Indeed, as a monk, you're left out from topaz tournament which is for non-monk chars to participate in (even shugenja participate, magic/rituals forbidden though). Unless Pumpkin Seeds decides twist lore bit and say all youths go through the tournament as a rite of passage commonly shared by them despite their career choices. Even pacifists can participate in many games/sports which use no weapons at all. Only last day duels commence and pacifists are left out by default but accepted to adulthood.<br/><br/>Edit; Also as added twist to women who seek arrange marriage with Akachi, they each could give a teaser, an offering/sampling of sorts, what expect of them when their wife to Akachi. Vaginal penetration is big no, as in Rokugan is expected (for respect to kami) be virginally pure. But it leaves rather a huge gap of things that women can do before they are send off as brides  ;). Just in case if final vote falls to Akachi to decide if parents/grandfather cannot get agreement.