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200 | When I'm around children I get this intense feeling of paranoia and fear | [
"I'm a male in my early 20s. Lately, my paranoia about being around kids is causing me too breathe heavy and sweat a lot. I then start to act weird because I'm trying to fight my paranoia. This leads to people starring at me because they don't know that I'm suffering from panic attacks and paranoia. They just notice me acting scared around kids and they think I'm a threat because of it. I'm not a pervert or predator. I would never hurt a kid. I like kids and don't know why I'm so scared to be around them. I don't understand why I feel like this. Am I a bad person? How do I make this stop?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
201 | Why do I find pleasure in thinking about killing? | [
"I am a peaceful person, but I often find myself having thoughts about killing people. Eventhough I like the thoughts at the time, they make me cry. Why do I feel like this?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
202 | I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' houses | [
"I'm 17 and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
203 | How do I shake self-doubt about sex? | [
"I get very nervous and anxious/scared before sex."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
204 | How can I atone for being cowardly? | [
"I panicked over a minor parking lot mistake. It was totally my fault, but due to another insurance issue, I left a note with an illegible phone number. Guilty over this, I got an envelope containing several hundred dollars. Unfortunately, by the time I returned, the other driver had seen my ersatz note and drove away. Since I cannot make this up to that individual, how do I atone for my cowardly act? I have been trying to do random acts of kindness in hopes that karma will somehow even out."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
205 | Is there anything I can do to make my anxiety go away? | [
"I'm a teenager, and while I’ve never been to any kind of therapist, I noticed I experience several anxiety symptoms. I frequently find myself not going out and following my parent around the house. I can't go into stores (grocery stores specifically) on my own, and when I do, I have to be on the phone with my dad the whole time. I also forget things a lot."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
206 | I'm not sure if I have social anxiety disorder | [
"I feel too scared to meet people I don't know - even relatives. I don't ever raise my hand or talk in school. I feel like no one understands. How can I handle this?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
207 | Do I text, call, or make contact first, the same day of the morning I left his house? | [
"I've known him for about six years. We've dated off and on. I hadn't seen him in close to three years but recently started seeing him again. I really want this to last this time. I stayed the night. Do I text, call, or make contact first, the same day of the morning I left his house?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
208 | Why do I feel anxious and uncomfortable at parties or big social situations? | [
"Example would be homecoming? I was at my high school's home football game on Friday, and I left because I felt uncomfortable with all the people there and I just wanted to be by myself. Why is that?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
209 | Do I have some type of anxiety? | [
"Sometimes, I'm fine and can go out or meet people, but other days, my heart races and words physically cannot come out of my mouth. I've always thought it was normal and I was just nervous, but the other day, it took me almost 30 minutes of sitting in my car to find the courage to enter Target by myself."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
210 | How to stop worrying in a long distance relationship? | [
"My partner lives in Canada while I live in the US. We visit each other, but we go months in between visits. I have anxiety, and I'm always anxious about him cheating or still having feelings for an ex that he dated for three years. He doesn't understand my anxiety. How do I stop myself from worrying so much?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
211 | How can I take my emotional support animal to school? | [
"I have severe anxiety and have tried everything. Everything makes it worst.The only thing that helps is my emotional support animal."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
212 | How can I be less afraid of rape? | [
"Why am I so afraid of it? I don't understand."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
213 | How do I deal with all of my disorders? | [
"I have attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, posttraumatic stress disorder, anxiety, anger, and memory problems. I can't work. I have no income. I'm on medicine, but I feel worthless. I want to be normal."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
214 | Why do I feel like I’m watching my life from a window? | [
"I never feel like myself. I can’t even think straight anymore. I start stuttering and I can’t remember anything. I always get nervous and usually talk myself down but recently end up fighting with, what feels like, someone else. I don’t know why I feel this way, but I hate it."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
215 | Why am I sick to my stomach when I stand up? | [
"I had to put a restraining order against my ex-fiancé. He was served last night. He was mentally and verbally abusive towards me. I thought it was my nerves, but every time I stand up, I get sick. If I sit and rock, I'm fine."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
216 | How can I convince my mother I have anxiety and panic attacks? | [
"I've been dealing with this for years. My mom thinks I'm overly emotional and refuses to offer any help, like therapy or seeing a doctor. She's seen me when I'm having a panic attack and just said I was faking for attention or that I'm a hypochondriac. I just want to get better."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
217 | How can I get over my fear of accidental pregnancy to have sex again? | [
