Xenos Parenting May 2018 Building Healthy Relationships Beth Himsworth Relationships not all of the building blocks are intuitive – Romanticize / Myths It will just happen when I’m with the people If I love them enough, they will be relationally healthy Unconditional love & Affirmation - Why it “work” in children is cultivated by parental overvaluation: parents believing their “narcissism child to be more special and more entitled than others.” Snowflake Syndrome Our children learn most from the simple, daily clues that help them understand reality. What is healthy Love”? “unconditional North: God as the ultimate reference point What does God have to do with relationship? Identity a place in the universe – Vision Being a part of the narrative of history – Security A clear understanding of Grace and Works – East: Engagement Created to connect All moral development depends on empathy Suffering What does Suffering have to do with relationship? How we suffering matters define How we face suffering and disappointment may be the most important gift we give our children West: Wealth and Work What does Work have to do with relationship? In the image of God … Meaningful work Provision for self and others Compass Point East The Bible is profoundly and above all else, a relational book – with one another…” the other cheek…” devoted to one another…” “Bear “Turn “be far as it depends on you, be at peace…” passing judgment on one another” “So “stop TODAY: How can my child develop healthy relationships? All of the Compass points come together
Xenos Parenting May 2018 Building Healthy Relationships Beth Himsworth Relationships – not all of the building blocks are intuitive Romanticize / Myths It will just happen when I’m with the people If I love them enough, they will be relationally healthy Unconditional love & Affirmation - Why it “work” “narcissism in children is cultivated by parental overvaluation: parents believing their child to be more special and more entitled than others.” Snowflake Syndrome Our children learn most from the simple, daily clues that help them understand reality. What is healthy “unconditional Love”? North: God as the ultimate reference point What does God have to do with relationship? Identity – a place in the universe Vision – Being a part of the narrative of history Security – A clear understanding of Grace and Works East: Engagement Created to connect All moral development depends on empathy Suffering What does Suffering have to do with relationship? How we define suffering matters How we face suffering and disappointment may be the most important gift we give our children West: Wealth and Work What does Work have to do with relationship? In the image of God … Meaningful work Provision for self and others Compass Point – East The Bible is profoundly and above all else, a relational book “Bear with one another…” “Turn the other cheek…” “be devoted to one another…” “So far as it depends on you, be at peace…” “stop passing judgment on one another” TODAY: How can my child develop healthy relationships? All of the Compass points come together
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