Making friends as an adult is hard (2021)
I&#x27;m talkative, outgoing and pretty funny in real life. I think I can say that people generally enjoy my company.<p>But I only have about three friends, and I see them maybe four times a year.<p>I really get along with my coworkers and enjoy their company at work. My wife thinks I should make more friends.<p>But the truth is (and I suspect this is pretty common with HN&#x27;ers), I don&#x27;t want more friends!<p>Because in addition to those three friends, there&#x27;s siblings, siblings-in-law, husbands of siblings-in-law, parents, parents-in-law, cousins, my wife&#x27;s friends, my wife&#x27;s friends&#x27; husbands, etc etc. And they all wanna see you!<p>That, plus of course spending time with my lovely wife&#x2F;daughter (which I love to do), leaves not much alone-time to explore all the awesome stuff you can do in this world. Play guitar. Read a great piece of literature. Learn to draw. Learn Blender. Build some furniture. Grow a fruit tree. Grow five fruit trees. Keep a hot compost pile (more amazing to see than you&#x27;d think). Write a shitty piece of music. Learn to weld. Lift weights. Run.<p>There&#x27;s just so much great stuff to do. I like people, they&#x27;re great. But I guard my alone-time like a precious gemstone.