Ask HN: I’m 41 and still unmarried – what should I do?
I am a man who dated many women casually via online dating, until I decided to settle down (wrote about this here: <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=31021578" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=31021578</a>), so I think I can bring a somewhat relevant perspective.<p>Based on my experience, dating is absolutely a market driven by a typical economy of supply and demand, and the supply of &quot;good enough&quot; men who want to settle down with a woman is virtually unlimited for virtually any woman out there, in virtually any major US metro area. This means that the problem might be in yourself, and my guess is:<p>- Men perceive you as &quot;weirdo&quot;. For example, going on a first date and immediately stating that you are looking to have kids since your time is &quot;running out&quot; would be a red flag even to the most desperate men.<p>- (I bet my money on this) You are too picky, even if you don&#x27;t think you are, and the only men you&#x27;re interested in are the ones who have an overwhelming abundance of choice (e.g. top 5% in terms of earning, looks, status), and as such are not in any pressure to settle down with you.