conscience (Romans 14) Can’t violate someone’s in bounds and out of bounds, parameters What’s Cannot involve others Matthew 5.27 looking at someone lustfully – – is (committing adultery with her in his heart) adultery; physically, pornography (visually), fantasizing Cannot involve this your fun animals… hopefully won’t steal Cannot hurt anyone Phil 2.3-4 physical or emotionally – – violate someone conscience Romans 14 Can’t else’s – Lots of room outside of these parameters to play with: Boundaries Slides in bounds biblically, for him, for her, for both? – what’s permissible: What’s Oral Sex Song of Solomon blowing in my garden, fruit is sweet, – – grabbing fruit is not referring to Israel or to gardening Song - 2.3, – 4.16; as long as both are OK with it see guidelines above – Anal Sex associated with homosexual lifestyle, body not designed to – do that if you want to do it, probably learned it from porn – Masturbation will be discussed when we split up into men and – women Toys not addressed, but be cautious (difficult to match the sensation – from sexual toys) Pornography never in bounds – During a some increased health risks like infection, woman’s period – old testament purity laws apply don’t Quickies: are OK on occasion Sometimes sex is a fast food meal, sometimes a normal dinner, it’s sometimes gourmet all 3 are OK it’s – Quickies are OK, just not a steady diet of it You can do stuff where you are both OK with what happens and in what’s bounds; freak out about this stuff. don’t FYI a lot of what we want to do or ideas we have come from porn or from – someone else we have been with be selfish, force something out of – don’t bounds because you have this fantasy i.e. caution with 50 shades of gray
Can’t violate someone’s conscience (Romans 14) What’s in bounds and out of bounds, parameters Cannot involve others – Matthew 5.27 – looking at someone lustfully is (committing adultery with her in his heart) adultery; physically, pornography (visually), fantasizing Cannot involve animals… hopefully this won’t steal your fun Cannot hurt anyone – Phil 2.3-4 – physical or emotionally Can’t violate someone else’s conscience – Romans 14 Lots of room outside of these parameters to play with: Boundaries Slides – what’s in bounds biblically, for him, for her, for both? What’s permissible: Oral Sex – Song of Solomon – blowing in my garden, fruit is sweet, grabbing fruit is not referring to Israel or to gardening – Song - 2.3, 4.16; as long as both are OK with it – see guidelines above Anal Sex – associated with homosexual lifestyle, body not designed to do that – if you want to do it, probably learned it from porn Masturbation – will be discussed when we split up into men and women Toys – not addressed, but be cautious (difficult to match the sensation from sexual toys) Pornography – never in bounds During a woman’s period – some increased health risks like infection, old testament purity laws don’t apply Quickies: are OK on occasion Sometimes sex is a fast food meal, sometimes it’s a normal dinner, sometimes it’s gourmet – all 3 are OK Quickies are OK, just not a steady diet of it You can do stuff where you are both OK with what happens and what’s in bounds; don’t freak out about this stuff. FYI – a lot of what we want to do or ideas we have come from porn or from someone else we have been with – don’t be selfish, force something out of bounds because you have this fantasy i.e. caution with 50 shades of gray
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