sister lawhey all call jane love sister im deeply concerned well versed say talking redflag issues past issues one reasons im concerned jane recently attempted redflag believe mentally abusive relationship man truly liked lot learned treats her drinking problems drink thats abuse starts ive witnessed snippets type abuse name calling belittling tone according sister law guy also used redflag attempts arguments get best thing would get away him lives  hours immediate family job due covid another problem being dont think accept help eldest  sisters wouldnt want reveal things would make feel vulnerable idea want stop anything ive there attempt redflag mind matter if matter when time running worried dont want say something cause harm internet resources tell get help different redflag prevention places person doesnt want help know want help accepting help im afraid cant wait want help please help importantly help jane