Alternatives to questions Effects-based versus response-based conversations In the table below, we draw on the questions in Box 8.8 (Paré, 2013b, p. 214) in columns 1 and 3. Your task is to pair those questions with alternative microskills in columns 2 and 4 to illustrate how to avoid an over-reliance on questions. An example is provided in column 2. Effects-focused Response-based Alternate microskills Alternate microskills questions questions How did that affect That event really affected What did you do next? you? you. [Paraphrasing] How did you manage to What caused you to withhold your emotions? shut down emotionally? What sense did you What did that get you make of that? thinking? How did you know the Why did you quit? time wasn't right for you to go on? What was it like to be rendered helpless like How did you think that? keeping quiet and still would save you from further harm? Reference: Paré, D. A. (2013b). The practice of collaborative counseling & psychotherapy: Developing skills in culturally mindful helping. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage
Alternatives to questions Effects-based versus response-based conversations In the table below, we draw on the questions in Box 8.8 (Paré, 2013b, p. 214) in columns 1 and 3. Your task is to pair those questions with alternative microskills in columns 2 and 4 to illustrate how to avoid an over-reliance on questions. An example is provided in column 2. Effects-focused questions Alternate microskills Response-based questions Alternate microskills How did that affect you? What caused you to shut down emotionally? What did that get you thinking? Why did you quit? What was it like to be rendered helpless like that? That event really affected you. [Paraphrasing] What did you do next? How did you manage to withhold your emotions? What sense did you make of that? How did you know the time wasn't right for you to go on? How did you think keeping quiet and still would save you from further harm? Reference: Paré, D. A. (2013b). The practice of collaborative counseling & psychotherapy: Developing skills in culturally mindful helping. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage