The detail you are missing is that there is a huge element of classicism. I walk everywhere. The people stopping me to chat me up are people who drive everywhere. They assume I am poor, which happens to be accurate at the moment but it is not why I walk. They recognize me. I do not recognise them. This creates a power imbalance.<p>I walk everywhere because of my medical condition. Your advice to not be different if I want to not stand out is one I am, in some sense, fundamentally incapable of complying with.<p>I am not actually antisocial. But I do see something incredibly problematic in the assumption, that you apparently agree with, that if I do not comply with the car owning cultural standard, other people have some right to butt into my life on grounds that I deserve it for the crime of being weird. I don&#x27;t agree with you. Furthermore, given the default assumption that no car = must be poor, it is an abusive exercise of power to grill me and expect me to answer your questions.<p>Speaking to people does not by default have to involve butting into their lives in an offensive and fundamentally disrespectful fashion. Real friends do not start the relationship by pissing all over you.