The “36 questions that lead to love” were originally 40 questions and different
I ran OCR over the four picture with my phone, here is the text:<p>Ouestions&#x2F;Tasks for Getting Close<p>(These were each printed on a separate 3x5 card)<p>Instructions: Read the first card out loud and do what it asks. Then read the second card, etc. Please don&#x27;t skip any cards - do each in order. If it asks you a question, share your answer with your partner. Then let him or her share their answer to the same question with you. If it is a task, do it first, then let your partner do it.
Alternate who goes first with the reading of each new card. You will probably not finish all the cards in each section with the time allotted.<p>1. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.<p>2. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.<p>3. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.<p>4. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven&#x27;t you told them yet?<p>5. If you were going to have a personal relationship with your
knower, please share what would be important for him &quot;or her to know<p>6. What would constitute a &quot;perfect&quot; evening for you?<p>REMINDER TO FOLLOW SPECIFIC INSTRUCTIONS: [Insert card for control group, yes only group, no only group, or yes and no group.<p>Control Group<p>At the beginning of today&#x27;s experiment you and your partner were both given specific instructions. This is a brief reminder for you to keep sharing with your partner and to let them keep sharing with you.<p>Yes Only Group<p>At the beginning of today&#x27;s experiment you and your partner were both given specific instructions.<p>This is a brief reminder that the best way to get very close to your partner is by saying yes to sharing yourself fully and letting them say yes to sharing with you.<p>No Only Group<p>At the beginning of today&#x27;s experiment you and your partner were both given specific instructions. This is a brief reminder that the best way to not get too close to your partner is by saying no to the degree to which you share with each other.<p>Yes and No Group<p>At the beginning of today&#x27;s experiment you and your partner were given specific instructions. This is a brief reminder that the best way for you to get close to your partner is for you to say yes to fully sharing and that the for the best way for you to not get too close is for you to say no to the degree of sharing that you do.<p>7. Alternate sharing something you find attractive in your partner; include the way he or she looks, dress and his or her personality.<p>Share a total of 10 items each.<p>8. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?<p>9. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one ability or quality, what would it be?<p>10. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people&#x27;s?<p>11. What is your most treasured memory?<p>12. What is your most terrible memory?<p>13. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or the body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?<p>14. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?<p>HALF-HOUR BREAK; CHANGE TO NEXT SET OF CARDS<p>15. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?<p>16. Is there something that you&#x27;ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven&#x27;t you done it?<p>89
REMINDER TO FOLLOW SPECIFIC INSTRUCTIONS: At the beginning of today&#x27;s experiment you and your partner were both given specific instructions to follow. This is just a brief reminder to keep following those instructions.
Thank vou!<p>17. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?<p>18. Share a personal problem and ask your partner&#x27;s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen to share.<p>19. Name 3 things you and your partner appear to have in common.<p>20. Would you like to be famous? In what way?<p>21. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?<p>22. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?<p>23. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?<p>24. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire; after saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?<p>25. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as vour dinner guest?<p>HOUR BREAK; CHANGE TO NEXT SET OF CARDS<p>26. Make 3 true &quot;we&quot; statements each. For instance, &quot;We are both in this room feeling<p>REMINDER TO FOLLOW SPECIFIC INSTRUCTIONS: At the beginning of today&#x27;s experiment you and vour partner were both given specific instructions to follow. This is just a brief reminder to keep following those instructions. Thank you!<p>27. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time saying things that you might not usually say to someone you&#x27;ve iust met.<p>28. What do you value most in a relationship?<p>29. If you wanted to look very sexy, how would you dress?<p>30. What roles do love and affection play in your life?<p>31. Role play with your partner how vou would ask them out for a date. Have your partner reflect back to vou how it makes them feel to be asked.<p>32. Complete the sentence:
&quot;I wish I had someone with whom I
could share
19<p>33. Pretend you are in a play with your partner. In this particular scene the director has asked you to tell your partner that you are interested in having more than a casual relationship with them; that you are beginning to fall in love with them Your partner will also be pretending with you in this play and they are to tell you how it feels to be asked to move into a more meaningful relationship.<p>34. Spend three minutes in complete silence with your partner, making only eye contact.<p>35. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?<p>36. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?<p>37. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?<p>38. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?<p>39. What does love mean to you?<p>40. What, if anything is too serious to be joked about?