:-[ thanks... *offer accepted*<br/><br/>the good news is that my kitten's (Sarah, 5 months...I have another cat Lucy who's 7 years old) stitches held over the weekend.  She was spayed on Friday and as soon as I got her home she began to occasionally nip at them so most of my weekend was watching her to make sure she didn't pull them out.  I was going to try and put a cone on her when I went to bed but after fighting with her for an hour and a half I realized that wasn't going to happen (I lack an extra hand...which is also what makes trimmer her claws so difficult).  So I've been worrying for much of the last couple of days that she'd pull them out while I was sleeping or at work.  I'm less concerned now...<br/><br/>that was stress point one...two as it often does involves a woman (not to sound too Noir-y), without getting into too much of the long backstory it looks like we broke up and quite possibly never really got back together to begin with.  So now I have to decide if I want to try dating again (a prospect I've never enjoyed) or just wait and I don't know.  I don't want her to breakup with the woman she's now seeing, as I want her to be nothing but happy...BUT at the same time we've both said on several occasions that we still really care about each other and neither of us really have a good idea what's up (or possibly could be up).  And even if we did get back together (or something gets worked out, somehow) I don't know how to solve the other two issues; she can't move up to Janesville where I live (for different reasons than me...), and that to pursue her dream/desires of going to mortuary school she'd have to move to Chicago or Houston.  I would have an easier time moving to the Chicago-land area and keep my current job (which I also love), but all cases I still own a condo here and that alone would make moving difficult...(this all happened sunday evening)<br/><br/>So in the end things kind of suck, I have little real control over the way things play out, and it's no one's fault...it's just life...<br/><br/>so, yeah, things sucked this weekend...but my cats are both doing well and Sarah still cuddles up next to me purring up a storm at 2:00 am (Lucy's a princess who comes by to be pet while I'm trying to drift off to sleep upon entering bed), so there's that.<br/><br/>...Thanks... I appreciate it...<br/>Matt