closeted transgirl conservative grandfather well parents opening social transition comming weeks buying new clothes comming school today parents surprised random visit grandfather girlfriend like usual started asking things like life going keeps referring male sometimes even asks my girlfriend he gets meet her well parents know actually open this conservative man begin trouble mixed race why like chocolate grows from one statements that back subject interact older relatives time parents cousins avoid grandfather aunts uncles go never birthday parties dare real self there problem grandfather fragile old man know girlfriend going visit us surprise since dead ignored like five years cant hold back situation