i, i just don't know what he's, he's, he's, he's, he's seeing his future as being and erm  maybe cos we haven't got , maybe erm it's because of the  generation gap, maybe it's because of communication problems either between me and him or the young and old or whatever but, you know, he just doesn't seem to have anything  to  volunteer er other than ah well i'll try and get a job or ah well i'll try and get some more qualifications or whatever.