abstaining from sex before marriage is usually called chastity. in some countries, it is illegal to have sex before marriage. many religious and ethical systems proscribe sexual activities between a person and anyone other than a spouse of that person, including most denominational variations of judaism, christianity, and islam, as have, historically, many legal systems and societal norms. people who are abstinent even though they do not want to be are sometimes called incels or tfl (true forced loneliness). one form of sexual abstinence is fapstinence, avoiding masturbation.