Happiness and the Art of Being (2012)
I&#x27;ve been exploring these thoughts. I think the more we are lost in our own thoughts, thinking about the &quot;I&quot;, the more unhappy we become. Every emotion stems from the &quot;I&quot;. When we let go of the &quot;I&quot;, the ego, things calm down. So ultimately, to become happy, I think you could try to train your mind to let go of your ego. This is a hard thing to do, but not impossible. Psychadelics, and meditation help.<p>This is not a mind trick either, it&#x27;s the ultimate truth? There&#x27;s no me &amp; you. In 150 years, every human being alive today is going to die. We are all going to dissolve into the same thing. So, I can argue that, with time being the difference, you and I are the same!<p>There&#x27;s no us vs them. It&#x27;s just us.<p>It also fits in line with &quot;doing something for others&quot;[1]. The more we concern ourselves with others, the better we feel. Because we lose ourselves.<p>I think it also fits in line with if you can get in &quot;flow&quot; states while doing some activity. If it is what you can concern yourself with. The end result is the same - you lose yourself in it, and feel calm.<p>The comment[2] below raises a good question -- I used to think the same. That happiness is overrated, and we should rather go after suffering. But there&#x27;s a flaw in that thinking. Suffering is not a necessary condition to do something useful. One can recognise a lack of something, work towards fulfilling a desire, and still be happy.<p>[1] <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=30787818" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=30787818</a><p>[2] <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=30788318" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=30788318</a><p>By the way, could someone please write about these terms? &quot;non-dual self-knowledge&quot;, &quot;duality, multiplicity and relativity&quot;. I googled but I don&#x27;t quite understand them.