&gt;&gt;Then, I found where he had been googling my name and redtube and pornhub and had even bookmarked one that he suspected could have been me

I dated someone abusive who was convinced that I was in a porno. (Wasn't, my god.)  Your bf asked you extensively about the things he did because he knows that is capable of doing shady things. Your bf secretly records audio of women, which makes him trash. You know you have to leave him.