to my diet. How do I get over the "plateau"? | 120 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why doesn't the government find a loophole to get rid of the Federal Reserve Bank?
POST: From everything I've heard/read the Federal Reserve Bank (which is not part of or regulated by the Federal government) is shitty and just makes debt by printing money putting the government (and the nation) in an endless cycle of debt. What, if anything, does the government have to gain from this being a thing still? And why isn't this a bigger deal to everyone? Am I misinformed of the actual power this entity has? What more than an old law and "word is bond" obligation does the government have to them and why can they finagle their way out of it, since they pretty much do whatever they want anyway?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Why is the gubment ok with being the Federal Reserves bitch and what stops them from sticking their nose in this like everything else I'd actually rather them stay out of? | Why is the gubment ok with being the Federal Reserves bitch and what stops them from sticking their nose in this like everything else I'd actually rather them stay out of? | 2,396 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 23/M looking for advice on coping with the loss of my sister 33/F.
POST: We lost her yesterday. She had numerous health problems, the primary one being progressive epilepsy. She was in the hospital a month or so ago and we thought we might lose her, but she made a near full recovery and was basically back to normal until I got a call from my grandmother yesterday morning saying she had passed in the night.
I've never really dealt with an unexpected loss like this. I've only lost grandparents when I was a child. I think I'm still in shock and it hasn't fully sunk in. I got the news when I was out with my girlfriend visiting the planetarium. I haven't cried or anything and I can tell she (my gf) thinks it's weird that I haven't shown much emotion regarding the issue.
I mainly can't stop thinking about the three children she left behind. Their father is abusive and now they're left with no mother. I know I need to step up and be a bigger part of their lives.
I personally hate sob stories and I'm not looking for sympathy. That's actually an aspect that I'd like advice on. I'm the type of person to bottle things and not mention them to anyone because I hate feeling like people feel sorry for me. I absolutely hate it. I haven't told anyone other than my girlfriend who was there when I got the news. I went to work as usual because I'm in a new city by myself and my girlfriend went back home an hour away this morning so I'd just be sitting at home by myself. I'm going to let my boss know here in a bit, but I just absolutely hate talking about this sort of thing. I'm really hoping they don't all sign a card for me or something like that.. I don't want everyone asking about it.
My family is more dysfunctional than average, always fighting and being dramatic over stupid things, and I know when I go back home for the funeral it's going to be complete chaos with family members who haven't spoken due to drama seeing each other for the first time in years. I'm dreading it.
Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? How long does it take for this kind of thing to fully sink in? How did you cope?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Sister is dead, her kids now only have their abusive father. I haven't felt very emotional; just looking for advice from people who have experienced similar. | Sister is dead, her kids now only have their abusive father. I haven't felt very emotional; just looking for advice from people who have experienced similar. | 140 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 F] with my bf [38 M] dating for 4 months and i think he might be depressed and i'm confused HELP!
POST: Long time lurker and finally had the courage to post as my introvert self cannot make sense of anything as i'm clouded with emotion.
So he said that he loves me early. (from his culture this is normal, i took it as he likes me a lot so i don't have a big issue about it). He has a kid and lives with the kid when we started dating, everything was good, i didn't had problems with it as he is giving me enough time and attention. recently he gave up the kid to the ex wife (legal issues) and they aren't divorced yet, the kid will live with the mom but he will still be able to take her from time to time.
He never wanted to talk about these issues with me as he doesn't want to drag me to his problems, but from time to time i make him open up. The problem is this affected him so much and he said that it depresses him so much. I was a bit surprised cause in my background, guys dont have much dependencies on living with kids.
what bothered me alot is that he told me he is now uncertain of what will happen to his life. and yet he asked me to move in with him just few weeks before all this happens. It made me feel that he might be using me to just escape from what depresses him. I wanna be with someone who really wanted to be with me and not bec he is depress and needy.
Should i be more patient and wait til he got used to living without the kid or is this a sign that i should end things soon.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | bf gave up living with his kid,is depressed and was not certain about his future and im confused if he really wanted to start again with me | bf gave up living with his kid,is depressed and was not certain about his future and im confused if he really wanted to start again with me | 5,121 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Would it be wrong for me[19F] to continue fucking my fuck buddy while im dating my crush?
POST: Im starting to really like this guy that im dating and could see myself getting into a relationship with him. We're taking it nice and slow which I prefer when it comes to getting into a relationship. The only thing is that im constantly horny and masterbaiting does not do me justice. That is why i have this urge to have sex current fuck buddy just to get it out of my system. Although i cant help feel guilty because i really care for this guy that im dating. At the same time though, it's not like we're committed yet and i just need a way to satisfy my sexual needs lol. Idk...Im curious to hear what you guys have to say.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | currently dating a guy i really like and taking it slowly but has sexual needs and still wants to have sex with my fuck buddy | currently dating a guy i really like and taking it slowly but has sexual needs and still wants to have sex with my fuck buddy | 4,261 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: My son is 4 months old and I divorced his alcoholic father a month ago. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do I cope with the guilt?
POST: I never believed in divorce, I thought marriage was forever but life dealt me another set of cards. We went down every avenue trying to fix our marriage - two inpatient rehab stays, AA, Al-Anon, marriage counseling, individual counseling. When our son was born it was like someone flipped a light switch and I realized that my son was not safe with him and he couldn't grow up with the uncertainty of being parented by an addict, even though he's mostly a functional one. I moved to another state and moved in with my parents and the three of us work together to care for my son and make his life as happy as possible. My dad is super involved, changing diapers, taking him for walks, playing with him, etc but my dad is not his father.
I'm struggling even though I know my decision was the right one with the guilt of robbing my son of his real father. His dad rarely asks about him and when he does, he will text my mom. Most of his Facebook posts are about how much he misses our son. He tells me he doesn't ask about him because talking to me is too painful. He also owes me over $500 in back child support. He told me it was because he was waiting for them to mail him the paperwork. I took care of all the proper forms yesterday, once again taking care of his responsibilities and enabling him just like I did in our marriage.
How do I let go of the guilt, the love I still have for my ex husband and raise a strong man without a dad? Please tell me it gets better.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My son's father is an alcoholic. I divorced him and I feel guilty that my son won't grow up with a dad. | My son's father is an alcoholic. I divorced him and I feel guilty that my son won't grow up with a dad. | 5,508 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: I want to take my parents on a trip as a "thank you" gift. Where should I take them?
