Why is it hard to make friends over 30? (2012)
In the past month three men, (one 45ish, another 55ish, another 74) two of whom I was barely acquainted with, have poured their souls out to me over their relationship and business troubles. I&#x27;d argue that it isn&#x27;t hard to <i>make</i> friends, it&#x27;s just hard to <i>meet</i> people in the first place. Men in particular get into a habit of focusing on business and family. More than once I&#x27;ve heard older men voice a complaint if their wives weren&#x27;t the ones to build social relationships, as they expected them to fulfill that role. Below 30, people have more opportunities -- school, sports, activities -- through which they simple meet more people. Above 30, the number of opportunities to meet other people declines unless one makes a concerted effort to seek out their tribe.