How to Pick Your Life Partner (2014)
1. I have always hated the notion that having a happy marriage is about filtering through many candidates to find the one perfect partner. Although I do think it&#x27;s reasonable to try to learn early on what you&#x27;re looking for, this idea that we should all be dramatically expanding our dating pool to find the perfect person is abominable.<p>Look at a city with a massive population of eligible young people, like say NYC.. and then listen to what people in NYC say about the dating scene there. It&#x27;s not pretty. Having such a huge pool of potential mates <i>discourages</i> people from committing. In other words, it makes it <i>harder</i> to find a long term mate, and it makes you less satisfied with whoever you&#x27;re seeing.<p>2. Biology isn&#x27;t the only reason a person might want to get married before 40. There&#x27;s something to be said for sharing your early adulthood with a person. Meeting your life partner at 37 will be a very different experience from meeting your life partner at 22. Not necessarily a <i>bad</i> experience, but not what everyone is looking for.