undertone of know “we you’re gay, but we’re not gonna address it” you know and it’s kind of awkward” Old-fashioned Mathew (74-78) Parents hold a feel like my parents “I parents are more old fashioned, conservative view so like, they they’re towards sexuality due think that gay is having a traditional something that’s more upbringing this a – present now, my mum form of disapproval. says I was a kid I “when didn’t see homosexuals, I see lesbians, no didn’t one was talking about being transgender, being a crossdresser and now I see men holding hands, I see women kissing on the and like, I feel bus” it’s like it’s so old fashioned” Removal of the Mathew (95-98) Societal norms are always feel like “I it’s sexual minority something imposed on those of that’s supposed to be hidden the sexual minorities, away or something pushing individuals to supposed to be that’s conceal sexual one’s neglected, um, not pay identity and conform attention to kind of, try to heterosexist ideals. your hardest to not be part of the LGBTQ community and just be part of the normal society” Fear of being Mathew Feeling flawed and feel scared of being “We unlovable judged, of being unacceptable leads rejected, our world one to belief that they turning upside down, not are unlovable to the having a home, not whole world. having a life, not having work, relationships, having to maybe move away and rebuild your whole life” An alien among the Mathew Stood out among the old people “Sometimes crowd would look at me funny, crowd because certain like ‘why is his hair so features seemed and I felt like I long’ feminine and so was, like a different, like would be stared at in to them, like I feel like I public, as though the was like an exhibit on individual were an display, cause like alien among the people would like look crowd. at me and like a double look and they would be like, I could see they wanted to ask you ‘Are gay?’”
undertone of “we know you’re gay, but we’re not gonna address it” you know and it’s kind of awkward” Old-fashioned parents Mathew (74-78) “I feel like my parents are more old fashioned, so they’re like, they think that gay is something that’s more present now, my mum says “when I was a kid I didn’t see homosexuals, I didn’t see lesbians, no one was talking about being transgender, being a crossdresser and now I see men holding hands, I see women kissing on the bus” and it’s like, I feel like it’s so old fashioned” Parents hold a conservative view towards sexuality due having a traditional upbringing – this a form of disapproval. Removal of the sexual minority Mathew (95-98) “I always feel like it’s something that’s supposed to be hidden away or something that’s supposed to be neglected, um, not pay attention to kind of, try your hardest to not be part of the LGBTQ community and just be part of the normal society” Societal norms are imposed on those of the sexual minorities, pushing individuals to conceal one’s sexual identity and conform to heterosexist ideals. Fear of being unlovable Mathew “We feel scared of being judged, of being rejected, our world turning upside down, not having a home, not having a life, not having work, relationships, having to maybe move away and rebuild your whole life” Feeling flawed and unacceptable leads one to belief that they are unlovable to the whole world. An alien among the crowd Mathew “Sometimes old people would look at me funny, like ‘why is his hair so long’ and I felt like I was, like a different, like to them, like I feel like I was like an exhibit on display, cause like people would like look at me and like a double look and they would be like, I could see they wanted to ask ‘Are you gay?’” Stood out among the crowd because certain features seemed feminine and so would be stared at in public, as though the individual were an alien among the crowd.
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