POST: A few years ago I quit my job to go back to graduate school. I knew going back to school would allow me to further my career but I also knew that during my time as a student I would have to live on a significantly lower income. There were some months where I just couldn't make rent, the car needed repairs, etc. My parents came to my rescue each time even though I knew they didn't have much money themselves (my mother is a nurse and my father is a civil servant). I am extremely thankful for them and I want to return the favor.
Now that I have finished school and gotten a great job in my chosen career I want to take them on well deserved vacation. Here are the rules:
1. They have never left the east coast United States so I would like to take them on a trip abroad. Domestic travel is ok too so I wouldn't mind hearing some suggestions.
2. My parents are still young and in good health so suggestions on physical/adventurous activities are greatly appreciated. However, I don't think they would like camping trips or roughing it in the wilderness for an extended period of time.
3. I want this to be a "trip of a lifetime" so I certainly don't mind spending money as long as they have a great time. We're not a very wealthy family though so let's keep the suggestions reasonable.
4. Mostly I want a destination with a lot of culture, relaxation, interesting cuisine, and picture taking opportunities but I know that goes without saying.
Anyway, I hope you guys can help!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My parents have gotten me out of many financial jams in the past. Now, I want to return the favor by taking them on a kick ass vacation. | My parents have gotten me out of many financial jams in the past. Now, I want to return the favor by taking them on a kick ass vacation. | 1,513 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Mom has beat me, want to change custody
POST: So my mom has beat me on many occasions to the point where I have had a bruised face and bloodied nose. The last time she did this was awhile ago and I never told an adult. She additionally verbally abused me to the point of calling me her worst mistake at one point. I'm on vacation without my parents and finally told my grandmother and cousin(we are in Washington currently and I live in DC). My grandmother has decided to let me stay here for a little longer after I begged her not to let me go home and she told my parents something about the flights which is why I couldn't go home on the right date. So basically I don't know what to do. I don't want to live with my mom anymore and my dad is nice he just never steps in or anything. I know I no longer have any physical evidence of the abuse so I think it would be hard to press charges but is there any way I could fight to get my grandmother or another family member legal custody over me? I'm 16 if that's important. Thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have been beat on multiple occasions but there is no longer any physical evidence. How can I fight to change legal custody? | I have been beat on multiple occasions but there is no longer any physical evidence. How can I fight to change legal custody? | 6,105 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Mind racing 1000miles per minute
POST: First lets get the basics out of the way.
Me f/20 the boyfriend is m/27 Relationship is 6months long and we have lived together for the past 4months.
My boyfriend left his phone home today while he's at work. I usually use his phone anyways but i did something so horrible. I went through his e-mails and in the beginning of February we broke up for two weeks and he slept with another girl. Well we got back together and the e-mail i read was in the end of February from that girl saying she was pregnant. I'm at a loss for words. Granted he's never heard from her since February and she has his cell number, e-mail accounts, and she knows where we live and there's been no other mention of this "baby" once he called her out on it but isn't this something he should have mentioned to me?
I don't believe her anyways she just really wanted her belongings from his house.
Then there's the responses he sent to females on craiglist (before we even met). I don't hold any of this against him but he responded to transexuals as well as gay men looking for "Tops". From reading the e-mails it doesn't sound like he's ever gone through with any of the meet ups but it makes me uncomfortable.
I feel awful that i invaded his privacy but now i feel more awkward about what I've read. So what should I do if anything at all?! I'm really stuck here and feel like i have no one to talk to that could understand.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Snooped through boyfriend's phone found old alarming e-mails and don't know how to react if at all. Advice please? | Snooped through boyfriend's phone found old alarming e-mails and don't know how to react if at all. Advice please? | 5,168 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend 8 months, cheated on me while I am away at work.
POST: So my job sent me to Canada for shift work. 2 weeks on and then I get 1 week off. I gave my girlfriend the keys to my apartment to check my mail and house sit. I told her she could have her best friend over to watch Netflix or what not while I was gone but that was it. Well 5 days into my assignment she has her friend and they invite a guy friend over. They all start drinking. She skyped me about an hour early hiding the fact that she had anyone else over but her best friend. Well her best friend calls her ex boyfriend over and they start arguing. This leaves their guy friend and my girl friend in my room together. The guy tells her that he has a lot of emotions for her and they start making out, he then takes off her pants and they have sex for about a minute before my girlfriend said she couldn't do it. Then she gets up to go to the bathroom and he follows her and says yes she can. He put it back in her, but she stopped it again after about a minute. He then asked if she could blow him then, and she said she felt bad so she did for about 30 seconds before she stopped again. She called me right after and told me how sorry she was, and she didn't know it was going to happen. She told me alcohol was definitely a factor, and the whole ordeal has made her realize how much she loved me. She said she told him to stop because she knew it was so wrong, but it was hard to get him off of her. What do I do? This was in my house while I was gone in Canada! How do I look past this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend cheated on me in my bed while I was in Canada. She asked the guy to stop, but it still hurts. What do I do to look past this? | Girlfriend cheated on me in my bed while I was in Canada. She asked the guy to stop, but it still hurts. What do I do to look past this? | 4,226 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by being the snitch
POST: This hurts to even say, and it's going down right now.
So my boss is sometimes super cool and sometimes he can be the biggest asshole ever. It in turn makes staff not want to talk to him about things, in fear of how he's going to react.
I used to be Assistant Manager, but I'm moving so they hired a new AM and I stepped down so she could get trained in for the last month. I'm stuck doing these horrid but easy opening shifts (3:30am-10ish). I love my coworkers and I'm pretty close with a few of them.
I get a text at 11pm asking if I want to come out to the bar with 3 of them. I'm out cold, dead to the world in my bed. I thought it was funny that they asked me that late, knowing I open. I just laughed went back to sleep.
Next day at work, boss comes in and we're just chatting. I casually (and stupidly) mention I got a text from them asking to bar it up. Didn't think it was a big deal, he knows people hang out outside of work. Well he takes this and RUNS. I knew I fucked up immediately with the look on his face. He's freaking out because they're going to let it affect work and blah blah. I'm like, "dude, don't make this into something it's not." then we drop it.
