Basic Social Skills Guide (2012)
&gt;In a nutshell, you inspire me when something that you share makes me want to share something, too. Notice the word &quot;want&quot; in that definition. Inspiration does not make your partner feel obligated to share. It makes them want to share.<p>This is the part that I&#x27;ve been stuck at for years. And I imagine other technical people hit this roadblock as well. Being able to talk with people when you have little in the way of common interests is a skill in and of its itself. Finding intimate relationships becomes particularly difficult when you can&#x27;t achieve the inspiration since most young women aren&#x27;t exactly excited to talk about code, or tech, or any of the things HN types tend to dedicate our lives to.<p>I don&#x27;t think any of these self help references can really solve this problem, short of advising one to be &quot;more open&quot;, which really means force interest in uninteresting topics.