Thank you so much for your kind response. I have considered counseling, yes. Funnily enough, I’d say we both feel totally not codependent! We like such different things that I’m always out with friends or work events or church or going for walks, and he’s always on the computer or doing projects at home. It’s sort of part of my concerns. I do know that I’m catastrophising, I just don’t quite get how to align such different expressions.