Ask HN: Am I the only “unlucky” software engineer?
I think I&#x27;ve read a few posts on this type on HN, and it seems to me like they are similar in a few ways, there might not be anything wrong with that, but I am still somewhat inclined to believe these things are why the job hunt is not going well for them.<p>Almost always asking for &quot;meaningful&quot; jobs. What even is that? I&#x27;ll challenge the notion and call it &quot;An inability to find meaning in the available work.&quot;<p>Feeling attacked about their profile, but not changing them to accommodate.<p>Supposedly seniors relying on recruiters and job offers instead of using their network, if they&#x27;ve worked with people in the past, and can&#x27;t draw on that, I wonder how that is, is it that everybody they worked with are not nice people and don&#x27;t like them ?<p>Sense of entitlement, _YOU_ liking the hiring manager? It&#x27;s your job to get the hiring manager to like you, not the other way around.<p>Sense of pride, interview went well, got offer, got ghosted ? Well, what did you do to fix it? I&#x27;d have walked into office, hardcopy of offer in hand and told the first person I meet: &quot;Hi, I got this offer, I&#x27;m glad to accept! Who can I talk to ?&quot;<p>Not knowing your place: You were supposedly not hired into some leadership position to change the world from day 1, you have opinions, they are based on previous experiences, made elsewhere. Shut up, listen, learn, observe and do your best to do what they ask of you, at least the first half year or more, and then start gently providing input and resistance, show that you can do it their way before trying to get them to do it yours.<p>You don&#x27;t sound unlucky, you sound hard to get along with to be rudely honest.