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Spend as much time as possible on the employer's website before your interview, make sure you understand the ins and outs of their approach (particularly compared to other similar employers), and prepare some questions that show you can discuss their work at a sophisticated level.
I've had very qualified candidates shoot themselves in the foot by asking bad questions or no questions, and I've had under-qualified candidates leap into contention by asking one really smart question.
The best question I ever got used this formula: "Given what I know about X, I was surprised to see that your organization does Y. Can you tell me a bit about why you take that approach, and what the tradeoffs have been?"
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A year ago, I had a baby. And she's perfect. And for 4 months I breastfed (until work/babynursingstrike made it too difficult). After that, I didn't have the slightest clue as to what size I was. I was wearing 2 regular bras, each a different size, with broken elastic, and 2 sports bras every day just to feel like I had some kind of support. I FINALLY managed to save enough money to go buy new bras. God, I was so stoked. I literally hadn't been that excited in weeks.
Until I walked into Lane Bryant.
Now let me just say, I'm not one to back down from a fight, and I'm not a naturally shy person. And to be honest, sales people have always been really intimidating to me. So after staring at bras, thinking about how I don't know where to even start, I finally got up enough courage to go over to the woman in charge of the fitting room and try to explain my situation. She cuts me short and asks what size I'm currently wearing. When I told her I was actually wearing 4 bras, she laughed, looked me dead in the eye and said 'Good lord girl, you're a mess.'
As if that wasn't bad enough, she then told me to put my arms out at my sides and measured me right then and there. In the middle of the fitting rooms, in front of about 10 people, OVER THE 4 BRAS I HAD JUST TOLD HER I WAS WEARING. I couldn't believe it. But I was so shocked and embarrassed that when she glanced at the tape measure (after going around part of my boobs once, and looking at it AFTER she pulled it off) and told me that I was a '38DDD', I went and found two in that size. I tried them on and it didn't feel quite right, but when she rapped on the door and asked how it was going, and I told her I didn't think it was right, she told me I 'just didn't know what a good bra felt like.' The whole time, I just wanted to cry. She wasn't listening, I was frustrated and humiliated, but I NEEDED a bra in the worst way possible. So, I walked out of there, 2 bras richer, $70 poorer, and 100% more defeated than I was earlier that day.
I no longer shop there. Ever.
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Yeah, I grew up in Indiana where cigarettes are like $5 a pack, and now I live in New York where they are $10 a pack. I was flabbergasted when I learned how expensive they are here.
And although in many respects I'm glad to be living in a blue state as opposed to a red one like before, I'll tell you one thing: there's a lot of Nanny State bullshit here that I never had to deal with before and I don't like it at all. Telling people that cigarettes are harmful is one thing and that is a noble cause. What it amounts to is little more than a poor person tax, since lower income people smoke more.
The age to buy tobacco products is 21 here, too. Smh.
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My husband and I have been together for ten years, but when we were dating I kept some things from him that I wanted to "save" to tell him at a better time. Really, there isn't quite perfect timing to tell someone you've had several unwanted sexual experiences in your youth. As it never came up, I never told him my stories.
Until one day, I was house sitting for my mom and he was over. I had class in the afternoon because I was in college and he was left alone in the house for a few hours.
In my old bedroom, there was a box of my things that he decided to peek at to get to know me a little better or maybe he was just being a nosy piece of shit, God love him. He found a diary I had kept as a child through my early teens. I only ever opened it to write the bad experiences out. I'd shut it and never open it again. He read the entire thing. He was shocked and saddened by what he read and also that I had neglected to tell him any of these things. I explained everything and did my best to focus on getting the truth out of my system rather than just getting angry with him for reading it. We haven't discussed any of this since that moment, many many years ago.
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In France, we are slowly but surely killing our industries. Don't get me wrong, there are still plenty of factories and we still have qualified workers, but there is a slow but steady process of killing our industry that takes it root from nearly a century ago.
And as time pass, we're exporting more and more of our industrial production, so France becomes only offices and landscape.
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I work nights in a home with two disabled men and they have 24/7 staff. Everyone else had heard footsteps and whispers and such but I hadn't experienced anything there.
One night I had to go out to my car and both the guys were asleep upstairs. They're not exactly fast on their feet so I was very confused when I glanced up and could see someone standing in the kitchen through a broken part of the blinds and then I realized it was way too tall for either of them...
Went inside, both guys in their rooms asleep. Later that night I did get some creepy feelings and heard creaking on the stairs.
Never anything since, but that was freaky.
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Emigrate from the US to another country? Good idea? What would it take? How to get started?
For reasons beyond my control, I'm considering leaving the US, and settling somewhere else. I've been to various places, and I'd like to consider where to settle. I'm a US citizen, but if things don't go well for me personally, I might need to leave.
I've visited Iceland, and loved it. Even though it's a small island, and there's just one major city, I think it would be a great adventure to live there. I'd love to explore more of the island, the interior, the glaciers and so on. I also like the idea of Latin America - Costa Rica or another country with a reasonable tech economy. Australia?
Should I consider emigrating? What would it take to make that happen? Do I need sponsorship from an employer? Suppose I'd like to maintain my US citizenship, how would I get a job? Are there jobs available in Iceland? Anyone in Costa Rica? Are there jobs there?
For the sake of this discussion, let's say I'm in IT - a technical guy with proven skills, also well spoken and I look presentable in a suit. I speak English but no other languages.
Let's also assume I have 10 years experience, and I have no family.
On the other hand, I have no expenses, and no income threshold that I "need" to reach. I'm fit, and I love the outdoors. I might be just as happy as a guide on a expeditions.
Would I be able to afford to live in Costa Rica? Iceland? Australia? What else would you suggest?
I don't think I would thrive in a place where English can't get me around. Japan or China wouldn't work.
I don't think I'd love old Europe. I can speak a passable Italian but not sure I would thrive in Italy. Not enough accessible open spaces.
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Of course. I think everybody in the history of time has known that people exist slightly differently from one another. And also that there are averages between us that collectively shape our shared understanding. Of course one foot is not one foot for everybody. But it's a heck of a lot more relatable for people than a decimeter, which is some microscopic proportion of some imperceptibly large unit. 1 foot can be perceived in so many ways relative to the typical human. Whether it's your foot, your forearm, one third of the radius of your outstretched limbs, the height of your head, twice the distance between your chin and your temple, etc. The human body is typically base6, and the foot is highly relatable.
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Don't worry about it. Weeaboo is used to describe a non-Japanese person who thinks that Japan and everything they ever do is the greatest thing ever. However, generally all they know about Japan is what they see in anime, which gives a skewed idea of the place. These people tend to do things such as pretend to be anime characters and use random Japanese words out of context and very poorly.
The reason I mentioned anime is because it is often used as an insult towards people who enjoy anime. Because really, nobody likes a weeaboo.
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Maybe by buying cars for all of his friends, he gave them greater mobility, vastly opening up their options and allowing them to get lucrative jobs that would have been impossible to accommodate with public transportation. So he sacrificed his inheritance to allow 10 of his friends to dig themselves out of their ruts and turn their lives around. And now some of them are home owners, raising families and contributing productively to society.
In the absence of other evidence, I'm going to assume this is how it all went down.
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At the end of a half or end of a game a quarterback(the guy who receives the hike and usually throws the ball or hands it off) will often kneel right after the hike to end the play. It doesn't however stop the clock. It's a way that the leading team can win by running out the clock without the chance of a turnover. It's basically understood that if a team has the ball and the lead with enough time(~1 min. usually) and downs to run out the clock, the other team allows the quarterback to kneel and do so.
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What is your favourite B Grade Superpower?
Hey reddit, often have had discussion with mates about superpowers, and with A grade powers the same ones always come up as the favourites (invisiblity, flying, super strength, teleporting etc)
Got me thinking, what's your favourite B Grade Superpower?
Side note - by B Grade Power I mean, a supernatural power that is not overly "superhero" like the ability to; seduce hats, or summon a lamp once, or have invisible handwriting
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That simply isn't true, though.
Take any Mafia/mob/crime family, etc., for example. Some are better at it than others, but if they're successful, they're probably fairly well-run, well-organized, and with a smart leader. They probably have some sort of allies, so they have to be able to work with other people. You have to be motivated to run a criminal empire. You can't be lazy and do that, or at least do it well.
Bank robbers, burglars, thieves, etc., have to be intelligent and organized if they want to be successful. No way you're robbing a bank/museum/someone's house, without a plan, ideally one that's well thought out.
Sociopathic serial killers are very intelligent.
And the intelligent ones do get caught as well. But there are probably a lot of criminals we simply don't know about because they haven't been caught.
And plenty of people of varying influence, intelligence, motivation, wealth, organizational skills, what have you, see some sort of potential gain in crime.
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So it's strange. I love my girlfriend to death, and her kids and all that, but I was single for so long, and people drain me emotionally, that it actually *IS* a burden sometimes.
I wouldn't trade her for the world, but sometimes (a lot of times) I just need me space, and she needs "us times (a lot)". I won't say I struggle to give her the attention she wants; it really does bring me enjoyment, but it *IS* effort for me (work).
Get to the root of it - if your BF is an introvert, this is normal. And depending on how he was raised, opening up about himself just won't be possible. Men don't talk about feelings.
> and he always denies feeling bad even when it's obvious that he is
This is a tough one. You may feel it's obvious, but see my comment about resting bitch face - it might not be - he might be ok inside, but the effort to outwardly LOOK happy is just too much effort.
Granted, he could also be a ticking time bomb of woe and despair, what do I know. :-)
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Got an ex-friend who was a blimp. She literally was about 5'6 and around 400lbs. I remember when I would leave her place you could tell which room she was in because you could see the house shaking. She talks about how she was made fun of her whole live for being fat, and the year I gain some weight (6'1 220lbs, very far from 400lbs) she doesn't even say hi, she just goes "wow you gained weight", I just wanted to lay into her. Like who are you to talk? You'd still be 400lbs if your rich family didn't pay for lyposuction. And she goes around now making fun of people who are fat or just a little overweight. People are just trash. And shes also a meth head too. My friends gf recently had a meth freakout and took a plane across the US and blew $9000 on meth which was given to her by Unemployment, even though she had worked maybe 200 hours in her life. She had some job for like 4 weeks and gets that much unemployment? hmmm seems shady.
