many of them say they were never like this, but now maybe they're just a little more short, short tempered, or you know, they're more frustrated, and i've also had people say the other way where one lady that i work with in the support group says, my husband was pretty domineering and you know, he was always in charge, and now it's like, you know what, he doesn't really care, so now i'm having to do those things.