need know helpmy girlfriend battling depression self harming habits months now attempted redflag once admitted hospital problems there optimism rises gets seems drain away struggling find enjoyment things does fact feel like much anything helping drags further best supportive needs me ill suggest things might try people talk to lot time feels like im saying anything useful im terrified thought losing her want anything help get better feel like im learning anything problems im confused help her need know help get back feet motivated again something lift depressed mind set