Thank you, Pieter. This brings up my 80 year-old father&#x27;s death by cancer 8 years ago. The end came less than two weeks after the diagnosis, despite the doctor estimating 3-6 months.<p>Having flown halfway across the USA, I was fortunate to be there for his last two hours, unlike one brother, who arrived a day late. I wish I had come with happy memories to share, but the suddenness and shock of seeing him holding on by a slender thread obliterated such thoughts. I took over for the at-home hospice nurses and ministered care according to his heart and respiratory rates.<p>My mother had prayed in the next room, &quot;Lord, take this good man,&quot; and it was obvious that his end was imminent.<p>Oddly, my experience felt similar to seeing the Twin Towers burn from a mile across the Hudson River. My eyes were riveted to the inferno until I turned to look away, then magically believed that when I returned my gaze everything would be right and intact.<p>Dad&#x27;s eyes never opened, but his expression brightened when I said, &quot;Dad, it&#x27;s Dave.&quot; After hearing my mom&#x27;s prayer, I busied myself with his nursing care, but was stymied about what to say. I had already told him the most important things on the phone after hearing the news from him that he was dying without regrets. He was lucid and conversant then. Now, he was teetering between states of coma and listening heart.<p>When my mother stepped into the hallway outside their condo, I counted his respirations – 32 per minute – and gave him a dropper of lorazepam, as directed. I said to him: &quot;I can&#x27;t ask you to stick around.&quot; I wanted him to know it was okay to let go but had no other words to say it. Facially, he shrugged. Thus did he begin his final retreat. I called my oldest brother and his son into the room and we called his name as he drew his last breaths. When Mom returned it was all over.<p>I still wonder, if I had come with loving memories to share, would he have held on through the night and into the next morning, long enough for his middle son to say goodbye?<p>It could be my life&#x27;s project to write about my father, but my life has too much urgency to reflect so long on the past. Maybe things will settle enough for that in the future, but not now.<p>I am grateful for your valuable experience and will explore your writings. You are helping your family and others with everything you&#x27;ve done. I believe you are having a marvelous adventure.<p>David Forshtay