"Well I do mess up occasionally," he tries to explain, "there are times were I explain things in the wrong fashion and she doesn't understand."  He looks at Kristin and then down a little at the floor, "I think sometimes I might be making it worse for you and your family when it comes to her behavior."  He looks back at Kristin, "Honey I love you very much and it is cute the way she likes me and everything, but I don't want to make things difficult for your family."  He doesn't know what he wants to say and so he surely can't put it the way he wants to.  "I guess what I am trying to say is; I want to be good for you, Gracie, your mom, and your dad.  I don't want to be a hindrance to Gracie's growth process; I guess I feel that way sometimes."