why don't *you* just propose to *him*? 

not the way you probably imagined it would go, but if he's going to sit there with his thumb up his ass for years on end, you're going to need to take the initiative. if he says yes, then great. if he hems and haws, then just accept that he doesn't want it. 

**also,** if you truly want to get married, then your objective should be to *set a date for when you will marry —* NOT just to get engaged. read through this sub, and you'll see that being "engaged" often doesn't get you any closer to marriage. he could say sure let's get engaged and then four years from now you're still trying to get him to set a date.