Question: I have thought about this since a long time, and now I am ready for renunciation, accept teachings and practise Buddhism in a monastery. I told my parents about these future plans. They said they were disappointed in me & that I was running away from my responsibilities & will ruin their and my life if I follow this path.

Since they've made me the person I am today, I feel the need to ask for permission before I leave. They won't allow me.

What would be the best way to solve this, maybe a middle path?

Answer: 
The rule of requiring your parents' permission for ordination, even if you are an adult, comes from [this incident](http://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/buddhism/lifebuddha/24lbud.htm):

> 
> When King Suddhodana heard that his beloved grandson had become a monk
>  he was deeply grieved. The king said, "When you left home it made me
>  sad. When Nanda left home my heart ached. I concentrated my love on my
>  grandson and again the one I love has left me. Please do not ordain
>  anyone without their parent's permission." To this the Buddha agreed
>  and never ordained anybody after that without their parents'
>  permission.
> 
> 
> 

In any case, most monasteries would not allow you to ordain right away as a monk. See [here](https://bswa.org/our-locations/ordaining-as-a-monk/) for the ordination process of the Bodhinyana Monastery near Perth, Australia.

You have to first undertake the [eight precepts](https://www.accesstoinsight.org/ptf/dhamma/sila/atthasila.html) as an [anagarika](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anagarika) (a sort of a pre-monk) for some period of time (maybe a year), before undertaking the [ten precepts](https://www.accesstoinsight.org/ptf/dhamma/sila/dasasila.html), to become a novice monk ([samanera](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samanera)). Then some time later (maybe another year), you may be allowed to ordain as a full monk ([bhikkhu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bhikkhu)). The novice monk and full monk both wear similar robes, while the anagarika usually wears white clothes.

You don't need your parents' permission to become an anagarika and serve in a monastery. You can spend this time to experience a taste of the monastic life, to see if renunciation is what you really want to do, before making a final decision. Maybe you might not like it after experiencing it.

At some point, you would still have to get your parents' permission to ordain. For this, you need to convince them. In any case, you can remain an anagarika for an extended period of time.

I don't think you need your parents' permission to become a novice monk either. But they would probably be unhappy to see you in a novice monk's robes which is almost the same as a full monk's robes.

For more info, read [here](https://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/ariyesako/layguide.html#novice), [here](https://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/ariyesako/layguide.html#bhikkhu) and [here](https://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/buddhistworld/ordination1.htm).

Another point is, have you decided which tradition to join? Theravada, Mahayana, Tibetan, Zen etc.? Perhaps, there's more things to consider.
If your parents say ,"you have responsibilities" ,it's best to not leave them . Leaving will put a lot of burden over them. You too will remain tensed. 

If your parents say ,"No responsibilities ,still We won't allow asceticness " ,then you may try to live as Anagaarik in white robes and come to meet parents every once in a month or so & show them what you have learnt . 

But ,when you are ready & have strong urge to go for deep meditation in forest/hill & with NO Responsibility ,still parents are not ready ... NO ADVICE IN THIS SCENARIO ,cause your mother's or your father's tears might break you down during meditation in cave/forest. Only one thing can be said here that, ' Try to maintain contact with them'... but I know that during deep meditation there must be no contact with anyone because of Noble-Silence that's why ,NO ADVICE .

If you have responsibilities , you can either talk to in monastery/meditation-center that ," I wanna learn & earn too by serving here as per my talent/capability ".
 Talking to a teacher would be best. In this way ,you can support your parents & meditate/learn too. Talk to a teacher of nearest meditation centre/ monastery would be best for you & your parents.

Most important part is that you ,out of every-one , must remain happy & a best learner possible ,whatever the scenario you are facing.