&gt; A hansom male at a beauty convention will likely be ogled by some of the women.<p>I&#x27;m not handsome, and I don&#x27;t get &quot;ogled&quot; a lot, but when I do, it NEVER has this slimy, condescending air it too often has when men hit on women. It&#x27;s either friendly sympathy or friendly lust, and I would assume if I was super handsome, there would be more friendliness, not less. The closest to getting uncomfortable is when someone is into me whom I find very uninteresting; that&#x27;s just &quot;awkward&quot;, and so extremely tame compared to having to wonder whether she is just a bit creepy or maybe capable of rape. When women invite me to somewhere or strike up a conversation, I can just be relaxed without having to keep one eye on the exit. I consider that normal but it&#x27;s, sorry for saying it, a privilege. It really is.<p>My point is, it&#x27;s not the &quot;being considered attractive&quot; by itself that offends and hurts people. I dare say everybody likes that, if it&#x27;s respectful and unassuming, like a genuine compliment without expecting reciprocation or any other rewards. The problem is when it&#x27;s not.