I decided to move away from big tech for my children and myself
I have a son who is 11. All of his friends have smart phones. He will have friends over to the house and the friends will sit there and stare at their phones. My son who doesn&#x27;t have a phone will be like, hey can you get off tiktok so we can play or go outside? It is rather sad to see this, they are hanging out sharing videos they find on their feeds through their phones. One time my son said, hey get off your phone and lets go scooter around the neighborhood, the kid replied, hey I think I am going to go home. He wanted to surf his phone more than actually hang out with his friend.<p>I think I made a very good decision not to give my son a phone until he is driving. Instead of surfing tiktok all day, he learns music, does origami, plays outside, helps me with the garden and many other things that bring him a lot of joy. I obviously help him with whatever interest he has, and I think him seeing the way his friends handle social media has made him not really want a phone anymore. He doesn&#x27;t even mention it to me like he did when all his friends first started getting one. He sees how addicted they are and how he doesn&#x27;t even have those friends over anymore.<p>I think people over estimate the &quot;pariah&quot; thing. I grew up in a family of alcoholism, so I chose never to drink. At first people would ask me to drink with them at parties and such. Eventually they realized I never gave in, so when they were out buying alcohol, they would always buy me a pack of soda so when I came I would have something to drink with them. So if the friends are good, I don&#x27;t think our kids will be pariahs. I think&#x2F;hope that instead our kids will just find people who appreciate and understand their choices or the choices of their parents. If they don&#x27;t, are they that good of friends after all? I think it is okay to have less friends, if the quality is higher.