To Fall Out of Love, Do This (2015)
<i>&gt; whether the intimacy between two committed partners can be broken down by forcing them to ask each other thirty-six questions no one in a relationship should actually ask</i><p>don&#x27;t read on if you&#x27;re easily offended by topics of sex - what follows is how a European perceives US&#x2F;American dating culture. If you get offended by the word &quot;porn&quot; don&#x27;t read. you&#x27;ve been warned ...<p>going through the list in this article I&#x27;ll more likely to fall in love with a partner willing to discuss these. There are actually several deep conversations buried within each question - and I have discussed many of them with my partner. it sounds a bit sad (not to say pathetic) to me if somebody is unable to raise these in a relationship.<p>maybe I&#x27;m strange, in which case what do young couples today talk about?<p>American dating culture and how it is propagandized in Hollywood serials is very odd to me. I spent a lot of time among Americans at work and also outside work. To me as a European having to ask somebody to go on a date in a formal way is pretty odd. Like you can&#x27;t just go out for a movie or drinks with the opposite sex and see where it leads? I have never been on a date in my whole life and this article reminds me how sterile and awkward Anglo-Saxon cultures are about sex, dating and relationships.<p>The English basically can&#x27;t do it unless they&#x27;re utterly wasted (exaggerating but there is truth here!). 
American&#x27;s can&#x27;t do it unless they constantly talk about &quot;daddy this&quot; and &quot;daddy that&quot; -&gt; what&#x27;s up with this pedopheliac insinuations that are everywhere from old books such as The Great Gatsby to The Boardwalk Empire (it&#x27;s not new that Americans like to call their man daddy).<p>If I just started making out with a woman and she calls me daddy I&#x27;d be so grossed out I&#x27;d be heading for the door. Also if you look at porn (and the US is the biggest producer here) you can see what they think gets clicks: suggestions of individual A does it with their &quot;step-daughter&quot; and violence is the norm. Americans can&#x27;t get off unless there is violence (--&gt; this is very different to Italian or French porn).<p>Generally Americans have some rather strange rules of what to ask on date number #1 then date #2 ... and then 3 months later women expect some conversation about where this is going. E.g. a couple constantly have to move &quot;forward&quot;. I&#x27;ve had an American gf - her constant blubbering and her inability to just enjoy the silence together was what killed it. I never understood if it was out of insecurity that she was never able to shut up - but meeting many of the years it&#x27;s more the norm with both sexes than the exception. Like they have to constantly open their mouth even they got nothing to say to remind themselves that they&#x27;re still ok and to mask their insecurity.<p>I&#x27;m going off on a tangent but this article reminded me of all that. considering the article isn&#x27;t a joke it just drives home even more how pathetic and sterile US dating culture is. I mean if you can&#x27;t discuss your deepest and darkest with your SO why not just get a dog? why bother at all with such a farce?