Haely: I was playing Kristen in that scene. We’re also warming here. We’re still getting to know each other. Mehow: So that’s like a little one where you’re like, now he’s “Okay thinking slightly sexually about me,” and now you have a choice -- you can escalate that… Haely: Right. Mehow: Or you can sort of shut it down and the thing that guys have got to understand is that it already worked if you’re just cool with it. If you’ve accepted it and you didn’t freak out, we’re good. Haely: Yeah, he’s in. Mehow: Right, because now you’re like, he said something a “Okay little edgy and it was a little sexual and I’m not freaking out so part of me is accepting this,” right? Haely: Exactly Mehow: So that’s a really simple, you know, phrase you can pretty much use anytime she gives you a compliment. Haely: I like that. Interesting. Marni: Haely: Nice. Marni: Okay. And so when do guys become creepy? I know ‘Cause when guys become creepy, but I can’t really pinpoint what it is. I know that if I’m talking to a guy and right away it goes to overt sexuality, I’m just like, where is this coming from? I feel uncomfortable.” “Wait Well usually it happens when you’re unconsciously IOD-ing Mehow: him, so you’re like kind of looking away… Haely: Sorry, IOD?
Haely: I was playing Kristen in that scene. We’re also warming here. We’re still getting to know each other. Mehow: So that’s like a little one where you’re like, “Okay now he’s thinking slightly sexually about me,” and now you have a choice -- you can escalate that… Haely: Right. Mehow: Or you can sort of shut it down and the thing that guys have got to understand is that it already worked if you’re just cool with it. If you’ve accepted it and you didn’t freak out, we’re good. Haely: Yeah, he’s in. Mehow: Right, because now you’re like, “Okay he said something a little edgy and it was a little sexual and I’m not freaking out so part of me is accepting this,” right? Haely: Exactly Mehow: So that’s a really simple, you know, phrase you can pretty much use anytime she gives you a compliment. Haely: I like that. Marni: Interesting. Haely: Nice. Marni: Okay. And so when do guys become creepy? ‘Cause I know when guys become creepy, but I can’t really pinpoint what it is. I know that if I’m talking to a guy and right away it goes to overt sexuality, I’m just like, “Wait where is this coming from? I feel uncomfortable.” Mehow: Well usually it happens when you’re unconsciously IOD-ing him, so you’re like kind of looking away… Haely: Sorry, IOD?
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