‘Why am I talking to 10 guys?’ The rise and fall of dating apps
I don&#x27;t know why but the online dating experience has gotten worse this year. A lot more ghosting. I don&#x27;t know if that&#x27;s just me. I recently removed 3&#x2F;4 of my matches because they were not answering after 2 weeks.<p>OLD works this way:<p>* There are very few women going on those apps (ratio is about 1 woman for 3 or 5 men). It&#x27;s by design. OLD apps don&#x27;t care about the bad reputation of OLD. They could introduce a reputation system to force men to behave, but it&#x27;s not profitable.<p>* A woman picks one guy among her matches. She finds one and it works. She doesn&#x27;t bother answering other guys for obvious reasons (she could be polite but she doesn&#x27;t want to deal with the reactions of those men)<p>* The other guys get frustrated, which is good because it incites them to pay for more matches and to land on top of the pile.<p>Dating apps are a well-oiled scam. It&#x27;s the worst social media because it preys on users by deceiving and misleading them, by using love as a medium.<p>I have suggested to automatically remove matches if one user doesn&#x27;t answer after 10 days. 90% of my matches would go away. It would change everything.<p>Another suggestion would be to introduce a calendar feature where the dating app can automatically pick a time and safe place for a meet (a public place, usually) depending on your availability. That way, everybody feels safe, it improves the selection process, and you don&#x27;t circle around in chat conversations, and you only match with people who wants to see you.<p>It&#x27;s a bit easy to accuse men of being responsible for the bad reputation of dating apps, but it degrades the women&#x2F;men ratio, which is obviously the root of the problem. Women cannot properly deal with that ratio (and the whole &quot;biology teaches that uterii are scarce&quot; which is a nature fallacy).<p>Dating apps solve that problem by making men pay, or by arguing that men are not attractive enough. This also puts oil on the fire of the incel narrative, but it doesn&#x27;t excuse it.