"may nobody be hurt" and "i want to solve the file with equanimity" today, we want to see this in samayik that it is [karmic] discharge and yet we maintain insistences, that "it should be done in this way only", or "it should not be done like this" or we have expectations of the other person that "he should do this" and "he must not do it in any other way", or it is our intent that this should be done and the other person does it then we get very happy that