you see sister makes all these arrangements, it's she who does so many of the arrangements, she has made the arrangements about there being no coffee, several people have come to me and said i don't know why you've got to stop coffee because we can always go over and have lunch anyway, you know, er after the coffee, but jean  came to me she said look i'm giving you this, and she gave me three pounds, she said i would much rather that was put into this, there your charity thing than take it across the hall, she said my margaret won't go over there any more, because they, they say, you know, put in for your lunch what it would cost