&quot;is that the only way to socialize is to move into a big city where there&#x27;s a bunch of other ~35-45+yo people with no kids&quot; - or you could find &#x2F; join a group with similar interests. A local LUG, sports group, music... whatever floats your boat. For example, I have found it pretty easy to make new friends through mountain biking and track building in my new area.