which looked at these issues. In that Psychology of Being, book was a beautiful description, written by G. Allport, of how it is possible to lose yourself and isolate yourself from your deepest sources of power...and not even know that doing it. Listen to of a child you’re Allport’s description forced to make that choice: who’s as he is. He has not been accepted for himself, they “Oh, they want him or force him or expect him to ‘love’ him, but must be unacceptable. be different! Therefore he He himself learns to believe it and at last, even takes it for granted. He has truly given himself up. No matter now whether he obeys them, whether he clings, rebels or withdraws his — behavior, his performance is all that matters. His center of gravity is in not in himself. Yet, if he so much as ‘them,’ noticed it, think it natural enough. And the whole thing he’d is entirely plausible; all invisible, automatic, and anonymous! This is the perfect paradox. Everything looks normal; no crime was intended; there is no corpse, no guilt. All we can see is the sun rising and setting as usual. But what has happened? He has been rejected, not only by them, but by himself. (He is actually without a self.) What has he lost? Just the one true and vital part of himself: his own yes-feeling, which is his very capacity for growth, his root system.
Psychology of Being, which looked at these issues. In that book was a beautiful description, written by G. Allport, of how it is possible to lose yourself and isolate yourself from your deepest sources of power...and not even know that you’re doing it. Listen to Allport’s description of a child who’s forced to make that choice: He has not been accepted for himself, as he is. “Oh, they ‘love’ him, but they want him or force him or expect him to be different! Therefore he must be unacceptable. He himself learns to believe it and at last, even takes it for granted. He has truly given himself up. No matter now whether he obeys them, whether he clings, rebels or withdraws — his behavior, his performance is all that matters. His center of gravity is in ‘them,’ not in himself. Yet, if he so much as noticed it, he’d think it natural enough. And the whole thing is entirely plausible; all invisible, automatic, and anonymous! This is the perfect paradox. Everything looks normal; no crime was intended; there is no corpse, no guilt. All we can see is the sun rising and setting as usual. But what has happened? He has been rejected, not only by them, but by himself. (He is actually without a self.) What has he lost? Just the one true and vital part of himself: his own yes-feeling, which is his very capacity for growth, his root system.
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