in 1892, flora and her husband were included in ward mcallister's "four hundred", purported to be an index of new york's best families led by mrs. astor, as published in "the new york times". conveniently, 400 was the number of people that could fit into mrs. astor's ballroom. reportedly, few women "in her station in life have enjoyed to so complete an extent the cordial, friendly esteem of all classes of people. by her gentle, womanly graces she endeared herself to every one who enjoyed the privilege of her acquaintance. she bore the responsibilities of social leadership with appropriate dignity, and yet with a tactfulness that was exquisite."