If you speculate that the unyielding driver has a legitimate motive for her behavior (in contrast to the inflammatory, personality-based approach) you will be able to avoid flooding with anger and adrenaline. It’s likely you won’t shift into the medulla, the fight-or-flight center of the brain. Instead, you’ll utilize the cortex, the source of creativity and problem-solve a resolution. Thinking reflectively, from the cortex, allows situational possibilities to surface. It’s similar to asking, a reasonable person have her attention on the “Why back seat? In this case, it turned out that she had a baby in the backseat that was choking. Conflicts and people’s behaviors often have hidden realities (babies in the backseat.) don’t vilify.” Nancy Clemens (82) “Clarify, – Reciprocity there one word that can guide you for your whole life? Yes. It is reciprocity. “Is “ Confucius – In formal studies of international conflict, reciprocity is considered one of the most reliable predictors of human behavior. (140) In a of reciprocity by Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist at the University of Washington, lasting more than 20 years, biofeedback data was collected on couples discussing hot-button issues in their relationships. Gottman was able to predict the outcome of tense conversations with 96 % accuracy. If the initiator opened the conversation with a harsh setup, his or her partner flooded with 96 % reliability. When the initiator opened the conversation with appreciation and warmth, the conversation ended on that note, almost invariably. (Warm assertiveness)
If you speculate that the unyielding driver has a legitimate motive for her behavior (in contrast to the inflammatory, personality-based approach) you will be able to avoid flooding with anger and adrenaline. It’s likely you won’t shift into the medulla, the fight-or-flight center of the brain. Instead, you’ll utilize the cortex, the source of creativity and problem-solve a resolution. Thinking reflectively, from the cortex, allows situational possibilities to surface. It’s similar to asking, “Why a reasonable person have her attention on the back seat? In this case, it turned out that she had a baby in the backseat that was choking. Conflicts and people’s behaviors often have hidden realities (babies in the backseat.) “Clarify, don’t vilify.” – Nancy Clemens (82) Reciprocity “Is there one word that can guide you for your whole life? Yes. It is reciprocity. “ – Confucius In formal studies of international conflict, reciprocity is considered one of the most reliable predictors of human behavior. (140) In a of reciprocity by Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist at the University of Washington, lasting more than 20 years, biofeedback data was collected on couples discussing hot-button issues in their relationships. Gottman was able to predict the outcome of tense conversations with 96 % accuracy. If the initiator opened the conversation with a harsh setup, his or her partner flooded with 96 % reliability. When the initiator opened the conversation with appreciation and warmth, the conversation ended on that note, almost invariably. (Warm assertiveness)
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