I'm religious too and my plan has always been to wait until marriage. I'd probably feel a similar way if my girlfriend and I had sex, wondering if I messed up and felt like I (we) possibly ruined something. We'd move on from there though and assess changes we want to make. That said, this guy you're seeing needs to get his act together. 

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Seems like he went into your meet-up expecting it to happen, so he's possibly really inconsistent with what he wants/believes, and that's probably not a great characteristic for a long-term partner. The fact that he didn't respond at all to you offering to take the physical side off the table suggests that he's not gonna be comfortable moving forward in your relationship, either because he doesn't want to, or he really is dealing with feelings of guilt that he probably won't move past.