what amazes me is how often they'll say to me ‘thank you very much for treating me like a human being’ because however drunk they are in the churchyard i always believe that you're much more likely to get somewhere with somebody if you are polite and kind to them and treat them like a real human being, and you can get into all sorts of fascinating  conversations with these people  even when they are fairly drunk, because actually they are real human beings, they aren't awful people.