What do you mean by well after a relationship is started? I’ve always been very up front with people about my boundaries. Periodically we may discuss the boundaries and if there are any issues that arise. I’ve been married for almost 6 1/2 years. My hubby and I were engaged after a month of dating. We discussed boundaries very quickly as I had a not so pleasant background and our relationship progressed very quickly.

I don’t know if I would classify porn usage the same as physically cheating. If they came to me and told me what had happened I would be more forgiving/willing to work it out than if I caught them/found out on my own. I could work past porn easier than other forms of cheating.