I&#x27;m happy to hear that you were able to make a series of choices that made you happier! I hope that you didn&#x27;t feel attacked by my comment -- the &quot;needless&#x2F;useless&quot; comment was intended to be with regards to my own situation, not a prescription for others. I think it&#x27;s an easy trap to fall in to, wanting to prescribe your own beliefs upon others and make the world in your own image (&quot;if only they&#x27;d all just listen to me!&quot;), but ultimately ineffective.<p>&gt;  Ironically, I&#x27;ve also been able to be a more effective advocate for all genders because now I&#x27;m in the &quot;boys club&quot;. By that I mean, pointing out when someone is treating men or women differently just because of gender, but also helping highlight when someone is expecting different treatment just because of their own gender.<p>That&#x27;s awesome! I like to think that I&#x27;m still an effective advocate for equality despite not identifying as genderqueer or taking any particular pains to present a certain way. As a logical extension of the beliefs and decisions described in my original comment, I try to do my best to set a positive role model by making myself happy while presenting as $GENDER rather than genderqueer. Be the change you want to see in the world, and all that.