&gt; Having girly motivations does not mean writing code is of no interest to you. You can be interested in people or whatever and see code as a way to accomplish your goals.<p>I&#x27;ve noticed that in some tech circles, social and emotional motivations (and especially ones with negative valence like anger and disappointment) are seen as sort of unreal and invalid. I understand that people often want to focus on choosing the product&#x2F;technology&#x2F;protocol&#x2F;whatever that&#x27;s objectively the best, but I think there are cases where it&#x27;s warped the culture such that people get into cliques and develop (sometimes intense) social motivations based on perfectly valid factors like trust and respect, but pretend that those motivations are entirely based on dispassionate technical analysis.<p>I guess I&#x27;m not sure what my point is. Maybe it&#x27;s that social &quot;drama&quot; is inevitable, but tech communities make it toxic because of a misguided belief that it&#x27;s irrelevant, and this dynamic causes splash damage for women who are more heavily socialized to value personal relationships. Maybe it&#x27;s just a brain fart, but I think it would explain a lot.