I think I&#x27;ll get downvoted for this, esp. on HN, but I think the main surprise people have with this kind of thing (+ what you&#x27;re missing out with the comparison to men frankly) is the significant biological difference between men and women - it&#x27;s far, far easier for a woman to find a male partner than vice-versa. Generally, women choose.<p>In history 40% of all men have reproduced, while 80% of all women have. It&#x27;s just biology.<p>So it&#x27;s surprising they couldn&#x27;t find this in real life. Additionally, women tend to have better support networks than men.<p>Of course, this doesn&#x27;t mean it&#x27;s easy to find a <i>decent</i> guy, and yes, partners are not commodities, so maybe that is the real issue while still wanting some companionship.<p>And it&#x27;s not just way better for _women_ to be single than to have the wrong partner, it&#x27;s way better for a person to be single than to have the wrong partner.