Step 1 he makes his own lunch and breakfast and cleans up after himself with both. Step 2 seperate laundry. I'm not your maid you dont help with mine not even starting the laundry so you do your own from now on. His job excuse its physically active. So what? We actually get used to it and need it and feel good doing it. If he cant physically cope with the rest of his day he can get a better job. Hes a partner no excuse for not sweeping once in awhile. Start talking about getting rid of the dog(just a discussion not reality) because he is not a responsible pet owner. You are going on a family trip and he is expected to fend for himself for 3 days wow what a whiny child he is!