Maybe you're just thinking she's hurt about you not telling her when in reality she's just hurt that this happened to you. Kinda sounds like to me you still blame yourself for this on every level. Extending to choosing not to tell her. You have done absolutely nothing wrong. You have not violated your marriage vows or betrayed her in any way. Please please search for male survivors of sexual assault support groups near you. One of the hardest part of going through something like this is thinking you're all alone. But you're not. Hundreds of thousands of other men know exactly what you're going through.