Those who I am kinky with real time I respect their limits. It something is off limits, then I don't do it. Just as those people respect my limits. It's like how my mentor never put me in his collar irl even though it was painfully obvious that he wanted too each time he would grab my hair and kiss/bite me. And the first time my Dom tried to collar me I freaked out, but he respected that and let me go to him when I was ready to receive his steel.<br/><br/>I'm also rather timid and shy around new people, so until I've warmed up I will keep a distance. Especially around males. I've been abused before so that's another reason why I can be hostile toward submissive males (something I am working on). Granted some guys absolutely love it so I go for it, but if a sub boi asks me to stop I will.<br/><br/>As for your real time conditions, I won't pry into that because I believe in respecting other's privacy.