erm but i do think that women need to have much more of a sense of their own power, or at least of the fact that they're not as powerless as they think of themselves as being, and so they can say when the tutor puts his hand on their knee or something like that ‘i'm sorry, would you take your hand away, that's not part of our relationship’ or something that just  so they don't have to feel so bad about it.