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How have psychedelic drugs changed the way you think? For better or for worse?
For those who have used them in the past and stopped, was it because you had a bad trip or overdose/otherwise uncomfortable experience? What might have caused it? Do you think it left you with lingering negative associations to certain stimuli like sounds or images?
Also - Have psychedelics ever changed the way you see/interact with a friend or lover and how? Have they had an influence on your sexuality, or personal preferences regarding romance or friendship?
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"It's not you, it's me." or Is it you?
I'm a 28 year old female that is for lack of better saying, "I'm at my wits end!" I know this is just going to sound like a lot of whining (I am a woman) so all comments can refrain from going that way, beat you to it. My girlfriends SUCK. They are horrible. I've known the majority of them since I was in middle school. The majority of the ones I spend time with are my college friends. And, I just don't know what to do.
My "best friend" is only available when she is single and needs dick. So, then it's me taking her out and finding her guys to sleep with. Doesn't leave her house, doesn't pick up the phone. But, her phone works every time she has a problem with the boyfriend.
You can't have a conversation with any of them unless it is about some guy, or how fat they have gotten (all have eating disorders and are rail thin).
I know people grow up and grow out of friends. I know some people just phase these people out of their lives. But I feel like if did that I would have NO FRIENDS.
Has anyone else ever felt this way or are going through this? Or is it just me?
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Tell you partner to dress to the 9's but no heals, you do the same. Start the night at a nice restaurant, nothing to fancy, and still well within budget (this is not where you are spending a lot.) Discreetly tell your server to give you and your date a note that you have previously typed stating something along these lines "Your mission is simple infiltrate the base at (insert the address of nearest Laser tag place) Destroy this note after reading" Pretend that you don't know what is going on (in actuality you have previously made reservation at this destination.) Upon arrival reveal to your date that you are a secret agent and that you need their help for this mission. proceed to play laser tag a super spy duo.
around 40$ for the meal and 20$ for laser tag
not super cheep but certainly not killing the bank account and super fun!
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Lol, I got into trouble once in high school for something stupid (playing with the curtains, yes I was fiddling with the curtains in class and got ripped into by the teacher for it). Stupid as it was, I figured the best way to handle it was to just be polite and get out the other side, so as he's ranting away demanding answers from me, I politely and respectfully answered him.
"Yes Mr Watson"
"No Mr Watson"
"I'm not sure Mr Watson"
Then he finished his rant with "AND DON'T ANSWER BACK!!!".
It's 30 years later and I still think back to how unfair that was.
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So I have a question. When you’re genuinely yourself, I can’t imagine you act the same as a low functioning person. I’m not really around many autistic people but I do have a brain injury and can relate very much to masking. The only person I don’t have to worry about masking with is my boyfriend, who’s been with me for a very long time and learned about my issues early by being a super close friend. Some examples when I don’t mask are: I don’t control my facial expressions as much so I look pissed off or tired, I will become obsessive over things and not deviate, have minor ticks I have to do (pop wrists, for example) I don’t control my tone so I can accidentally become loud or sound very monotone, which any other person would assume I’m angry. If I get upset about something I have to rant about it in circles for at least an hour, then I’ll be fine. If I want to talk about something, I hope you’re ready for 10000000 side tracks and me not wanting to talk about anything else for a couple hours. Are you at all similar? Or is it way different?
Quick edit: I’ve also noticed I can guess if someone’s autistic or not on the few times I have met someone with it, even if they’re really, REALLY good at hiding it. The tell is they show major confidence in a normal way, but won’t look me in the eye, usually the forehead or somewhere that looks kinda “off” to me, only because I used to do it and know what to spot. One guy said I was apparently the only person he knew that noticed :P
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My jaw dropped when I saw the trailer for Sucker Punch.
I waited a year for it, I was so hyped.
I think the disillusionment never left, I never trusted trailers from then on so I wouldn't be disappointed as much ever again.
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As a single dad you have a ton of pressure on you and trying to get away from that when you have time with your boy is near impossible, it's not like you can shove it into a closet and just concentrate on him.
Anything." Being away from the house and the source of stress really helps a great deal.
Remember kids are incredibly strong, resilient, forgiving, and loving. He loves you, I know it. And he knows you love him. Even when things are going off the rails. And no stepfather, no matter how great a man, can replace your bond with him.
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Bullshido. I would hit upvote forever just for that term if I could.
What you are talking about isn't style, but the substance of the instructor teaching it. That is why I say it is more about the instructor than the style. But your point is valid. Which is why I ALWAYS say that you should try a free class or two first. Any instructor that won't let you do that, is full of BULLSHIDO!
All it takes is a few classes and you will be able to tell real fast if that instructor is right for you.
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You know how there is always a big line leading up to the security checkpoint? On a busy day at a big airport, there could easily be 1000 or more people. **You don't need to get past security in order to get to these people.**
Security could protect passengers, but it's been implemented in an inefficient and half-assed way, with the additional cost of irradiating passengers and TSA workers, or providing searches nearly equivalent to a search incident to an arrest.
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Just for my own little bit to contribute, I'd argue YouTube is one of the most poorly managed companies of all time. The past few years have been especially bad for content creators in particular. In case you need a specific example, they changed the functionality of the subscription, one of their original features. They made it so you won't see their videos a lot of the time. You'll seldom receive notifications, and they won't show up on your home page very often. For over a year, we thought it was a bug until they released a video interview stating that it was intentional. About 95% of their userbase protested furiously over it, and it led nowhere. No further acknowledgement, no rollbacks, nothing. So yeah, YouTube is at the top of my list. Microsoft being a close second.
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I'm going to rant here for a bit. You say "extort"... that is the wrong word. You know damn well what you are getting into when you sit down to gamble. Do you say a company is extorting people when they put it in a shiny bottle? Do you call it extortion when an item is moved to the front of the store to sell better? No, it is marketing, and that is what the casino does when it makes it big, bright and flashy. Card counting actually isn't immoral and no casino is going to hate you for it. I work in casino surveillance and there is no way the casino will go after you at all besides asking you to leave. It is a basic business policy that losing money is something you should curb. I.E. card counting over time will lose the company money. We will not call the police on you and we will not give you a hard time unless you are an assjacket to us when we ask you to leave the table. There is nothing illegal or unethical about counting. It is simply us saying your play is to good for us and if you continue we will be at a net loss.
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My 15 year old brother just watched a girl commit suicide. How do I know he is okay?
http://www.mohavedailynews.com/articles/2012/02/26/news/local/doc4f49e99118d22020647954.txt
On the way home from a field trip today a girl jumped out the emergency exit while the bus was traveling 55 mph. He was on the back of the bus, saw her jump, hit the side of the bus, then hit the ground face first with her hands to her side.
He says he's fine but I'm not sure he is. I talked to a teacher who was on the bus and asked if they would be taking mandatory counseling sessions and he said no, but it was recommended. How do I help him?
Edit- Thank you all for all your responses. I will be keeping a close eye on him and so will my parents.
For everyone who had horrible sad stories they have lived through, I am so sorry and I thank you for being strong enough to share your experiences to help others. Thank you all again. There is no news story about it yet but when there is I will put it up.
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Everyone's different. My friend (who is straight, married, and has never experimented with a chick and more than likely never will) watches lesbian porn almost exclusively.
Myself? I don't watch lesbian porn. I think it's boring. However, I can totally appreciate an attractive woman. I don't really have any desire to do anything to another chick, but if she's hot and wants to do stuff to me, I'd probably let her.
Moral of the story: the porn that you watch doesn't necessarily reflect your sexuality. Just staring at the stuff, though? Bi-curious, if anything.
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True. Went in the red by 3 dollars, got charged $27.00, and I was like, "if i'm poor how can I pay this back if I have no money, being poor really gives you the short end of the stick" but I just said it out loud, and the lady came back and they reversed the charges.
I wasn't mad at her, or anybody in particular, except myself, so it wasn't as if I was making a scene or trying to shame her, and she came back and the bank reversed the charges.
I've gotta hand it to my bank, I love my tellers, they are some of the nicest people I've ever met. Even the very curt one, who, I think she just thinks I'm funny, and she's opened up a bit, and omg, she even laughed.
It was a positive story, so people can know that good things do happen sometimes, because there's a bunch of negativity in this thread, and I wanted to throw good vibes in here while I'm at like, a [7].
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-07-15 03:28:31
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Reddit, my boyfriend is depressed. What are the best/worst things I can do or say?
Last fall my boyfriend (we're both college students) began dealing with depression - basically he couldn't get out of bed in the morning or face the day. After four weeks of not going to class and not telling anyone, he finally told me what was going on. He started taking medication and was doing much better. Last semester was a bust, but he will still graduate this December.
Yesterday he told me that he's been feeling bad again, and I'm devastated. I love to plan and fix things, and I just feel helpless like I did last fall. For those of you that have been depressed or dealt with a depressed SO, what can I do? Is there anything I can do? We have been together four years and have a rock solid relationship, and all I can think to say is "I love you" and "I'm here for you." Not sure if this will even generate any responses, but I think just writing it out makes me feel proactive and helpful. I'd hate for him to give up now, when he's so close to graduating.
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g8viv
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-03-22 11:52:48
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Dolma_Reddit
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So I opened up my newspaper this morning and it started talking to me. Reddit, can you help me understand this circuit?
Basically, it was an ad for a VW and was a circuit with a photosensor so once exposed to light the message would begin. I opened it up and tried to figure it out. The IC is in a blob of epoxy, so obviously no show on that. I took some pictures.
