Who cares what he wants. Who does he think he is trying to call all the shots. He stopped caring about what you want, how this might make you feel and YOUR CHILDREN when he decided to cheat on your marriage. 

No you won’t go on living normal lives and he needs to pull his head out of his ass. He has done wrong and doesn’t even seem remorseful about it. If he isn’t in love with you anymore, fine, but there’s still no excuse for being dishonest about it and doing this to you. 

What’s left to love about a man who can do this to you? Please do not do this to yourself by staying.

You may love him still, but if you divorce, leave him to his infidelity at least then you can start to HEAL. You can start to find yourself again. And one day you could find a man who would never dream of doing this to you. 

Would you want your children to stay if this happened to them? What would you say if happened to a friend of yours? 

You know what you have to do. And tell him you don’t want to hear another word from him, this is no longer on his terms. Divorce his disloyal ass.