Fast forward to now I'm sitting at home and I get a text, "Guess who just tried to call in! HAH" Yep. One of the coworkers tried to call in sick, the one that texted me. Great. JUST GREAT. So I immediately go into damage control and let her know what's happening. He told her not a chance to calling in, and that they need to have a serious talk. She then tells me actually IS sick, and it's not from being hung over. So from his point of view everything is unfolding EXACTLY how he thought. I feel like such a douche, but I just wasn't even thinking when I spoke. I'm usually the one that people confide in as well, and I never say stupid shit like this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I snitched on my coworkers saying they went out drinking to my boss. Coworker then tries calling in sick after a night of drinking. I am a terrible person. | I snitched on my coworkers saying they went out drinking to my boss. Coworker then tries calling in sick after a night of drinking. I am a terrible person. | 1,165 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: to those that have cheated or are currently cheating on your SO...
POST: what emotions did you experience during or after the event?
i was hanging out and reconnecting with some friends after a short deployment while my gf of two years was living abroad. my best friend was trying to mack on a girl and would force me to go along with him whenever they'd be at the same social gathering. well, one night we're all at a mutual friends house cooking and drinking and generally having a good time. i get way too drunk and instead of leaving when my buddy wanted i convince him that we should go back into the house. i'm basically asleep on the couch in the living room when the girl my buddy likes comes up and starts grinding on me. eventually we go upstairs and have sex. my buddy leaves in disgust while another guy that was supposed to be one of my oldest friends basically sends my gf live updates via email. afterwards my best friend cuts me from his life as does my gf.
when i woke up the morning after i just sat there wishing as hard as i could that the night before was a part of some awful dream. i felt sick to my stomach about what i did - that somehow i'm not the guy i thought i was, that i completely disrespected my best friend and my gf. i was deeply saddened that i had hurt and embarrassed two people i cared about so much. it's easily the one thing in my life i wish i could take a mulligan on. it's been a year and i'm starting to feel like not such a jackass about it but i fear the possibility of running into my ex this friday will bring up some of those old emotions.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boy cheats on girlfriend. the other girl was someone his best friend was crushing on. girlfriend and best friend dump the cheater. guy felt awful about the whole thing and is just starting to feel better after a year. | boy cheats on girlfriend. the other girl was someone his best friend was crushing on. girlfriend and best friend dump the cheater. guy felt awful about the whole thing and is just starting to feel better after a year. | 5,640 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I "get into" music?
POST: Something that I felt has always set apart from my peers is that I generally don't listen to any music. I've never bought a CD, owned a CD player, stereo, or MP3 player. I've never been to concert or played an instrument.
I'm not sheltered from any sort of music, but nothing ever seemed to jump out and hook me with any emotional or creative connection. I'm studying film and I have felt those sorts of feelings in regard to film and television.
I'm prompted to ask this now because of a conversation I had with a newer friend of mine. I had never really thought that much about it until my friend asked me: "Who's your favorite band?" and I responded "No one really." He followed up with "I don't really listen to music." He responded to that incredulity and then went on a disappointed sounding rant about how shocked he was at that fact and how music is one of the most important things in his life and how I'm missing out because music provides inspiration to millions of people every day. Apparently, I'm a lost cause in his eyes because I asked him to recommend music to me and he has yet to do so.
So, I'm sure the simplest solution is: "listen to music", but I'm literally starting blind here, so I'd appreciate more detail. I am not exaggerating when I say I'm going in blind, I know very little about music besides the basic things people would learn by being in the real world.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How did you get into music? How would you recommend I find my best fit for what kind of music I might like? I know nothing. | How did you get into music? How would you recommend I find my best fit for what kind of music I might like? I know nothing. | 5,891 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: NSV: I wasn't embarrassed when someone noticed I lost weight!
POST: The scale says I have lost 17 pounds. I didn't really notice any physical changes but I also know how critical I can be to myself. (I never took body measurements out of fear of the outcome, stepping on the scale was hard enough.) I had heard or read that others won't start noticing until you lose 30 pounds. I thought okay so I am a little over half way of 30 pounds, I won't have to worry about any comments until then. I have been dreading the moment someone asks me "Have you lost weight?" It just brings a painful awareness to the fact that yes I was heavier at some point and I'm not too proud of that. I thought if this were to happen I would be embarrassed.
I had not gone to a one of my favorite pizza shops in a few months since I was looking for work and didn't have excess funds and I wanted to stop myself from temptation both in excess food and spending too much money. I came in yesterday and the owner is someone who knows almost every customer's name and face, asked if I had lost weight. Instead of feeling awkward, or pained, I was proud. I beamed and said "Why, yes I have. I have been working really hard at it." I freaking owned my past weight but that was not my focus. I am really proud of the hard work I put in these past 3 months. I don't always give myself enough credit and it is hard for me to accept a compliment but I was able to do both those things in that moment!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Someone I knew asked if I lost weight, thought it would make me uncomfortable. It didn't I was beaming. | Someone I knew asked if I lost weight, thought it would make me uncomfortable. It didn't I was beaming. | 5,453 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21/F] with my chem tutor [26 M] 4mo, Originally Clicked, now mixed signals
POST: I'm a zoology major and been seeing a chem tutor for this semester due to already failing the course once and having to retake it. I have been crushing pretty hard on my chem tutor, he originally seemed to show reciprocation. His wording and actions pretty much confirmed to me that he liked me. But I figured neither of us would never do anything until I was done with the semester and he was no longer my tutor. Now it seems like the spark has died out, and he seems pretty distracted or not interested. I don't know if this is just me over reacting or him sincerely not interested anymore.
I told him I would be around during the summer courses to take some other labs; he said he would be willing to tutor me during the summer informally for my next level bio courses. Since then he hasn't put in any effort to show interest. Has he just resigned to the fact that 'hey, she'll be here for awhile so no rush' or just figured that I he could go get some other girl?
I am not very good at flirting with guys as it is, and am pretty skittish. I know I am pretty but get super scared and intimidated if I know he likes me back. I am fine during our session and we talk a lot about other things than just chem (he's brought up relationships with me before and accuses me of being too distracting), but in public I am not any good (passing or during group study/tutoring sessions) I just don't know if I maybe didn't follow through with enough awkward waves and smiles and now he thinks I am not interested. He just started showing a lack of interest this week, we have another 1:1 next week but when I asked to set it up he seemed kinda like he didn't want to. I did this during the end of the group study session so maybe he is taking my cues and keeping it out of public? Normally he seems excited when I ask for the 1:1 sessions.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Crushing on a tutor who was reciprocating until recently. Don't know if he got bored or I didn't show enough interest. | Crushing on a tutor who was reciprocating until recently. Don't know if he got bored or I didn't show enough interest. | 2,885 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Women, what do you make of this situation?
