to painful, shameful It’s going hide or lie Don’t go into granular detail or too specifics Don’t grace you are not damaged goods God’s – Many stories of couples doing really well Opportunity to build trust Sexual abuse ¼ women, 1/6 guys this will have an impact on sex – – in marriage, and can hurt intimacy in marriage, whether a long time ago or recently Sexual abuse is not like a fracture that eventually heals and goes away, but rather has implications for the long term Much bigger deal than anticipated Sexual pain abortion, infertility, porn, past relationships – Barrier of busyness, technology, lack of margin in lives and schedule Sharing Your past: Should know if getting married your bodies belong to each other – How do you view your past? How do your view your past? S.O.’s lie/hide Don’t Big deal 1 Corinthians 6.18 – Philippians 3.12-16 Paul looks back, forget, but also is not defined by or doesn’t influenced by his past We forget, like we have a bad memory, but we don’t don’t let it cripple us Growing in Intimacy: Frequency conversations be careful about comparison – – couples are happy anywhere for 2-20 times/month! Guys you will say no, and your drive will not stay the – same, changes with kids, etc… FYI 20-25% of guys will have lower sex drives than wife – – not strange or something wrong with you if this is the case
It’s going to painful, shameful Don’t hide or lie Don’t go into granular detail or too specifics God’s grace – you are not damaged goods Many stories of couples doing really well Opportunity to build trust Sexual abuse – ¼ women, 1/6 guys – this will have an impact on sex in marriage, and can hurt intimacy in marriage, whether a long time ago or recently Sexual abuse is not like a fracture that eventually heals and goes away, but rather has implications for the long term Much bigger deal than anticipated Sexual pain – abortion, infertility, porn, past relationships Barrier of busyness, technology, lack of margin in lives and schedule Sharing Your past: Should know if getting married – your bodies belong to each other How do you view your past? How do your view your S.O.’s past? Don’t lie/hide Big deal – 1 Corinthians 6.18 Philippians 3.12-16 Paul looks back, doesn’t forget, but also is not defined by or influenced by his past We don’t forget, like we have a bad memory, but we don’t let it cripple us Growing in Intimacy: Frequency conversations – be careful about comparison – couples are happy anywhere for 2-20 times/month! Guys – you will say no, and your drive will not stay the same, changes with kids, etc… FYI – 20-25% of guys will have lower sex drives than wife – not strange or something wrong with you if this is the case
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