Question: [Here are some antonyms for lonely](http://www.thesaurus.com/browse/lonely):

```
populated
sociable
befriended
close
frequented
inhabited
loved
unlonely

```

Basically, by lonely I mean someone who feels lonely even in a crowd. Such people are usually depressed. They feel happy if *anyone* gives them some positive attention.

These people want a man in their life and they actively seek mates. Whereas a person who is comfortable in her own skin won't have to go on looking elsewhere for attention and love since they are enough for themselves.

What should I say when I have to say I want someone who is ....?

Answer: 
It's hard to capture everything you want to say with a single word, but here is one suggestion:

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> [**self-confident**](http://www.wordnik.com/words/self-confident) (*adj.*) showing poise and confidence in your own worth
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You might be able to pinpoint what you're trying to say even more closely by pairing that with another adjective:

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> **[affable](http://www.wordnik.com/words/affable)** (*adj.*) easy and pleasant to speak to; approachable, courteous, sociable; receiving others kindly and conversing with them in a free and friendly manner.
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I think one who is seeking an "unlonely" person is looking for someone who is both *self-confident* and *affable*.
In dating speak, it's

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> sociable 
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In corporate speak, it's

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> a people person
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It's basically a person who is comfortable interacting with people and possibly crowds. Not necessarily an *extrovert*, but definitely not an *introvert*.