POST: CONTEXT: College campus.
Ok, I'm an introvert. If I see somebody I know walking towards me from 100 yards, I'll wait until they're two yards away to make eye contact and wave. I pretty much avoid eye contact before that so you don't have that awkward situation where you've both seen each other but you're too far to say hi yet. That's just how I work.
There's this cute girl that I met on one or two occasions (a couple of weeks ago) with some mutual friends just walking through our dorm.
One of the people I was with regularly says hi to her when passing, and he has only had a little more interaction with her than me.
The following scenario has happened a couple times between the time I met her and today:
We're walking towards each other on a sidewalk - we see and recognize each other from far away so BAM... I avoid eye contact until she's a couple yards away, and by that time I look up to say hi, but she thinks I'm not going to so she walks past looking the other way.
Again, that has happened a couple times. It is painfully awkward and I walk away making frustrated faces each time...
Today when this happened the first time, it was the usual averting of eye contact, but then I looked back at her about 30 seconds later and she was looking back at me too.
So today after that happened once already... I saw her again in the same situation, except it wasn't quite as far. I waved... She gave the look of "I see him waving, but it's probably not me because he never acknowledges me". I decided to go in for the kill. I said "Name of girl... Hey!", waved again, gave a goofy grin, kind of laughed, and made my turn onto another sidewalk in a different direction, cringing and making faces not knowing if I should've just ignored her again.
For what it's worth, she was with a friend, said "hey!", gave a big grin, chuckled a little bit and waved.
WHAT ON EARTH do you think she was thinking throughout all of this... I am absolutely clueless when it comes to women.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm a clueless idiot who meets a cute girl once or twice, ignores their existence for weeks, then says hi randomly. | I'm a clueless idiot who meets a cute girl once or twice, ignores their existence for weeks, then says hi randomly. | 4,918 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: PSA: your passport expires before the expiration date [rant]
POST: Just wanted to pass this info along to anyone else who, like me, wouldn't have known otherwise.
I have a US passport. I planned a 3 week trip through Europe, scheduled all my flights and stays in between, researched places to see and things to eat, read blogs and watched videos, packed my bags and double checked to make sure I had everything, showed up at the airport yesterday, and was promptly denied because my return date was 2.5 months before my passport expired.
To travel to Europe, my return date has to be 3 months before expiration. My passport expired before the stated expiration date.
I was disappointed and so sad. Thankfully my friends who were seeing me off came back to pick me up, I made an appointment with the passport agency (earliest one is for Thursday) and rescheduled my trip to Friday. I'm hoping and praying that passport turn around is same day as some people have told me, otherwise my entire trip is doomed.
So because I thought my passport expired on the day of expiration, my three weeks got cut to 2 weeks. I've rescheduled, dropped 2 countries from my travel list, and am sitting at home with nothing to do, a cleaned out fridge, and moping for an entire week...
I wish I had checked and known about this passport thing, and I'm disappointed in myself and in the system in general for such a maddening rule.
I hope you wonderful Travellers out there learn from my mistake. And if you already knew about this, are actively letting others know :( I sincerely wish that international airlines would automatically ask about passports for these kinds of things: I honestly had no idea about these rules and I'm sad my long vacation got cut by 33%.
Best of luck to everyone out there
TL;DR: . Assistant: | your passport technically expires before the stated expiration date, based on when and where you are traveling to... Check to make sure if your passport expires in less than 6 months to a year!! | your passport technically expires before the stated expiration date, based on when and where you are traveling to... Check to make sure if your passport expires in less than 6 months to a year!! | 4,188 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Starting a relationship with a minor depressive disorder.
POST: I was assessed with minor depressive disorder a few months back. I work out, do yoga, sleep well ect. I'm perfectly OK right now, but if any of you guys are familiar or have experienced depression how long/diffulcat it can be to feel like "you" again.
Anyways I'm absolutely terrified of starting a relationship because if things even go remotely bad I fall apart. I'm really sensitive to the idea no longer being "liked" by the person I care about.
I have repetitive cycle I always slip into; It basically goes like this.
Happy, Healthy & Confident (me right now)> find a girl I really like > date girl for 2- 4 weeks > things go bad > 7month - 2 year(max) long depressive episode > Happy Again > repeat.
I've honestly experienced this cycle for the last 10 years of my life, I've **dated** about 5 girls. Then I'm a bit of wreck afterwards. It's something that I think about a lot, whether or not I will ever be able to have any sort of lasting relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | scared to start dating again because theres a very good chance I will end up with me being depressed. I enjoy not being depressed. | scared to start dating again because theres a very good chance I will end up with me being depressed. I enjoy not being depressed. | 1,296 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[30F] with my boyfriend [30M] of 5 years, not sure if i'm weird, or he is
POST: Hi!
My boyfriend used to watch a lot of porn before we dated, and describes himself as "jerking off all the time". I know he slowed down since we moved in together. Recently, I caught him masturbating to a coworker's Facebook picture.
He doesn't understand that I see a difference between pleasuring himself to porn and pleasuring himself with a real person he works with. He doesn't think it's any different and is disorting the issue.
To me, there is a major difference, and I am not comfortable with the situation at all.
So I'm wondering...
GUYS : Is it a normal guy thing? Do men in general don't see the difference between jerking off to someone you share your environment with, is it just as unpersonal to you as porn is?
GIRLS : Am I over reacting? Would you be comfortable with this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend jerked off to a coworker. Doesn't see why I think its different than porn or why I'm upset. .. Any thoughts on who needs to chill? | Boyfriend jerked off to a coworker. Doesn't see why I think its different than porn or why I'm upset. .. Any thoughts on who needs to chill? | 2,316 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17M] really like a girl [18F] but she's going to college an hour away next year.
POST: Some quick details. I have known her for 2 years now, been good friends for one year, and we both started talking a lot and liking each other within the past 2-3 months. I'm still in high school (senior next year) and she is starting college next year. She moves into her place which is an hour away in 2 weeks and is also leaving to Europe for 2 weeks the same week. I basically have 3 weeks of summer with her and 2 of them consist of her living an hour away.
I like her a lot. She is the best match I have ever found. We are alike in all the right ways and yet are different enough to stay interested. She likes me, not quite as much honestly, but as much as I would expect from 2 months of frequent talking.
