Thanks, good idea. I think I try sometimes to be "cool" with things and that doesn't accurately set up his expectations for when something will bother me. Like in my head, it's cool that I don't mind someone stopping by at midnight. A lot of people wouldn't be ok with that. But then it crosses a line when they linger and I start to feel ignored. But now that I'm talking it through with people, I can see how maybe he didn't understand that distinction. Like I need to stop assuming he will know when something is going to bother me. It just seems obvious to me that certain things are rude, but I guess I should stop thinking it's so obvious.