"I am so terrified of having sex anymore because I have been told over and over that sex is dangerous even though me and my partner used both forms of protection. My partner is not happy about this and simply wants more sex, and honestly, I want to give that to her."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
218 | Why is it so hard for me to talk publicly? | [
"I feel really uncomfortable when I have people's attention. It makes me not want to talk in public or answer questions in class. Can I get over this social anxiety?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
219 | How do I stop my nightmares? | [
"I have been having a lot of nightmares where I am being killed in different ways. I either wake up in a panic or just crying and sweating. It has made me terrified of falling asleep and is now affecting my daily life too. Can I make the nightmares stop?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
220 | I am paranoid that my boyfriend hiding something from me | [
"My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. We go to different schools, and we don't see each other that often. I just feel very paranoid that there's someone else or that he could be hiding something from me."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
221 | I'm scared because my boyfriend is interested in BDSM | [
"I'm concerned about my boyfriend. I suffer from anxiety, but I always have this feeling he wants to hurt me because he told me he was interested in BDSM intercourse. We haven't tried it, but I've had this feeling he always wants to."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
222 | What do I do when I have anxiety attacks? | [
"I get so much anxiety, and I don’t know why. I feel like I can’t do anything by myself because I’m scared of the outcomes."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
223 | How can I avoid becoming wrapped up in family issues and control my anxiety about them? | [
"I started dating my fiancé two years ago. My first cousin is married to my fiancé’s sister. There has always been a communication issue between my uncle and aunt and my cousin and his wife. My uncle goes to my mom instead of talking to my cousin, and it upsets my mom."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
224 | Why am I so anxious in social situations? | [
"Whenever I have to speak in public or be in big crowds, I freak out. I get light-headed, sweaty, and I have trouble breathing."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
225 | I've been having the same dream since I was a child | [
"I am a teenage girl. I've been seeing the same dream once in a while since I was very young. The problem is that I don't remember anything about this dream. I still know that it's the same one, and then I wake up in a panic, and I cry really loud without knowing the reason. Why do I see the same dream, why can I not remember it, and what should I do to remember it?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
226 | If I'm not with my boyfriend, I have emotional breakdowns | [
"I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He loves me a lot, and I love him. It hurts to be apart from him for so long. It hurts all over, and then I feel like it won't last."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
227 | Why am I all of a sudden having issues communicating with the guy I’m dating? | [
"I started seeing this guy that I met at a mutual friend’s place. He recently broke up with his ex-girlfriend and started seeing me. Everything was great in the beginning, then I started having low self-esteem thoughts and thinking he was hanging with his ex-girlfriend again. It’s all I think about. I am still seeing him, but things have changed because I am at a loss for words. I get stuck in my own thoughts. I like and care for him a lot. He just makes me nervous and gives me the butterflies."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
228 | How can I get over social anxiety? | [
"I have not had a friend since I was 19. I don't go anywhere, and I have no job, all because I'm afraid of people."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
229 | Am I somehow stressing myself out? | [
"I think I'm annoying and bothersome, but my girlfriend says I'm just fine. I don't think so, I think I'm stressing everyone else out"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
230 | How can I deal with my paranoia? | [
"I'm a little paranoid. My mind does get the best of me. One night, I put chairs under all of my door knobs because I thought someone might break in. I also think a lot, which is probably the reason for the paranoia. I can't stand loud noises, like the sound of cars going by. The grocery store is too noisy, and I feel like people are looking at me."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
231 | Do I have social anxiety? | [
"When I go to school, I feel like everyone is judging me, even my friends. I get overwhelmed which these thoughts and sometimes cannot get out of what I call a deep hole of thoughts. I barely go to any of our school dances because of all of the people. Not even when I am completely alone do these thoughts go away. I still feel like people can see me and are judging me."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
232 | How do I get over my fears of dying? | [
"Recently, I had a close call after delivering my second child (blood clot followed by internal bleeding and several blood transfusions). It was a close call. I am currently undergoing medical treatment because of the event, and I am constantly afraid the whole ordeal will happen again. I have never really had anxiety in the past, but I find now that it consumes my every day and night. With two beautiful children to raise, I am most terrified of not being able to raise and protect them."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
233 | I'm worried that there's something wrong with the guy I love | [
"I met a guy a while ago, and I can't stop thinking about him. I feel like I love him, but I don't think I know him. What if he is not who I think he is? I cry sometimes thinking someone is going to be with him or that he has a girlfriend. I don't know, am I too obsessive? Every time we talk though, it's like magic. He makes me feel amazing, but what if I'm mistaken?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
