Thank you for mentioning this!

Her biggest fault is the inability to either admit or recognize when she's at fault for something. I tell her all the time I'm not looking to "win," I'm looking to solve the problem, starting with acceptance. I accept I make mistakes then recognize them before I do them again, and try to work on it. I try to give her this example.

Maybe this is beyond the scope of this thread...but she gaslights me a lot, unintentionally. She would say I never told her something, or she told me about something and I've forgotten. A conversation about something we had that I never remember existing. I actually thought I might have something mentally wrong with me for a few months, before I realized this happens more than probably is normal and was a new experience since being with her, and I definitely remember telling her about something she claims this is the first she's hearing about. The other day she said it was the first she heard about me going away for a few days somewhere, but I had told her once month ago, and I remember thinking I need to remind her because she probably forgot/didn't listen, days earlier as a second reminder. She was upset it was the first she was hearing about it, the night before.

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It's disturbing, I'm 99% certain isn't intentional, and just something I have to deal with.