I think it's clear that no offense was intended.  Unfortunately, as we all know, only so much can be conveyed without being there in-person.  I think I understand your perspective on this particular situation pretty well, Brandon.  It can be very difficult to find the right partner or situation, and for it to be enjoyable, spontaneity is can be crucial... it's part of sex-- having the same idea at the same time, and for the right reasons :)  Particularly for a D/s room, for both roles, being chosen is crucial... having someOne want to take you as a pet, or be enamoured enough to serve You, is at the core of this perspective.<br/><br/>s/Switch hitting has never bothered me, personally, because, as a s/Switch, I may actually have a little MPD ;P If I change my perspective, so long as I haven't committed myself to seeing a situation as a sub or Domme, then it's a little like flipping a switch.  But if I've built up a situation and, to be repetitive, 'committed myself' to that attitude, changing r/Roles is unfathomable.<br/><br/>Anyway... everybody's still friends here, right?  (looks back and forth)  Can we fuck now?  ;)