One thing that I observed the year I lost two great uncles (one from one side of the family and six months later one from the other) to cancer was how easy it is for the closest family to get very tied up in the logistics and medical side that people weren&#x27;t really taking as much time to really talk to them. Granted they weren&#x27;t considered terminal until close to the end.<p>As the younger nephew, I didn&#x27;t feel as much responsibility to be involved with the logistics (it felt more awkward to me but I think it was comforting to the children, spouses etc). So instead of joining in on the doctor&#x2F;prognosis conversations and later the funeral arrangement&#x2F;what to do with the house stuff, I just sat and talked to my uncles instead.<p>I had known both of them my entire life but I realized I knew almost nothing about them. All our interactions were just uncle to nephew, family occasions kind of stuff, but by this time I was an adult (just barely), and all the sudden we were just two people talking and I learned more about them in a 20 minute session than the prior 20+ years. Some other family who were on the periphery of the conversation confided later that they regretted not having those moments while they had the chance. I didn&#x27;t even talk that much, just enough to make it a two way conversation, but I found my uncles both were very at peace but wanted to reminisce and tell stories they probably hadn&#x27;t told anyone in decades. One uncle told me about joining the military during Korea and having gone through all the training and finally being sent all the way there to have the war end practically the day he got there and he ended up being sent right back and what a strange conflicted experience it was for him.<p>I&#x27;ve started visiting with my other elderly family a lot more since then and have had some similar conversations that didn&#x27;t require anyone being terminally ill, but somehow that seems to make those conversations a little easier.<p>I can definitely agree with the piece, especially about what to say and what not to. I&#x27;m not expert by any means, I just did the only thing that felt natural whatsoever: just talk to them like a person and let what happens happen. Granted I had the benefit of the fact that they were well taken care of by their children and others, otherwise it would have been much more difficult.