Ask HN: Advice about aging parents
This likely isn&#x27;t relevant to you OP, but perhaps for someone else who is a little earlier in the process here.<p>I&#x27;m in my late 30&#x27;s and my parents are in their early 60&#x27;s (Dad will be retiring next year). Two years ago we decided move into a multi-generational home. We found a place big enough for our family of 5, in addition to an &quot;in-law&quot; apartment big enough for my parents.<p>This was born directly out of my parents&#x27; experience dealing with a very difficult aging&#x2F;end of life process for my grandfather. We realized that the best approach would be to get well ahead of things (assuming a normal aging progression, we&#x27;re a couple decades ahead of the issue).<p>Obviously this was hugely specific to our situation, and wouldn&#x27;t be an option for the majority of families, but it has worked very well for us so far, and hopefully will simplify a lot of the future.<p>Just a handful of the specifics that have allowed this to work for us:<p>* Both my wife and I have a very good relationship with my parents (my wife and my mom especially are very close)<p>* I have a background in healthcare and don&#x27;t have any concerns about participating in end-of-life care when the time comes (we certainly plan to bring in external help for day to day stuff)<p>* We have young kids and my mom especially relishes being able to spend time with them. Obviously we&#x27;re not accounting it for it hourly or anything, but the general approach we&#x27;re taking is &quot;You&#x27;re helping us take care of the kids now, and we&#x27;ll help take care of you when the time comes&quot;<p>* We live in Central New York, a place with pretty cheap real estate, so it was reasonable for us (on a single software developer&#x27;s salary) to buy a big enough place (4 bedroom home on our side, in addition to their apartment). The home we found was pretty ideal, with two separate living spaces&#x2F;kitchens&#x2F;etc. The only common area that connects the two is the laundry room.<p>So yeah, pretty specific circumstances that allowed us to do this, but I&#x27;d be happy to chat with anyone considering a similar plan.