with great shame i can say i used to be just like that guy and nothing would've gotten me to become a better person, until the best girl i'd ever found dumped me harsh and gave me the wake up call. 

when life is easy for 18 years and suddenly not, people make up whatever bullshit to explain their laziness. face the music on this one... he may be a "big dreamer" but hes apparently unambitious and lazy, with no pride, living off his girlfriend. *shakes magic 8 ball* ... signs point to Dump Him, Ya Can't Change Him