Maybe you don’t need to talk to someone
Personally I&#x27;ve never gotten anything out of &quot;talking to someone.&quot; I&#x27;m not saying that people shouldn&#x27;t do it, if it works for them. I just can&#x27;t think of a single time in my life where I had a problem and I &quot;talked about it&quot; to a friend or colleague (let alone therapist) and then felt better about it afterwards. I guess I&#x27;m just too &quot;action oriented.&quot;<p>When I was younger I had an issue with anger management. Today I suspect I might be on the high functioning autism spectrum, but we didn&#x27;t know back then what we do today. Obviously if I&#x27;m right about that, then it also explains why &quot;talking to people&quot; doesn&#x27;t work for me. But I digress.<p>In my youth it was common for people to say to me &quot;You need to vent before things blow up, get a punching bag or something.&quot; I used to buy into this idea that if you keep things bottled up eventually they will build and you will explode. That is, until someone pointed out that if your method of dealing with anger is to punch something, you are training yourself to respond to anger with violence. When I started to question the &quot;venting&quot; hypothesis I found healthier and more productive (for me) ways of dealing with meltdowns and ruminations.<p>I think this idea can apply to &quot;speaking with someone&quot; as well. Again, I&#x27;m not saying that if there is a crises people shouldn&#x27;t seek help. Just that speaking to someone, as far as I can tell, ought to have a purpose other than &quot;I just need to talk.&quot; What does that mean, to &quot;need&quot; to talk? What are you looking to get out of the conversation? Do you need advice because you don&#x27;t know what to do? Do you feel alone and isolated and need evidence that you are not?<p>Anyway these are just my personal thoughts and ramblings ... always do what works best for you and if there&#x27;s an emergency don&#x27;t consider the random ramblings of some strange idiot on an Internet forum.