The smile on his face never changed, it was comforting without being condescending, probably something taught in school.  Yet his eyes showed the compassion and concern of someone that knew how to listen. When she was finished he paused a moment to gather his thoughts, "First, I want you to know that this is normal." He adjusted his body in the chair, turning more of it toward her as he spoke, "You concern stems from the fact that most people don't want to discuss the intimate part of a relationship. You may talk about how a spouse handles the money, or treats the kids. But, when a person sits down with their friends to have a serious talk, sex issues aren't brought up. Men may do it to some extent, but they aren't getting into the details or seeking advice."<br/><br/>Michael paused as he reached for his drink, took a sip and then set down the glass, "So don't think of this as not normal. In fact, you should think of it as taking a big step in trying to help out your marriage.  I've done a lot of research and written a few papers on why people cheat in a relationship. A lot of the time, it is because they are missing something in the bedroom. Even women look for sexual satisfaction or experimentation. By nature, we are sexual beings. We love intimate contact and the feel of the endorphins coursing through our bodies during a sexual experience." He smiles at her, trying to reassure Cecilia and put her at ease, "Now, if you can start to see this as perfectly normal, then we are going to really make a difference in your marriage. And, your husband, if he is honest and willing to work on the marriage, well, he'll accept this as well and learn that this is a couple's therapy.  Do you think you can view this as normal therapy? The way you view this is as much a factor in the success as anything else. We can't make a difference if you think this is worthless."