a fore girl becomes eligible for marriage when she first menstruates. when she marries, she leaves her home with the women to go live with her husband. if her husband is in a different clan, then she must leave all her family and old friends behind (including any nagaiya). during a marriage ceremony, the husband's family pays the bride's family a marriage fee. this money is thrown on the bride's head as “head pay.” then, the husband and bride attend separate feasts. the groom is often pierced in the nose as piercings are thought to increase a man's strength.