I'll give you that a 12yo shouldn't have a sex toy and it's reasonable for a parent to not want to allow them one. I think the problem a lot of people had with that post, though, isn't about denying her a sex toy, but rather was in regards to the father's response. Reacting in a way that shames his daughter's normal and natural sexual curiosity is seriously damaging longterm for the daughter. It instills a sense that sex is wrong which can lead to really unhealthy behaviors and seriously harmful hinderances to healthy adult relationships later down the line. Deny the daughter an adult toy at 12: sure. Scream at her for exploring adult portions of the internet (like almost every other child in the digital age): hell no.