Code Health: Respectful Reviews == Useful Reviews
While I agree with the core of &quot;DON’T: Criticize the person. &quot;, 
I&#x27;m not sure I agree with the example. I get that avoiding &quot;you&quot; and &quot;your&quot; can help with setting the tone, but ultimately it matters more what is said in particular. The DO example to me seems overly distant, almost snarky and amplifying criticism in my mind, like somebody explicitly telling you &quot;don&#x27;t take it personally&quot;:<p>&quot;This concurrency model appears to
be adding complexity to the
system without any visible
performance benefit.&quot; just screams &quot;I think this is shit but I&#x27;m not gonna tell you more directly because we have a policy not to do that&quot;. Might be only me, maybe.<p>In my experience, I have received a lot of comments with &quot;you&quot; and &quot;your&quot; on them but they were still constructive. But when I received very sterile ones like the DO example I typically felt a bit weird, guilty, like someone actively avoiding to tell me what they think, or colleagues using extremely formal&#x2F;polite language. A lot of things can carry weird undertones, depending on context.