I want to know how this works. I took a picture of the circuit and drew (attempted to draw) a circuit diagram. Here are the pictures, who wants to play?
http://imgur.com/hdLbm.jpg http://imgur.com/X8jnC.jpg
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dhcyg
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2010-09-22 14:43:59
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Dolma_Reddit
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American abroad here. I lose sleep over coming back home. The crippling guilt of keeping my kids away from their grandparents is constantly at odds with the stress-induced insomnia of not being able to afford our healthcare. It's a huge reason why we moved.
The other day I posted something on Facebook about being grateful for our situation here, and I got an angry email from my father saying how I am hurting my mother who misses the grandchildren I am keeping from her. Seriously. So I can't even talk about enjoying prosperity because it hurts my mom's feelings. Apparently being grateful for an opportunity means I'm rubbing it in everyone's face about how glad I am to never come back ever and the way I was raised is garbage?
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2016-11-25 00:07:56
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Dolma_Reddit
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> No one wants their government controlling how they travel.
Good thing the government always listens to what people want, then. Glad to hear that passports are completely optional and governments will never try to interfere with you crossing a national border whenever you feel like it, or make you fill out paperwork or sign legal declarations, or scan your luggage.
And of *course* you'll still be able to drive a manual vehicle. Which will cost 20x what a government-controlled vehicle does to own and operate, and driver's licenses will be $5000 per year to make sure that they're not being used trivially.
But sure you could do that.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2018-03-08 15:02:39
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Dolma_Reddit
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When you can sign up instantly online - but you cant cancel until youve talked to a specific department that isnt always open. the people on the phone just keep telling you they cant cancel it themselves, so you have to call back another day during business hours... and theres a 90% chance they are out to lunch at 3pm... they can keep doing this and they will just keep billing you.
i had to call comcast 8 times before they cancelled. every time i called in the department was closed or out for lunch. when i finally got someone to cancel my account, i had been charged for another month. then the person who cancelled told me their department is open 24 hours and that i was lying about my previous calls. complete scumbags over there. there all real polite about how they cant stop taking your money.... its all out of their hands. bunch of unaccountable jackasses should feel ashamed about their job, not treated polite because its "not their fault"
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-11-20 21:47:14
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Dolma_Reddit
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This is going to get lost, but.... I used to work 12 hour over night shifts and I could only see my good friend after work and we would go to the chinese buffet. She's eating pudding, and a song she really likes comes on the radio. She makes the comment "I'm could cry into my pudding" in reference to the song. She got up and ran to the bathroom. She came back and told me she couldn't contain the laughter. So much fun to be had there, and because of how funny we found these incidents is why she used to be my best friend. Now she got married to a douchebag, and he completely forced me out of her life. She let it happen, whatever...
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2013-07-04 04:19:51
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Dolma_Reddit
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I want to take a light week long roadtrip late spring. Will stop in Virginia at friends dads house. what are some great places to see, party at, etc on the southeast coast.
Coming from north jersey. I'm fixing up my car right now, so i was thinking, since its going to be in great working order, i think i wanna take a road trip with some friends soon.
So me and my droogs are in jersey. My and one of my friends briefly talked about this and we'd want to go visit his dad in virginia, by the chesapeak bay. Then after that its all open to ideas.
I dont know the area that well. I was thinking to save some money to sleep in tents at camp grounds along the way, rather than hotels. Maybe in the car, dependson how many people are going. its a 2001 honda accord 4 door.
TL;DR: Going on possible road trip from North Jersey, possibly southward. Tell me cool places to visit, party at, meet people at. BTW we're all in our mid 20's.
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g0q4d
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-03-09 21:51:33
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Dolma_Reddit
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To reply to you both - yes.
I internalise all of my disordered thinking and limit my external behaviours, even though I have intense swings in mood and decisions due to these disorders.
It means that whilst I'm highly successfully academically and professionally, and cultivated an external persona that exhibits an aura of high energy and happiness, I've also got an internal person who is almost completely disconnected to reality when not physically engaged with another person.
This means I do critically analyse moments and have vivid visual playback of conversations, readings, events etc. I'm incredibly attuned to body language, tone, and facial expressions. I'm also simultaneously analysing the content of the language for specific linguistic features. Depending on the feedback I'm receiving, I will adjust my external persona to fit the moment.
It sounds fairly sociopathic, I know. It's a direct result of intense childhood trauma that, at some level, is ongoing. C-PTSD is just one of my alphabet soup of disorders.
So, to answer the the question: I often (sometimes daily) evaluate how good my life is, what's going right and the feelings of contentment I have with my life circumstances. There have been moments where I genuinely have thought that life couldn't possibly get better and I'd rather take myself out at the top.
Buddhists believe that life is suffering, we shouldn't expect anything less than suffering. Therefore, everything we gain over and above that is a source of peace and joy.
People think about life and death in a multitude of ways. I'm very mindful of death and its inevitability. I believe we should have a choice of when and how we die, if possible. When people talk about how they'd like to die, they say as a very old person while getting laid or some such fantasy. What's that if not going out on a high?
I'm surprised that people find this such an odd take. Perhaps I should have posted it in unpopular opinion!
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-12-09 12:46:13
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Dolma_Reddit
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My wife of 12 years walked out on me in October 2017 during an especially stressful time of my life. I called up the suicide line and waited on hold for half an hour. I called up the men’s help line and waited for another half hour only to get transferred to a machine. I tried another number and was told to call somewhere that was shut. Another number told me call the suicide line. I waited on hold and in menus for around three hours in total until someone told me I could go to the emergency at the local hospital and talk to a psych nurse there.
I drove there and told triage my wife left me and I wanted to hurt myself. They told me to sit and wait and they’d see me when they could. I waited an hour until there was an incident out the front which I realised would keep the psych nurse busy until 6am. I went up to triage and said I knew I wouldn’t be seen for ages and was leaving. ‘Are you feeling better?’ ‘No, but I’ll come back in the morning.’
I drove home and got home around 1am. The phone rang but I was angry and ignored it. It rang again and I ignored it. The police came bashing on the door and lighting up the street at 2am. They escorted me back to the hospital in an ambulance. I spoke to the psych nurse for twenty minutes and he gave me a taxi voucher to send me home. I was impressed by his diligence to send the cops after me but my memories of that night are steeped in frustration and humiliation.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-07-10 11:47:09
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Dolma_Reddit
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Honestly, it actually does make sense. Most adult skills are learned, not innate. Expecting a kid to act like an adult gives them a chance to practice those skills in a lower-risk environment.
Think about a curfew, for example. The adult skill being practiced here is time management.
You're being treated like a kid because your parent is saying you have to be home by 10pm. You're expected to act like an adult by following that curfew. If you don't, the worst that happens is you get grounded.
Now let's say you're an adult and you didn't learn that skill. You have to go to bed by 10 to be well rested to get up for work at 6am. You stay up all night playing videogames, oversleep, and end up putting your job at risk.
I've exaggerated the example for the sake of argument, obviously, but that's the general idea.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-01-15 16:30:59
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Dolma_Reddit
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I met this guy a week before Valentines. I had just ended a relationship and so had he. So we hung out every day for the first week we knew each other. Then Valentines rolls around. Having only known each other for a week, I didn’t expect any of the Valentines stuff from him. I got to his house and he gave me flowers and was being all romantic. I told myself I wasn’t about to blindly fall in love w this person I met a week ago, having just endured a break up. I was not looking for anything serious. So I told him I had to go home. I don’t even know if we kissed. I think I crushed his little heart.
Last week marked our 4th year of being together :)
Why was this the best Valentines?
-for me, because I stood strong and didn’t just accept the flowers and romantic gestures to appease him. Even though I really really wanted to.
-he was so cool about it
-it made me fall 10x harder for him
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-02-14 16:31:28
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Dolma_Reddit
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Some may want to leave the heat/cooling on.
Some may think turning the car off/on in a short amount of time is wasteful of gas and/or unnecessary wear-and-tear on the engine.
In some very cold climates, if you have a diesel engine, it is hard to start if the engine gets cold.
The first two reasons are dumb unless you are leaving your dog/child in the car and need the heater/AC running so they do not die.
That last one though is really legit. I was once part of a ski group and our busses would leave their engines running all night because if they turned them off getting them started again was a big problem in the cold.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-12-10 22:32:05
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Dolma_Reddit
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yeah, I can understand the sentiment. I am a pro-chef so i guess if its a really simple recipe, I am probably not going to a food blog to get it. And I often find the writing in these posts to be entertaining, with good recipes just being an added bonus. blogs like lady and pups is a double win of really really excellent writing, combined with recipes that are interesting and challenging.
I will say though, that the vast majority of cooking blogs have the story up front and ingredients/instructions listed at the bottom of the article. so there is almost never any reason you read through the "story" part if you dont want to.
There are also blogs like "the food lab" with kenji lopez where there is lots of writing, but it is all food related and they just guide you through the science and process of cooking.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-02-19 10:03:04
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Dolma_Reddit
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Landlord said me and roommates would have to pay for a new AC/HVAC if ours is broken. Can they do that?
A couple of days ago, we noticed the AC unit was leaking water, and later that day stopped blowing cold air. So we called the landlord, and he came and took a look at it.
He said that they were going to put some Freon in it, and we need to let them know if it stops blowing cold air in the next few days, just in case there is a Freon leak. But then he said if they have to replace it, me and my roommates have to pay for it. We notified him in a timely manner when we noticed it was not working right, and we did not do anything to damage the unit. Can they do that?
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vgcnb
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-06-22 21:05:00
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Dolma_Reddit
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When Tolkein started writing Fellowship, he didn't really have a grand plan for it. He was still conceiving of it as simply being a sequel to The Hobbit. So it has a lot of material - like Tom Bombadil - which is whimsical mostly for the sake of being whimsical, despite feeling out-of-place in terms of the story of LOTR as a whole.
As far as Faramir goes, I prefer the movie version. In the movie, he has a really good reason for being a bit insecure and over-compensating. In the book, his complete disinterest in the Ring almost seems to break canon, since he'd basically have to be a Saint not to be tempted by it *at all*.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-07-07 06:00:59
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Dolma_Reddit
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California had 4.4% growth last year and has a GDP per capita that's 11% higher than TX.
