Robert Scoble and Me
This is an extremely touchy subject but something always pops into my head when I read stories like this and I haven&#x27;t seen it brought up.  I&#x27;m hoping this doesn&#x27;t get buried; I really don&#x27;t have an axe to grind here, but I want to hear how people think about this dynamic. It is something that&#x27;s hard and not PC to discuss publicly.<p>Do women react to alcohol differently?  It seems like our culture and our legal system treat an inebriated woman differently than an inebriated man when assessing a situation.  It seems like if a woman is wasted and making out with a guy &quot;consensually&quot; she is being victimized because she <i>cannot</i> consent when she is drunk.  But what if the guy is also inebriated and <i>he</i> cannot consent or decipher consent.  I, for example (I&#x27;m male), would have to be <i>extremely</i> drunk to PDA like that in a professional setting. Even then it&#x27;s hard to imagine.  What if it&#x27;s just two really drunk people hooking up?  Is it one of those &quot;I know it when I see it&quot; situations?  This is fine for me, but it seems like it is only applied with women being the victim and a man being the aggressor.  Maybe that is because of the natural sexual dynamic of the onus being on the male to seduce the female.  By saying that the woman had no control because she was inebriated, but Scoble did, aren&#x27;t we denying the woman of her agency? Unless of course Scoble plied her with alcohol&#x2F;drugs a la Bill Cosby?<p>To be clear, and this goes without saying, I am NOT condoning Scoble&#x27;s actions, I really don&#x27;t know anything about Scoble other than this story but from what it sounds like he has a pattern of transgressions, including a completely inappropriate groping of the author in this story.<p>I&#x27;m also not trying to deflect off of the serious issues at hand here, but the other comment threads are doing a good job of covering those.<p>But I also don&#x27;t think I am &quot;victim blaming&quot; either. Unless we grant that women inherently have less agency than men. Now this Scoble situation might have been a black and white case, but it seems to me there is a lot more grey area in these situations than we let on as a culture, and I am just wondering what the &quot;rules&quot; are.