Why you’re going about recovering from perfectionism all wrong (2021)
Good advice, though in the end ot still boils down to &quot;accept yourself&quot;, which is the kind of advice she said she found unhelpful at the beginning... I think this is kind of a &quot;Monad tutorial situation&quot;, were the important part is not the words, but the intuitive understanding... And once one finally achieved some intuitive understanding, one wants to help the world and spread it, without realizing that the only way is to use the words one found unhelpful for so long... But sometimes the 101st reformulation is what makes someone&#x27;s understanding make &quot;click&quot;, so why not.<p>Anyways, this is not a critic to the author as such, just a recognition of the phenomenon. I am actually tempted to bring in my own words there, in case my particular reformulation can help someone. I am familiar with the kind of &quot;vision&quot; (for the lack of a better term) the author describes, and they can be extremely healing. However, I think it is a mistake to overinterpret those: oh, ok, this village is actually the set of my personality traits, and I need to show them love to integrate them and blabla... I mean, it can be a valid interpretation, but in my experience it is not useful. Much better is to develop a sense of what feels useful in the moment, and let the image develop on its own agenda. It feels like it would fit to kneel and ask for foregiveness? Try it. Or maybe what feels good it to let the Smurf Army crawl under your skin and break you to pieces. Let it happen. But most often than not, trying too hard to interpret what is happening (or worse, what is &quot;right&quot; or &quot;wrong&quot;) according to some theory just gets in the way.<p>Good luck to all.