Hey, don&#x27;t knock skydiving -- Life is never simpler than it is in freefall with 6 seconds till impact.<p>The way I see it, you&#x27;re presenting two distinct but related problems.<p>The first is that you&#x27;re choosing romantic partners poorly. And this is just a hunch -- but I think you&#x27;re choosing women not because <i>you</i> are attracted to them but because you think other people will be.<p>Because if a beautiful woman has chosen you, it is proof that you have value as a man. In other words, the drive to become romantically entangled with beautiful women is more about insecurity than anything else.<p>And women can smell insecurity like shit on a shoe.<p>Of course you feel insecure that she really likes you -- because you don&#x27;t actually like <i>her</i>.  What you like is that a high value woman is validating your very existence.<p>Which leads me to the second problem.  You&#x27;re deriving your sense of your own worth from other people.<p>And it&#x27;s impossible to be consistently happy when other people have control of your happiness.<p>When a woman tells you you&#x27;re not being man enough -- she&#x27;s giving you a precious gift -- once in a while you get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right.<p>You&#x27;re probably not very decisive. Women like to be able to make decisions big and small -- but they <i>hate</i> <i>hate</i> <i>hate</i> to <i>have to be the one</i> to make decisions.<p>You absolutely must take that burden off their shoulders.  So next time your partner asks where you want to go for dinner -- immediately make a decision and answer. Then be prepared to negotiate because she probably had something in mind when she asked the question in the first place.<p>And they pay very close attention to where you fall in the pecking order among other men.  So if you want to be &quot;man enough&quot; you&#x27;ve got to face other men with confidence and courage (I don&#x27;t mean fighting -- that&#x27;s the refuge of the tragically insecure).  A book that might be helpful in this area is &quot;the way of the superior man&quot;.<p>You can&#x27;t shrink from conflict.  You have to face it head on and deal with it <i>gently</i>.  You see, it is only possible to be <i>gentle</i> if you&#x27;re powerful.  Otherwise, it&#x27;s just weakness.  And this world absolutely will not abide you being weak.  You&#x27;re not allowed.<p><i>A ship is safe in harbor, but that&#x27;s not what ships are for.</i>  And likewise, we men are meant to have uncomfortable lives. A man is safe when he avoids conflicts, but that&#x27;s not what men are for.<p>hth