Now the issue. She is going to live an hour away. Now a few problems arise. 1. Transportation. Well I can drive and so can she. My parents are kind enough to where if I say that we're dating they'd pay for the gas for me to see her like once a week. 2. It feels wrong, like I'm holding her back from fully experiencing life and the newfound freedom that she has. I talked to her about it and she said it felt the same for her, like it would be holding me back from experiences I could have, with me being stuck on her. And 3. The reality of a long distance relationship, even if its only an hour long. We are both realists when it comes to life. We see what we think the most likely outcome would be. Although I am oddly optimistic about it, she is still being realistic. We agreed, it could work but what we get out of it just isn't enough to justify it.
So, what's your opinion? Is it worth it? Is it realistic to do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like her and she likes me but she'll be an hour away and we just don't know if its worth it to really try and make it work or to let it go. | I like her and she likes me but she'll be an hour away and we just don't know if its worth it to really try and make it work or to let it go. | 2,127 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My cousin [f31] is getting married in June and asked me [f21] to be her maid of honour. I have no free time and don't know what to do
POST: So my cousin is getting married and while I'm really happy for her I don't think I'm responsible enough to take on the MOH role. I'm in school and also have a job. I've never even been to a wedding! Her friends organized a surprise engagement party for her and I feel horrible for not partaking. I just feel an immense amount of pressure and to be honest I don't necessarily want the responsibility.
My cousin knows this, yet still gives me hints that I should start organizing something. I don't even know where to begin. I have too much on my plate right now really need to get my shit together. I know she will get really upset if I tell her I can't do it.
What do I do Reddit?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | cousin asked me to be MOH at her wedding. I have too much on my plate to organize anything and I know she won't forgive me if I bail | cousin asked me to be MOH at her wedding. I have too much on my plate to organize anything and I know she won't forgive me if I bail | 260 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: From a 678 to a 615 in six weeks?
POST: I recently shopped around and went to a dealership to see what kind of financing I could get for a vehicle on their lot that I really liked and thought I could get a good deal out of. I requested a $10,000 loan.
The way my credit was at the time, I had 100% on time payments with a 12 month credit history of payments, I also had a new line from Best Buy credit that has been going two months now. Prior to this loan request, I had a 678 score.
Shortly after talking with the dealer and running my credit, I decide that I'm not financially set enough to be buying a car. To add insult to injury, I find out over the next couple weeks that they contacted 18 various banks and credit unions for financing...all denying my loan. I would read each letter stating the reasons for denial and seeing my score drop... 658...647...630...625...and now finally 615 where I'm at the end of the inquiries. During this time, I managed to miss ONE payment from Best Buy which resulted in a single interest charge and double payment that I caught up on the next month. I am current on the payment of that now.
I also applied for a credit card and I believe I was approved (since it was through my current bank) and I should be receiving one next week.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have 18 hard inquiries from a car loan and one late payment. Is this normal to drop a credit score over 60 points? | I have 18 hard inquiries from a car loan and one late payment. Is this normal to drop a credit score over 60 points? | 851 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[25M] dealing with my GF[23F] of almost five years starting to have feelings for another guy.[UPDATE]
POST: So first off I want to thank /r/relationships for their input on the situation. I spoke with my gf the other day openly and honestly and basically told her I felt disrespected from the whole situation and that I want things to work out as we've gone through too much and much more than this and came through. She explained to me that she was feeling like we plateaued in our relationship and that we were at a bit of a stalemate. I understand as she's already graduated from college and I'm about a year away from graduating. This is an issue because she actually is ready for marriage but I want to be done with undergrad first. After many tears we decided on a somewhat mutual break up with intentions of hopefully getting back together when we are a bit farther along in our lives so we can marry. With that said she can't promise that regardless of what happens we will be able to marry(if she meets someone and they hit it off and get together) but she still feels her future is with me just not right now.She says she just likes the attention the guy gives her but can't reciprocate them. Because of this she doesn't want me to wait around for her as I told her I cannot promise that right now as it's something is have to deal with myself. She wants to just be friends and I told her I can't do that. She knows that but can't not have me in her life. A lot more was said and spoken but that's pretty much the overall.She still loves me but can't give me the love that i want from her right now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We've broken up. She wants to be single and figure things out for herself and I have to work to moving on with possibility of not getting back together. | We've broken up. She wants to be single and figure things out for herself and I have to work to moving on with possibility of not getting back together. | 4,772 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] feel unwanted by those around me.
POST: 20M college student. In Jr high and high school I was pretty socially awkward, but over time I've gotten significantly more comfortable around people and have gotten better at interacting with them. I have a great girlfriend and a few wonderful friends who I've expressed my feelings to.
I feel like people don't want me around. I don't have people asking me to do things often, and there's a lack of reciprocation with invitations to do things.
Now, I figure it's because I'm not fun to be around or something. That's an easy answer, right? Or I figure I can ask those who do want me around what the deal is. Neither, seemingly.
I make a big effort to be loving and engaged with people, and people always compliment me on that. Those close to me tell me that others speak highly of me and say they want me around, but said people never reach out to me directly. Despite my best efforts, to most people I'm a friend of convenience and an afterthought. Someone to make them feel good about themselves (another thing people compliment me on) without having to give anything back.
In public, I'm this cool, collected, happy go lucky/gentle and loving/etc person based on what the situation calls for. My insecurities and (infrequent) negative emotions are something I reveal to a select few.
I know this is an or snapshot of my life, but its late and I have some post vacation back to reality blues and I just wanted to write down my thoughts in a place that others could offer their perspectives. Any and all perspectives are appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | disconnect in how people talk about me vs reach out to me. Does anyone have any thoughts on what I'm doing wrong or what's going on? It perplexes me and those who love me are unable to offer insight. | disconnect in how people talk about me vs reach out to me. Does anyone have any thoughts on what I'm doing wrong or what's going on? It perplexes me and those who love me are unable to offer insight. | 2,811 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my GF [22 F] of 11 months, Just caught Facebook messages
POST: My girlfriend [22 F] and I [24 M] have been together for 11 months and everything has been amazing, we are planning to move in together next month and I couldn't be happier about it.
However, tonight she has gone away with a group of our friends for New Years. I'm going down tomorrow night to meet up with them, I couldn't go down with her due to work. So I'm sitting at home alone, watching some tv when I decide to use her iPad to watch some YouTube videos. We are very open about each others phones etc.
