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This or That We both can't be satisfied This and That Both our interests can be met / Wrong My way is right and yours is wrong Different We each have different perceptions of this issue Defensive / Aggressive I am not safe and must defend myself or attack you Empathic / Assertive I understand what you want I also have needs Judgment / Blaming You caused this mess and must be punished Curiosity / Compassion What are you feeling I am prepared to listen You vs. Me We are enemies You & I vs. the Problem We have a common problem needs to be solved Dividing the (limited) Pie I must get as much as possible or I won't have enough Expanding the Pie Finding new opportunities and possibilities
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