Well, unless you’re planning on saying “I got what I wanted let’s just be friends”, then you won’t. People make two mistakes: Avoiding confrontation to spare feelings, or be brutally honest if they just don’t give a shit about their feelings. The former means you’re being a shady asshole, and the latter is just a straight up asshole. I know you don’t want to do that.

Again, you just tell her exactly what you’re saying here. Say you really don’t mean to come across this way and you’re afraid to hurt her feelings.