DonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t listen to all of those people that are saying that you canÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t be with shay yes he has done something that is horrible but he has forgiven his mistakes and he feels terrible for it but with this happing it will just make you guys more of a stronger family what helps even more is that he is trying his very best to help himself and make all of this better