/r/antiwork: A tragedy of sanewashing and social gentrification
I once discussed one of these eye rolling things with a real life friend of mine over the internet and I finally discovered what &quot;abolish the police&quot; really meant to him. He was knowingly being intellectually dishonest in order to move the goalposts.<p>I&#x27;ve dated someone like that too and it only came out during an argument when I started writing down what she literally was saying and she finally said that her choices of words were how she felt in the moment, not descriptions of reality even if they seemed like that to me, the listener of what she was saying.<p>This has made my life so much better. When I hear something someone says to me now I have an extra filter to run it through. It&#x27;s no longer a choice just between the person being dishonest about the facts or being unintentionally wrong about the facts. They could mean it in a different way.<p>I still think their way is wrong, but now I can deal with it in a practical sense, like waiting for someone to calm down or calling out intellectual dishonesty.