Except for the fact that our family is very close. She and I talk almost every day. She talks to my mother every day. She sees my parents every week. We are not a "Thanksgiving and Christmas" kind of family. We're very open and honest. She's making big choices that have far reaching effects, so unless she's willing to sacrifice the kind of closeness we have she kind has to at least give a cohesive explanation for all of this, which I am willing to listen and be open to.