Ask HN: Low self confidence and self esteem. How to improve?
All the posts below ignored one huge thing. I'm going to provide a list of actions that transformed my life when I was 19 and solved the problems you mentioned. How? These habits increased my confidence, calmed my mind, and increased self-awareness. Habits & systems are everything. Number 1 is the MOST important and is paramount. None of the rest will work without it:<p>1. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/nofap" rel="nofollow">https://www.reddit.com/r/nofap</a>. Don't dismiss. No harm in trying. Do 90 days and report back how you feel. Good website: <a href="https://www.antidopamine.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.antidopamine.com/</a><p>2. Meditate every morning for 20 minutes. Try headspace app.<p>3. Exercise everyday (eg. strength training, sprints, BJJ/Muay Thai, sports, yoga, etc.)<p>4. Clean up your diet. No garbage, processed food. Eat naturally. Lean meat, veggies, some fruit. No fast-food, no bullshit. Health body => Healthy mind.<p>5. Sleep on time and sleep enough.<p>6. Practice what you suck at. Every day. Practice practice practice. I want you to fail over and over again, get back up, and fight again. Warrior mentality.<p>7. Write in a journal everyday to track progress/create a plan/identify problems.<p>8. Quit all social media and anything else that gives your brain dopamine hits. Remove all addictions from your life. It's wasting precious time you could spend improving yourself.<p>EDIT: I thought of more..<p>9. Make sure you allocate time everyday where you disconnect from technology. This is a good time to practice social skills, exercise, read, write, cook, take a walk and think. Solitude is essential for health.<p>10. Google "Discipline Equals Freedom" and Jocko Podcast. He has great books and I suggest reading them.<p>Basically, remove bad habits & people, create/add good ones, practice what you suck at, and take care of your body & mind.<p>If you need help, comment below and we can figure out a way to talk privately.