erm well i mean i think there's a problem for adults as well as children in that we  i don't think it's helpful to cover ourselves in guilt about erm what happens to the suffering that other people experience, arguably erm in order to maintain us in the living standards, you know, we've learned to expect, but at the same time i think that the situation in the world is only tolerable to us psychologically because on some level we convince ourselves that erm those people who are starving and those children who are in a hysterically  trying to keep themselves out of the way of shrapnel and hiding night after night in freezing cold shelters in baghdad are not really people and not really children in the same way that we're people and our children are children, and don't feel things in the same way.