People worry too much about how much "dignity" they'll have when they die.

Do you judge someone when they have food poisoning and diarrhea the whole day? No, why? Because they can't control anything about the situation.

From my personal experience, it's wildly unfair to hold people's dying moments closely to who they were/how you remember them. They had no say, no choice in it. People die in horrible agonizing ways, and honestly no one should be expected to be "tough" when their body AND mind is breaking down - they've stopped being who they were, they're disappearing.

You're not how you died... that was, what, 1 day of your life in total? 1 day out of a million other unique and special and equally valid moments. You're the rest of it... the actual LIVING part.