already do, so and if I’m not full sure I’ve taken my best when when I find of energy then I time to revisit stretched and myself at the work less well. these and tweak challenged. start of a day’s Hearing myself so I’m trying training with the play” and something new or “press programme I trot out the same different. used last time I old same old – know I’m in Ugh! trouble. Being directly I’ll ignore the Recognise that If you know a affected by decision, I’m not in control decision is decisions which disengage or if I of everything (!) needed or a others make can’t avoid and that there are change is afoot when I have no complying with it, some things which will affect say in them and I’ll complain which I simply do me, at least tell have not been bitterly to anyone not have an me about it so invited to who will listen influence or I’ve got a contribute to about how deeply impact on. If it’s at all discussions or unfair it is. Minimise my possible, invite thinking, or involvement in me to contribute worse still, when projects or to your thinking; I didn’t even contracts where even if the final know something my influence will decision is the was going to be extremely complete change or limited. opposite of what happen. I would have wanted, having had my say I will respect that others made the decision with full information and be far more likely to accept it. Stress and support Tanya What helps How do I usually What makes me to being What I would like most stressed stressed What I can do you to do Stress and support Julia How do I usually What helps What makes me react to being What I would most stressed stressed What I can do like you to do Having too much I go into Recognize that I Notice if I start “panic to do in a set mode” and end up have too much sending emails timescale. working all hours on. late at night or at I love busy to get things done; Ask to talk things weekends. but sometimes this includes through with
already do, so when I find myself at the start of a day’s training with the programme I used last time I know I’m in trouble. and if I’m not full of energy then I work less well. Hearing myself “press play” and trot out the same old same old – Ugh! sure I’ve taken time to revisit these and tweak so I’m trying something new or different. my best when stretched and challenged. Being directly affected by decisions which others make when I have no say in them and have not been invited to contribute to discussions or thinking, or worse still, when I didn’t even know something was going to change or happen. I’ll ignore the decision, disengage or if I can’t avoid complying with it, I’ll complain bitterly to anyone who will listen about how deeply unfair it is. Recognise that I’m not in control of everything (!) and that there are some things which I simply do not have an influence or impact on. Minimise my involvement in projects or contracts where my influence will be extremely limited. If you know a decision is needed or a change is afoot which will affect me, at least tell me about it so I’ve got a If it’s at all possible, invite me to contribute to your thinking; even if the final decision is the complete opposite of what I would have wanted, having had my say I will respect that others made the decision with full information and be far more likely to accept it. Stress and support Tanya What makes me most stressed How do I usually to being stressed What helps What I can do What I would like you to do Stress and support Julia What makes me most stressed How do I usually react to being stressed What helps What I can do What I would like you to do Having too much to do in a set timescale. I love busy but sometimes I go into “panic mode” and end up working all hours to get things done; this includes Recognize that I have too much on. Ask to talk things through with Notice if I start sending emails late at night or at weekends.