First, I am so sorry that happened to you. It took such strength for you to tell your wife that. As other commenters have said, you have done absolutely nothing wrong in this situation at all. I urge you to try &amp; remember that how you coped with this trauma allowed you to survive &amp; create an amazing life for yourself- that’s nothing to be ashamed about. Counseling is a great resource for both your wife &amp; yourself. I wish you a peaceful healing journey moving forward, my friend.