然而现实社会是相反的，男权社会大部分是父亲拥有冠姓权，有一些男人会体谅妻子生育辛苦，或者出于爱的角度愿意让孩子冠妻姓。一些女人为了有一个孩子和自己姓而不得不生两个，如果夫妻恩爱，如果父亲能够尽到抚养责任，那还好说，如果对待不同姓的孩子不能平等对待，那女人真没必要结婚，何必那么委屈
In reality, however, the opposite is true of a patriarchal society where the father has the right to a first name, and where some men appreciate the wife’s hard bearing or are willing to give the child a first name from a love perspective. Some women have to give birth to two children in order to have a child and their own last name. If the husband and wife love each other, and if the father are able to live up to their responsibilities, it is fair to say that if children of different surnames are not treated equally, then there is no need for a woman to marry.