The Bad News About Helicopter Parenting: It Works
Most important two paragraphs in the article:<p><i>But for the most part, the new parenting efforts seemed effective. Dr. Doepke and Dr. Zilibotti can’t prove causality (to do that, you’d have to randomly assign parenting styles to different families). But when they analyzed the 2012 PISA, an academic test of 15-year-olds around the world, along with reports from the teenagers and their parents about how they interact, they found that an “intensive parenting style” correlated with higher scores on the test. This was true even among teenagers whose parents had similar levels of education.</i><p><i>The most effective parents, according to the authors, are “authoritative.” They use reasoning to persuade kids to do things that are good for them. Instead of strict obedience, they emphasize adaptability, problem-solving and independence — skills that will help their offspring in future workplaces  that we can’t even imagine yet.</i><p>Can&#x27;t prove causality, and relying on teenagers to define the style of parenting they&#x27;re subjected to, I&#x27;d guess that almost 100% would respond with &quot;intense&quot;.<p>So their definition of &#x27;Helicopter Parenting&#x27; is actually &#x27;Authoritative and Rational, Reasoned Explanatory Parenting&#x27; (which I&#x27;d refer to as &#x27;good&#x27; parenting) and the author is also referring to it as &quot;new parenting&quot;.  This definition differs significantly from my experience of being parented, and of those I&#x27;d consider to be &#x27;Helicopter&#x27; parents who are those that stand over their child not letting them fall over or take any risks or hold sharp things from the ages of zero to thirteen, although these same &#x27;Helicopter&#x27; parents frequently give their spawn soft drinks, sugary lollies, and abundant screen-time so that their little prince or princess SHUTS THE FUCK UP when Tattoo Nightmares is on.<p>&#x27;Helicopter&#x27; parenting is &#x27;Short-Term Anxiety&#x27; parenting and &#x27;Parental Love is not allowing exposure to anything that may be ultra-short-term painful&#x27; parenting.<p>&#x27;Helicopter&#x27; parenting is not:
<i>use reasoning to persuade kids to do things that are good for them. Instead of strict obedience, they emphasize adaptability, problem-solving and independence</i><p>That&#x27;s generations-old &#x27;good&#x27; parenting.