Also if the above was TMI, let me know and I will take it down.  As for the FWB/NSA white elephant in the room, the wife and I have had a talk long ago about having a one night NSA fling as long as it was in the open, we both met the other person or couple, and boundaries followed/respected.  Now I can count on one hand with fingers left over how many times both of us have had said fling.  I signed up for the site at o'dark-thirty in the morning as I said on an impulse whim and perhaps a bit of an ego boost.  Two months and over 1000 messages later, I guess I am either popular, or the site is desperate for my money at a $1.50 per reply back...