I'm not a Woman in Tech
&quot;You’re victimising me when you do that. You’re indicating that it’s most likely I need special, extra support. Just because I’m female.&quot;<p>This is exactly how I felt during my Microsoft internship in 1998 when the internal women&#x27;s organization, HOPPERS, decided to change their successful &quot;intern buddy&quot; program from opt-in to opt-out. (Well, not really opt-out, because until I got upset with them about it they clearly never considered that anyone might want to opt out.) Despite being only one of two women, both interns, on a team of 40 people, I never felt anything other than welcomed by my team and never felt singled out or harassed because of my gender.  As such, I felt quite insulted by the assumption that I needed an &quot;intern buddy&quot; just because I&#x27;m a woman in a male-dominated field.   A long email thread with the head of the organization ensued, and in the end I did not have the intern buddy that I never asked for in the first place.<p>I wholeheartedly support the self-organization of underrepresented groups to create safe spaces. However, when participation in such efforts is compelled by things like special awards for members of underrepresented groups in tech or being assigned an &quot;intern buddy&quot; without your knowledge or consent just because you are a member of an underrepresented group, that&#x27;s not a safe space.  That&#x27;s a ghetto.