For all the negative things folks have been saying on here about SF (expensive, etc.) there&#x27;s a huge positive that overshadows all of it for me:<p>I&#x27;ve made more new friends in the last 3 years since I moved to SF than, I&#x27;d honestly say, my previous decade living in NYC.  I&#x27;m 37 now and feel like I have more of a community than in college.<p>I think the key to finding real friends and friendships is to be in a place where you&#x27;re going to be surrounded by the kind of people you WANT to be friends with. It doesn&#x27;t involve over-thinking or forcing it: I&#x27;m a 30-something dude who loves tech and being outside. There are a LOT of people like that in SF.  I figured that out within a week of visiting 3 years ago, so I moved here.<p>Say what you will about monoculture, but it sure made it easy and fun to find a community of people I liked (and vice versa).