explain or to say sorry). Attachment style Behaviour What it means to the What might you do? child Avoidant (I’m okay, Sulkiness and avoids I don’t dare see what Emotion coaching – you’re not okay) eye contact others think. I have no out loud what words to describe my emotions the child feelings looking may be experiencing. – sulky is a cover up. Build relationship by I am a failure. I hate engaging through the task. myself. I am scared. Opportunities for building trust with an adult. Allowing relative dependency with fun activities where the child has to follow the lead of the adult. Attachment style Behaviour What it means to the What you do? child Avoidant (I’m okay, Want to do tasks I see relationships as Build relationships you’re not okay) autonomously, and dangerous and and build this through dislikes teacher intrusive. I am not the task, allowing the proximity or input. worth much, if young person to have anything at all. I must a locus of control, plus not tell anyone how I peer marking and feel. Allowing relative dependency with fun activities the child has to follow the lead of the adult. Attachment style Behaviour What this means for What might you do? the child Ambivalent (I’m not Labelled manipulative activities and role I tell lies because okay, you’re okay) and may become sometimes I don’t play different social isolated from peers. know what is real and situations. what isn’t. I have to Circle of Friends. protect myself by any Accept that the child means, I am always may not know why fearful. they said what they did and they might not remember what happened. Attachment Behaviour What this means for What you do? the child
explain or to say sorry). Attachment style Behaviour What it means to the child What might you do? Avoidant (I’m okay, you’re not okay) Sulkiness and avoids eye contact I don’t dare see what others think. I have no words to describe my feelings – looking sulky is a cover up. I am a failure. I hate myself. I am scared. Emotion coaching – out loud what emotions the child may be experiencing. Build relationship by engaging through the task. Opportunities for building trust with an adult. Allowing relative dependency with fun activities where the child has to follow the lead of the adult. Attachment style Behaviour What it means to the child What you do? Avoidant (I’m okay, you’re not okay) Want to do tasks autonomously, and dislikes teacher proximity or input. I see relationships as dangerous and intrusive. I am not worth much, if anything at all. I must not tell anyone how I feel. Build relationships and build this through the task, allowing the young person to have a locus of control, plus peer marking and Allowing relative dependency with fun activities the child has to follow the lead of the adult. Attachment style Behaviour What this means for the child What might you do? Ambivalent (I’m not okay, you’re okay) Labelled manipulative and may become isolated from peers. I tell lies because sometimes I don’t know what is real and what isn’t. I have to protect myself by any means, I am always fearful. activities and role play different social situations. Circle of Friends. Accept that the child may not know why they said what they did and they might not remember what happened. Attachment Behaviour What this means for the child What you do?
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