I turn on the ipad and a Facebook chat message appears from a guy who is attending New Years with our group of friends. I haven't met him before.
It says:
"[girlfriends name] ur a shit fk lefts havsex lol joke but seriously if you want lel. :)"
Followed by her replying:
"Ur shit [his name].... I have a boyfri3nd! Otherwise maybe"
When I see this, I'm angry and upset to say the least. I know she is already drunk too. I call her twice to which I receive no answer and after that I send a text message asking her to call me asap.
When she calls me and I tell her I turned on the ipad she instantly knows what I'm about to say.
Short story, she tells me it's a joke that they had going on and I don't understand because I'm not there. Our phone conversation goes on for a while and during this time another message comes through from him, saying:
"Oh you would too I didnt bring a sleeping bag did u???"
We talk a little longer and she insists that it's a joke and she didn't mean it the way it sounds.
I simply can't understand how this is a joke in any context, especially when you have a boyfriend.
Am I over reacting to this? What should I take from finding these messages? Any advise here would be amazing!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend messaging random guy she is with tonight, basically said she would have sex with him if she wasn't with me | Girlfriend messaging random guy she is with tonight, basically said she would have sex with him if she wasn't with me | 6,041 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: $200 phone bill in one night
POST: So I lost my phone for a few weeks, then yesterday I found it. I looked up my plan and had 5gbs of data left and two days in my plan. I didn't want to waste it so I googled how much data streaming a movie would take and it said 1-3gbs so I decided to use my phone as a hotspot and watch I'm Still Here on Netflix. Woke up in the morning to a $150 fee added to my $40 phone bill. I called them and the guy I spoke to initially estimated 3-4gbs for a movie, but when I pointed out I had apparently used 7 he thought that was normal too. He straight away said he could get half of the bill knocked off, and I just agreed to that because I (clearly) am not very technologically informed. I guess I'm just frustrated that their automatic setting for going over your data is to charge you $70 a gb instead of just adding their $10 1gb data pack to your plan and then they can't even text me to let me know until I've already blown through $150 worth. I received 3 emails (even though they manage to text me about paying my bill) about four hours after I watched the movie saying I was 50%, 75% and 100% over my data limit, and then another few hours later finally got a text saying I'd used all my data. Can/should I do anything about this or should I shuttup and pay my bill?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | went 2gbs over the data on my phone plan and got charged $150 before I was informed I was even halfway through my data. | went 2gbs over the data on my phone plan and got charged $150 before I was informed I was even halfway through my data. | 18 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Fiance not a fan of my best friend and her fiance...need advice!
POST: Me-(27 Female), Fiance-(26 Male)...I introduced my fiance to my best friend Marie (26) and her fiance Mark (32) about a year ago. One of the first times we hung out as couples Marie was kind of whiny about some things and put a damper on the day for everyone. Since then my fiance has had a bad taste in his mouth about her.
After that point he expressed to me that he was disinterested in spending time with them in the future (even though he finds Mark to be a perfectly nice guy). I understood his point of view, but since she's my best friend I encouraged him to give her another chance. From that point on we've enjoyed several dinners, BBQ's, etc. with them and she's never done anything to be rude or annoying to him.
However, he recently confessed to me that for the past year every time we have had these "couple dates" he has solely done it to "keep me quiet" and that he really does not want anything to do with them. In the same convo he told me he thinks they are both very nice people and he does NOT dislike them, but that he feels he has nothing in common with them. He says he likes spending time with all of my other friends but said he no longer wishes to spend time with Marie and Mark.
I do not want to try to tell him who to be friends with, but I guess I just don't see why if he likes them, he has to withdraw from any future time spent with them. It would be more understandable to me if he had a strong dislike for either of them.
My question in all of this is how do I handle things now with my friends Marie and Mark when suddenly all of our time spent as couples is now reduced to the three of us? It makes me sad because they really like my fiance and truly consider him a friend. They have no clue that he wants nothing to do with them and has felt this way all along.
Has anyone else experienced this? How can I avoid hurting my friends' feelings and this being awkward for me?
Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fiance wants to be excluded from any/all time spent with my best friend & her fiance, but has kept quiet about it for a year now how do I explain the awkwardness of him being mysteriously absent to my friends? | Fiance wants to be excluded from any/all time spent with my best friend & her fiance, but has kept quiet about it for a year now how do I explain the awkwardness of him being mysteriously absent to my friends? | 1,120 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I want to join the police, specifically AFP, would joining a branch of the Australian Military help me?
POST: As said in the title, I'm an Australian, I'm 19 almost 20, haven't got my license yet and I'm working a dead end office job. I have always wanted to join the police though they said they prefer people 21 and older with life experience, so I am sitting in this shitty job with my shitty life, and hating it, so I decided maybe joining a branch of the Australian Military would help me, would that be something they would love to see on a resume?
If so, where in the military should I join? Typical Army? Become a sniper? Or maybe Navy, I want something active and never boring.
I know this isn't the most typical question, but I'm desperate, I need something new and have always considered joining the military for a back up plan but this would be something good for my resume when I go to join the police, yes?
Any information would be greatly appreciated, tips, inputs and just your opinion on the matter would help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to join the police, get out of my dead end life, thinking of joining a branch of the military for something good on my resume that shows I have had a lot of experience. | I want to join the police, get out of my dead end life, thinking of joining a branch of the military for something good on my resume that shows I have had a lot of experience. | 975 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [27 f] cant handle this, I am completely alone in this, I thought I could, but I can't. I need advice.
POST: Some clarification first;
My hobby is being a makeup artist and now I am doing a friend [26,m] (Lets call him Andy) a favour to help him with his new movie.
My health is ridiculous and it keeps me from doing daily activities. I have IBS, Stomach issues, Migraines, Stress and above all Borderline and no good stamina/condition like normal people.
Now I am helping with my SO [24,M] and a large film group working on this movie. This is my first day and I already had to wake up at 7 and the director (Andy) doesn't communicate at all with me about what I can expect to do. I had to sit on the train back and forth per half hour, from 8 am to 3 o clock. Now normally ofcourse I can handle sitting in a train, but I get motion sickness really fast, specially when not focussing on looking out the window. I had to change makeup after every take while sitting in the train. I fet so bad, nearly threw up. I just went and sat in a chair until the actrice came up to me and asked me if I was alright. My SO was not present, but Andy was. He didn't even ask me if I was alright, nothing. Only her and another crew member helped me by getting me water and an apple. Now I still feel sick, and tired. Since I also had to assist with the lightning. Honestly, I already feel exhausted.
