Tell HN: People underestimate the effect of colleges in making lifelong friends
In being the devil&#x27;s advocate, and in being somewhat serious, is this what people actually want?<p>It seems that everyone these days is aware that friendship is on the decline, but so few actually seem willing to do anything about it.  Maybe people really do love their Disney+, their Oculus, their Doordash, and their Cheeto-dust more than they do their relationships with other people.  If so, that seems to be the way of the world from which there is no turning back.<p>The reason that college works in forming friendships and romantic relationships is the artificial environment it creates where people are obligated to show up and mingle with people who are from different backgrounds, and for at least 2 years.  My experience was that as soon as college ended, most of my peer group effectively dropped out of existence.  The excuse is always business, yet when I did meet friends it seems they had plenty of time to binge watch the Netflix show du jour.<p>I&#x27;m sure someone is going to respond with something along the lines of &quot;maybe they&#x27;re avoiding you&quot;.  Umm... I can&#x27;t really argue against that other than by stating that said people do in fact initiate getting together with me, albeit rarely.<p>Some people truly desire strong bonds, but it seems that most people decide that the strong bond with their spouse is good enough.  Can&#x27;t it be?