How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger
<a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.reddit.com&#x2F;r&#x2F;slatestarcodex&#x2F;comments&#x2F;b0so4h&#x2F;comment&#x2F;eihcuf8" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.reddit.com&#x2F;r&#x2F;slatestarcodex&#x2F;comments&#x2F;b0so4h&#x2F;comm...</a><p>The article praises the Inuit for a &quot;no scolding, no timeouts&quot; form of child-rearing, talks about how &quot;the culture views scolding — or even speaking to children in an angry voice — as inappropriate...even if the child hits you or bites you, there&#x27;s no raising your voice&quot; and quotes Inuit elders as saying that &quot;they&#x27;re upset about something, and you have to figure out what it is&quot;. It says that this is why adult Inuit have &quot;an extraordinary ability to control their anger&quot;.<p>I Googled some studies about Inuit to see if I could find anything that didn&#x27;t fit with this narrative, and came across this article on how Inuit leaders are protesting Canada&#x27;s anti-child-abuse policy, because they say it is too harsh on traditional Inuit child-rearing practices like spanking. They complain that child protective services are unfairly removing children from Inuit homes, because they don&#x27;t understand that Inuit tradition permits forms of physical discipline that might not be acceptable in broader Canadian society.<p>I also found this collection of interviews with Inuit elders where they describe how things were in the traditional old days. When asked about discipline, Elder Tipuula:<p>&quot;If it was a boy, it was his father’s responsibility to discipline him. If he only wanted to spank him once, then he would only spank him once. He would behave for a while, and if he started to misbehave again, the father could spank him a second time.We women took care of our daughters. Some children reached adulthood without ever needing a spanking. Some of them needed to be spanked, and would thank us when they were older for correcting them. Parents would spank children to make them aware of things they had not been paying attention to. Some children were spanked when they did not deserve it and this was bad for a child’s development. When they realized they did not deserve a spanking, they became angry. Children who deserved to be spanked grew up being thankful for the discipline they received. Children who did not deserve to be spanked grew up to become angry people.&quot;<p>Elder Ilisapi adds:<p>&quot;Some of us tended to take out our frustration on our children when it was our husband who we were angry at. Even if the child had done nothing wrong, if he made one small mistake, we took out our frustration on him. If children were treated like that,they could be damaged. It was their spouse they were angry at in the first place but they took their frustration out on their child. That is not the way to treat a child. It is not good.&quot;<p>Modern-day studies are downright appalling. <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov&#x2F;pmc&#x2F;articles&#x2F;PMC3708004&#x2F;" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov&#x2F;pmc&#x2F;articles&#x2F;PMC3708004&#x2F;</a> is studying Inuit suicides, but finds that 27.5% of the non-suicidal placebo group stated they were abused as children. goo.gl&#x2F;gX4hFi says that 86% of Canadian Inuit women experience verbal abuse, and 48% experience physical abuse in the first postpartum year. <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.tandfonline.com&#x2F;doi&#x2F;pdf&#x2F;10.3402&#x2F;ijch.v61i2.17443" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.tandfonline.com&#x2F;doi&#x2F;pdf&#x2F;10.3402&#x2F;ijch.v61i2.17443</a> finds that 48% of Inuit in Greenland report having been abused, about three times the Western population they compare this with.<p>(some of these are adult abuse statistics rather than child abuse statistics, but if adult Inuit never get angry or act impulsively, why are they doing all this abusing?)<p>To be fair, the Inuit are a very diverse population, and maybe some bands are unusually lenient parents and others are unusually strict (but the anthropologist in the article studied in northern Canada, the same region as many of the studies I&#x27;m citing). Also, the Inuit have changed a lot recently as they get influenced by European culture (but NPR did their interview with Inuit this year, who talk as if they&#x27;re describing the present).<p>I don&#x27;t want to contradict an anthropologist, but I hope people keep their skepticism glasses on for articles like this one.