I said that holding up a city was absurd. Even pointing out a single state is cherry picking. And I also referenced the biotech sector in Houston (which is also huge in Austin), because it's evidence of the success of government intervention. I have a few degrees from UT Austin in engineering, I'm not opposed to the state, I just think that you can't hold up TX as evidence that conservative economic policies work. I mean, you laud government getting out of the way in a city with MDACC and a state with CPRIT.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2016-07-20 00:57:54
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Dolma_Reddit
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I'm not who you replied to but I'd like to clarify:
> So what you're trying to say is that sex refers to the baby making system of each member in the species, whilst gender is a choice.
There's a growing body of evidence that gender identity (what you are comfortable identifying as) is more or less fixed, not a choice. Other than that is you more or less got it.
> Basically , I could choose to identify myself as a girl/ guy, but it wouldnt really make a difference, because I could never really be a girl (have ovaries, create eggs, etc.) because I was born a guy, and [vice versa].
I mean, this is a very narrow definition of what constitutes a guy or a girl. They'll never be able to do those things, but neither can many women who are born infertile, for example.
As to the last point, I'm not sure exactly what they meant, but I assume they were trying to differentiate between the aspects which are historically studied in biology (sex and sex characteristics) from the neurological/psycological aspects (gender identity), even though there is biological evidence for both (although there's obviously a lot more for sex).
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-10-24 23:30:37
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Dolma_Reddit
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Here's my response to anyone who says they are happy about today....
For all the newly mandated children, many of whom will be born into poverty and/or abuse and neglect from parents who cannot or will not give them the care and upbringing they need, what will be your contribution to them? Will you advocate for and fund universal healthcare and child care? Will you allow higher taxes and changes to infrastructure to improve living conditions and education so that they can all prosper in this new order that you have made? Or will you continue to dismiss these forced families as poor and unworthy, fight every attempt to close the gap between them and you, and eagerly await the day when those that survive the opportunity lottery that you've entered them into reach the age when they can join your servant workforce? Don't just let these hypocritical faux-moralists walk away from the damage they've done. Put them in the dock.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2022-06-24 21:46:31
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Dolma_Reddit
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> The act of sharing in emotional relationships is a sign of a weak emotional bond.
So, I'm supposed to not talk to my mother or friends?
> I have never once see a single case of an open or poly relationship working.
This is complete and total horseshit and basically sums up that you are just going off of cliched assumptions.
> Every one falls apart from jealousy and insecurity.
Not me. I literally am more apathetic. I don't really feel jealous.
> Because it's not how human beings work.
Human beings are apes. And apes are definitley not known for monogymy. Also, is human beings don't work that way, why do so many realtionships end with cheating?
> When one side actually gets seriously involved emotionally then insecurity kicks in with seeing them with other people.
If this can ruin your relationship, it sounds like you value sex more than any other thing in a relationship.
From your second paragraph, I can tell you've never met a couple in an open realtionship.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2016-05-05 17:45:47
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Dolma_Reddit
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I gave my ex husband an ultimatum that he could choose the therapist for marriage counseling because I could no longer handle his gambling addiction. We had a 1 year old and he started acting really shady and shifty so I knew he was gambling again. Logged onto his credit card and saw where he was taking $200+ cash advances out (while telling me, when I finally got out of my shitty fast food management gig and into a more stable office job, my paychecks were "extra spending money", which raised a huge red flag for me). He previously refused Gambler's Anonymous because he didn't have as bad a problem as the other people there.
He refused marriage counseling to because " I'm NoT PaYiNG SoMEoNe tO TeLl Us wE NeEd tO TaLk MoRe."
I recently signed our 5 year old and I up for therapy for behaviors I noticed that I can only assume come from our separation, my new relationship and pregnancy, the pandemic and him starting Kindergarten online this year, and his father's response was "Why the hell does a 5 year old need therapy, he doesn't even remember when we separated."
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-08-12 13:53:03
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Dolma_Reddit
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I don't see any of the people who were brought up in broken homes in this thread sticking up for how the social workers came in and saved the day. I hope you're right but it doesn't seem likely judging from these responses. It's always a caring parent suing for custody that has the best chance of fixing the situation in every situation I've seen.
I don't see you showing any evidence to the contrary.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-02-20 22:58:37
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Dolma_Reddit
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Yeah. I took accutane and I can say that I'm extremely happy to not have to deal with acne cysts on my back and chest anymore. I still get mild acne on my face and occasionally along the hairline of my neck, but acutane was worth it in these regards.
I do feel like mentally and emotionally I'm very different after taking acutane, but I'm not sure that I can assign blame to accutane for that. I was on accutane from the very end of Sophmore year through the beginning of my Junior year of high school, and I decided it was a good idea to take 5 AP classes at once.
During that year my emotions became dull to the point that I felt nothing most of the time. Happiness was rare, and overwhelming sadness was what I felt most often when I actually did feel anything. I'd still prefer the sadness over feeling nothing though.
I started to hate myself. I think I came close to ending it once but decided not to. I've never told anyone about that because I've not fallen that far again since. I also found myself having a very difficult time focussing on schoolwork and all I wanted to do was stay in bed watching YouTube or netflix.
There were a few times that I was a real prick towards my family, especially my mom and sister, but I believe that my relationship with them has gone back to normal since then. I really hope that I dont ever go from a compassionate person to the monster that some of the people above described their brothers as becoming.
I'm now in my Senior year and I've been off of acutane for a while. I still feel some of these effects, but it's gotten a lot better. I occasionally feel emotionally numb, but I'm happy a lot more often. I think Band as well as improving my connection with friends has helped with this. I don't hate myself so much anymore, but I have this overwhelming sense that something's wrong with me from time to time.
Again, I'm not sure that I can blame accutane for all of this. I think it was really just a shitstorm of acutane, stress from school, and puberty all coming together to really screw with my head.
Sorry for posting this massive wall of text. I think I just needed to get this all out somewhere.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-10-14 00:46:57
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Dolma_Reddit
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Which 2 comic book characters would you combine?
I stole this from Sourcefed Nerd #TableTalk I know, but they didn't really go into it deeply so I wanna know what y'all think.
You can combine 2 comic book characters, heroes/villains/neutrals for whatever reason (you decide). They can either mix powers together, have both powers, have mixed appearance. Or even throw in one character into another character's storyline.
My first thought was gambit + spidey. So have the reflexes and spidey sense on an already athletic and agile gambit but with the ability to fire exploding webbing!
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1ti5fv
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2013-12-23 03:22:05
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Dolma_Reddit
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This might be a chinese whispered version of a law that states that if squatters are in a given place, say, an abandoned house for a certain period of time, they cannot be forcefully moved on.
I'm not sure of the details, but it's all based around the idea that "Well, if they were there for 14 months and no one noticed, obviously no one is using the building, nor are they causing a disturbance..."
At this point, I believe they can be moved on if say, the house was empty until being sold, and a developer/homeowner is moving in, but unless there's a reason for forcing these (often homeless people) from shelter, and onto the streets, it isn't the first thing done.
A lot of the greyness comes from our history of squatting in the UK, most recently, shortly after World War II, when a large number were left homeless due to the Blitz, and just generally the piss poor time a nation has at war. Much of the ambiguity from that era has carried over, so it's a debated subject.
I'm not a lawyer, nor do I study law, so this is straight from my brain bank. Not sure if it's even remotely right.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-03-06 22:08:54
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Dolma_Reddit
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You have no idea how much I am against anti vaxxers, the topic gets me so angry that every time I think about it I have to break something and start a fight. I am really upset. I am shaking as we speak. And I love servers, I respect them so much, I make a point to bow down when I enter a restaurant and tip double the price on the menu because they are saints and I know that. And don't get me started on my strong views towards turn signals and loud chewing and blocking the path while walking in a group. Seriously, don't, I could talk about it for the whole year. I've been talking about it for the whole year.
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87492e8d11b94b67a8118a5ee2faa92d
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2015-07-10 12:26:53
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Dolma_Reddit
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Well yeah, the friend zone doesn't occur after 10 minutes, it occurs after weeks/months of being friends with the person and not making a move (i.e. she must think of you as a friend). After that period of time, most girls (or people in general) would take the hint that the person they are flirting with isn't interested and move on (Note: This is just the version of friend zoning that I think the post you are replying to experienced, there are other ways to be friend zoned).
>If you trick her into wanting you, you're just... tricking her.
This is my main confusion regarding your original post, there is nothing that suggests any trickery occurred.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-11-30 22:10:54
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Dolma_Reddit
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Not a teacher, but have worked as a private tutor (high school / university) and for a semester as a substitute teacher in high school.
Personally I prefer hard working students over "naturally smart" ones, mainly for two reasons:
1. Many hard working students were not always hard working, but have become so after reaching some kind of turning point. These students exemplify the value of hard work and shows other students that it's possible to change through applying oneself.
2. Students that work hard tend to be more humble. Don't get me wrong, challenging authority should be encouraged, and I don't mind that aspect of smart-assery. However, if you advance far enough in your academic studies, most people will reach a point where smarts are no longer enough - eventually you will need to work hard to excel. I try to instil that in my "smart" students but I fear many of them need to traverse their own personal minefield of procrastination and arrogance...
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-04-06 19:07:53
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,694 |
I was there during the Centennial Olympic bombing. I think I was 6 at the time so I don't remember much other than what I though was an explosion from a firework then my brother and I being scooped up and next thing we knew we were on the way home. We were on our way out of the park already and were almost to our car when it happened. I didn't realize it was an actual bombing until I heard they had captured the bomber years later. I always assumed we went home so quickly because my parents knew I didn't like fireworks.
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8576a90d5b904ff599c195b2edb89bb1
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2014-04-15 14:58:06
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,695 |
How do I get my blog "out there?" Which strategies work best to attract readers/followers?
