In my opinion its more about being comfortable in your own skin.<p>It is ok to have insecurities. Everyone does. I am sure there are a tonne of women out there that would love you for who you are.<p>&quot;Especially with other Men&quot; sounds like you are trying to compete too much with other guys at least in your head. So stop trying to do things just so that you can &quot;pound your chest&quot;.<p>For me reading books boosts my &quot;manly power and confidence&quot; and my girlfriend loves me for it. I have a mighty phobia of bugs so she is in charge of taking care of that. I guess she is the &quot;man&quot; of the house.<p>Point being don&#x27;t beat yourself too much over it just because one girl didn&#x27;t love you and told you that. It is OK and very very common.