&gt; in this situation, I will react this way, and I don&#x27;t want to<p>If the &quot;situation&quot; involves another person, then that person has a right to participate (or not) in whatever emotional response that is happening. If I&#x27;m attractive to you and you don&#x27;t mind sitting next to me, I&#x27;m not required to show interest in you. If you continue with unwanted advances, you are liable for  sexual harassment. Conversely, if I&#x27;m attractive to you and you do mind sitting next to me because I am attractive to you, I&#x27;m not required to help solve it because <i>you are attracted to me</i> yet are unable to manage your emotional responses. It still involves me, so I get a say in whether you can show that attraction in a specific way, including discriminating on me. So is anyone else, for that matter, given it&#x27;s cognitive dissonance believing it&#x27;s someone else&#x27;s problem to deal with your inability to contain and manage your own &quot;purity&quot;, which is really a fear of attraction to someone else.