Tell HN: The regret of parenting and how to handle it
Love my kids but man I wish i was still a DINK. Turns out being a parent isn’t as grand as I thought it would be nor have I found myself to be enjoying the parenting lifestyle or finding myself as a naturally maternal dad… I know two other guys who feel the exact same way.<p>I feel bad for feeling this way but i wish our 230 k income (now severely reduced due to wife working part time for past 2 years) was me and the mrs living in a penthouse overlooking the water and being able to go to the gym, do my hobbies, travel the world, retiring earlier, not having to put away $100 per week per kid into savings for when they are older l due to this f’d up expensive world.<p>Our lives now consist of being sick, stressed, constant arguing, being unhealthy, paying a shitload in daycare fees , tired, not exercising, having to buy a bigger car&#x2F;house etc etc… the kids come first and get what they need and have heaps of clothes, always eat healthy etc but man I feel like I have aged about 10 years in the past 2 years. My wife and I are defintly no longer the same people we used to be. It’s kinda funny, sad and nostalgic at the same time when our iPhones randomly show up clips&#x2F;photos of us pre having kids and how youthful and happy we were and the photos are always us smiling in one of our many overseas holidays without a care in the world. Fast forward a few years and life is completely different, not necessarily worse, but just different.