Accommodation: In this strategy, one of the conflict partners in” on the issue so that the relationship can “gives be maintained or enhanced. In this strategy, the conflict is named, and while one of the partners may disagree with the other position, the importance of the relationship outweighs the need to take a firm stand. The risk of this strategy is that the individual or group who relinquishes their position may be seen as a someone who will not stand up for what they believe in. “doormat” – Competition: In this strategy, winning the is more important than the relationship. Competition “position” can be valid in value driven conflicts that affect the community. However, remember to focus competition on the issue and not on the personality of the other person or group. The goal is not to make that person or group a loser, but rather to gain what is most important to you. People or groups that overuse this strategy often compete on relatively minor issues and feel that they must win no matter what. As a result, they run the risk of the battle but “winning losing the war” within the community. Compromise: In this strategy, those involved in the conflict give up some components that matter to them, but they don’t give up everything. Both parties involved win some and lose some on the issue. In this strategy, it can be difficult to determine the acceptable level of wins and losses and negotiate them. In order for this to work, both parties must see the wins and losses as fair, even if they are not equal. Be honest about what wins are needed and what losses will be tolerated. Adapted from: Krile, James. Blandin Foundation. Published by Fieldstone Alliance (2006). The Community Leadership Handbook. (formerly Wilder Publishing Center) Managing Interpersonal Conflict Worksheet Recognition: Is it a conflict? Name the conflict. That is, what are the incompatible goals? What are the key arguments of this conflict? What are the consequences of this conflict? How is the conflict affecting you, the other person or group and the community?
Accommodation: In this strategy, one of the conflict partners “gives in” on the issue so that the relationship can be maintained or enhanced. In this strategy, the conflict is named, and while one of the partners may disagree with the other position, the importance of the relationship outweighs the need to take a firm stand. The risk of this strategy is that the individual or group who relinquishes their position may be seen as a “doormat” – someone who will not stand up for what they believe in. Competition: In this strategy, winning the “position” is more important than the relationship. Competition can be valid in value driven conflicts that affect the community. However, remember to focus competition on the issue and not on the personality of the other person or group. The goal is not to make that person or group a loser, but rather to gain what is most important to you. People or groups that overuse this strategy often compete on relatively minor issues and feel that they must win no matter what. As a result, they run the risk of “winning the battle but losing the war” within the community. Compromise: In this strategy, those involved in the conflict give up some components that matter to them, but they don’t give up everything. Both parties involved win some and lose some on the issue. In this strategy, it can be difficult to determine the acceptable level of wins and losses and negotiate them. In order for this to work, both parties must see the wins and losses as fair, even if they are not equal. Be honest about what wins are needed and what losses will be tolerated. Adapted from: Krile, James. (2006). The Community Leadership Handbook. Blandin Foundation. Published by Fieldstone Alliance (formerly Wilder Publishing Center) Managing Interpersonal Conflict Worksheet Recognition: Is it a conflict? Name the conflict. That is, what are the incompatible goals? What are the key arguments of this conflict? What are the consequences of this conflict? How is the conflict affecting you, the other person or group and the community?
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