Polymorph other and turn it permament (or variant of baleful polymorph) is quite nasty :P. Anyways so far as I know Elvas had seen Abuxuel (and his imp) as female so it is bit shocker once he realizes she is a he. But he would adapt once he learns those in power already know Abuxuel's biological gender but indeed it would be Lolth's will that Abuxuel remains as able channel divine energies like priestess does (altough different manner). Even yochlol could not argue against such claim and that Abuxuel got sacrificed for Lolth (and is a fact which she can check up) and he returned with Lolth's blessing.<br/><br/>So, Faeremhara's death may indeed have been all along Lolth's complex plan, it would sound like her deceive a drow to call devil do ambittious ploy to kill unfavored priestess to let more favored one step in place while leave it on bit doubt was it Lolth doing or not.<br/><br/>So, anyone who would go advertise Abuxuel's gender gets city confused but higher ups stomp on him or take this as opening move to test again Abuxuel's favor with the queen of spiders (and both can happen sametime).