My experiment with clear and direct communication
I can&#x27;t help but feel that even in this &quot;clear and direct communication&quot; the author is continuing to look for ways to manipulate situations and people.  What seems to be lacking is empathy.  The communication is based upon the value add, the reaction or positioning that the author gets at the end of the interaction, rather than on collaborating with another human and trying to get both parties to a better place.<p>A similar strategy to this &quot;clear and direct communication&quot; that can devolve into the same place is the concept of Radical Candor[0].  It can begin as a &quot;helping&quot; to awaken others to things they may have missed, and can end up being an avenue for tearing people down instead of growing them. The only difference is the intent of the speaker.<p>Assuming the best in people and striving to have positive outcomes tends to work better.  This puts you at risk of other people much like the author was previously, who seek to undercut and deceive and manipulate, but those people show their true colors pretty quick and they end up on a different tier of communication that no longer gets the privilege everyone else is afforded.<p>A pivotal change within my own life and communication was reading about Adler&#x27;s work [0].  Separation of Tasks as a concept is very applicable to interpersonal relationships at the office.  I no longer struggle with trying to explain why people are rude and pushing agendas that don&#x27;t make empirical sense.  None of us are infallible and we all are seeking to shape our world in different ways and it&#x27;s helpful to delineate what we really care about and not.  Which hills to die on.<p>[0]: <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.radicalcandor.com&#x2F;" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.radicalcandor.com&#x2F;</a>
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