Thanks for answering: I appreciate it.<p>I&#x27;ll admit that that notion is pretty foreign to me: &quot;unenthusiastic&quot; is pretty antithetical to &quot;awesome&quot; in my book (not just when it comes to sex). But setting aside the &quot;awesome&quot; label, I can definitely see a place for occasional unenthusiastic (but fondly willing?) sex in a long-term relationship. And I&#x27;m willing to grant that some folks might be turned on by &quot;hateful&quot; sex (though the combination of &quot;hateful&quot; and &quot;unenthusiastic&quot; seems exponentially less interesting).<p>But in either case (and maybe especially both together), the sex in question is almost by definition going to look one heck of a lot like rape. If your partner is actively demonstrating a distaste for what you are doing, <i>how do you know that they&#x27;re consenting</i>? I would hope that the people involved would have some very explicit conversations about what was expected in advance (and ideally even set up a safe word), just as for BDSM. (And as I noted, I consider that a stricter standard than affirmative consent.)<p>Without those safeguards, if one of the participants in such an arrangement accused the other of rape, I honestly couldn&#x27;t begin to see a reason to disagree with them. (&quot;It wasn&#x27;t rape, it was unenthusiastic, hateful sex! He&#x27;s into that, believe me! Even though he says he isn&#x27;t.&quot; That&#x27;s not gonna fly.) Is there something I&#x27;m missing about this?