emotions of and future feelings emotions evident and anger at all feelings are “hurt” by others others and the as well as the including envy, others, but also acceptable, but saying or doing cause of their causes and pity, modesty, shows silliness to not all behaviors something that emotions consequences of and shame get others to are acceptable offends him feelings laugh Subdomain: Learning About Feelings ESD Goal 6: Children identify, manage, and express their feelings. B. Self-control 1-2 months 2-4 months 4-6 months 6-8 months 8-10 months 10-12 months Calms with Demonstrates self- Resists unwanted Beginning to Looks to adult Understands “no” holding, rocking, by sucking actions or objects learn meaning of when and obeys and adult talking on fist or thumb with expressions “no”, stops action admonished, but requests softly of disgust or briefly then continues actions, anger continues may crawl to adult for comforting 12-15 months 15-18 months 18-21 months 21-24 months 24-27 months 27-30 months Throws temper Seeks out adult for Recognizes Demonstrates Acts out to gain Delays gratification tantrums to get comfort, but “wrong” and frequent independence for wants or for own beginning to engages in tantrums but from adult’s rules reward (i.e. says tries to self-calm and control, “No, no” while aggression and doing wrong anger increase action) 30-33 months 33-36 months 36-42 months 42-48 months 48-54 months 54-60 months Asks for help or Talks about own Accepts the Internalizes rules Asks permission Judges right and redirects self to needs and consequences of about “do’s” and to use others’ wrong by what another activity emotions as a own actions “don’ts” and possessions gets punished, if frustrated means of “right” and refrains from control “wrong” actions that get punished
emotions of others and the cause of their emotions and future feelings as well as the causes and consequences of feelings emotions evident including envy, pity, modesty, and shame and anger at others, but also shows silliness to get others to laugh all feelings are acceptable, but not all behaviors are acceptable “hurt” by others saying or doing something that offends him Subdomain: Learning About Feelings ESD Goal 6: Children identify, manage, and express their feelings. B. Self-control 1-2 months 2-4 months 4-6 months 6-8 months 8-10 months 10-12 months Calms with holding, rocking, and adult talking softly Demonstrates by sucking on fist or thumb Resists unwanted actions or objects with expressions of disgust or anger Beginning to learn meaning of “no”, stops action briefly then continues Looks to adult when admonished, but continues actions, may crawl to adult for comforting Understands “no” and obeys requests 12-15 months 15-18 months 18-21 months 21-24 months 24-27 months 27-30 months Throws temper tantrums to get own Seeks out adult for comfort, but beginning to Recognizes “wrong” and engages in (i.e. says “No, no” while doing wrong action) Demonstrates frequent tantrums but tries to self-calm Acts out to gain independence from adult’s rules and control, aggression and anger increase Delays gratification for wants or for reward 30-33 months 33-36 months 36-42 months 42-48 months 48-54 months 54-60 months Asks for help or redirects self to another activity if frustrated Talks about own needs and emotions as a means of self- control Accepts the consequences of own actions Internalizes rules about “do’s” and “don’ts” and “right” and “wrong” Asks permission to use others’ possessions Judges right and wrong by what gets punished, refrains from actions that get punished