&gt;It&#x27;s easier for you. For me the reverse is true.<p>What I mean is it&#x27;s easier <i>for you</i> not to say &quot;sucks&quot; than it is <i>for them</i> not to feel upset. Speech is active, but emotions are passive.<p>&gt;I don&#x27;t need to actively suppress negative feelings when people give me factual feedback.<p>I have no problem with merely &quot;factual&quot; feedback. What you&#x27;re talking about goes beyond the facts to put a negative and personal spin on it. Moreover, it suppresses the actual facts (&quot;this SQL is bad because...&quot;) in favour of that negativity.<p>&gt;If I&#x27;m interpreting your posts right, it sounds like you feel your personality profile should be privileged over others and that all organizations should adapt to suit you<p>I think the personality trait of &quot;upset by strongly worded negative language&quot; is incredibly common, so being able to communicate with people who share it is part of basic social literacy. To me, your saying it&#x27;s too much effort sounds like those people who say using correct spelling and grammar is too much effort. If you can&#x27;t do it without thinking, you should learn, because it&#x27;s a widely applicable skill.