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As a complete outsider and a father of two &quot;TCK&quot;s (that term is a bit too close for comfort to &quot;Louis CK&quot;...), this is obviously a welcome read - I can only hope my kids will indeed benefit from the difference that they inherited.<p>I see it every day that there are clear opportunities in being a bridge between different worlds: it provides authority where none might otherwise be warranted, dramatically cuts down on jingoism and traditionalism, provides perspective on one&#x27;s true condition, and opens one to experience <i>the different</i>, which is a great way to find ones true place in the world.<p>But it can also be brutally lonesome. It&#x27;s probably more so for me than for my kids, but feeling effectively unable to ever access certain circles, far away from your most trusted friends, and struggling to navigate the codes and conventions of a different society - it can be very, very hard. It definitely made me more self-sufficient, but that&#x27;s not necessarily a good thing all the time. If the local culture not just ignores you but actively rejects you, it can also be pretty scary (and costly).<p>It&#x27;s also something that TCKs don&#x27;t get to choose. I can blame myself for my status, but they should not blame themselves - and still I fear they might. One of them is clearly struggling a bit with reconciling his multiple identities, and I fear it will get worse as he moves into adolescence.