Maybe you don’t need to talk to someone
I get that it is trying to be contrarian to the popular book with a similar title.<p>I just fundamentally disagree. You need to vent sometimes, you need to get it out of your head and into the world. You need someone to lend an ear here and there. You can’t talk about certain repressed emotions with certain people either.<p>The trend seems to show we are more “connected” but more lonely than ever. How many people who frequent HN for example have someone they talk to about their life’s problems frequently? How many of those people want to be the person that only hear you venting without feeling used?<p>Therapists serve a wonderful purpose. Little strings attached, you can vent to someone and get feedback. Don&#x27;t like them? Find a new one just like you would a friend or family member who doesn’t want to listen.<p>If America valued communities like they did many decades ago, we wouldn’t need as much mental health support because we would already be getting it. But therapy is a tool to be used and many do not ever utilize it. To generalize like this article is trying to do is a shame. There’s plenty of therapists that help people see the bottlenecks in their lives to then fix and become happier and no longer need it.<p>I will 100% agree with the idea of stress to strength. Pavlov famously did experiments late in life on breaking dogs down with enough stress only to reverse the effects with enough stress.<p>&gt; “[Pavlov] spent the rest of his long life giving stress-induced nervous breakdowns to dogs, after which he would try to reverse the breakdowns, all the while keeping careful experimental records.<p>&gt; “He found (1) that he could classify dogs so as to predict how easily a particular dog would breakdown; (2) that the dogs hardest to break down were also the hardest to return to their pre-breakdown state; (3) that any dog could be broken down; and (4) that he couldn’t reverse a breakdown except by reimposing stress.”<p>Oh and the most common way to resolve said issues? A relatedness or connectedness to something.