Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person (2016)
&quot;We need to swap the Romantic view for a tragic (and at points comedic) awareness that every human will frustrate, anger, annoy, madden and disappoint us — and we will (without any malice) do the same to them. There can be no end to our sense of emptiness and incompleteness. But none of this is unusual or grounds for divorce.&quot;....<p>&quot;Romanticism has been unhelpful to us; it is a harsh philosophy. It has made a lot of what we go through in marriage seem exceptional and appalling. We end up lonely and convinced that our union, with its imperfections, is not “normal.” We should learn to accommodate ourselves to “wrongness,” striving always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective on its multiple examples in ourselves and in our partners.&quot;<p>Juxtaposed against the dig at &quot;holy texts&quot; in the first half of the article, the proposed philosophy in this article is literally the core tenant of Christianity. All are imperfect, sin has corrupted relationships, the path to salvation is selflessness and sacrifice, embodied by Christ&#x27;s sacrifice for us. Christians cannot live this out, garnering a bad name for the broad religion as a whole, but again, as humans, that&#x27;s sort of the point. Grace is given to those who accept it which further propels them towards giving themselves up and extending grace to others. It&#x27;s a daily, hourly exercise pictured most frequently and accurately in marriage.