234 | Why am I not as comfortable around my boyfriend anymore? | [
"I've been experiencing a lot of anxiety and panic attacks lately. I was recently diagnosed by my psychiatrist with obsessive-compulsive disorder. Lately, I've been questioning everything from my career to my relationship. My boyfriend and I just moved in a few months ago. All of a sudden, I don't feel as comfortable around him as I used to, although I can't seem to find a reason as to why I feel this way."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
235 | How can I be less anxious when dealing with my toddler? | [
"My toddler defies everything I say and doesn’t see me as authoritative, so she says no about everything. I'd like to hear some ways I can work on not needing to feel so much in control all the time."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
236 | How can I deal with flashbacks of trauma? | [
"I was violently raped by another women who was my friend of 13 years. I’m having bad flashbacks. I’m scared to sleep because I see it in my dreams. I don't leave the house because I have panic attacks."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
237 | I'm worried that I will be single forever | [
"I have lately been having lots of anxiety and self-loathing about the fact that I am a young adult virgin girl who has never had a boyfriend before. It seems like everyone my age has already had boyfriends by now or are not virgins anymore, and I just had my first kiss five months ago. I’m worried that, at this rate, I won’t have a boyfriend for a very long time. The problem is that I want to lose my virginity to my first boyfriend who cares about me, but at the same time, I don't want to be waiting forever in order to experience sex. I have already given in to bad temptations by hooking up with random strangers on social media sites and having oral sex with them. Luckily, they were nice guys, but none of them wanted a relationship with me. I feel dirty by doing this, but I feel pressured to do this things in order to seem normal.\n Most people are surprised when they find out that I am a virgin or never had a boyfriend because people think I am really good looking. I am tall, I play lots of sports, and I get excellent grades in school. I am in my first year of university right now, and no guys have approached me to go out on a date or showed any interest. It bothers me. Most of the people in my family have been in relationships at my age already. I feel like I will be single forever sometimes."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
238 | How do I become more confident and face social situations? | [
"For my whole life, I’ve been very unconfident, insecure, and self-questioning. I'm super quiet because I'm scared of what people will think of me. I avoid all social situations as it causes me great anxiety. It is how both of my parents have always been, and I feel like I'm doomed to that life also. It makes it super hard for me at work as the other employees try to use me and walk all over me because I’m too nice. It causes me depression and brings me down. I’m in my early twenties, and I really need to create a better life for myself. I've been like this for so long, so how do I change?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
239 | Sleeping, Anger and Anxiety | [
"I have a lot of issues going on right now. First of all, I have a lot of trouble sleeping at times, while other nights I sleep too much and still feel quite tired. I’m also noticing increased irritability and experiencing anxiety attacks that last for hours. Is there something wrong with me and if so what should I do?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
240 | I have come to the realization that my boyfriend and I want different things | [
"I feel that I need to end my present relationship. He lives three hours away and likes the reassurance of having someone to talk to multiple times per day and seeing me once or twice a month. I want someone who is more present and more of a life companion. Lately, he has had a very busy work schedule and I have only seen him a few times in the last 6 weeks. I told him that I can't continue in this way because I constantly feel frustrated and angry and that he is not making the relationship enough of a priority. I also feel it is keeping me from possibly finding the relationship I want. We have been together 7 years. The problem is that I panic and experience anxiety and depression thinking of him with someone else and then thinking I will never meet someone I like. We have gone through this cycle already 4-5 times and I feel it is unhealthy to stay in it, but my aversion to the anxiety and depression I experience upon separation always leads me to reconcile."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
241 | How do I know if I have social anxiety? | [
"I'm a teenager, and I struggle with going out and talking to people. I feel awful about leaving home. I know I can't afford a therapist so I don't know what my problem is, but I think I might have social anxiety."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
242 | I always feel the need to tell people everything | [
"Whenever I don't tell my friends or anyone what I did or stuff that's not really important, I feel terrible, like there’s a hole in my stomach. It only goes away when I hurt myself."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
243 | Could a rape that happened years ago be the cause of my anxiety? | [
"I was raped repeatedly when I was younger. I told my parents and action was taken, but now that I’m an adult, I suffer from extreme anxiety."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
244 | How do I become less anxious in conversations? | [
