There was a great comment on metafilter by `a fiendish thingy`
a few months back about one interpretation of this idea of headship:<p><pre><code>    I have two friends (who are married) who believe in
    biblical standards of the husband being the head of
    the household. HOWEVER. They are also outspoken
    feminists (both of them), and their belief in marital
    headship is based on their belief that a man’s job as
    the head of household who has been gifted with an
    outsize amount of cultural privilege is to actively
    fight patriarchy and bolster his wife’s human dignity
    in a culture attempting to diminish her personhood.
    (Like, head of household is a metaphor for Jesus being
    the head of the church, and Jesus died for the church,
    so they believe the head of the household should be
    constantly throwing himself on the sword of patriarchy
    to elevate his wife to her rightful place of equality,
    instead of expecting her to constantly be the person
    dealing with toxic misogyny all by herself. So
    headship in their marriage is not “I am in charge,
    fetch me my slippers,” but “As the privileged partner,
    I am charged with a special responsibility of helping
    us realize equality within our marriage and our world”.)

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