struggles selfesteem reaching helpfirstly know post right place forgive me also want sound like kind dude complains able get girlfriend im going sake clearing mind im    lbs attractive whole body region however physical appearance altered vigorous work hardcore determination both things  motivation do focus post selfesteem know low selfesteem depression different things one lead other now lot posts ive reading subreddit people seem say showing low selfesteem huge turn women question is change view feel pathetic hopeless already ive trying wrap head around long time like couple years ive hated long something needs change really want change appearance mental health hopefully gain love wonderful woman someday also love myself however find extremely difficult improve physical mental health im looking guidance advice thanks read