although grand has received mostly positive reaction to the song, some gay activists have criticized its content, with one stating that its message is that "gay men drink too much, feel sorry for themselves, and come on to straight dudes when their girlfriends aren't around." writing for "slate", j. bryan lowder had an even harsher take on the video, describing it as "woefully out-of-tune with the times. it's like something out of a homo smut story from before stonewall", and adding "this particular narrative of the tantalizing straight guy and lovesick queen is so hackneyed in gay culture as to be laughable." grand has said that he appreciates different perspectives regarding his work. in an interview with "the new civil rights movement", he also said: “when i made that video, i did not set out to make any statements about gay people other than what we share in common with our straight brothers and sisters — that sometimes you love someone you can’t have. i know that especially rings true for gay people who grow up in a heterosexual world.”