My experiences were not hers, they were worse than hers.<p>She had a solid full-time job making more than I did, appears to be healthy, and signed a lease for an apartment on her own.  By any measure that I see, her life was both more luxurious and less stressful than mine at the time.<p>If you can point out one aspect of her life that wasn&#x27;t self-imposed and that ended up being more of a hardship than when I went through, I&#x27;m all ears. But so far it seems like all you&#x27;re saying is that I can&#x27;t criticize because I&#x27;m not actually her, which seems silly.