Then record reaction to the statement. For judgmental self-statements, try to the statement based on the facts rather than your judgments about yourself. Balanced Relationships Relational Mindfulness for Parents & Coaches WHAT HOW Observe: Just notice your Non-Judgmentally: Let go of adolescent “should” and right/wrong Describe: Put words on One-Mindfully: Only pay noticing attention to your adolescent Participate: Involve Yourself Effectively: Remember that in the experience or activity this is someone you love with your family member Using Relational Mindfulness in Relationships Being together when you are together There are 3 ways to be together: Passively Together Both people are physically present (e.g., same room or same place) but are not interacting with each other and are not focusing attention on each other. Example: A parent could be washing dishes in the kitchen at the same time their adolescent is doing homework at the kitchen table. Actively Together Both people are doing something actively together. Attention is focused primarily on these activities, but there is some awareness of each other.
Then record reaction to the statement. For judgmental self-statements, try to the statement based on the facts rather than your judgments about yourself. Balanced Relationships Relational Mindfulness for Parents & Coaches WHAT HOW Observe: Just notice your adolescent Describe: Put words on noticing Participate: Involve Yourself in the experience or activity with your family member Non-Judgmentally: Let go of “should” and right/wrong One-Mindfully: Only pay attention to your adolescent Effectively: Remember that this is someone you love Using Relational Mindfulness in Relationships Being together when you are together There are 3 ways to be together: Passively Together Both people are physically present (e.g., same room or same place) but are not interacting with each other and are not focusing attention on each other. Example: A parent could be washing dishes in the kitchen at the same time their adolescent is doing homework at the kitchen table. Actively Together Both people are doing something actively together. Attention is focused primarily on these activities, but there is some awareness of each other.
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