Your point in this response strays from your original accusation of OP that she wanted to make her husband into a sissy.

&gt;Does he even realize that your crossdressing interest is about turning him into a sissy? 

Just because she fantasizes about feminizing males doesn't mean she fantasizes about feminizing the particular male that is her husband.  In fact, the thought of her husband being feminized might be repulsive to her because of how she feels about the masculinity of the man she chose to marry.   We really don't know.  That was the counterpoint I was originally making.

Your point in the later paragraphs is valid though to a point.  While spouses aren't necessarily required to cater to every need of their partner - especially needs the partner might not WANT them involved in - it can cause friction if everyone isn't on the same page.  I feel that a spouse doesn't have to be an actor in every fantasy the partner has.   Heck, if OP were having lesbian fantasies, the husband's not really going to be involved as an actor in that fantasy.  And she might not want him involved, or to even know about that.

But your point about the kink being out in the open is very valid.  It now needs to be addressed and worked out between the two of them.   And if the husband is disgusted by her kink?  That's a definite problem for the relationship.