Vicuna 13B forward method is very slow in FSDP mode.
### System Info

- `transformers` version: 4.28.0.dev0
- Platform: Linux-5.15.0-69-generic-x86_64-with-glibc2.29
- Python version: 3.8.10
- Huggingface_hub version: 0.13.3
- Safetensors version: not installed
- PyTorch version (GPU?): 1.13.1+cu117 (True)
- Tensorflow version (GPU?): not installed (NA)
- Flax version (CPU?/GPU?/TPU?): not installed (NA)
- Jax version: not installed
- JaxLib version: not installed
- Using GPU in script?: <fill in>
- Using distributed or parallel set-up in script?: <fill in>


### Who can help?

@sgugger, @ArthurZucke, @younesbelkada

### Information

- [X] The official example scripts
- [ ] My own modified scripts

### Tasks

- [ ] An officially supported task in the `examples` folder (such as GLUE/SQuAD, ...)
- [ ] My own task or dataset (give details below)

### Reproduction

```
from functools import partial

import torch
from torch.distributed.fsdp import FullyShardedDataParallel as FSDP
from torch.distributed.fsdp.wrap import transformer_auto_wrap_policy

from transformers import LlamaTokenizer, LlamaForCausalLM
from transformers.models.llama.modeling_llama import LlamaDecoderLayer


torch.distributed.init_process_group("nccl",
                                             rank=WORLD_RANK,
                                             world_size=WORLD_SIZE,
                                             )
llama_auto_wrap_policy = partial(transformer_auto_wrap_policy,
                                 transformer_layer_cls={
                                     LlamaDecoderLayer,
                                 },
                                 )

tokenizer = LlamaTokenizer.from_pretrained(model_dir)
model = LlamaForCausalLM.from_pretrained(model_dir,
                                                      torch_dtype=torch.float16,
                                                      low_cpu_mem_usage=True)

model = FSDP(model,
                         auto_wrap_policy=llama_auto_wrap_policy,
                         device_id=torch.cuda.current_device(),
                          # sharding_strategy=sharding_strategy,
                          )
inputs = tokenizer(['Who is Dalai?'])
logits = model.forward(inputs).logits[:, -1, :]
```

The execution time of the forward method is a more than a minute.

### Expected behavior

The execution time of the forward method is a few seconds.
I also want to attach a link to the discussion topic of the [**generate** method in **FSDP** mode.](https://discuss.huggingface.co/t/feature-request-gradient-checkpointing-for-encoderdecodermodel/25278)<|||||>cc @pacman100 <|||||>I forgot to mention that I'm running the model on **two RTX 3090 GPUs**.<|||||>Here is a working example you can try:

```python
from functools import partial

import torch
from torch.distributed.fsdp import FullyShardedDataParallel as FSDP
from torch.distributed.fsdp.wrap import transformer_auto_wrap_policy

from transformers import LlamaTokenizer, LlamaForCausalLM
from transformers.models.llama.modeling_llama import LlamaDecoderLayer

model_dir = "<insert your path to model here>"

import os
from time import perf_counter

local_rank = int(os.environ["LOCAL_RANK"])
local_world_size = int(os.environ["LOCAL_WORLD_SIZE"])

torch.cuda.set_device(torch.device(f"cuda:{local_rank}"))

torch.distributed.init_process_group(
    "nccl",
    rank=local_rank,
    world_size=local_world_size,
)
llama_auto_wrap_policy = partial(
    transformer_auto_wrap_policy,
    transformer_layer_cls={
        LlamaDecoderLayer,
    },
)

print(torch.cuda.current_device())

tokenizer = LlamaTokenizer.from_pretrained(model_dir)
model = LlamaForCausalLM.from_pretrained(model_dir, torch_dtype=torch.float16, low_cpu_mem_usage=True)

model = FSDP(
    model,
    auto_wrap_policy=llama_auto_wrap_policy,
    device_id=torch.device(f"cuda:{local_rank}"),
    # sharding_strategy=sharding_strategy,
)
inputs = tokenizer(["Who is Dalai?"], return_tensors="pt")

print(inputs)
t1_start = perf_counter()
logits = model(**inputs).logits[:, -1, :]
t1_stop = perf_counter()
print("forward time:", t1_stop - t1_start)
print(torch.cuda.max_memory_allocated() / 1e9)

```

Run  with `torchrun --nproc_per_node=2 --master_port=56718 run_forward.py`.

For me this prints a forward runtime of ~0.8 sec on 2 A100 gpus  and a peak GPU memory of ~14.5 GB (using llama-13b, current transformers main branch). <|||||>I think that you have such good performance because the model is placed on one GPU.<|||||>This issue has been automatically marked as stale because it has not had recent activity. If you think this still needs to be addressed please comment on this thread.

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