weddings happen very often, especially since a man has a minimum of two wives. a man goes to a girl's family and asks for her hand. then, all the men that want to marry the girl have a competition and they are rated on their warrior traits and bravery. the father and the girl's brothers decide on the man for her. once they decide who it should be, then they get the dowry and the man has to "kidnap" the woman. it is sort of a game they have. if the man does not kidnap the woman, then they will not live in the same house or be officially married. if the groom fails to kidnap the bride, then she stays at her father's house until she becomes the mother of at least three to four children.