Yeah, I just wanted to be with (sister x) and (brother x) and I be with couldn’t them anymore and they wanted to be with me. I have to live with the fact that I would never live with them again. They can live with me and not with my mum just with me and when I get my own flat they can come and live with me (Kay) there… The above extract demonstrates Kay coming to terms with the decisions about being separated from her siblings but is hopeful that they will be together again. Kay also recognises that they would not be together as a family unit in saying that her siblings will live with her and not with their mum. I was keen to explore if the young people were able to share their experiences and feelings associated with loss. There was a common theme of mistrust in sharing experiences of loss which was reflected in the answers that were provided by Kameron, Carl and Kay. I have referred to the specific extracts related to coping alone and the difficulty that the young people encountered in sharing these feelings with others. Kameron: M: Looking back did you have the chance to think with somebody else about what was hard. K: Not really I could with people here but I I deal with stuff myself and won’t… I block everybody else out. M: Do you feel that over time that this has changed? K: I know but I know not a good thing and that I block everybody out don’t it’s and give up on things. M: At least thinking about it and recognise this. you’re K: Yeah but when doing it I know doing it and I stop myself and I’m I’m can’t like second nature (Kameron) it’s now… Carl: M: Did you feel understood? C: No I think so as one of these people that keep it in. don’t I’m M: Would you have liked this? C: Yes I would have and it bother me and I blurt it out to wouldn’t wouldn’t (Carl) anyone. Kay:
Yeah, I just wanted to be with (sister x) and (brother x) and I couldn’t be with them anymore and they wanted to be with me. I have to live with the fact that I would never live with them again. They can live with me and not with my mum just with me and when I get my own flat they can come and live with me there… (Kay) The above extract demonstrates Kay coming to terms with the decisions about being separated from her siblings but is hopeful that they will be together again. Kay also recognises that they would not be together as a family unit in saying that her siblings will live with her and not with their mum. I was keen to explore if the young people were able to share their experiences and feelings associated with loss. There was a common theme of mistrust in sharing experiences of loss which was reflected in the answers that were provided by Kameron, Carl and Kay. I have referred to the specific extracts related to coping alone and the difficulty that the young people encountered in sharing these feelings with others. Kameron: M: Looking back did you have the chance to think with somebody else about what was hard. K: Not really I could with people here but I won’t… I deal with stuff myself and I block everybody else out. M: Do you feel that over time that this has changed? K: I don’t know but I know it’s not a good thing and that I block everybody out and give up on things. M: At least you’re thinking about it and recognise this. K: Yeah but when I’m doing it I know I’m doing it and I can’t stop myself and it’s like second nature now… (Kameron) Carl: M: Did you feel understood? C: No I don’t think so as I’m one of these people that keep it in. M: Would you have liked this? C: Yes I would have and it wouldn’t bother me and I wouldn’t blurt it out to anyone. (Carl) Kay:
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