Thanks for explaining the parties. I find it very interesting, both from the perspective of someone who might let her partner go to them and because it intrigues me.<br/><br/>Someone really hurt me and I just hit a wall at the thought of letting anybody I don't care about near to me, or even befriending someone knowing they may cross that line. The problem is, those I would let intimately near are too close for me to be detached about everything. I'm not sure it's my nature to be, but I have never been a part of the dating scene. I married my first b/f. I find it more easy to be open online, on the phone etc than in RL.<br/><br/>There's nothing wrong with the munches. They're just meetups and the people there have always been nice to me. It's not that people even talk about sex stuff that much, and it's good for me to be getting out when I don't have that many friends in the city. I just feel like.. I'm way different from how they are here. It adds a sense of pressure and drains my enjoyment. I think that's partially what it comes down to. That and because my husband is interested in other women there. I pay more attention to my cider. I may be a lost cause.<br/>