<div class="quoteheader"><div class="topslice_quote"><a href="https://elliquiy.com/forums/index.php?topic=86017.msg3871792#msg3871792">Quote from: The Fifth Master on 10-11-2010, 00:37:16</a></div></div><blockquote class="bbc_standard_quote"><br/>Why is it wrong to have sex on the first night?  Why should they wait and for how long?<br/><br/>Who suddenly made it Bo's right to make those kinds of guidelines without have a long discussion with the whole group?<br/></blockquote><div class="quotefooter"><div class="botslice_quote"></div></div>I am going to keep my opinion of this completely IC, because I think that it's really important that we keep the relationship between the writers strong no matter what is happening IC.<br/><br/>This, to me, has a lot to do with the characters' prior experience and attitude about sexuality.  Bo has had a conservative upbringing, has not had group sex experience - much like Mila.  She's nervous about having sex the second night, too.  Bo isn't appointing himself to decide when it's okay to have sex, he's expressing his opinion that he wants everything to slow down.  Vince<em>asked</em>if the other men would be taking the girls ghost-hunting (or something) that night, and he responded to that as honestly as he could.  That's my interpretation, at least.  I think maybe he was trying to open it up to discussion.<br/><br/>It got uncomfortable not because of what he said, but because Mila took it personally.  The response was natural for my character, and I do not apologize for it.  If Mila had laughed, or just agreed, everyone may have agreed that waiting a bit was a good idea and moved on.  However, she was hurt by the comment and everyone at the table knew it.  And her pain wasn't because of Bo, it was because of her history.<br/><br/>If Vince interpreted her flirting as serious and initiated sex the first night, she would turn him down.  She isn't ready, because even if there is nothing wrong with sex the first night, it<em>is</em>wrong for her.  And so, I'll bring this OOC... I think for me, the lesson here is that our characters are going to have to learn that there is a ton they don't know about each other, and that assumptions are dangerous.<br/><br/>*blows kisses to everyone*<br/>This is my interpretation of the sitch - I'm sure that if I am misinterpreting Bo's intentions, TS will spank me.