carstairs crossed the atlantic from whale cay aboard the french liner "normandie", the most expensive ship in the world, and took baldwin's ashes along with her to whale cay, where she built a church to house them. when she sold whale cay, she removed the ashes. when carstairs died in naples, florida, in 1993 at the age of 93, lord tod wadley was cremated with her. their ashes and those of ruth baldwin were buried in oakland cemetery in sag harbor, new york.