A simple system I’m using to stay in touch with hundreds of people
Some comments here claim that he is treating people not as friends. IMO these comments are not charitable a interpretation. While it is a plausible interpretation, I have strongly learned from HN to be charitable and optimistic when reading someone else&#x27;s point of view. I know with topics like this that perspectives vary more wildly among people, so let me show you why I can be more optimistic in my interpretation.<p>I think it&#x27;s perfectly fine to separate emotions and reason like this. The reason: I am on the other side when it comes to managing my friends: I am not separating reason and emotion. Because of that, I am failing hard at staying in touch with people that I would like to stay in touch with (I am noticing it with certain friends of my as well). I am succeeding to stay in touch with a few people, but if I&#x27;d have a system like this I might be able to stay in touch with many more people that I&#x27;d like to stay in touch with anyway but for some unknown reason have some sort of blockade or friction.<p>Other than that I think the interpretation is not charitable enough, I also have personal experience that it might be wrong. For example, I view the dating markets strictly from a market perspective that is heavily inspired by micro-economics and &quot;common sense&quot;. Initially, such a perspective is detached from emotion, but there are certain points where it is attached (e.g. with supply&#x2F;demand questions like: &quot;what do I want&#x2F;need from a partner&quot; or &quot;What can I offer? What do I want to offer? What do I need to offer?&quot;). Moreover, upon meeting people there is empathy, sympathy  and human intuition involved. Sometimes the emotions will be so strong that I have a compulsion towards meeting a person again (e.g. falling in love). Those emotions are not helping! Sometimes I feel the right amount that is also in line with my other needs and in other cases I don&#x27;t feel enough about a certain person <i>when I don&#x27;t see them</i> (but when I do see them, I am delighted to catch up).<p>Management of personal life != how people are on a moment by moment basis in personal life<p>I think by having a system like this, you can put Dunbar&#x27;s number to shame.