Read and practice <i>No More Mr. Nice Guy</i>. That book was a true eye opener. Get into a weight lifting program (with a coach, NOT by yourself), it feels great and it gives you a long term goal outside the dev bubble.<p>&gt; When I&#x27;m in a relationship I feel insecure that she really likes me.<p>You shouldn&#x27;t feel that way if she already <i>chose</i> you.