I produce new content every day and I know that quite a few people would be interested in reading it (I'm also a freelance graphic designer so it's quite nice to look at!) I just don't know how to make it more visible. I have a Tumblr (quite a few followers) where I link to my blog, a YouTube (some subscribers) where I also link to it, and an Instagram (most followers) where I do as well, but I just can't seem to get people to make the effort to check it out.
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1n9knj
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2013-09-27 18:53:17
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,696 |
I had a foster brother my family raised from 7 months to 3 years old. He LOVED Wall-E and would run around quoting it and would watch it daily.
Well when we went to court to try to get him to be ours fully, the judge flipped through the hundreds of pages of evidence we had against his father and said, "There's too much to read, just send him back to his dad."
The boy was torn from us so suddenly, and we only had 2 hours to say goodbye. The social worker strapped him into the car and said they were going to see his daddy.
The last thing any of us heard the child say was, "No! That's my daddy!" As he pointed to my father.
I remember going through his things that night and packing everything up... I used to sing him a song every night before he went to bed. I wrote down the song and put a message that said, "He loves to hear this at bedtime." I packed it with his things and hoped his dad would sing it to him.
We kept tiny momentos of him. I took the pet tag off of his favorite toy. My mom took a little toy train, and my father kept the video game he'd play with the boy, though he hasn't been able to play it since that day.
I was maybe 11 or 12 when it happened. I've never known grief quite like the one experienced then. I am still grieving, and I think I always will.
A while back my mom stumbled across his father's Facebook page. She delved in to see how the kid was doing, expecting him to be dead. He's doing well and looks happy. It was such a relief...
I plan to track the boy down when he becomes an adult, and see how he's doing. I won't tell him all of the details of why he came into our care, I'll just say we took care of him for a bit. I'll tell him that I consider him a brother and maybe share some baby pictures. I can only hope that that encounter will go well. He was the light of my life.
Tl;dr: My former brother loved Wall-E.
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72a921f101b7430f9d2310b9965a30c4
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-07-29 04:53:13
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,697 |
What is the last dream you remember having?
here is mine from last night.
my entire family was staying at my house. My niece had some pet chipmunks that kept eating the food from the mouse traps I had set around the house, we were getting paranoid about them getting caught. My dad had the brilliant idea to feed them all a shot of vodka to make them passout until the next morning when everyone was going to leave.
Edit: maybe as an interesting side not post any correlation between the dream and real life. In my case I actually have had a mouse problem over the last few weeks. as for the vodka, I dunno, I drink a lot but I hate vodka. I also used to have 2 pet chipmunks about 10 years ago, but as they got older their wild side started kicking in and I had to let them go.
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bd0fb
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2010-03-13 19:20:48
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Dolma_Reddit
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Education, both in schools and colleges, i go to an engineering college, we've had 2 subjects in the last 4 semesters actually physically interacting with the stuff we learned about in those subjects, one of them being PLCs, and the other sensors (but really basic stuff like proving the theory that a reed relay will turn on when you get close to it with a magnet, what is its entire point)
Edit: i also went to an engineering highschool where we actually had more physical interaction, like basics of working on a lathe, a bit of cnc machining, PLCs, microcontrollers, sensors, basic programming, literally learned more in highschool where i only showed up occasionally and spent most days drinking myself to a blackout than in college rn
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5704b844c62946dea20f46c897f4186c
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-05-13 15:39:10
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,699 |
Do any redditors actually have (or have used) a desktop 3D printer? Which desktop 3D printer do you think is best?
I've known about the [*RepRap*](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/RepRap) and *Desktop Factory* [desktop 3D printers](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desktop_manufacturing) for some time. The Desktop Factory one seems to have gone a closed source commercial route, with funding problems and little headway and no product currently for sale. But I've today learned that not only is there [a new RepRap model out](http://objects.reprap.org/wiki/RepRap_Version_II_%22Mendel%22), there also is [another printer by another team](http://www.makerbot.com/) (apparently some NYC hacker collective). Does anyone here have any experience with desktop 3D printers? Or is anyone otherwise qualified to talk about them? I wonder if there are more such printers out there that I don't yet know about. And I'd like to know which desktop 3D printer reddit likes best (and why).
NB: I'm not asking about huge industrial CNC machines here -- only about desktop 3D printers that mere mortals could still afford.
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9z72e
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2009-10-30 01:36:08
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,700 |
About a week ago, this was my conversation on the phone.
Me: "Hey, I'm not sure if I should drive into work right now, there's a tornado warning out and they're headed our way."
Management: "Well, you can't be late or you'll be written up."
Me: "There aren't any orders, and I have to endanger my life to get to work. You want me to risk my life just so I can come in and get all my work done even earlier than I always do?"
Management: "A little bad weather is no excuse to be late. Drivers are a dime a dozen."
Fuck. My. Life.
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4003e37d377d47f9862ab35491da66e4
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-03-01 18:46:38
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,701 |
I think it kind of comes from the fact that most people can appreciate a cute animal, but that when you have a child there are a lot of hormones and whatnot helping you to bond with him/her and think it is the best thing in the world (not to say your feelings are any less real, or that your child is not cute or anything like that). Though why people get super annoyed about it seems a tad unreasonable to me.
Also, I haven't seen all of the posts of the "As a mother" meme, but I think it's not against ALL mothers, it's about when a mother uses the fact that they are one in a situation when it isn't relevant, as if it makes their opinion more valuable for just that reason. (The difference between "As a mother, I think that [something actually about children or family etc]" and "As a mother, [unrelated topic without any tie-in to show how this life experience helps them understand things better]". Obviously, I could be very wrong, but I *hope* it's not just being annoyed at mothers in general. Everyone needs a good mother; they're great. :]
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b84ac64f7d0a4eba903b7457a8157703
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-05-04 15:34:15
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,702 |
I was a Tree Planter. For anyone who doesn't know about this field of work, it is one of the most brutal and demanding jobs that I have ever had to do.
You start your day off by getting up at around three in the morning, get yourself to the meet up spot and then you will travel by van (the thirteen passenger shuttles, only these are modified to fit a total of 10 passengers) for anywhere from 45 minutes to 2 hours into the woods. When you arrive, strap on your gear and start planting for 8-9 hours. You also get paid by the tree, so taking breaks mid-day is not recommended if you want to make good money. Not to mention the bugs, oh god, the bugs.
Tl;Dr - Tree Planter
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a5a9b67f9de54722a3e11f685c0cb820
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2014-03-25 16:58:14
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,703 |
USA here. This is for k-12.
- Get rid of zero-tolerance. It is not in any way representative of how the "real world" works, and it teaches kids not to stand up for themselves and be silent when someone is bullying or otherwise targeting them.
- Leave the school lunches alone, but make PE/gym required every year. My mom works at the HS I went to, and the menu is basically 90% vegetarian now. Anything cooked has to be baked, can't be fried, no snacks of any sort except those veggie straw things, no soda, no milk, only juice or water for drinks. It's ridiculous to me. As most people say, it's never easier to lose weight than when you're young, and I honestly believe exposing kids to unhealthy food early on and allowing them to see how easy weight/fat gain is could be good for them. Combine that with the social pressure in high school and a good, required PE program, and I think it will set kids up for better health habits than hiding all of the bad food from them and not allowing them to learn how it works, so they graduate and instantly balloon up. My HS (graduated six years ago) had a cafeteria full of greasy food, but also a really good health class system that taught how calories and fat work, and a good PE program, but the latter was only required for the first two years. We had almost zero obese kids, and those that were had been big pretty much their entire lives.
- Have a mandatory retirement age for all teachers and administration. It would help make room for new grads who will both have more fire and energy, and be more relatable to students. It might also help to weed out the old teachers who've grown bitter. My HS had an old, grumpy prick teacher who openly admitted that he hated kids, and would insult and belittle students who weren't grasping the topics. Guess what he taught? The absolute lowest-level math classes, pretty much ground zero for kids who are going to have trouble with the material and need a lot of help. That was like putting a hunter in a room full of wounded deer. As a side note, apparently teachers who are in unions hated the older ones with super-seniority, because it unevenly influences the actions of the union in their favor. We had one teacher who'd been there over 40 years, and all of the other teachers hated the guy because he could pull seniority and tenure and get whatever he wanted done, no matter how unpopular.
- Better sex education. If sex ed in Europe is really like how it is in Michael Moore's "Where to Invade Next," that is what we need. Schools seem to be in denial that teenagers are banging, and that's silly. Especially in a small town like mine where there was nothing to do, we all just hooked up and messed with drugs. Teach about contraception, and make it modern and accessible. Nobody uses female condoms FFS. Don't just teach about how dangerous STDs are, teach kids how to be comfortable getting tested if they have concerns. Sex is one of the few completely natural things we've got left in this day and age, it's a concept that needs to be respected and taught honestly.
- Better personal finance classes. My school opened one personal finance class my senior year, and only seniors were allowed to take it, which I did, and it was seriously the most beneficial class I took my entire HS career. We learned different types of common tax forms, how to balance a checkbook, we did a long assignment using a fake stock market, and learned about many different types of debt and how they work, including how factors like marriage and death affect who is responsible for them. I can't emphasize enough how great that class was, and things like that need to be available everywhere.
- REAL home economics. Our home ec classes taught us useful stuff like how to use ovens and stovetops, but we also wasted so much time doing things like learning sewing machines. Instead of that, teach kids how to do useful household things. How to clean different areas of a home effectively, simple maintenance things, identifying problems like leaking pipes, shorted power outlets and light sockets, or structural issues and what causes them, stuff that could be useful in everyday life, and that most of us will encounter at one point.
- Real-life ethics. Teach kids the truth about the society we live in. How "life isn't fair," how people with more money have more opportunities, about how things like race and gender affect opportunity, and how those things came to be in our society. Use numbers and figures to show what an "average" life is supposed to be in the USA in terms of how much money you need to make, what pitfalls to avoid, and teach the most common ways people become self-sufficient and successful.
