Ask HN: What's the biggest problem you face as a parent?
Bullying. Only boy is 3 and goes to a daycare setting. I think there&#x27;s a lot out there for older kids but, I haven&#x27;t really had a great sense for how to discuss some of the stuff I have to with him. Like when a kid hits, what if it&#x27;s the same kid every day, when is defending yourself OK. My kid is a completely non-violent kid and gets his feeling hurt when other kids are. Even in disagreements, he never resorts to pushing, hitting, biting, etc. A lot of the stuff he&#x27;s been subjected to are probably not bullying. But, just rougher kids (who may have older siblings so a bit more rough and tumble). My kid also enjoys sharing with friends and unfortunately that&#x27;s a skill many kids his age have not acquired. However, at times, I feel like I&#x27;m raising a pacifist because I don&#x27;t want to condone violence, however, I very much intend to teach him (in time) that standing up for himself is acceptable and will likely be required in some situations. I just I don&#x27;t know when that is and just kind of floundering my way through. A big fear of mine is he ends up a target of bullying in a sustained manner. I personally remember being young and was never bullied because I never allowed it. There&#x27;s always going to be another kid trying to show off or elevate his social capital at the expense of another kid&#x27;s; and I was very aware of that dynamic and made sure to never allow it (even throwing the first punch if that&#x27;s what was needed). These are different times though.