'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps
As a counterpoint to the other comments on here… I had a great experience with Tinder as a late 30s divorced single dad. I was able to date a different attractive women every night if I wanted to, and found someone I’ve really liked, and we have been together happily for 2.5 years now. It works so well because you get to see so many possible people, and can find a better match than any matchmaking algorithm or real life chance.<p>My take is that 99% of the men on there are immature man children whose life is a mess.  I have many women friends and the guys they end up dating on Tinder, etc are a low bar- dress sloppy, no purpose in life, etc.<p>If you want a good partner you have to be one. An app can’t do it for you. Learn to be vulnerable and emotionally supportive, build a career that is interesting and has meaning to you, dress well with a unique sense of fashion, learn to cook well and eat healthy food, get fit, make friends and have fun hobbies. With all of that you will be happy even if single, but you will also be unusually attractive.