think probably that’s why there’s such a big kind of LGBT kind of fighting because we are so oppressed in a way, like so shamed and put down and like you it’s are disgusting” Shame silences Beatrice Shame becomes an it can shame you “Like, sexuality Mathew emotion that can no into being straight one’s unfortunately and shame (326-336) longer be controlled you into being quiet and in order to stop about your sexuality, so such self-destructive like when I was a feelings of shame, one teenager I felt a lot of must silence the shame, so I was with source of it would – boys because I felt prefer to just ignore ashamed that I was gay” sexuality, deal with it in private. No pride, no shame Beatrice Dismisses both shame I just kind of “Yea dismiss it, I feel and pride could be a don’t’ pride and I dismiss means of survival, no shame, how I go that’s emotions means no for it” problems. Pride is temporary Beatrice Pride becomes “I wouldn’t say it masks self-gratification shame, say it kind of temporary and I’d flips it, cause in that inauthentic when used moment getting you’re as a mechanism to everything that shame defend oneself from thrive on and can’t feelings of shame. you’re doing the kind of like pride and everything, but I suppose maybe when you go away a there’s little bit of shame that comes back, because then entering a we’re society that we left to do the pride and then we come back and like, it’s you got that generic homophobia” Proud to cope with Beatrice Holding pride towards “We all can’t help being shame 602-604) gay, we help being oneself helps to cope can’t transgender, none of this with negative can be helped, so perspectives of the instead of being sexual minority. Pride just flip it ashamed, let’s almost becomes the over and be proud of it” flipped side to shame. Sexuality avoided Mathew (38-41) Family refrain from “There are certain by family moments where discussing the conversations will drift sexuality individual’s to certain topics, so like almost as a means of – LGBT or like um, a gay denying it. couple is seen on the news or whatever and it merely is like that
think that’s probably why there’s such a big kind of LGBT kind of fighting because we are so oppressed in a way, like so shamed and put down and it’s like you are disgusting” Shame silences one’s sexuality Beatrice Mathew (326-336) “Like, it can shame you into being straight unfortunately and shame you into being quiet about your sexuality, so like when I was a teenager I felt a lot of shame, so I was with boys because I felt ashamed that I was gay” Shame becomes an emotion that can no longer be controlled and in order to stop such self-destructive feelings of shame, one must silence the source of it – would prefer to just ignore sexuality, deal with it in private. No pride, no shame Beatrice “Yea I just kind of dismiss it, I don’t’ feel pride and I dismiss shame, that’s how I go for it” Dismisses both shame and pride could be a means of survival, no emotions means no problems. Pride is temporary self-gratification Beatrice “I wouldn’t say it masks shame, I’d say it kind of flips it, cause in that moment you’re getting everything that shame can’t thrive on and you’re doing the kind of like pride and everything, but I suppose maybe when you go away there’s a little bit of shame that comes back, because we’re then entering a society that we left to do the pride and then we come back and it’s like, you got that generic homophobia” Pride becomes temporary and inauthentic when used as a mechanism to defend oneself from feelings of shame. Proud to cope with shame Beatrice 602-604) “We all can’t help being gay, we can’t help being transgender, none of this can be helped, so instead of being ashamed, let’s just flip it over and be proud of it” Holding pride towards oneself helps to cope with negative perspectives of the sexual minority. Pride almost becomes the flipped side to shame. Sexuality avoided by family Mathew (38-41) “There are certain moments where conversations will drift to certain topics, so like LGBT or like um, a gay couple is seen on the news or whatever and it merely is like that Family refrain from discussing the individual’s sexuality – almost as a means of denying it.