Which websites or products have successfully used ORM and benefited
I have used Nhibernate before and at that time it was more like learning something new.I did not put much effort into learning the internal workings of it.But now I'm working with couple of my friends who decided to use fluentNhibernate and sometimes I feel that it has turned out to be the wrong decision, as too much of time is spent in thinking about performance and response time.I want to know if ORM has actually been helpful in building a successful product or a website.Right now I see it as a overhead.
Which websites or products have successfully used ORM and benefited
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I have used Nhibernate before and at that time it was more like learning something new.I did not put much effort into learning the internal workings of it.But now I'm working with couple of my friends who decided to use fluentNhibernate and sometimes I feel that it has turned out to be the wrong decision, as too much of time is spent in thinking about performance and response time.I want to know if ORM has actually been helpful in building a successful product or a website.Right now I see it as a overhead.