btw I've been going to an Al-Anon meeting for several months. She tends to feel bitter about my attendance. Like somewhere between, "this is my club you stay out/how dare you go somewhere and talk shit about me"
Last week I got her to attend the aa meeting upstairs and she overheard me ranting about last weeks' infidelity (never using any names) and was super pissed that I would talk to anyone about my frustrations.
It's sick.