problems friends struggling suicidal thoughtsposting behalf friend friction within group friends particularly two members ill refer b sake semianonymity making little easier write b close friend me practically older brother boyfriend almost five years now theyre near dear heart ive trying mediate whenever problems arise things escalated point longer capable own however leave situation truly fear things continue worsen want either suffer it so hoping could get input unbiased third party exactly done here give background main parties involved b part social circle coming year now less one person here none us think differently im sure difference length times weve known exacerbating problems joined us invitation a right heels leaving latest abusive friend group string hes through usual terrible cocktail depression anxiety top abuse along autistic recently come trans also somewhere spectrum also trans also survivor pretty severe abuse struggles anger issues top depression anxiety b therapist tried getting medication tried seek means fulfilling needs attempting seek therapy recently started medication problems were dealing with start find pressing matter b fairly frequently stressed suicidal deals seeking reassurance friends hes much extrovert needs regular interactions multiple people hes close order recharge top due anxiety past abuse hard time remembering people care hes middle breakdown needs reassured explicitly still cared hes badly also frequently stressed suicidal along extreme end introverted deals feelings come avoiding stressful situations course friend saying want die pretty stressful situation particularly as abusive ex used weaponize selfharm redflag threats and fully believe trust b intentions manipulative merely expressing feelings try help rather keep bottled up trauma necessarily see difference able discuss matters much b home life stressful enough quite time energy handling external negativity heavy conversation hes expressed feels like everything tries help winds making things worse like good enough b like hes everything wrong eyes hes begun defaulting silence rather forcing deal situations know handle energy try course unfortunately directly conflicts bs need people talk reassure hes breaking down leaves b feeling like actually care him compounding recently everyone vastly busy school work stuff past much talking going group chats used result save b one recent member know well cant speak habits of group much used communications exclusively public channels simply contact oneonone sort regular basis friendships work b needs interaction that specifically directed interaction that fact im one recently taking time personally message check taking great toll him think entirely reasonable b ask rest group make effort reach rather contact first every single time think much ask people accommodate small change interactions avoid hurting someone care about seems like single message caring daily would fairly simple integrate schedules would go long way towards helping b however b also said multiple occasions recently worn think anything talk besides bad hes feeling personal experience ive heard others someone messages generally wants talk further think wrong people worried initiating conversation believe going go territory uncomfortable simply spoons handle even so still think fair solution seems simply talking b all previously mentioned struggles anger issues led snapping b handful times before one particularly bad incident recently ended blocking b platforms share made postsspoke people venting situation posts b later saw reconciled days later b still feeling hurt incident feel like sufficiently addressed made for addition times b snapped another friend struggles similar anger issues left feeling hesitant speak them even talk group setting theyre around exacerbates care issue seems led vicious cycle withdraws feel trusted hurts him b feels like care needs explicit reassurance keep hurt himself feels less trusted hurt cycle continues thought would time work everything relevant situation write bs moved actively suicidal whole reason im writing im worn enough think im able help much longer want see die failures hope ive provided enough background already helpful tldr one friend needs frequent reassurance attention frequent breakdowns another friend cares first cannot deal kind stress theyre hurting badly