"one has to verily do it" is also a pitfall this illusion of doership then whether it should be done or it should not be done both these (pitfalls) does not allow you to remain natural (sahaj) it is a type of intrusion of the intellect and this knot of doership then leads one to blaming the other person and causes one to remain in internal suffering (bhogwato) we want to bring this [change] slowly, gradually, coming into a natural state [of being] what does that mean? whatever is appropriate at that time , that will tend to happen