A question based on a recent experience: I just interviewed at 2 different places.  On-site interviews for half a day, met with 4 to 5 people and parting words from the HR ladies: &quot;Thanks for coming, I&#x27;ll gather feedback from the team and get back to you in 2 to 3 days.&quot;.<p>3 days later nothing.  After 5 days I drop a quick note to both HR reps and get a reply &quot;You were great but not exactly what we are looking for right now&quot;.<p>Now, in both cases I had decided at the end of the interview that it wasn&#x27;t a good fit, and they probably realized the same thing.  But I found it incredibly rude that they didn&#x27;t just send a quick email to let me know about it.<p>Then, I checked with HR at my current place: &quot;When we interview someone and tell you that they are not a good fit, do you get back to them to let them know?&quot; &quot;Not always.&quot;<p>I brought this issue to my CTO, pointing out that it was a terrible way to manage relationship with the dev community in our area.  Am I the one out of touch here?  Is this behavior wide-spread?  Is interviewing now similar to dating? We throw nice parting words &quot;It was great seeing you, I&#x27;ll be in touch&quot; while we are both supposed to know that none of us will call the other?
Ask HN: Is an interview now equivalent to a first date?