EXERCISE: DESCRIBING YOUR FAMILY SYSTEM (1) List the responsibilities that you have had in your family. (parent, son/daughter, grandparent, grandchild, mentor, friend)? (2) What roles have you played in your family? What role(s) do you play now? (joker, star, bad child, etc.) (3) What about other family members. Can you say who is the most nurturing person in your family? _____________________ How about a peacemaker does your family – have one? Write their name here: _____________________. (4) What relationship in your family or in your life has been the most nurturing of you? Who made you feel safe and loved? ____________________________________________ (5) What were some of the rules in your family? (if you talk you get hit; keep family business private, etc.) (6) Share with the group something about your family rules and the roles you have played. (7) What about Grandpa? If we understand history, it can help us understand family members. Did mother die when mom was still very young? Did father beat Mom’s Dad’s him? Was Grandpa in prison and separated from his kids while they were growing up? Was there plenty of money for food? Did Grandma favor one son over the other, or one grandchild over another? Share something you know about your family history that helps you understand your family today. Is there something in particular that can shed light on the relationship chosen to work on in this class? Discuss this with the group. Write you’ve notes here about what thinking: you’re Drawing Your Family Map CHECK-IN: Please say your name and a couple of sentences about how doing you’re
EXERCISE: DESCRIBING YOUR FAMILY SYSTEM (1) List the responsibilities that you have had in your family. (parent, son/daughter, grandparent, grandchild, mentor, friend)? (2) What roles have you played in your family? What role(s) do you play now? (joker, star, bad child, etc.) (3) What about other family members. Can you say who is the most nurturing person in your family? _____________________ How about a peacemaker – does your family have one? Write their name here: _____________________. (4) What relationship in your family or in your life has been the most nurturing of you? Who made you feel safe and loved? ____________________________________________ (5) What were some of the rules in your family? (if you talk you get hit; keep family business private, etc.) (6) Share with the group something about your family rules and the roles you have played. (7) What about Grandpa? If we understand history, it can help us understand family members. Did Mom’s mother die when mom was still very young? Did Dad’s father beat him? Was Grandpa in prison and separated from his kids while they were growing up? Was there plenty of money for food? Did Grandma favor one son over the other, or one grandchild over another? Share something you know about your family history that helps you understand your family today. Is there something in particular that can shed light on the relationship you’ve chosen to work on in this class? Discuss this with the group. Write notes here about what you’re thinking: Drawing Your Family Map CHECK-IN: Please say your name and a couple of sentences about how you’re doing
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