😔sorry you’re going through this. Keep your head up. I just went through a huge rough patch with my partner of 8 years for the first time and it was the hardest thing ever ( we also have two kids together). I hope things work out the way you want but don’t lower your standards or your comfort level for him. Especially If he can’t respect you enough to try and stop or be truthful. But his reaction to your comment screams red flags .