I am supposed to stay for 4 days. Today we aren't finished until 11. Tomorrow we start from 10 am til 4 in the night.
I am on the verge of crying. I feel really dissapointed with my friend. And I don't want to stand in my SO his way, since he is incredibly busy and also happy with it.
I am scared to say anything, I want to fight this and continue, but I am afraid that I overestimated myself and collapse in front of all these people. I already get comments like you look tired.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Having major health issues. Doing a friend a favor (helping him and his crew making a movie for 4 days straight and also working in the night), and I can't handle it and too afraid to say or do something. | Having major health issues. Doing a friend a favor (helping him and his crew making a movie for 4 days straight and also working in the night), and I can't handle it and too afraid to say or do something. | 1,625 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I'm {23/F} living with my bf {23, M} and we've stopped having sex. Why?! Someone PLEASE HELP.
POST: My bf and I have been together for 2.5 years. We were great friends before we started dating and met at University.
I believe us to be soul mates, or at least kindred spirits of some kind. We have a great deal in common, we love each other dearly, and do practically everything together.
Needless to say that in the last month, or two, we've stopped having sex completely. Something is broken and I don't know how to fix it. We tried spicing up our sex life (rented a motel room and role played which was a lot of fun -- but then we went right back to not having sex), we've openly talked about our evolving tastes for certain dress styles or behaviors, and I've recently reduced my antidepressant medication to feel more horny.
Yet, nothing is working. I feel like sex is a chore and not as fun as it used to be. My bf wants it all the time and he tries to do everything to impress me -- but I don't find our sex to be that much fun anymore. It used to be the greatest thing ever and now I find it boring. He says that we're more like best friends than lovers. I feel terrible when he says these things -- I feel guilty, like something is wrong with me. Yet I also feel like we're breaking apart and I can't do anything to make it right. I love him more than anything and he loves me more than anything.
Maybe I'm not physically attracted to him anymore? I mean, I preferred that he lose a bit of weight and workout, and even buy some new clothes to spruce up his appearance. But I still find him cute and even sexy when he's naked.
So why is this happening and how can I get back into a regular sexual cycle with him??? I do want to have sex with him, but right now I feel like I'm forcing it sometimes. Is it him? Is it me? Are we doomed to break up?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My bf and I are not having sex anymore and we've tried EVERYTHING to get back into the swing of having sex regularly. I can't figure out why I don't feel compelled to have sex with him. | My bf and I are not having sex anymore and we've tried EVERYTHING to get back into the swing of having sex regularly. I can't figure out why I don't feel compelled to have sex with him. | 5,512 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [23/m] is a picky eater and I'm [23/f] sick of it.
POST: My boyfriend is a horrendously picky eater, both when we cook at home (most of the week) and when we go out (once or twice a week). He'll eat only white chicken meat, steak, pizza, spaghetti or a hamburger. Green beans are the only veggie he'll touch, and he has to be vigorously persuaded to eat any fruits, after which he expects to be praised as if he's done something wonderful.
I'm an adventurous eater, and I work out hard during the day so that I can enjoy something I like for dinner. I love sushi, curries, gyro, pho, ramen, etc etc. Boyfriend won't even try any of these, for a plethora of excuses.
I'm fine if he contains his picky eating to himself, but I'm sick of always going to his restaurants because I can find something I'll tolerate on their menus, and he won't go near any of mine. I want to be able to cook more adventurously at home (usual menu is chicken breast, rice or potatoes, green beans- BORING) without him whining and just eating a muffin or frozen pizza instead. I'm worried about his health and I resent not being able to do something I enjoy.
In the past, we've had very nonconstructive conversations about this. He got defensive, I got snarky. I need a way to reframe the issue, maybe some scripting help or practical compromises. Any ideas?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend is a picky eater, I like a bunch of foods he doesnt. I usually let him have his way, but I'm over that. Help please? | boyfriend is a picky eater, I like a bunch of foods he doesnt. I usually let him have his way, but I'm over that. Help please? | 281 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Should I feel guilty...
POST: I've(30) been dating the same awesome girl(25) for something close to 2 years now and to be straight up, she's afraid of marriage and has made the statement that while she loves me, she's not sure if I'm "it" for her but doesn't want to break up because we have an awesome relationship and amazing times together.
She's thought about us married and says she can see it working but is still scared that she, like many others, will reach that middle point of life and fall out of love or want something different. She's also thinking that maybe because of her marriage fear and the fact that before meeting me she didn't even want a relationship, it may just take her longer to know that she wants to marry someone. Her other friends have all been dating less time than us and already know where they are going, like they want marriage or they are moving in with each other and I feel like we're just spinning our wheels. I do feel jealous of her friends relationships, even though I know we have a good thing.
She's also stated that she's moving in a year and we talked about me moving there after she's been there a few months but I feel like that's not really going happen. As such I think I've started to decide the relationship is already over and begun pulling back. I've even let my eye wander and I've debated if I shouldn't just start dating again if we aren't going anywhere but I feel really guilty.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Not sure where my relationship is going after almost 2 years, feeling the urge to start moving on since girlfriend is afraid of commitment, though she did take a big step by even dating me. Feeling guilty about wanting to move on. | Not sure where my relationship is going after almost 2 years, feeling the urge to start moving on since girlfriend is afraid of commitment, though she did take a big step by even dating me. Feeling guilty about wanting to move on. | 2,772 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [27 M] and alone my entire life. What now?
POST: I like myself, which is good, since I spend most of my time alone. But when I don't want to be alone, I'm out of luck. My few relationships have been out of circumstance.
I just want one friend (or better, a girlfriend, but maybe I'm getting ahead of myself). If you can't tell, I dread going to social events since they just seem like a whole lot of noise. But I feel like I'm not going to find anyone else like me, especially one who's also fond of me.
Few people here do anything but go to bars, and the few clubs/meets I have found I am completely uninterested in. I don't like sports, and though I guess I'm nerdy myself, I dislike nerd "culture." I'm back in school full-time, but not to socialize (maybe I should try to take a "lighter" class or two?). I tried online dating--let's just say I've never seen someone do worse.
