&gt; <i>I don&#x27;t think the writer was placing entire blame with the partner, but actually making a good point earlier about the psychological reinforcement from being around them</i><p>This. To badly reformulate a similar article found here (for which I can&#x27;t recollect the author, sorry... maybe Glyph or Sivers?), <i>&quot;We are not islands, your close friends and loved ones kinda have root access to your brain. Given enough time &#x2F; frequence, their own attitudes &#x2F; biases &#x2F; psychological problems become yours. And conversely, you&#x27;ll inherit some of their strengths.&quot;</i><p>→ To come back to Kenneth&#x27;s mention of the &quot;crazy chick&quot;,<p>- It doesn&#x27;t have to be framed negatively (interpreting it as Kenneth saying <i>&quot;damn crazy chick, she&#x27;s the one to blame&quot;</i>).<p>- Rather, maybe a more positive frame involving our own responsibility helps: <i>&quot;try as much as possible to surround yourself with sane, stable, caring people&quot;</i>.<p>EDIT: hi downvoters, I&#x27;m surprised, care to elaborate?