The Top Of My Todo List
When I first saw the title of this essay, I thought I already knew what I was going to say...<p>Something about how my own todo this now has only one item on it, the single most important thing to do next. I gravitated to this based on the great quote by chess master Jose Capablanca:<p>[When asked how many moves ahead he looked while playing]: "Only one, but it's always the right one." (from <a href="http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Jos%C3%A9_Ra%C3%BAl_Capablanca" rel="nofollow">http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Jos%C3%A9_Ra%C3%BAl_Capablanca</a>).<p>Then I read pg's essay and Bronnie Ware's blog post and realized that this post was less about work and more about life.<p>Then it hit me: My life's todo list <i>still</i> has only one item on it and always has:<p>"Always do the right thing."<p>I realize that this can be very hand wavy because the "right thing" means something different to everyone and even something different to me at different times. But still, it has been the perfect #1 for my todo list.<p>Several years ago, my mother, who lived 1000 miles away, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and could no longer use the phone. So I began flying back to Pittsburgh every other weekend to be with her. After a while, even this wasn't enough. So I moved to Pittsburgh to be with her every day.<p>People tried to say the right thing to me, but it never was right. They'd say things like, "I admire your doing this, but you really don't have to because she doesn't even know who you are," or "You may be making a sacrifice now, but in time you won't regret it; you'll have nothing to be sorry for." And I thought, "How sad. After all these years these people still don't get it. This isn't a sacrifice from me to her. It's a gift from her to me."<p>I'm a little uncomfortable distilling pg's and Bronnie Ware's five thoughts from down into one, but "Always do the right thing" just works for me. I just hope the others in my life find something that works as well for them.