and you find erm  people like lynn  you know, bless her, who now, who  isn't too bad when she's not too bad and isn't too good when she's not too good, you know, and  it is such a very very   not only can you not put anything visibly in  in common with everyone that's got it, even the people  that have got it can't say  i cannot do this  period, they say oh well i'm not too good  now but maybe last week or maybe next week