"I find myself being very outgoing most of the time, but there are some times when I don't know what to say. I don't even want to talk at all. It's like, I search for the right thing to say and nothing ever comes out. I don't know if I'm outgoing only to fill the void of not knowing what to say. I don’t know if people like that about me. I'm very self-conscious and always think people are talking about me, so it makes me have a cold shoulder and not want to talk."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
245 | I am fearful of social situations and avoiding people all together | [
"This is preventing me from getting a job. I have bad relationship with my bipolar mother. I am living with her but it stresses me out so much to be around her that I have locked myself in my room. I have no friends or other family to help me. I have no money for therapy, but I think I need therapy before I can secure a job."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
246 | How can I slow down and enjoy life? | [
"I feel like my time is going too fast"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
247 | What can I do if my parents refuse to acknowledge my anxiety and self-confidence issues? | [
"My dad refuses to acknowledge my anxieties about going to parties, dinners, etc. Whenever I have an opinion it gets shut down. My mom and everyone else behaves likewise. For my father who heads a company, this is normal. He has to be right all the time. He blatantly refuses to even try to see it from my angle. Recently however, it's been getting to the point where I feel pressured and unable to speak my mind. It isn't possible for me to get professional one-on-one help. He tells me to grow a pair and get over it. I recently have been developing more severe body image and self-confidence issues, which I have had all my life. I feel invalidated by my dad. I have been more paranoid lately as well. I can't turn on location services anymore on my phone because of a past incident. He makes me feel guilty about it. I feel rather worthless more often than not, unfortunately. What do I do?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
248 | I'm experiencing panic attacks when I'm physically separated from my girlfriend | [
"Whenever I leave my girlfriend I get panic attacks. I'm taking medications to control them, but I'm thinking of moving in with her since I get so anxious."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of anxiety |
249 | I think my daughter is stressing too much | [
"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school, she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student, always has a 4.0, but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I’m afraid it’s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
250 | How should I handle the child I had with my ex-wife? | [
"My ex-wife married and used me to have a child. She now uses that child as a pawn. I know my child misses me, but I need to move on and not live in the past. How do I do this? Do I see my child as much as possible or very little? Is it more confusing for the child?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
251 | Is it ok ayto talk with my grown children about spending time with their children? | [
"I was a single mom most of their growing up life and have guilt about trying to work three jobs and being gone a lot. My children are successful with their own business's, have lots of nanny and cleaning help, but I just feel they have such a great opportunity to spend it with their kids."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
252 | What can I do about my dad? | [
"My dad makes me feel like shit and like I'm worthless. He calls me names and makes me feel depressed. I want to move out because I swear if I stay here, I'm going to lose it. What can I do?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
253 | My fiancé's ex-husband shows up unannounced | [
"he just walks in the house whenever he wants to see his kids. My fiancé tells me it makes her angry and doesn't like it, but she seems afraid to say anything to him about it for some reason. Is it okay for him to do this?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
254 | I don't know how to communicate with my adult daughter | [
"There is just no communication at all between us. She sleeps constantly all day (not at night). She acts angry and unfocused and stays in her very messy room all the time. The only time she comes out is to eat. She has aches and fatigue, weight gain, hair loss and skin problems. She does not look after her health.\n I don't know how to communicate with her. She is not open to any suggestions. How do I get through to her?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
255 | My son plays alone at recess | [
"Is this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
256 | My toddler wants her daddy to die when she's mad at him | [
"I told her that if daddy dies, we will never see him again. She started crying because I wouldn't make her daddy die."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
257 | Is screaming and cussing at your child considered emotional abuse? | [
"My dad is always, and I mean always, cussing and screaming at me for no reason at all. He makes me feel stupid. He also compares me to my other siblings in a negative way and demeans me. Is this abuse?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
258 | How should we punish our son for peeing his pants because of laziness? | [
"He is an adolescent. He has peed his pant multiple times over the last few years, all at times when he is too wrapped up in a video game or video. We have taken away games and videos for long periods of time as punishment, but after a few months of having then back, he pees his pants again."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
259 | My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do | [
"I am in my early 20s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\n My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
260 | I get verbally abused everyday by my parents in front of my child and I cannot take it anymore | [
"I'm being verbally abused on a daily basis by my parents in front of my child. I feel like I’m trapped and I have no escape. I feel like I have to listen to the horrible things they say and just take all of it.\n I need some way of learning how to cope with listening to it especially since I have nowhere else to go. I feel very emotionally drained How can I deal with this?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
