and it's easier to get along with brother so and so and sister so and so, but for goodness me i find, i find it ever so difficult to talk to sister so and so and there's an area perhaps that we can er think about,stay awake by being respectful and obedient  and that's something that is very important because it's completely opposite in the world today, respect for all authority and obedience to it is absolutely gone by the ways i find  refrain from criticism and careless talk   so there are the main points, but as we say we can't go into them all, well, so what we're going to do is to try and just highlight one or two little areas which we could er enlarge on or put the magnifying glass on, so shall we do that?