I’ve been single all my life
If the author is reading this...<p>Your post is vulnerable and humble but at the same time your thinking is self centered and overly complicated.<p>We are all unique snowflakes of course but maybe a good starting point is understanding why humans get into relationships.<p>The most obvious reason is children. For many of us, the idea of leaving this planet without raising up the next generation is deeply unsatisfying. Is that a factor for you at all? Maybe on a deep level?<p>The second reason is a desire for partnership - to support and be supported. To be richly enmeshed in another person&#x27;s life - and the beautiful and painful things this entails.<p>Those are the deeply meaningful reasons.<p>Less deep are the desire to explore, to connect with a lot of people, to get to know them inside out so to speak even if you end up moving on.<p>I suspect most men have these desires whether they are deeply conscious of them or just &quot;pinging&quot; you with a feeling of &quot;maybe I should be doing more than I am as a single guy&quot;<p>In other words, discover your &quot;why.&quot; If you think you might want kids for example, own that you feel this way. If you think a life without a person to be dedicated to is kinda meaningless, own that you feel this way. If you just feel like loser for not having figured this out - and don&#x27;t want to feel that way - own that. Doesn&#x27;t matter if your reason is good or bad - just connect to it.<p>If you discover a reason and feel connected to your why, it all becomes a question of &quot;how&quot;. I think it would be good to establish that.<p>Because the &quot;how&quot; then changes a lot, finding the mother of your children is different than figuring out how to get laid.