Is "be someone else" my only option here? I've tried it, but I also found it very unsatisfying.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I prefer being alone most of the time, but when I want companionship I don't know what to do. How can I find someone like me? | I prefer being alone most of the time, but when I want companionship I don't know what to do. How can I find someone like me? | 2,326 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Do I (22/M) need to stand up to my girlfriend (19/F) of 3 years and break up with her?
POST: My girlfriend of over 3 years was found out to be messaging her ex, mostly while dunk, and still ending conversations with "love you". She maintains that because they're now good friends that she means it in a "brotherly love" type of way. When I discovered this was going on, I also found that she had been messaging, quite flirtacously, a guy from her work. These messages included all the "😍😍" type of emojis as well has her messaging him in the early hours of the morning asking what he was doing. When I confronted her about this she lied and said it was one of her brother's friends whom she hadn't seen in a while.
After a long argument I asked her, what would you do if I had done this to you? Her answer was that she would end it with me. However I haven't ended it with her yet this plays on my mind.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Does it make less of me if I am still with her when she would've ended things with me? Am I a pushover? | Does it make less of me if I am still with her when she would've ended things with me? Am I a pushover? | 1,423 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my (bestfriend) roomate [22 M] cheating/lying on his girlfriend
POST: My roommate and his gf have been dating for 5 years. They have been actively cheating on each other for the last 2 years (4-5 different people each). They tell each other when they do it, even though it upsets my roommate every time he hears about it. Just this last year she has moved to a new college for Med School. Since she has been gone my roommate has begun talking to one of our group friends in a flirty way. They did everything together, including the extent that he would bring her star-bucks to her class when it was over.
This girl is over at our house all the time, whether to hang out with him, or just hanging out with all of us since she is a good friend to us all.
My roommate 1) won't break up with his current gf because he likes to have a fallback person that he knows everything about and is comfortable being around her family etc. 2) won't openly admit to acting romantically towards her even though it is obvious, and the girl openly talking to me in private about what he says/does for her. The girl is torn apart because she knows they can't date because my roommate won't break up with his gf. She doesn't know what to do because she is such good friends with all of us, and doesn't want to sacrifice our friendship because of this situation.
I have approached my roommate about the situation, and to avoid conflict he brushes is off like its no big deal, and won't even consider the possibility of dumping his current gf. I'm afraid that my relationship with my best friend/roommate will be tainted because our morals don't match up, and I absolutely do not want that to happen.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | bestfriend/roommate won't break up with gf. New girl is causing distrust between us, and causing girl(good friend) to be upset. | bestfriend/roommate won't break up with gf. New girl is causing distrust between us, and causing girl(good friend) to be upset. | 5,517 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my crush [15 F] known her for three weeks, do I go for it?
POST: Hey Reddit! I've lurked a bit but need some quick advice. So there is this girl at my school. In this case, we will call her some really generic name to use to keep her anonymous... Let's go with Jane.
Jane and I met on the bus when she moved into a nearby apartment complex. I waved at her on her first day since she seemed a bit lonely, and since I've been there before, I thought I would just wave to make her comfortable. She waves back and days after we just wave at each other. That was on a Monday and silly ol' me still didn't know her name three days later on Thursday. So I sat next to her Friday morning.
She looked at me with a look of surprise as I asked her of her name. She told me her name and we started just talking after that. Then we started texting and soon after, on the second thursday, I hoped over some fences to get to her complex and play some basketball with her.
Now here we are three weeks later (sooo today to put that into perspective.) We are flirting and calling each other cute and being cutesy in a way, like my arm around her shoulder, things like that. Thing is, as you've read in the title hopefully.. She is fifteen. She turns sixteen in September. I turned seventeen in February. I am a junior in high school while she is a sophomore. Should I go for it or is this not something I should do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Like a girl on my bus that is a year and a half younger than me. Is it appropriate or am I in the wrong? | Like a girl on my bus that is a year and a half younger than me. Is it appropriate or am I in the wrong? | 5,026 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I've [26M] been trying to win my ex-girlfriend [23F] (we dated for a year) back for quite some time. Am I going too far with it?
POST: First, I'll explain what my ex-girlfriend looks like. She has gorgeous golden hair that she curls each day. She has legs for miles, the brightest green eyes I've ever seen, a tiny little nose, and a whole galaxy of freckles.
She broke up with me a while back because her family didn't get along with mine (her mother, who I met and who liked me a lot, died of breast cancer, leaving her strict, douchey military father behind). Valid. I told her I would make it a game to win her back, and she told me I could go ahead and try.
It has become a little game of ours. It started out small: texting her daily, bringing desserts to her house, serenading her, etc. Then it escalated. I showed up to her house on horseback (my uncle owns a farm) and we rode around the countryside. I surprised her with some decently-sized fireworks, which are legal in my state. Her response to the fireworks was, "you're getting there."
I still have NO idea if she has any genuine intention of getting back with me, or if she's just having fun at my expense. She never kisses me on these dates, but she never rebuffs me either. I know she has been talking to another guy because I'm seen him around, but they seem completely platonic and non-romantic. I'm so confused.
Tomorrow, I'm going to surprise her. When her mom died, she got a minuscule infinity tattoo on her ankle. I went out and got the same tattoo, but now I'm thinking...does this sound creepy to you guys? Is this whole scenario "normal?"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex and I have had an ongoing game where I try to win her back. How far should I go? Is my next move too far? Should I even bother with this? | My ex and I have had an ongoing game where I try to win her back. How far should I go? Is my next move too far? Should I even bother with this? | 3,365 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Looking for a lawyer dealing house fires/personal injury? Trouble finding reviews of local lawyers.
POST: Our home was burned down due to some type of faulty leak within the gas pipes.... something to do with the furnace and the gas line being exposed or leak.....Nonetheless a family member has had over 50% of his body ravaged by 3rd degree burns. We've been focusing on our family member, and now we're being told to contact a lawyer ASAP. I've gotten a few names/numbers, yet I can't find any review sites/apps for local lawyers....AND for the sites I did find, there was only ever 1 review from clients, and then 3-5 peer reviews or colleagues of the lawyer giving them praise..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | House burned down, family member severely burned--- I found 1 review site, only ever 1 review of lawyer, and the rest are peer reviewers/colleagues giving praise. | House burned down, family member severely burned--- I found 1 review site, only ever 1 review of lawyer, and the rest are peer reviewers/colleagues giving praise. | 6,121 |
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