isithembu (sethepu) is the african practice of a man being able to have more than one wife at the same time. a man may marry again if his current wife or wives cannot have children. he keeps his current wife or wives as divorce is not allowed. a man may marry again if his current wife or wives have not produced male children. he can marry again if a wife does not want children. in some places, if a man dies, his wife or wives are married to his brother. this way his family is cared for. the swazi culture says a man should have many wives. polygamy (isithembu) is normal for men. woman should have children, which is normal for them.