than just the death. it Help To Move? 28 Although it may be tempting to move or change jobs in the hope that this will ease some of the pain, it is a good idea Things That not to make any major or permanent decisions for 12-18 months after the Can Help You death of a loved one.You are already undergoing enormous change because of to Manage the loss. If your decision does not have to be made immediately then leave it for Grief a while. It Has Become Worse, Why? Managing grief can be difficult and challenging. The following suggestions may help: may have been a lot of visitors and support around the time of the funeral but people have since moved on with Accepting Your Feelings their lives. People often expect that you There is no right or wrong way to feel after will have over it” after six eight “got – losing someone you care about. Accepting the weeks.This leaves you on your own and feelings you have and acknowledging you are without the constant support of these going through a stressful experience may be friends.The effect of the ‘anaesthetic’ helpful in managing your reactions. Many shock also wears off leaving intense and people wrongly think the intensity of their painful feelings. People often say that feelings means they’re going mad. the grief is worse four six months – after the death rather than at the time Yourself To Cry of the initial bereavement. It‘s okay to cry.You don’t have to be over it in How Long Does It Last? anyone else’s time except your own. If you feel uncomfortable about crying in front of people is no magic figure or date.The loss you may want to go to a safer place: will always be part of your life but the intense pain will gradually subside. Grief a room comes in waves and can be unexpected the park or triggered by little things. However a counsellor there is often a pattern or cycle to grief. your favourite spot By looking back over the last weeks and months you may be able to notice a Some people also have some very negative pattern to your own grief. Gradually or hurtful memories of the person who died. these waves of grief grow further and If this is the case it is helpful to choose further apart. Eventually you will be able someone you trust and with whom you can to laugh again and remember the life and safely talk about these experiences and good times with your loved one rather feelings without judgement.
it Help To Move? Although it may be tempting to move or change jobs in the hope that this will ease some of the pain, it is a good idea not to make any major or permanent decisions for 12-18 months after the death of a loved one.You are already undergoing enormous change because of the loss. If your decision does not have to be made immediately then leave it for a while. It Has Become Worse, Why? may have been a lot of visitors and support around the time of the funeral but people have since moved on with their lives. People often expect that you will have “got over it” after six – eight weeks.This leaves you on your own and without the constant support of these friends.The ‘anaesthetic’ effect of the shock also wears off leaving intense and painful feelings. People often say that the grief is worse four – six months after the death rather than at the time of the initial bereavement. How Long Does It Last? is no magic figure or date.The loss will always be part of your life but the intense pain will gradually subside. Grief comes in waves and can be unexpected or triggered by little things. However there is often a pattern or cycle to grief. By looking back over the last weeks and months you may be able to notice a pattern to your own grief. Gradually these waves of grief grow further and further apart. Eventually you will be able to laugh again and remember the life and good times with your loved one rather than just the death. 28 Things That Can Help You to Manage Grief Managing grief can be difficult and challenging. The following suggestions may help: Accepting Your Feelings There is no right or wrong way to feel after losing someone you care about. Accepting the feelings you have and acknowledging you are going through a stressful experience may be helpful in managing your reactions. Many people wrongly think the intensity of their feelings means they’re going mad. Yourself To Cry It‘s okay to cry.You don’t have to be over it in anyone else’s time except your own. If you feel uncomfortable about crying in front of people you may want to go to a safer place: a room the park a counsellor your favourite spot Some people also have some very negative or hurtful memories of the person who died. If this is the case it is helpful to choose someone you trust and with whom you can safely talk about these experiences and feelings without judgement.
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