Loading mt5-xxl rasies error related to Pytorch/TF incompatiblity
## Environment info
- `transformers` version: 4.10.0
- Platform: Linux-3.10.0-1160.36.2.el7.x86_64-x86_64-with-glibc2.17
- Python version: 3.9.1
- PyTorch version (GPU?): 1.9.0+cu102 (True)
- Tensorflow version (GPU?): not installed (NA)
- Flax version (CPU?/GPU?/TPU?): not installed (NA)
- Jax version: not installed
- JaxLib version: not installed
- Using GPU in script?: yes
- Using distributed or parallel set-up in script?: yes

### Who can help

Model hub: @patrickvonplaten

## Information

Model I am using: mt5-xxl

The problem arises when using:
* [x] the official example scripts: examples/pytorch/translation/run_translation.py
* [ ] my own modified scripts: (give details below)

The tasks I am working on is:
* [x] an official GLUE/SQUaD task: example translation task given in the documentation
* [ ] my own task or dataset: 

## To reproduce

Steps to reproduce the behavior.

I am using deepspeed to load the model into memory.

```
deepspeed transformers/examples/pytorch/translation/run_translation.py     \
  --do_train     --model_name_or_path google/mt5-xxl     \
  --source_lang en     --target_lang ro     \
  --dataset_name wmt16     --dataset_config_name ro-en \
  --output_dir exp/33-a     --per_device_train_batch_size=4  \
  --per_device_eval_batch_size=4     --overwrite_output_dir     --deepspeed ds_config.json
```

ds_config.json
```
{ 
  "train_batch_size": "auto",
  "zero_optimization": {
    "stage": 3,
    "stage3_max_live_parameters": 1e9
  }
}
```

## Expected behavior

The model should be trained, but I get the following error:

```
OSError: Unable to load weights from pytorch checkpoint file for 'google/mt5-xxl' at '/net/people/plgapohl/.cache/huggingface/transformers/b36655ddd18a5fda6384477b693eb51ddc8d5bfd2e9a91ed202317f660041716.c24311abc84f0f3a6095195722be4735840971f245dfb6ea3a407c9bed537390'If you tried to load a PyTorch model from a TF 2.0 checkpoint, please set from_tf=True.
```

~Changing 342 line in `run_translation.py` to `=True` fixes the problem.~

~I believe the model on the hub named pythorch_model.bin is in fact a TF model.~

I have to correct the findings at the end - changing `=True` doesn't fix the problem.<|||||>To clarify a bit - I ran the same command with `mt5-xl` and it works like a charm. I ran the script on 8 V100 GPUs.<|||||>Probably this is related to the model size, not anything specific to the file with the weights.
On the second try, the error was different, the process was just killed. And the memory (CPU) was full.<|||||>Hey @apohllo, 

I think the problem is that you don't have enough CPU RAM to instantiate the model. `mt5-xxl` requires around 95 GB of RAM to be loaded into memory currently. We are working on an improved loading implementation for large files though that should reduce this number to something much closer to the model file size (48GB) - see: https://github.com/huggingface/transformers/issues/13548<|||||>Yes, I can confirm this is a CPU RAM related issue. I managed to load `t5-xxl` on single V100 GPU 32GB VRAM with 70GB CPU RAM, and the same model on two V100 GPU 32GB VRAM with more than 200GB CPU RAM (according to the command which tracks the maximum memory consumption). In that scenario I switched to ZeRO 2 instead of ZeRO 3.

We can close the issue. 
Maybe tagging it with model parallel and deepspeed would improve the issue discoverability?<|||||>This issue has been automatically marked as stale because it has not had recent activity. If you think this still needs to be addressed please comment on this thread.

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