loaders your interpretation louder than you would like if you want to say it put it that way louder than i would like wants to see it want is a diagnosis doesn't stay in a state of ca problem in light of the future we don't know whether has indicted was doesn't at the moment doesn't when i asked him to stay in this and is not to distance himself and does not keep attachment since coming to the intricate the and presentation on tuesday night advance their you where at evaluations give in myself and especially in other people and so i started wonder you know are all of those violent communications or would there be away that some of those are according to this model non-violent i would say that any devaluation of others that implies rahman's is a tragic expression of an unmet need tragic in a sense for two reasons first it decreases the likelihood that we will get what we want even if we don't say it out loud even if we think if we are even thinking that what somebody else does is wrong it decreases the likelihood that we will get what we want and seconded increases the likelihood of violence what could be more tragic than that, expressing ourself in a way that gets in the way of getting what we want and increases violence anything that we want to say that implies wrongs on the part of the other person,