Salary negotiations for techies (2011)
I'm about to ask for a raise for the first time but I'm not entirely sure how to handle it.  I've been with this company for 7 years and only received 2-3% increases the past 3 years.  I interviewed at a competitor and they offered me a 20% increase, which I turned down.<p>During negotiations should I simply ask for them to match?  I don't want them to think I'm actively looking for a new job but want to get paid my worth.