261 | If parents are divorced, is it acceptable for a counselor to allow an ex-spouse to be present during a child’s session? | [
"Can a counselor take sides with one parent and allow a parent to order the child to tell the counselor \"every detail\" about what happened during the other parent’s visitation in order to help build a case for child custody?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
262 | Should I feel guilty if my adult daughter cannot afford to go on a family vacation? | [
"I have four children. One of them is in her 20s, and she cannot afford to go, nor can I pay for her. She went last year for two weeks by herself."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
263 | If my kids come back from their dad's and act like they are afraid they will get hit, should I be worried about him abusing them? | [
"When they come home from their dad's and I fuss at them for anything, they move like they are dodging being hit. They say they’re sorry over and over really fast. I ask and they say no one has hit them, and I've seen no marks. Am I being paranoid or am I right to be?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
264 | Does my daughter have a mental disability? | [
"My daughter is in later elementary school. She can't color in the lines. Her words jumble together when she writes unless there are big spaces or she skips lines."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
265 | My daughter isn't acting her age | [
"My daughter seemed to be developing at a normal rate until about the age of 10. She then started to act younger than she is. Now she only wants to play with younger kids and she doesn't act her age. I don't know why this is happening. Is this normal?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
266 | How do I discipline a child with autism? | [
"I am a counselor at day camp where we have a child with severe autism. We try to keep him entertained by carrying cards around for when he starts acting up so we can get him to focus on something else. The day camp administrator has told us not to yell at him because he will zone out and not listen, so we just talk in a calm voice. However, other kids see the treatment as unfair."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
267 | How can I help my son succeed in life when he refuses it? | [
"When my son was a teenager, we sent him to live with his dad because of the constant disrespectful attitude. A week after he graduated, his dad made him leave because of the same issues. All four parents tried to talk to him, and he just refuses help all around. He is now living with his grandparents. He had a job, and took steps to get his license and an insured vehicle. I thought he was heading down the right road, and then he tells me he quit his job because he didn’t like it. I just don’t know what to do."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
268 | I lied to my mom, then felt bad and told her the truth | [
"She cried because she lost all trust in me. Now I feel disgusting and like my heart just got stabbed, what do I do?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
269 | I don't know what to do about my son's lying | [
"My son stole my debit card and lied about it. It's not the first time he has lied. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know if I should punish him or make him do something. I've tried talking to him and asking if anything was wrong. I have grounded him, but nothing works. What should I do?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
270 | I'm concerned about my 12 year old daughter | [
"I'm concerned about My 12 year old daughter. About a month or two ago she started walking on her toes, as well as coloring and writing very messy. This all happened very suddenly. She has never walked on her tiptoes and has always colored and written very neatly. Is this something I should be concerned abou? Any advice will help."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
271 | Is it normal to dislike one child? | [
"I have three children. The oldest is nine and not my biological child. The middle child is three and the youngest is one. I have a great relationship with the oldest two children but I haven't developed the same level of attatchment to the youngest child. I rarely want her around and look forward to her nap times. Is this normal?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
272 | How do I kick my stepdaughter out of our house because she isn't honoring boundaries set for her? | [
"She's in her early 20s, and she has a toddler."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
273 | How do I address my nephew's sexual behavior? | [
"My step nephew, a preteen, has begun masturbating. I also had to take away the internet because he was caught looking up porn. I’m worried about him."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
274 | How do I help my 5 year old from horrible tantrums caused by a bully at school? | [
"We have tried gentle talking, counting to calm her and talking about it, sending her to her room and then trying to talk when she’s calmer, and now calisthenics. However, nothing is working."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
275 | I feel stuck in life. What can I do? | [
"I am in my 30s with 2 kids and no job and I'm behind on the bills. I've been trying everything with no results. I feel like everyone else puts their needs in front on mine. I give intil it hurts and I'm afraid that I'm going to fail my babies I've been struggling for 5 yrs in a relationship with no communication and no alone time. How can I get some support?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
276 | What do I do if my 7 year old says she want to kill herself? | [
"My daughter was overly tired and throwing a fit at her grandparent's house. She wanted to come home at midnight and cried screamed said she said she hated her grandma and that she wanted to kill herself!\n We also have a new baby in the house i didn't know if this would contribute to this. How should I approach this?"
