OMG, do not listen to relationship_advice about whether or not someone is cheating. This forum tends to have people answering questions who also have a post on the forum, and 99% of the posts on this forum are some version of "I think my bf/gf is cheating". There's a bias towards assuming everyone is unfaithful, is what I'm saying. Drop it from your head. I don't think you're looking at infidelity, I think you're just looking at a wife who lived through 15 years of alcoholism and had enough.