<i>You seem to be implying that america is post racial and some of just won&#x27;t let it go.</i><p>And you seem to have read your own biases into a very objective and clear point. That point being, stop banging on about how terrible it is people get defensive when you use offensive terms.<p>If your response to that is &quot;but it&#x27;s not&quot;, followed by yet another academic definition of &quot;privilege&quot; is.. stop. You&#x27;ve missed the point.<p>Offense is taken, not given. If your goal is to have a frank and honest discussion with someone rather than attack them, you <i>do not</i> lead off by using terminology that is racially charged (as if anyone can choose their race), minimizes someone&#x27;s struggles in life (of which you necessarily know <i>nothing</i>), implies guilt (however slight), and which is frequently used in bad faith to shut down discussions anyways.<p>That may not be what you personally intend, but that is what the audience hears. Act accordingly.