At any rate please <i>don&#x27;t</i> go down the path of self-proclaimed &quot;life coaches&quot; telling you that &quot;you got to be the Alpha Male&quot;. The world has enough jerks already.<p>In my opinion you need better feedback (more precise, possibly more honest) before you start making changes based on it.<p>Do you yourself feel you <i>want</i> to change the conflict avoidance pattern you&#x27;re describing, confidence in social settings, etcetera?
If you do, I strongly suggest you to have a look at coherence therapy and consider if it goes well with your beliefs and values. That or some closely related approach is probably the fastest effective way get an authentic change.<p>I&#x27;ll join in with the bodybuilding recommendations too, but that&#x27;s for a largely different set of effects.