Add support for XLM-R XL and XXL models 
This PR adds support for the newly released XL and XXL models for XLM-R. These models are described in the "Larger-Scale Transformers for Multilingual Masked Language Modeling" paper.

I compared fairseq and transformers side by side, 
and managed output same. 

torch.Size([1, 10, 250880]) torch.Size([1, 10, 250880])
max_absolute_diff = 0.00022125244140614
Do both models outut the same tensors?  🔥

Since fairseq roberta to transformers conversion was made a long time ago, 
transformers architecture differs far from fairseq which originally started from, 
and it makes quite confusion to write right code.
I synced transformers code to allow fairseq model structure.

And the original PR https://github.com/huggingface/transformers/pull/12082#issue-665786049 was closed by its author @stefan-it and the PR(https://github.com/stefan-it/transformers/pull/1) I pushed for his repo about 40 days ago but got no response,
so I opened the new PR.
Hi @Soonhwan-Kwon ,

sorry for the late reply! I discussed this topic with @patrickvonplaten a while ago and we came to the conclusion that it would be better to have a new model/class name for it, such as `XLMRobertaExtraLarge` to avoid these `if self.normalize_before` switches.

I've also tested the model implementation on a GLUE task, but the result was not very good. The model is so large, that it was impossible for me to test it on a GPU - even with batch size 1. Then I did some DeepSpeed tests, but on my V100 I would have to wait more than 3 days for the smallest GLUE task - and the final result was not performing well :thinking: <|||||>@stefan-it thank you for the reply, and I have A100 80gb machine if you need any cross check.<|||||>@Soonhwan-Kwon @stefan-it Can you share your Deepspeed configuration for loading the XLMR-xl? I'm getting Nan as the loss from deepspeed after using your code changes for the conversion. @Soonhwan-Kwon  Do you have a plan to create a standalone file for XLMRobertaExtraLarge? The reason is that you current file change breaks the conversion for the large and base model.<|||||>> @Soonhwan-Kwon @stefan-it Can you share your Deepspeed configuration for loading the XLMR-xl? I'm getting Nan as the loss from deepspeed after using your code changes for the conversion. @Soonhwan-Kwon Do you have a plan to create a standalone file for XLMRobertaExtraLarge? The reason is that you current file change breaks the conversion for the large and base model.

Maybe I could paste my fine-tuning script by loading the XLM-Roberta-XLarge model, which is converted from @Soonhwan-Kwon 's script.  You could run the script and have a double check with it. 

```bash
deepspeed --num_gpus=8 run_xnli.py --model_name_or_path /mnt/xlm-roberta-xlarge \
  --deepspeed ds_config_zero3.json \
  --language zh \
  --train_language en \
  --do_predict \
  --max_seq_length 128 \
  --per_device_train_batch_size 4 \
  --learning_rate 2e-6 \
  --logging_steps 100 \
  --eval_steps 100 \
  --save_steps 5000 \
  --num_train_epochs 5 \
  --output_dir /mnt/output_xlmr \
  --cache_dir  /mnt/cache  \
  --fp16   \
  --overwrite_output_dir \
  --evaluation_strategy "steps" \
  --dataloader_num_workers 8 \
  --use_fast_tokenizer False 
```