The great self-esteem con
Haven&#x27;t finished the article yet, but I already see several red flags as to where they got things wrong:<p>1. Self-esteem is a byproduct of self-compassion, not external awards or compliments. External stuff produces other-esteem and yeah, it&#x27;s the root of narcissism<p>2. They tried to produce self-esteem through removing any chance of suffering. Teaching people how to respond to suffering would&#x27;ve been much more productive.<p>3. Describing someone to themselves can be unintentionally harmful when judgment or comparison is used, whether it be positive or negative. This article shows how positive judgments (ie. compliments&#x2F;praise) can be harmful.<p>If anyone&#x27;s interested in a functional alternative, I highly recommend the book &quot;Nonviolent Communication.&quot;