Ask HN: What's your approach to raising kids?
All those &quot;school of thought&quot; are just trends.<p>Good parenthood is about being present and giving them attention, helping them understand the world and so on.<p>Preventing them to completely use technology is BS. Let them use them, but going back to what I&#x27;ve said before, you need to be present in their lives. This means if they are spending too much time with it, it&#x27;s up to you to enforce limits.<p>But don&#x27;t be a rude or too invasive parent, as they&#x27;ll grow old and in around 12 years or so, they will start to judge you a lot and will become much more independent, you want them to have good childhood memories and remember that they have a supportive parent, not live full of resentment because their parents were so anal about following a trendy parenting method.<p>Help them to build relationship with friends and live in a safe community. Avoid having high expectations of them and just let them live peacefully their lives and make their own choices.<p>Let them from early on to make their own calls, even if you dislike it. This is where parents usually fail, they don&#x27;t let their kids do what they want. And of course, if those calls don&#x27;t work well, make sure they feel responsible for it.<p>Don&#x27;t get them into 10 different activities, like music, swimming, football and so on, so they find their &quot;gift&quot; or some kind of BS. Let them do what they want and help them follow their interests.<p>In the end, you have much less control than you think you do.<p>Also, as you added 2 new human beings to the world, make sure you invest time on them. If you&#x27;ll pay for a nanny, have them most of the day at school and so on and excuse yourself for doing those things to &quot;put money at the table&quot; or whatever excuse... start by changing yourself and finding a career that enables you to give them time.<p>Your time is the most precious resource you can give them.