Procrastination is Not Laziness
I'm reaching out here because I really need some advice.  This is a great thread, but I think it only semi-applies to me.<p>I am 24 years old, and I seriously struggle with motivation to do... just about anything.  I have a midterm tomorrow in Dynamics (a mech engr course), and I have pretty much neglected the class entirely, and I am most certainly going to fail it, and I'll have to withdraw.  This isn't surprising, because I've been in this situation many, many times before.  But the issue goes much deeper.<p>For my entire life, I have struggled to do many basic things other people have no trouble with, like keeping my room clean or being on time.  (I am chronically late).  For high school I had bad grades, and for college I've had abysmal ones.  I took Calc 2 three times, and Calc 3 four times.  Business 1 three times, and I've repeated probably 3 or 4 engineering and other easy classes just a single time as well.<p>After my third year at university (a complete disaster), I investigated getting tested for ADD, and lo- and behold I "had" it, along with mild depression.  Now I live on my own, and aside from not having enough friends as I'd like / once had, I don't really have any real reasons to be depressed.  I started Adderrall a few years ago, and it showed me how backward I am.  I'll get to this later.<p>A recent talk with my half-sister really opened my eyes by showing me she is very much like me when it comes to getting things done.  
For just about everything, I get no mental stimulation out of "doing it now," so I put it off.  And off.  And off.  I have some kind of huge mental resistance, anxiety, or pain associated with doing it (for all you neuroscientists out there). I straight-up simply CAN NOT get myself to do it. In fact, I have never, EVER, just sat down and done something long before it absolutely _HAD_ to be done.  Instead, it gets to a critical point where I realize, HOLY CRAP I am going to fail if I don't start now.  Essentially, the things that actually motivate me are fear-driven (embarassment or failure).  It's at this point I am now under huge pressure to get it done, and not surprisingly, I have totally inadequate time to do it, and my ability to focus and actually complete the task is completely compromised.  Sometimes the stress gets so bad, I have to just quit what I'm doing and go to sleep, to alleviate the stress.<p>This trend goes on, and on, and on.  I didn't finish school, and I'm trying to transfer right now, but my GPA is so low I can't get in anywhere.  I've applied to universities over and over, where I've written essays about how I've grown and am a better, more mature person now, but the truth is I'm not.  In full honesty, I know full-well the formula for success, but no matter how well I plan or organize my time, when it comes to physically doing it at the most primitive level, I fall flat on my face.  Thus, that simple action-component of the master plan goes unfinished, and the house of cards begins to fall from there.<p>If it is of interest, my father has had very similar if not worse issues for his whole life, as well as my mother, but not quite as bad.  My mother has serious lack of motivation issues and has had longstanding depression, and both my half-sisters seem to have the similar difficulties with focus and motivation.<p>This fits in to what I perceive as a greater trend:  I generally lack stimulation, and I gravitate towards things that give me that kind of instant gratification.... primarily the Internet (and HN!), extreme sports, and playing guitar.  I have actually become quite a jack of all trades, lacking follow-through to finish anything to my desire.<p>I've learned that really to get anything done right, it takes slow and consistent focused work, which unfortunately for me, is just very boring, and I never do it.  I _can't_ do it.  When I try, my mind wanders uncontrollably.<p>I've long been criticized as being lazy, and perhaps that's what I am, but I don't view it in that sense.  I want _desperately_ to be able to work.  I want to work long and hard on things, and have follow-through, but I am unconsciously prevented from doing so.  I have tons of ideas and a wild creative side, but I have, as a marriage counselor put regarding my dad, "an aversion to doing."<p>The lack of stimulation seems to carry over into my relationships too.  I have a hard time getting along with most people.  Most people are just kind of boring; I don't get much out of their presence. Not in that I can't have a conversation for a short while and appear sociable (which I am), but truly making friends seems very, very difficult for me.  I try to, but it just doesn't work.  I rarely make actual friends that I feel comfortable with, until I randomly will make one, with no effort whatsoever (about 1 per year).  Very interestingly, most of my friends are similar to me; they are of fairly socially-akward sort, and many are very ADD-ish.<p>I'm 24, and my life is in shambles, compared to what it could be.  Very recently I almost got an amazing job at Apple (corporate), but after nine interviews, I was ultimately denied because I lacked the degree and had an "unprofessional" LinkedIN, Facebook, and email address. (okay the last part wasn't relevant).  Anyway, that hurt, and I need to finish school.  All my friends from high school are in _TOP_ law and grad schools, and I'm still semi-unsuccessfully drudging on with my undergrad and working at a startup that won't go anywhere, making $12/hour.<p>I don't know what plan of action to take.  What can I do to fix this?  Do I go see psychologist/psychiatrist?  I've heard so much about the brain's plasticity, so is this something I can fix ?  I had some level of success with Adderrall, and it showed me what it's like to _FEEL_ motivation to do things at the appropriate time and similarly the anxiety to _NOT_ doing it "now."  It also made engaging with people much easier.  It was pretty profound.<p>However, I really don't like the idea of being on a drug all the time, and I felt like I quickly grew tolerant to it, which is a trend I'm more afraid of than anything.<p>Nothing is working out for me, and I want to get things on track before I've wasted my life away.  I have huge ambitions, but I cannot accomplish them, and being brutally honest, while it's still a long ways away, I wouldn't want to raise a kid with my habits as they are now.  That's a big deal.<p>So, HN, any help or advice would be very appreciated.<p>Thanks.