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277 | What are the long term effects of losing one's adopted mother? | [
"The birth mother attempted suicide several times while pregnant. The adopted mother was terminally ill upon adopting the baby and died when the child was just over one year old. The adopted father then remarried to a physically, psychologically, and emotionally abusive woman. The child was placed in foster care at 11 years old. What might be the long term effects on an adult with this childhood history?"
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278 | Is it healthy to embarrass a child as punishment? | [
"My grandson's step-mother sends him to school with a pink Barbie backpack as a form of punishment."
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279 | How do I tell one parent I want to live with the other one? | [
"I want to live with my mom. My dad gets angry and makes me feel like everything is my fault. I still talk to my mom although My dad tells me that I'm no allowed to. I'm scared I will make the wrong decision and that my dad will hate me. How do I tell him that I want to live with my mom?"
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280 | What can I do about my children blaming me for their addictions? | [
"I have three children: a biological daughter, a stepdaughter, and a stepson. I found out my stepdaughter overdosed today. My daughter blames me. I told her to stay out of it. I'm scared of all three kids now. They all blame me for their choices they made. All three have drug addictions. I had a stroke in 2013 so I need to depend on people from now on."
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281 | I want help with how to deal with my abused daughter | [
"She refuses to talk to me and told my mom (her grand mother) that she is remembering things from the past. I don't know what to do. My daughter blames me and swears she hates me.\n My parents say I should just let my daughter live with her dad, but I don't see how I could fix things if I only see her every other weekend. What should I do?"
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282 | How can I deal with my daughter's rebellious behavior? | [
"She's a teenager, and for the last two years, she's lived with her older brother. She's angry because she wants to come live with me, but my current living situation is not the best for her. She refuses to see any reason. She's being disrespectful. Her sexual curiosity is waking up."
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283 | How do I quit letting little things bother me and be the mom that my kids deserve? | [
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284 | Should my step-daughters be told that their step-father has a child pornography addiction? | [
"My husband’s ex-wife married a man who was charged with seven felony counts of pandering involving a minor. He, by his own admission, is addicted to child pornography. My step-daughters are now all teenagers. They do not know. My husband’s ex-wife has kept this information from my step-daughters. The step-father has had issues regarding his pornography addiction recently. The ex-wife minimizes it by saying that he has \"repented.\" It is a constant strain on my husband, knowing that his girls are living with a man who is addicted to child pornography. My own therapist believes the girls should be told. The ex-wife says her therapist says the opposite."
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285 | My daughter won't stop stealing and lying | [
"Her father and I have been dealing with this problem for quite some time now. She is an adolescent, and the problem is mostly food. She is now overweight, and we just don't know what to do anymore. She can be disrespectful and doesn't listen to or respect what we say."
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286 | Is it strange that a male family member always want to play with my toddler daughter? | [
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287 | How can I improve my relationship with my daughter? | [
"Me and my adult daughter just do not get along. She's very belittling to me when I don't agree with her. It's almost like she scolds me. We get into all out war. She's said I don't support her in what she does and that I've never loved her. She calls me horrible names, and she pushes my buttons to the point I call her names."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
288 | Our grandson wants to talk to his estranged mom | [
"We are the legal guardianship of our grandson. He has been acting out, and he wants to talk to his mom that has not talked to him since before last year. How are we to handle this?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
289 | My daughter calls me crazy, and I’m not sure how to handle that | [
"I am divorced and happily remarried. Our blended family of children are in their 20s. My youngest, age 20, continues to call me crazy and favors her dad. He was abusive to me, and I left with injuries. He never wanted kids, and I did. He paid child support only through forced wage earners. Now my daughters favor him after all the sacrifices I made for them the past 15 years as a single mom. I don’t deny them a relationship with their dad, but to be called crazy and then watch them hang out with him hurts me to the very core. I’m not sure how to handle this."
