Please choose the correct ending to complete the given sentence: Food and Entertaining: [header] How to avoid saying harmful things when arguing with your spouse [title] Identify hostile remarks. [step] The worst thing you can do during an argument is to use hostile remarks. These are remarks that are intended to make your partner feel embarrassed, saddened, or humiliated.

Ending1: If your partner does this, then he or she will get to see the activity behind those comments and feel like he or she's being attacked. [substeps] When you confront your partner about the comments, try to not just remove yourself from the conversation and say " no " without thinking about something you might say later. Ending2: If your partner is stringing you along, they are most likely trying to get an emotional response from you, and you may feel like telling him to back off immediately. [substeps] Instead, identify the offending comment from your partner. Ending3: During an argument, you may make these types of remarks without even realizing that they are hostile and damaging to your relationship. [substeps] There are six common types of hostile remarks: character assassinations, threats of abandonment, threats of exile, invalidations, challenges, and preaching. Ending4: Worst of all, any hostile comment will start a debate. [substeps] Avoid saying mean or degrading remarks.

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