The &quot;You Just Ask Them?&quot; story occurred when he was teaching at Cornell, after his wife&#x27;s death - and he disclaimed the techniques in the book. Even if your worst impressions are correct, we don&#x27;t have access to their marital situation - she had a highly contagious disease for the entirety of their marriage. It is obviously very clear that he loved her from the letter. I don&#x27;t think there&#x27;s much I could learn that could cheapen the sentiments within it.