I agree but still, its <i>her</i> wedding. The focus should be on her and the future, not her predecessor and the past. There are plenty of other occasions for such a loving memorial, for example the anniversary of her passing.<p>The problem with software people is they too often treat people like logical code. Hence the stereotypes.<p>Feynman&#x27;s letter itself is beautiful precisely because it isn&#x27;t logical. Not only because he was writing to a dead person, but also beause he so deeply respected their intimacy and cherished her feelings <i>even after her death</i> that he kept the letter private. In other words it was a real letter not a memorial or tribute. It would have been quite logical to publish it in her honor. But he did not!