at least in what other  poorer women were telling me, when it came to after work and weekends the men were quite  the women were prepared to look after the children and felt it was their role to look after the children while the man was at work; when the man came back he continued to feel that the woman should look after the children erm for the rest of the time, and the idea of a shared child care arrangement did not operate in at least a number of the families that i talked to and had been one of the causes of the breakdown of the marriage and one of the precipitating factors in the man physically abusing the woman.