We were wrong
Dear fellow HN dwellers,<p>If you read the writings of the Guide's author and do not recognize that it is misogynistic and advocating sexual assault, you have a problem. That problem is that you are mistaking sexual assault for "taking the first step."<p>You do not need to resort to pulling out your dick and forcibly placing the woman's hand on it in order to "make a move." There's literally hundreds of other things that aren't sexual assault that you could do before resorting to that.<p>If you believe that's a reasonable "move" to make, then you not only have no imagination, but your judgment of what's acceptable behavior is way, way off. It doesn't matter if this is a woman who you're behind closed doors with for the first time, that's not a normal, acceptable "move". That kind of thing is for people already in an established, ongoing relationship with a solid foundation of consent.<p>Without that consent, it is assault.<p>I strongly urge all of you who "do not see the problem" with the author's writings to do more research into exactly what consent is, and what women (as a whole, obviously it varies from individual to individual) see as acceptable, expected behavior.<p>If women are loudly saying "This is assault.", you need to take them at their word, because it is their judgment, it is their <i>consent</i> that matters. Not yours.<p>Sincerely,<p>A married, 34 year old HNer who is ashamed of this community right now.<p>EDIT:<p>I thought this was obvious but <i>I have already read all the comments in this thread and all the "context" the excusers are providing.</i> If you think pointing me to that again is refuting my points, then you didn't understand what I wrote.