When I stopped trying to self-optimize, I got better
I think &quot;self-optimize&quot; is the wrong term to focus on. Imo, it&#x27;s more about self-compassion &#x2F; a more personal version of &quot;psychological safety.&quot;<p>Anecdotally, a few years ago I made a decision to run with my (ADHD driven) impulses when deciding what to spend my time on. It was difficult to let go, but I decided to let myself just fall behind with projects &#x2F; work for a year or two (or until I was fired.) Long term, the benefits have far outweighed any downsides. I actually accomplish things without burning out now, and the drastic reduction in burnout has meant that I get much more done in general (work, side projects, life, etc.) Ultimately, worrying about success, failure, self-control, etc, seem to be fairly self-defeating.