"dilemma" is the 2002 hit single by the rapper nelly. the song featured kelly rowland from destiny's child. it was released from the 2002 album "nellyville". "dilemma" was kelly rowland's first international solo song away from destiny's child. she had previously appeared on avant's "separated", which was released in the united states only. it was also the first single from her debut album "simply deep". it is based melodically on and uses lyrical elements of patti labelle's "love, need and want you" from her 1983 album "i'm in love again". labelle also plays a part in the music video, as kelly rowland's mother. kelly rowland's part in "dilemma" was originally offered to christina aguilera, but aguilera declined the offer. two years later, nelly approached aguilera once again for the recording of "tilt ya head back", a critically-acclaimed but less successful track (in terms of the billboard hot 100 chart) on nelly's later album "sweat".