Why It Doesn't Pay to Be a People Pleaser
Pleasing people most definitely pays. That is how the world works; you give people what they want, and you get paid. Supply and demand.<p>Preachers of self-reliance seem to confuse &quot;not letting other people affect you&quot; and &quot;not caring about other people&quot;.<p>Self-reliance and people-pleasing are two separate axes on a Cartesian plane. You can be both self-reliant and people-pleasing.<p>Being self-reliant, but not people-pleasing is trivial. If you isolate yourself, there is nobody to rely on!<p>In the same vein, it&#x27;s easy to be moral and idealistic when alone. The real test is with real people, and whether you are still able to keep those ideals.<p>Wield both: self-reliance and people-pleasing. Then you will be a force to be reckoned with.<p>EDIT: Talking about truth and white lie as a dichotomy is childish. They are tools in a toolbox. If you feel guilty because you lied, then you are a slave to the principle of honesty. If you are thinking about which (truth or white lie) is better for the relationship, then you are a master in command of both principles.