well there's no question but which  therapists and people of medical profession have come across cases of people who have indeed been scarred for their whole lives and  and found it very difficult to  to maintain trust and relationships and  and be able to achieve their potential as a result of the sorts of situations that they endured, and perhaps we're more understanding about those sorts of areas of the human need to  to be able to express anxiety and to feel that to  to express fears is  is not something that's going to overwhelm people that are around us, so that adults who are in the care of children, be they teachers, or parents, or child care workers, can allow children to express their feelings so that they don't need to hold on to them and thereby increase the fears that they have.