First of all, you're three months in. Slow down, dude. There is no rush.


You are both basically strangers to each other. You're developing deep emotions on a shaky foundation; you don't truly know her. Knowing someone intimately, trusting them, understanding them - that all takes time and there is absolutely no substitution for it. 


You're also completely undermining yourself - by allowing yourself to place to much emotional importance and investment on a very new and still developing thing - but also your relationship. Three months in is still get-to-know-you time. If you start putting the pressure of feelings on it, you're going to deny her the ability to get to know you in a natural way.


Think of a relationship as a tree. Right now, it's still a sapling. Nothing will make it grow other than time. And if you put the weight of your feelings on the sapling, you're going to break it. You need to wait for it to be a tree, with strength that can comfortably support the feelings. 


While that's happening, you need to work on healing yourself and being a stable, emotionally healthy person. Issues are the termites and parasites of a healthy tree. Your insecurity and paranoia will eat away at it from the inside, leaving it looking strong on the outside but inside it will be hollow.