&gt;You replied with an anecdote that illustrates how you got someone else&#x27;s race wrong<p>Yes true. However his race didn&#x27;t ultimately affect how I viewed our friendship or how I interact with him. It&#x27;s an example that anonymity can break the stereotypes that we put on activities and people by removing identity. If I was wrong in my assumption about him then I may be wrong in my assumption about smtddr after learning things about his life.<p>&gt;I don&#x27;t think you meant it to sound like &quot;you&#x27;re wrong about how you&#x27;ve learned to deal with bigots&quot;--which would be a pretty awful thing to tell him!--but it did sound that way.<p>You&#x27;re correct here. I did not intend that. I&#x27;m going to read over both posts again and see why you think that and how I can better phrase my arguments in the future.<p>&gt;That doesn&#x27;t sit right with me.<p>Well thank you for expressing it without resorting to personal attacks and anger.