After 20 years together ... I gotta say, our relationship just isn&#x27;t wired that way.  There&#x27;s negotiation when it&#x27;s needed, but it&#x27;s from a position of mutual respect and not adversity.  That is, we both recognize each other&#x27;s needs&#x2F;wants in the discussion as legitimate and go from there - there&#x27;s no assumption that one of us is trying to gain power or the upper hand.<p>It&#x27;s largely been this way from the start, and has only become more so with time.  I couldn&#x27;t fathom wanting to spend my life with someone I was in a constant power struggle against, or who felt she was in such a struggle against me.