Learning How to Exert Self-Control
<i>Whether you eat the marshmallow at age 5 isn’t your destiny. Self-control can be taught.<p>The secret of self-control, he says, is to train the prefrontal cortex to kick in first.<p>To do this, use specific if-then plans, like “If it’s before noon, I won’t check email” or “If I feel angry, I will count backward from 10.” Done repeatedly, this buys a few seconds to at least consider your options.<p>Self-control alone doesn’t guarantee success. People also need a “burning goal” that gives them a reason to activate these skills, he says.</i>