I am so happy to be seeing this today--great timing! I identify as femme, and I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years, and I am constantly defending my sexuality. It's only recently that I've been comfortable admitting that my sexuality is more fluid, and that I find men attractive, because I've spent so much time trying to prove my gayness to others. Thanks for sharing, Hannah!  And if anyone else has struggled with labels recently, I wrote a blog post about it: http://thenourishedmind.ca/ginger-rhubarb-vanilla-cream-bars-paleo-vegan-and-why-we-have-to-stop-labelling-ourselves/