Love Hurts
I think this article confuses so much I can&#x27;t really start to peel it apart. The number of dog whistles per paragraph is astonishing.<p>I can begin by questioning the idea that a &quot;ruined woman&quot; still exists in our society. I married twice and never expected a virgin in either case. I married intelligent and interesting women and I&#x27;m much better and richer for that. I wasn&#x27;t a virgin either, so it&#x27;d be unfair to demand that anyway.<p>Between marriages I noticed the vast power I <i>could</i> have over younger less experienced people. Of course I could manipulate them - I was the experienced and interesting person myself.<p>And then I realized I was once as naïve as they were and the fact I was a man didn&#x27;t protect me from being manipulated by others smarter and more experienced than me who got away with what they wanted. Don&#x27;t get me wrong - I had a lot of fun, but, still, it did hurt and it was wrong to be manipulated.<p>It&#x27;s unacceptable to drive a car recklessly without care for pedestrians or other drivers the same way it&#x27;s unacceptable to have sex recklessly without care for the consequences to others. And, yes, that includes casual sex that&#x27;s more casual for one of the partners.