Actually I think this is inaccurate. It really depends on the person. You're assuming that he can be charming in person. Some people definitely can, others cannot - they might get overly shy or stumble over their words. Some people are very good with written words and can win a person over in poem or prose. For others it may be thoughtful actions or deeds. Yes, there needs to be some attraction to begin with but some people can turn it to much higher levels through indirect interaction.<p>So even though he was somewhat limited in options by distance, even in general, I don't agree with your statement that "You can create far more attraction in person". It is dependant on the individuals involved.<p>When you start approaching romance with an ROI you've already missed the point.<p>"Your life will be happier if you don't follow this fellow's courting model." That's sad. I say be a hopeless romantic. Follow your heart.