I wasn’t going to tell him about my feelings changing  toward him, that’s just unkind. It would make sense to him if I just stated “I want a divorce”. We have been to counseling two separate times, not two sessions, for two separate lengths of time for essentially the same issues. He is unwilling to try counseling again. I have communicated to him what I want/need in every way I can possibly think of over the years with no change, or a change for maybe a week then back to nothing. I’m not just like “meh, I don’t feel like being married anymore”. I understand as a COD the implications of this &amp; I never thought I’d be here. I have been the only one who’s cared &amp; tried for years &amp; now I just don’t wanna try &amp; care anymore. I didn’t suddenly arrive at this loss of love for him, it came slowly over time from feelings of neglect &amp; rejection. If I thought there was something someone could say that I could try that would magically make him show he cares for me, that is what I would be asking for here instead of advice about a divorce. I do understand that this is the last, &amp; should be the last, resort.