Stressed, anxious Cannot believe compliments Shoulds, oughts, musts drive us cannot receive love in heart. Takes responsibility for everything Ministers, but cannot be ministered to. Self sufficiency, independence Is unable to be truly intimate. Fear of rejection, fear of man, and Is lonely inside. fear of failure Tired and Fatigued Robs others of the freedom to give by controlling, demanding or Failure and depression manipulating. Cannot receive criticism. Destroys spontaneity and joy Compulsively defensive when in leadership Angry and frustrated at others and Works to please and in the ourselves process becomes lost to self Blames and criticizes others. like he is trying to fool Self-despising, putting down. people, selling self for love. Criticism, judging, and accusation May sabotage successes in order Low self worth, esteem deep to fail, tests to see we will be inside. loved even if a loser. Sometimes believe all good, sometimes feel all bad. Table 2: How God Fulfills Our three primary needs: Our Need to be How God fulfills I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins Col 1:14 I am accepted in the beloved. Eph 1:6 He will never leave me or forsake me Heb 13:5 Nothing can separate me from the love of God Rom 8:35-39 Belonging His perfect love out all fear. 1 John 4:18 Love & God will supply all my needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Acceptance Phi 4:19 I have been bought with a price, I belong to god 1 Cor 6:20 I am a member of God's chosen people. 1 Pet 2:9-10 I can find grace and mercy in time of need 4:16 I am hidden with Christ in God Col 3:3 I am born of God and the evil one cannot me. 1 John 5:18 I am fearfully and wonderfully made in my mother's womb. Ps 139:13 I am a new creation with a new heart and spirit 2 Cor 5:17 Eze 36:26 I am God's masterpiece created for good works Eph 2:10
Stressed, anxious Shoulds, oughts, musts drive us Takes responsibility for everything Self sufficiency, independence Fear of rejection, fear of man, and fear of failure Tired and Fatigued Failure and depression Cannot receive criticism. Compulsively defensive Angry and frustrated at others and ourselves Blames and criticizes others. Self-despising, putting down. Criticism, judging, and accusation Low self worth, esteem deep inside. Sometimes believe all good, sometimes feel all bad. Cannot believe compliments cannot receive love in heart. Ministers, but cannot be ministered to. Is unable to be truly intimate. Is lonely inside. Robs others of the freedom to give by controlling, demanding or manipulating. Destroys spontaneity and joy when in leadership Works to please and in the process becomes lost to self like he is trying to fool people, selling self for love. May sabotage successes in order to fail, tests to see we will be loved even if a loser. Table 2: How God Fulfills Our three primary needs: Our Need to be How God fulfills Belonging Love & Acceptance I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins Col 1:14 I am accepted in the beloved. Eph 1:6 He will never leave me or forsake me Heb 13:5 Nothing can separate me from the love of God Rom 8:35-39 His perfect love out all fear. 1 John 4:18 God will supply all my needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Phi 4:19 I have been bought with a price, I belong to god 1 Cor 6:20 I am a member of God's chosen people. 1 Pet 2:9-10 I can find grace and mercy in time of need 4:16 I am hidden with Christ in God Col 3:3 I am born of God and the evil one cannot me. 1 John 5:18 I am fearfully and wonderfully made in my mother's womb. Ps 139:13 I am a new creation with a new heart and spirit 2 Cor 5:17 Eze 36:26 I am God's masterpiece created for good works Eph 2:10
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