9. Culture What is culturally important to me? 10. History How do I know about my past? Understanding How a Child Responds to Loss Age How the Child Sees Possible Effects of What You Can Do and Reacts to Loss Loss Now Has no concept of Sense of security and Keep up the same permanent loss trust in adults could be routines the has Infant frets and shows undermined had: e.g. feeding, other signs of being Regression to an earlier bathing. 0-1 years unhappy of development: Record information e.g. clings more to so that it will be adults available to the Later when he/she gets Grows up feeling that older. the world owes him/her Trouble trusting others Learning problems Now May see loss as Regression to an earlier Keep routines the same: irreversible stage of development, e.g. meals, bath, bed Toddler May cry or appear may begin to wet every day at the same uninterested in food, May stop talking or not time. 1-3 years toys, and activities talking when most Say things like, OK “it’s children his/her age to miss your and begin Daddy. I know it must May become too hurt.” dependent or to Don’t pressure the child independent to do things he/she was Later doing before the loss: Develops a need to be e.g. giving up the bottle, always in control eating with utensils, potty-training.
9. Culture What is culturally important to me? 10. History How do I know about my past? Understanding How a Child Responds to Loss Age How the Child Sees and Reacts to Loss Possible Effects of Loss What You Can Do Infant 0-1 years Has no concept of permanent loss frets and shows other signs of being unhappy Now Sense of security and trust in adults could be undermined Regression to an earlier of development: e.g. clings more to adults Later Grows up feeling that the world owes him/her Trouble trusting others Learning problems Keep up the same routines the has had: e.g. feeding, bathing. Record information so that it will be available to the when he/she gets older. Toddler 1-3 years May see loss as irreversible May cry or appear uninterested in food, toys, and activities Now Regression to an earlier stage of development, may begin to wet May stop talking or not talking when most children his/her age begin May become too dependent or to independent Later Develops a need to be always in control Keep routines the same: e.g. meals, bath, bed every day at the same time. Say things like, “it’s OK to miss your and Daddy. I know it must hurt.” Don’t pressure the child to do things he/she was doing before the loss: e.g. giving up the bottle, eating with utensils, potty-training.