\&gt; “Don’t tell me to feed my baby! I am an indipundant womyn, I’ll only take care of my infant if I want to, don’t force your obligations on me”.

... They are feeding their baby. Just with formula, rather than breast milk.

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\&gt; Or, maybe accept that having a baby comes with a mountain of responsibility which, as a parent, it is your obligation to carry so your child can grow into a happy, healthy human being.

Someone ends up with breast cancer, has a mastectomy, and gets pregnant a few years later. They can't breast feed - are they disregarding their obligations as a parent? Someone doesn't produce enough milk, and needs to either supplement with formula or use it entirely - are they disregarding their obligations? The baby won't latch and can't breast feed - is that mother disregarding her obligations? Someone needs to be on medication for their physical or mental health that they can stop while pregnant, but need to resume immediately afterward for the safety of them and their baby, meaning they can't breast feed - are they disregarding their obligations?

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Breast feeding just flat out isn't possible for a lot of women. Yes, if you can do it, it's better for your kid in the long run to do so. But a lot of the time, it's just flat out not possible. The child is still being fed, and loved, and looked after. If not giving your kid *every single possible advantage*, even when you physically can't do so is considered abuse, then I guess every parent on earth is abusive.