Improving Ourselves to Death
I know I will likely catch a lot of downvotes for this, but I found the teachings of Jesus to answer questions of how to run life. As well as the Proverbs of the old testament, and many other scriptures.<p>Seek and you will find. When I get stuck, I found in the past I would look for excuses on why something isn&#x27;t working, or why is this happening to me, or when will this end. But when I started to actually &quot;seek&quot; I always found an answer. It may take time and effort, but I always found it.<p>It&#x27;s like smoking, drinking or drugs. If you want those things, you seek them out until find them. Why not do the opposite? Seek a way to change how you feel about them.<p>This worked in my family life too, I was very tired, and I blamed one of my kids for something (he actually did it, but I was brutal in my accusation) he fired back and we started fighting. At the end of the fight, I was angry because he couldn&#x27;t admit his error. Despite this, I sought an answer in my mind and heart on how I could have changed the outcome. Me, not him.<p>I was so angry, even hurt by his disrespect, but I kept looking and looking. Then it hit me, a very obvious answer, if I had talked to him quietly, he would not have fought with me about how I treated him.<p>I found an answer. Then I applied it. I told him I was sorry for accusing him so harshly, and that I should have come to him more reasonably. That was it. I couldn&#x27;t change what happened, but I got to replay the event halfway. A while later he came to me and acknowledged his own error, but I didn&#x27;t demand this of him.<p>Seek an you will find is a generic answer though, as you can seek things that are bad for you as well. But then wisdom must come into the picture no matter what.<p>Once you have studied enough self-help stuff, you will find that distilling them down, they all end up in a similar place. Change yourself, you have control over this, and it will change your life. Just be careful what guidelines you use to change by.