Ask HN: I will become a father tomorrow, what advice could you share with me?
Here&#x27;s some advice I gave my brother.  (My daughter was 15 months old, and I was thinking about what advice I wish I&#x27;d been given before she was born)<p>1) Remember at all times that no matter how tired you are, your partner is almost certainly much more tired. Basically, give her a free pass for the first few months, if not longer. (The hormonal changes a few days in are no fun either)<p>2) There is no point comforting a crying baby (when there&#x27;s nothing actually wrong) - they just don&#x27;t understand what you&#x27;re trying to do. Distract the fuck out of them instead. (This from a baby psychologist on a BBC documentary.<p>3) Babies are their own tutorial. They start off really simple, with about three things to remember, and then once you&#x27;ve got the hang of those things they start adding new ones on. But you don&#x27;t need to panic about whether you can do it, it&#x27;s not complicated, just full on.<p>4) Bonding - do not panic if it takes you six months (or longer) to fall in love with your child. I certainly felt incredibly protective of Sophia from the moment she was born, but I didn&#x27;t feel fully connected to her until she was able to smile at me, and we could have some kind of interaction. It&#x27;s really easy to feel awful because all the TV and movies says it happens instantly, but it can take a fair while, so don&#x27;t worry about it.<p>5) Ignore any advice you don&#x27;t like.