- Drug education. This is a big one for me, and I have some fairly radical views on it, so my approach isn't necessarily the best. Don't teach kids simply to hate all drugs and hate people who use them. If that's the case, how can you explain all of the people currently benefitting from marijuana, the strides being made in medical benefits of ketamine (as an anti-depressant) and LSD (for treating headache disorders,) or people like Halstead, Gates, Jobs, and all of the writers, musicians, artists and athletes who used drugs and made huge contributions to society and culture? Teach what drugs do, be realistic about use vs. abuse, and how addiction works. Also, a crash-course on drug laws and the effects of conviction for various things wouldn't hurt, because people can use drugs and be amazing people, but they're still another statistic on paper and another body in a cell as far as the law is concerned.
There are plenty more, like teaching modern politics (in an unbiased way,) and nobody will ever get enough funding for this much change, let alone implement changes like these if they DID get enough money, but this is what i'd like to see in the future. Truly educated people who walk out of school having a real understanding of the world around them, and how/why it works like it does. Passing a standardized test is so unimportant compared to teaching kids how to be adults, and how to be functioning humans who have the tools to do great things in society.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2016-09-30 15:27:53
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,704 |
Obviously the oceans are much larger than the lakes, but I think people often underestimate the power and size of the lakes. They hold so much water that they easily cover the rest of the country in a couple feet of water, nearly a quarter of the world’s freshwater. They’re so big that you can leave shore heading for the other side and lose sight of all land before you get 1/20 of the way there. They're quite dangerous as well as there have been thousands of ship wrecks and tens of thousands deaths and waves can be as high as 40 feet. And if you wanted to drive around all 5 Great Lakes it would take longer than driving from Miami to Seattle and back.
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2a2f7af8b3084b1dbc02135e9ea98843
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-06-17 15:37:32
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,705 |
> And then if you're a real nerd you can get into proofs of why advantage (roll 2d20 and take the higher number) averages out to being equal to +5.
Doesn't it only average out to being a 3.325 bonus?
1/20 chance of getting any number, followed by 1/20 chance of getting any other number. The bonus is 0 if the second number is equal to or lower than the first so for the number 1, the average advantage would be:
- 1/20 (the chance of rolling 1) * 1/20 (the chance of rolling any other number) * (1 + 2 + 3.... + 18 + 19) = 190/400 = 19/40.
Repeat this for every other number
- 2 - 171/400
- 3 - 153/400
- 4 - 136/400
- 5 - 120/400
- 6 - 105/400
- 7 - 91/400
- 8 - 78/400
- 9 - 66/400
- 10 - 55/400
- 11 - 45/400
- 12 - 36/400
- 13 - 28/400
- 14 - 21/400
- 15 - 15/400
- 16 - 10/400
- 17 - 6/400
- 18 - 3/400
- 19 - 1/400
- 20 - 0/400
Add them all together and you get 1330/400 = 3.325.
Now of course, you could factor in that a 20 is a critical hit, which effectively means that with advantage you'll be doing 4.475% (From 5% to get a critical to 9.975%) more damage because of the increased chance of criticals. However, even if you multiply the bonus by 1.09975 to accomodate for this increased chance, you're still only ending up at a **3.65666875** bonus.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-12-07 02:58:18
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,706 |
Okay...as a, "suicide," it just barely qualifies, but basically it's like this:
1) The owner knew that this fookin' thing would chase and bark at ANYTHING new in its environment. It could often bark all night long, and it ruined many a night for me this way. So, the neighbours gave it a long, LOOOOOOONG chain, so it could run all over the yard.
2) One day, all the barking just stopped.
3) As it turns out, there is a drop-off, at the end of the property. Aaaaaand the dog went right off it, chasing something. In retrospect, it was only matter of time before it happened. The owner found his dog had hanged himself.
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e56fef41e7bd4c3d98e9be816f76f337
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2017-07-03 02:29:44
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,707 |
Note: The following will be hard to read. I know, understand, and empathize with that.
Wait, you didn't say any of that? Well, you did.
This woman made a mistake, a big one. She chose to betray your trust, and confidence. After that, she decided to go on a self-destructive spiral. Then, she has the nerve, the audacity, the **GALL**, to re-insert herself into your life, and when the eventual, inevitable conclusion to that rolls around, she can't handle it. Rather than deal with the fact that some mistakes don't ever get fixed, don't ever get any better, and live with that like an adult, she decided to perform the most cowardly action she ever could, by taking her own life, without any regard for the effect it would have on the people around her.
She wants to ruin yours. Do you **HEAR** me? There are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. She took her life, knowing full well how it would harm you.
*I love you. Sorry.*
[Nope](http://24.media.tumblr.com/50681a805561cd8fd0e0391a9de24467/tumblr_menghmmr3I1qbvaf3o1_500.gif)
You already knew that. There was no need for that note, at least on the surface. So think about it? What was the purpose of that note? **REVENGE**. She wanted to **HURT** you. How dare you hold her accountable for her actions. She'll show you. She'll show you what pain is.
She wants to destroy yours. You can let her, or you can decide **FUCK THAT**. Do you want to surrender it to someone who quite obviously didn't love you?
**Oh yeah, I went there.**
She never loved you. She wanted to control you, to own you. She wanted to hold you down, and keep you, regardless of your feelings on the matter. When that didn't work, she took the most drastic action she could, in hopes of controlling you forever.
**ARE YOU GOING TO LET HER?**
TL;DR: **FUCK BITCHES, ACQUIRE HAPPINESS**
Source: My girlfriend of 4 years, cheated on me with my best friend in year 3. In year 4, I sat across from her, sitting on the floor, while she wielded a butcher knife in the bathtub. I talked her down, coaxed her out of the bathtub, and calmed her down. Two days later, I told her our relationship was over, that no relationship recovers from one partner attempting to inflict that level of harm on the other. Less than 12 hours after our relationship ended, she hooked up with the best friend she cheated on me with, got pregnant, and got married, and you know what?
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-12-17 14:38:53
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,708 |
[Serious] Hey reddit, why are you poor?
Redditors who are below the poverty line, why? I'm tired of the political narrative that blames the poor and poverty stricken with accusations of laziness and addiction. I know that health issues and related medical bills are a huge cause, but for the rest of you who suffer, what caused it?
I'm also tired of politicians who have no experience dealing with something (teaching, science, poverty, etc) legislating 'solutions' to these problems while those who know the effects are left with the voice of a mouse, so as a follow-up, what improvements to the law do you think would improve your situation personally?
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3nx69z
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2015-10-08 02:19:59
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,709 |
What are some real predictions for the next 20 years?
Hey askreddit, I was reading [this](http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/wbo1h/what_are_some_of_your_bold_predictions_for_the/) post asking what our bold predictions are for the next 10 years.
And we really messed that one up. Emma Stone [tits](http://www.instylemag.com.au/e2Shop/Uploads/5956/Emma-Stone-SM-Burberryi-June15_OPENER400x600.jpg) (or lack of) and Gillette-50-bladed razors aside, what are some *real* predictions that futurologists would make for the next 20 years?
The implications of Google's project Glass are profound, but will it go mainstream? What about cloud computing, volumetric 3d screens, personal gene sequencing, graphene, non-rocket spacelaunch, deep connect, machine vision, powered exoskeletons, holography, vertical farming, a lunar colony, enernet, and interplanetary internet?
To start us off, [here](http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/8/89/Envisioning_emerging_technology_for_2012_and_beyond.png) is the coolest image about predictions I have ever seen. And I found it on /r/Futurology , a new sub *for* our predictions, 10 years, 20 years, and 30 years out- to infinity and beyond.
So, learn'd Futurists, what are your real predictions for the next 20 years?
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wcwdv
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-07-11 00:25:55
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,710 |
Bullying is never right. It’s really sad especially since it’s usually insecure people being mean to other insecure and probably socially awkward people. I would say that it’s like a coin. One side is the bully: insecure about something but confident enough that they think they can hurt others without too harsh of consequences. The other side is the victim: insecure but less confident and less likely to speak up when the bullying happens because they’re scared they might get bullied worse.
Also I think shy people and autistic people are different although an autistic person could be shy not every shy person is autistic.
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c78571d49d8f408b81e6a832dc421074
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-07-30 06:00:48
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,711 |
Once I was talking to this girl while walking her to her room, when we got there we continued talking for a little while and she invited me in. It was 2AM when this was happening. After talking in her dorm room for a little while she eventually was jokingly telling me where I could sit. She then lay down on the bed. What did I say? I said, "Nah I'm good here thanks." Perfect logic.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2013-08-11 01:25:37
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,712 |
A teacher I was helping to set up a TV when I was in college said that our generation was very lazy and that we spent way too much time watching YouTube. I said -if you don't mind me asking, what is this TV on your office for?- she responded -so I don't miss my soap opera on work hours-... I laughed internally , not just because of the hypocrisy, but because it didn't had an antenna, nor any other TVs. These were for educational purposes only. Also the reception was horrible in that building, it seemed like a Faraday cage.
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dbbcf72e0ef54d30a05bdbd002592130
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-04-03 05:54:00
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,713 |
2 fights, 2 broken noses....
**1)** In Thailand I was fairly intoxicated at a professional kickboxing event, and took the obvious decision to get in the ring and demand a fight (bare in mind I have NO fighting experience whatsoever at this point). Long story short, I drunkenly windmilled, tried a few kicks which resulted in me falling over, and eventually the 5'4 thai bloke decided to try and knocked me clean out. My next memory is waking up the next morning with a broken nose
**2)** My uni friend with little man syndrome got in a fight at a club, I pushed someone away then a random person whi I didn't think was involved punched me in the side of the head. I turned around to politely ask "what the fuck?!?!?!?" but before I could he punched me square on in the nose, breaking it again. The best part is that I got kicked out the club and he didn't......
