meg-john barker (born 23 june 1974) is a writer, writing mentor, creative consultant, speaker, and independent scholar. they have written a number of anti self-help books on the topics of relationships, sex, and gender, as well as the graphic non-fiction books, queer: a graphic history and gender: a graphic guide, and the book the psychology of sex. they are the writer of the relationships book and blog rewriting the rules, and they have a podcast with sex educator justin hancock.