I tried an alternative way to date – and it worked
US based male here written from the perspective of Austin, TX. Your mileage will of course vary.<p>Not being a user of Tinder et al. I can&#x27;t say I have a lot of experience first hand but what I do know is a lot of women who are constantly swiping and such (I have a solid group of &quot;hot&quot; female friends to study - Im not sure this is a good thing as I&#x27;ve learned some pretty terrifying stuff about dating from them). They admit they are mainly there for attention and validation and that the whole thing has very little do with dating. In fact, its more about a free meal at a nice place. Literally every one of them has a side-guy she&#x27;s having sex with on the semi-regular anyhow and he&#x27;s not paying for shit. I&#x27;m not making this up - this is what they tell me they use the apps for. When they see pictures of some sexually appealing guy or even better one flaunting money with cars and what not they get interested fast.<p>So, post sexy shirtless pics of you and your gym body in front of your Lambo. Extra points for backwards hat - the bigger the bill on the hat the better apparently. Better yet post sexy shirtless pics of you and your boat. Happen to find yourself in a private aircraft of some sort - POST THAT PIC!<p>If you do these things you can write a profile about being sociopathic sex offender complete with misspellings and idiotic grammar and get away with it - nobody is reading it anyhow. The reward is more often than not, earning the right to meet a girl at the hot, exclusive, trendy and EXPENSIVE new place and buy them a nice evening. Afterwards they frequently - not always mind you - end up over at my place telling me about the stupid guy they went on a date with and ditched at 10PM. This isn&#x27;t abstract - this is absolutely real. When I want to eat I buy groceries, when girls want to eat they go on dates. I&#x27;m 100% absolutely not kidding.<p>Personally - I never got into The Apps thing. I have guy friends who do it quite well and believe me they&#x27;re not looking for a wife and the girls they bring around are most certainly not wives in waiting. These guys are living proof you can in fact get good at this and contrary to what you might think, these guys aren&#x27;t exactly Ukrainian Underwear Models either. Quite the opposite but with their Rolexs and Real Estate Portfolios, that stuff isn&#x27;t important anyhow.<p>Status trumps money. Money trumps sex appeal. Sex appeal will still get you in the door but well behind the status and money guys.<p>What I really love personally about the shit show that is pervasive app based dating is simple - I can now walk up to a girl at a show, a nice venue, where ever there are girls having fun and say &quot;Hello&quot; while looking them in the eye and introducing myself. Nobody does this anymore and it seems to blow their minds by the look on their faces when a real guy in the real world bothers to walk straight up to them and start telling them silly jokes.<p>It seems to convey the message of &quot;I dare you to reject me, in fact thats why I bothered to walk over here and chat you up in the first place - this kind of social jeopardy is inconsequential and entertaining to me. I don&#x27;t care because I have big brass balls and you don&#x27;t scare me one bit - besides theres tons of girls here and you&#x27;re not in a position to negotiate with me as I have plenty of options you can see right now with a brief look around the room here&quot;. This seems to convey the understanding that Im a High Value Male and more often than not it works. At worst you get a dead fish handshake from a girl with no social skills. In the best case you actually make a new friend or find a gaggle of girls to spend the day with and take things from there.<p>I encourage anyone who wants to flip the script to give this a try. Im here to tell you that the old school game of collecting phone numbers from in person interactions still works as well or better than it ever did. Apps are for attention seeking women and men who seek to industrialize the process of sourcing girls for the purpose of sex.<p>Personal connection in the real world is a powerful thing and allows you to leverage advantages The Apps just don&#x27;t offer. Simply be attractive to the demographic you&#x27;re going after (if you&#x27;re seeking Goth Girls be a Goth Guy etc), have some witty things to say and don&#x27;t be a creep. Get some phone numbers. Wait a few days and follow up with some texts etc. PROPOSE A DATE AND MAKE THE ASK. It wont always work of course but it puts a lot of the choice making process back in your hands.<p>No matter how you approach it, it&#x27;s always going to be a difficult grind but at least this way you get to have a little fun in the process and sharpen your own social skills.<p>EDIT: Seems this post has been flagged? Seems like a perfectly valid article to me - at least considering the source. Maybe someone didn&#x27;t like what the had to say as it hit a little too close to home me thinks.