“But he does good work.”
From an older guy (and happily married) guy to the male population in tech.<p>If you see behaviors like this and let it happen, you&#x27;re complicit ... if you&#x27;re in a position of authority (someone&#x27;s boss) and you let it happen, you may also be criminally liable.<p>But it&#x27;s far worse ... what I hope is a small minority of bad actors are defining the definition of male in our culture.  Since there&#x27;s an even smaller number men who are willing to speak out against them, and an ocean of those who don&#x27;t want to be involved in the middle, only a mere whisper of voices are countering those who, to be honest, tend to be the loud-mouth, misbehaving misogynists.  It&#x27;s time for the gentlemen to step up their game.<p>&lt;PROCLAMATION&gt;<p>If you&#x27;re being harassed, sexually or otherwise, within my earshot, I will take action to stop it.  I&#x27;m not offering hugs of consolation but rather to stand between you and the abuse.  I will protect you (potentially a stranger) as I would a member of family or any of my close friends.  Those of us with spouses, daughters (and sons) want safe places for them to work too!<p>I originally wrote &quot;If you&#x27;re a woman being harassed ...&quot; but realize there are many cases where a bully is harassing someone who shares their gender.  And in the corporate world, there are always predators taking credit for others work (according to recent studies, it&#x27;s the psychopaths that rise to the top).<p>I&#x27;ve had a long career in technology, and in theory have enough of a reputation that I can afford to spend some political capital.  I think the younger men who are &quot;just starting out&quot; have a bigger voice than they realize, but they need to band together.  Let&#x27;s take back the organizations that have degraded to this point ... when there&#x27;s nowhere left for people like Applebaum to work, I still won&#x27;t feel sorry for him.<p>What&#x27;s it going to be boys? ... are you willing to step up your game?  To behave like men?  Or better yet, to become a real gentleman?<p>&lt;&#x2F;PROCLAMATION&gt;