Fix on_step_begin and on_step_end Callback Sequencing
# What does this PR do?

Currently, the Trainer exhibits the following behavior (simplified):
 
```
for step, input in epoch_iterator:
     if (step + 1) % self.args.gradient_accumulation_steps == 0:
          callback_handler.on_step_begin()
     
     ...
     if (step + 1) % self.args.gradient_accumulation_steps == 0:
          # Apply Gradient Update (Finished accumulating)
          optimizer.step()
          callback_handler.on_step_end()
```

Unfortunately, this means that `on_step_begin()` gets called during the same iteration, *before* `on_step_end()` which is incorrect, and confuses folks implementing custom callbacks for timing individual iterations (like my team!).

Instead, this fix starts by calling `on_step_begin()` at steps = 0 (iteration 0) and will only be called on the next step after `on_step_end()`. 

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Code updates part of the Trainer, so tagging @sgugger.
