Abuse isn’t an “advising style”: Consequences of MIT sheltering abusive mentors
&gt; Too often I have been told to be proud of the great work I am a part of, as if this should outweigh the negative and harmful things myself and others have experienced.<p>Actually, that&#x27;s how it works in the real world from my experience.<p>Most geniuses have terrible shadows that are as dark and long as they are brilliant and tall.<p>Most of us feel really lucky to get things done and be a part of something, and when we have to bear an unkind comment here or there... well, we&#x27;re emotionally developed adults who balance the positive with the negative. It takes a lot of entitlement to expect to never hear anything negative or offensive or unkind.*<p>College should prepare you for the real world, not shelter you from it.<p>* Obligatory before someone makes a strawman: Of course if the advisor does something illegal, that&#x27;s another matter, but the article never stated anything illegal being done. Just unkind from what I read.