On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness
There is a lot to unpack here, and it is difficult to know where to begin.<p>I had a friend who was a pastor who lamented he didn&#x27;t like that his yearly board game get-together with his other [often pastor] friends often ended up discussing their dead bedrooms. I have no idea how these dynamics have come to be so common, even taking into account the usual ebbs and flows in relationships. I don&#x27;t know if this problem occurs at higher rates in more religious couples. I suspect that this is the collateral damage of [obviously misguided] purity culture, but we see the same patterns outside of religious couples.<p>Edit: I should clarify to say the only reason I&#x27;m writing this is that these problems have a big impact on people&#x27;s lives, aren&#x27;t easy to fix, and often buried from everyone around them.