What to do with too much advice
<i>For a founder, this means picking a single adviser who can inform your thinking, rather than someone who makes decisions for you.</i><p>I&#x27;ve been incredibly fortunate to have met someone locally who has the same level of tech and business expertise as I do. And appreciates the value and insight from multitude of industries. I really don&#x27;t get along with many people at that deep of a level, so this was extremely rare.<p>Truthfully I have never had anyone I would call mentor nearly my entire life. I&#x27;ve always figured everything out myself since that&#x27;s just how I was raised.<p>We&#x27;re both mentors to each other, he has a difficult outlier upbringing like I have had, different but similar. I&#x27;ve never really realized what my true weaknesses were until the 5+ hour talks we have discussing everything from how youtube should learn UX from a pornsite, how to run a political campaign, psychology theories, neuroscience, chemistry, frontend development, leadership issues, project management, world education, dealing with nonprofit leaders, making money playing video games as kids. The talks vary with a really big open degree of openness, and changes every couple of minutes.<p>I don&#x27;t see eye to eye on his visions for the future, but I understand where he&#x27;s coming from though. So I appreciate the value he has. I tend to think extremely short term and grab the &quot;lowest hanging fruit&quot; is what he tells me, but his visions are all about &quot;planting seeds&quot; which I don&#x27;t really bother doing but should be<p>All his skills complement mine in some weird backwards way and its nice to know that there&#x27;s someone out there.<p>I tend to think tech first before anything and he tends to think business first so its a nice mix of skills. I tend to be extremely assertive about my solutions since I&#x27;ve had to do hard sales pitches but his is more gradual and methodical.<p>I don&#x27;t know how well we work coding together though that might be a different story but we do see eye to eye on many management practice principles, I met him while doing nonprofit project management.<p>Anyways, I just wanted to mention this because I find most if not all the advice I get is really not helpful. Unless you understand the logic behind why I am doing something before you say something &quot;Seek to understand before commenting&quot;, then its hard for me to appreciate the value of input given. I appreciate the sentinment and thought process though.