Ask HN: How did you rebuild yourself after having hit rock bottom?
> <i>I've also started therapy 2 months ago, but it's going slow and it hasn't been very useful yet.</i><p>My #1 piece of advice is, find a new therapist.<p>Therapy isn't one size fits all. You need to not only find the right type of "modality" for you (e.g. CBT and IFS* are worlds apart, generally you want somebody "integrative/eclectic" who will combine the right modalities for you), but you also simply need to find somebody to click with. It really does depend on trust and chemistry to a shockingly large degree.<p>I know multiple people who did years of therapy that was next to useless, then found a new therapist that just 2-4 sessions made a <i>huge</i> difference.<p>It's <i>entirely</i> normal and expected to "shop around" with therapists. Try an initial 1-2 sessions with 3-4 different therapists, and be upfront with them about what you're doing as well. They won't take it personally -- they're therapists -- and they're even more aware than you that therapeutic outcomes are super dependent on just finding the right personal match.<p>When you find the right therapist who is really in tune with you, you can go from having a "breakthrough" every couple of years, to every couple of sessions. It's <i>crazy</i> how different the outcomes can be, and how few people are even aware that the outcomes <i>can</i> be so different.<p>(Note that this is less applicable to CBT which is very recipe-oriented, paint-by-numbers, surface-level treatment. CBT can be great as a short-term fix for distorted thinking patterns, but it's not designed to address anything deeper, so a good match with a therapist matters less.)<p>* CBT = cognitive behavioral therapy, IFS = internal family systems