posed by his therapist in individual psychotherapy. From his reaction in the couple’s session emerges an investigation of what his historical experience of others lateness has meant to him. Again, this is less about his of what his individual therapist is up to, than “fantasy” “strange” about his experience in the couple’s therapy session. raw Playing with this illustration further, let’s imagine that we learn that when his was a boy, his mother was always late picking him up from school. Sitting alone, as the sun was setting, with little prediction of her arrival time, understandably filled him with dread, fear, and apprehension. Eventually, however, in a flagging attempt at coping, he assumed a kind of dissociated depression, though not it is finally surfacing in rage towards his wife. This, I hope we can agree, offers unimpeachable evidence of his palpable transference reaction to his wife’s lateness. Meanwhile, since this is couples therapy, we can then get into what chronic lateness is about. Perhaps in her narrative, we learn that it represents a kind of her to her father for his having berated her constantly in her youth. In sum, oppositional transference we are immediately into the domain of the of both partners along with how this is transferences becoming systematically orchestrated in a in their relationship, i.e. her lateness vicious circle triggers his rage, and his rage further exacerbates her being oppositionally late. Returning to the contemporary topic of Relationality, we know that a primary issue facing 21st Century Psychoanalysis is, that from birth to death, every aspect of human psychology is deeply and inextricably embedded in relationships. This includes what goes on in the actual interactional realm, for sure. But even more so, it involves what is going on in our along with how we our sense of in relationship to others, as they do imaginings, represent “self” to us.
posed by his therapist in individual psychotherapy. From his reaction in the couple’s session emerges an investigation of what his historical experience of others lateness has meant to him. Again, this is less about his “fantasy” of what his “strange” individual therapist is up to, than about his raw experience in the couple’s therapy session. Playing with this illustration further, let’s imagine that we learn that when his was a boy, his mother was always late picking him up from school. Sitting alone, as the sun was setting, with little prediction of her arrival time, understandably filled him with dread, fear, and apprehension. Eventually, however, in a flagging attempt at coping, he assumed a kind of dissociated depression, though not it is finally surfacing in rage towards his wife. This, I hope we can agree, offers unimpeachable evidence of his palpable transference reaction to his wife’s lateness. Meanwhile, since this is couples therapy, we can then get into what her chronic lateness is about. Perhaps in her narrative, we learn that it represents a kind of oppositional transference to her father for his having berated her constantly in her youth. In sum, we are immediately into the domain of the transferences of both partners along with how this is becoming systematically orchestrated in a vicious circle in their relationship, i.e. her lateness triggers his rage, and his rage further exacerbates her being oppositionally late. Returning to the contemporary topic of Relationality, we know that a primary issue facing 21st Century Psychoanalysis is, that from birth to death, every aspect of human psychology is deeply and inextricably embedded in relationships. This includes what goes on in the actual interactional realm, for sure. But even more so, it involves what is going on in our imaginings, along with how we represent our sense of “self” in relationship to others, as they do to us.
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