Ask HN: What is the most exciting thing you have learnt this year till now?
I&#x27;m a new parent this year and I was not mentally prepared for it (lol is anyone?)<p>For a few months, I regretted my decision to have kids almost constantly. It gnawed on me. Then I stumbled upon the regretfulparents subreddit. Seeing the posts was pitiful. I saw how destructive it is to our psyches to carry around regret and let it wear us down. I cringed seeing the posts, mostly because I felt the same way they did, and man it does not look pretty. I do not want to be like the people on that subreddit. It almost disgusted me<p>I remember when I was younger I always said I don&#x27;t regret anything I do. I seem to have forgotten that mantra, so I picked it back up<p>I no longer regret being a parent. I still don&#x27;t enjoy it the majority of the time. But it is what it is. There&#x27;s no point of drowning myself in my own mental garbage when life is trying to drown me already.<p>So what I (re)learned is not to live with regret, and sometimes shared suffering can remind me that it&#x27;s really not that bad and I don&#x27;t need to force suffering on myself for no reason