首先。文化不同，女方可能认为：我凭什么让男方帮我拿行李。（真女权明白？）  其次。角度不同。让女方拿行李并非男方不绅士，也有可能是一种尊重。  然后。时间不同。也许直到上一秒，行李都是男方拿，女方心疼，或男方有需求（厕所等）才将行李交给女方保管。  中记什么品质没点数？擅长指鹿为马懂？
In the first place, the woman may think: "Why should I let the man carry my luggage?" Secondly, the angle is different. It may be respectable to ask the woman to pick up her luggage, not to be a gentleman, but also a respect. And then, the time is different.