TL:DR - if you ever fight me, just hit me in the nose
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d7715e586b3341b393f3b01a5495967c
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-06-19 01:45:43
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,714 |
Yeah, it is just personal experience. The last job I left, I supervised a female that spent most of her time on her cell phone. She even broke into the office to get it back to text after it was taken from her during her shift. When I left, she took my position. I spoke to her last week and she complained about everything she had to do (which is the same things I had to do in the position) and said she was going to demand a raise or else. She made more than me when she was under me, got a raise when she took my position, and now wants even more.
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3d7d6c53f4984065ae55afb163e30ac4
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-05-19 13:03:06
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,715 |
I'm sure this wont get many views but I had a neighbor who would beat his wife. He was beating her one morning and woke most of the building up. I still remember hearing her scream while their baby cried and he yelled over them both.
A week later I saw him outside pushing her around while she was holding her kid. I was about to go to work but I drove around and asked if she needed help. She said yes and I got out and in between them and told her to go.
He started getting in my face and I snapped and hit him. I'm a pretty big guy and had no trouble with him but I'm sure he was high. After a while I deadlocked him and he realized how much he was bleeding. I let him go if he agreed we were done.
The next night he saw me come home. I was just running downstairs for my wallet and when I came back up he was walking towards me with his hand in his pocket. He tried to get me to swing first but I didnt. After a while he was losing his nerve and once he started to back off I only said one word, I yelled 'pussy, and he charged at me. He pulled a box cutter, slashed a couple of fingers deep and got my side a bit. But I beat him to a pulp. Held him up by his shirt, crushed his hand till he dropped the cutter, started hitting him and turned half his face purple.
After that he stayed away from me and I never heard him hitting her again. He also got a warrant for aggrovated assault.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-07-07 16:48:05
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What is your stance on Breastfeeding in public?
I just finished a Primtime episode with the focus of "What would you do?" One of the scenarios that were acted out was public breastfeeding. They set up actors in restaurants who began breastfeeding their babies and some people absolutely went apeshit! What would you think/do if you saw a woman do this in a restaurant breastfeeding her baby?
tl;dr: If a woman was breastfeeding her baby in a restaurant what would you think/do?
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dfhia
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2010-09-18 02:31:06
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Dolma_Reddit
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Silent Hill 2, there was two moments that got to me.
The first was after defeating the bed creature, and that woman in the room, I don't remember her name, she's losing it and saying stuff like "momma always said I deserved it". That was brutal.
The second (spoiler alert) is after James watches the video of himself killing his wife. His reaction, coupled with that of the little girl's, was just heartbreaking.
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4e3d762149d04c96b9837377bbf0d8b8
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2015-03-14 00:01:40
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Dolma_Reddit
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If you can’t be alone and love yourself, you are not ready to be with someone else. Knowing yourself is crucial to knowing someone else.
You can’t communicate what you want if you don’t know what is best for yourself. You can’t figure out where you want this to go if you don’t know where you are currently.
Love yourself wholly and fully and you’ll be ready to love someone else.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-02-13 06:12:26
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Dolma_Reddit
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I started treating myself like I was worthless and hooking up with guys, smoking a lot, took up vaping as well and drinking/partying. Just I've changed a lot since I was younger and I miss my younger self so much because now I'm self destructive and like I just feel that I'm disappointing my parents and everyone around me. I've just been taken over I feel like, and that's caused me to make lots of poor decisions that get me in trouble. I used to never ever get in trouble.
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36be32a39ca9405a8c4d71e86644118e
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-02-01 18:47:10
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Dolma_Reddit
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How does this internet scam work? [potential victim]
Alright so I've become involved in what is most likely a scam.... I just don't understand the scam part.
So I applied for a remote accounting job online. I went through a 2 hour interview process over Yahoo messenger. Their corporate website looked pretty legit. After the usual job related questions and requirements the conversation started getting strange....
First I was called by the "accounts dept" to confirm my info and it was clearly someone from Asia on what sounded like a cell phone on the beach. Their number came up as "UNAVAILABLE". Their internet connection kept dropping on Yahoo Messenger. Then all of a sudden we're talking about having to buy "equipment" which they couldn't answer specifically what equipment I was to buy. After being told I'd buy the equipment locally I was then told I'd be getting a check in the mail but I'd have to use the funds to buy from their specific vendor....
At this point it smelled very fishy so I called them out and told them that I was reporting them to the online job website for violations.
This was a few days ago but this morning I got a check for $2,580 overnighted to me from California with a strange letter including the phrases "disregard any messages informing you that the payment manager has resigned or left the payment division".
I haven't gotten any other calls from the strange number and this check looks suspicious to say the least. So what's the scam here? My guess was they're either trying to get my bank account info (which doesn't really seem that useful - a voided check would have given them the same info) or perhaps they were trying to get me to buy some software that would steal all of the data from my computer and/or turn it into a zombie.
Thoughts? And should I try cash this check at Amscot lol
EDIT: the FedEx overnighted information is for a completely different company than the one I applied at....
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1oi3d6
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2013-10-15 14:26:24
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,721 |
Let's be honest here. If it was a decent business, you wouldn't be doing walk-ins where there was a guy readily available to undercut/outbid you. That guy would be shown the door immediately.
I don't know how many pawn shops you've been in, but they are anything but righteous as your post makes them sound. These are seedy little fuckers who prey on people who need instant cash. $1,000 diamond ring? I'll give you $50 for it. They take advantage of someone in a tight place, and usually turn items on a 2-300% profit.
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817b017bc88c4fa39e33527ed4bc8503
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2012-08-04 02:27:55
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,722 |
I have a dwarf friend (his preferred term) that pointed out that there are no such thing as midgets any more. He elaborated that the condition that lead to "midgets" isn't the same as the condition that leads to "dwarfism" and that the condition that lead to "midgets" has been either cured or otherwise prevented to the point that there are no living "midgets" left in the world.
He did successfully convince me that there are people who suffer from dwarfism that are actually above average in height.
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ee092e56bd8e43b5aeb62751b84ade2f
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2018-06-19 15:03:41
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,723 |
If you were in a fight and you knocked your attacker on the ground, would you give him a chance to stand back up?
Many people say it is honorable or "manly" to let the person on the floor get back on his feet before you throw another punch. If someone hit me and I got him on the floor, I would beat the shit of them senseless without giving them any chance for recovery, because that would only mean less of an advantage for me as well as more injuries.
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1qr2yr
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2013-11-16 09:05:04
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,724 |
No one’s saying gender is a choice. Women don’t choose to be women, trans people don’t choose to be trans. A trans woman is a woman, who transitions to more outwardly fit the gender she is for her own happiness. That’s not her “choosing” to become a woman when she wouldn’t be otherwise, if that makes sense. I’m a trans man, and while I’m transitioning that’s not me choosing my gender. I’m just a man, and unfortunately I need to take steps to look how will make me feel more happy and comfortable in myself. That’s all.
Gender dysphoria and not looking the way you desperately want to is agonising - no one who understands trans people would ever imply women should just have “chosen” to be men when they’re not to escape anything.
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a5b7c180ff5d4562963d33d940c49217
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2023-02-02 08:10:39
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,725 |
Oh goodness gracious. A parent losing a child is unimaginable. So very sorry for the loss of your son.
However, I'm glad to hear your perspective as it really does make the most sense in an almost senseless time, and also respects and honours your son and the person he was.
My thought is that those who die never really leave us. Their words, their laughter, their expressions... all show up, unconsciously woven into the moments of our day. We live on, and they come along with us.
I see my ideas about self-awareness and compassion, now reflected in my son.
I hear words I've spoken as an echo of my mothers voice.
I heartily and hopefully believe that my son will pass down silver threads of me to his kids... so I will live on long after I'm gone.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2014-12-07 00:02:03
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Dolma_Reddit
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Oh this happened to me and my two best friends in the last few years. We are all women married to men that we love very much, but we've all recently come to terms with the fact that we are also attracted to women, and it's great. Christian purity culture had poisoned our way of thinking. It was very freeing to feel like I could think another woman was beautiful without comparing myself to her. I don't compare myself to hyper attractive men, I just appreciate them. Being able to do that with women allowed me to let go of that competitive/comparitive mindset and actually boosted my confidence. She gets to be beautiful, I get to be beautiful, and we all add more beauty to the world. Win-win.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2023-03-15 16:13:49
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,727 |
It's horrible since I have had to accept that there are just going to be things I randomly find out that I thought was normal was in fact not in conversations. It makes you want to hide yourself completely out of fear but even that becomes stifling.
Socializing now is a weird dance. New people only get information I have heard other "healthy" and "normal" people also talk about in their childhoods. Same for co-workers. Friends get some tested things but stuff that might still be iffy. Close friends get everything and will be honest with me if something is off. The problem is it makes socializing even more exhausting than I already find it but it is that or just never talking at all, which would drive me insane.
People only know what they experience or they learn, if they never learn something, they can't understand it.it can be hard to see that though when everyone you know, knows the same "things" and "ideas", it makes a person think that it must mean the person had to have had the same life but was just too dumb or oblivious to understand the lesson.
I was "lucky" in the fact that I got internet at a younger age so it helped me break free of a lot of the mental parts of the neglect. I still have a lot of blindspots I stumble upon though. I probably will for a long time. An embarrassing amount of them are self care since I was just left to my own care most of the time. My mom just loved to say how "independent" I was as a toddler. How I would do things for myself all of the time but I found myself doing that as a young child too even when I was horribly sick so I doubt it came from being "independent".
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573714e8ad2b484cbdd5b5de10709cb2
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2023-01-20 23:45:18
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,728 |
Worked at VS back in 2011 during the holidays, so there were plenty of clueless men coming into the store to shop for their significant others.
Clueless in terms of the lingerie and clothing, not the makeup, sprays etc... Maybe 3 people I ever encountered knew their significant others size. In order to help them, I would tell them my measurements. Specifically, my bra size, my underwear sizes (because I'm a small for anything that doesn't cover the cheeks, but a medium for anything that does cover the cheeks), top size and basic bottom sizes (again different depending on the fit of the pant)
A guy I'd say about 25 comes in with his family to help assist in picking out a gift for his girlfriend. I asked if he knew her sizes and he said no. I asked if he'd like my measurements as an example to which he and his mother said that would be very helpful.
