A life less posted
The problem with wanting not-facebook is that we don't really have a choice anymore.  The social systems that were in place before facebook and mobile devices became so prevalent have all been destroyed, so there's no going back to the way you lived in 2002.<p>People don't make plans anymore, make fliers for their parties, etc.  So if you decide that you don't want to participate in social networks online, it essentially means that you're opting out of society offline as well: you simply won't be included in those social plans.<p>And even if you managed to stay a part of society, you find yourself standing in the metaphorical elevator where everyone else is looking down at their phones.<p>If you manage to make it out to dinner with people, they'll all inexplicably be taking photos of their food, posting them on facebook, and then only relating to each-other at the table to explain who has commented or liked or whatever'd the things that are happening right there.  And that's pretty uninteresting if you are not also invested in the likes, replies, etc.<p>Basically, it's a network effect, and we're in it.  To characterize it as a choice only legitimizes this thing as something we have control over and have opted into, rather than something that has happened <i>to us</i>.