I don&#x27;t like having obligations thrust upon me without my consent. A gift is an obligation: I need to find a use for it, or at least find somewhere out of the way to keep it until I can get rid of it.<p>The way I read your comment, you&#x27;re trying to replace one obligation with another (find somewhere to give it away). You&#x27;re telling me that this absolves the first obligation (&quot;they&#x27;ll understand&quot;), and that I&#x27;ll enjoy the second one (&quot;it&#x27;s a bonus to...&quot;). I&#x27;m skeptical of both of those things: you don&#x27;t know me and you don&#x27;t know my family and friends. But even if you&#x27;re right, I don&#x27;t want the second obligation.<p>If I want to get out in the community, I can do that without waiting for someone to give me a gift I don&#x27;t want.<p>(As it happens, in my case, I often like the gift more than I dislike the obligation. Maintaining an amazon wishlist is helpful for this. But not everyone is the same, and &quot;spare me&quot; is an unkind reaction to them.)