like a separate and isolated that how do you feel when you emotionally you feel about not meeting your only for understanding and respect stephen gillers comes from that image of bad press but incomes will not mean you need to respond to it this person with respect and understand saying that's this week best giraffe morning so if you say to the person you know the way i talk to you know if you really sad it doesn't make my need for respecting you and understand you see there's no image in there that i'm a bad person i'm saying i didn't meet my only for respecting and understanding check with the other person what they'd rather here