What does friendship look like in America?
USA 30+ adult here, total loner status: friends&#x2F;spouse&#x2F;acquaintances, I don&#x27;t have anybody who spends any physical time near me.  Obviously I get messages from old friends far away, but they might as well be letters in the mail.<p>I remember having dozens of friends in school, since I was involved in half a dozen sponsored activities.<p>Even in college, those extra curricular activities (and classes forced group work, science labs) is where I met most of my friends.  But I did notice the count going down, I figured I was too busy with my work.<p>Nowadays I&#x27;m 100% WFH, and have zero friends in any sort of physical proximity to me.  Yes I&#x27;m single too, of course.  I go out to eat every day just to have a chance of socializing, and to people-watch.  I visit the sketchiest Walmart in my city in case something interesting happens, and to people-watch.<p>Otherwise, I might as well not exist.  If I died, my immediate family (parents, siblings) would be the only people to notice (after the county calls found my body, anyway), and maybe a friend or two from high school would drop in for the funeral.<p>What happened?  I&#x27;m an extroverted Leo, so unlike most lurkers here, I actually consider this a real problem in my life.<p>---<p>I&#x27;ve spent a lot of time thinking about this, and I&#x27;ve realized a solution: drastically changing my living situation, and going out to bars more, is likely to be a reasonable plan to &quot;make a lot of new friends&quot; as an adult.<p>Think about it: what do most, non-autistic people, who don&#x27;t-use-computers, do on the weekend?  They go to bars!  They probably get laid, too!!  The only apps on their phone are probably facebook, tinder and a sports betting app!!!<p>---<p>While we&#x27;re all complaining about this, there are tons of people who use their smartphones to socialize every day.  *What are they doing that we don&#x27;t?*