hekma is the son of a notary and grew up in bedum, the netherlands. he was a frequent visitor of the dok gay disco and was a member of the radical "red faggots" (dutch: "rooie flikkers"). hekma is a book collector, and has a fetish for satin. he is a fan of marquis de sade: not only is de sade one of his favorite authors and a source of inspiration, hekma is also fascinated by de sade's position on violence, and has used de sade to provide his students with another perspective on sexuality and violence. hekma advocates against masculinity, paternalism and traditional gender roles.