fixed trainer tr_loss memory leak
Fixes #6939 

The Trainer class contains the memory leak described [here](https://discuss.pytorch.org/t/cpu-ram-usage-increasing-for-every-epoch/24475/6). It is not specific to any particular model type and will occur with any model trained using the trainer class.

It is fixed in this pull request.

The issue is demonstrated in [this Colab notebook](https://colab.research.google.com/drive/1KQZEiZtfY14sDiAQnfw0gkKj9eC6XpTm?usp=sharing). The model trains for around 20 000 steps (this takes around 10 minutes on a t4) before using up all 12GB of RAM.
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<|||||>I think this was touched by @jysohn23 recently so pinging him here<|||||>I think the problem is not that we don't call `.item()` but that we don't call `.detach()`, which means some variables are kept forever for a backward pass (that is never called).
The `.item()` are removed because it's needed for faster TPU training.<|||||>This ends up calling `.item()` every step which ends up hurting performance by like 2X. What @sgugger sounds promising. Can we try that out instead?<|||||>I have updated it to create a detached tensor instead of calling item().<|||||>Can you confirm it fixes the memory leak? This is the right fix IMO (@LysandreJik this might be the fix for the TPU memory leak we have in another issue too.)<|||||>> Can you confirm it fixes the memory leak? This is the right fix IMO (@LysandreJik this might be the fix for the TPU memory leak we have in another issue too.)

Great! Yes, I have tested to make sure that this fixes the leak.