I actually feel a bit bad about it.  He's incredibly honest and blunt, which are usually good things.  Unfortunately, like many women, I tend to over-analyze everything he says to me, trying to find hidden double meanings which simply aren't there. Anyway, I don't know how much good it will do you DigitLninja, but perhaps a sincere apology to Alyssa is in order.  If she doesn't forgive you, at least you tried to mend things.