The Problem of Marital Loneliness
I think there is beauty and wisdom in making a commitment (through good and bad, till death do us part) and then actually keeping that commitment regardless of how my personal desires are or are not met over the years.<p>Once the commitment to honor my wife and word is most important, it becomes an anchor in my life to the waves of wants and desires which are ever changing.  Feeling lonely in my marriage, well, I&#x27;m in this thing for life, how can I productively address this with my wife?  Or, maybe my expectations of her are unrealistic, can I find friends or interests elsewhere while still honoring and remaining committed to her?  If our romance becomes dry, then I work to address that with her.  If I notice she&#x27;s not happy or unsatisfied, then I need to care for her and help if I can.  If I can&#x27;t, then I&#x27;m just going to be there with her, walking through dark times, because that&#x27;s my commitment, and it&#x27;s loving and honorable.<p>My desires are often fleeting and dishonorable...selfish and wanton.  It&#x27;s good to deny them and pursue more honorable things with my life.  The best things in life, the best stories, are those that come after trial and sacrifice.  So much of our modern culture is empty and destructive because we&#x27;ve put self, our wants...our desires, in the place of utmost importance.  Not having the wisdom to see that philosophy is like dedicating oneself to getting water from a broken cistern.<p>Furthermore, one of the best things a father can do for his children is to love their mother this way.