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290 | I feel like there is a wedge between my daughter and I | [
"We live with my ex-partner’s sister and her husband. We have been there for five years now. They are Hispanic and talk to my daughter in their language. Sometimes they overstep their balance between aunt and uncle and reach into my role as a parent. They neglect to see this. I do, and it reflects in my child's behavior. She sees them as stable but is upset that her dad isn't here, and my intuition tells me she blames me to a degree because she doesn't know about his alcohol addictions."
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291 | My brother's ex-girlfriend doesn't want her son to see us anymore | [
"My brother just broke up with his girlfriend. While they were dating for the past two years, her son spent the weekends with me and my mother. Now she doesn't think her son should have any interaction with us. How should we approach the situation? Is she doing the right thing for her child?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
292 | My mentally-ill mother-in-law wants to babysit | [
"My mother-in-law is mentally ill. She has been for most of her life. She cuts herself. She has been in and out of psychiatric hospitals for about 40 years. She has voices in her head that tell her to cut herself. She has had multiple shock therapy treatments, and she’s on enough medication to take down an elephant. Her parental rights for her two children were taken away from her when my husband was a boy—he is now in his late 30s. She doesn’t even have custody of herself. She hasn’t asked yet, but she has been insinuating that she wants to babysit my child. How do I go about saying no without creating an issue?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
293 | Should I take my daughter to therapy? | [
"My daughter didn't see her biological father for the last three years. She doesn’t want to see him because she remember really bad things from him such as domestic violence and child abuse. The visitation is with supervision, but she refuses to see him. Is it better to take my daughter to the therapist and try to see him after the therapy?"
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
294 | I can't leave my negative environment without leaving behind my fiancé | [
"My fiancé and I have been in a relationship for two years. We have an infant son. My fiancé also has a child from a previous relationship. We do not live together. I live with my mother currently while I get on my feet, and he's living with some friends. My mother and I have an awful relationship that is completely unbearable most of the time. We cannot even stand to be around one another while living in the same house. She has made it clear that she wants me gone. Recently, I was talking to my father who lives in a different state. My father and I have always had a good relationship. I explained to him the situation I am in with my mother, and he said he would like for me, my fiancé, and our son to come live with him and his wife. I would really love to go. I do not want my son to be in this environment with constant arguing and negativity any longer. There is nowhere else for me to stay while remaining in this state. The problem is my fiancé is refusing to move away with me because he does not want to leave behind his other child. He and his child's mother have a horrible relationship, and she would absolutely not be willing to let him visit if we moved away. I believe I would be doing what is best for my child by moving away, but I do not want to leave without my fiancé. I have already explained the situation to him, and he will not give in. Do I continue to stay in this negative environment with my child and keep our family together? Do I move away with my child and have my relationship end? I do not want to take him out of either of his kids’ lives. What do I do?"
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295 | My child urinated in his mother's drink | [
"Just wondering if this is a deviant act, and if I should be concerned for him. He isn’t quite 10."
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296 | Should I leave my boyfriend? | [
"My boyfriend has a child he gets every other weekend. He goes to see her twice a week or more. Every time she leaves, he gets into these funks like when his mom died. When she’s here, she’s disrespectful, and his answer is “Well, I don’t know what to tell you.” She swears and talks back, and he laughs. He and her mom have been apart for three years, and he blames her behavior on that and her being so young. We never have adult time when she’s not here. She’s the \"golden child,\" and he won’t listen to anyone."
] | User needs a counseler's advice on the topic of parenting |
297 | Should I tell my kids that Santa is real after their dad told them he is not? | [
"My ex-husband told my two adolescents that Santa doesn't exist on the day before Christmas. They are desperate to hold on to the magic of Christmas, but I don't know if it's right for me to lie to them and tell them that Santa is real. I don't want to let them down and make them lose out on those memories, but I also don't want to lose their trust."
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298 | How can I help my kids get along? | [
"For the last year, my adolescent son and daughter have been driving me nuts with fighting. I'm at my wits end. How can I get them to stop and get along?"
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299 | How can I help my toddler with toilet training when he gags every time he sees his poop? | [
"My toddler is having a real hard time with toilet training. He almost throws up every time he sees his poop. He gags and will not go on the toilet. We have tried a toilet chair and ring that goes on the big-boy toilet, but he refuses to use it. When he sits on the toilet, he just sits there forever and only will pee. He holds the poop in until he get up and then will poop in his diaper. I dump his diaper in the toilet and let him know that it is where it goes to try to encourage him. How can I help him get over this fear and passed the stress?"
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