text: Title: stride asserts should name the operator involved
  Body: ``` 
  File "/packages/aps.ads.icvr/icvr_launcher#link-tree/torch/_inductor/output_code.py", line 460, in __call__
      return self.current_callable(inputs)
    File "/packages/aps.ads.icvr/icvr_launcher#link-tree/torch/_inductor/utils.py", line 2348, in run
      return model(new_inputs)
    File "/tmp/torchinductor_nobody/27/c2765fyur2v7aek4rc762oibztfzekpdgupovpfnad463vcqmrtj.py", line 205, in call
      assert_size_stride(primals_1, (768, 192), (192, 1))
  AssertionError: expected size 1024==768, stride 192==192 at dim=0
  This error most often comes from a incorrect fake (aka meta) kernel for a custom op.
  Use torch.library.opcheck to test your custom op.
  See https://pytorch.org/docs/stable/library.html#torch.library.opcheck
  ```
  pitch: we can probably pass the name of the operator to assert_size_stride.
  
  I have debugged 3 of these in the last week
  
  cc @ezyang @gchanan @kadeng @msaroufim @chauhang @penguinwu