redflag unemployed person often completely reasonable people insisting making even angrieri cant get job any job constant rejection sends clear message me worthy income allowing eat pay rent deal health issues worthy basic necessities life redflag completely reasonable choice less convenient clean up im always told give keep pushing gets better people give advice freely never chance make income support myself society egging on keep telling im good enough cruel im worthy food shelter healthcare fine  death natural consequence things considered extreme take life considered useless deserve live