Suppose there’s political and societal pressure to do X, and a person (for their own reasons, which may be ethical or political) instead does an alternative thing Y, all also perfectly legal and ethical.  Then suppose that this person gets in unreasonable amounts of trouble by the political and societal pressure.  To then say, in effect, “<i>But they could have done X instead, why do they have to be so</i> difficult<i>?</i>” <i>is</i> blaming the victim.