Unpopular opinion that you probably won’t want to hear — your fiancé has PPD (and possibly existing depression, or just laziness... but these things aren’t new). But. I also think you need to stop the “grass is greener” view you have going on.

You absolutely have a right to be frustrated, and burned out, and done if you want to be. You’re young, and it sounds like this all happened reaaaally quickly. But — babies, and households, and relationships are a two-way street. 

Your post is full of all-or-nothing language: she never this, I always that, every single day, constantly this, yadda yadda. If this is how you talk to your depressed, possibly exhausted fiancé (who as a result of her own issues is probably beating herself up and wallowing in low self-esteem) I can only imagine why she feels like shit and struggles to care for herself, the baby, and the house.

My made-for-Netflix version of your daily interaction:

[you arrive home after a long day at school, hangry &amp; tired]
Fiancé: “hey notweekers, what should we do for dinner?”
You: idk. Do we even have any clean dishes?
F: (cries Bc depression twists everything into a fucking insult)
You: Jesus Christ. You never make me lunch, and you can’t get the grocery shopping done. Can’t you at least figure out dinner on your own?
F: ((then idk what happens Bc I give up... your life, not mine))

In the end, all we have is a very one-sided story here. Is she at work dealing with shit all day, then hanging with a cranky, colicky one year old till you get home, desperate for you to get home so she can get some adult interaction? Does she have a history of childhood trauma and abandonment herself that’s coming back to haunt her now as she tries to navigate this whole new responsibility of motherhood, and being your other half? Do you have a history of being unfaithful? Is your phone blowing up at all hours with suspicious texts or snaps? 

If this isn’t the case, and she truly is your best friend and you want to make this work — then step it up. She’s literally telling you she needs something more; you can’t text her during the day? Reach out another way. Leave her a silly little note in her coffee cup, or the fridge, or buried in the babies diapers. Send her some flowers. It seems wrong to think that you should go above &amp; beyond if you feel like you’re being the one wronged here, but I guarantee a lot of the problem is she’s hurting and feeling wronged too. Something has to give, and someone has to take the high road so you can start communicating. (On a sort-of side note, if you go this route and keep working on building this thing into a stronger foundation... think about reading the book The Five Love Languages. It probably sounds cliche, but it can offer some great insight into how personalities vary and why the way that you “feel” love is completely different than how your fiancé feels loved... and why that makes such a huge difference. Way cheaper than counseling, too.) 

You NEED to do this before the thought of legally marrying gets any more real. 

Or... don’t. Free country, man. Not all relationships last, and that’s okay.

Good luck either way.