i mean i think that's extremely important to allow children to erm you know play things out in the best way that they  which is in a sense their way of coming to terms with things erm and to answer their questions as honestly as i can and to admit it when i don't know the answers erm and also, i mean in our family we've taken various actions to try to stop the war and we've, you know, taken part in demonstrations and written letters and erm