Hello Men &amp; Women,<p>I&#x27;m 35 years old software engineer, with excellent professional accomplishments, several qualities, ok but not great looks, a handful of true friends, and a few past relationships, usually met in dancing clubs.
I recently got dumped after a one year relationship, based on &quot;I like you, but I don&#x27;t love you&quot;. The only feedback I&#x27;ve got was not being man enough.<p>For example, I usually avoid conflicts (I got beaten often as a kid), of any kind. Two months ago I started going to self-defense classes, which I love.
Another example, even though I go only for beautiful women (maybe because I don&#x27;t consider myself alone beautiful), when I&#x27;m in a relationship I feel insecure that she really likes me.<p>How do you manage &#x2F; What activities do you do that boost your manly power and confidence, especially with other Men?
I&#x27;m not looking for stuff like sky-diving or crazy risk takings.<p>Really appreciate any advice, or books&#x2F;articles recommendations (e.g. No more mr Nice Guy, by Robert A. Glover)
Thanks
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