After inspecting my body (which I was numb to, because I always offered this) he said, "I don't think you two measure up the same, but based on what I see I'd like to exchange her for you. What's your exchange policy?"
His mom was looking on in terror and his brothers and dad were trying to ignore what just happened, but brothers had a little smirk as if this is totally in character. I told him there was assistance in each room and to ask them for help if he needed any.
I found that guys like their space and after I gave them my measurements they had a much better idea of what to look for and even which questions to ask. They just tried to get in and out, most would put the bag they're given in a bag they already had (Bass Pro).
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0ac9c1a77d204ca7994cde9b0ee45408
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2016-12-07 18:28:15
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,729 |
There's this book series by Gordon Korman about teenagers climbing Everest called, well, "Everest." I milked that series for book reports throughout elementary school, and I was kind of obsessed with learning about tall mountains for a while. However, it was almost something way cringier - the first time I used it was for a game, and I was an edgy ~10 year old and wanted to use "Everestkiller." Luckily for everyone involved there was a 10 character limit for usernames so I could only fit "Everestkil." Replaced the L with a D, noticed it made perfect sense, and voila.
I'm 22 at this point so it's a little odd to keep using it - Reddit's really the only place I still use this username instead of my "adult" one, Yeldren. I came up with that by writing random nonsense words down and picking one that looked cool. I've been told it sounds like a name for a dark elf. Honourable mentions go to Stetrant, Stevallant and Stezarkant, all of which were dumped because they sounded more like adjectives than names.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-12-09 01:08:42
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,730 |
I was dashing in a pretty sketchy neighborhood and they chose "hand food to customer" instead of leave @ door, so when I brought the food to the door I knocked and heard someone say "who tf is that?" And someone peeked out the blinds so im just like 😳 and they open the door like 2 inches, looked hella confused like they didn't just order food, realized I'm delivering them food and instead of saying "oh you can leave it right there" they decide to grab the bag of food and cram it through less than half a foot of doorspace, bc they couldn't open their door for some reason, I peeked in the back and saw some dude at a table with one of those big triple beam scales and when I got back to my car I was like "welp, I think I just delivered to my first trap house😃"
Then there was a time when some lady straight up tried taking my red bag, im like "sorry ma'am, I need this for other orders" and she's like "oh... ok" I realized later that's how it is in the commercials so that's where she probably caught the confusion 😂
Besides that, I've had some people fall asleep when I've tried ordering their food (this was before they told you to leave it and DD said you could just keep it if you can't contact them before dashers abused that) like how tf are you gonna order food and just pass out? I'd be checking the app updates every 2 minutes till I'm munching out lol so I knock, ring, text, call, call support to call them, and nothing. For like 30 minutes too. To be clear dasher support said I can either keep it or dispose of it (again, this was a few years ago) so I've gotten some free meals that way, or I'd offer it to the first homeless person I'd see. And on numerous occasions it felt real wholesome that a warm meal probably made their night. Often times when im already on my next order like an hour after I've left they or support will contact me like "WHERES THE FOOD" trying to get me to go back when I already started eating it or gave it away lmao. Shouldve been there the 30+ minutes I was sitting outside, trying to contact you numerous ways, countless times.. at this point get a refund, shit would be cold af and soggy by now anyways lol but thx for the food for wasting my time and making me miss other orders 🙄
I've gotten plenty of stoners, sometimes paranoid about answering the door, which is kinda funny bc I feel that deeply, and get hit with the bomb stench of dank as soon as they open the door lol I've had naked people, or ppl in their underwear (usually drunk) partners delivering food to their partner after a fight which has been awkward sometimes, but sometimes wholesome.
You'd think they'd tip decent, for driving >30 minutes out of your way into the mountains, through their big ass modern gate, going up their half mile long driveway to their mansion with numerous $90k+ cars in the driveway just to have to drive >30 minutes back into town near restaurants to be able able accept orders, all while you have no phone service for half the trip.. but nope. Never. Haven't gotten more than a $2 tip out of the couple dozen deliveries I've done thinking "hey, maybe this time I'll get a decent tip!" I've learned to just decline them everytime now lol. I've had one person order a single burger from jack in the box and saw the $4 pay, 40 minute drive and just laughed. Like bruh decide wether you wanna take your rolls royce or Ferrari out for a cruise to pick up your own damn food bc this shits a waste of time, gas, and id be missing better paying and quicker orders 😂 I know my service is good, ive had people ask me for my # to deliver to them personally, and am very communicative about my progress and live ETA and overall on top of my game, So the problem ain't me lol
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2021-03-07 14:11:11
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Dolma_Reddit
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My wife's a pediatric OT and works with a lot of children, especially girls, who basically check all the boxes for ADHD, but so many parents just hem and haw or flat out refuse to get their kids tested. It's infuriating. So many people still see it as a stigma. They always say something like, "there's nothing wrong with them, they just need some extra time/attention." This is always followed by something like, "well, I don't want them to use it as a crutch" or "I don't want them to be stigmatized."
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52db32302ae44f4cafb917efe574d923
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2023-01-29 07:07:31
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,732 |
Being the family IT, I know every gathering I might have to at least answer one or two questions. _Most_ of my family have figured out that my down time is critical for my mental wellbeing, as IT can be extremely stressful.
The only one who didn't get it was my father. Every time I'd show up, he'd have absolutely fucked up his laptop to the point of death and he'd tell me to resurrect it again and again. One time I had to tell him it's dead and gone, so we drove to the nearest Best Buy (50 miles away) so I could pick out a new one for him.
Fine. I get it.
But the last straw was when I came down for 4th of July with my then-girlfriend that he'd never met. Instead of introducing himself or anyone else there, he pulled me to this old woman I'd never met and introduced me as the IT-son. This woman immediately started talking about her laptop, which was already open and on, and all the things wrong with it. She asked if I could take a look at it.
I said, "yep, looks like a laptop!" trying to nicely convey I didn't just drive 4.5 hours to be her Geek Squad. When she frustratedly pressed me to do something about it, I told her and everyone there that I came to be on vacation, not work more. My father pressed me, too. I told him the same. I didn't come here to work all weekend on random computers.
After a few hours of iciness from everyone, we left. I said I wasn't going to be shamed into working for free. Ever since then I refuse to work on anyone's stuff, no matter who.
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bb4e8883f9144d0dbd78108eaf34f6a1
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2020-11-18 22:59:23
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,733 |
> time is frozen and that the past exists only as an impression in our minds. Time is the speed which we transverse space so it's not really a separate dimension
This passage reminds me of a thought I've entertained now and then...
Sometimes i think of it as my consciousness (which exists, on one level, "above time") riding its way through a series of still frames.
I'm not really "animate," nor is anything else. But my consciousness traveling through these snapshots gives the illusion of action, as well as "cause and effect."
Like animation. Or better yet, a flip book. Look at any one page, it's just a still image. Flip the pages, and you get the illusion of motion.
Which, from a perspective *outside* of that consciousness, is actually illusory.
I may or may not have been on drugs when I conceived of this...
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12f7c1ef2c3a40e18c0b806f8fa7358b
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2019-09-16 07:12:33
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,734 |
I'm from and live in Belfast. I thought "No" was going to win pretty easily up until a few days ago, so I didn't pay much attention to the campaigns. But now that "Yes" has the momentum, it's hard not to get excited. I still can't help but think that No will win though.
I really don't think people have considered the Northern Ireland angle much. It could really shake things up here if it's a Yes - in a good way or a bad way. Especially seeing as full independence would be granted in 2016 if it's a Yes - the 100th anniversary of the Easter Rising. The 50th anniversary was arguably what started the Troubles here with the formation of the modern day UVF, Gusty Spence's murder gang etc.
So as a UK citizen with an Irish passport I hope it's a Yes but I also hope that if it is a Yes then things don't kick off here
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eefd03533a8e480b921912b4c828b3f8
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2014-09-08 22:47:20
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,735 |
I know that it was only fairly recently that gay people raising a kid was considered acceptable by society and that some aspects of society still have a problem with it. Considering this, I'm assuming that the majority of people who have gay parents today are at the most in their preteen or teen years and therefore old enough to answer questions on Reddit (but I don't know a whole lot of gay parents so feel free to prove me wrong). So anyway, are there special names for gay parents that differ from family to family? Because I can't imagine calling both parents dad or mom and calling one Dad #1 and Dad #2 seems robotic to me. I'm genuinely curious about this.
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2qgzjl
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2014-12-26 20:26:08
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Dolma_Reddit
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I was doing deep tissue massage on an older gentleman in his 50's who claimed he worked as a judge (forgot what kind.) I was telling him how painful emotions and stress can physically manifest as chronically tightened deep tissue, the usual schpiel to help people relax. When I got to the part about saying how releasing the stress and relaxing the muscle were identical procedures, he started crying. He told me that the severe tightness was due to being repeatedly molested as a child. He said he had hardly ever told anyone, and I didn't know what to say. I tried to comfort him but ended up not really saying anything about it besides 'well it's good to let things out.' or something to that effect.
He begged (well more repeatedly asked) me at the end of the session for a way to remember how to relax. He said he can't do it himself and didn't know if he could feel normal without someone else's help. I told him that wanting to relax is in itself the way that you end up relaxing, and that persistence and the knowledge of one's will was enough to get there. Didn't seem to be enough for him though.
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2011-06-26 21:18:26
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,737 |
Ah, English speakers do have trouble with that. You don't have the "u" sound in your language so it's difficult to explain. Listen to it on Google Translate, I guess, that's the best way to tell the difference.
As for the "ent" thing, it's only silent when it's a verb ending, I think. (Particularily, but not limited to, third plural person of the indicative present: ils mangent, ils lisent, etc. Also works for subjonctive present, maybe other modes, I'm too lazy to look it up or think about it for long enough to know).
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2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00
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2016-08-24 18:12:06
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Dolma_Reddit
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| 46,738 |
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