I judge neither you nor her.<p>I make observations. I then compare those observations to previous observations to better understand people. This helps me understand others better, just as it helps me understand myself.<p>We all have moments where we look back and realize we made bad decisions. It takes no effort to think &quot;I should not have done that.&quot;  Ditto for other people.  Does that change anything?  No. Does it inspire better decisions in the future?  Maybe, if one is willing to learn. But simply judging what someone should or shouldn&#x27;t do instead of listening and learning solves nothing.<p>We are all human beings. We all have hopes and fears and strengths and flaws. Just remember that the next time someone is not very nice to you.