&#62; If you value the superficial affectation of politeness over the essential point of what someone is saying, you can shove it.<p>Surely, in situations like these, even you can understand the value of politeness. You engineered politeness into the bittorrent protocol (tit for tat.) It's the same thing. The admin wasn't being useless and patronizing, he was choking you because you were acting like a bad peer.