the two marry in january 1989, but the day is ruined when matthew sees his mother is in attendance. carmel had got in contact with her, thinking that matthew would be pleased to have her at the wedding. she is wrong and matthew is furious. after shunning their reception party, he threatens to pack his things and leave. carmel cannot understand his reaction and when she attempts to stop him leaving he grabs her by the throat, holds her up against a wall and berates her for her interference. carmel is petrified, and upon seeing her fear matthew immediately releases her and begins apologising profusely for his violent outburst. carmel is shaken, but is convinced that his apology is sincere, so she drops the matter.