if somebody says you don't wanna be rushed, right, that's what you've gotta say to them  that's just what that old dear was saying the other day, right  you certainly understand that, right, you agree with them, first thing you do you always agree with them, right  and then you've just got the same sequence as i want to think about it, but just sort of make it clear, i mean what is it they actually, you know, frightened of being rushed into?