If the person remains totally passive at each of these stages, or repeatedly says or does something not affirmative, like &quot;I really need to go&quot; or turning away from you, what do you think you should do next? Is this really that hard?<p>The only way what you&#x27;re saying isn&#x27;t really creepy and odd, is if you have a version of affirmitive consent in mind, that doesn&#x27;t correpsond to reality.<p>edited to add: It&#x27;s worth bearing in mind the history of this, were a person doing the above would be told that it didn&#x27;t count, that they were expected to &quot;fight off&quot; their rapist, because that&#x27;s what good victims would have done, and clearly they weren&#x27;t a good enough victim because they just remained frozen in fear, or were nearly unconcious through drink or drugs. Both the potential victims and the potentially accussed are better of with this extra clarity, that silent, passive, borderline unconcious acceptance of what you are doing is not enough to avoid later accusations.