Ask HN: How do you deal with getting old and feeling lost?
This is almost exactly my life, shifted by a decade.<p>The problem is that by 35 you can&#x27;t get by on novelty anymore because you&#x27;ve seen some version of everything there is to see.<p>The worst thing you can do is pine for the good old days. They aren&#x27;t coming back. And they weren&#x27;t that good anyway. Your best times are ahead if you can successfully adjust.<p>What worked for me was putting down roots. I resisted it mightily at first because I wanted to stay mentally 25 forever. Now I see that getting married and having a couple of kids was the right thing to do. It forced me to become more flexible, more deliberate, more focused and have more stamina to do hard things<p>I&#x27;m a loner by nature, so I can&#x27;t imagine where I&#x27;d be if I hadn&#x27;t settled down. I just know it wouldn&#x27;t be as good.<p>Once you&#x27;ve got those roots down, life will lead you to what you should do next. Maybe being a full time parent, maybe learning to sail, maybe more successful entrepreneurship. Who knows...<p>EDIT: I don&#x27;t mean to imply that everyone needs a family. What&#x27;s important is to start living for others to some degree. Hedonism has famously bad diminishing returns.<p>Some people choose to do lots of volunteering or switch careers to social work. There&#x27;s lots of options.