Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming
Concepts I&#x27;ve found effective and powerful:<p>* Given them your attention and listen closely. Ask considerate questions.<p>* Practice empathy. People usually don&#x27;t want advice, they most often simply want someone else to understand their experiences. If they are open to advice and you have a tidbit of wisdom, share it kindly and with obvious humility<p>* Channel your optimistic&#x2F;zen side. All bad experiences are temporary, we can&#x27;t change the past, and our mindset greatly affects how we actually feel about any scenario. The future is in front of us, how do we want to proceed? These attitudes can be contagious as well.<p>* Try to find common ground, even if you don&#x27;t share their viewpoint. With a stranger, there isn&#x27;t usually a foundation of rapport and mutual understanding to support adversarial debate.<p>* If you strongly disagree, respectfully acknowledge what they have said, and then shift to a more amicable topic (unless they specifically ask for your view)<p>* Pay close attention to body language and other subtle cues. Listen to what is <i>not</i> being said. Keep in mind all relevant context. The specific words that are spoken usually reflect a small portion of the actual information being communicated.<p>Practice, practice, practice. These skills come naturally for some, but we can all use improvement. Being actively mindful of these aspects of communication&#x2F;social interaction is valuable for anyone.