I hate companies where the unspoken rule is that leadership roles, promotions, access to high-priority projects, and visibility...are increasingly gated on fulfilling HR's checklist of who is underrepresented in tech.Nobody at my current job knows I'm two of the LGBTQ letters - and I would not have it any other way. It's a private matter and has to remain a private matter for me for safety reasons and because I just don't want anyone at work knowing. Yet because I look like a "regular dude" and consequently fall into a stereotype about men in tech, I'll not advance as quickly as people who do meet those checkmarks. I'm basically always talked TO about being an ally or saying more about allyship and diversity and inclusion. I shouldn't need to out myself to get away from this constant lecturing.Why should I have to out myself? Does anyone else here know what I'm talking about? I don't want to ever talk about being LGBTQ at work, yet I can't help but feel and notice that my trajectory is artificially limited because I don't participate in these conversations. I'm an ally to all people regardless of their identity, of course, but I hate the performative aspects of tech culture these days.I fucking hate it. What companies can you recommend where promotions and leadership and highly-desired projects are based solely on performance and track record? Where it truly doesn't matter what you look like or who you are, and you are rewarded based on performance and how you improve teams?