Ask HN: Has anyone here turned around their life in their 40s?
You need to see a therapist.  Your problem is largely on your outlook on where you are in life.  This is not meant to be a buck up or shut up comment, it&#x27;s just that you can&#x27;t improve your life until you change your outlook on things.  You won&#x27;t be able to move forward on things until you confront your feelings and accept your position to move out of it.<p>To answer your question, yes.  My 30&#x27;s were a mess with a divorce, a parent with dementia, a kid who had a unknown behavior problems they said was autism, and trying to keep my dad&#x27;s business running all while maintaining a full time job. You can get better, but you need help doing it and have to actively accept you aren&#x27;t all alone.